Put yourself out of your comfort-zone. It is when we fail or when we are challenged we grow the most. And as for anything else, *practice makes perfect* .
Confidence is not something that we all have, confidence comes from having more experience... the more you practice the better you’ll get, it won’t happen faster than you think but it takes time
As an educator I have seen many students forced into social situations (cafeteria, group work, gym, recess) and merely being in social situations does not always lead to greater comfort. Often, the discomfort of these students lasts for years. Being in group therapy where it is more of a facilitated environment is very helpful. Role play and social skills training also helps. Being in social situations is absolutely essential, but just being in social situations without learning social skills and getting feedback from people will not always lead to change. Also, mindset is important. If you have a lot of negative self-talk you can sabotage your attempts to socialize. Learning to speak positively and realistically to yourself in essential. Finally, not everyone is made for each other. Find a group of people that are more accepting and comfortable to be around and have similar interests of sense of humor. And listen to the song "The Middle" by Jimmy Eat World. It'll make you feel better about yourself!
School is a breeding ground for low self esteem and social ineptness. In away I think it's purposely designed that way so we won't be equally successful.
@@johnsonkids3058 Well, I hope it is not intentional. I don't see teachers actively attempting to create low self-esteem but there are certainly opportunities for it to occur and is feeling stupid and inept. It may be a by-product of the competitive nature of grades, who has the highest GPA, good work being posted on bulletin boards, etc.
Real Life Counseling - Michael Zone, LCSW, MEd, JD, well, we can say we are not whether its unintentional or not. However, when you force a large group young people with different family backgrounds and brain functions to interact together in a competitive setting you are a creating problem. And to not provide your teachers with trainings and tools to handle it is pretty intentional, not the teachers, but the school is.
On another note, you don’t always have to be social but when you’re not in the social mood still keep a positive mindset. Don’t have it in your mind that you’re not gonna talk to anyone. Just keep a positive and open mindset and just speak when spoken to.
This helped so much! My social anxiety is on edge at work because I was sexually harassed and then me coming out to HR got 2 people fired. I feel like this will give me the boost to face everyone like nothing's happened
This totally happened to me this morning on my first day at work. Super awkward. This is weird, I was thinking what I did wrong this video sums all of it. But thank you.
Never let your guard down around people, ever! It does not matter if the people are male, or female. Maintain your guard at its highest no matter what. One no longer needs to be social to exist in the 21st century. We are no longer needing to be social to be able to live a long life, like in the past. Today, it is the contrary. Being social opens you to all manner of physical, mental, and emotional attack. If you socially isolate yourself, it is near impossible to ever be mentally and emotionally attacked. It also greatly reduces the odds of being physically attacked. Life is much safer, simpler, liberating, and affordable, if you socially isolate yourself. I have lived with no friends, no girlfriend, nor aquaintences, since 8 August 2000 at 18:34 Central time. I have not just lived socially isolated since that day. I have done so successfully.
I've tried to meet people and I've become so many different people but no matter what people just don't like me from meeting me. I've tried many of these things and none of it helped. It's so hard to find anyone I have anything in common with, but I like things like history and books and I don't care what celebrities do. So maybe that's my problem. I just can't dumb myself down that low. All I know is most people suck.
For me lol actually being more selfish builds my confidence up idk about u guys! Just sharing , being selfish isnt bad at all it just means that youll love yourself more , and trust me confidence will naturally occur!
It sucks because whenever I’m trying to be normal around people I get rlly nervous and the people around me can tell. I would do things like not make eye contact, frequently thinking about what my next position will be..I also get nervous when I walk around people or eat around people because I feel like I look weird when I do it and it’s starting to happen around people I have known my whole life (family members). I hope to grow out of this. I hate it.
No risk, no gain? Just be your tue self in the current moment. Do the here & now. Fear and worry are a waste of energy. Be the main character in the story of your own life, pleasing others secondary.
Im very well mannered, I am considerate of peoples needs and Im upbeat and positive when talking to people (always smiling). I am still not able to get anyone to talk to me, let alone be friends with me. But yes, inside Im anxious and nervous.
im an overthinker. always have been. i do a lot of customer service work and im very talkative. i go into people homes and set up their beds. its just weird how some people rub me the wrong way and i get nervous and blushy. this is my worst flaw i feel. i wish i could fix it but it seems to never leave. i think hes right though. i just need to condition myself. i need more people in my life. it sucks i run to alcohol all the time to loosen me up because it works so well for me but its also bad for me health wise. im kicking this habit though. i just needed answers.
