I and friends have had so many discussions about this. I think, for starters, that damages to civilians for LEO wrongdoings should come out of the police pension fund and not be paid by taxpayers. If these so-called good cops have skin in the game they will quickly come down on the "bad" cops who are supposed to be such a minority of the officers. Also, if a LEO is found guilty of these crimes they should not be allowed to resign. They should ALWAYS be fired. Resigning just allows them to go to another police department and be hired again.
According to OP her brother wasn't the best cop or person, sleeping with a colleague's wife and having beef with the DA. It shouldn't have affected the investigations or trial however as it doesn't have anything to do with his job. You're also correct in that a lot of good, honest cops are mistreated or thrown under the bus for not letting it slide when another cop commits crimes or misbehaves in other ways.
Story 1: This is another proof that we need stronger laws against false SA accusations and that domestic abuse against men should be taken as seriously as towards women.
The real takeaway is the rot in the legal system that allows DAs to overcharge and also have someone sit in jail for two years. He was not a threat to others, he had strong family support, and bail should have been set.
@samuelebinocoletto637 neverr gonna hapoen as this would theoreticaly create scenarios where women who legit got SA'd but lac evidence could get charged for stepping forward. Sux but thats life...
@@reinisvirsnieks433 I understand what you're saying but still, something needs to be done against false rape accusations, we can't allow innocents men to have their lives ruined so easely just because someone is petty.
@@Notoriouscj1 Welcome to the LEGAL system when you are poor and/or have no connections. BTW, people call it a justice system, but it is not and never was. Justice is subjective but legalities are more black and white, less leeway, but not always, for favoritism.
That last story, just cause you’re sick or whatever doesn’t undo the actions you do to someone else. If an addict steals a family members heirloom, does it undo that if they get clean? No
@@Shuramaru Basically---- -adverb - meaning, in the most essential respects; fundamentally. -used to indicate that a statement summarizes the most important aspects, or gives a roughly accurate account, of a more complex situation.
I knew it , Sara was going to trap Op with her bio-father and step mother. Tell your aunt to be careful with her son and new daughter in law . Shit is going to go down. It’s his fault that he doesn’t just leave his gf . Once he has a kids with that crazy , she will be in the same boat.
Wow, just reading that gave me whiplash! Sounds like a soap opera with extra paprika sprinkles. Hope your next story involves less drama and more llama hugs.
She got into his police database? That's uhhhhm... not how it works. Everything is logged, there are keyloggers on all police computers, and logs all activity. This would have easily and quickly been found out. And why would a state trooper be involved in a local investigation unless he was also a state trooper? Also how did she get custody of a child that was not hers? ---- "I don't agree with cheating" then goes on to blame him for her cheating. Sounds like agreement to me.
Not that hard to cheat the system whe you're a part of it. Wouldn't be surprised if DA boyfriend helped her out and managed to scrub evidence as she went.
Story 3 I have 7 mental illnesses I have NEVER acted like that Nor would i have. Even if i had a few outbursts, it wouldn't be cruel. I don't pick at kids. That's ridiculous The deserved what they got And the friend made excuses for the dad and being "missing" They threatened OP and abused her She owes them nothing Triggered triggered Pfffft It's used too casually. Sarah is a terrible person Who is using being bipolar as an excuse for her behavior I'm also bipolar. I also have BPD, ADHD, OCD, GAD, MDD,PTSD So if i have no excuse, then she definitely doesn't
Bro you’re playing life on nightmare mode difficulty jeeez. Reminds me of that bane line “Ah you think disorder is your ally…” 😂😂. Honestly tho, major salute for not letting the bs life has thrown at you, hold you down.
The cousin and girlfriend of story 3 are a special kind of scum. Sure., most people with a savior complex don't care about the victims regardless of how much they say otherwise, but here her motives are so blatantly obvious and she's scary. I'm sure in her head, she would force OP to reconcile with her dad and stepmom then boast about it online and use it as ammunition against her siblings saying "see? She forgave her family who wronged her, why can't you forgive me?!?!?!" If only OP's pesky free will, she would've had her happy ending... not.
Story 3: It wasn't the pregnancy or lockdown, she wanted to get rid of the stepchild now that she was growing a replacement. They only wanted to fix the relationship because they got called out.
You can print what you want if allegedly is part of it. I was falsely accused of something and cant get them to remove it because they were only saying alleged allegations.
Story 1 This is why you shouldn't be bitter. Forgiveness doesn't mean you continue a relationship. Forgiveness means you don't give that person a place in your heart. Drop them. Cut contact. But don't hate them or you'll end up like the baby mama
How do you get to the gofundme for story 1? I’m a woman and I hate women who lie about SA’s. That takes away from those who really are victims (men can be abused too).
