How to deal with people who hurt you

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  • In this video Rabbi Jacobson shares a life changing lesson from the Bible story of Joseph and his brothers about who to handle people who betrayed you.
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  • @justice8563
    @justice8563 ปีที่แล้ว +152

    What amazes me is that those who betray and abuse you, expect that you will be okay with it, and remain silent.

    • @williammwine6369
      @williammwine6369 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Heal brother

    • @saraswatisky3119
      @saraswatisky3119 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lol yeah

    • @elisekrentzel27
      @elisekrentzel27 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      They do not expect that. You expect them to repent or feel remorse. But it’s all about our response-ability. Hard as it is to admit we attract everything we experience.

    • @TheNotsoignorant
      @TheNotsoignorant ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Later on, if your abuser/betrayer develops self-awareness, they will realize how mature and self-controlled you were by not looking for revenge or for their humiliation. It is called grace because you show it even to those who don't deserve it. Showing grace is how we can be the best we can be.

    • @AnxiousCowboy
      @AnxiousCowboy ปีที่แล้ว +3

      please one story that bothers me that i cannot wrap my head around... After jacob and his children convinced an entire city to circumcise their boys, they slaughtered all of the city's men. They then fled and this is when Jacob claimed to have fought an angel, got his hip dislocated, and changed his name to Israel thereafter. It sounds to me like they wronged and entire city, realized what atrocities they commited, tried to flee, got beaten up by "an angel" (i doubt this as this rate), and then changed his name (probably to hide since they wronged and entire city). How is this justified? how is this not judged? This is the grandson of Abraham who mutilated and slaughter these people? and changed his name and fled? please help me make sense of this passage.

  • @yourpetyourway
    @yourpetyourway ปีที่แล้ว +201

    Family betrayal isn't something to embrace, its something to end.

    • @kameronfink1627
      @kameronfink1627 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I agree!!

    • @ameliagraham7284
      @ameliagraham7284 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Absolutely agree!

    • @jackdolphy8965
      @jackdolphy8965 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Depends on how you end it, and on what you are left with (what you have left yourself with), no?

    • @yourpetyourway
      @yourpetyourway ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@jackdolphy8965 I'm living it and. have done so since the day I was born. Enough is enough so the answer to your question is that family betrayal needs to be stopped in its tracks and STILL takes a couple of generations to get right-side up.

    • @Gemmarose9012
      @Gemmarose9012 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Agreed, I walked away.

  • @jessicasprague6128
    @jessicasprague6128 ปีที่แล้ว +196

    It's important to recognize that people that hurt us, are also not good for us. We move on and evolve from these experiences. Heart break and hurt makes you stronger but when you are vulnerable and attacked by narcissists it is very painful. Anyone going through this remember family is blood but you can find your own people..

    • @christineribone9351
      @christineribone9351 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      BS. Stop repeating mindless BS. It NEVER makes anyone 'stronger'. It's a deep scar that always remains. FOREVER!!

    • @donnapierangeli6216
      @donnapierangeli6216 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      This is so true. Just because someone is family doesn't mean you have to continue to be hurt by them. Confront them and tell them how they hurt you. If it continues move on and find new friends. Ask God to handpick your new friends or partner or spouse for you. Pray for those who persecute you or hurt you as Jesus taught.

    • @christineribone9351
      @christineribone9351 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@donnapierangeli6216 your god handpicked the first abusive family he stuck you in. Don't trust him again.

    • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152
      @quantumfineartsandfossils2152 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes :)

    • @mandyjames8211
      @mandyjames8211 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@christineribone9351 I believe we choose our lives. You're right about the scars but the life learning is there once we get through it. Much love ❤️

