I had to watch this twice. Called a friend I hadn’t talked to in over a year to try and get closure and move on. Realized how much I had outgrown the friendship at least a decade ago. She was living in that story of me choosing my career and keeping a roof over my head over leaving our job when she got fired from being our receptionist. I had no choice and no power of who was hired or fire, but she almost talked me into being guilty. It’s then when I realized she destroyed my 5 year romantic relationship because she was still in that story of loosing her job being “my betrayal” and blaming me for everything that’s ever gone wrong in her life. I let her blame until I felt myself having to explain things that have absolutely nothing to do with her. At that point I told her I have to get up early so take care. Now she’s deleted for my peace and the future of this new man that god answered my prayers with. I want a husband that I can live a life of service with.
Thank you. while you were talking it's almost like you held a mirror up to me and I could see things in my life that I need to work on and improve. You've helped me in so many areas of my life. You definitely have a gift and I appreciate you for what you do.
Lisa this is right where I am. I’ve been isolating. I feel like I gave until I have until it hurt. All my romantic relationships - I have every once of myself. I guess for now I’m giving to myself and getting healthier. I don’t even have a circle right now. I’ve cut and pruned people I have outgrown. It’s kinda lonely. My sons are grown . My best friend and I of 35 years have recently grown apart. We don’t talk. I feel abandoned - I can’t be the only one who calls and wants to see her and spend time. She gave me so many gifts at Christmas sent through my son. While they were thoughtful. I desire connection with her. Thank you for this video. I will be thinking how I show up. I want to be celebrated like your grandmother & mine. 🫶🏻🙌🏼
Excellent! The deposit and withdrawals resonated in my spirit. I often give, give, give of myself, and I am drained. I am re-evaluating my relationships. This video is much appreciated! Lisa, you are dynamic!! Thank you for sharing with us.
Thank you Lisa for this. I’m in tears. For years I’ve wanted meaningful relationships because I love my family and friends, but I hold back because for over 20 years I’ve been carrying around internal conflict and guilt over not being by my grandmothers side when she passed away. Not going to visit her the night before because I was tired and she passed away the next morning. It made me become passive aggressive because I would think oh this is karma for not being there, so I accept that but inside this is not who I am. The moment someone connects and praise me oh you’re so sweet, I consider you one of my closest friends. I disappear and lose connection. I’m going to put all what you said into action immediately. Thank you so much I am so grateful for you and your experience and this video. And your love. Sorry so long. Thank you 🙏🏽
What I truly loved about this is looking at one's self and nurturing the relationship with reaching out. A couple of my daughters feel that a good friend/relationship is one you can ignore for months then pick up the phone one day and pick up where you left off 😳 I have already professed that who is not willing to be a part of my life while I am living (and I do reach out too) will not be a part of my celebration after I am living. They will never know - I'll just be gone and they will be left with feeling good, bad, or indifferent, but won't be able to change that feeling. I'm not mean or petty - I'm just not fake! ❤thank you😊
Thank you so much for this episode, Lisa. I've been working through forgiving and finding the lessons from many childhood violations...I can confirm I've experienced the long-term effects!!! Thank you for these phenomenal tips and questions to ask myself as I move into the healed and abundant phase!!!🎉❤🎉
I have watched this about 5 times. Thank you so much. And please post such long videos on various topics. I hope to hear about having a healthy relationship with ourselves so that we pour from full cups from you. God bless you Lisa. You are a beautiful gift to my life all the way in Nairobi, Kenya. And I love you. May you continue to experience God's abundance all the day of your life.
Oh Lisa Thank you I needed that. When I am lonely I listen to you every day. Being a single Mom is so lonely. Work home and I do it all again. Thank you
I am learning to forgive myself and my inlaws, and most importantly I'm learning that forgiving them doesn't mean I have to invite them back into my life...your videos are so inspirational. Thank you...