I cant express how much of a hell school is for me. Im tense 24/7 and randomly twitch because of it, everytime i try to calm down it gets worse and i feel very drained every single day. It doesnt help on how i have no friends to talk w in any classes as well and i cant make a basic human connection/interaction too. I hate myself so much because i cant be like others i just want to be normal
Do you want to know something that happens to me I think about girls in my school and when I see them the next day I just look awkward walking past them
Also, we have to remember that it’s okay to feel nervous! It’s REALLY normal. Because it’s just emotions. A lot of people assume the worst if they get embarrassed. So remember to stay confident and practice makes perfect! (Also remember it’s not the end of the world if you’re nervous!)
Thanks for sharing this. So important we help eachother with this. My whole childhood was so insecure. And it still shows up Even though I been on stages around The world.
Me too..24/7...wish more understood cause alot ppl dont wan be around it and will look at me weird when im trying my best but it just overtakes me soon as i open my eyes in the morning
If you are meeting someone new and your in a situation like that tell your self to see how it goes before telling your self that its gonna go badly and ur gonna fuck it up cos u never know who it will go and expect it not to go differently to how you have planned
most of people doesn't pay attention in this kind of topic, but for me being such a nervous ass always. i have to know the information needed to help my self to avoid these feeling to others because i know what they would feel. anxiety always attack since our online classes starts. that's why i wanted to how to avoid it. and how to restart and know thing needed to be improve. but i suddenly felt i didn't need to impress someone else but needed to improve and live so on. thank you!
I am a student and I just knew who are my groupmates and I started beinng nervous, I can’t stop shaking becaue I am afraid that I might be the dumbest student in our group and make myself embarassed.😭
I don't mind if someone is anxious. I knew a guy who had anxiety but it didn't make me like him less. If anything, I'm the one who's bound to offend. I can be blunt.
When I first I had my anxiety and I got awkward i felt like if I had anxiety I’d be dying no it does not mean that because when you or me thinking of someone or school I got very nervous about my school work but I always pass the test never fail I used to be so shy at school when I go home felt like didn’t study because I was so nervous if the teacher didn’t send any works for us so I decided to read some books 📚 I had no good jokes or nothing to talk about but when I had my first anxiety I told my mom that I feel nervous I talked this about her reminder:I learned a lesson that never feel nervous or anxious just be strong and talk someone about your anxiety
I had basketball tryouts and my nervousness decided to come out and I ran out of the gym.One of the girls in the tryout room was someone who HATES ME and is popular...wish me luck tomorrow
I have a to go do an oral test online about a book I read and I am freaking out, idk why I’m so nervous because I only have to speak for six minutes send HELP
It's funny I'm always worried when I get around new people, but after being around for a while you get use to them. lol Half the time after you dont even want to be around certain people .
Excellent, advises you always bring good staff I'm to put those in practice 😂 hope I will fit in in any conversation in the future thanks a lot you are the man,👍👍👍👍
I don’t agree with people who are cool are likely to be avoided. I think everyone wants to be cool and confident and so everyone is attracted to people who are. Or is the video referring to people trying to appear cool and confident but actually aren’t?
Bro I'm so --😭😭😭 Look my nervousness is different I'm being so weird I'm getting bad Symptoms at night and I can't find anything interesting literally nothing even things which I use to love the most back then
Maybe, Joseph should have asked Paige if everything's OK. It's called consideration for others. Maybe that would have made Paige feel more comfortable. Blaming it on Paige makes it look like she's a bad person. That is wrong.
