Yeah, I have been in a situationship before. I just got out of one in December 2022 last year. To be honest, it was a guy 3 years older than me whom I met at uni in 2019. I got ghosted for 2 and a half years. Then I made a mistake by responding to his messages when he chose to reconnect with me again in June 2022. That is where my situation with him became messy because we were only texting (sometimes sexting) but never get to see each other in person like before. So in the end, we had a fight and cut communication just like that. He was a narcissist so that justifies why I officially cut ties with him since 27th April 2023
Why is commitment scary? I get very upset at people who are afraid of commitment because they are afraid of missing out. It is precisely such mentality that creates problems for society and themselves. Because they're constantly comparing. Comparing their current partner to others, and this mentality will permeate into other aspects of their lives and they'll be comparing their grades, their incomes, their lifestyles, their housing, their cars, their phones etc etc. See where they're going to end up at with this? Whatever or whoever you're comparing, there will always be something or someone better. You'll never be truly happy. Why is there a need to be afraid of missing out on others? Does your current partner make you happy? Do they accept you for who you are? Can they accept your flaws? Do you generally have more good times than bad with them? It doesn't matter if you're in your 20s or 30s or whatever age. The advantages of settling down earlier, with a compatible partner, is that you both start to do life together, with the strength and union of two, at an earlier age. You tackle life's challenges together earlier, get a flat earlier and be free of your mortgage earlier, have kids earlier and have the energy for them, potentially avoid the higher risks of gene degradation and in-born disabilities in your children born during your younger years, a better chance of having grandchildren and perhaps even great-grandchildren, and many more advantages, too many to list all. If you're still looking out for a better partner, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with your current partner at all. You're just wasting their time and holding them back.
The host + two guys kept the convo real and demonstrate open embrace of life's lessons. Other young people need to get out of the mindset that life is like a textbook with known endings.
I don't feel like becoming exclusive with someone is settling, but building. There is a lot to explore, there can be depth and unexpected things even with only one person.
Personally, I feel the term situationship is what you would call friends with benefits. I think people came up with such a term because they didn't want to be associated with the less desirable vibes of saying that they have a friends with benefits relationship with such and such, so rather than telling people that, "oh, I'm friends with benefits with him/her", it sounds nicer to say, "oh, we're in a situationship". It's just playing with words, if situationship is even a word.
If you like a person and want commitment, but the other don't and suggest a situationship, have some self respect, talk it out and if no resolution, leave.
I wonder how does a situationship ever get to “love” because you never know when you or the other party is going to walk away. I think love takes time and effort to cultivate. Even in a committed relationship, it may take months for both parties with the same goal in mind to actually slowly learn to actually truly love each other.
Extreme major red flag. I truly hope the girls he's in a situationship with feel the same as him. If not, that girl is going to be so broken with so many luggage for the next relationship
Really respect everyone here for speaking so openly about their situations, also shoutout to whoever chose the title of this video, EEAAO reference!
Yeah, I have been in a situationship before. I just got out of one in December 2022 last year.
To be honest, it was a guy 3 years older than me whom I met at uni in 2019. I got ghosted for 2 and a half years.
Then I made a mistake by responding to his messages when he chose to reconnect with me again in June 2022.
That is where my situation with him became messy because we were only texting (sometimes sexting) but never get to see each other in person like before.
So in the end, we had a fight and cut communication just like that. He was a narcissist so that justifies why I officially cut ties with him since 27th April 2023
Why is commitment scary? I get very upset at people who are afraid of commitment because they are afraid of missing out. It is precisely such mentality that creates problems for society and themselves. Because they're constantly comparing. Comparing their current partner to others, and this mentality will permeate into other aspects of their lives and they'll be comparing their grades, their incomes, their lifestyles, their housing, their cars, their phones etc etc. See where they're going to end up at with this? Whatever or whoever you're comparing, there will always be something or someone better. You'll never be truly happy.
Why is there a need to be afraid of missing out on others? Does your current partner make you happy? Do they accept you for who you are? Can they accept your flaws? Do you generally have more good times than bad with them? It doesn't matter if you're in your 20s or 30s or whatever age. The advantages of settling down earlier, with a compatible partner, is that you both start to do life together, with the strength and union of two, at an earlier age. You tackle life's challenges together earlier, get a flat earlier and be free of your mortgage earlier, have kids earlier and have the energy for them, potentially avoid the higher risks of gene degradation and in-born disabilities in your children born during your younger years, a better chance of having grandchildren and perhaps even great-grandchildren, and many more advantages, too many to list all. If you're still looking out for a better partner, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with your current partner at all. You're just wasting their time and holding them back.
The host + two guys kept the convo real and demonstrate open embrace of life's lessons. Other young people need to get out of the mindset that life is like a textbook with known endings.
aiyo loved this part so much 12:35 🥺 rly liked having ian on the show!! such a charismatic speaker
I don't feel like becoming exclusive with someone is settling, but building. There is a lot to explore, there can be depth and unexpected things even with only one person.
Absolutely...it's exciting to see the facets of someone's personality...different experiences...etc.
Personally, I feel the term situationship is what you would call friends with benefits. I think people came up with such a term because they didn't want to be associated with the less desirable vibes of saying that they have a friends with benefits relationship with such and such, so rather than telling people that, "oh, I'm friends with benefits with him/her", it sounds nicer to say, "oh, we're in a situationship". It's just playing with words, if situationship is even a word.
You're right! It's like getting all the benefits without saying I'm needy, so that I'll think better of myself
If you like a person and want commitment, but the other don't and suggest a situationship, have some self respect, talk it out and if no resolution, leave.
The girl in green looking around like she wants to get out of the chat asap LOL issokay i feel her
lost interest on the TOPIC of the day... Normal reaction :)
i can confirm, i was the green shirt
She looks like the "blur" type.
Situationship is like you don’t like the other person enough but you don’t want to miss the fun 😢
Do you believe in situationships?
I wonder how does a situationship ever get to “love” because you never know when you or the other party is going to walk away. I think love takes time and effort to cultivate. Even in a committed relationship, it may take months for both parties with the same goal in mind to actually slowly learn to actually truly love each other.
Pei Fang's comments are so dope I'm hooked in this series now
Really don’t understand situationships I can’t live with that uncertainty man
Love this!!!!
Hot take: I feel only good looking ppl can be in situationships
Not you
Love this video rlly!
bro don't call yourself spoilt milk you're good looking
His head look like pineapple
Nice joke bro
u damn sweet bro... 🥺️
The girl host looks like zoe saldana! We need their names!!
There is always someone better out there - but does that someone love you back?
if nobody want koon how I'll take him
7:54 That's essentially friends with benefits.
This situationship stuff is damn nonsense sia 🤣
So… it’s basically an open relationship? A relationship minus the commitment?
Just say so la…
Bruh
Wtf man koon how is unironically a good looking dude
Nope
koonhow is hot ok
it's always the people who have never put themselves out there on the internet that put others down lmao
cope. seethe.
Koon How damn handsome
Nope
Yep
Nooooo , jeevan is better !!! He is hotter and yummier
Indian fella is the definition of mega red flag
Extreme major red flag. I truly hope the girls he's in a situationship with feel the same as him. If not, that girl is going to be so broken with so many luggage for the next relationship
expired milk smells like yogurt
None of these terms were coined by Gen Z actually but younger millennials
GenZ be so gay lol