Hey girl Its your biggest fan and your tribesman Ricky D..I appreciate all your guidance and inspiration because since you came into my life I know that anything is possible.. so today I honour you for all your help, love care and compassion. When the moments of sadness arise I quickly say hell no and turn on one of your videos.. that is where i get my Lisa fix! Thank you for making a difference in my life and all you encouragement.. Luva babe Ricky"D"
Queen Lisa, you hit a nerve again. God knows how to confirm the nudges we get constantly. I will be obedient and initiate the conversation to restore a valuable relationship that was broken. Thank you
this is exactly what I needed to hear right now right here in this moment Lisa! Thank you thank you thank you. The last bit you shared about your Grandma, was my experience with my Grandma 8 days ago when she passed away. And how till the last breath she was withdrawing love from each and everyone of us who wanted to have lasting moments with her. That is also what reminded me of how important relationships are and how important love is. Thank you for sharing this in this moment. While I attempt to build and repair relationships I needed to know how to go about it. Love you! Bless your soul.
Thank you Lisa, I really needed to hear this message today. Thanks for the reminder. Thanks for reminding me to give grace and to nurture and nourish my relationship.
I've tried to fight with my emotionsin over tge last year beacause of a certain issues that caused some changes in my life and i acknowledged that i have heal my self before anything else
I also watched this video twice 2nd time I wrote all of the tips down in my journal. Thank you Lisa for being a blessing to all of us and may God continue to bless you and ur family
I love your deposit/withdrawal analogy, that clearly adds both context and framework to understanding human relationships. Well done. Thank you for sharing your brilliance with us all. #Love #Respect #Gratitude ❤️🥂🪞🎯
It really hitting a nerve for me, when you talked about the departure of your long time friend. I, too, felt abandon after an ending of an 17 years friendship that I also thought would last forever. 6 years later and I still miss our friendship. I don't blame her, or myself for what happen. We just were not dancing to the same music. In retrospect, I see now that it was ready to end, and I was not willing to let it go. Friendship is definitely a garden that needs to be nurture by both parties, to grow. I cannot change how ti ended or what she may feels, but I can collect as many lessons from it as possible so I can be a better "gardener" the next time around. I don't know which is harder: the ending of the friendship, or her looking at me like some casual acquaintance , when our paths cross in public. At least she not running the other way when she spots me.... Just because a bird feed from my hand doesn't mean I get to keep it. Be free, my friend. May the next garden uplift you.
Ohh Lisa, this just hit me very heard ,for me, I have the whole world of love to give, and every day from day one ,you know it. Always take the other side too .🎉
I really find answers to doubts with you Lisa! I was questioning myself on letting go of my future love story by fear of it ending anyway. I started counting the points, searching the reasons why it won't last, and in fact it is me that is trying not to make the deposit on this Bank account by fear of bankruptcy! I will speak to my futur husband! And make the first deposit!
Obrigada, querida Lisa! Estava a precisar de ouvir esta mensagem. Em vez de coleccionar evidências sobre os meus erros e os erros dos outros (dos que amo), regar o jardim, trazer amor ao relacionamento, com respeito, com liberdade, sem julgamento, com verdadeira intenção de contribuir para a felicidade de todos. Gratidão.
I love your videos so much they helped me. More than anyone has ever helped me before I understand every word that you say. But I feel so alone I don't really have anyone I had to let go of my friends because they did not fit in my life anymore. My family I love them but they're very toxic for me. I don't know what to do or to talk to.
Yeah, I lost a friendship that I took for granted like spoiled child. I didn’t realize it till was too late. I was shocked that could take something for granted because it’s a pet peeve to take something or someone for granted. Had to do check up my character
It's always the other person right!! We really need to put our ego in check, I feel like if it's not us it's still us because of lack of really hearing the other person.
I'm listening to what you are saying about not keeping score but keep track, if your keeping track and a lot of those things remind you of hurt, how can you not keep score so to speak especially if its in a personal relationship with your significant other?
What hit me the most is don’t keep score, keep track. This was really a word in season for me, thank you Lisa 💕
We love you Lisa.
I had to watch this twice. Called a friend I hadn’t talked to in over a year to try and get closure and move on. Realized how much I had outgrown the friendship at least a decade ago. She was living in that story of me choosing my career and keeping a roof over my head over leaving our job when she got fired from being our receptionist. I had no choice and no power of who was hired or fire, but she almost talked me into being guilty. It’s then when I realized she destroyed my 5 year romantic relationship because she was still in that story of loosing her job being “my betrayal” and blaming me for everything that’s ever gone wrong in her life. I let her blame until I felt myself having to explain things that have absolutely nothing to do with her. At that point I told her I have to get up early so take care. Now she’s deleted for my peace and the future of this new man that god answered my prayers with. I want a husband that I can live a life of service with.
how are you going?