2nd OP is the asshole for abandoning his daughter so he wouldn't have to pay child support. If he didnt want to pay why would he not just try for primary custody or at least 50-50? Cause it sounds like he's the most stable option for the kid if he actually wanted it and wanted custody, but it sounds like he just wanted to be a weekend dad or not a dad at all, and he just chose his money over his kid. Also there's no strings attacked in the third story but there is a clear hope that OP would reconnect with those two, especially since she's accepting extravagant gifts from them. It IS a little greedy to take their money and give them the impression you were thinking of resolving things.
S3: last comment is so stupid because they can't read when they want to make a point against the victim. Dad is trying to buy OP back, giving gifts and money with no strings because it makes him look a little better, to be seen as not trying to force reconciliation. She didn't demand anything or ask for anything because she doesn't want to interact with dad and his wife anymore.
@@RylieRiddle a lot of comments in this video as a whole made me think "hmm did those involved find the posts and use fake accounts to comment?" 🤔🤔🤔 The bias is huge here
Jesus was a parrot reading this story, so much repeated information. Maybe cut that information out and streamline it? Also how dumb is this cop to talk to other cops, he should know better to say anything other than I don't answer questions, i exercise my 5th amendment rights and i also am exercising my 4th and 6th amendment rights.
This is the first time I’m saying this but the first story sounds fake. Can’t even find it on Reddit using any of the info you provided in the description. Nothing comes up using the Reddit name or the title name.
It is there.. I just checked.. I just searched u/throwawaynarctrash on Google search and found the account. The username didn't come up when I searched in the subreddit
Story 2: He did nothing wrong and he's being told to pay $7400 a month. That's just not right. He didn't destroy the marriage, she did. He shouldn't be the one being punished for it. Yeah, him fleeing to Thailand and leaving his daughter leaves a bad taste in my mouth for sure, but I'm wondering if he's perhaps got other plans in the works. He mentions he's paying the ex in-laws $1000 a week for support and that the ex gave them custody. Is he saying she legally gave up custody or that the daughter is merely living with the ex in-laws because she can't afford to support both of them? If the ex in-laws have full custody, I'd try to see if they'd be willing to either give him custody so she could be with him or at least allow her to visit him in Thailand occasionally. Perhaps he's waiting until she's older before doing that. It definitely seems like he wants to remain in his daughter's life. I don't know all the legalities of how all of this would work but I'm sure he's trying to make something happen.
story two: the comments at the end are so delusional LOL gotta love when some complete random comes up with a "theory" based on nothing more than their intuition and baseless assumptions. Lunaseesu, you are not psychic. You sound like OP's ex wife tbh. Not saying OP didn't fuck up, just that this comment was super asinine and adding it to the video seemed pointless as
If this ain't a PSA for staying away from marriage and women, i don't know what is😂😂😂. And before anyone says men do this too........ people don't immediately trust what we say, and there's no double standards, 'cause I'm also a man
@@sweeety969 sweetheart, I'm gay, not jaded, and not a virgin. I just don't have rose colored glass towards women because I'm not a woman, and I'm not trying to bang them either
This is fake. If the judge found that the ex was lying & had evidence of her lies they would have thrown the whole case out not just the SA charges😮. & I call bs, your brother can totally sue the DA & everyone involved because there was a MISCARRIAGE OF JUSTICE.
Corruption. Also. The judge's power is absolute. A judge could sentence you to life for a shit's and giggles. You'd be able to sue the judge but you still be in jail for some time.
This is what happens when you try to be an honest cop, the whole legal system is turned against you for "rocking the boat"
I and friends have had so many discussions about this. I think, for starters, that damages to civilians for LEO wrongdoings should come out of the police pension fund and not be paid by taxpayers. If these so-called good cops have skin in the game they will quickly come down on the "bad" cops who are supposed to be such a minority of the officers.
Also, if a LEO is found guilty of these crimes they should not be allowed to resign. They should ALWAYS be fired. Resigning just allows them to go to another police department and be hired again.
According to OP her brother wasn't the best cop or person, sleeping with a colleague's wife and having beef with the DA. It shouldn't have affected the investigations or trial however as it doesn't have anything to do with his job.
You're also correct in that a lot of good, honest cops are mistreated or thrown under the bus for not letting it slide when another cop commits crimes or misbehaves in other ways.
He wasn't quite an honest cop.
Story 1: This is another proof that we need stronger laws against false SA accusations and that domestic abuse against men should be taken as seriously as towards women.
