one of my close friends, shes trans, black, a very religious woman and gay. She always says ”im the experiment of society” and laughs. But i acknowledge she goes through hell daily, for literally just being alive. And it makes me so sad, she deserves so much better
She sounds awsome she must be brave shes a literal role model if she became popular a lot of peopl would look up to her she sounds good I cwnt people people hate her if thoee pople go up to her nad insult her in public there just showing how much of a terrible person they are
when I was younger, I met a non-binary person at a park and I said to myself "woah, they're attractive" and a part of my brain whispered *what gender are they? and I was like "I...can't tell. but holy shit they're gorgeous". thats when I realized I was pansexual. (I talk to them and we hit if off. we've been together for five years.)
I'm similar. The exterior shell has little say in whether I fall in love or not. It doesn't matter to me if you are male, female, nonbinary, or whatever. If you as a person are a good person, well, sparks may fly.
@@pearlm1084 oh my god and it could follow her as a single black gay mother raising a child (she did adopt a baby right, or am I tripping?) 😭 Your mind 👌 Edit: this was supposed to be a reply to babyface not pearl lol
I can only speak as a cis woman here, but when she said she didn't almost go to her college graduation... that really touched me because neither did I. My body dysmorphia and self-esteem was so low because I felt so much pressure to look beautiful and feminine that day that I cried the whole night. The link I feel/see here is that though this feeling is rooted in different places for both of us, both of us had been negatively affected in that moment by what 'looking like the perfect woman' should look like. Sending love to her.
Body dismorphia? Literally every single girl ever, says they have body dismorphia. Y'all don't know the meaning of the word. It's actually very serious and dangerous, it not something you just "get" over. In the moment? No. Sorry to break it to you, but your pretty average and everyone has those issues. Yeah life sucks, shit happens
Thank you for sharing :) Your comment really struck a chord with me, I think finding connections like this is a really good way for people to connect and be sympathetic towards each other, even if they have different backgrounds :)
NGL, the older trans lady saying she lost her spouse because she's trans kinda made me cry a little. Like, that's one of the things I'm most afraid of in dating because I'm pre-everything right now. When I even hinted to my ex that I wasn't female, his reaction made me never want to do anything or tell anyone because I didn't want to deal with the pain of that. But I also know that I need to place my mental health over the feelings of other people, and that anyone worth keeping in my life will still care about me whether I look female (like I, sadly, do atm) or more male (which is what I hope for in the future). Life isn't easy for trans people, but we're just trying our best. I just hope that cis people are more understanding of trans people as time goes on.
tbh being trans is pretty big and you should tell them from the beginning. it builds a foundation of trust and gives them more time to think or accept it.
its terrifying but you deserve better than an ex who reacts like that. i used to struggle at dating and worried if i came out it would be the nail in the coffin, but the opposite happened. i found it easier to connect to the right people when i was finally being authentic and love was for the first time truly possible for me. good luck
I’m not Trans so comepletly correct me if I’m wrong, but from experience with the Trans people I know, tell the person you want to date early in the relationship in public, that way you know where they stand before you get your heart broken
@@frankiesinn7807 Some people don't realize they're trans until later in life; I had been with my partner for four years when I realized I'm non-binary. There were a lot of patterns that I ignored for two decades because I didn't want to face the fact that I might be trans. So, while the idea sounds nice enough, sadly it isn't possible for every trans person ever to tell their partner beforehand.
I agree with everyone here, when you start dating someone you need to be upfront about being trans at the beginning. This will hopefully save pain and hardship later on down the road. There are a community of trans people out there who only date other trans people, so that can be something to look into.
“Do all ____ think the same” is a series on Jubilee that shows how variable opinions can be among people in the same community. They don’t actually think all trans people think the same. Edit: this comment is for the people in the comments (who don’t know about jubilee), not for Samantha or the viewers who paid attention to her explanation in the beginning of this vid lol
Hey y'all. I'm genderfluid and here are my answers :) • Some children are aware of their gender, others aren't. I didn't even think about it when I was a kid. • I hate gender roles. I wish they wouldn't exist and I agree that they're harmful to everyone. • You don't have to do anything to be transgender. You don't have to come out, don't have to transition, don't have to change your style. You're valid regardless! • I've been very lucky when it comes to dating because I've been with my non-binary partner for a year now. ❤️ • Of course there are risks. I don't even wanna know how many trans people commit suicide, get assaulted etc. • My love for my body is fluid like my gender hahaha... I'm happy that I'm healthy most of the time though. • I often wish I was born as a straight man. I'd be pretty feminine still so I'd face other issues. Hence why I hate gender roles.
Happy to see someone with a similar experience here. This is why i hate when people say "Trans kids know" vs "trans kids can know" because i didn't know till i was 28 and a TERF was trying to convince me trans people are bad. When she showed me a definition of what transgender is, i immediately thought "Oh well that's definitely what i am." lol
"I hate gender roles." Well its hard for you I can imagine, but it just doesnt work without gender role, look at nature. We are nature and we are way more linked to that than people think. In general you may not like iit wheather you where born as a male or a female but this is how the world works.
my responses as a transmasc enby person: 1- kids know can know their gender: strongly agree 2- gender roles are necessary: disagree 3- surgery necessary to be trans: strongly disagree 4- dating: n/a 5- risks: strongly agree 6- i love my body: disagree, but it’s definitely better than, say, a year ago 7- wish i wasn’t trans: slightly agree b/c dysphoria sucks, but overall, i’m happy with and love who i am. 2/1 edits: 1- i am speaking for personal experience not generalizations. pls don’t misinterpret my answer for #7 and use it to gatekeep. 2- since the transphobes have found this comment, for each additional bigoted reply for now on, i am donating to the Marsha P Johnson institute. i encourage u all to play along at home!! (by donating, not by pretending to be a bigot in the replies so i donate more. i’d rather donate in ur name than have this cause ppl to spread more hate)
It’s so hard living with only brothers, like I get so fucking jealous of the life they live. I’m a closeted trans guy, but I just compare myself to them. And think, “my ankles aren’t like theirs. I want their hair, body, everything” just. Why can’t I be them. It’s so confusing and hard
I'm afab non-binary and I have 3 brothers :/ my heart goes out to you, it's rough, my guy Hang in there, stay true to yourself, you're no less of a man than they are!
Ivana Plavsic You’re actually right, if not a little harsh. But unfortunately, gender therapists are not something everybody can afford. :( And also, in order to get a gender therapist, you’d eventually have to come out as transgender, which is not safe for a lot of people to do.
These "gender roles" are hard even to us, cisgender people, if you don't fulfill the expectations of the society based on the gender you have you're basically an outsider. Obviously they're not even close to what transgender people go through.
For anyone who needs labels if you find yourself attracted to a non-binary person and another gender you could say you’re bi because then you are attracted to 2 or more gender identities. But of course you don’t need any labels but if you need them I hope this helps
Non-binary people are already included in every sexuality because you can’t tell if someone is non-binary just by looking at them. As a more femme presenting non-binary person if let’s say a lesbian woman or straight man was attracted to me, that doesn’t suddenly make them bisexual if they’re exclusively attracted to women but then find me attractive because I meet what they would deem attractive whether I’m a woman or not. Bisexual means you experience homosexual and heterosexual attraction (same genders and other genders which covers all genders.)
@@leahdragon I would respectfully disagree on your points as applicable to all or most NB people. How you conceptualize your sexuality and relationships is up to you, and should be something decided inside the relationship. But generally speaking if someone is actually in a relationship with an NB person where they experience attraction, that should factor into how they identify or think about their sexuality because when they know and conceptualize that person as NB, they are dating/attracted to a NB person, not what they might have seen prior to that knowledge.
I’m pretty sure that bi is only two genders (male, female), and pansexual (me, hello 🙋🏻♀️) is a person who is attractive to anyone regardless of their gender. So I guess if you are attracted to a non-binary person you’re pan EDIT: I was wrong about the definition of bisexual, I apologize if I made someone upset. It was not intentional in any way. And stop throwing the word biphobic at people please. And I guess I’m now bi (again) according to the comments... (?)
I'm a straight cis male so my opinion on this is completely irrelevant, just here to listen to trans people. You are all loved and valid, no matter what transphobes say!
I just wanted to say that you’re so gorgeous, but not just on the outside. You seen like a genuinely nice person who doesn’t just care about their own opinion. You really got through some of my gender dysphoria and stuff. I’m so grateful for you and your channel!!
Hello! I'm a trans guy and I agree with basically everything she's saying, but can't answer for the dating related things cause I don't date people. I just make friends and talk with people and maybe one day I might fall for one of them, but I'm chill with just vibing.
Same, I'm very flirty but I only desire to date people who inspire me a lot of trust, and that trust includes me being open about being non-binary and them being supportive, even if they don't fully understand at first I just couldn't date anyone without that trust and support
@ultraviolet Yeah, I've been suspecting I'm demiromantic for a while cause so far I've only had 1 crush which was my best friend, but I'm still not 100% certain.