  • @mikebrody6985
    @mikebrody6985 ปีที่แล้ว +241

    Refuse to be a victim or or a victim in waiting EXACTLY. MY mother threw me away at age 5. From that day foreword I refused to be a victim ever again -- once old enuff. My whole life has been a struggle to be better. Kinder. Merciful. Wise GENEROUS. An all around better human being. I've been lied 2 and stolen from anyone -- everyone. But you see my God is very merciful and wise. Generous too he's given me the capacity to live to love. To share. To learn and to teach. My mother abandoning myself and brother and sister -- WAS ONE OF THE BEST THINGS THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME IN MY LIFE ??? IT GAVE ME THE CAPACITY to walk 1000 Mike's in ANYONES SHOES. OR BAREFOOT OR LEGLESS. one cannot love and hate at the same time ?? Yes or no. So if one chooses to love he CAN NEVER HATE ??? I REFUSE. NOBODY WILL EVER MAKE ME A VICTIM AGAIN. MY GOD WILL NOT NOT ALLOW IT. BE BETTER IN LIFE -- BE BIGGER. WALK IN THE WAY OF GOD. .......shalom

    • @MalikaIC
      @MalikaIC ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Would like to add to your power and wonderful testimony...Let abused humans never ever depend on the apologizes of the abusers and or betrayers to heal, be free and fulfilled...That is saying they have the power and the qualities for victims to be free.....God is our life and thus our freedom and our healer..

    • @MayimHastings
      @MayimHastings ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Ameen! You are such an incredible human - yes, with HaShem's Grace, but also your own strength, grit, faith and love. I'm proud of you, and i pray you have someone in your life that tells you that often. Shalom ❤️🙏🕊

    • @MayimHastings
      @MayimHastings ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@MalikaICYes! I was an incredibly angry teen because of all my Dad's... Well, i won't get into that lol. But i felt like it was right that i be so enraged and for years i sought an apology. I never got it because he just continued gaslighting me. It's strange to now have a decently close relationship when he's still trying to mess with my life. Emphasis on trying, because i know to protect myself. But he does need me, and provided i keep those boundaries up, and remember who G-d created me to be, all will be okay. I no longer need an apology. I will say, though, that i take great joy in being the calm, logical one in the relationship, because nothing makes him angrier than that lol. Anyway, sorry for the ramble. Shalom! ❤️🙏🕊

    • @doloresparsons1552
      @doloresparsons1552 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      It’s such a simple concept: remember how you felt when you were injured and don’t do it to anyone else. So why is it so difficult to live this lesson? It’s another variation on the Golden Rule. So hard to shape our lives around it! But you grasped it. God bless you.

    • @jefferystocker8214
      @jefferystocker8214 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Wow! You have made me a better person, thank you for inspiring. Never Surrender!!!

  • @4svjetla
    @4svjetla ปีที่แล้ว +212

    I am Christian, but listening to this wise Rabbi

    • @Raminakai
      @Raminakai ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Our Jewish family has so much to share with us about Hashem.
      These Jacobson brothers are full of insight into Yeshua, YHVH
      May they, their families and Israel be blessed and prayed for often.
      🙏🕯

    • @keplermission4947
      @keplermission4947 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He's good in this talk, but in earlier ones, waffles and digresses. Is he getting better? A leopard can't change its spots.

    • @susanhafferkamp4325
      @susanhafferkamp4325 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Me, too!

    • @debbiesue1970
      @debbiesue1970 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      me to

    • @plentinough7222
      @plentinough7222 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@keplermission4947 this is their behavior, they can certainly tighten up presentation. And yes, he’s better as have currently just started to listen to his new recordings.

  • @Ahmedadelel
    @Ahmedadelel ปีที่แล้ว +92

    I am Muslim and I enjoy your lectures very much. Keep it up!

    • @minomokwa744
      @minomokwa744 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Very much agree !

    • @arlenehutchinson9259
      @arlenehutchinson9259 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Is there an equivalent Muslim channel that you would recommend i love learning

    • @Ahmedadelel
      @Ahmedadelel ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@arlenehutchinson9259 ehm not that I know of, i am unorthodox, (quranist). So I have a very private relationship with God through studying Islam, specifically the Quran. I don't follow any clergymen. I like Simmons because it's not so much religion, but rather life advice. With lots of philosophy and logic. No dogma. I really dig it. If I find a Muslim philoslpher who does the same, I will update you. I am sure there are plenty

    • @soniyazahid1679
      @soniyazahid1679 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So do I!

    • @tamararutland-mills9530
      @tamararutland-mills9530 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sending ❤to you, brother.