The real takeaway is the rot in the legal system that allows DAs to overcharge and also have someone sit in jail for two years. He was not a threat to others, he had strong family support, and bail should have been set.
@samuelebinocoletto637 neverr gonna hapoen as this would theoreticaly create scenarios where women who legit got SA'd but lac evidence could get charged for stepping forward. Sux but thats life...
@@reinisvirsnieks433 I understand what you're saying but still, something needs to be done against false rape accusations, we can't allow innocents men to have their lives ruined so easely just because someone is petty.
I think the first OP should contact as many news agencies he can, because the DA KNEW the SIL was lying.
Yeah, being a cop. Isnt so fun when justice is tilted so far to corruption
Sounds like he was just as corrupt though. Dude has no self preservation instincts and is so goddamn dumb that I can't muster up any sympathy for him.
wow and the girl that lied was able to keep the girl and get child support and nothing happened to her for lying? fuckin hell
Welcome to America
@@Notoriouscj1 Welcome to the LEGAL system when you are poor and/or have no connections. BTW, people call it a justice system, but it is not and never was. Justice is subjective but legalities are more black and white, less leeway, but not always, for favoritism.
So…..story 2 OP bailed on his Daughter?
He is a POS.
like he really just decided to act like he didn’t abandon his child. that kid sure did hit the jackpot parent wise
That last story, just cause you’re sick or whatever doesn’t undo the actions you do to someone else. If an addict steals a family members heirloom, does it undo that if they get clean? No
Man, story 2 was basically my dad. And then he had the NERVE to call me on his deathbed. Like sir, I do not care.
Doesn't sound like your dad called you every night.
@@Shuramaru Basically----
-adverb
- meaning, in the most essential respects; fundamentally.
-used to indicate that a statement summarizes the most important aspects, or gives a roughly accurate account, of a more complex situation.
I knew it , Sara was going to trap Op with her bio-father and step mother. Tell your aunt to be careful with her son and new daughter in law . Shit is going to go down. It’s his fault that he doesn’t just leave his gf . Once he has a kids with that crazy , she will be in the same boat.
Wow, just reading that gave me whiplash! Sounds like a soap opera with extra paprika sprinkles. Hope your next story involves less drama and more llama hugs.
life is too short to try and fix messed up people
you don't fix people you help them fix themselves. they have to wont to get beter.
She got into his police database? That's uhhhhm... not how it works. Everything is logged, there are keyloggers on all police computers, and logs all activity. This would have easily and quickly been found out. And why would a state trooper be involved in a local investigation unless he was also a state trooper? Also how did she get custody of a child that was not hers?
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"I don't agree with cheating" then goes on to blame him for her cheating. Sounds like agreement to me.
Not that hard to cheat the system whe you're a part of it. Wouldn't be surprised if DA boyfriend helped her out and managed to scrub evidence as she went.
No, the original ex-wife who is the mother of his child got custody.
Story 3
I have 7 mental illnesses
I have NEVER acted like that
Nor would i have. Even if i had a few outbursts, it wouldn't be cruel.
I don't pick at kids. That's ridiculous
The deserved what they got
And the friend made excuses for the dad and being "missing"
They threatened OP and abused her
She owes them nothing
Triggered triggered
Pfffft
It's used too casually.
Sarah is a terrible person
Who is using being bipolar as an excuse for her behavior
I'm also bipolar.
I also have BPD, ADHD, OCD, GAD, MDD,PTSD
So if i have no excuse, then she definitely doesn't
Bro you’re playing life on nightmare mode difficulty jeeez. Reminds me of that bane line “Ah you think disorder is your ally…” 😂😂. Honestly tho, major salute for not letting the bs life has thrown at you, hold you down.
The cousin and girlfriend of story 3 are a special kind of scum. Sure., most people with a savior complex don't care about the victims regardless of how much they say otherwise, but here her motives are so blatantly obvious and she's scary.
I'm sure in her head, she would force OP to reconcile with her dad and stepmom then boast about it online and use it as ammunition against her siblings saying "see? She forgave her family who wronged her, why can't you forgive me?!?!?!"
If only OP's pesky free will, she would've had her happy ending... not.
Story 3: It wasn't the pregnancy or lockdown, she wanted to get rid of the stepchild now that she was growing a replacement. They only wanted to fix the relationship because they got called out.
You can print what you want if allegedly is part of it. I was falsely accused of something and cant get them to remove it because they were only saying alleged allegations.
Story 1
This is why you shouldn't be bitter.
Forgiveness doesn't mean you continue a relationship.
Forgiveness means you don't give that person a place in your heart.
Drop them. Cut contact.