Whens someone ask me something like what i want to eat, i always answer it like"up to u i can eat all things" i said that because i think that will be trouble some for those people if i ask a specific thing ...😞
Im too nervous to even read out loud properly.. whenever i have to read to anyone, i mind gets sort of mind blocked and i cant read the words and it would of been fine if i read it in my head
GUYS I just started sorta dating my guy friend who ofc now is like. My bf.. BUT he wants to meet on the weekend AND I'M FREAKING TF OUT LIKE I'M SO NERVOUS AND SCARED I'M SHAKING AND FOR WHAT HELP
I came here because i have a kickboxing tournament tommorow and if i win or performe good ill get to go to other citys for other tournaments! And if i loose i will blame myself for The rest of The year. I won all The other year tournaments so im 3-0 but this year is different i gained some kilograms and The competition is tougher, well im not really scared of them but theres one guy that has a good form hes as old as me so ill probably go agains him so im kinda nervous. (Btw im 12 years old)
I’m overweight and love history and cars it seems like whenever I talk about something I like for example a civil bullet or a arrowhead they just give me a bad look and walk a way then other people wil come up to me and say for example you keep old junk and laugh referring to my old civil war bullet that’s over 160 years old it makes my head go light and makes me fidgety I’m 14 and 190 pound they body shame me all the time!
Having good manners and etiquette is a plus but you shouldn't try too hard. If girls think you are trying too hard to be nice they will think you're a loser or a tool and you want something back in return for you kindness.
Bro am here because as you see I have an upstairs so yo know the living room downstairs and the tv is there and my parents are always there to watch tv and pretty much wen ever am going downstairs to get a snack I always get nervous because my parents are always looking at me 😂 and because am nervous to go down stairs I mostly starve to death 💀 XD
I get nervous in my own house too... always think if someone else buys the groceries then they're looking at me like i shouldn't eat it ...my anxiety is extremely bad..its ridiculous
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Build up self-esteem and become comfortable in any situation
I tried that twice and just ended up back here both times.
Ryan Leer I’m in the process
Ok sure...but..... *HOW* ?
Easier said than done
@@SalilRawatSaxena by embracing the fact that you are unique in your own way which actually makes you pretty damn cool and you rock!
Put yourself out of your comfort-zone. It is when we fail or when we are challenged we grow the most. And as for anything else, *practice makes perfect* .
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No practice don't makes u perfect it makes u better
This literally made me more scared
I've been researching treating shyness naturally and discovered an awesome resource at Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested)
When I am nervous, I will have a stomach ache. WHICH MAKES IT WORSE!
Same here
SAME 😭
Me too!when I’m nervous I will have a tummy ache!
Same
same
Practise getting out of your comfort zone. As simple as it sounds, that's the key
For me, it's always a mix of being panicked, nervous, stress, guilt, etc. It's always a mix of them-
Confidence is not something that we all have, confidence comes from having more experience... the more you practice the better you’ll get, it won’t happen faster than you think but it takes time
As an educator I have seen many students forced into social situations (cafeteria, group work, gym, recess) and merely being in social situations does not always lead to greater comfort. Often, the discomfort of these students lasts for years. Being in group therapy where it is more of a facilitated environment is very helpful. Role play and social skills training also helps. Being in social situations is absolutely essential, but just being in social situations without learning social skills and getting feedback from people will not always lead to change. Also, mindset is important. If you have a lot of negative self-talk you can sabotage your attempts to socialize. Learning to speak positively and realistically to yourself in essential. Finally, not everyone is made for each other. Find a group of people that are more accepting and comfortable to be around and have similar interests of sense of humor. And listen to the song "The Middle" by Jimmy Eat World. It'll make you feel better about yourself!
Well said
School is a breeding ground for low self esteem and social ineptness. In away I think it's purposely designed that way so we won't be equally successful.
@@johnsonkids3058 Well, I hope it is not intentional. I don't see teachers actively attempting to create low self-esteem but there are certainly opportunities for it to occur and is feeling stupid and inept. It may be a by-product of the competitive nature of grades, who has the highest GPA, good work being posted on bulletin boards, etc.
Real Life Counseling - Michael Zone, LCSW, MEd, JD, well, we can say we are not whether its unintentional or not. However, when you force a large group young people with different family backgrounds and brain functions to interact together in a competitive setting you are a creating problem. And to not provide your teachers with trainings and tools to handle it is pretty intentional, not the teachers, but the school is.
This is a long way but a good journey. So try to build up your confidence slowly.