  • @OneUpReads
    @OneUpReads ปีที่แล้ว +21

    "your sense of self, and dignity is not lost because 'they' were never the ones to give it to you". Beautifully said and a reminder that I will carry with me. Sometimes you need to hear hard truths because we can easily get caught up in the emotional response. The trick, as you said, is to remain unshaken, and faith enables us to transcend and see beyond our limited scope of reality. Powerful messages. Thank you!

  • @PianoMatronNeeNee
    @PianoMatronNeeNee ปีที่แล้ว +55

    I’ve found what helps me is never feel sorry for yourself and NEVER take things personally. Thanks Rabbi for all the meaningful lessons.

    • @jdlc903
      @jdlc903 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Abuse is personal

    • @kimdagnillo8246
      @kimdagnillo8246 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It’s happening to ME/YOU, how do you NOT take that personally ? Every one of my family members has stabbed me in the back over selfishness and greed, I couldn’t even think about doing anything unkind to them for no good reason. Animals are my people first, humans are a waste of space. Narcissists , psychopaths…karma is cleaning them up.

    • @jdlc903
      @jdlc903 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kimdagnillo8246 animals suck though ,selfish and killers and even cruel

  • @doloresparsons1552
    @doloresparsons1552 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    I am Roman Catholic. When I need spiritual direction, i return to the roots of my faith. Shalom aliechem, Rabbi Jacobson!

    • @sandraleiva1633
      @sandraleiva1633 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Rabbinic Judaism is not the roots of Catholicism. Ancient Judaism ended and only the Samaritans practice it. Judaism after Jesus split into Rabbinic Judaism and Christianity. So no the Jews of today are not the elder brothers of the Christians, they are cousins.

    • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152
      @quantumfineartsandfossils2152 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes shalom aliechem, Rabbi Jacobson!

    • @seanposner8884
      @seanposner8884 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sandraleiva1633 whata bout kabbalistic teachings? pre-rabbinic?

  • @RickarooCarew
    @RickarooCarew ปีที่แล้ว +5

    the Universe gives back exactly what we put in... and a little bit more...
    if you give your love without price... it doesn't matter what the recipient does or thinks
    living in fear of betrayal does not lead to personal happiness.. or good friends... because.. if you want a friend you have to be a friend

  • @kameronfink1627
    @kameronfink1627 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Your video is so beneficial to me.I have suffered from betrayal …my family did it .I want it out of my system ! I’m so hurt ! What you said is so true! My life is like Joseph’s but I didn’t have a good sense of self from the beginning so it’s been so hard to recover😢

  • @katecollins2982
    @katecollins2982 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Another Roman Catholic soaking in the wisdom. Thank you for shining a light!

  • @MrConstantMalachi
    @MrConstantMalachi ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Saving his listeners thirty years' of therapist's fees was the icing on the cake - terrific talk.

  • @habeascorpus1
    @habeascorpus1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    "a friendship is a reciprocal relationship" Absolutely!

  • @ammorales1524
    @ammorales1524 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Learn to give with no expectations in return.

  • @Theydonotcare
    @Theydonotcare ปีที่แล้ว +23

    This helped me out a lot. My brother tried to get me deleted and till this day I've never gotten over it. Life is dark. Listening to this helped me out a lot. Blessings to you.

  • @petekdemircioglu
    @petekdemircioglu ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Never Look back and tell everyone what they did to you

  • @ciaraskeleton
    @ciaraskeleton ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This Rabbi unfolds all the mysteries of the Bible that I was never taught. I was taught very literal protestant Christianity, it's whitewashed and has turned the Bible into something that it's not. I'm endlessly fascinated on this view of the Bible, I'm genuinely satisfied with his interpretation and ability to interpret the meanings to us in a way thats current and relatable. Wow.

  • @vicksta8875
    @vicksta8875 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Walking away from a toxic family environment, is the best move I've ever made!!

  • @michaelelford411
    @michaelelford411 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Beautiful wisdom better than all the therapy I've been through, anger and the thought of revenge can eat you up for years and prolongs the suffering you go through, for me I'm still suffering from betrayals of family ...but..I'm a single dad because of it and that has grown my soul more than anything , not wealthy but feel rich in love and I feel my girls can deal with the world I never could before I got this responsibility.....

