Feel Guilty Getting Rid of Stuff? Don't.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 ก.ย. 2024
- Often we feel guilt about getting rid of things that are still useful, especially if we paid a lot of money for them. However, if the possessions you have accumulated over the years have not brought the happiness and fulfillment you desired, it is time to make a change.
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I'd buy your book, but I already have too much stuff. Thanks.
Everything I own was in storage in boxes I have been living with my parents for a year and it got flooded last night I'm very upset I've never been a person to care about little things but now that everything I own is gone I feel a bit sad some of those items were letters written by my wife she has oassed away a few years ago and I wasn't ready to read through everything and look through everything before throwing it all out now it's al gone before I ever got the chance to see any of it the stuff that's still there like electronics and that sort of stuff all has water damage my book collection is destroyed 😭😭😭😭😭😭 I am the most upset about my books I know ranting about it here where my comment will probably go unnoticed isn't gonna change a thing vut what else is there to do I got upset and shouted at my mom now I feel bad and gna go apologise to her even though I'm still very upset about my stuff my mom put everything in storage bc of space 😢 but it's not her fault it got flooded 😔
I am at a point of my life that I want to get rid of as much as possible and live as simple as possible.
begin small and work towards that goal, one day or one week at a time
"simply" It’s an adverb. Life is simple if you live simply.
Jane Farrer I’m with you.
@@chris-ci7ch smart mom! lol
me too. it seems the more i get rid of the more i find to get rid of....
I was quite amused when I read a quote from the novelist Bill Bryson. He said when his parents got to retirement age they started to get rid of everything they had worked hard for all their lives. It's a bit ironic is it not? 🤔🤔🙏🙏
My mother was obsessed with her things. They mattered more to her than her kids, no kidding. Then she had a major stroke and ended up in rehab with NONE of it. Material goods are there to serve or give pleasure. When they no longer do so, get rid of them.
Kind of sad!!!
Whenever I see those memes on FB that say "What would you tell the younger generation to help them?" It's always the same: Do not fall into the "possessions" trap. I guarantee in a blink of an eye time-wise, you will regret all that crap you thought you couldn't live without and stop trying to be your least authentic, most artificial, fake self with makeup and clothing trends that look clownish and ridiculous.
Not really. They used it and no longer needed it. That's life. You aren't going to keep everything forever.
I agree 100% with this message. When it comes to “stuff”, less is more. I used to have a treadmill, Nordic Track, and Total Gym. Wasn’t using them much, they took up too much space, so I got rid of them and now just use free weights, a yoga mat, and go for walks.
Did you sell, give-away, or just trash the item?
Damn! I am looking for a treadmill because I'm always using my brother's- ha ha
Oh wait you posted that two years ago
I remember when I received my grandmother's china - she wanted me to have it as I was the only one who remarked about its beauty. It was in a large bin and I would use a few pieces during holidays. It was moved with care from place to place - and stored. I got rid of 90% of this collection recently after 20 years. Sometimes such gifts can be a burden.
Good points. The more things I "find a new home for", as I like to put it, the more things I find. So, I spent money on things I now wish I hadn't, I enjoyef them for a while. My town has a gift shop you donate things to. The resale of these items helps abused women. A win-win-win all around.
You’re so right. A donation hotspot in my neighborhood donates the money from the sale of our donations. That money goes to 1. Pay utility bills for locals in our town, 2. To the local food bank. Like you said: “A win-win-win.”
We call it Finding a Happy Home :)
I think we could use more thrift shops that help support abused women. Good to know you items helped out. :)
@@therobinmasterstheory1636 of there is not too much of that here,so I just sell, and make a donation.
well not for the women who were abused
I calculated how much we spent in storage in the last 14 years... i based on the lowest price we ever paid storage ($100 a month) and came to the sum of $18k spent to keep stuff we don't use and don't know exist.
Now, we would like to have a water well but have no money for it... 😵💫
Thanks Joshua for this important message and strategies. This is probably the issue that prevents most people from reducing their possessions, along with the sentimental items issue.
It’s when people gift me things I feel guilty giving them away, now when family gives my toddler gifts I really feel bad lol so many stuff animals.