It’s really hard like I can’t control it. It just comes by surprise
I thought the same but its a mental thing basically you will never be able to control it because you "think" that you cant control it
But.. if you "think” you can control you will most definitely be able to control it
Same my parents knows I get nervous I need to stop it
same. where i fix my nervousness is being funny. its my get out of jail card. it works most of the time. maybe you should try it?
On another note, you don’t always have to be social but when you’re not in the social mood still keep a positive mindset. Don’t have it in your mind that you’re not gonna talk to anyone. Just keep a positive and open mindset and just speak when spoken to.
It's totally one of the best things when you find people who enjoy your weird sense of humor and your quirky personality! 😀😀😀
Rea Kariz - 😐 That’s just not funny...
😂
:D
This helped so much! My social anxiety is on edge at work because I was sexually harassed and then me coming out to HR got 2 people fired. I feel like this will give me the boost to face everyone like nothing's happened
Good for you Martha 👍
A healthy diet can help too...eating too much sugar and processed foods affects your nerves
hmm, interesting i will keep this in mind.
That’s me
This totally happened to me this morning on my first day at work. Super awkward. This is weird, I was thinking what I did wrong this video sums all of it. But thank you.
Never let your guard down around people, ever! It does not matter if the people are male, or female. Maintain your guard at its highest no matter what. One no longer needs to be social to exist in the 21st century. We are no longer needing to be social to be able to live a long life, like in the past. Today, it is the contrary. Being social opens you to all manner of physical, mental, and emotional attack. If you socially isolate yourself, it is near impossible to ever be mentally and emotionally attacked. It also greatly reduces the odds of being physically attacked. Life is much safer, simpler, liberating, and affordable, if you socially isolate yourself. I have lived with no friends, no girlfriend, nor aquaintences, since 8 August 2000 at 18:34 Central time. I have not just lived socially isolated since that day. I have done so successfully.
Same pro and I believe you 👌🥰
I've tried to meet people and I've become so many different people but no matter what people just don't like me from meeting me. I've tried many of these things and none of it helped. It's so hard to find anyone I have anything in common with, but I like things like history and books and I don't care what celebrities do. So maybe that's my problem. I just can't dumb myself down that low. All I know is most people suck.
For me lol actually being more selfish builds my confidence up idk about u guys! Just sharing , being selfish isnt bad at all it just means that youll love yourself more , and trust me confidence will naturally occur!
It sucks because whenever I’m trying to be normal around people I get rlly nervous and the people around me can tell. I would do things like not make eye contact, frequently thinking about what my next position will be..I also get nervous when I walk around people or eat around people because I feel like I look weird when I do it and it’s starting to happen around people I have known my whole life (family members). I hope to grow out of this. I hate it.
Omg I know exactly how u feel it sucks 😫
Mallory Griffith ikr like I just wanna grow out of ittttt
@@monisworld3965 That sounds like a step further than just being nervious and awkward. Its called social anxiety, I have it too :(
ScilexGuitar yea ik and quarantine isn’t making this any better but I hope we both grow out of it 😋
@@monisworld3965 I have a job interview on Monday and I want to die lol
When I am nervous I shake like I’m cold but no just like shiver and I laugh so that’s embarrassing,but just believe you can do it (that’s a tip btw)
No risk, no gain?
Just be your tue self in the current moment.
Do the here & now.
Fear and worry are a waste of energy.
Be the main character in the story of your own life,
pleasing others secondary.
Im very well mannered, I am considerate of peoples needs and Im upbeat and positive when talking to people (always smiling). I am still not able to get anyone to talk to me, let alone be friends with me. But yes, inside Im anxious and nervous.
I need this right now
people are just as awkward as you are 👍
im an overthinker. always have been. i do a lot of customer service work and im very talkative. i go into people homes and set up their beds. its just weird how some people rub me the wrong way and i get nervous and blushy. this is my worst flaw i feel. i wish i could fix it but it seems to never leave. i think hes right though. i just need to condition myself. i need more people in my life. it sucks i run to alcohol all the time to loosen me up because it works so well for me but its also bad for me health wise. im kicking this habit though. i just needed answers.