  • @jacovawernett3077
    @jacovawernett3077 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Pressure forms a diamond. It helps a person see many facets.

  • @anastasiarose3800
    @anastasiarose3800 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    This was helpful, I'm also in the process of reclaiming my identity after betrayal and your insights made me think about how I can reframe my perspective. It hasn't come easily. I'm slowly coming to understand that people's cruelty is about them, not me. It wasn't my fault and I survived it all. I am still on my own divine adventure, regardless of those who tried to kill my fire. I am still here, they didn't succeed in taking anything from me. And I've found treasures along the way.
    Thank you for your clear, compassionate take on a subject I normally get angry about when others bring it up because it's been a tender wound on my heart for awhile now. I enjoyed listening to the whole video.

  • @Deep_Blue_Sapphire
    @Deep_Blue_Sapphire ปีที่แล้ว +36

    What wonderful advice for anyone who has been betrayed. It took me years to finally make a choice that allowed me to find that divine image. Regardless, I am grateful that I have finally taken the action needed to move my self from victim to a builder, constructor of a life of love and friendship.

  • @shirleyjackson9554
    @shirleyjackson9554 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Block them out of your life

  • @franciscogerardohernandezr4788
    @franciscogerardohernandezr4788 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Many relatives enjoy taking advantage of their closeness to your mom and dad and throw BS at you as a child, and then a few minutes before your parents arrive they suddenly turn into "nice people". Plenty of my childhood traumas (anxiety, lack of confidence) derived from their psychological abuse, now they are old and never apologized, but want to play nice and approach me and my family as if nothing happened when I visit mom. I am a God-fearing man, but I swear sometimes I wish I had revenge on them, I would enjoy it for sure.

    • @ReneePsalm18
      @ReneePsalm18 ปีที่แล้ว

      Honestly you could just reject gifts and say you would they rather not send more than a card or not at all. But true not apologizing is not acceptable.

  • @ceetea4238
    @ceetea4238 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What you said... "Victim mentality creates more problems "helped. Thank you
    Likewise, the comments in this thread are almost like reading my own thoughts and feelings articulated for me... Thank you all as well
    Shalom

  • @sulforaphane6399
    @sulforaphane6399 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Dear Rabbi Jacobson, thank you. It does not matter who we are, Christian or Muslim, we are all humans and relate to every word you say, family, life, our experience here.

  • @aneidadelapaz3766
    @aneidadelapaz3766 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Rabbi, I am a Christian and had previously found and listen to the birthday message. I needed to hear that message for reasons to long for a text. I will be 60 this September 28. My heart feels allot younger but I never thought of my birthday the way you described it.
    Even this message gave me hope that it's never too late and that each day should be a day to start over. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I subscribed and will begin to watch all your videos.
    Shalom. Bless you.

  • @oyeejackie
    @oyeejackie ปีที่แล้ว +1

    We're to learn. And to learn, we have to go through something that will change our lives.

  • @heiditugers
    @heiditugers ปีที่แล้ว +27

    This was amazing! In dealing with pop-phycology and counselors over the last several years I have found that it definitely has its limitations. Everyone is obsessed with narcissists and excommunicating anyone who is considered “toxic.” The problem is that it doesn’t work and as you said it perpetuates a victim mentality. I have had several counselors tell me to block my mother and cut her out of my life. I did that for a few years. I came to realize that her behavior wasn’t personal. She is the way she is and it is how she is programmed… just like a computer. I believe that G-d allows things to happen in our lives and if that is so, then we need to draw a greater good from it. When I stopped taking things personal and looked for the lesson, that is when things changed. My mother invited me to visit the family for the holidays and I really was dreading going to see her and knew it would be a stressful trip. My counselor told me not to go and to follow my instincts. I felt something deeper pushing me to go and step out in faith. I went and it was a painful experience, but we made a breakthrough and I am at peace knowing I did the right thing. She is older with health issues, so you never know how long people will be around. By taking that initiative to step out in faith and do what you are afraid to do really does give you your power back and that is when G-d can step in and do miracles. After years of counseling and not really being that satisfied with it, your talk has given me the missing piece. Such a beautiful, empowering and wise message. Thank you! 🙏🏻

