Everyone was wrong in the second story, except the dad. He moved on, and now people want him to just go right back? Also what a bunch of hypocrites, redditirs are the first to say "forgiveness doesn't mean you have to give them a relationship". I believe he did forgive him, but he's moved on. You don't get to cut someone off for years, then decide "oh now I'm ready for a relationship". Sorry, that ship has sailed.
We live in a free country. If the son wanted to maintain no contact, everyone would say how brave he is. No. No. No, cut me off and find out. Yes, life is too short to tolerate the bad marriage and a disrespectful son. Actions have consequences. I don't agree with it, but it is his choice. Full stop!
Totally agree, the 'son' didn't have a kid and rethink his life more like not being able to sleep with his wife due to the pregnancy and realizing he agrees with his father. The new wife should also stay in her lane; the utter contempt she's shown for personal boundaries is divorce worthy.
Imagine calling your ex after a decade to tell them that your fiancee is pregnant. That sounds like something a spiteful person would do. Ops fiancee didnt contact ex to brag either. What the actual hell is going through that wifes head.
It means he moved on and she's really not important to be center stage in his thoughts, meaning he doesn't regret leaving her. She wanted him to suffer and feel like she was the most important thing that ever happened to him. It's not that she wants him back, she wants him to suffer and miss her. It's her ego.
"Am I the idiot for not letting my family know I have money so they won't bother me", hell no. If you let it get out you'd have people who didn't acknowledge your existence suddenly getting close and asking for money, relatives who haven't contacted you in years calling you to say they demand a new car, and yes I said demand because some of those people will claim they have the right to demand because they are family even if they've never bothered with you. And don't fall into the trap of thinking you need to fund the education of every kid related to you, that is not your responsibility, that falls on their parent. If you really want to do something, always do it in secret, never tell the parents as they will either try to take those funds for themselves or demand more. And note I say demand not ask because often that's what people do because they feel entitled. Look at the people in this story, relatives have the gall to ask for money from retired people because they themselves made poor life choices.
Story 1: NTA, the moment Carly became OP's ex wife, OP's life stopped being any of her business.
Everyone was wrong in the second story, except the dad. He moved on, and now people want him to just go right back? Also what a bunch of hypocrites, redditirs are the first to say "forgiveness doesn't mean you have to give them a relationship". I believe he did forgive him, but he's moved on. You don't get to cut someone off for years, then decide "oh now I'm ready for a relationship". Sorry, that ship has sailed.
We live in a free country. If the son wanted to maintain no contact, everyone would say how brave he is. No. No. No, cut me off and find out. Yes, life is too short to tolerate the bad marriage and a disrespectful son. Actions have consequences. I don't agree with it, but it is his choice. Full stop!
Totally agree, the 'son' didn't have a kid and rethink his life more like not being able to sleep with his wife due to the pregnancy and realizing he agrees with his father.
The new wife should also stay in her lane; the utter contempt she's shown for personal boundaries is divorce worthy.
Story 1: none of ex’s business, and if he had called her, she and her flying monkeys would have trashed him for rubbing it in.
Imagine calling your ex after a decade to tell them that your fiancee is pregnant. That sounds like something a spiteful person would do. Ops fiancee didnt contact ex to brag either. What the actual hell is going through that wifes head.
It means he moved on and she's really not important to be center stage in his thoughts, meaning he doesn't regret leaving her. She wanted him to suffer and feel like she was the most important thing that ever happened to him. It's not that she wants him back, she wants him to suffer and miss her.
It's her ego.
Story 1: is it possible wife took contraceptives to prevent pregnancy?
That ain’t worth nothing, and mommy dearest probably got less than 20 years to go. Not worth any stress!!!
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"Am I the idiot for not letting my family know I have money so they won't bother me", hell no. If you let it get out you'd have people who didn't acknowledge your existence suddenly getting close and asking for money, relatives who haven't contacted you in years calling you to say they demand a new car, and yes I said demand because some of those people will claim they have the right to demand because they are family even if they've never bothered with you. And don't fall into the trap of thinking you need to fund the education of every kid related to you, that is not your responsibility, that falls on their parent. If you really want to do something, always do it in secret, never tell the parents as they will either try to take those funds for themselves or demand more. And note I say demand not ask because often that's what people do because they feel entitled. Look at the people in this story, relatives have the gall to ask for money from retired people because they themselves made poor life choices.
This guy is 40 and still ask strangers this stupid question?
There are a lot of dummies out there that age doing the same on this site. Asking things that any rational person would find oblivious.
Its Reddit so the story is either fake or the guy has more soy than testosterone.