And for the most part the worst most trans people do when they actually get misgendered is get uncomfortable and try to leave the situation. Like yeah some trans people end up getting extreme about it because sometimes cis people really suck and no matter what you do they will keep doing it and that can really hurt sometimes, especially if it’s someone important to you. But most of us just try to shrug it off. I mean especially when you’re early in your transition or if youre gender nonconforming it happens a lot. So often it stops stingin as much and you get more used to it, you shouldn’t have to but you do
"Are you even transphobic if it isn't in the news? Pfft rookie" Jokes aside, I will now require people to prove that they're transphobic and it's not just a phase they're going to regret.
"If somebody is misgendering me on purpose, they're just doing it to piss me off, they're just trying to upset me, and that does not reflect on me at all." I really like that. Thank you.
Alternatively - and here's a thought that will never have occurred to you and that will probably make your head explode - maybe they are simply being honest.
This is a flawed assumption. I don't use 'preferred pronouns' on principle, because I oppose and refuse to uphold sexism, which is what these ideas are based in. It has nothing to do with you personally or trying to piss you off. You might get pissed off that I disagree with you and won't do and say what you want, but that's your problem, not mine. You guys have a very myopic, narccicistic outlook. You think everything is about you. My principles and values, including honesty and integrity, are not about you.
@@Mel-wn9gb why are you commenting this? I think you are trying to us them off. Trying to argue. Calling an entire group of people narcissistic. If your principles, values, and integrity have nothing to do with us, why are you telling us about them? Get muted.
I met noah and it was so unreal. He is like the kindest guy ever. I asked him to sign my shoe and when I tried to lift my foot he told me to put my foot down in case i fell and went all the way on to the floor, like hands and knees, to sign my shoe. I was at his concert in orlando and i did the vip and everything. 10/10 would go again.
I have found the review. One thing I cant help but note is that the website actually has a page about the use of gendered language (since german, as Noah points out, has no gender neutral terms) and they state specifically that they generally use the male term as generic term for better readability. Man did they fuck this one up.
How I understood that note was them just clarified that they wouldn't gender and use the masculine form for when they talk about others. For example if they said 'the listener is taken on a journey' they use the masculine version of listener (Hörer) instead of the form that is being established more as an inclusive version (Hörer*innen). I just think they probably still would gender the musicians in different ways, I don't think they would call, for example Beyoncé 'he'. But yeah, they definitely messed up with noah. At least they corrected it for the most part.
But there is? German has a nonbinary singular pronoun. It’s xier. There’s even a different ending for words like singer Ex: teacher is Lehrer*in instead of Lehrer or Lehrerin
Ya know, as a 65 yr old Southern US boy, I get that sometimes you forget people's pronouns. Accidents happen. But let's face it, if someone consistently calls you by the wrong gender, then they're letting you know they're an idiot, and not really worth spending much time or energy on. It's likely they're not even aware how much they've made it clear their opinions really don't matter.
As a non binary person ive been misgendered before (like 1000+ times) but i never really care bc 1. They usually dont care what my gender is. 2. I have anxiety about correcting people.
I've recently had a friend of mine come out as non-binary and I've made a conscious effort to say they/them instead of he/him. They've said how happy it makes them feel whenever people use they/them, so I make extra sure to use they/them. There's people out there who will care. Why am I saying all this? To basically say: There'll be people who care. Try your very best to correct them anyway. If they some stupid stuff about how you can't not have a gender, tell them to study up on biology. Dunno why I just came on with this random rant, but I guess it just kinda bursted out of me.
Giving people the benefit of the doubt on everything is such an autism thing, everyone misunderstands us and we know how bad it feels so we give everyone too much leniency.
I've been deliberately misgendered by a psychotherapist. More recently, when I called in to establish my place in my surgical clinic's list for vaginoplasty, the answering service literally deadnamed me, in spite of the fact that my legal name change was completed more than 8 months prior to my referral going in to the surgical clinic. There is literally no reason for the surgical clinic (or their phone service) to even know my deadname, much less use it. It really is something that happens to literally 100% of us. It's especially annoying when someone is clearly going out of their way to do it deliberately. Scumbags, indeed.
I’m sorry you had to experience that, I don’t know why ppl make being trans a big deal when it comes to the media. It is just an identity that makes a person comfortable. I hope you’re doing well, don’t let this bring you down you are valid, loves, and seen ❤
As a cis male, I have been misgendered. Not maliciously, but as a child I was occasionally mistaken as a girl. Idk if I "carried myself" a certain way. Happily, I started sprouting a thick beard at 13-14--which, in hindsight, was a gender-affirming experience for me. And a little surprising for the family, since my dad and brother were not like that.
I appreciate when cis people adopt language that helps to describe your own experience with gender. This kind of stuff shouldn’t be scary or shameful to talk about.
Your maleness is your sex, not your gender. Someone getting your sex wrong is not "misgendering" you. They are simply getting your sex wrong. When you grew a beard, it did not "affirm your gender". It simply meant that you were undergoing normal male development. If you were happy about it, that just meant that you were comfortable being male. Hope that helps!