@ultraviolet i know, I have demisexual friends but I ain't one I do feel sexual attraction and have had sex without that emotional connection, but that is different from wanting to date someone and have a relationship with them Even though I take sex lightly, I take dating very seriously Does that make sense? :s
@@bugtypeeevee random question here, I'm a transmasc, and I have been considering myself demisexual. I always end up falling for tv characters, it takes time to develop and funnily enough, at first I'm like "ew I hate them" but as their character develops I usually end up crushing hard. I think the only reason that hasn't happened to me irl yet is that I never go out of my way to meet people and have only seen the same 6 friends for over a year now, no other people. I think with tv shows I know I won't meet them either so I let my guard down when I'm watching rather than worrying what they think of me. Do you get that with shows too? I'm not sure if it's a demi problem or a me problem lol
the last one made me cry, because it sums up my experience as an lgbt+ person. of course it‘s hard, and life is way easier when you fit into heteronormative cisnormative societal standards. but i wouldn’t be who i am today if i didn’t go through these struggles and i love who i am and i‘m proud of who i am. i‘m proud to be bi. and i hope every lgbt+ person reading this can be proud of who they are no matter or maybe because of how hard it is sometimes ❤️
I never understood (and still don't understand) why anyone would care at all what someone else does to their body or how they live their life. What business is it of them? It causes no harm, so why care? My best guess is maybe the buttholes are unhappy themselves and instead of coming to terms with that, they try to make other people unhappy so that they feel better themselves.
Omg. Literally, every other girl says their bi, stop pretending your a struggling minority. No-one discriminates against a girl for being sexual with women if anything it's loved
honestly, there have been a lot of times where i wish i weren't nonbinary. i constantly doubt whether my existence is logically valid, and i struggle to constantly explain my gender identity to people. but when i try to go back to my assigned gender, i end up with really bad dysphoria, so i know i'm definitely not cisgender.
Hi, just dropping in to say I see you. And you’re absolutely valid. Nonbinary people have existed for centuries. A lot of cultures recognised more than two genders but those got lost during colonisation. I know it’s been a year and a lot can have happened since you wrote that comment but I just wanted you to know that your identity and existence is very logical and valid. You are seen. Have a great day my friend.
I’m Demigirl and pan and u rlly inspire me to not be afraid to be who I am 🥺 Edit: THIS IS THE MOST LIKES IVE EVER GOTTEN TYSM 2 edit: 1K LIKES OMG TYYYYY 😭😭😭
@@cactushotsauce362 Please correct me if im wrong Agender means someone who does not identify as either man or woman right? Not to be offensive im just trying to learn
About labels and being attracted to non-binary people, or anyone that's out of what you'd normally like: labels doesn't matter. You may use whichever feels good. If you identify as a gay girl, but you find yourself attracted to NBs, that's totally valid. Labels exist to make people comfortable. Use whatever makes you feel yourself.
but also ask your partner, if someone is amab and you say your a straight woman while dating them, that implies theyre a man. some non binary people might be ok with different things, gender is a spectrum.
@@alexfromnow5326 I think it's just that people who are straight or gay are also attracted to nbies, and their not sure if they should take up a whole new label.
No more labels lol, there are already too many already. Oh how I wish we lived in a world where they weren't needed. Just me loving you kinda thing. I've always felt more attracted to women as a woman, but I know that under the right circumstances I could probably love a man although I don't find them sexually attractive. I don't want to have to find another label for myself but people would probably say "I thought you were a lesbian." Don't care for them.
I expect some disagreements. Trans people aren't some Hive Mind all living to serve queen Samantha Lux (as much as I would love that) Truthfully though. I love being trans. I have to hide it from 1 person in my life, but everyone else in my life accepts me for who I am and I'm sure that as I explore more of my identity, I can find out more about myself and be much more comfortable.
@@monicaa2176 they said to one person, I hide my identity from family that dosent see me and dont need to know, I wanna tell them eventually but im scared to just like this person probably is.
As a nb person, that last response from the trans woman saying how the struggled she went through made her who she was and how she loves being a part of the lgbt community, it made me sob
7:21 if a straight person were to like a nb person, they can still consider themselves straight (if they prefer). people get confused around this specific topic, i have in the past as well, but it’s really about realizing you don’t have to always follow exactly what your sexuality defines you as. love is love 💞💞
I’m pretty sure it’s called pansexual (me hello🙋🏻♀️), meaning that you are attracted to anyone regardless of their gender. but again, it’s for anyone to decide how they want to call themselves.
@@olikudron7671 Yeah but I'd you are attracted to 1 gender and then happen to get attracted to a non binary that might be representing in that gender? I don't think that would make you pan
@@olikudron7671 well i don’t really think it’s being pansexual? because you said that it’s being attracted to anyone regardless of gender,but what for example a guy who only dates girls and enbys but just not guys?
This is so good from the conversation point of view, you're putting topics from your perspective without trying to impose it, I value the effort of discourse from you. Props to this type of channels.
Your response to “dating is hard for me being trans” was so spot on. Like I love to keep people educated, but at the same time I’m like damn can I just be myself for a sec??
Damn, the algorithm has treated you well during the last couple of months, and I can't say you don't deserve it. Beautiful and based, as a queen should be.
Sometimes I forget that I as a cis person am the outlier in your audience but I'm so glad I found your channel! You're helping me be a better ally and I appreciate it!
"Sometimes I wish I wasn't transgender" Do they mean that you wish you had been born with the gender you currently identify with or you wish you identified as the biological sex of your birth?
It's a question that can be taken different ways. Due to that, it has no clear concise answer. One way it can be taken is that you wish you were born the gender you feel inside. Another way is you wish you didn't have this gender dysphoria to begin with. Another darker way is you wish you were dead because the world is a harsh place for trans people. My take on the whole matter is: things have improved, but much improvement needs to be done and that it is what it is. If you are born a male but feel like a female, well, do what makes you happy. If other people don't like it, they can stew in their own hatred. I personally believe more gay and trans people need to be armed and willing to defend themselves to whatever extent is needed.
For me personally: I would be fine either way, i just don't want to live the hell that is being Transgender and having gender dysphoria. I really truly wish i could be happy as a woman, but i cannot be because of dysphoria, when i was living as a girl and saw no hope for transition i wanted to kill myself so badly, now i am more than half a year into my transition, life is still hard but i am much happier. With that wish to be comfortable with my birth sex, i of course also wish i could've just born been a man, it would make things easier. So for me: Just make me cis in anyway
It could go either way depending on opinion. The basis is just not hating yourself every single waking moment. Not that all trans ppl do but the ppl who would agree with the statement probably do to some degree. being trans can rly rly suck sometimes
I love how this place took people who were at varying stages of their transition and not just those who have fully transitioned yet. It's beautiful seeing all the stages of becoming yourself and looking at the ones who haven't yet reached their goal and thinking "They will be happy with themselves someday very soon, and I'm happy for them"
Also my uncle is a trans male (transitioned to male, some people say it differently) He only got top surgery and kept his bottomsies. So I don't think it's necessary to have surgery Only get it if you want to.
People don't seem to understand that some people are just afraid or can't have surgery because of certain medical conditions, and people still don't seem to understand that trans people who didn't have surgeries are still trans.
@@sneko2860 This cultural war is so stupid. If both sides would come together and hear each other more often, things would be much better in the society. I’m not American, but what I’m seeing now in the USA is a never ending division. And unfortunately even LGBT (let’s say as an organization) encourages this form of segregation because it seeks to fight against the discrimination faced by LGBT people. (I just don’t think that this is the way forward) Look at what happens in Poland with the “LGBT free zones” and then even in my country, Romania..people are scared to speak up cause they’d be automatically called by many people: socialists, communists..all these bs terms even tho LGBT people are as diverse in their views as basically every other demographic out there. There is this fear inserted in the LGBT people in Romania even tho I just don’t think that the society would react that bad on the streets. If more people would come out as show the world that we’re just as kind as the others, people wouldn’t have such a bad view on us.
I hope you guys will get my point. Yes, there is tons of discrimination out there but let’s talk and find out what’s the best way to move forward. Otherwise we’ll continue living in the same misery.
Im not trans but i feel good watching your videos your confidence and self love is fascinating to me, not as a cis women to trans women but as a person to a person you inspire me, make me think I can someday love myself as you do
I would LOVE to see you do a deep dive video on a specific topic. I feel you're really good at pointing core arguments and making contrapoints, and a deep dive would be super enjoyable.
This was so sweet to watch ❤️ I’m cis so I don’t understand what it’s like to go through gender dysphoria but I have body dysmoprhia and it was really encouraging to hear that you had the same interaction with your therapist that I have had because it gives me hope that I might also love my body one day too
My answers (genderfluid transmasculine): 1: Kids can know their gender: Strongly agree 2: Gender roles are necessary: Strongly disagree 3: Surgery is necessary to be trans: Strongly (++++) disagree 4: Dating is hard: Slightly agree 5: Being trans is a risk: Agree 6: I love my body: Agree (I used to hate it way more in high school, but now that I'm sexually active and have a very understanding partner, it has changed my opinion of myself, periods still suck ass though) 7: I wish I wasn't trans: Strongly agree (I love myself the way I am, but I often wish I was just born male or would identify as a woman right now)
I'm trans and as a kid I had no concept of gender whatsoever... *shrugs* I was taught and grew used to use certain pronouns, bathrooms, etc etc, and didn't question it. I discovered the existence of trans people at almost 20 and didn't quite grasp it. And then I understood I was trans myself a few years later.