Loved the point you make, helps me give things away easier
I feel like that too. I constantly request that friends stop buying me gifts but my message falls on deaf ears. I have drawers full of gifts that I neither want or need. Very frustrating. 🙄🤔🙏🙏
@@lizbee726 honestly i feel when you have told people your boundaries and they ignore them, the fault is on their side. feel less guilt in giving these possessions away as they have disrespected you by putting their wants above your wishes. gift giving should be selfless
I can’t change the past but, I change the future.♥️
Yes you can!
I had bought a lot of expensive drawing pencils that I never really used. After years of holding onto them, I took them to the childcare center at the YMCA. The woman I handed the bag to showed it to a 5 year old and her face lit up like it was Christmas. Things I don’t use make me frown when I see them, give stuff to people who will smile when they see it.
I am watching this video on repeat. I need this message to sink in. I'm getting rid of the expensive things that aren't needed anymore. Thank you for your videos.
Me at 4 months later. It's still a process. But this video has helped me get rid of the more expensive items that I no longer use. And as I said four months ago.. I have watched this many, many times. :)
The concept of learning from the past to redeem it is truly profound in this context. Thank you ☺️
Thank you for sharing that info to give me the "freedom" to let go of those things! The guilt weighs so heavy, but, now, I feel I can do like Elsa, and "let it go"!
I got rid of extra stuff and honesty I have not missed any of it! I have more time and use my money more wisely. YOU ARE AMAZING! GOD BLESS YOU! :-)
I've had to move 7 times in 5 years... and I'm ready to majorly reduce my possessions. I just can't carry AAALLLLL this stuff around, with me, and my kids, anymore!!
Oh my gosh we have spent all good Friday getting stuff done from the attic. We are only just over halfway through the job!
I have hit a wall with Christmas decorations. I am keeping too much. I will keep them for now. Got rid of 1/3.
Will revisit attic again in December and go through it all again
I couldn’t help but think about past relationships instead of material items. It definitely applies there too. Thank you💕
Looking good with the beard! Will be good to write another book on this and some other minimalist issues! Have a great weekend! xo Marci
Agreed, beard looks fantastic!!
IKR!It suits him.
He always looks sharp! Marci I love your channel to! So inspiring!
Hannah Janatsch thanks Hannah, and very true! Looking minimal and sharp is his thing! Heheh 😋 hoping for a tour of the family home! 🤫
Oh definitely keep the beard! You look even hotter than before!
It’s so easy to clean a house with few stuff
I donate everything and I hope that someone will get some use out of it. I'm in the process now of going through old costume jewelry. Over the years I have donated a TON of really good clothes, some that had never been worn. I can't stand clutter. However.....I have a ridiculous amount of dishes in my cabinets and it's only me now. If I had to, I could have 1 plate, 1 glass, 1 cup, 1 set of silverware, 1 pot, 1 skillet, etc...., but I could never commit to that! Plus, I inherited all of my aunt's fine china, silver and crystal that I cherish!
Thank you for all your help bless it be
I’ve been a minimalist for little over a year and I’ve had issues with stuff I expended lots of money on. This was so necessary to hear and motivating. Subscribed!! 😀
This concept already easily makes sense, and the way Joshua articulates it makes it all the more practical!
Refreshing points and truths. Thanks for such a thought out process. “ I need to learn not to make this mistake in the future.”
When my mom died she had lots of things n I was the one to get it out it was so hard for me my she rest her soul but I will never do that to my kids thank you for your video it helps me a lot
This is what I am doing right now. Decluttering and not feeling guilty anymore.
Food and to the point. Thank you
Thank you I needed to hear this. I have been holding on to stuff that was expensive but so useless I felt guilty to let it go. I now realise this redundant stuff needs to go. 😁 Will do this task within the next 24 hours before I change my mind.
GahREAT Point, Joshua!
I knew of the fallacy you spoke of. I remember as we were ridding ourselves of stuff, I had a nightmare. I guess I the stuff made me comfortable. COVID-19 really has been an impediment for us just because of some logistic issues, so we're still rearranging and trying to get that last hall cleared out.
Anyway, great video. Not going to comment on the new Franciscan look. How is your wife handling that? My wife got MAD when I wiped the goatee off my face some 20-some-off years ago, but after all she said I looked better without it.
We''ll be married for 28 years as of 10 minutes from now (23:50 our time) ... :D
See you on the next one!
