@cac1504 Living alone is better than living with your son/daughter in law and your grandchildren. It is more acceptable for those who absorb Western values.
Worst is staying with your children who refuse to talk to you and give you bad attitude everytime they see you. But the adult children still depend on you to provide all the items at home like toothpaste, shampoo, laundry supplies, aircon, etc. When you buy food for them to eat and knock on their door they yell at you.
I am beyond fresh grad age I live off my parents but I give my best in terms of attitude and initiative to help with chores at home /run errands. I think if children still spend parents money but give attitude the parent must speak up. Grown up still using parents money with a bad attitude... they won't care for their parents when they are older and sick they will run away. No point being nice to grown up children with attitude. Better off buying a dog for companionship
@raichisan161 sadly many mothers may feel otherwise. Some mother or dad simply refuse to give up on their children because they know they are the one who give birth to such creature. Your mindset is healthy but sadly some unfortunate people suffer from such toxic family member. Some time it's not the parents refuse to educate the child but the adult children refuse to change. The parents understand that if they kick the child out, he will not survive. Some may think they have to provide for their child for life.
@celestialstar124 some just can't bear to let go. One of my neighbor feeding granddaughter 's 2 children now after getting married her son and dil bought a HDB and eventually rented the whole unit out they move here to squeeze with mum and other single siblings. Now the 4th generation is here too to live off great grandma 😅 her husband passed early she need to face every difficulty alone my parents stayed here for more than 30 years since the start they never seen her husband
@raichisan161 yes, i saw alot of such cases as social worker. Some daughter give birth already let parents raise her children and when she met new guy she Mia for good and move in with the new guy. Some son earn a lot but stay with parents but refuse to contribute. The parents will have a difficult time to get aid. They still refuse to chase the children away.
@celestialstar124 surprised to know 😵 I thought it's only in my neighborhood many adult live off parents. Because my friend from another part of SG said non of her neighbors live off parents after turning into an adult she herself need to find her own pocket money since 18
@@MrTubesong gossip until can spoil family relationship is v bad. U can gossip among yrself but dont tell the son. This is the boundary. 要鸡婆别人的家事也要有个底线。
God Blessed you believe and trust in God only he guide and protect you can go any church nearby your place go to come you will feel very happy He will hold your hand whatever you do or wherever you when.
Can film a list of options of retirement homes in sg so i can start preparing the cost etc for myself. Clarity of these options eg any subsidy will benefit aging population needs too...n factor in inflation thanks.
It seems a bit absurd that the son bears a grudge against the father just because he once told the wife to give up the son. He has a hand in raising up the son. If so, the son is in ingrate.
One must be financially well off & old activities to do? Do not fully retire but do social work, then one will be retiring well and not lonely. Choose some friends who are generous and not calculative, selfish stingy, like some dollars meant the whole world to them. They must be able to part with some dollars. Or else one will be very disappointed when you recalled you help them financially needed but reject helping one when you needed them. Money meant nothing with me. Cause I always part money to help the elderly, monks & friends. Honour monetary request from needy friends. Keep friends who is generous and not calculative.
Aunty.. Time to change yrself. U r 71 years.. Nt 17.. If u cannot get along with so many people.. The problem lies with u alone! Harsh but that is the hard truth! Learn to be humble and let go of yr pride and ego! A nice and easygoing person will have no lack of friends and loved ones by their side! Nt hiding alone and still trying to act tough! That is weakness!!!!
任何年龄层都会觉得孤独，要充实自己，培养兴趣爱好。善用时间，没时间胡思乱想，就不会孤独寂寞。
说得对，说得好。👍😊
接觸人群
不要以为有人同住就不孤独，其实有时候更痛苦！尤其对方是个行为极端的人，用各种变态手段虐待你，比方上个没人用的厕所要等两小时，到时你就会知道独居有多幸福!