@@CactusMuffin Thanks! It’s interesting that I got two opposing replies. I’d like to add that I, personally, try never to correct others on what they felt, especially when I wasn’t there. There may be an argument that “misgendering” isn’t the best word for my experience. Out of respect for trans folks, I’ve been hesitant to describe it as such before. But I was responding directly to Noah’s question. Also, I do think many queer people, trans or cis, deal with what I’d call gender insecurity or doubt. Traditionally, being a man implies being attracted to women and vice versa. As soon as you break that norm, the “validity” of your gender expression, if not your identity, is questioned. Some people may respond to social pressure by overcompensating or leaning into a stereotype. I don’t want to police anyone’s personal expression. I just look for the feeling of genuinely connecting.
It kinda hurts more being misgendered by someone who just got it wrong than it is to be misgendered by someone who is just doing it to be a bad person, in my opinion
I feel the same. When someone does it intentionally, that's about them and who they are as a person. When someone does it accidentally, it feels like it's about me and how I am perceived/ how I look (even if I know that's not always the reason). (Well, less so now. It's rare I get misgendered these days, and I've had quite a few years to get to grips with my dysphoria).
Its absolutely the other way around for me. If someone does it on purpose it signals to me that they wish me harm and ultimately dont want me to excist. It causes massive angciety and then because I have to surpress my feelings and be all "civil" and "a good representative" and also because it usually happens at work or when im with my kid (because im always either at work or with my kid) it just turns inwards and becomes depression. Honesty i need help, how do you get to a point when it legitimately doesnt effect you?
@@Sam..123 I totally get that and I also feel that way, but the way I look at it is that if they’re doing it on purpose they’re just a terrible person, if they do it on accident it feels more like I genuinely dont pass at all and that causes massive dysphoria for me. Im sorry you feel that way tho, it really sucks, I hope you get to a point where it doesn’t bother you
@Sam..123 it can be incredibly difficult to get to the point where you don't care what other people think of you; I think it's an empathy thing. but you have to remember, those people amount to nothing in your life. they're obnoxious and spiteful, but they have no power over you. regardless of their wishes, they can't make you disappear. and it says nothing about you - you're fine, just living your life being a decent person; it's them that's so dissatisfied with some aspect of their life or self that they feel the need to attack those they don't understand. it's pathetic, but it's entirely their problem, and it's not really you they hate; it's something deeper on their end and they're just taking it out on you. but they'll be out of your hair in a few minutes. basically it just takes a lot of time and practice, but I can tell you internalizing it definitely won't get you there. I'm a visual person, so I think of it like batting a way a fly, or putting up a shield for the comment to ping off of before it really hits. water rolling off the back of a duck. you have a kid, I don't, but I at least was one so maybe you're familiar with this experience: does your kid ever throw a tantrum or get fixated on making a certain sound over and over? you've probably learned to tune it out to the point where it doesn't drive you crazy, right? you might be able to employ the same tactics.
Noah ... as to your comment about men not having feelings, this is essential for "passing", even more than facial hair! If feelings do, by some misadventure, arise, they must be repressed, tamped down unmercifully, until the only trace of them is an odiferous hint wafting across the overall bitterness and world-loathing of one's soul! Look forward to seeing you in Chicago.
As someone who uses He/They pronouns, I get annoyed one someone exclusively used they/them pronouns for me. It always makes me feel like they don't really see me as a real guy and only use they/them so they aren't misgendering me. It's only towards the people who know me and know I'm trans, and yet never call me a guy, never refer to me with he/him pronouns.
I haven't told anyone, but I would also like he/they pronouns, however, I'd be more annoyed by only being called he/him. Basically for the same reason actually, just the other way around. Sadly, my language (German) does not have an equivalent for "they". Quite ironic twist ending to this comment.
I know it’s late by 4 months. But I’m so fucking glad I just realised that you did a colaborar with the rare Americans. They’re one of my favourite bands.
Since you are female, a person who thinks you are male is simply getting your sex wrong. I think that the question of whether or not you are upset by people getting your sex wrong is a question of how much you value truth and honesty.
@@omp199 I wasn't mad, if that's what I sounded like. I just think it's funny that it happens often enough that Texas Roadhouse of all places is the most frequent offender
Dude I used to watch your videos around 4 or 5 years ago and randomly remembered you today and looked you up. I'm so glad I did cause I ended up listening to your new album and I can't get enough of it. Freaking insane Noah you absolute legend. Alexiythmia and I know Better are my favs btw, gg mate
My favourite things about this video: 1. Noah’s shirt 2. The lil ✨ noise every time the ally fist comes up ✊🏻 3. Idk I just loved the video Also have a great time on tour Noah!! So happy for you ❤
It’s nice to see that by now thy corrected their mistakes… idk how that might have happened because Noah is a common name for males here… 8:39 yeah the German language doesn‘t really have a really fitting pronoun that is equivalent to the English „they“… you could use ihnen but in our language it is use only to describe a group of people, therefore can’t be used like the English they. Some enbys use dey/ deynen wich are neopronouns that can be compared to they/them. To my knowledge not many people use these, but rather use the literal they/them in the German language if they want to use any at all… Reason for this is that the German language is a d*** (yep I don’t like my mother tongue). Also these neo pronouns are not common /wildly known amongst the German population.