THANKS!
I’ve never heard of that term before!
Doing it! We keep working at it!
This!!! This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you so much and yes…I’m buying your book!😊👍
Very helpful. I saved this video so I can listen to it again when having difficulty or guilt getting rid of something. Thank you!
You are the best! Thank u for having subtitles! All you say is so meaningful!
Glad you like them!
Thank you very much for your videos. ♥️✅✅✅✅
Love this video. Thank you
@Joshua Becker Thank you for this series of videos, very enlightening. What I feel guilty about is getting rid of non recyclable things (and hard to upcycle).
Art and beauty are very important, enjoy spending. Life is short! Utility thinking is petty😂
I decluttered 70% stuff bt still holding crochet hooks , embroidery rings , embroidery thread 🧵, woolen...... I know I'm not using it and not interested bt i spent money 🤑...... It's hard to let go bt now i need to
I have had to watch this multiple times. I struggle with this the most.
So glad I found you Josh your ideas are really helping me. Thankyou.
Welcome.
I can't stop myself collecting things. In 2003, I started collecting statues and dvds.In 2013, i started collecting books and in 2018, i started collecting comics...I finally sold all my statues but the others still remain in my house....Thousands of books, movies and comics :( By my estimate I spent almost $100K on all those things which I used to love but now just things I can't get rid of....
Thank you.
I just found 4 pairs of reasonably expensive shoes... all over $100 each... that I only wore once because I have a back issue... they have sat untouched in a cupboard for a year. I keep thinking I’ll sell them to recoup some of the money... I need to let go... I’m not going to wear them. I just need to be better at buying shoes.
Great wisdom, thank you.
Came across this video by chance... You have a new subscriber! I needed to hear this today!
Welcome!
Great points. Thank you.
Thanks for watching.
Exactly! Love your channel 💓
Thank you so much!!
This is fabulous ,,
Actually, I find some maximalist interior design to be pretty darn cool. And, on the contrary, I find spare, minimalist design to be a little too dry for my taste.
I usually own only 2 to 3 pairs of shoes at a time. I wear them until they wear out or get too small. Yes, when you get older your feet can spread out and you need larger shoes.
And shoe designs go out of fashion.
So get rid of all those expensive, extra shoes.
I think that another cost is actually more important than sunk cost and that is opportunity cost. What am I loosing out on to keep this item, and is that worth it? When I studied business they talked about opportunity cost before you buy (that is super helpful too), but I apply it to items I choose to keep as well because my needs change over time and what might be an acceptable cost in time, effort, space to keep an item today might not be tomorrow. Also I don’t think we can redeem our past, only Jesus can do that. But we can learn from it for sure 😊
great advise thanks
I don’t ever feel guilty about getting rid of stuff. Someone else might actually get some positive use out whatever the object is. And to be honest, I just can’t be bothered with the whole selling my old stuff that some people seem to do.
Me either, honestly I’d rather donate it than spend time putting it online and selling it. Maybe that’s bad but when I’m ready to get rid of something I just don’t wanna mess with trying to sell it. It has always been easy for me to let go of material possessions though.
The Fallacy of the Sunk Cost also infects our politics. Just because you invested a LOT of emotional energy into a particular political party (i.e., an identity for yourself) does not mean you need to keep supporting them, if you see they no longer serve your interests or the country's.
Very true .
declutter guru 😀
so insightful and I love the beard!
Your hair is extra perfect today 👌🏼
I need to get rid of my art supplys i have so many and its causing decision fatigue. I have not made much art. Art is no longer fun for me.
Throw it all in a box and give it to an art teacher at a nearby school...you will be a hero
How do you get others to understand this. A friend or family member from might need to hear this but it can be ruff trying to get the message across without
seeming like an asshole when you not good dealing with others.
Great video! You looked different for a second.. did you stop buying razors? 😂 you know am just kidding 😉
Sunken coat bias. I remind myself every time I get rid of something that I am going to sell that it isn't worth as much as it used to cost.
Nice beard and speak i like it . Cheers from france
Damn this is good thank you
Wonderful wisdom. You just seem a little more stressed. It is ok to speak at your own pace for one of the things you use to impart was a sense of peace and fulfillment.
You can 10000000000% change the past. It's called Revision.