+1
想想年轻时是怎么生活的？怎么跟人相处的？怎么消磨闲暇的？老了就不能过年轻那样的生活？年轻时抱怨忙碌，年老又抱怨孤独，这样总是消极是不对的。
祝福長者們都吉祥安康，生活愈快❤
我退休滿2年,早於10年前就規劃自己買了1間小2房獨自居住,與小孩每個月相聚1次,不拿孝養金親情關係還不錯,有事line可隨時視訊獲知小孩情況,與鄰里保持良好情誼.上老人大學學習美日語,每日到公園運動1小時以上,做導護媽媽和巡守隊志工,維持著每天用電腦寫日記的習慣,日子過得蠻快樂的。
請問對你而言人生的意义是什么呢
日语好学吗？
日语好学吗？
我也是，我退休4年多了，和老公搬到高雄養老，每天去地球村學英日語，也去社區的桌球室打球，一週有兩天的早上去家扶中心當志工，我對退休生活很滿意，老公73歲了，天天爬柴山，下山後到內惟市場買菜，煮晚餐，退休後他有了烹飪的樂趣😊
我的感受是现在的年代好像独居更快乐？好好的工作存钱，保持身心健康（运动+冥想），平时摆弄自己的爱好，再做一些贡献社会的事，很的很快乐啊！
独居和合住各有优缺点，但是对我来说，跟别人住，是一定会有摩擦的。会被别人讨厌/嫌弃/要求/看别人脸色，其实真的很不快乐。你需要顾虑别人的感受。但你自己一个人，不用担心吵到人，可以随心所欲的摆放/做。吃什么，要看什么戏，要听什么歌，随你的心意。小到桌布的摆放，冰箱的用法，甚至关不关灯，真的很烦。其实走过了你也发觉不过如此。拥有独立的内心+快乐和自由是最棒的。
@@ansleylw3285 说得好！独居的好处是自由自在，自己作主，要快也可以，要慢也可以，不要做也可以，不需要一天到晚去配合、迁就、忍让别人，很辛苦的！不要认定独来独往就是孤僻，不合群，其实是人群不适合我，为什么要逼自己和那些看了就讨厌的人混在一起？人生不过是三餐一宿，有得吃有得住，足矣！
完全说到我內心深處 你這樣表叙讓我感到興趣以及找出知己❤愛你喔🤟㊗️🌹
難得找到知己❤😂
經濟是一大關鍵。老年才會也才能有尊嚴。
我快七十岁，心态却停在55岁！天天四处跑动找美食！人生一大享受！吃！
要保持運動健健康康、自由自在享受當下。
我母亲教我
老了！不要跟孩子住
一定要把錢捉在自己手里
錢……孩子也不能相信
我母亲说
跟女儿住！要看女婿面色
跟儿子住！要看媳妇面色
自己一个人住！自在
我母亲自已一个人住
活到九十多岁
她也不交朋友
她的娱乐是
她自己养小动物狗！鸡！鸭
吃鸡蛋！鸭蛋
种菜！种花
吃自己种的菜
太有空了！用火炭蒸饭煮菜
开冷气
追电视剧！然后睡着了
我的邻居也这么黑心
5 1 4 # 4……亚枝带头
教513……罗娜和他儿子吉鸿
三楼的永彬
跟我大儿子说
我疼弟弟！不疼他
我捨不得给大儿子吃
给弟弟吃到胖胖的
我大儿子读小学
我没给大儿子零用钱
去学校食堂吃东西
我解释
当时我一天我给七毛
五毛吃碗面！二毛吃水果
自己带水
邻居说太少了
叫我大儿子！长大不要孝顺我
不要给我钱花
（我不用孩子给！我会赚钱）
@@YENNEE-fs9wz 很西方的思想。不错！
遗憾的是你说的［娱乐］在新加坡是会被人complain的
@@taicheekong7064 对！
我母亲住马来西亚
新加坡人！反正退体了
可以去柔佛！新山租房子
大多是有地住宅区
你爱养什么宠物都可以
这么多感叹号❗️。感觉你好激动😂
體諒與原諒
我們也有老的一天
因果循環
老了有什么好怕，接受现实每个人都会老，何必讲的老了这么恐怕，生活看自己怎样过，为什么一定要讲儿女的事，爱护自己❤❤❤😊
支持
我们老了！有老的活法
我们自己经济独立
年轻人！有自己的生活方式
互不干涉
互相尊重就好
@@YenNeeYou 早上好！祝您开心每一天😊👍❤️
老是不可怕，只是怕有时万一不小心在家摔倒，起不来的话，叫天不应，叫地不灵时，就很危险了！谁都不要痛苦地走入死亡，对吧？😅
@@sapphoophoon2141 早上好!都说不怕了，心不要想万一，心想好事，万事都会正能量满满，反正都老了，祝您开心每一天🥰✌️
@@sapphoophoon2141 独居老人！万一摔倒
跟孩子住
你的孩子会二十四小时！看着你吗？
怕！家里就裝个CCTV
或
把手机套在身上……
Being alone doesn't mean lonely. Some are left alone, others choose to be alone.