I cant express how much of a hell school is for me. Im tense 24/7 and randomly twitch because of it, everytime i try to calm down it gets worse and i feel very drained every single day. It doesnt help on how i have no friends to talk w in any classes as well and i cant make a basic human connection/interaction too. I hate myself so much because i cant be like others i just want to be normal
I want to pretend that i dont have it that bad but i do which makes me feel worse
Everytime I try to make a conversation it be like there is a something sitting on my chest that I can't keep my voice out😣😢
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Do you want to know something that happens to me I think about girls in my school and when I see them the next day I just look awkward walking past them
Also, we have to remember that it’s okay to feel nervous! It’s REALLY normal. Because it’s just emotions. A lot of people assume the worst if they get embarrassed. So remember to stay confident and practice makes perfect!
(Also remember it’s not the end of the world if you’re nervous!)
Thanks for sharing this. So important we help eachother with this. My whole childhood was so insecure. And it still shows up Even though I been on stages around The world.
I’m always nervous for no reason I can’t explain it
Same here 🥺🥺
Me too..24/7...wish more understood cause alot ppl dont wan be around it and will look at me weird when im trying my best but it just overtakes me soon as i open my eyes in the morning
8:39 that glitch though...
I didn't even notice that before. Thanks for pointing that out. Played it back in slo-mo to see it better, LOL
It's addictive to get caught up with the anxiety I guess
If you are meeting someone new and your in a situation like that tell your self to see how it goes before telling your self that its gonna go badly and ur gonna fuck it up cos u never know who it will go and expect it not to go differently to how you have planned
Im always trying to improve myself even though im not akward
most of people doesn't pay attention in this kind of topic, but for me being such a nervous ass always. i have to know the information needed to help my self to avoid these feeling to others because i know what they would feel. anxiety always attack since our online classes starts. that's why i wanted to how to avoid it. and how to restart and know thing needed to be improve. but i suddenly felt i didn't need to impress someone else but needed to improve and live so on. thank you!
I am a student and I just knew who are my groupmates and I started beinng nervous, I can’t stop shaking becaue I am afraid that I might be the dumbest student in our group and make myself embarassed.😭
I don't mind if someone is anxious. I knew a guy who had anxiety but it didn't make me like him less. If anything, I'm the one who's bound to offend. I can be blunt.
When I first I had my anxiety and I got awkward i felt like if I had anxiety I’d be dying no it does not mean that because when you or me thinking of someone or school I got very nervous about my school work but I always pass the test never fail I used to be so shy at school when I go home felt like didn’t study because I was so nervous if the teacher didn’t send any works for us so I decided to read some books 📚 I had no good jokes or nothing to talk about but when I had my first anxiety I told my mom that I feel nervous I talked this about her reminder:I learned a lesson that never feel nervous or anxious just be strong and talk someone about your anxiety
It's this video which is awkward, and making me nervous!!
Annoying voice, and going around in circles!!
I have a job interview tmr and I am scared, my last one went so bad bc I was extremely nervous and froze 😐😐😐😐
Have you passed interview??
9:20 Paige's eyelashes are within her eyes 😂😂
This video literally says "wanna stop being socially anxious? Stop being anxious!"
And then it makes you feel worse about being anxious with the “mirror” shit
This is so helpful. Really brings things into perspective. Thank you!
Thank you, these videos are truly inspirational and have honestly enlightened my life.
When I get nervous I shake a lot, my hands shakes a lot a my upper body shakes too...
3:20 my ex gf told me that I talk too much and I am not serious because I joke too much.. Really crushed me confidence..
Watching this cause I start school tmrw😭
I had basketball tryouts and my nervousness decided to come out and I ran out of the gym.One of the girls in the tryout room was someone who HATES ME and is popular...wish me luck tomorrow
I like the music 😊
I have a to go do an oral test online about a book I read and I am freaking out, idk why I’m so nervous because I only have to speak for six minutes send HELP
I'm always nervous even if i don't do something idk wh😧😭
The power of indifference. Just realize if the people you are around aren't nice then you are better off without them
Basically just keep being awkward until your not haha thanks
When l get nervous around people,l get uncomfortable, shy,embarrassed and stomach starting to hurt alittle bit.
It's funny I'm always worried when I get around new people, but after being around for a while you get use to them. lol Half the time after you dont even want to be around certain people .
Thanks for the video. It helped a lot.
Very helpful.. thanks much .