Happy day of trans visibility Noah, I was at the concert last night and I had so much fun, it was incredible!! (I was the little guy with the trans and bi flags lol) 🔥
Love from Berlin! ❤ I must say (not excusing it bc it would be unprofessional af anyway even in that case) that I have misgendered myself in German due to forgetting certain German words and pronouns get gendered and completely missing them when reviewing paragraphs written by chatgpt. 🙃
I get misgendered all the time, but as a cis lesbian, it obviously doesn't affect me as much as it does trans people who are concerned about passing. Most of the time I find it funny and am shocked about how much better someone who appears to be a cis man gets treated by other cis men, especially middle aged ones.
That article sounds like someone went to ChatGPT and was like "write a review of [insert album title here]" and hit publish without even looking at it lol
Funny enough, for a while my official student records had me down as Male, so every time we took a standardized test I had to raise my hand when the teacher asked if there were any mistakes on the filled out portion. I have a very feminine first name so it made everyone laugh. Probably an early sign I was nonbinary was that I was less concerned about fixing it and more annoyed that I had to bring attention to myself in the first place.
When i was playing minecraft a guy tried to deadname me with a feminine version of my chosen name 🤣. My deadname couldnt be more different from my chosen name or the feminine version of it ( which is actually impossible to acidentally do cause the feminine version is very different)
I’m not trans and I get misgendered all of the time. If a woman calls me “Sir” I say: “and thank you too sir!” If they correct me, I say: “oh, it’s okay. I don’t do that preferred pronoun thing. Have a nice day sir.” 😂
I just want to say I really appreciate your videos.❤ You make me feel so much better about myself because I can’t talk to my parents about my sexuality and gender. I hope you keep making videos indefinitely!
"Singer-Songwritress" lmao Yeah, being trans in Germany can be pretty exhausting, because since every word is gendered essentially every word can be used for misgendering. So everything that could be shrugged off as a mild slip-up in English is probably going to out you I'm surprised they apparently chose to use mixed pronouns, otherwise they just didn't check over their writing even once..
i’ve just come to terms with the fact that i’m transmasc after struggling with my gender for years. of course i’m not transitioned yet, or even out yet because i’m not in the space to. it’s really hard to come to terms with this and i’m struggling, but finding your channel is making things a lot easier and making it seem like things won’t be that bad. thank you
I know this is not nearly comparable, but when I was a boy and I called some store on the phone they'd think I was a girl. I remember I how I felt, definitely moody about it, and though I'm not trans I think I know what you mean and how you feel about it.
@@victorjason2558 It is understandable to be annoyed by people getting your sex wrong. People who get annoyed by people getting their sex _right_ are experiencing a completely different thing from what you experienced at people getting your sex _wrong._
I was so happy to meet you Noah in San Antonio! Really glad that you liked the bunny stuffy I made, and the thing around it is a bracelet reminded me of you so I got it!
As non-binary/multi-gender who uses all pronouns, Id like to rectify the meaning of "they/them" as usually used to refer to someone whose gender is unknown. It does not always imply someone's gender identity, quite the contrary in fact: you also use it when you dont know what the gender is.
I mean i am a cis man im big and hairy but i have long hair witch has lead to a number of time where someone talking to they kids has said 'give the money to the woman' and then look up over the counter at my massive beard, it why i laugh when they say they can always tell because from my experience long hair is enough to confuse a fair few people.
Question kinda related to the video I’ve been thinking about a lot. How did you handle misgendering consistently at the beginning of your transition, and how would you suggest someone helps when a trans person is insecure about it?
I’ve said it hundreds of times, (I said it just yesterday) and I’ll say it hundreds of times more; ‘journalistic integrity’ is an oxymoron. It seems likely that the review was written at least in a large part by AI. AI is notoriously bad when it comes to gender nonconforming stuff and minorities in general.
Hey Noah, my mom reads this magazine and told me about it, I read the article on the website and you're still misgendered once in the first paragraph. As a German , I'm very sorry for the anti LGBTQ+ politics. Happy Trans day of Visibility! 🏳️⚧️
As a nonbinary, I used to think i was trans FTM in the past because "if im not a girl- i have to be a boy!-... right?" Wrong. I just didnt know what nonbinary is. The misgendering is delicious to consume 😅
I've been misgendered because people apparently assume only men can say "dude" and "bro" People also see me irl sometimes and go "you're trans aren't you???" No...? I'm cis? Then they get pissy when I say I'm cis and yell that I got surgeries because "no girl can have your ass/hips/boobs"
I've been mistaken for a transgender about 4 times *just because i have long hair doesn't mean I'm transgender* 😭 P.S i love trans people and hait when people are horrible to them
I've always thought that "they/them" was the safest option when a person still hasn't told you their pronouns. Is it rude? (Edit: this is a genuine question. I'm currently using "he/they" and I'm slooowly testing waters with how I feel with "he/him" only, and other people I know said they prefer the neutral when talking with someone new)
i agree, they/them is neutral and always works! but if someone has told you their pronouns and you never use them and always use they/them it can come across as rude
@@ate_a_radio thank you! I do make sure to use the correct pronouns once I know them. Noah talking about the "they/them" matter got me worrying for a while, but now it's clearer :)
I met you in Nottingham a few weeks ago and it was great but there was a bald security guard who kept calling me and my 2 friends ladies even though we didn't look like girls. Hope you liked the jumping frogs noah!