人最重要是活的好，死前有尊严。希望新加坡可以成为亚洲可以成为第一个通过安乐死合法普遍的国家，给病重和70岁以上的人选择使用安乐死的权利。 瑞士太贵了，如果不是富豪，根本去不了。
@@CatPaw-123
我也支持安乐死
我也赞成安乐死合法化. 生不能自己做主. 至少可以选择离开的时刻.😊
我做義工，照顧流浪狗，把身體照顧好自己有信仰。獨立，跟子女住在一起又怎樣。現在社會就是這樣。自由自在，年輕有有年輕人的生活。
我也是义工收留流浪猫. 两年前开始跟一个朋友为JB的流浪狗结扎. 现在还去继续着.
我56岁， 2030年就会是那25％的老年人了。 希望到时候我还能在外头溜达，身体健康，生活愉快。❤
现在就可以开始计划自己的退休生活了。加油！💪😊
今年56歲的人，2030年 是62
@@davidwang3143 我算错了， 不好意思。😅
请问您现在在大陆吗？
Be independent is the best
㊗️福每个公公婆婆身体健康生活愉快🙏❤️🌹
Alone does not mean lonely.
@cac1504 Living alone is better than living with your son/daughter in law and your grandchildren. It is more acceptable for those who absorb Western values.
Yes, feel more peaceful🙏
Lonely does not mean happy but that's life .
身体健康才能独居！
对、这是事实。
Getting along with people is not easy, let alone living under same roof.
Importantly, get along with yourself🙏
人老了很难避免不会独居的，只要你老伴走人了，完成了一生的使命了，你就自然的要面对独居的局面，除非，儿女要你去与他们同住而你自己也不反对，甚至乐于接受，那就问题不大。反过来说，对于宁可独居或不得不独居的老人而言，在较年轻时尽可能地培养一些适当爱好，一旦年纪大了，有些消遣活动，那么退休之后或独居之时，就不会觉得太孤单无聊了。
其實獨居很享受很愉快的😂😂
他一天到晚找我麻烦却是很不想人麻烦他没责任类型
Senior not alone they can join day care centre dont worry your friends can help you be strong be happy
Worst is staying with your children who refuse to talk to you and give you bad attitude everytime they see you. But the adult children still depend on you to provide all the items at home like toothpaste, shampoo, laundry supplies, aircon, etc.
When you buy food for them to eat and knock on their door they yell at you.
I am beyond fresh grad age I live off my parents but I give my best in terms of attitude and initiative to help with chores at home /run errands. I think if children still spend parents money but give attitude the parent must speak up. Grown up still using parents money with a bad attitude... they won't care for their parents when they are older and sick they will run away. No point being nice to grown up children with attitude. Better off buying a dog for companionship
@raichisan161 sadly many mothers may feel otherwise. Some mother or dad simply refuse to give up on their children because they know they are the one who give birth to such creature.
Your mindset is healthy but sadly some unfortunate people suffer from such toxic family member.
Some time it's not the parents refuse to educate the child but the adult children refuse to change. The parents understand that if they kick the child out, he will not survive. Some may think they have to provide for their child for life.
@celestialstar124 some just can't bear to let go. One of my neighbor feeding granddaughter 's 2 children now after getting married her son and dil bought a HDB and eventually rented the whole unit out they move here to squeeze with mum and other single siblings. Now the 4th generation is here too to live off great grandma 😅 her husband passed early she need to face every difficulty alone my parents stayed here for more than 30 years since the start they never seen her husband
@raichisan161 yes, i saw alot of such cases as social worker. Some daughter give birth already let parents raise her children and when she met new guy she Mia for good and move in with the new guy.
