Atleast u had ur mum initially, I had no one from day 0. Depression is an understatement. But seeing my 13 month old doing great, I can it is all worth it! You will be alright, hang in there babe
Hi Nurse MJ. This is my first time commenting on your channel and I just want to say a big kudos to you. You are doing really well ! I believe this is a phase and it will soon pass. As a first time mum with no help but God and my husband, I have found solace in listening to spiritual messages and music, my spirit is usually energized and I tend to pray more. This usually changes to a better/positive one and It helps me to count my struggles as a first time mum as something to be grateful for... Also, I had to restrain the urge to do more than being a mother at home. I now prioritize my spirituality and caring for myself and my baby more now. I believe this phase is just to lay low to build a stronger capacity. I'm sending you loads of love and strength ❤️. You got this mama💓
You've got MJ. I'm so glad lots of mum are talking about their struggles. This help rather than keeping it bottled up. Again, God's got you. He'll give you grace to fulfill this beautiful obligation❤
Thanks for sharing your story dear. It sure gets better with time , I’m a living witness. We bless God for the gift of our babies ❤. Hugging you from here 🤗🥰
Thank you so so much for this!!i really appreciate this video !!!thank you for being vulnerable..You just motivated me to share my story too !!Motherhood is not beans !!Kudos to all mothers out there ..May the lord keep giving you the strength to tackle each day as it comes !!thank you so much
I'm glad to find other mothers who can resonate with me,,, sharing this took a lot of thought from mee... i thought I was the only one having these issues🥹❤
Glad you’re able to rest in God’s words for strength. May God continue to strengthen you. I’m not a mum yet but I’m a neonatal nurse. Sometimes I get emotionally attached and stressed and then remind myself I’m not their mum. I can only try to imagine how overwhelmed mothers get. Thank God for the kind people you have around too. Like they’ve told you, I sincerely pray you enjoy the “better” part that comes soon. Well done to all mothers! 🎉🎉
The best mummy ever I am sure of it! You’re doing so well mama. I love the Bible verse in the beginning and your vulnerability. Keep going and seek professional support if everything is getting really, really bad. ❤️❤️❤️
I watched all of your videos from when you announced your pregnancy and I can tell you that you are amazing and you are a wonderful mom. This is a phrase,the sparkling Nurse MJ is get back❤ everything will fine. Sending plenty Hugssssss
MJ, you’re doing absolutely amazing. It’s not easy as a new mom of 18months old baby, a nurse in the UK actively working, I totally relate. It gets better. You can do all things through Christ that strengthen you. Sending you hugs and kisses from here. ❤❤❤
Now you’re making me cry 😢😢😢 I am coming to give you some cuddles 🥰 ❤🎉 I just want to tell you that you are doing a great job 👏 and thanks to an amazing hubby.❤❤
These are makor concerns and like you said no one really gets it until you experience it and unfortunately, some African mothers make it look like its a walk in the park and make it difficult for new mothers to want to speak out to avoid being tagged "lazy". Our strength is in our maker that makes all of this possible, he will make it easy🙏.. Well-done Babe just take it a day at a time, this phase too shall pass. God bless and keep you and your family in love, strength and blessings
Hmm, I can relate with this. 3 months ppt with a baby that refuse to suck. It has been stressful but we will be fine. I know it is a phase. Welldone Nurse MJ, you got this.
Sending you hugs Moji. It will get better. 🤣 I can’t believe I’m saying this, my baby is 3 months and as a first time mum, I can say you’re right, motherhood is hard. I have been taking care of my son alone here in the UK, no mother or friends to help. On the days I feel tired, I vent my anger and frustration on my husband. And it has really affected my relationship with my husband, every focus and attention is to my son. But I know it will definitely gets better. Exclusive breastfeeding is not for the weak stop calling yourself a failure. You’re a strong woman ❤
You’ve got this dearie👍 The Lord is your Strength 💯 You are a good Mum to your child A good wife to your husband An asset to this generation Thanks for sharing 🤗🤗
It’s just for the meantime Sis. I’m a FTM, seven weeks postpartum doing it all alone in the UK coupled with the fact that I had an emergency CS. I just try to encourage myself sincerely.
I want to believe that it will get better, my baby is just 3 months old, and as a first time mum, I have no help, no mother no friends no family. I didn’t even have anyone to help me recover from the emergency CS, the failed induction and the pain I went through when they broke my water at 35 weeks. One thing that keeps me going is that I know it will get better ❤
I can’t even think of doing exclusive with no help, na person wey dey alive dey do mummy. When I feed my baby some breast milk and formula, he sleeps well, I also try to catch some sleep, so that I can live long🤣. Sending hugs to all mothers, we are strong 💪
You’ve got this MJ been there twice and like everyone always says it get better believe me I can relate but don’t be too afraid to ask for help or speak to someone love and light ❤
Seeing my experience right in you.Hmmm,I had to return back to work at two months postpartum with no help juste and my husbandwho was a student.It was indeed a struggle but I am much better now just that I still feel PSTD sometimes. You will get better love,God is your strength.