I'm gonna be an optimist and say that maybe they thought you were a trans woman instead? that is the usual assumption cis people make when they hear that someone is trans so maybe they just got confused and were trying to gender you correctly but did it wrong.
HAPPY TRANS DAY OF VISIBILITY SAY IT BACK🫵🏻
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Happy trans day of visibility!!! 🏳️⚧️
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HAPPY TRANS DAY OF VISIBILITY‼️ :D
I love when transphobes say “trans people always get mad when you accidently misgender them” like no, they get annoyed when you purposefully do it
My farts are better than Noah’s farts 💨
“trans people get mad when you accidentally misgender them” no, trans people _sometimes_ correct you when they can see that you're not even trying
@@p-__sure they are
And for the most part the worst most trans people do when they actually get misgendered is get uncomfortable and try to leave the situation. Like yeah some trans people end up getting extreme about it because sometimes cis people really suck and no matter what you do they will keep doing it and that can really hurt sometimes, especially if it’s someone important to you. But most of us just try to shrug it off. I mean especially when you’re early in your transition or if youre gender nonconforming it happens a lot. So often it stops stingin as much and you get more used to it, you shouldn’t have to but you do
@@p-__stop lying
Obviously this sucks but the idea of professional misgendering is so funny to me. “oh you only misgender as a hobby? well i do it full time”
My farts are better than Noah’s farts 💨
omg 😭
* laughing in non binary * 😄
Some people legit seem to think they need to go out and get experience at it.
"Are you even transphobic if it isn't in the news? Pfft rookie"
Jokes aside, I will now require people to prove that they're transphobic and it's not just a phase they're going to regret.
"If somebody is misgendering me on purpose, they're just doing it to piss me off, they're just trying to upset me, and that does not reflect on me at all."
I really like that. Thank you.
My farts are better than Noah’s farts
transphobe: *tries to make you mad*
also transphobe: *wonders why you’re mad*
Alternatively - and here's a thought that will never have occurred to you and that will probably make your head explode - maybe they are simply being honest.
This is a flawed assumption. I don't use 'preferred pronouns' on principle, because I oppose and refuse to uphold sexism, which is what these ideas are based in. It has nothing to do with you personally or trying to piss you off. You might get pissed off that I disagree with you and won't do and say what you want, but that's your problem, not mine. You guys have a very myopic, narccicistic outlook. You think everything is about you. My principles and values, including honesty and integrity, are not about you.
@@Mel-wn9gb why are you commenting this? I think you are trying to us them off. Trying to argue. Calling an entire group of people narcissistic. If your principles, values, and integrity have nothing to do with us, why are you telling us about them? Get muted.
Wow who is that man who’s huge, and buff, and masculine, and good looking on my screen? I love his beard and facial hair!
My farts are better than Noah’s farts 💨
@@p-__no
@@NoahTheHumanFleano u
@@p-__ no
@@NoahTheHumanFleayes
"I love his beard and facial hair." That got me.
My farts are better than Noah’s farts 💨
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Ok, cool. Weird flex I guess
@@Milo-hp9fw @p-__ is a bot, please report it.
@@p-__ are you a bot?
@@barrianic4 yeah they are
“do you think jk rowling has a point though?” *immediately begins to write scumbag on the spot*
My farts are better than Noah’s farts 💨
I think the better answer would've been "Well, yeah, but with a fashionable hat, no one will notice."
I met noah and it was so unreal. He is like the kindest guy ever. I asked him to sign my shoe and when I tried to lift my foot he told me to put my foot down in case i fell and went all the way on to the floor, like hands and knees, to sign my shoe. I was at his concert in orlando and i did the vip and everything. 10/10 would go again.
Noah sounds so sweet
I met him on Friday he’s SO NICEEE
i will now ask him to sign my shoe too :3 (counting down till the concert. 10 days.)
could have been a misTRANSlation.
My farts are better than Noah’s farts 💨
Ba dum tss
@@p-__ ...
@@p-__ wtf
Thats funny 🤣
happy trans day of visibility noah ❤🏳️⚧️
My farts are better than Noah’s farts 💨
@@p-__ go away troll
@@shadesofcallumNo, wait - let's hear him out! 😆
Ty for reminding me it was today :)
Happy trans day of visibility
I have found the review. One thing I cant help but note is that the website actually has a page about the use of gendered language (since german, as Noah points out, has no gender neutral terms) and they state specifically that they generally use the male term as generic term for better readability. Man did they fuck this one up.