    • @mightytaiger3000
      @mightytaiger3000 ปีที่แล้ว

      While psychology has its limitations, so does your bumper sticker philosophy.
      You sound more like a masochist that hasn’t cut their emotional umbilical chord from mommy and confuses dreading something with fearing it. Not to mention the very useful aspect of fear when it comes to self preservation.
      Does it matter that someone murdered a stranger passing by and it wasn’t “personal”?? No.
      They still suffered the consequences whether it was personal or not.
      “You don’t know how long people will be around” and they don’t know how long you will be around either but they continue to make your life difficult.
      “That’s just how they’re wired” and that’s not an excuse.
      Perhaps you’re mad at your mom because she didn’t call you princess enough times as a kid or told you a dress made you look fat.
      Your “philosophy” could put many people in danger that have suffered serious abuse at the hand of their family or parents.
      It worked for You and Your purposes. Leave it at that.

    • @heiditugers
      @heiditugers ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mightytaiger3000 Lol 😂 A masochist I am definitely not. Sounds like you have some major anger issues and your projecting your experiences and reality on me.
      Did you even listen to the video? I am just echoing what the Rabbi suggested. Where did I suggest other people follow what I did?! I didn’t. I was sharing my own PERSONAL experience. If my PERSONAL experience bothers you than there is clearly some major issues you have within yourself.
      Maybe you are a sadist who just gets off on trolling the internet looking to spread doom and gloom on happy people who have overcome their battles. Clearly you are still tied to your own inner demons.
      You do you and I will do me.

    • @edamenterprises8
      @edamenterprises8 ปีที่แล้ว

      LL

  • @lorthelight
    @lorthelight ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Thank God for you. Trying to help heal the broken hearts 💕 on earth 🌎 as it is in heaven. God is close to the broken hearted..... So true ...

  • @JWPhotosanddesigns
    @JWPhotosanddesigns ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This was good Rabbi Jacobson. When I am hurt I have in the past sat in the pain for so long that it had taken over in a sense started to mess with my health. I find this video very helpful to release myself from the prison of mental pain and anguish of my past day by day.

  • @oozziehalifa4435
    @oozziehalifa4435 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am that type of friend for real. But rarely get that back in people in return. I don’t think I even have 1.

  • @amymuchko7106
    @amymuchko7106 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Genesis often points to sibling rivalry and also parents playing favorites which pits siblings against one another.

    • @michaelmessenger24
      @michaelmessenger24 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sounds like my narcissistic mother
      & my selfish horrible traitorous family.
      I'm not even sure why I stay
      Honouring & loving my remaining parent
      Or pretending to forgive them because
      I have nobody and nowhere else to go.
      Either way, it takes true strength to remain
      I see a wonderful future of freedom ahead
      I can afford the years of my life to help
      her until she leaves this world and place.
      Some run away but I am one who stays.
      They say Narcissists are like demons
      But what darkness can withstand the light

    • @amymuchko7106
      @amymuchko7106 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@michaelmessenger24 My single mother is a Narcissist. I get it.

    • @michaelmessenger24
      @michaelmessenger24 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@amymuchko7106
      If life is to be about learning, then these
      people & situations are what refines us.

  • @LanceWhalen
    @LanceWhalen ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Rabbi, you are a brilliant man. Almost makes me want to convert. Thank you for this

  • @dakotablueskies
    @dakotablueskies ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Living well is the best revenge

  • @robertarichardson9556
    @robertarichardson9556 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have had the victim mentality my whole life, and I have alienated and hurt people around me, how I wish I had seen this video decades ago, and I am so grateful for this, it’s not too late for me, thank you Rabbi, I can see so clearly what I would have done differently and am encouraged that I can do things different now, thank you.

    • @rose5566
      @rose5566 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @robertrichardson - I feel the same way. I could have avoided many self esteem problems/bad choices, if I had a different attitude and had some wise advice to consider.