Very good 👍 😊
Yes, bringing someone else around to make us feel comfortable is nice, but don't become dependent on them
I'm always nervous and I don't know why it's weird..
YAAAASSS THAT VOICE IS GONNA MAKE UP NAUGHTY THINGS. YAAAAS YAAAAS YAAAA
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why do i feel so much relieve after this?????
I have too practice for voice acting and im nervous-
Excellent, advises you always bring good staff I'm to put those in practice 😂 hope I will fit in in any conversation in the future thanks a lot you are the man,👍👍👍👍
Thx for this vid yay ✊🏻
I don’t agree with people who are cool are likely to be avoided. I think everyone wants to be cool and confident and so everyone is attracted to people who are. Or is the video referring to people trying to appear cool and confident but actually aren’t?
I could use these examples.
Bro I'm so --😭😭😭
Look my nervousness is different I'm being so weird
I'm getting bad Symptoms at night and I can't find anything interesting literally nothing even things which I use to love the most back then
That was great, thanks!
Estoy aprendiendo inglés. Y todos tus vídeos me sirve.
Maybe, Joseph should have asked Paige if everything's OK. It's called consideration for others. Maybe that would have made Paige feel more comfortable. Blaming it on Paige makes it look like she's a bad person. That is wrong.
Whens someone ask me something like what i want to eat, i always answer it like"up to u i can eat all things" i said that because i think that will be trouble some for those people if i ask a specific thing ...😞
I think this same way...about everything too...im so tired of being so nervous and worrying about everyone else...wish i could just be normal
Im too nervous to even read out loud properly.. whenever i have to read to anyone, i mind gets sort of mind blocked and i cant read the words and it would of been fine if i read it in my head
Is it better now?
I'm watching this minutes before I have to take the pizza from the delivery person
These help !!!!
I am suffering from the nervousness from my boyhood.
Wow, Simple yet Super
I have a girl I’ve been talking to for a couple weeks now and she’s coming over and I haven’t dated someone in a long time and holy shit I’m nervous
GUYS I just started sorta dating my guy friend who ofc now is like. My bf.. BUT he wants to meet on the weekend AND I'M FREAKING TF OUT LIKE I'M SO NERVOUS AND SCARED I'M SHAKING AND FOR WHAT HELP
I'm very!!! Nervous and I'm scared and I cannot sleep
I came here because i have a kickboxing tournament tommorow and if i win or performe good ill get to go to other citys for other tournaments! And if i loose i will blame myself for The rest of The year. I won all The other year tournaments so im 3-0 but this year is different i gained some kilograms and The competition is tougher, well im not really scared of them but theres one guy that has a good form hes as old as me so ill probably go agains him so im kinda nervous. (Btw im 12 years old)
When I’m nervous I have acid reflexes and gag
Can we get more videos like these
I’m overweight and love history and cars it seems like whenever I talk about something I like for example a civil bullet or a arrowhead they just give me a bad look and walk a way then other people wil come up to me and say for example you keep old junk and laugh referring to my old civil war bullet that’s over 160 years old it makes my head go light and makes me fidgety I’m 14 and 190 pound they body shame me all the time!
Thanks for making my video request become a video TOPTHINK
yeah im here for modules
Awesome❤👍
I hope you soon will be in schools programs!
Having good manners and etiquette is a plus but you shouldn't try too hard. If girls think you are trying too hard to be nice they will think you're a loser or a tool and you want something back in return for you kindness.
I made a joke once. Never again.
😂😂
When I am nervous I ether hum or laugh or tap my foot
This video resonates to rhe canadian old man
Good
Alright.
best video ever
Read the book psycho cybernetics
Bro am here because as you see I have an upstairs so yo know the living room downstairs and the tv is there and my parents are always there to watch tv and pretty much wen ever am going downstairs to get a snack I always get nervous because my parents are always looking at me 😂 and because am nervous to go down stairs I mostly starve to death 💀 XD
I get nervous in my own house too... always think if someone else buys the groceries then they're looking at me like i shouldn't eat it ...my anxiety is extremely bad..its ridiculous
You need to meditat and then your fear go...
when I am nervous i puke, and thats not too good considering I have a soccer game tomorrow and I ate a lot today
abida
How could I practice ? My parents won't allow me to go outside even without virus.
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