My farts are better than Noah’s farts
How I understood that note was them just clarified that they wouldn't gender and use the masculine form for when they talk about others. For example if they said 'the listener is taken on a journey' they use the masculine version of listener (Hörer) instead of the form that is being established more as an inclusive version (Hörer*innen). I just think they probably still would gender the musicians in different ways, I don't think they would call, for example Beyoncé 'he'.
But yeah, they definitely messed up with noah. At least they corrected it for the most part.
Is it possible that they thought Noah was MTF?
@@robertkirchner7981That's what I was thinking too. Maybe they thought Noah was just starting the transition and is MtF.
But there is? German has a nonbinary singular pronoun. It’s xier. There’s even a different ending for words like singer
Ex: teacher is Lehrer*in instead of Lehrer or Lehrerin
Ya know, as a 65 yr old Southern US boy, I get that sometimes you forget people's pronouns. Accidents happen. But let's face it, if someone consistently calls you by the wrong gender, then they're letting you know they're an idiot, and not really worth spending much time or energy on. It's likely they're not even aware how much they've made it clear their opinions really don't matter.
Oh yes, and happy TRANS day, Noah.
Southern US?!? I live in the south of the US and I’m queer, and it’s wonderful to know that not everyone here is hateful 😭🤍🤍
You know that Noah is female, though, don't you?
@@omp199 I was under the impression Noah was a trans boy. He was just born with the wrong genitals, is all.
@@Cabin7_officialget tf out
As a non binary person ive been misgendered before (like 1000+ times) but i never really care bc 1. They usually dont care what my gender is. 2. I have anxiety about correcting people.
I've recently had a friend of mine come out as non-binary and I've made a conscious effort to say they/them instead of he/him. They've said how happy it makes them feel whenever people use they/them, so I make extra sure to use they/them. There's people out there who will care. Why am I saying all this? To basically say: There'll be people who care. Try your very best to correct them anyway. If they some stupid stuff about how you can't not have a gender, tell them to study up on biology.
Dunno why I just came on with this random rant, but I guess it just kinda bursted out of me.
Giving people the benefit of the doubt on everything is such an autism thing, everyone misunderstands us and we know how bad it feels so we give everyone too much leniency.
greetings from germany, i hope you'll play a show here someday soon despite this! lmaoo
my farts are better than Noah’s farts 💨
Yesss we need him in Germany!!
Omg yes
I've been deliberately misgendered by a psychotherapist. More recently, when I called in to establish my place in my surgical clinic's list for vaginoplasty, the answering service literally deadnamed me, in spite of the fact that my legal name change was completed more than 8 months prior to my referral going in to the surgical clinic. There is literally no reason for the surgical clinic (or their phone service) to even know my deadname, much less use it.
It really is something that happens to literally 100% of us. It's especially annoying when someone is clearly going out of their way to do it deliberately. Scumbags, indeed.
I’m sorry you had to experience that, I don’t know why ppl make being trans a big deal when it comes to the media. It is just an identity that makes a person comfortable. I hope you’re doing well, don’t let this bring you down you are valid, loves, and seen ❤
my farts are better than Noah’s farts 💨
@@p-__huh?! 💀
I’m german and can say I love you and your music
My farts are better than Noah’s farts
@@p-__wtf
As a cis male, I have been misgendered. Not maliciously, but as a child I was occasionally mistaken as a girl. Idk if I "carried myself" a certain way. Happily, I started sprouting a thick beard at 13-14--which, in hindsight, was a gender-affirming experience for me. And a little surprising for the family, since my dad and brother were not like that.
I appreciate when cis people adopt language that helps to describe your own experience with gender. This kind of stuff shouldn’t be scary or shameful to talk about.
Your maleness is your sex, not your gender. Someone getting your sex wrong is not "misgendering" you. They are simply getting your sex wrong. When you grew a beard, it did not "affirm your gender". It simply meant that you were undergoing normal male development. If you were happy about it, that just meant that you were comfortable being male. Hope that helps!
@@CactusMuffin Thanks! It’s interesting that I got two opposing replies. I’d like to add that I, personally, try never to correct others on what they felt, especially when I wasn’t there.
There may be an argument that “misgendering” isn’t the best word for my experience. Out of respect for trans folks, I’ve been hesitant to describe it as such before. But I was responding directly to Noah’s question.
Also, I do think many queer people, trans or cis, deal with what I’d call gender insecurity or doubt. Traditionally, being a man implies being attracted to women and vice versa. As soon as you break that norm, the “validity” of your gender expression, if not your identity, is questioned. Some people may respond to social pressure by overcompensating or leaning into a stereotype.
I don’t want to police anyone’s personal expression. I just look for the feeling of genuinely connecting.
It kinda hurts more being misgendered by someone who just got it wrong than it is to be misgendered by someone who is just doing it to be a bad person, in my opinion
I feel the same. When someone does it intentionally, that's about them and who they are as a person. When someone does it accidentally, it feels like it's about me and how I am perceived/ how I look (even if I know that's not always the reason).
(Well, less so now. It's rare I get misgendered these days, and I've had quite a few years to get to grips with my dysphoria).