  • @romanastrasheim5226
    @romanastrasheim5226 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am a Christian and listening to you rabbi ... thank you. 🙏❤

  • @jolynn2271
    @jolynn2271 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you rabbi my betrayal has helped me to be a stronger soul, but a day doesn't go by that I don't forget. I love the divine he is me and I am him.❤️

  • @brienycarpio4769
    @brienycarpio4769 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I should have known better. I experienced betrayal but instead I became resentful. Because I don't understand why i had to went into those situations when I only loved my family so dearly. It went too long that it almost destroyed me. To the point that i got to pick my pieces up to make me whole again. Good thing my faith is stronger than my odds. I came across similar videos like this one and help me a lot to stay away from being the victim mentality towards the I am in control mentality. That things happens for a reason and that it took me to where I should be right now. Thank you 💖

    • @iamgodsgoodness8940
      @iamgodsgoodness8940 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It appears my life has been one long painful betrayal after another and abuse. In between, I would be the one to for give and move on for my sake. But then I got married to all of them in my husband!!! 😭 I've still been the one forgiving and loving my abuser for 28 years!!! I don't know if I still have an identity cos he has stripped me of any confidence or rather, I have let him that I don't know what to do anymore. It has affected our children. What can I do? as he doesn't want to see me rise. It's all about him or no one else! Appreciate any counsel!

  • @djrdjr8888
    @djrdjr8888 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How would Joseph have reacted differently if his brothers had shown NO remorse when they saw him in Egypt? I am struggling with forgiveness after a life-altering betrayal by my 2 brothers, and after 5 yrs there has been no accountability, remorse, apology, or concern for my broken heart. They were victims of narcissistic abuse, but are narcs themselves, and I sometimes wonder if they are evil. I need no convincing of the importance or value of forgiveness, but it's hard when my options are abandonment or further abuse.

  • @dianawilliams1476
    @dianawilliams1476 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I want to tell you how God is working in this matter. A daughter spoke on the phone with me about deep hurts between herself and siblings. I mentioned how Joseph never sought revenge or nurtured anger. That night she perceived God telling her to read a scripture but she was familiar with that particular scripture and wondered if she mis understood. In the morning I opened my video screen and there at the top was your wonderful message, also about Joseph. I was about to turn away from It, thinking,’what could some unfamiliar rabbi tell me that could help? But I perceived and obeyed God’s encouragement and soon sent the video to my daughter who had also obeyed and studied to her amazement the scripture God showed her which answered her questions. When God shows something three times, we should pay attention. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  • @vc4154
    @vc4154 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing this unconditionally.

  • @AutisticMorty
    @AutisticMorty ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Powerful talk. No idea how but I watched the entire broadcast, it was so captivating. I cried several times during the hour. God's ways are mysterious but His purity and love is endless.

  • @Johnny1.0
    @Johnny1.0 ปีที่แล้ว

    I needed this. Thank you

  • @thereseschab5042
    @thereseschab5042 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    OMGosh..this helped me so much. I cried nearly all the way through.

  • @one-stopgodshop2171
    @one-stopgodshop2171 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is great, Rabbi. Thanks so much for your wisdom.

  • @keithrichardson3942
    @keithrichardson3942 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, Rabbi Simon, your talk made me feel much better

  • @blueblackvelvet9542
    @blueblackvelvet9542 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank u so much....🧡 it was a big help for me.

  • @lich5717
    @lich5717 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for your Words of Wisdom ❤

  • @missmerrily4830
    @missmerrily4830 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The only way to find peace after a betrayal is to choose to forgive. And forgivemess is a process. It's not a decision. And that process may go on for the rest of your life. You may reach the end of your life without truly forgiving, but you can continue to try to forgive. You can say "I forgive you", but meaning it, and feeling it, are different things. You have to keep practising your forgiveness and if you observe your feelings closely, as you move along in your journey to forgive, you will feel, little by little, a softening of your feelings towards your betrayer. But don't expect to 'forgive' and feel better all in one day. And it's true that finding others who have been betrayed, will help your journey too. Betrayal can and does, happen to so many of us. And there is strength in being with others who have suffered.

  • @doriking1784
    @doriking1784 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much Rabbi 💝 this is landing in my heart 🕊️🙏💜

  • @goldygutierrez73
    @goldygutierrez73 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for all your insightful teachings Rabbi Jacobson.