Random acts of kindness is definitely a game changer
Love it Lisa
It really is ❤️
I love the random acts of kindness……great reminder thank you ❤❤❤
Thank you. while you were talking it's almost like you held a mirror up to me and I could see things in my life that I need to work on and improve.
You've helped me in so many areas of my life. You definitely have a gift and I appreciate you for what you do.
I didn't know i needed to listen to this untill i just did. I thought it was not for me.
But thank you mummy Lisa❤
Lisa this is right where I am. I’ve been isolating. I feel like I gave until I have until it hurt. All my romantic relationships - I have every once of myself. I guess for now I’m giving to myself and getting healthier. I don’t even have a circle right now. I’ve cut and pruned people I have outgrown. It’s kinda lonely. My sons are grown . My best friend and I of 35 years have recently grown apart. We don’t talk. I feel abandoned - I can’t be the only one who calls and wants to see her and spend time. She gave me so many gifts at Christmas sent through my son. While they were thoughtful. I desire connection with her. Thank you for this video. I will be thinking how I show up. I want to be celebrated like your grandmother & mine. 🫶🏻🙌🏼
What a wonderful soul you are! Kindness just radiates from you.... Your medicine Lisa!
You make me cry every time! I’m really thankful for you .
Great one, as always! Thank you for sharing your story!
Excellent! The deposit and withdrawals resonated in my spirit. I often give, give, give of myself, and I am drained. I am re-evaluating my relationships. This video is much appreciated! Lisa, you are dynamic!! Thank you for sharing with us.
Thanks dear Lisa. Always inspiring!!
Thank you Lisa for this. I’m in tears. For years I’ve wanted meaningful relationships because I love my family and friends, but I hold back because for over 20 years I’ve been carrying around internal conflict and guilt over not being by my grandmothers side when she passed away. Not going to visit her the night before because I was tired and she passed away the next morning. It made me become passive aggressive because I would think oh this is karma for not being there, so I accept that but inside this is not who I am. The moment someone connects and praise me oh you’re so sweet, I consider you one of my closest friends. I disappear and lose connection. I’m going to put all what you said into action immediately. Thank you so much I am so grateful for you and your experience and this video. And your love. Sorry so long. Thank you 🙏🏽
Part of our struggles as humans but, it’s better we consciously make life easier for ourselves. No need for such SUFFERING.
Thanks Lisa ❤
What I truly loved about this is looking at one's self and nurturing the relationship with reaching out. A couple of my daughters feel that a good friend/relationship is one you can ignore for months then pick up the phone one day and pick up where you left off 😳
I have already professed that who is not willing to be a part of my life while I am living (and I do reach out too) will not be a part of my celebration after I am living. They will never know - I'll just be gone and they will be left with feeling good, bad, or indifferent, but won't be able to change that feeling. I'm not mean or petty - I'm just not fake! ❤thank you😊
Thank you so much for this episode, Lisa. I've been working through forgiving and finding the lessons from many childhood violations...I can confirm I've experienced the long-term effects!!! Thank you for these phenomenal tips and questions to ask myself as I move into the healed and abundant phase!!!🎉❤🎉
Same here. Much healing to you!
Hello Lisa 👋 Thank You for the reminder. I really needed to be reminded. Blessings to you!
I have watched this about 5 times. Thank you so much. And please post such long videos on various topics. I hope to hear about having a healthy relationship with ourselves so that we pour from full cups from you. God bless you Lisa. You are a beautiful gift to my life all the way in Nairobi, Kenya. And I love you. May you continue to experience God's abundance all the day of your life.
Oh man ALL OF IT resonated! Especially the withdrawal/deposits. Thank you for this wonderful video! Shared it 💜
Just brilliant. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for this reminder aunty Lisa. We love you so much.
May the Lord bless you in excess
Thank you Lisa!!! I needed to listen to this. And will keep track.