Its absolutely the other way around for me. If someone does it on purpose it signals to me that they wish me harm and ultimately dont want me to excist. It causes massive angciety and then because I have to surpress my feelings and be all "civil" and "a good representative" and also because it usually happens at work or when im with my kid (because im always either at work or with my kid) it just turns inwards and becomes depression. Honesty i need help, how do you get to a point when it legitimately doesnt effect you?
@@Sam..123 I totally get that and I also feel that way, but the way I look at it is that if they’re doing it on purpose they’re just a terrible person, if they do it on accident it feels more like I genuinely dont pass at all and that causes massive dysphoria for me. Im sorry you feel that way tho, it really sucks, I hope you get to a point where it doesn’t bother you
@Sam..123 it can be incredibly difficult to get to the point where you don't care what other people think of you; I think it's an empathy thing. but you have to remember, those people amount to nothing in your life. they're obnoxious and spiteful, but they have no power over you. regardless of their wishes, they can't make you disappear. and it says nothing about you - you're fine, just living your life being a decent person; it's them that's so dissatisfied with some aspect of their life or self that they feel the need to attack those they don't understand. it's pathetic, but it's entirely their problem, and it's not really you they hate; it's something deeper on their end and they're just taking it out on you. but they'll be out of your hair in a few minutes.
basically it just takes a lot of time and practice, but I can tell you internalizing it definitely won't get you there. I'm a visual person, so I think of it like batting a way a fly, or putting up a shield for the comment to ping off of before it really hits. water rolling off the back of a duck. you have a kid, I don't, but I at least was one so maybe you're familiar with this experience: does your kid ever throw a tantrum or get fixated on making a certain sound over and over? you've probably learned to tune it out to the point where it doesn't drive you crazy, right? you might be able to employ the same tactics.
NEW NAME DROPPED🔥🔥🔥
#norahfinnce
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NoahFinnce/Norah Jones collab????
As a German, I love this album so much I can’t describe it please play a show in Germany in the future?
Noah ... as to your comment about men not having feelings, this is essential for "passing", even more than facial hair! If feelings do, by some misadventure, arise, they must be repressed, tamped down unmercifully, until the only trace of them is an odiferous hint wafting across the overall bitterness and world-loathing of one's soul!
Look forward to seeing you in Chicago.
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You forgot anger, lust, and arrogance. The only acceptable emotions for real men.
As someone who uses He/They pronouns, I get annoyed one someone exclusively used they/them pronouns for me. It always makes me feel like they don't really see me as a real guy and only use they/them so they aren't misgendering me. It's only towards the people who know me and know I'm trans, and yet never call me a guy, never refer to me with he/him pronouns.
I haven't told anyone, but I would also like he/they pronouns, however, I'd be more annoyed by only being called he/him. Basically for the same reason actually, just the other way around.
Sadly, my language (German) does not have an equivalent for "they". Quite ironic twist ending to this comment.
yeah I know what you mean. but ask yourself if maybe you would prefer to use only he/him pronouns!
@@SpecialBlanket I don't mind they/them, I prefer he/him but personally neither one bother me unless they/them are overused
So you get annoyed when people use your chosen pronouns?
I know it’s late by 4 months. But I’m so fucking glad I just realised that you did a colaborar with the rare Americans. They’re one of my favourite bands.
The important question is: does this increase or decrease our chances of you ever playing a show in Germany in the future????
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Fr, I wish he'd play a show in germany
A show in Germany would be amazing
Thank you mr Finnce for saving my evening!
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I just saw you in Toronto! It was fantastic 🔥🔥🔥
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As a (slightly questioning?) cis female, I've been he/himmed at Texas Roadhouse twice
which isn't a lot but it's weird that it happened twice
Since you are female, a person who thinks you are male is simply getting your sex wrong. I think that the question of whether or not you are upset by people getting your sex wrong is a question of how much you value truth and honesty.
@@omp199 I wasn't mad, if that's what I sounded like. I just think it's funny that it happens often enough that Texas Roadhouse of all places is the most frequent offender
honestly I got misgendered recently and I'm a cis man lmao, just cuz my hair's long and I was wearing it in a ponytail kinda thing.
Dude I used to watch your videos around 4 or 5 years ago and randomly remembered you today and looked you up. I'm so glad I did cause I ended up listening to your new album and I can't get enough of it. Freaking insane Noah you absolute legend. Alexiythmia and I know Better are my favs btw, gg mate
My favourite things about this video:
1. Noah’s shirt
2. The lil ✨ noise every time the ally fist comes up ✊🏻
3. Idk I just loved the video
Also have a great time on tour Noah!! So happy for you ❤
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Ya the ally fist pump bedazzle thing was cool 😎
OMG your Atlanta show was honestly the best thing I’ve ever seen! Happy trans visibility Mr Finnce 💖
Sorry they did that to you as you have a kind heart big hug best wishes to you on your US tour
It’s nice to see that by now thy corrected their mistakes… idk how that might have happened because Noah is a common name for males here… 8:39 yeah the German language doesn‘t really have a really fitting pronoun that is equivalent to the English „they“… you could use ihnen but in our language it is use only to describe a group of people, therefore can’t be used like the English they. Some enbys use dey/ deynen wich are neopronouns that can be compared to they/them. To my knowledge not many people use these, but rather use the literal they/them in the German language if they want to use any at all… Reason for this is that the German language is a d*** (yep I don’t like my mother tongue). Also these neo pronouns are not common /wildly known amongst the German population.