  • @jacquelineg3987
    @jacquelineg3987 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for your teaching and testimony

  • @ShAlohaBlessing
    @ShAlohaBlessing ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for sharing! The opposite of victim is victorious! May we continue to take the initiative and overcome! ❤️

  • @2951hawkeye
    @2951hawkeye ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for all you do to help others.

  • @sfkitty1
    @sfkitty1 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’m a Christian as well, truly I needed to hear this, God has his hand on me

  • @williamv3618
    @williamv3618 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for all light and wisdom in your speak. Great teaching, Rabbi. Helped me a lot.

  • @dreamdata8973
    @dreamdata8973 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    A timely reminder of a valuable lesson. Thank you so much!

  • @marylind1144
    @marylind1144 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, Rabbi, I really needed to hear all of this today. Blessings to you and yours

  • @helenaredsky
    @helenaredsky ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much Rabbi. 💛 Awesome wisdom

  • @cindyjohnson9249
    @cindyjohnson9249 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I'm learning SO MUCH by watching your videos. Thank you for all that you do.

  • @karinbergman1646
    @karinbergman1646 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, Rabbi Jacobson

  • @kristinaangel13
    @kristinaangel13 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much! Wisdom and kindness from heart

  • @juliesheard2122
    @juliesheard2122 ปีที่แล้ว

    So wise. Thankyou, from now on I will not let the betrayals control my life.

  • @inevitabletocome668
    @inevitabletocome668 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Rabbi Simon Jacobson.

  • @shoonya_be
    @shoonya_be ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Rabbi Jacobson

  • @CryptoCat-qs6ce
    @CryptoCat-qs6ce ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Rabbi Jacobson for your great wisdom 🥰🥰🥰

  • @CarmellaThatLunarCat
    @CarmellaThatLunarCat ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm going to listen to this as I go to sleep.
    I have been debriefed of my trauma but there's never too much good to learn
    In love and light
    Hashem connects me with the divine, who is the divine, who I am as well.
    Xo

  • @TnS485
    @TnS485 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so very much. This is so encouraging and inspiring! Thank you.

  • @akai.christo
    @akai.christo ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Thank you Rabbi Jacobson✡️🙏♥️🔥Wish you and all here a beautiful day!!
    💪🙂🎶

  • @valeriebecker5108
    @valeriebecker5108 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is fabulous and so relatable!!!! Interesting and fun and wonderful..thank you so much...be well

  • @stephenwilson9872
    @stephenwilson9872 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The betrayal from G-D has been the only thing that’s been hard on me accepting

  • @joscott461
    @joscott461 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am so glad I came upon your channel Rabbi Jacobsen....your wise words have given me giudance.

  • @raisakuperman1760
    @raisakuperman1760 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I don't need love, apologies, thous who betrayed me automatically become strangers and their betrayals do not bother me any longer. No matter who it was husband, children, or relatives.

  • @dadedowuh
    @dadedowuh ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You are well grounded and have a good demeanor. I like your contribution. Keep it going. Thank you.

  • @elizabetherwin9192
    @elizabetherwin9192 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for this video. It’s helpful for me to get through betrayal from my brother and ex husband.

  • @joycealdrich
    @joycealdrich ปีที่แล้ว

    Another brilliant, healing and helpful discourse. Thank you.

  • @ronakjamali3970
    @ronakjamali3970 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Rabbi, I greatly enjoy listening to your teaching.

  • @sandracrump
    @sandracrump ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is a profound word!! I love Listening to this because he’s gentle, open and compassionate with stating facts .!

  • @tallmikbcroft6937
    @tallmikbcroft6937 ปีที่แล้ว

    Intense. I will try to apply this. Thank you for sharing

  • @joannastanden5816
    @joannastanden5816 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks you .I needed these words.

  • @ramikundalini7887
    @ramikundalini7887 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This video is, so so helpfull.
    One of the best videos I came across lately.
    Thank you..thank you..thank you!
    Many Blessings to you all!
    🙏❤🌍💯

  • @xenatron9056
    @xenatron9056 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thankyou Rabbi Jacobson. I was in tears many times throughout this lecture, realising ...... well just realising.........