These are the things I tell myself.
1. Hanging on to these items doesn't bring back the money
2. If I donate them, it's like donating money, especially if I donate them to causes I believe in.
3. Someone else will enjoy these items.
Yes!
Very good points.
I try to do that as well, and something especially nice happened yesterday, in that a lady I've just recently met was wearing a top that I donated and she was saying how feminine it made her feel as she lives in t shirts. That was really a nice and unexpected experience. 😊🙏
I think just as you do. :)
@@vivlee3840 What an awesome experience!
I'm at a point where I would be willing to throw everything out and start from scratch. I want to cry every time I realise just how much I own, even after I got rid of about 60% of my things - I was a hoarder. It takes so much of my energy just to OWN these things, I don't even know how that works but it does and it's destroying me. I already feel so much better about my home, but I'm still not there and it's because I kept so much just because I feel guilty. Because I wasted money on it, or someone else did as a gift. I really need to get rid of those things.
Wow, you actually helped me realize something about myself with that line about how it takes energy to own things. I've never thought about it like that but I really appreciate you pointing it out.
I know this comment was made a while ago but I hope you've made more progress since then and I hope you're feeling a little happier and more hopeful. You've got this.
I can totally relate 😢
I know exactly how you feel. My problem is not wanting to let things go because I try to find sentimental value in everything. I'm an empty-nester. I still have things that belonged to my children. It's just so hard to get rid of things. Best of luck to you. ❤
i also feel bad for getting rid of stuff because of environmental reasons 😅
All though minimalism is a good thing for your life it’s important to remember that going to far can be unrealistic if the things you own are things you think are meaningful/logical to keep then keep them but if it’s not maybe it’s smart to get rid of them but some people take minimalism to the extreme and it’s best to only practice minimalism in a healthy way
No long intros, no rambling about who you are, no irrelevant boring details about stuff I don’t want to hear. You get to the specific issue and don’t waste anytime . My kind of video
Thank you. I appreciate that. We work hard on that.
This is timely. I recently sold something on Poshmark for less than half what I paid, even though the item was basically brand new. It hurt. But I had to remind myself that 1)getting SOME money back was better than the item sitting around unused, and 2)I shouldn’t have made that purchase to begin with. 😂
When I sell to a local consignment shop I say the same thing. "Something is better than nothing" and "why the heck did I buy this in the first place?"
My problem is that all of my very expensive items were given as gifts from my mom. Things like Waterford crystal are hard to find places to sell to. It takes a lot of time.
Unless you never used what you bought, it is not money wasted. If the item filled a role, even for a short while, or gave you some joy, you don't have to feel like you wasted your funds. Don't give life to your inanimate objects. Just be thankful for it's service to you and remove it without guilt.
Beautifully said!
Profound. I’m going to remember this!
I was about to say the same thing. Sometimes a thing served a purpose in the past. But it's no longer serving that purpose now, or there's a better way to serve that purpose now.
The sunk cost fallacy doesn't mean the thing was a bad purchase when you made it (although it might have been).
The mistake (fallacy) is thinking that you have to keep it because you put money, time, or effort into it in the past.
I recently gave away all my Pandora Jewellery away to co workers who I knew would appreciate it more than I. It was sitting in a box at home for months. The girls who received it were overwhelmed and almost couldn't accept such an expensive gift. I don't feel guilty for getting rid of them. I'm more careful with how I spend my money these last few months. I've saved so much money.
I love it!!!!
That's awesome. I just donated my clarinet, accordion, and violin to the local high school music department. It was a good run but I know I will not play again (and dont want to) I'm interested in other things like sewing and exercise. It was a season and it came and went. Done. Out my home.
A shift in energy
Well done jen. xxx
@@nariko47 Question: What was the reason for not trying to sell them vs. giving it away?
Love your videos; they are short and to the point. I get tired of people nattering on about so many things before they get to the point! This is like a bite-sized sermon, which I need. :-)
I’ve come to the same conclusion. He speaks slowly and with focus, which is easier to follow. He doesn’t meander and throw in a lot of chit chat. Sort of like Jack Webb of ‘Dragnet’ game use to say, “just the facts, ma’am/sir.” I really appreciate his speaking style.