Thank you Lisa for this .
A Relationship is like A garden - plant it with a seeds of intention.
🌸🌹🌺
Thank you! This is a great topic.
This is such great information. Thank you
Thank you so much Lisa, the bank analogy of deposits and withdrawals really did it for me.
Oh Lisa Thank you I needed that. When I am lonely I listen to you every day. Being a single Mom is so lonely. Work home and I do it all again. Thank you
I am learning to forgive myself and my inlaws, and most importantly I'm learning that forgiving them doesn't mean I have to invite them back into my life...your videos are so inspirational. Thank you...
Hey girl
Its your biggest fan and your tribesman Ricky D..I appreciate all your guidance and inspiration because since you came into my life I know that anything is possible.. so today I honour you for all your help, love care and compassion. When the moments of sadness arise I quickly say hell no and turn on one of your videos.. that is where i get my Lisa fix!
Thank you for making a difference in my life and all you encouragement.. Luva babe
Ricky"D"
I got that I have to love myself that much to be responsible and accountable to myself for and to myself first.
Thanks for this reminder, Lisa. I will be watering my relationships with love, generosity, grace, and kindness! ❤ 3-16-2023
Queen Lisa, you hit a nerve again. God knows how to confirm the nudges we get constantly. I will be obedient and initiate the conversation to restore a valuable relationship that was broken. Thank you
this is exactly what I needed to hear right now right here in this moment Lisa! Thank you thank you thank you. The last bit you shared about your Grandma, was my experience with my Grandma 8 days ago when she passed away. And how till the last breath she was withdrawing love from each and everyone of us who wanted to have lasting moments with her. That is also what reminded me of how important relationships are and how important love is. Thank you for sharing this in this moment. While I attempt to build and repair relationships I needed to know how to go about it. Love you! Bless your soul.
Hope all is well God bless your family
Amen 🛡📖🗡🔥💎❤🙏🕊💯🎯
Thanks, Lisa! Relationships are important.
Thank you for uncovering some blind spots. I also shared it with my daughter, hope it helps her to respond to my numerous texts ❤
Thanks for the reminders.❤
This was challenging…relationships are so important and yet one the hardest things to manage…i appreciate the tips 🙌🏾
Show grace as love!!
Loved the ice bags!!!! Don't keep score keep track!
Loved this: Don't keep scores; keep track of what kept you off track, show grace. Thank you!
This really hits home, just came up in my life.
Thank you Lisa
Oh Lisa, thank you for this 💜 message. I really never thought about it like this. Thank you 🙏
Hi Lisa thank you for sharing the acts of kindness. Also, I like this format better.
You positivity is so inspiring. I've had been struggling alot lately of who I want to be and where I'm at in life. You have given me hope.
Thank you Lisa, I really needed to hear this message today. Thanks for the reminder. Thanks for reminding me to give grace and to nurture and nourish my relationship.
#replay Sunday March 5, 2023
This has been awake call to me . I love what you've to say. I'm starting to aply this to my life
Thank you so much.
Thank You for this TRUTH! I will correct and continue.
I've tried to fight with my emotionsin over tge last year beacause of a certain issues that caused some changes in my life and i acknowledged that i have heal my self before anything else
Hymn! We don’t fight our emotions because, it always wins. Let’s acknowledge fully and then choose. I hope we listen to our heart.
This is a great reminder of knowing that relationships require investment. Thank you Lisa.
I also watched this video twice 2nd time I wrote all of the tips down in my journal. Thank you Lisa for being a blessing to all of us and may God continue to bless you and ur family
Excellent Advice!!!!!✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
Am greatful ma'am Lisa ,this is so great ,l never knew its really not okay always to keep scores but to be on track,thank you for this🙏
I will deposit more love into all of my relationships!!!!💖💖💖💖💖
Thank you for sharing this video! Relationship deposits and withdraws are always a great reminder for me!
SO POWERFUL LISA SO TRUE ❤ THIS ONE STUCK TO ME LIKE GLUE🙏🏾 I REALLY HAVE SOME DEEP REEVALUATING TO DO. THANK YOU FOR THIS MESSAGE ❤
Love you Lisa😊🤗
Love this
Direct Result!!!!!! I like that analogy! Seeing relationship as a bank account!!!! No deposit, NO RETURN!!!!!👁️👁️👁️👁️👁️
This was exactly what I needed to hear today thank you.