1. Can kids know their gender identity?: I agree with this; possibly even strongly. I've had my moments when I was 6 that I very much wanted to be like my female classmates. 2. Are gender roles necessary?: I am neutral on this. I hate the idea of being forced with male gender roles by my family and friends, but its necessary for me to understand that I very much want to be a woman. 3. Are surgeries necessary to be transgender?: Strongly disagree. 4. Is dating hard?: Strongly agree with this. Its mostly to do with me. I know I would not have any difficulty actually finding someone, but its the feeling of guilt having to "lie" to them about my gender. I want to be honest, but its such a difficult process. 5. Risks?: Strongly agree that I just can't. Being a trans woman and a person of colour is nothing but a large target on my back. 6. Do I love my body?: Just a disagree. Even though I haven't had the chance to transition, I've made efforts to make my body as feminine as I could. Yes. I still appear male and I very much hate it. 7. Do I wish I wasn't trans?: Slightly disagree. If it wasn't for the feelings that I've experienced I never would have had a close friend on a personal level. Someone who knows that I'm trans and that I very much need her support. Of course, there are moments where I wish I could just be happy being a guy, but I just can't. I don't like it. I want to be a woman and I'll accept being trans if it's what I must do.
@@dat2ra she likes fit women, not straight men. i know your ego cant handle someone not being attracted to you, awww wittle bwaby. also she was born a woman. her gender has always been female, her body was just slacking. even if she wasnt a lesbian she wouldnt like you anyway hun. have a think about why.
@@roman-fo2sk born male, realized she’s a woman, she’s now a woman that loves other women. If you happen to not be trolling, then i hope you do more research, but if you are, get that transphobic stuff outta here.
I lost a career in teaching because one principal decided he did not want a trans person teaching on his campus. I was unable to complete my student teaching because of him, and unless I move to a whole new area, I have no real options for student teaching elsewhere. (Student teaching is unpaid by the way.) So, with no other options, I was forced to pivot and begin searching for a new career, and I have limited options due to age and cost of education to get me to where I was stopped. Being trans is very dangerous, and hard. This happened this year, and I pretty much cry every day over it. It is getting better, but like... yeah...
5:00 The prompts given by Jubilee aren't all well-formed questions, but more meant to provoke discussion so the participants can share their own views. (I always end up overthinking and needing to question questions because I want to be as specific in addressing it as I can)
Some great questions I didn't think about or was too afraid to answer. Great video! Just started my transition at 34 and I'm freaking terrified, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm so tired of pretending. Being in any way divergent from the culturally accepted "norm" has always been a nightmare, and, even if the progress is messy and chaotic, all this educating and experimenting is absolutely necessary if we want to improve how we live our lives and how we progress as a civilization. Keep up the good work, you got this!
(Firstly: Can Samantha do makeup tutorials daily please please please she is excellent) This was a good idea because a lot of people view trans people as a monolith or as two factions, when they are just people like everyone else. Jubilee is usually cringe but watching Samantha react to it is so much better.
1. Strongly agree. I realized I wasn’t just a girl when I was around 12 years old same with all of my trans/nonbinary friends! 2. The middle. I can’t really say because at my age gender roles haven’t really been introduced/used, but I think that it did help me find myself. 3. Strongly disagree. It is necessary to be transsexual, but no it’s not necessary to be transgender. I for one do not want sex reassignment surgery, but that doesn’t make me any less trans. 4. Strongly agree. For me since my pronouns are very confusing (he/she/they interchangeable) it makes all of my relationships hard, even with my parents. Luckily my current girlfriend has known me throughout my coming out and said she would still love me the same regardless of my gender (she is bisexual btw). 5. Strongly agree. Being transgender/nonbinary has made my life significantly more difficult, the risks of being bullied and the risks of the surgeries that I want to have one day are there, but like the people in the video they are most definitely risks I’m willing to take. 6. Slightly disagree. I have always had self esteem issues, but recently my dysphoria has been acting up so much. My mom won’t let me get a binder and that really affects me and my mental health. That said, there are times when I feel so confident in my body, times when I dance like nobody’s watching. 7. Strongly agree. There are most definitely times that I wish I wasn’t demiflux because god sometimes getting misgendered really really gets to me and I guess I just wish I was okay being a girl and just that because then I wouldn’t have changed my name and had 100s of arguments with my parents when they misgender me and dead name me and even if I wasn’t trans/nonbinary I’d still be lgbtq+ because I’m pansexual. But I still love who I am and I think that I’d much rather go through this struggle then lose that huge piece of my identity.
That question of “sometimes I hate being trans” hit me so hard Cuz like I’m a trans man and it’s so scary to go to work since I’m out there, but if my transphobic parents or some of my family came in, I’d just be scared. Not to mention I have some pretty severe dysphoria and haven’t even been able to transition yet despite being 20 It’s a hard life and I’ll have complete breakdowns over things as simple as not having a beard, or my voice being too high. I can’t even sing confidently cuz of my voice. I get so many moments where I say I wish I was never trans. I wish I was cis. I wish I could be happy female. It’s a hard life. I’m just a nobody on the internet, an artist with maybe 100-200 followers on all my platforms. And even at that I’ve received hate comments from TERFs. The fact that some people are so transphobic they’ll attack people who don’t even have a following is... hard. And I’m one of the lucky few that does have a supportive boyfriend and friends and a supportive brother. Stay strong everyone. You’re wonderful and beautiful no matter where you’re at in your transition. 💜
Trans woman here. There's just so many things wrong with society at times that I learned to distrust everyone I see at first, instead of the opposite. I also have a supportive BF and a few other friends both irl and online. I just hope I can start my transition because I can't live like this. I'm constantly under pressure when it comes to being told what to do and I hate it.
I'm not trans, but I'm also not cis I guess. I mean I was born as a girl and most of the time I am happy with that but sometimes I'm like "no today I'm a boy" so I guess I'm genderfluid (I don't if I write it right 😂)
Btw you don't need to figure out everything in a certain time, make sure you focus on yourself and your identity. It's not necessary to know right away, it's a process! ❤️❤️
@@NinaDidnothingwrong it depends on the individual. Some enby people identify as trans and some don't. I'm enby and personally don't, but either way is perfectly valid.
@@NinaDidnothingwrong being trans means you don’t really identify as you birth gender (demigender counts since they don’t entirely fit in those boxes like the default). enbies aren’t cis, and apparently since we aren’t trans either then wtf are we?
Thank you for your videos, Samantha! Listening to you and being exposed more to the LGBTQ+ community, I've found that my empathy, compassion, and love for the trans community especially has grown so much. I'm a straight, white cis-woman who is also Christian, and in the past I focused mainly on racial and class justice and feminism, but now in my life I am definitely focusing a lot more on being an ally to and supporting the LGBTQ+ community as well
Trans-guy here. Here are my answers. 1. Slightly agree. Some children know, while others do not. Let them express themselves the best they can. As they get older, help the down which ever path they need to take. 2. Disagree. People can do what they want and look how they want. The gendered roles aren’t necessary. 3. Strongly disagree. Up to the individual what they want and need. For me, it’s important to have some reassignment surgery, but not all of it. 4. Neutral. Not looking for anyone, but has been hard when I did. 5. Strongly agree. Lots of negatives, though it is worth it for many. 6. Strongly agree. Both mental and physical risks. 7. Strongly disagree. Have yet to had physical changes from hormones. Only thing I like are my irises. Not the whole eye, just the colour. 8. Agree. Would have been nice not to have thought or deal with. Thankful of the support I have. And proud of my friends! Working on being proud of myself…
Im trans, and am pretty self conscious. Grew up in very VERY very very very christian household to the point where the idea of "Jesus" wasnt love, but control. Im currently in the Air Force, and am praying for my hopes and dreams to physically appear as a woman someday but in the meantime i trust and hope that love is with me. Oh mah gawd samantha i thank God for you. You share a lot of strength and hope for me.
Star, my last gf was run out of the USAF for transitioning M2F. She's gorgeous now. Misses her airplanes but is enjoying the fruits of womanhood. Best to you!
If you weren't forced to go to the airforce to "man you up" then you can still transition to be a woman when you have the chance, a woman who kicks ass in the airforce
What a wonderful first video of yours to encounter, wow. I vibed with every answer you gave (I’m nb transmasc), and it always means a lot to see another trans person who is proud and full of defiant self love. Being trans is hard and scary, but it’s also so beautiful and important. I’m glad we’re here- I’m proud of us
"Everybody was nice to each other". That's the difference between interacting with people online and actually meet them face to face. Some people are dicks in real life too, but most of them act differently because we are a social species after all.
hii!! im a demiboy and these r my opinions: • yes!! kids can absolutely know, i knew i didnt want to be a girl when i was 4. • nope, gender roles are not necessary whatsoever. as she said we would be fine without them. • they are not necessary at all, if you want them im happy for you!! you can do what you want, but if you don’t youre still perfectly valid and dont need to get the surgery. • yes, many risks. it can be dangerous in public, online, for your health, mental health, even going to school or going to walmart. • yup!! i love my body despite it not exactly fitting what i would like it to be its still beautiful and i would not get rid of it whatsoever. but this is not the same for everyone, if some people want surgery or anything done to their body thats still valid, its not my body its theirs. •yes yes yes!! i do sometimes wish i were cis. the dysphoria, the misgendering, the dead-naming is horrible.