Thank you for sharing this, I thought it was me! I can't tell you how many times I thought that, I hate it when people drag 5 minutes of content into 20. He is minimalist even in his speech. Love this channel.
Absolutely agree with you
Ditto. Direct and to the point. Gotta love those videos people take five minutes just to say their name.
My son, the accountant, taught me the “sunk cost” principle. Life changing.
also known as the concorde fallacy. this is true for many things...but NOT the stock market! which works in cycles :)
Can’t reach our new destination staring in the rear view mirror. Look out the windshield all 🧘🏾♂️
Pedal to the metal, friend!
I like your thought process about reaching your destination ......🙏🏼👋🏼🧠
Neat expression. So appropriate :-)
Casey Burns Investing Well said.
Well said!
Yep, my lesson has been to steer clear of yard sales, eBay and Goodwill. More waste + danger of re-accumulating. Run!
I can’t resist estate sales and goodwill to this day. Used to sell on eBay, been going to estate sales before eBay was created. What I do find and bring home is usually something considered fairly rare or ridiculously good condition like vintage t shirts and records. I sell them locally thru craigslist or whatever. Where I live has a huge community garage sale with around 5-600 yard sales. That’s where I get rid of what doesn’t sell. Profits for a 4 hour sale are usually around $3-4000. I won’t do this much longer but it’s still fun
I am decluttering and minimizing as I listen to you. I am literally listening to this video over and over like a maniac. Full blast!!!
You inyect me with the courage to do this.
I don't want no more material possessions. I am tired of possesions. I am giving it away. Throwing it away.
I want it out of my house!!!
I AM DONE!!!! 🙏🙌
Question Im asking people, is....why not sell it vs. giving it away or throwing it away?
@@DigitalRaider1 Joshua covers this in one of his videos. I can’t quote it exactly, but having items sit around too long while you try and sell them isn’t helpful for people like me who tend to be hoarders. Once you decide to get rid of an item(s), quickly donate it. I don’t like throwing things out unless they are broken. Sometimes trying to sell something is just more mental clutter for people like me.
Unless this your passion to do that, it is time consuming. Life goes by so fast. Think about the hours it will take to sell all of it. Maybe if you could gather it all up and number it then sell it off bit by bit idk.@DigitalRaider1
Thank you for being so intentional when speaking. .. it gives me time to process before moving forward. ..thank you for taking the time to bring home your point. ...
I agree. His deliberate delivery lets the weight of the message penetrate fully.
absolutely! great delivery
Didn’t he used to be a preacher? I could be wrong.
Yes I agree ! Very helpful delivery. Helps me to really absorb & apply these golden nuggets of wisdom.
It was the hardest when my ten year old decluttered. She was so ready and excited to get rid of stuff...a lot of stuff. Toys, legos, so much stuff that I had spent money on. I realized she was moving into a new phase, she was ready to clear out. So we went through it all and I’m so glad we did. It was a hard process for me more so than for her, but now our home is so much more clean and organized.
It took my ten year old to teach me to let go and realize a clear home is more important than hanging on...
Did it just go to the landfill?
@@SharonPiano8 no, obviously broken/mismatched items went. But most were donated or given away
@@holisticchrissy5420 Thanks for the reply.
I have just started to downsize my house & I am having a hard time getting rid of things that I worked so hard to get. I have become a hoarder as well. It's not as bad as a TV show. No garbage, no dead critters. I didn't have much as a kid, so I keep everything that's important to me. My therapist said that hoarding is a symptom of depression, anxiety and PTSD. I have chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia as well. I have been on a long roller coaster ride for many years. I hired a cleaning service to help out, & she has been a godsend. I am moving in the fall to be closer to family, so I'm hoping to turn things around.
These things no longer serve their purpose. All things have a shelf life and if they're no longer functional, helpful, useful, then they weight you down. Keeping things beyond their shelf life is smothering and keep you anchored in the past. Moving to a new place is a fresh start and the time to lighten your load and begin the new chapter. It's quite liberating!
My issues as well. Since I started watching Joshua, I feel more empowered to declutter and de-own. And of course, buy less. It’s been 2 years, it I have made progress with Joshua’s guidance. Because I have chronic pain, I can only do a little bit each day. I will work for 30 minutes in the morning when I have the most energy. It’s amazing what you can accomplish in a short period of time. If I’m feeling good that day, sometimes I work longer and it is so satisfying.