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Happy day of trans visibility Noah, I was at the concert last night and I had so much fun, it was incredible!! (I was the little guy with the trans and bi flags lol) 🔥
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@@p-__stop it
omg i was there too :D
@@0llie._. omg thats awesome lol!
Noah you rock ❤
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YIPPEE THE ICONIC DUDE POSTED
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@@p-__ im sorry what the fuck
Heyyyyyyyy! Your songs are super fun and vibey. Have a good day
I gasped and dropped everything I was doin when I got this notif bc I’m still ill
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I love your videos. they taught me more english than my teachers could in about 7 years.
(I live in the Netherlands)
Happy trans day of visibility everyone!! ❤🎉🌈✨🏳️🌈
Omg I’m here before 1k views :0
I’m so excited to see your show in Seattle next week
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I love your videos and music very much and it’s very inspiring to see such an out and proud trans man!
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I love your beard and facial hair so much Noah it really slays ✨
Love from Berlin! ❤
I must say (not excusing it bc it would be unprofessional af anyway even in that case) that I have misgendered myself in German due to forgetting certain German words and pronouns get gendered and completely missing them when reviewing paragraphs written by chatgpt. 🙃
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I get misgendered all the time, but as a cis lesbian, it obviously doesn't affect me as much as it does trans people who are concerned about passing. Most of the time I find it funny and am shocked about how much better someone who appears to be a cis man gets treated by other cis men, especially middle aged ones.
What a coincidence most people think I'm a lesbian. I'm actually a trans masc gay dude but here we are lol.
I JUST WENT TO YOUR SHOW IN FORT WORTH TX IT WAS SO AMAZING I HAD SOMUCH FUN IT WAS AND AMAZING FIRST CONCERT EXPERIENCE FOR ME
I am willing to put money down that the review was written by AI and was not checked for errors
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Hey dude! Love your new songs! Have a good day!
That article sounds like someone went to ChatGPT and was like "write a review of [insert album title here]" and hit publish without even looking at it lol
Funny enough, for a while my official student records had me down as Male, so every time we took a standardized test I had to raise my hand when the teacher asked if there were any mistakes on the filled out portion. I have a very feminine first name so it made everyone laugh. Probably an early sign I was nonbinary was that I was less concerned about fixing it and more annoyed that I had to bring attention to myself in the first place.
You're amazing Noah 🖤🩶
Best wishes for the tour!
Hope you don't get hassled by maniacs...
Travel safe!
When i was playing minecraft a guy tried to deadname me with a feminine version of my chosen name 🤣. My deadname couldnt be more different from my chosen name or the feminine version of it ( which is actually impossible to acidentally do cause the feminine version is very different)
I’m not trans and I get misgendered all of the time. If a woman calls me “Sir” I say: “and thank you too sir!” If they correct me, I say: “oh, it’s okay. I don’t do that preferred pronoun thing. Have a nice day sir.” 😂
love when my favourite trans guy uploads on trans visibility day
I just want to say I really appreciate your videos.❤ You make me feel so much better about myself because I can’t talk to my parents about my sexuality and gender. I hope you keep making videos indefinitely!
"Singer-Songwritress" lmao Yeah, being trans in Germany can be pretty exhausting, because since every word is gendered essentially every word can be used for misgendering. So everything that could be shrugged off as a mild slip-up in English is probably going to out you
I'm surprised they apparently chose to use mixed pronouns, otherwise they just didn't check over their writing even once..
I have one of Noah’s songs stuck in my head while watching this video
Please come to Germany one day and do a concert there despite this weird review 😅🥺
i’ve just come to terms with the fact that i’m transmasc after struggling with my gender for years. of course i’m not transitioned yet, or even out yet because i’m not in the space to. it’s really hard to come to terms with this and i’m struggling, but finding your channel is making things a lot easier and making it seem like things won’t be that bad. thank you
I know this is not nearly comparable, but when I was a boy and I called some store on the phone they'd think I was a girl. I remember I how I felt, definitely moody about it, and though I'm not trans I think I know what you mean and how you feel about it.
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@p-__ yeah, everyone's farts are better. When Olympic games fart competition fires up well meet and represent our contiee.
@@victorjason2558 It is understandable to be annoyed by people getting your sex wrong. People who get annoyed by people getting their sex _right_ are experiencing a completely different thing from what you experienced at people getting your sex _wrong._
@@omp199cry more about it hes a man 😂😂😂 ur god is a hallucination
@@omp199shut up bigot (at least I hope I didn’t read your comment wrong)
I was so happy to meet you Noah in San Antonio!
Really glad that you liked the bunny stuffy I made, and the thing around it is a bracelet reminded me of you so I got it!