Thank you for being here and being such a bright voice. As a cis person, I first stumbled upon Blair White on here and followed her for a while. I didn't know what to think of her and in hindsight, that gutfeeling was right. Thank you for giving such a great insight in what it is really like being trans, and the difficulties you face everyday. And goshdang you are gorgeous, by the way!
Non-binary person here :) (they/them, my name is ronnie) and here’s my answer to these questions !! 1. Are children capable of knowing their gender identities? i think that children are fully capable of knowing their identities. i agree with gina that we shouldn’t necessarily immediately jump to things like gender reassignment surgery or anything but i also don’t think there’s harm in anything like letting them take hormone blockers or respecting any name change or pronoun change. i personally never really loved being referred to as my assigned sex at birth but i didn’t really understand the reason behind it. i’ve always been very feminine and so people always just kind of assume what i identify as and i always had a form of internalized transphobia telling me that i couldn’t be non-binary because of the way i presented 2. Are gender roles necessary? in my opinion, not at all. gender roles themselves are what roles are forced onto people based on their gender (or in often cases sex) Denounce gender roles, respect gender identity. you have have masculine trans women and feminine trans men or anything in between, it’s all about self expression, not what others place upon you to determine what makes you worthy as a man/woman/ or anything else 3. Is gender reaffirming surgery necessary to be trans? not at all ! especially as a non-binary person there is no “one way” to identify or express my identity. There’s the option of top surgery but i don’t even want that. some people don’t have body dysphoria and some people don’t even really have dysphoria much at all compared to our her people. gender reaffirming surgery is a way to help you feel more comfortable in your body but it is not necessary for you to be a trans person. anyone no matter what body can be trans. 4. Is dating difficult for me? Not really for me as much, i think a lot of people see me as a diet version of the sex i was assigned at birth but as a trans person i’ve still been quite lucky in the dating pool. granted most of the people i’ve dated were before i came out but honestly the person i’m dating right now is incredible and lovely and has no issue with me being trans at all. she’s super supportive of me and my pronouns and my name change even though she’s known me for way longer than i’ve identified as non-binary. 5. Is it dangerous to be trans? strongly agree, as a person who passes as a cis person there’s a level of fear i have coming out to people every day. i have people misgendered me on a daily basis and i have to assess the situation on whether or not it’s safe for me to inform them that i don’t actually align with the gender i look like. not only that but i’m the gsa president at my school (i live in a very conservative state) and the amount of times i’ve been attacked or bullied for just identifying the way i do, is ridiculous. 6. Do i love my body? yes and no. i love my body and i think i’m very attractive, there are parts of it i don’t like and parts of it make me super uncomfortable but that’s generally my body dysmorphia. it’s more the way other people view me and my body that bother me rather than how i view myself. 7. Do i wish i wasn’t trans? yes and no. i think it would be so much easier if i wasn’t trans, i wouldn’t have to worry about my safety all the time or argue with my family about my pronouns but at the same time it’s changed who i am a lot and i honestly love the person i’m becoming, it’s just hard. anyways if anyone else has any questions or wants to talk my ig is @/ hellb.oy_ :)
Just a side note: if you watch the full Jubilee video, the older lady is fucking amazing and I love that she gives a voice to the older trans generation.
When her "comfy clothes" look more stylish than your "uncomfy clothes" lmao
accessorizing helps :-)
O o f- yes-
I was just thinking that
Ive been told I need more style lol
(c" ತ,_ತ) same
one of my close friends, shes trans, black, a very religious woman and gay. She always says ”im the experiment of society” and laughs. But i acknowledge she goes through hell daily, for literally just being alive. And it makes me so sad, she deserves so much better
yooo she's a living goddess ngl idk who she is but she seems awesome 🥺
She does
She sounds awsome she must be brave shes a literal role model if she became popular a lot of peopl would look up to her she sounds good I cwnt people people hate her if thoee pople go up to her nad insult her in public there just showing how much of a terrible person they are
So wait she's trans and Gay?
Soo basically a straight male?
@@washmapoosie8589 No she would be a Lesbian
when I was younger, I met a non-binary person at a park and I said to myself "woah, they're attractive" and a part of my brain whispered *what gender are they? and I was like "I...can't tell. but holy shit they're gorgeous".
thats when I realized I was pansexual. (I talk to them and we hit if off. we've been together for five years.)
That is the sweetest thing I’ve ever heard. Congrats!!
Omg that’s so inexplicably wholesome
Wholesome af So happy for you!!!
I'm similar. The exterior shell has little say in whether I fall in love or not. It doesn't matter to me if you are male, female, nonbinary, or whatever. If you as a person are a good person, well, sparks may fly.
That so cute🥰
Its like every time we see her she gets more glamorous
✨YESSSSS✨
So it isn't just me then 😂😭
she’s insanely gorgeous
She lowkey looks like the ice princess form shark boy and lava girl, so glamorous ☺️
EXACTLY
i’m dating a non-binary person, we decided to say we’re “gayish”
I mean, that's also true tho! It ain't wrong XD
I love this lmao
straightn’t
Another spin off to blackish? But Dre's sister is main character?
@@pearlm1084 oh my god and it could follow her as a single black gay mother raising a child (she did adopt a baby right, or am I tripping?) 😭 Your mind 👌
Edit: this was supposed to be a reply to babyface not pearl lol
I can only speak as a cis woman here, but when she said she didn't almost go to her college graduation... that really touched me because neither did I. My body dysmorphia and self-esteem was so low because I felt so much pressure to look beautiful and feminine that day that I cried the whole night. The link I feel/see here is that though this feeling is rooted in different places for both of us, both of us had been negatively affected in that moment by what 'looking like the perfect woman' should look like. Sending love to her.
Body dismorphia? Literally every single girl ever, says they have body dismorphia. Y'all don't know the meaning of the word. It's actually very serious and dangerous, it not something you just "get" over. In the moment? No. Sorry to break it to you, but your pretty average and everyone has those issues. Yeah life sucks, shit happens
Thank you for sharing :) Your comment really struck a chord with me, I think finding connections like this is a really good way for people to connect and be sympathetic towards each other, even if they have different backgrounds :)
That’s like saying “experiencing depression is not a real thing” just cuz someone has not been diagnosed. Eg: u dumb.
@@Aaron-is8yt think you're mixing up dysphoria dude. calm down
@@Aaron-is8yt wow it's amazing! whether you're right or wrong you're still an asshole! truly incredible
NGL, the older trans lady saying she lost her spouse because she's trans kinda made me cry a little. Like, that's one of the things I'm most afraid of in dating because I'm pre-everything right now. When I even hinted to my ex that I wasn't female, his reaction made me never want to do anything or tell anyone because I didn't want to deal with the pain of that. But I also know that I need to place my mental health over the feelings of other people, and that anyone worth keeping in my life will still care about me whether I look female (like I, sadly, do atm) or more male (which is what I hope for in the future). Life isn't easy for trans people, but we're just trying our best. I just hope that cis people are more understanding of trans people as time goes on.
tbh being trans is pretty big and you should tell them from the beginning. it builds a foundation of trust and gives them more time to think or accept it.
its terrifying but you deserve better than an ex who reacts like that. i used to struggle at dating and worried if i came out it would be the nail in the coffin, but the opposite happened. i found it easier to connect to the right people when i was finally being authentic and love was for the first time truly possible for me. good luck
I’m not Trans so comepletly correct me if I’m wrong, but from experience with the Trans people I know, tell the person you want to date early in the relationship in public, that way you know where they stand before you get your heart broken
@@frankiesinn7807 Some people don't realize they're trans until later in life; I had been with my partner for four years when I realized I'm non-binary. There were a lot of patterns that I ignored for two decades because I didn't want to face the fact that I might be trans. So, while the idea sounds nice enough, sadly it isn't possible for every trans person ever to tell their partner beforehand.
I agree with everyone here, when you start dating someone you need to be upfront about being trans at the beginning. This will hopefully save pain and hardship later on down the road.
There are a community of trans people out there who only date other trans people, so that can be something to look into.
“Do all ____ think the same” is a series on Jubilee that shows how variable opinions can be among people in the same community. They don’t actually think all trans people think the same.
Edit: this comment is for the people in the comments (who don’t know about jubilee), not for Samantha or the viewers who paid attention to her explanation in the beginning of this vid lol
lol she knows that i think she explained it was a series in the video
Yea she explained it lol aim your pre-emptive anger elsewhere xD
@@AsuraNull huh?
@@AsuraNull they were just explaining to people who maybe didn't understand. you're the only person who's being negative...
she literally says that in the first couple minutes
Hey y'all. I'm genderfluid and here are my answers :)
• Some children are aware of their gender, others aren't. I didn't even think about it when I was a kid.
• I hate gender roles. I wish they wouldn't exist and I agree that they're harmful to everyone.
• You don't have to do anything to be transgender. You don't have to come out, don't have to transition, don't have to change your style. You're valid regardless!
• I've been very lucky when it comes to dating because I've been with my non-binary partner for a year now. ❤️
• Of course there are risks. I don't even wanna know how many trans people commit suicide, get assaulted etc.
• My love for my body is fluid like my gender hahaha... I'm happy that I'm healthy most of the time though.
• I often wish I was born as a straight man. I'd be pretty feminine still so I'd face other issues. Hence why I hate gender roles.