Some son earn a lot but stay with parents but refuse to contribute. The parents will have a difficult time to get aid. They still refuse to chase the children away.
@celestialstar124 surprised to know 😵 I thought it's only in my neighborhood many adult live off parents. Because my friend from another part of SG said non of her neighbors live off parents after turning into an adult she herself need to find her own pocket money since 18
家里养两只狗 挺开心的
邻居很多事，把父亲不要孩子的事告诉孩子，使孩子对父亲怨恨，为何邻居那么多事，难道不懂什么事该说，什么不该说吗。
Human nature. People like gossips
@@MrTubesong gossip until can spoil family relationship is v bad. U can gossip among yrself but dont tell the son. This is the boundary. 要鸡婆别人的家事也要有个底线。
有些人就是喜欢看别人受苦，可怕😨
你老我都没老。我童心未泯。心态年轻。乖巧的我，心态如诗如画的我怎会像他有邪念？！心灵美的人根本没邪只善念。我只能老实说曾经跟很不正经的张不是我所以我配合他可是我后来不再要他要我当什麽坏女人。他那麽喜欢坏女人可是我不喜欢坏男人。所谓放纵自己，你想歪。我在家自己煮多点也放纵自己不过都健康。想都懂我早就过完年戒色的就根本不打算有男人可是你居然曾经一直好无聊多次传无聊不好什麽感情婚姻什麽啦拜托拜托，我说很多次超多次没兴趣而你的人越是叫你别更要非常铁齿就懂非常不好可是别的男人我只需说不，他都很听我的只一直都是他为什麽他一直不面对他自己的？！其实做人根本不好放纵自己。他居然放纵自己8年多居然一直没面对自己就都乱指正我根本从来没对张做伤天害理完全没害过他都是他对我没停止做害我的事还一直放纵自己可是我从来没纵容他！！没有就是没有。是他自己要的放肆完全不顾别人感受死活都错
做人错一定要改怎能一直说我要改变他。任性到没人性是他8年多没停止过
昨天我根本没做什麽根本没有也没说什麽一上网他再无理取闹说我越是那样越针对我可我根本没上网一上网就看又再看他胡说八道浪费时间生活。反而我都没对他做他对我做
说他的行为都不是做啦。再说我们早就断绝。
仔細想想 十年前的你 十年後的你是不是一樣健康的 ？ 老了就別管兒孫事 放開啦！😂😂😂
Thank God for volunteers to help them
只要有人肯倾听，就不会孤独了呀
昨晚微忙得很所以第二次圣诞没像以前
没被害我每次扮美美过平安夜。害我肯定会影响我所有
别没知慧没知慧说话做人
不会被影响不是人。严重的不够强大会变疯。不该说再强大的人也可能变疯。别听心狠手辣的人话，真的要听听善良的人真话。再强大被他害惨八年多都会有感觉才不会像他态度那样恶劣对待恶业。
No point going to join activities. When person 'disappear' from those activities, nobody bother to find out why.
Alhamdulillah 希望新加坡人安康❤🎉
做个可爱的老人不容易，一般都会讨人嫌。
为自己而活.
可是他就一天到晚麻烦我找我麻烦从他天天没停止传坏给我都证明还是冤枉咬毁破坏我别人都不做他都做。连关系破裂他也不管只管做
全球每一個地方，老人生活模式都不同，跟當地的文化有絕對發展關系。
当你老了，根本就没什么人想靠近你。这就是残酷的事实。
我和我爸妈就很亲啊
主要看有没有钱
因为老了也没什么利用价值，也没有可观的财产？所以离你越远越好！😂
想靠近你时你才得当心呀!
@@lintong3084好👏
人间少有赞
以前27岁的时候住在直落布兰雅那里的HDB，有一天对门的老 uncle 总是开着门躺在椅子上睡觉从要睡到晚。每天早上做工都能看到他开着门躺在们对面睡觉，可是突然有一天早上我看到他躺在门口对面的椅子上但是苍蝇从口中飞出来，我就觉得很奇怪就跟爸爸说。爸爸说他可能死了就打电话给救护车。。。。。。。。。。。。
独居老人避免孤独 ，
培养兴趣多读好书 ，
音乐盆栽心情舒服 ，
随遇而安减少苦楚 ，
邻居交往不亦乐乎?