As non-binary/multi-gender who uses all pronouns, Id like to rectify the meaning of "they/them" as usually used to refer to someone whose gender is unknown. It does not always imply someone's gender identity, quite the contrary in fact: you also use it when you dont know what the gender is.
Regular reminder that you're all awesome, beautiful and valid, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Love you all ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
I mean i am a cis man im big and hairy but i have long hair witch has lead to a number of time where someone talking to they kids has said 'give the money to the woman' and then look up over the counter at my massive beard, it why i laugh when they say they can always tell because from my experience long hair is enough to confuse a fair few people.
I found you’re channel last night and I love you channel I’ve non stoped watched it
(as a german, i loved your album)
Same :3
Agreed. Wish he would do shows in Germany
@@TheFinnDude sameeeee
@@dontjayjayme it’s great seeing other Germans liking the same musicians and things like I do. It often feels like I’m the only one 😅
@@TheFinnDude feel you, but you're not alone!!
Legend love u bro
Actually actress isn't--or shouldn't--be used anymore. People who act, regardless of gender (or lack thereof) are actors.
New video!
ps love you noah
(platonically)
Question kinda related to the video I’ve been thinking about a lot. How did you handle misgendering consistently at the beginning of your transition, and how would you suggest someone helps when a trans person is insecure about it?
as a german, we do not claim this article
HAPPY TRANS VISIBILITY DAY NOAH! IM HAPPY WE’RE FINALLY VISABLE😝
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@@p-__Okay lil bro, let's test that
No
You’ve been visible. The world bends over backwards for you
@@rhymerlegend2717 tf ?..
Don’t be shy tell us where you got that lovely shirt 😭😭✨✨
I’ve said it hundreds of times, (I said it just yesterday) and I’ll say it hundreds of times more; ‘journalistic integrity’ is an oxymoron.
It seems likely that the review was written at least in a large part by AI. AI is notoriously bad when it comes to gender nonconforming stuff and minorities in general.
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NOAHFINNCE post 🎉🎉🎉
just saw you in san antonio!! gosh it was so cool
HEY NOAH! i'm going to your concert legit today. i'm actually gonna see you at VIP in 2 hours! 💀
currently from Fort Worth, TX 🤘
Have fun 😁
@@chuuislovechuuislife thx
You are probably my favorite trans singer/youtuber ❤
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Same
@@p-__ ⁉️
Love you Noah. Love from Connecticut, USA.
My friend had a German article about him, where they misgendered him. And he's not trans.
Maybe it's the same magazine 🤔
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LOVE U NOAH ❤❤❤
Hey Noah, my mom reads this magazine and told me about it, I read the article on the website and you're still misgendered once in the first paragraph. As a German , I'm very sorry for the anti LGBTQ+ politics. Happy Trans day of Visibility! 🏳️⚧️
As a nonbinary,
I used to think i was trans FTM in the past because "if im not a girl- i have to be a boy!-... right?" Wrong. I just didnt know what nonbinary is. The misgendering is delicious to consume 😅
I can’t wait to see you at your show my mom got me tickets so i can go in more front of it i love your vids
As a trans person and a singer you are my icon
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HAPPY TDOV!!!!!❤❤
Sometimes people really just make you go, "HUH?!" 😂 Anyway, love you noahfinnce and continue to always but your goofy self ❤👍
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I've been misgendered because people apparently assume only men can say "dude" and "bro"
People also see me irl sometimes and go "you're trans aren't you???" No...? I'm cis? Then they get pissy when I say I'm cis and yell that I got surgeries because "no girl can have your ass/hips/boobs"
I've been mistaken for a transgender about 4 times *just because i have long hair doesn't mean I'm transgender* 😭
P.S i love trans people and hait when people are horrible to them
I've always thought that "they/them" was the safest option when a person still hasn't told you their pronouns. Is it rude?
(Edit: this is a genuine question. I'm currently using "he/they" and I'm slooowly testing waters with how I feel with "he/him" only, and other people I know said they prefer the neutral when talking with someone new)
i agree, they/them is neutral and always works! but if someone has told you their pronouns and you never use them and always use they/them it can come across as rude
@@ate_a_radio thank you! I do make sure to use the correct pronouns once I know them. Noah talking about the "they/them" matter got me worrying for a while, but now it's clearer :)
I'm a trans guy and i just found out I was born on trans visibility day lol🤗‼️
Foreshadowing… 😭
Loved the new album Noah!!! It’s been on repeat frr
WHOS EXCITED FOR NOAHS TOUR!!!!!
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Yeah but I can’t go 😢
I’m not even trans and I used to get misgendered working at drive thru windows 😅 they always thought I had a female voice 🤷🏾♂️
I met you in Nottingham a few weeks ago and it was great but there was a bald security guard who kept calling me and my 2 friends ladies even though we didn't look like girls. Hope you liked the jumping frogs noah!
I'm gonna be an optimist and say that maybe they thought you were a trans woman instead? that is the usual assumption cis people make when they hear that someone is trans so maybe they just got confused and were trying to gender you correctly but did it wrong.
I BOLTED to my computer to see abt tickets when I saw you were touring near me XD
I got my tour shirt on rn 💪🏻😎