I'm also Genderfluid and I agree with everything you've said, stay strong :)))
Totally agree!
I don’t even know you, but I like you. And your partner
Happy to see someone with a similar experience here. This is why i hate when people say "Trans kids know" vs "trans kids can know" because i didn't know till i was 28 and a TERF was trying to convince me trans people are bad. When she showed me a definition of what transgender is, i immediately thought "Oh well that's definitely what i am." lol
"I hate gender roles." Well its hard for you I can imagine, but it just doesnt work without gender role, look at nature. We are nature and we are way more linked to that than people think. In general you may not like iit wheather you where born as a male or a female but this is how the world works.
can we all agree that she is one of the prettiest girls on youtube
yessss
Yes
Most definitely
NO NO NO NO MOSHAHAHAJFJFJISNAJWJ
Yessss. Shes the reason I'm gay 🤣
my responses as a transmasc enby person:
1- kids know can know their gender: strongly agree
2- gender roles are necessary: disagree
3- surgery necessary to be trans: strongly disagree
4- dating: n/a
5- risks: strongly agree
6- i love my body: disagree, but it’s definitely better than, say, a year ago
7- wish i wasn’t trans: slightly agree b/c dysphoria sucks, but overall, i’m happy with and love who i am.
2/1 edits:
1- i am speaking for personal experience not generalizations. pls don’t misinterpret my answer for #7 and use it to gatekeep.
2- since the transphobes have found this comment, for each additional bigoted reply for now on, i am donating to the Marsha P Johnson institute. i encourage u all to play along at home!! (by donating, not by pretending to be a bigot in the replies so i donate more. i’d rather donate in ur name than have this cause ppl to spread more hate)
💕💕💕💕💕💕
i pretty much agree with this.
@Idk_Reveluv🙌🏻
I’m a trans woman, and I largely agree with you on these.
So basically
I like ur face it looks nice
It’s so hard living with only brothers, like I get so fucking jealous of the life they live. I’m a closeted trans guy, but I just compare myself to them. And think, “my ankles aren’t like theirs. I want their hair, body, everything” just. Why can’t I be them. It’s so confusing and hard
I'm afab non-binary and I have 3 brothers :/ my heart goes out to you, it's rough, my guy
Hang in there, stay true to yourself, you're no less of a man than they are!
@@InnocentNoodle thanks you bud :3 it helps a lot
Get therapy, dummy.
Ivana Plavsic You’re actually right, if not a little harsh. But unfortunately, gender therapists are not something everybody can afford. :( And also, in order to get a gender therapist, you’d eventually have to come out as transgender, which is not safe for a lot of people to do.
@@fabplays6559 Pfft, "gender therapist". Just go to a normal psychologist, talk your shit out. Can't hurt.
Samantha's comfy clothes are more fashionable than my most fashionable piece of clothing I own myself hahahah
Lmao!!! That's my thoughts exactly! My comfy clothes is an old bodysuit and $15 oversized men's sweats from Walmart 😂
@@DeeKate 😂😂
She can literally pull of any outfit
fun fact: an nb partner is a joyfriend
I LOVE THAT
waitwaitwaitwait...that's adorable
adorable,,, another one i like is datemate
AWWW
@@emlem8420
Enbyfriend is a cool term too ^^
if only trans people could like switch bodies with each other, that would make life so much easier
Just imagine.... what a dream.
Imagine if trans girls could switch with a trans boys... What a dream...
DUDE WHEN MY MUM WAS EXPLAIN WHAT TRANSGENDER WAS I THOUGHT THEY HAD SURGERIES TO IMPLANT THEIR BRAIN INTO ANOTHER TRANS PERSON'S BODY -
@@thepotatopuffin Noooo 🥲
oh my god that would be perfect
These "gender roles" are hard even to us, cisgender people, if you don't fulfill the expectations of the society based on the gender you have you're basically an outsider. Obviously they're not even close to what transgender people go through.
What's a cisgender? Srry im dumb
@@gabbiehannahsmentalbreakdo3887 the opposite os transgender: cisgender is a person who agrees with the gender designated at birth
@@EzequielNascimento ty♥♥♥
@@gabbiehannahsmentalbreakdo3887 don't call yourself dumb you're just uneducated that doesn't necessarily make you stupid ;)
@@gabbiehannahsmentalbreakdo3887 yeah, if you're trying to learn, never call yourself dumb ^^
For anyone who needs labels if you find yourself attracted to a non-binary person and another gender you could say you’re bi because then you are attracted to 2 or more gender identities. But of course you don’t need any labels but if you need them I hope this helps
Non-binary people are already included in every sexuality because you can’t tell if someone is non-binary just by looking at them. As a more femme presenting non-binary person if let’s say a lesbian woman or straight man was attracted to me, that doesn’t suddenly make them bisexual if they’re exclusively attracted to women but then find me attractive because I meet what they would deem attractive whether I’m a woman or not.
Bisexual means you experience homosexual and heterosexual attraction (same genders and other genders which covers all genders.)
@@leahdragon i love how you explained that!
@@leahdragon I would respectfully disagree on your points as applicable to all or most NB people. How you conceptualize your sexuality and relationships is up to you, and should be something decided inside the relationship. But generally speaking if someone is actually in a relationship with an NB person where they experience attraction, that should factor into how they identify or think about their sexuality because when they know and conceptualize that person as NB, they are dating/attracted to a NB person, not what they might have seen prior to that knowledge.
I’m pretty sure that bi is only two genders (male, female), and pansexual (me, hello 🙋🏻♀️) is a person who is attractive to anyone regardless of their gender. So I guess if you are attracted to a non-binary person you’re pan
EDIT: I was wrong about the definition of bisexual, I apologize if I made someone upset. It was not intentional in any way. And stop throwing the word biphobic at people please. And I guess I’m now bi (again) according to the comments... (?)
It's pansexual my dude
I'm a straight cis male so my opinion on this is completely irrelevant, just here to listen to trans people.
You are all loved and valid, no matter what transphobes say!
now this is the type of people we need
Your opinion is pretty much relevant and needed, we need more straight cis ppl like u!
You have earned the stan award from me
That’s sweet
Same here.
The wii music in the background gets me
I didn’t even realise i until I read your comment😂
I always like listening to the background music of videos, but I didn’t catch the wii music the first time I watched this one.
@@liahamilton8931 😂à😂😂àa😂😂
@@BB-TheCandleFairy aaààa😂àaaaaàààa
lil gideon and appreciating the wii music, i like u kate 06
The woman in the white shirt and beige coat seems very inclusive and kind 💕
🤔maybe it's just the beige coat though😂
@@sebastianm6695 😂😂😂
All I want as a trans female.. is to be treated like a cis female.. and not any different
@Berri Berri agree.
i feel like the only way people are ever gonna stop treating other genders differently is if we abolish gender completely lmao
@dab or die trying aww ty
So you want your rights infringed on by crossdressing men invading your spaces? Probably not.
@@GretaZ-dd3lu how are anyone's rights being infringed and who's invading anyone's spaces?
OMG I GOT A PRO-TRANS AD ON THIS VIDEO
PERIODT 🔥
THAT'S AMAZING OMG I've never seen one of those before ;(
Omg same!!!
I got an ad for cock cream
@@fyoutube2294 oh uh wow
First jubilee video where I don’t find at least one person incredibly annoying
same lmaooo
Until you find out the older woman is a trump supporter :(
I was certain they were going to drag one transmedicalist out for drama knowing jubilee
That’s not really vegan 😂
That jubilee video TRIGGERS me.
@@daphnesullivan2107 "Trans for me, but not for thee."
I just wanted to say that you’re so gorgeous, but not just on the outside. You seen like a genuinely nice person who doesn’t just care about their own opinion. You really got through some of my gender dysphoria and stuff. I’m so grateful for you and your channel!!
I hope she sees this
Hello! I'm a trans guy and I agree with basically everything she's saying, but can't answer for the dating related things cause I don't date people. I just make friends and talk with people and maybe one day I might fall for one of them, but I'm chill with just vibing.
Same, I'm very flirty but I only desire to date people who inspire me a lot of trust, and that trust includes me being open about being non-binary and them being supportive, even if they don't fully understand at first
I just couldn't date anyone without that trust and support
@ultraviolet Yeah, I've been suspecting I'm demiromantic for a while cause so far I've only had 1 crush which was my best friend, but I'm still not 100% certain.