Hi luv! I just started watching these and read your comment! Just wanted to say I hope you are doing well these days and have a happy carefree and beautiful life with your family and less objects weighing you down! 🥰
You might be lonely, I hope being near your family helps. The fatigue syndromes are a possible sign of loneliness.
Donating to a charity might make you feel better about letting go.
Help others avoid clutter by not giving so many physical presents. For example, a newborn doesn’t need 10 stuffed animals. Similarly, many of the presents people give me aren’t things I need or want, so I donate them to charity. By all means, celebrate special occasions, but let’s all get out of the insane habit of giving presents that we have no idea the recipient will appreciate. Send money to the person or donate money in his or her name to a local charity if you feel you absolutely must send a gift. Or, offer to make the birthday girl her favorite dinner or treat her to a movie. That said, I will never say no to a plate of homemade cookies as a present.
Donating and gifting is a big coping mechanism. The guilt was alleviated for me knowing that the items could make someone else happy.
An armchair and a big bookshelf broke in my home recently. This forced me to repurpose and move around my existing pieces of furniture. I decluttered and got rid of many items, more than I had in recent months! After the decluttering, I felt good about what I had done and my home is more spacious than ever! It also made me realise that I never needed so many pieces of furniture in the first place and the lack of space was causing me to also have more mental clutter! Glad I got rid of the unwanted items!
Sabeena I had two big bulky sofas trashed too. It’s crazy how expensive it is to have them removed. I will always remember that before I buy any more furniture. I haven’t replaced the sofas yet and I never will.
I feel ya! I just had a sofa, 2 chairs, 2 end tables, 2 lamps and lovely Egyptian wool rug have the nerve to just walk in the front door and plop down! How dare they! I heard a rumor also, that a bed, 2 bedside tables, 2 lamps, a large floor plant, vanity, chaise lounge, floor mirror and chest of drawers was planning a break in very soon....I can't wait! : )
My first vision was a big chair and bookshelf knocking down your door!
Interesting how things have a way of happening ! We had been holding on to a t.v. stand in our downstairs family room BUT we don't watch tv down there and haven't in some time. It was easier for awhile to just let it stay because other areas were lived in and noticed more. Recently it went to the top of my list to get rid of it. We offered it to our lawn crew and they were thrilled to have it. It makes me happy knowing it went to someone who works hard and has done a great job for us. I wish I was around more people I knew that I would feel happy giving things to, but I figure people will also be happy to find nice quality items at a thrift store.
With all the minimalist channels out there now, you’ll always be the original minimalist to me! I’ve got a bunch of food in the cabinets and tools in the shed that I’ve been meaning to get rid of for a long time but I’ve been holding back because of the amount I spent on them. Thanks dude , I needed to hear this one.👍
Tip on foods: if you’re donating food to a food pantry, don’t worry about the expiration dates. The pantry staff will keep what they deem usable. By the way, non-acidic canned goods last about seven years.
Tools will sell so fast! One day I sold some of my old ones.
We all have spent so much in so many ways, so we just gotta be more slective as to what we get if know we not need or not gonna use later. trying to sell anything can be a pain unless u know others around who can help u do so and share the funds or give percentage for them helping u sell it any. or just donate or give to tohers who can use it at time. but if try get help selling do a note of agreement so no hassles later.
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With so much economic uncertainty in the world folk need to be stashing food and supplies, NOT tossing it. How do you think folk survived and thrived in the past? Minimalists ideas are greatly flawed when it comes to survival and being able to thrive during disasters both man-made and natural. I will no longer prep for those who refuse to prepare for themselves, they will learn the hard way! Choosing to depend upon others is pure stupidity!
When u live in a fire zone and get Evacuation alerts on phone it makes u think about what is important in event of massive wildfire - family and pets.
Donate and never look back.
We acquire easier than reselling an item, if that's even possible. Leave it behind, give away. The money is gone, not important anyway. New outlook leads to new life, which is priceless.
I think it has to do with loss aversion!
So true.
Thank you! I struggle with that. I have a huge pile right now that I wanted to sell, but to sell on ebay you have to spend a lot of money on home office stuff (scales & everything), craigslist or facebook marketplace you have to meet them somewhere & I'm female so I'm leery of that. So there it all sits, collecting dust & giving me anxiety.
