Thank you Dr. Honda for all the effort that goes into the podcast! I love listening to the podcast. It's amazing I learn so much ! Have a great day if you see this!!!!
I would love to hear more about the body size memory. My brother was 1 year older than me, but very small and thin because he was ill, meanwhile I was average, a little on the heavy side, and had about a foot height on him. I'm 48 now and no matter what I look like, I see myself as this freakish giant. In my 20s I was tiny, but never felt that way. I am heavy now, and still imagine I am much bigger than I am. Its messed up.
I feel like it was super brave of you to conduct an extemporaneous session with a method in which you don't feel confident. I think you're leading by example to those of us who are afraid of taking risks. You're doing good work, sir. Also, to demonstrate the leading the patient to water and having them get their own drink- Rabbis, specifically the honorable Rabbi Stuart Dauermann, have centuries of solving social issues using that method, as cultural norm. I'm also medicated on something right now, and I'm pretty sure this paragraph was when it hit. Yup.
52:13 Even if you reward children with praise and attention, the model of action and reward is controlling and harmful. I realized this while reading chapter 2 of Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. While children may be more likely to perform behaviours when rewarded with praise and attention, this pattern is also associated with problems later in life. If they only receive love based on certain actions, they can internalize a message that they only have value when they act a certain way. In a way, love and attention are being used as a reward that not only distracts the child from the intrinsic rewards of good choices, but also says they have no intrinsic worth. The takeaway is that trying to control a child's behaviour doesn't turn them into a good and happy person. Children need love and attention whether they do well or not.
Thank you for this. I have been having some major anger management issues as of recent years to the point of almost hurt myself physically sometimes and I plan on seeing a on therapist soon about it-but for now-I have to rely on sources like this until I can find a permanent therapist.
Swedes often make a similar breathing sound when they're following a conversation, most commonly in certain areas of the North, and it basically is a version of the word "ja" (yes). So interesting to hear some Eastern Africans do too.
I agree that Korean does sound like a very dramatic language. Maybe that's part of why Korean dramas are so intriguing and popular! Japanese language, to me as a native English speaker is like (please forgive the western bias) the German of "the east" (well, east to the U.S.). I can really hear the emphasis on consonants, and it sounds more stern. I really wish I could hear what English sounds like to non English speakers. With its Latin and Germanic roots, I wonder if it sounds like a blend of Spanish and German? Btw, you guys are hilarious when you imitate the cartoon racist version of your own stereotypes. I wish white American men did that more often, or at all really. Maybe there wouldn't be so many mass shootings.
I can really relate to that when I I hear Asian Americans talk in their native laungages something about their laungage makes me think that there is some drama going on or they are arguing. But their facial expression do not display that so I know they aren't lol
14:00 Given that I'm a fairly tall half-Japanese half-white-ish person, it's interesting that my experience of height and body size was totally different to Kirk's. I was severely underweight and extremely short until I was 15 and was also bullied a bunch for a variety of reasons, at least one of which was a lack of coordination. No one really noticed when I shot up to around 6'3"-ish (tinder height) because a couple of other people in my class were even taller. I still periodically think of myself as short or average height, but less so now.
Actually I don't think people here express themselves much here (I've been living in Japan for 10 years.) Chastising might be the common way of expressing anger.
Psychology In Seattle There's always exceptions to the rule but outward bursts of anger are quite rare that I've noticed. But even just displeasure is hard to express, for me too.
Nooooo sorry in Canada we don’t talk like we’re asking a question. Although I have heard younger people both Canadian and Americans speaking that way....perhaps it’s more of a generational thing...🤔🤔🤔
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Yt suggested me this episode. What a treat to hear your conversation way back when!
Thank you Dr. Honda for all the effort that goes into the podcast! I love listening to the podcast. It's amazing I learn so much ! Have a great day if you see this!!!!
I would love to hear more about the body size memory. My brother was 1 year older than me, but very small and thin because he was ill, meanwhile I was average, a little on the heavy side, and had about a foot height on him. I'm 48 now and no matter what I look like, I see myself as this freakish giant. In my 20s I was tiny, but never felt that way. I am heavy now, and still imagine I am much bigger than I am. Its messed up.
I feel like it was super brave of you to conduct an extemporaneous session with a method in which you don't feel confident. I think you're leading by example to those of us who are afraid of taking risks. You're doing good work, sir.
Also, to demonstrate the leading the patient to water and having them get their own drink- Rabbis, specifically the honorable Rabbi Stuart Dauermann, have centuries of solving social issues using that method, as cultural norm. I'm also medicated on something right now, and I'm pretty sure this paragraph was when it hit.
Yup.
52:13
Even if you reward children with praise and attention, the model of action and reward is controlling and harmful. I realized this while reading chapter 2 of Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn.
While children may be more likely to perform behaviours when rewarded with praise and attention, this pattern is also associated with problems later in life. If they only receive love based on certain actions, they can internalize a message that they only have value when they act a certain way. In a way, love and attention are being used as a reward that not only distracts the child from the intrinsic rewards of good choices, but also says they have no intrinsic worth.
The takeaway is that trying to control a child's behaviour doesn't turn them into a good and happy person. Children need love and attention whether they do well or not.
Thank you for this. I have been having some major anger management issues as of recent years to the point of almost hurt myself physically sometimes and I plan on seeing a on therapist soon about it-but for now-I have to rely on sources like this until I can find a permanent therapist.
Swedes often make a similar breathing sound when they're following a conversation, most commonly in certain areas of the North, and it basically is a version of the word "ja" (yes). So interesting to hear some Eastern Africans do too.
I agree that Korean does sound like a very dramatic language. Maybe that's part of why Korean dramas are so intriguing and popular!
Japanese language, to me as a native English speaker is like (please forgive the western bias) the German of "the east" (well, east to the U.S.). I can really hear the emphasis on consonants, and it sounds more stern.
I really wish I could hear what English sounds like to non English speakers. With its Latin and Germanic roots, I wonder if it sounds like a blend of Spanish and German?
Btw, you guys are hilarious when you imitate the cartoon racist version of your own stereotypes. I wish white American men did that more often, or at all really. Maybe there wouldn't be so many mass shootings.
Was dying at the Japanese imitations 😂
I can really relate to that when I I hear Asian Americans talk in their native laungages something about their laungage makes me think that there is some drama going on or they are arguing. But their facial expression do not display that so I know they aren't lol
14:00 Given that I'm a fairly tall half-Japanese half-white-ish person, it's interesting that my experience of height and body size was totally different to Kirk's. I was severely underweight and extremely short until I was 15 and was also bullied a bunch for a variety of reasons, at least one of which was a lack of coordination. No one really noticed when I shot up to around 6'3"-ish (tinder height) because a couple of other people in my class were even taller. I still periodically think of myself as short or average height, but less so now.
"(tinder height)" haha
Actually I don't think people here express themselves much here (I've been living in Japan for 10 years.) Chastising might be the common way of expressing anger.
XieYali Yeah, I agree.
Psychology In Seattle
There's always exceptions to the rule but outward bursts of anger are quite rare that I've noticed. But even just displeasure is hard to express, for me too.
As someone who grew up with an Easter African mother this was hilarious. 6:46
Nooooo sorry in Canada we don’t talk like we’re asking a question. Although I have heard younger people both Canadian and Americans speaking that way....perhaps it’s more of a generational thing...🤔🤔🤔
You do, however, apologize A LOT.
@@asho345 Sorry 😉😉😉
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One word DIET.