  • @kitkat186
    @kitkat186 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for your advice I needed it so much. God bless you are helping so many.😊

  • @taniachase6579
    @taniachase6579 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for your explanation...🙏

  • @jem5159
    @jem5159 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's truly curious and wonderful for me to have recently started listening to and watching your messages. I have been been betrayed in the past however I thought I was immune or had a handle on it. Then BAM!! It happens again.
    This time is manageablely different. Guess because I older more understanding of life I am not bitter and hateful like before.
    However your explanation and examples have allowed me to absorb and grow as a human being. Guess it's just a lesson that I had to relearn and process completely and correctly.
    Thanks good teacher glad you were around this time to help me graduate so to speak. 🙂👍 My feeling of control over the situation is priceless.

  • @ryant3295
    @ryant3295 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is definitely what I needed to hear! Very grateful for this video!

  • @Jane-rc2rk
    @Jane-rc2rk ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The scars of betrayal run deep…atm, in our home, my ex husbands betrayal of me with a woman the same age as our daughters, has caused as much pain to our daughters as it as to me….I’m not sure we can recover.

  • @beawinna9878
    @beawinna9878 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Rabbi you helped me today to recognize my strengths and look with loving kindness on my weaknesses. I'm going now to visit my elderly neighbor cause I've been putting it off!

  • @peggypuralewski8619
    @peggypuralewski8619 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love listening to you!! I don’t have anyone in my life like you. I have a bunch of Job comforters who are of no help.

  • @marksingleton7199
    @marksingleton7199 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I was once trying to work something out and was hoping for inspiration and a voice said How much of your thought is actually yours? I was taken aback. Then you question everything. When born your bodies mind explores its invironment and it is taught how to act and think. You collect memories of these thoughts through which tou act. They become you. Their comes a point when you start to become your own thought choices rather than others thought who use it to dictate. Pharoah. Others around you will get angry that you become independent of their rule. Power is the number of people who support your thought. Generally the sheep. The soul is from God. It is the thought of good. The body is thought of self. The soul needs you to be open to recieve. Joseph stands for being open hearted. When the world he lives in is full of closed souls who steal energy from each other and desire power over others, Joseph is open. The famine is symbolically a shortage of energy. Joseph takes all the energy and then shares it out equally. This is like heaven where all thought can be shared equally and safely. Nothing is kept but energy flows constantly so that each soul recieves and shares thought energy. The world we see is enclosed in a boundry of self. We percieve a limit of resources. The soul percieves open thought which is above the boundry of self. The Jordan into the promised land. We need to cultivate the promised land in our mind by eliminating thought that others have forced onto us to enslave. Hard work to destroy the building blocks of our thought that entraps us. Jericho.

    • @ChanelThomas248
      @ChanelThomas248 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow. Love the deep thinking in your comment. It all makes sense.

    • @marksingleton7199
      @marksingleton7199 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ChanelThomas248 Thankyou.

  • @israelorun
    @israelorun ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing talk. the absolute truth.

  • @leolouchios5574
    @leolouchios5574 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Beautiful story.

  • @jaynehinds3339
    @jaynehinds3339 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you I’m 8n distress and everything your saying pertains to me ,,I cannot get over many things,,,

  • @iknitbecuzmurderisfrownedupon
    @iknitbecuzmurderisfrownedupon ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I find immense healing listening to your teachings. The healing goes beyond the physical. It's on a spiritual level. Thank you for what you give to the world. :)

  • @tamararutland-mills9530
    @tamararutland-mills9530 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am new to your channel and just ❤your teaching (so far). It’s just so interesting. I want to thank you. Perhaps it is that we will never know the half of what we do in this life - how far our influence goes and how far a good deed ripples out to encourage others. Now, the good side of the internet is that your wonderful teaching here has already gone out to 154, 521 people - instead of the time and effort of your preparation going solely out to your immediate congregation. Baruch Hashem!

  • @judyvispi
    @judyvispi 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Rabbi, Thank You , for your, inspirations. I enjoy your lectures so much. God Bless!🙏😇

  • @lahockeyboy
    @lahockeyboy หลายเดือนก่อน

    thank you, Rabbi!

  • @KINGSU2U
    @KINGSU2U ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Amen. Such a wonderful teaching, it blessed me greatly. I am not a victim, and I refuse to allow pain to shape my identity. Thanks for sharing life. God bless Rabbi