@ultraviolet i know, I have demisexual friends but I ain't one
I do feel sexual attraction and have had sex without that emotional connection, but that is different from wanting to date someone and have a relationship with them
Even though I take sex lightly, I take dating very seriously
Does that make sense? :s
@ultraviolet no, I'm a hopeless romantic
I just like my relationships to last very long so I take time building those bonds
@@bugtypeeevee random question here, I'm a transmasc, and I have been considering myself demisexual. I always end up falling for tv characters, it takes time to develop and funnily enough, at first I'm like "ew I hate them" but as their character develops I usually end up crushing hard. I think the only reason that hasn't happened to me irl yet is that I never go out of my way to meet people and have only seen the same 6 friends for over a year now, no other people. I think with tv shows I know I won't meet them either so I let my guard down when I'm watching rather than worrying what they think of me. Do you get that with shows too? I'm not sure if it's a demi problem or a me problem lol
the last one made me cry, because it sums up my experience as an lgbt+ person.
of course it‘s hard, and life is way easier when you fit into heteronormative cisnormative societal standards.
but i wouldn’t be who i am today if i didn’t go through these struggles and i love who i am and i‘m proud of who i am.
i‘m proud to be bi.
and i hope every lgbt+ person reading this can be proud of who they are no matter or maybe because of how hard it is sometimes ❤️
I never understood (and still don't understand) why anyone would care at all what someone else does to their body or how they live their life. What business is it of them? It causes no harm, so why care? My best guess is maybe the buttholes are unhappy themselves and instead of coming to terms with that, they try to make other people unhappy so that they feel better themselves.
oh hell yeah i love this awesome community that i get to be part of! just now if only ppl would stop hating us we'd be cool :)
Omg. Literally, every other girl says their bi, stop pretending your a struggling minority. No-one discriminates against a girl for being sexual with women if anything it's loved
honestly, there have been a lot of times where i wish i weren't nonbinary. i constantly doubt whether my existence is logically valid, and i struggle to constantly explain my gender identity to people. but when i try to go back to my assigned gender, i end up with really bad dysphoria, so i know i'm definitely not cisgender.
Hi, just dropping in to say I see you. And you’re absolutely valid. Nonbinary people have existed for centuries. A lot of cultures recognised more than two genders but those got lost during colonisation. I know it’s been a year and a lot can have happened since you wrote that comment but I just wanted you to know that your identity and existence is very logical and valid. You are seen. Have a great day my friend.
@@residentbogwitch thank you, i appreciate it!
I’m Demigirl and pan and u rlly inspire me to not be afraid to be who I am 🥺
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damn i’m over here being a lesbian ✋😌
I’m over here straight as shit let’s go
@dylan o’brien simp yes pan pancakes 😌
@@miaisnotcool7055 🤣🤣🤣
@@fyoutube2294 I can’t tell is ur supporting straight pride or not lol
the weeding out point was such a great way of looking at it. i, a cis woman, don’t want to date transphobes either.
Same. I sometimes bring up sexism and/or transhobia when I meet new people and see how they react. Tells you a lot about them
You still single bb?
@@sonofashepherd9910 you still subbed to blaire white bb?
@@namitaseshadri2638 you know it. logic is always better 👍🏻
@@sonofashepherd9910 being single>>>>dating a transphobe
"Dating is difficult for me."
Me, an aroace trans guy: I don't understand the question
Lmao same, except I'm agender.
lmaooo
@@cactushotsauce362
Please correct me if im wrong Agender means someone who does not identify as either man or woman right?
Not to be offensive im just trying to learn
@@vinylcreeks Agender means someone who doesn't identify with a gender. Don't worry you didn't say anything offensive.
@@cactushotsauce362 thanks for helping me learn more
* Finger guns*
You’re probably the most gorgeous person I’ve ever seen 🥰
ISNT SHE??
LITERALLY
Ikr. I’m so jealous
Thank god you didnt say "transperson." I thought that's where you were going LOL
She needs to gimmie some her beauty stg
I was thinking "oh no, there's drama" and then I realized "Oh! It's a jubilee reaction video :D"
People have a tendency to be more considerate when face to face, than when hiding behind a monitor and keyboard.
About labels and being attracted to non-binary people, or anyone that's out of what you'd normally like: labels doesn't matter. You may use whichever feels good.
If you identify as a gay girl, but you find yourself attracted to NBs, that's totally valid.
Labels exist to make people comfortable. Use whatever makes you feel yourself.
but also ask your partner, if someone is amab and you say your a straight woman while dating them, that implies theyre a man. some non binary people might be ok with different things, gender is a spectrum.
I've always thought nb ppls where the purple part of the bi flag, idk I'm just a confused blob
@@alexfromnow5326 I think it's just that people who are straight or gay are also attracted to nbies, and their not sure if they should take up a whole new label.
Yeah, I think finding a label that works for you and your partner is the best, but you don’t have to use any labels :)
No more labels lol, there are already too many already. Oh how I wish we lived in a world where they weren't needed. Just me loving you kinda thing. I've always felt more attracted to women as a woman, but I know that under the right circumstances I could probably love a man although I don't find them sexually attractive. I don't want to have to find another label for myself but people would probably say "I thought you were a lesbian." Don't care for them.
when she said, “i’m annoying” i was like, not annoying just knows what she wants
Your "go ahead, ill wait for you... are you done?" Thing is so fucking adorable 😍
I expect some disagreements. Trans people aren't some Hive Mind all living to serve queen Samantha Lux (as much as I would love that)
Truthfully though. I love being trans. I have to hide it from 1 person in my life, but everyone else in my life accepts me for who I am and I'm sure that as I explore more of my identity, I can find out more about myself and be much more comfortable.
May I ask why you have to hide being trans?
@@monicaa2176 they said to one person, I hide my identity from family that dosent see me and dont need to know, I wanna tell them eventually but im scared to just like this person probably is.
@Eve X I dont have to tell them anything, even though it’s painful.
Hello, darlings! I hope you all are doing well my kings, queens and in betweens!
you too :) have a lovely day!
You tooo
In betweens is cute but kinda not human...I’ve been calling them Monarchs (is that gendered? I hope not) but monarchs doesn’t rhyme
@@ataiatempleton3726 meh it’s fine! It’s better than mine!
Thank you, hope you have blissful day ❤❤
As a nb person, that last response from the trans woman saying how the struggled she went through made her who she was and how she loves being a part of the lgbt community, it made me sob
7:21 if a straight person were to like a nb person, they can still consider themselves straight (if they prefer). people get confused around this specific topic, i have in the past as well, but it’s really about realizing you don’t have to always follow exactly what your sexuality defines you as. love is love 💞💞
If someone is in a relationship with an NB person, that really is something they should discuss with them.
I’m pretty sure it’s called pansexual (me hello🙋🏻♀️), meaning that you are attracted to anyone regardless of their gender. but again, it’s for anyone to decide how they want to call themselves.
@@olikudron7671 Yeah but I'd you are attracted to 1 gender and then happen to get attracted to a non binary that might be representing in that gender? I don't think that would make you pan
@@olikudron7671 well i don’t really think it’s being pansexual? because you said that it’s being attracted to anyone regardless of gender,but what for example a guy who only dates girls and enbys but just not guys?
@@olikudron7671 also i kinda found out abt pansexuality kinda recently so i’m probably gonna be wrong
This is so good from the conversation point of view, you're putting topics from your perspective without trying to impose it, I value the effort of discourse from you. Props to this type of channels.
Your response to “dating is hard for me being trans” was so spot on. Like I love to keep people educated, but at the same time I’m like damn can I just be myself for a sec??
IVE NEVER BEEN THIS EARLY GIRLL
yooo sameee
the best thing was when she liked my comment
Almost same for me🙂
lmaoo periodt
i cannot get over how good your makeup looks omg you’re literally stunning
My ADHD ass is just here like "OMG is that a bandaid on her arm?? Did she get the covid vaccine?? Lucky!!" >.>
Don't worry; I'm neurotypical and was giving at least a side eye to that lil' bandaid on her arm through half the video XD
And here I was not noticing because I was listening to the video while listening to music and doing my calculus homework 😂🤷
"I love who i am [...] and i'm proud to be transgender" almost made me cry it was so sweet and inspiring.
Damn, the algorithm has treated you well during the last couple of months, and I can't say you don't deserve it. Beautiful and based, as a queen should be.
'Do all transgender people think the same?' idk, sharon, do all cisgender people think the same?
LMAOOO 🤣
looool
ah yes, we all share one mind 🌝
@Simran Varia Oh, I know, I just wanted to make a joke is all at the expense of people who do truly believe that all of one group thinks the same.
Sometimes I forget that I as a cis person am the outlier in your audience but I'm so glad I found your channel! You're helping me be a better ally and I appreciate it!
"Sometimes I wish I wasn't transgender"
Do they mean that you wish you had been born with the gender you currently identify with or you wish you identified as the biological sex of your birth?
It's a question that can be taken different ways. Due to that, it has no clear concise answer. One way it can be taken is that you wish you were born the gender you feel inside. Another way is you wish you didn't have this gender dysphoria to begin with. Another darker way is you wish you were dead because the world is a harsh place for trans people. My take on the whole matter is: things have improved, but much improvement needs to be done and that it is what it is. If you are born a male but feel like a female, well, do what makes you happy. If other people don't like it, they can stew in their own hatred. I personally believe more gay and trans people need to be armed and willing to defend themselves to whatever extent is needed.
For me personally: I would be fine either way, i just don't want to live the hell that is being Transgender and having gender dysphoria. I really truly wish i could be happy as a woman, but i cannot be because of dysphoria, when i was living as a girl and saw no hope for transition i wanted to kill myself so badly, now i am more than half a year into my transition, life is still hard but i am much happier. With that wish to be comfortable with my birth sex, i of course also wish i could've just born been a man, it would make things easier.
So for me: Just make me cis in anyway
It could go either way depending on opinion. The basis is just not hating yourself every single waking moment. Not that all trans ppl do but the ppl who would agree with the statement probably do to some degree. being trans can rly rly suck sometimes
"But it's a risk worth taking, honey" had me in happy tears.
✨Got a transphobic ad before this✨
Danggg
What ad was it?