God Blessed you believe and trust in God only he guide and protect you can go any church nearby your place go to come you will feel very happy He will hold your hand whatever you do or wherever you when.
现在的老人不能靠孩子！
At least they live in decent apartments. Look at Hong Kong living alone seniors' living conditions & you would wonder why they keep on living.
有一種人好討厭，沒良知，把自己的意志強加於人。
Can film a list of options of retirement homes in sg so i can start preparing the cost etc for myself. Clarity of these options eg any subsidy will benefit aging population needs too...n factor in inflation thanks.
我朋友女人Maggie 比较自动不会每次见面等我还钱可是很多女的跟我见面都没自动，多数我们还。如果是我绝对不会要人还除非她一定要还。人要自动
几个女性朋友曾经约我都要我还所以经过张后，我不会对人太好没用的
曾经我对张比我孩子好看他怎对待我。的确曾经我对张好到重要过我儿子还看他如生命还用生命去爱他可看他怎对待我就懂所以特别不懂感恩
我经历不会骗人还说话超级真话。我想只有我曾经对他最真最好不然都不会把他看比孩子重要以前
可惜我对他最真最好他居然天天过份对待我不会我过份
他该会想我曾经多爱过他把他放最高位怎可能过份对他
问题他从来不肯承担他对我做过一切所以关系恶劣合理正常
我觉得他以前就算不真爱我都不能过份就是所感情越来越不好就是他天天过份
最过份都老怪我乱指正我完全没对他做的还老怪我
不破裂才怪对吗？
To the Senior Citizens.................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are NOT Alone...................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🤛💪👋😊
獨居好，達摩面壁9年也是獨居。最後就成爲一代宗師了。
他有宗教信仰, 又在修行, 跟平常人生活于世上庸庸碌碌是完全不同的境界。
@@TheHongkc 釋迦牟尼佛是創立宗教，不是跟隨宗教信仰。
@@诚聘板主 达摩禅师与释迦牟尼佛是两个不同的人。
@@TheHongkc 然後呢？
他們不都是在孤獨的求道路上頓悟生命嗎？
@@诚聘板主 没有然后。我只是想告诉你他们两人不是同一个人。BTW, 顿悟生命跟成佛差很远。
sorry uncle have all the kepo aunties. I also have this problem hope government can help remove all the chairs under my block
It seems a bit absurd that the son bears a grudge against the father just because he once told the wife to give up the son. He has a hand in raising up the son. If so, the son is in ingrate.
人到晚年有几个不孤独的，即便儿孙满堂也不一定就不孤独，得到完备的喜欢也不容易，在一般人的情况下，几乎都是在孤独中死去。也是非常正常的事情
One must be financially well off & old activities to do? Do not fully retire but do social work, then one will be retiring well and not lonely. Choose some friends who are generous and not calculative, selfish stingy, like some dollars meant the whole world to them. They must be able to part with some dollars. Or else one will be very disappointed when you recalled you help them financially needed but reject helping one when you needed them. Money meant nothing with me. Cause I always part money to help the elderly, monks & friends. Honour monetary request from needy friends. Keep friends who is generous and not calculative.
When healthy no worries do not live and die alone my advice .
Antie not only yr's siblings don't bother about you,my siblings also don't bother about me.
@@spacek3516 human relationship will be changed over time. Lower your expectations.
@@douglaslee6324 Depend to ppl melt actually.
Still got own place very good loh...malaysia some old man stay in bunker bed with others....cheaper than cheap
獨居挺好
有钱。不怕啦😂
VERY SOON..I AM ONE OF THEM..
Aunty.. Time to change yrself. U r 71 years.. Nt 17.. If u cannot get along with so many people.. The problem lies with u alone! Harsh but that is the hard truth! Learn to be humble and let go of yr pride and ego! A nice and easygoing person will have no lack of friends and loved ones by their side! Nt hiding alone and still trying to act tough! That is weakness!!!!