Love you sis ! ❤❤❤❤❤
I love your deposit/withdrawal analogy, that clearly adds both context and framework to understanding human relationships. Well done. Thank you for sharing your brilliance with us all. #Love #Respect #Gratitude ❤️🥂🪞🎯
Man i learned so much! Def needed this!
Wow 😮needed to hear that ,God bless u 😊
Appreciate your efforts. You brought clarity to my mind on relationship.
It really hitting a nerve for me, when you talked about the departure of your long time friend. I, too, felt abandon after an ending of an 17 years friendship that I also thought would last forever. 6 years later and I still miss our friendship. I don't blame her, or myself for what happen. We just were not dancing to the same music.
In retrospect, I see now that it was ready to end, and I was not willing to let it go. Friendship is definitely a garden that needs to be nurture by both parties, to grow. I cannot change how ti ended or what she may feels, but I can collect as many lessons from it as possible so I can be a better "gardener" the next time around.
I don't know which is harder: the ending of the friendship, or her looking at me like some casual acquaintance , when our paths cross in public. At least she not running the other way when she spots me.... Just because a bird feed from my hand doesn't mean I get to keep it.
Be free, my friend. May the next garden uplift you.
Being more generous with my appreciation 😊
Thank you Lisa for this timely reminder that my relationships are what I put into them! Off to call a friend ;)
Ohh Lisa, this just hit me very heard ,for me, I have the whole world of love to give, and every day from day one ,you know it. Always take the other side too .🎉
So sweet I needed this. Doing a self check of my relationships ❤thank you
I really find answers to doubts with you Lisa!
I was questioning myself on letting go of my future love story by fear of it ending anyway.
I started counting the points, searching the reasons why it won't last, and in fact it is me that is trying not to make the deposit on this Bank account by fear of bankruptcy!
I will speak to my futur husband! And make the first deposit!
Direct result
thank you so much
Obrigada, querida Lisa!
Estava a precisar de ouvir esta mensagem.
Em vez de coleccionar evidências sobre os meus erros e os erros dos outros (dos que amo), regar o jardim, trazer amor ao relacionamento, com respeito, com liberdade, sem julgamento, com verdadeira intenção de contribuir para a felicidade de todos.
Gratidão.
"What I give in, is what I get" thank you mama ❤️
I'm going to watch this until I understand that's me you are talking about I needed improvement you are awesome thank you beautiful Lady love you.
Such a great share! ❤️
I plan on using this video to nurture, nourish and deposit into others vs keeping score and *collecting evidence*
Thank you
I need this cause my relationship with my family is not good at all but I'm going to try to make it better thank you.
I love your videos so much they helped me. More than anyone has ever helped me before I understand every word that you say. But I feel so alone I don't really have anyone I had to let go of my friends because they did not fit in my life anymore. My family I love them but they're very toxic for me. I don't know what to do or to talk to.
That’s sweet ❤
Direct result!!
Yeah, I lost a friendship that I took for granted like spoiled child. I didn’t realize it till was too late. I was shocked that could take something for granted because it’s a pet peeve to take something or someone for granted. Had to do check up my character
Yes I'm feeling responsible because this is better than business I know that she's a long time
Super super interesting the point of view you have share with us, so great 🙋♀️❤️💯💣💣💣👋👋👋👋👋👋👋🤨
That SHIRT!
Lisa u r so so sweet and you r my messenger message holder... Love u❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I find it hard not to keep score…. I grow resentful since I always try to do my best. I still have to work on that.
Awesome video❤
It's always the other person right!! We really need to put our ego in check, I feel like if it's not us it's still us because of lack of really hearing the other person.
❤❤❤
So when you said don't keep score. I'm like damn I know that, guess forgot. Thanks for the reminder
Direct resort😊
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I'm listening to what you are saying about not keeping score but keep track, if your keeping track and a lot of those things remind you of hurt, how can you not keep score so to speak especially if its in a personal relationship with your significant other?
Hola lisa. Ive missed you ❤