✨oh no✨
noooo 😭
@ThatOneAmbivertedAnimator you get advertisements based on what you watch on TH-cam. It's a weird and wacky algorithm that decides what ads you get.
I love how this place took people who were at varying stages of their transition and not just those who have fully transitioned yet. It's beautiful seeing all the stages of becoming yourself and looking at the ones who haven't yet reached their goal and thinking "They will be happy with themselves someday very soon, and I'm happy for them"
Also my uncle is a trans male (transitioned to male, some people say it differently)
He only got top surgery and kept his bottomsies.
So I don't think it's necessary to have surgery
Only get it if you want to.
agreed.
People don't seem to understand that some people are just afraid or can't have surgery because of certain medical conditions, and people still don't seem to understand that trans people who didn't have surgeries are still trans.
Hehe bottomsies, thats precious and I’m stealing it
Yeah
Sometimes surgery is super necessary and sometimes you really don’t need any medical stuff at all, it all depends on the person
@@alderblanco2362 you better not
I want to be the granddaughter of the woman in the back she seems like she brings candy to her family events
@Kali Evelynn ?
@@sneko2860 I think it’s because she may be a Trump supporter.
@@autumnlashai who cares though honestly. Why do both sides demonize the other so much.
@@sneko2860 This cultural war is so stupid. If both sides would come together and hear each other more often, things would be much better in the society. I’m not American, but what I’m seeing now in the USA is a never ending division. And unfortunately even LGBT (let’s say as an organization) encourages this form of segregation because it seeks to fight against the discrimination faced by LGBT people. (I just don’t think that this is the way forward)
Look at what happens in Poland with the “LGBT free zones” and then even in my country, Romania..people are scared to speak up cause they’d be automatically called by many people: socialists, communists..all these bs terms even tho LGBT people are as diverse in their views as basically every other demographic out there. There is this fear inserted in the LGBT people in Romania even tho I just don’t think that the society would react that bad on the streets. If more people would come out as show the world that we’re just as kind as the others, people wouldn’t have such a bad view on us.
I hope you guys will get my point. Yes, there is tons of discrimination out there but let’s talk and find out what’s the best way to move forward. Otherwise we’ll continue living in the same misery.
Im not trans but i feel good watching your videos your confidence and self love is fascinating to me, not as a cis women to trans women but as a person to a person you inspire me, make me think I can someday love myself as you do
I hope she see's this
Can we just appreciate how honest ur answers are, like omg YESS🥺🔥
I love how she says “aRe yA doNe???” 😂...I love it
I would LOVE to see you do a deep dive video on a specific topic. I feel you're really good at pointing core arguments and making contrapoints, and a deep dive would be super enjoyable.
I love the shade to Blaire at the end omg
we love to see it 🥰
Wait who?
@@panicatmychemicalfalloutbr6381 blaire white, a transphobic girl on youtube
@@frunklie wait isn't she trans herself??????
@@frunklie Blaire is not transphobic what so ever
This was so sweet to watch ❤️ I’m cis so I don’t understand what it’s like to go through gender dysphoria but I have body dysmoprhia and it was really encouraging to hear that you had the same interaction with your therapist that I have had because it gives me hope that I might also love my body one day too
The way you answered the gender roles question was PERFECT. I would have said the same thing
My answers (genderfluid transmasculine):
1: Kids can know their gender: Strongly agree
2: Gender roles are necessary: Strongly disagree
3: Surgery is necessary to be trans: Strongly (++++) disagree
4: Dating is hard: Slightly agree
5: Being trans is a risk: Agree
6: I love my body: Agree (I used to hate it way more in high school, but now that I'm sexually active and have a very understanding partner, it has changed my opinion of myself, periods still suck ass though)
7: I wish I wasn't trans: Strongly agree (I love myself the way I am, but I often wish I was just born male or would identify as a woman right now)
I have a trans friend and he's dating an enby, and he considers himself gay, idk if that helps
I'm trans and as a kid I had no concept of gender whatsoever... *shrugs*
I was taught and grew used to use certain pronouns, bathrooms, etc etc, and didn't question it.
I discovered the existence of trans people at almost 20 and didn't quite grasp it. And then I understood I was trans myself a few years later.
You are so wholesome! We need more people like you.
"It's a risk worth taking, honey" iconic and so true
This was such a positive and uplifting video, so wholesome. It's so nice listening to people respectfully communicating with each other. ❤
1. Can kids know their gender identity?: I agree with this; possibly even strongly. I've had my moments when I was 6 that I very much wanted to be like my female classmates.
2. Are gender roles necessary?: I am neutral on this. I hate the idea of being forced with male gender roles by my family and friends, but its necessary for me to understand that I very much want to be a woman.
3. Are surgeries necessary to be transgender?: Strongly disagree.
4. Is dating hard?: Strongly agree with this. Its mostly to do with me. I know I would not have any difficulty actually finding someone, but its the feeling of guilt having to "lie" to them about my gender. I want to be honest, but its such a difficult process.
5. Risks?: Strongly agree that I just can't. Being a trans woman and a person of colour is nothing but a large target on my back.
6. Do I love my body?: Just a disagree. Even though I haven't had the chance to transition, I've made efforts to make my body as feminine as I could. Yes. I still appear male and I very much hate it.
7. Do I wish I wasn't trans?: Slightly disagree. If it wasn't for the feelings that I've experienced I never would have had a close friend on a personal level. Someone who knows that I'm trans and that I very much need her support. Of course, there are moments where I wish I could just be happy being a guy, but I just can't. I don't like it. I want to be a woman and I'll accept being trans if it's what I must do.
I'm a lesbian trans woman so I would be part of the LGBT community even if I was born a cis woman
But maybe if you were born a girl you'd be straight.
@@dat2ra ???
@@dat2ra how did that make sense in your head
@@dat2ra she likes fit women, not straight men. i know your ego cant handle someone not being attracted to you, awww wittle bwaby. also she was born a woman. her gender has always been female, her body was just slacking. even if she wasnt a lesbian she wouldnt like you anyway hun. have a think about why.
@@roman-fo2sk
born male, realized she’s a woman, she’s now a woman that loves other women. If you happen to not be trolling, then i hope you do more research, but if you are, get that transphobic stuff outta here.
I lost a career in teaching because one principal decided he did not want a trans person teaching on his campus. I was unable to complete my student teaching because of him, and unless I move to a whole new area, I have no real options for student teaching elsewhere. (Student teaching is unpaid by the way.) So, with no other options, I was forced to pivot and begin searching for a new career, and I have limited options due to age and cost of education to get me to where I was stopped. Being trans is very dangerous, and hard. This happened this year, and I pretty much cry every day over it. It is getting better, but like... yeah...
so sorry, best wishes ❤❤❤
10:47 this is so heartbreaking
5:00 The prompts given by Jubilee aren't all well-formed questions,
but more meant to provoke discussion so the participants can share their own views.
(I always end up overthinking and needing to question questions because I want to be as specific in addressing it as I can)
Some great questions I didn't think about or was too afraid to answer. Great video!
Just started my transition at 34 and I'm freaking terrified, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm so tired of pretending. Being in any way divergent from the culturally accepted "norm" has always been a nightmare, and, even if the progress is messy and chaotic, all this educating and experimenting is absolutely necessary if we want to improve how we live our lives and how we progress as a civilization.
Keep up the good work, you got this!
(Firstly: Can Samantha do makeup tutorials daily please please please she is excellent)
This was a good idea because a lot of people view trans people as a monolith or as two factions, when they are just people like everyone else.
Jubilee is usually cringe but watching Samantha react to it is so much better.
omg i love this
Welcome to the channel!
omg the last woman made me almost cry.. 💜 that last answer was beautiful
This can be the most interesting video ever
1. Strongly agree. I realized I wasn’t just a girl when I was around 12 years old same with all of my trans/nonbinary friends! 2. The middle. I can’t really say because at my age gender roles haven’t really been introduced/used, but I think that it did help me find myself. 3. Strongly disagree. It is necessary to be transsexual, but no it’s not necessary to be transgender. I for one do not want sex reassignment surgery, but that doesn’t make me any less trans. 4. Strongly agree. For me since my pronouns are very confusing (he/she/they interchangeable) it makes all of my relationships hard, even with my parents. Luckily my current girlfriend has known me throughout my coming out and said she would still love me the same regardless of my gender (she is bisexual btw). 5. Strongly agree. Being transgender/nonbinary has made my life significantly more difficult, the risks of being bullied and the risks of the surgeries that I want to have one day are there, but like the people in the video they are most definitely risks I’m willing to take. 6. Slightly disagree. I have always had self esteem issues, but recently my dysphoria has been acting up so much. My mom won’t let me get a binder and that really affects me and my mental health. That said, there are times when I feel so confident in my body, times when I dance like nobody’s watching. 7. Strongly agree. There are most definitely times that I wish I wasn’t demiflux because god sometimes getting misgendered really really gets to me and I guess I just wish I was okay being a girl and just that because then I wouldn’t have changed my name and had 100s of arguments with my parents when they misgender me and dead name me and even if I wasn’t trans/nonbinary I’d still be lgbtq+ because I’m pansexual. But I still love who I am and I think that I’d much rather go through this struggle then lose that huge piece of my identity.
Bruhhh this video actually made me cry I love them so much-
okay, wait, is she a model? she’s so gorgeous and seems like she has an incredible mind.