年老，孤獨
真的很苦
今天不用道德绑架啦。😂。人好自然有人来。
很難相處⋯⋯所以,只可以獨居
最重要俺口袋要有💰。
Loneliness depending on parents ,government system ( china system ) ,no enough supporting government system and inflation of modern worlds 🌎.
怯弱的绵羊才需要扎堆，
勇猛的狼就有本事独行。
@@newway6260 老虎！狮子都是独来独往
没主见的羊才要有人带领（领头羊）
鄧皆歡75歲（很年輕啊！
我现在30几岁已经开始考虑养老的钱了😢
可以去教會認識上帝這樣你就不會孤獨了
What kind of son is that? He will never have good life when gets old ...
Lol.....in trend lah....follow after japan.
跟年轻人住，要看他们的脸色。没必要。
失去一切，没有子女的安慰及孝道，才是最孤苦烦苦，或是少壮不不努力，老来孤独悲伤😢，参与社交活动，一天过一天，乐观的老人並不孤单，老来身上有存款，不会忧心重重。😮知足常乐，健康就有福气。
无言的抗议。
0.0 孤独本是常态
大牌123是什麼意思啊？
新加坡各个组屋的座号。
无奈衆生皆苦
照雇好自已和家人
给別人赢输得起很多朋友还给听他發口风很多朋友也不计较杯☕️大把friends😂🤣
May I ask is it common for daughter-in-law to ignore you?
No, that’s rude of her
Kindness have to start somewhere I guess
@user-oh6wb5rj2q I did all I can. I cook for hee. I let her use my car. My helper cleans her room, washes her laundry and iron.
❤❤❤❤❤
Her English is so good. Many Singaporeans speak Chinese only.
Are you sure?
😇
我57一个人住四房式，反正死了会长蛆虫发臭，邻居会打电话叫SCDF
Not if you're healthy...
You're still young to say that.
I'm 66 those words are for me to say... 😂
oh,I am 74 now,still going strong 💪
😇
2030 25% 60岁以上的老人。
老头子连“儿子，女儿“都不会讲，估计以前在家里特别不知道尊重人，没有礼貌不知道感恩的老人，确实让人无法靠近！
如果教育孩子學歐美，把孩子當朋友，結果肯定孤獨。應該回到過去，學祖母輩對兒女的嚴格教育，長幼有別，懂得尊重長輩，老師，才有美好的晚年。
你做皇帝。当然😂。
跟小孩同住好吗？天天吵架你喜欢吗？两代同堂是最好的。
@@douglaslee6324 這種對孩子嚴格教育，是要從小教起。如果對他們從小寵，長大了才來教已經太晚了。
@@tan00002 你的道德绑架已经是旧社会弊端了。
俺覺得你在反諷，但俺沒證據
😮
Pls change the music,super boring
他是天天找我麻烦惹我惹事生非承担吧有证明
組織社團...老人旅遊社，老人運動社...
跟儿子有什么误会？
我也非独居。每一个都懂懂你的人一定要善待珍惜。我比你更懂你。你连你8都不懂可我非常懂我自己，你就不懂我
没想到曾经你说过懂你比爱你重要可惜你没善待。我的人绝对不是我对人好别人一样要同样好，不过我就是不能1接受别人天天过分跟对我做错
你居然不是男人，推给女人非常烂教育还真以为对的做法。别铁齿
我做法永远对的。你自己做不到男人做的非常烂乖乖承担承担吧。亏你乱乱替我找借口。这是所有的人该做的。你居然自私自利到一直看我留言太没知慧。我留言都你自己，生气就是脾气暴躁。还敢一直说我生气。都是你对我不是我对你理应不会生气反而我们有理由因为你做可是我居然没你一直生气你却一直冤枉人
太坏了
你的坏2016开始
為甚麼父母可以無條件為了子女，而子女不可以這樣對待父母！
富在深山有遠親啦
可不可以採訪說華語的老人
说中文很低级。
@@douglaslee6324
没有一种语言是低级的。语言只是用来沟通。
新加坡人的英文也是新加坡式的
講英语的老人字幕最好用中文，講中文的老人字幕最好用英语 。
AI can reduce loneliness.