But don't hate them or you'll end up like the baby mama
How do you get to the gofundme for story 1? I’m a woman and I hate women who lie about SA’s. That takes away from those who really are victims (men can be abused too).
get restraining order on them
2nd OP is the asshole for abandoning his daughter so he wouldn't have to pay child support.
If he didnt want to pay why would he not just try for primary custody or at least 50-50? Cause it sounds like he's the most stable option for the kid if he actually wanted it and wanted custody, but it sounds like he just wanted to be a weekend dad or not a dad at all, and he just chose his money over his kid.
Also there's no strings attacked in the third story but there is a clear hope that OP would reconnect with those two, especially since she's accepting extravagant gifts from them. It IS a little greedy to take their money and give them the impression you were thinking of resolving things.
S3: last comment is so stupid because they can't read when they want to make a point against the victim. Dad is trying to buy OP back, giving gifts and money with no strings because it makes him look a little better, to be seen as not trying to force reconciliation. She didn't demand anything or ask for anything because she doesn't want to interact with dad and his wife anymore.
@@RylieRiddle a lot of comments in this video as a whole made me think "hmm did those involved find the posts and use fake accounts to comment?" 🤔🤔🤔 The bias is huge here
She's like the female version of my ex fiance
sounds like Tammy was having partum psychosis.
Jesus was a parrot reading this story, so much repeated information. Maybe cut that information out and streamline it? Also how dumb is this cop to talk to other cops, he should know better to say anything other than I don't answer questions, i exercise my 5th amendment rights and i also am exercising my 4th and 6th amendment rights.
You did well OP. people are not in your shoes.
This is the first time I’m saying this but the first story sounds fake. Can’t even find it on Reddit using any of the info you provided in the description. Nothing comes up using the Reddit name or the title name.
It is there.. I just checked.. I just searched u/throwawaynarctrash on Google search and found the account. The username didn't come up when I searched in the subreddit
I found it
Ayo in story 2 I was kinda disappointed by OP but GOD those commenters were insufferable. Probably also cheaters.
Why was he a cop with PTSD
the 2nd story commentor sounds like a dirtbag
Honestly 2nd story's commenter basically projected themselves to be an ex wife that did the same cheating bs
@@sharkeatinpizza yeah I thought so too
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Story 2: He did nothing wrong and he's being told to pay $7400 a month. That's just not right. He didn't destroy the marriage, she did. He shouldn't be the one being punished for it. Yeah, him fleeing to Thailand and leaving his daughter leaves a bad taste in my mouth for sure, but I'm wondering if he's perhaps got other plans in the works. He mentions he's paying the ex in-laws $1000 a week for support and that the ex gave them custody. Is he saying she legally gave up custody or that the daughter is merely living with the ex in-laws because she can't afford to support both of them? If the ex in-laws have full custody, I'd try to see if they'd be willing to either give him custody so she could be with him or at least allow her to visit him in Thailand occasionally. Perhaps he's waiting until she's older before doing that. It definitely seems like he wants to remain in his daughter's life. I don't know all the legalities of how all of this would work but I'm sure he's trying to make something happen.
Your whole post is assuming. If we judge him by what he's done (to his child, not the wife), he's a piece of sh!t (as a father).
regardless he's a horrible father and person for leaving his child
story two: the comments at the end are so delusional LOL gotta love when some complete random comes up with a "theory" based on nothing more than their intuition and baseless assumptions. Lunaseesu, you are not psychic. You sound like OP's ex wife tbh. Not saying OP didn't fuck up, just that this comment was super asinine and adding it to the video seemed pointless as
op abandon his child wtf?
3:10 generalazing much?
Acab
If this ain't a PSA for staying away from marriage and women, i don't know what is😂😂😂. And before anyone says men do this too........ people don't immediately trust what we say, and there's no double standards, 'cause I'm also a man
'Spot the incel' isn't fun when you make it this obvious
@@sweeety969 sweetheart, I'm gay, not jaded, and not a virgin. I just don't have rose colored glass towards women because I'm not a woman, and I'm not trying to bang them either
This is fake. If the judge found that the ex was lying & had evidence of her lies they would have thrown the whole case out not just the SA charges😮. & I call bs, your brother can totally sue the DA & everyone involved because there was a MISCARRIAGE OF JUSTICE.
i agree with you and the guy wouldn’t have to be in jail for that
First clue is that it came from r/mensrights. That subreddit is a thinly veiled anti woman sub disguised as a mens rights group.
Corruption.
Also.
The judge's power is absolute.
A judge could sentence you to life for a shit's and giggles.
You'd be able to sue the judge but you still be in jail for some time.