That question of “sometimes I hate being trans” hit me so hard Cuz like
I’m a trans man and it’s so scary to go to work since I’m out there, but if my transphobic parents or some of my family came in, I’d just be scared.
Not to mention I have some pretty severe dysphoria and haven’t even been able to transition yet despite being 20
It’s a hard life and I’ll have complete breakdowns over things as simple as not having a beard, or my voice being too high. I can’t even sing confidently cuz of my voice.
I get so many moments where I say I wish I was never trans. I wish I was cis. I wish I could be happy female. It’s a hard life.
I’m just a nobody on the internet, an artist with maybe 100-200 followers on all my platforms. And even at that I’ve received hate comments from TERFs. The fact that some people are so transphobic they’ll attack people who don’t even have a following is... hard. And I’m one of the lucky few that does have a supportive boyfriend and friends and a supportive brother.
Stay strong everyone. You’re wonderful and beautiful no matter where you’re at in your transition. 💜
Trans woman here. There's just so many things wrong with society at times that I learned to distrust everyone I see at first, instead of the opposite. I also have a supportive BF and a few other friends both irl and online. I just hope I can start my transition because I can't live like this. I'm constantly under pressure when it comes to being told what to do and I hate it.
@@1vite That is a smart tactic. I hope you are able to begin your transition soon.
- Sooga, alter
@@xalamontdragmire5080 Thank you so much.
that answer at the end made me cry, i totally relate to that
I'm not first but I am the most important
No me and my chicken nugget cult are the most important.
Yes, yes you are.
yeah okay fair.
I’m not first and I’m not the most important
@@arealisticbeautystandard8920 can I join?
I'm not trans, but I'm also not cis I guess. I mean I was born as a girl and most of the time I am happy with that but sometimes I'm like "no today I'm a boy" so I guess I'm genderfluid (I don't if I write it right 😂)
Genderfluid fits under the non-binary label! (And enby's are trans) :>
Btw you don't need to figure out everything in a certain time, make sure you focus on yourself and your identity. It's not necessary to know right away, it's a process! ❤️❤️
@@chada4806 non binary people aren't trans though?
@@NinaDidnothingwrong it depends on the individual. Some enby people identify as trans and some don't. I'm enby and personally don't, but either way is perfectly valid.
@@NinaDidnothingwrong being trans means you don’t really identify as you birth gender (demigender counts since they don’t entirely fit in those boxes like the default).
enbies aren’t cis, and apparently since we aren’t trans either then wtf are we?
I'm crying on my lunch break at work, I love all this, and I love that an NB person was included 😭
Thank you for your videos, Samantha! Listening to you and being exposed more to the LGBTQ+ community, I've found that my empathy, compassion, and love for the trans community especially has grown so much. I'm a straight, white cis-woman who is also Christian, and in the past I focused mainly on racial and class justice and feminism, but now in my life I am definitely focusing a lot more on being an ally to and supporting the LGBTQ+ community as well
Trans-guy here. Here are my answers.
1. Slightly agree.
Some children know, while others do not. Let them express themselves the best they can. As they get older, help the down which ever path they need to take.
2. Disagree.
People can do what they want and look how they want. The gendered roles aren’t necessary.
3. Strongly disagree.
Up to the individual what they want and need. For me, it’s important to have some reassignment surgery, but not all of it.
4. Neutral.
Not looking for anyone, but has been hard when I did.
5. Strongly agree.
Lots of negatives, though it is worth it for many.
6. Strongly agree.
Both mental and physical risks.
7. Strongly disagree.
Have yet to had physical changes from hormones. Only thing I like are my irises. Not the whole eye, just the colour.
8. Agree.
Would have been nice not to have thought or deal with.
Thankful of the support I have. And proud of my friends! Working on being proud of myself…
I have tears in my eyes. That was so sweet and emotional.
Im trans, and am pretty self conscious. Grew up in very VERY very very very christian household to the point where the idea of "Jesus" wasnt love, but control. Im currently in the Air Force, and am praying for my hopes and dreams to physically appear as a woman someday but in the meantime i trust and hope that love is with me. Oh mah gawd samantha i thank God for you. You share a lot of strength and hope for me.
Star, my last gf was run out of the USAF for transitioning M2F. She's gorgeous now. Misses her airplanes but is enjoying the fruits of womanhood. Best to you!
If you weren't forced to go to the airforce to "man you up" then you can still transition to be a woman when you have the chance, a woman who kicks ass in the airforce
We're all people first. I will preach that till my dying day. [I'm Not Trans] Also not afraid of loving who I want to. I consider myself straight.
What a wonderful first video of yours to encounter, wow. I vibed with every answer you gave (I’m nb transmasc), and it always means a lot to see another trans person who is proud and full of defiant self love. Being trans is hard and scary, but it’s also so beautiful and important. I’m glad we’re here- I’m proud of us
"Everybody was nice to each other". That's the difference between interacting with people online and actually meet them face to face. Some people are dicks in real life too, but most of them act differently because we are a social species after all.
hii!! im a demiboy and these r my opinions:
• yes!! kids can absolutely know, i knew i didnt want to be a girl when i was 4.
• nope, gender roles are not necessary whatsoever. as she said we would be fine without them.
• they are not necessary at all, if you want them im happy for you!! you can do what you want, but if you don’t youre still perfectly valid and dont need to get the surgery.
• yes, many risks. it can be dangerous in public, online, for your health, mental health, even going to school or going to walmart.
• yup!! i love my body despite it not exactly fitting what i would like it to be its still beautiful and i would not get rid of it whatsoever. but this is not the same for everyone, if some people want surgery or anything done to their body thats still valid, its not my body its theirs.
•yes yes yes!! i do sometimes wish i were cis. the dysphoria, the misgendering, the dead-naming is horrible.
I agree with you completely. Also i’m a Demigirl.
Thank you for being here and being such a bright voice. As a cis person, I first stumbled upon Blair White on here and followed her for a while. I didn't know what to think of her and in hindsight, that gutfeeling was right. Thank you for giving such a great insight in what it is really like being trans, and the difficulties you face everyday.
And goshdang you are gorgeous, by the way!
"It's not the fact that I'm trans that I don't like; it's the discrimination that I face that I don't like."
--Xavier
❤
Non-binary person here :)
(they/them, my name is ronnie)
and here’s my answer to these questions !!
1. Are children capable of knowing their gender identities?
i think that children are fully capable of knowing their identities. i agree with gina that we shouldn’t necessarily immediately jump to things like gender reassignment surgery or anything but i also don’t think there’s harm in anything like letting them take hormone blockers or respecting any name change or pronoun change. i personally never really loved being referred to as my assigned sex at birth but i didn’t really understand the reason behind it. i’ve always been very feminine and so people always just kind of assume what i identify as and i always had a form of internalized transphobia telling me that i couldn’t be non-binary because of the way i presented
2. Are gender roles necessary?
in my opinion, not at all. gender roles themselves are what roles are forced onto people based on their gender (or in often cases sex) Denounce gender roles, respect gender identity. you have have masculine trans women and feminine trans men or anything in between, it’s all about self expression, not what others place upon you to determine what makes you worthy as a man/woman/ or anything else
3. Is gender reaffirming surgery necessary to be trans?
not at all ! especially as a non-binary person there is no “one way” to identify or express my identity. There’s the option of top surgery but i don’t even want that. some people don’t have body dysphoria and some people don’t even really have dysphoria much at all compared to our her people. gender reaffirming surgery is a way to help you feel more comfortable in your body but it is not necessary for you to be a trans person. anyone no matter what body can be trans.
4. Is dating difficult for me?
Not really for me as much, i think a lot of people see me as a diet version of the sex i was assigned at birth but as a trans person i’ve still been quite lucky in the dating pool. granted most of the people i’ve dated were before i came out but honestly the person i’m dating right now is incredible and lovely and has no issue with me being trans at all. she’s super supportive of me and my pronouns and my name change even though she’s known me for way longer than i’ve identified as non-binary.
5. Is it dangerous to be trans?
strongly agree, as a person who passes as a cis person there’s a level of fear i have coming out to people every day. i have people misgendered me on a daily basis and i have to assess the situation on whether or not it’s safe for me to inform them that i don’t actually align with the gender i look like. not only that but i’m the gsa president at my school (i live in a very conservative state) and the amount of times i’ve been attacked or bullied for just identifying the way i do, is ridiculous.
6. Do i love my body?
yes and no. i love my body and i think i’m very attractive, there are parts of it i don’t like and parts of it make me super uncomfortable but that’s generally my body dysmorphia. it’s more the way other people view me and my body that bother me rather than how i view myself.
7. Do i wish i wasn’t trans?
yes and no. i think it would be so much easier if i wasn’t trans, i wouldn’t have to worry about my safety all the time or argue with my family about my pronouns but at the same time it’s changed who i am a lot and i honestly love the person i’m becoming, it’s just hard.
anyways if anyone else has any questions or wants to talk my ig is @/ hellb.oy_ :)
Non-binary doesn't exist
Just a side note: if you watch the full Jubilee video, the older lady is fucking amazing and I love that she gives a voice to the older trans generation.
As nonbinary, it was really cool to see a nonbinary person's perspective. Also great video as always! :D
ofc, non binary people are trans people after all :D
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