You're right. The money was long gone years ago. Moving on with my life with a clean, open space is worth much, much more.
@@JamieM470 Best wishes setting yourself free 😊
@@JamieM470 have you thought about using a pawn shop. Won't get top dollar, but it's a lot faster trying to declutter old stuff
I've been trying to get my husband to understand this. Its sooooo frustrating. WHO CARES....the money is gone let's move on
I would add that just because you spent money on something in the past that you no longer need, you may not have WASTED that money. It possibly or probably served its purpose at the time of purchase. (Okay, even if its purpose was just to give us the "high" of buying it! lol) But pretty much everything in life eventually becomes obsolete and no longer serves its original purpose. And that's the time at which we can and should get rid of it, guilt-free!
Well said!
I have taken the advice in this video to heart. It’s true. We tend to hold on to material things for which we’ve paid a lot of money in the past. The video has helped me to finally decide to get rid of a costly comforter set bought from an interior decorator years back. It is burdensome, impractical and so heavy I can barely lift it. Time to donate it. Thank you 🙏.
I needed to hear this today. We are decluttering in preparation of a relative coming to live with us and I thought "But I spent all this money on these things" just to give them away! I took a breath and reminded myself I enjoyed the items at the time but they are holding us back. Then off to the charity shop we took the boxes.
Martha, it's hard at first but once you get in a groove it's life changing!! good luck
Thanks for sharing that I am going thru the same thing now and I felt myself getting stuck for the same reasons.....
Just curious if this is a relative you are really happy to have join you, or something less than that. I imagine that would make a difference in terms of decluttering to make room for them.
Yep! You are 100% correct. I love owning less stuff!
Yes!!
a good idea is to download pictures of stuff you like which you can own virtually/digitally and enjoy their appeal at no cost or space.
Absolutely 👍
I have so much stuff that when I have free time ...im spending it organizing my stuff and trying to keep things clean instead of living my life. I'm so done with it.
It's strange but ...sometimes when I go to a hotel I breathe in how clean it is and how organized everything is - And it actually helps me identify what I need to live in to be happy.
I was so thankful my newly married daughter and son-in-law took our bedroom set that we spent a ridiculously amount of money on. It was something I was having a hard time selling because I knew how much I had spent on it. They were thrilled to have it and will treasure it for many years to come and I’m able to get it out of my house. Win Win!!
We just sold our house and it’s amazing how easy this move is going to be being a minimalist.
moving with lots of items is very stressful, costly, and mandates a certain type of living situation (square footage). it is better to be minimalist.
My daughter hates all my stuff. She likes that cheap Ikea crap.
Ugh.
@@susanfudge1737 lol
In other accounting terms, I tell myself that something has served completed serving it's useful life. I owned and enjoyed it for a period of time, and it's over. And the money was not wasted. Just like enjoying an expensive dinner or vacation lasted a short period of time, a purchased object often finishes serving me.
So much of my stuff has literally never been used.
I spent thousands of dollars when I was retiring from New York, wasted dollars moving old furniture and clothing, plus you name it to Florida. Eventually I had to donate most of it to charity. My wife refused to allow me to get rid of those things. Now I’m still confronted with many clothes , linens, kitchen assortments that we’ll Never use, yet she still refuse to donate them to charity. Wishing someone would convince her how stress free a life I’ll be for both of us if she could be convinced to get rid of the Clutter. I keep praying and hoping.
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I just discovered this video. I was taking a break from decluttering my dining room. That is where I keep my mothers Royal Doulton China, her mouth blown crystal and sterling flatware for 12, yes 12 and she used them. My three kids don't want any of it. This video certainly was pointed at me. Thanks a ton!
I don't see the word BLESS... give it away! BLESS someone else, you will BLESS yourself in return.
Umm...Good for you?
Sooo true. Thanks for that reminder. Blessing others is the only real joy I’ve experienced.
Agreed.
Never heard of the sunk cost fallacy but what an excellent point. I used to own just about nothing in my twenties and loved living in my small apartment with bare walls. Now married and living in a house there are so many things that get collected or just stored in the basement and it literally drives me insane. I long for that simpler past, time to get a big garbage bin.