I just logged back into my YT ! I honestly do not know what I did to deserve this kindness from you! ☺ ❤Thank you"all soooo much. You'all definitely made me feel better.
MJ, it's but a phase.Seeing,your child grow and excel is the rewarding part of motherhood. It's very right you voice it out,talk positivity and prayed about it ;it will heal you emotionally.The Lord is your strength. Motherhood is sacrificial, demanding but eventually worth it on the long run. I've been there,a first time mom (my son is 2years old)and I really understand you.Going through a c/s to birth him is a herculean task which you were able to overcome so nurturing him with ease will be easier for you. You're a strong woman 💯 .In years to come,you will watch this v-log and just smile,afterall. Sending you hugs 🤗🤗
Hang in there mama It will get better honestly I experienced this and I was traumatised in the first 3 months but 8 months now and it’s definitely better.I will tell my story soon too God will continue to strengthen you sis❤
💐💐👑💛✨️💛✨️ I'm most proud that you are authentically sharing the journey of motherhood. You are amazing for showing up everyday even when it feels far from perfect and tests every aspect of self and as a women. Im praying that God restores your strength and that you rediscovery the best version of yourself. Deftinely it will get better and may you find this truth as you blossom throughout motherhood and thrive as a woman. Its a new and precious experience. Give yourself grace love. ❤ God will guide your steps. Just seek Him at any moment. 🕊🙏✨️💛🔑. This diary entry could just be a newfound purpose towards sheding light on what matters most to first time mothers and all mothers. May those surrounding you contuine to hear your needs and uplift you. 🥰
I am glad you overcame. I pray for more of God’s strength for you. Please take time to take very good care of yourself and stay stronger as the days go by. Much love from here ❤❤
Aww hang in there.. it gets better. The thing about motherhood is that once you embrace it with all it's inconveniences, the struggle becomes less and less. So accept and love your new life. Cuz you can never ever go back to life before the baby. And your husband must also accept and love the new you. And your new life with the baby. You have to try childcare for at least 6hrs so you can have a few hours to yourself to rest and do other things uninterrupted. Otherwise this is it. Just love all of it.
You got this babe.. You can do it.. You’re doing a very great job taking care of your son. You are enough, you’re simply enough babe🥰🥰 Much love from this end 🥰🥰
When I had my son, I felt good and happy cos I had my people around me but when I had my daughter, I had post natal depression, I was stressed, tired, always crying at every little thing, I had just my husband with me then and he was really supportive, after maternity leave when I started going out to work I felt better and gradually everything disappeared, That experience made me not want to try again. It is well with you and you will be fine in the end. God will continue to support you and your family ❤❤❤❤❤❤
It’s time for more African women to be open about motherhood. Children r a blessing but we r not super humans. The trauma that comes from childbirth is real
Congratulations momma, im also a new mom of a 7 month old im also a carer in the Uk and had a csection im 28 and i think if it wasnt for my mom and a helper i would have gone insane because its not easy. I returned to work and my chest tightened and i couldnt breathe i think it was a panic attack. I applaud new moms in the uk without help
Please a word of advice. Don’t get pregnant as soon as you get married or before marriage. Make sure you enjoy your marriage to the core. Speaking from a personal experience, we all want kids and all but trust me in a foreign land it’s very different. MJ prayers and love from this end. You’ve got this.
From someone who gave birth the same time I gave birth your videos were my go to😢 I didn't have my mum with me after giving birth, struggled as a first time mum through ceasarian section as well, I didn't have any help it was draining fell into depression for the first few months but my partner stepped in for me. It will get better nurse. MJ, wat I did was I accepted reality and saw taking care of my baby as a daily routine, I just saw it as something I needed to do for my day to go well and since then I've lived it nd enjoyed it🫶
I apologize for your experience, but have you considered using a breast pump? My sister was able to sleep because she would pump and store milk, allowing anyone to feed her baby while she rested. It would really help you. Sorry again. 🩷🩷🩷
From someone who gave birth the same time I gave birth your videos were my go to😢 I didn't have my mum with me after giving birth, struggled as a first time mum through ceasarian section as well, I didn't have any help it was draining fell into depression for the first few months but my partner stepped in for me. It will get better nurse. MJ, wat I did was I accepted reality and saw taking care of my baby as a daily routine, I just saw it as something I needed to do for my day to go well and since then I've lived it nd enjoyed it🫶
Atleast u had ur mum initially, I had no one from day 0. Depression is an understatement. But seeing my 13 month old doing great, I can it is all worth it! You will be alright, hang in there babe
This is a reality of every mother..
I am glad that we are coming out to talk more about the “not so joyful” part of motherhood…
Mum of three here to encourage you ❤️. It gets better darling, i have been there three times and i can assure you this ❤️ ♥️
You've got this MJ!
Honestly, you're doing so well
Sending you love and hugs😢❤
Hi Nurse MJ.
This is my first time commenting on your channel and I just want to say a big kudos to you. You are doing really well !
I believe this is a phase and it will soon pass. As a first time mum with no help but God and my husband, I have found solace in listening to spiritual messages and music, my spirit is usually energized and I tend to pray more. This usually changes to a better/positive one and It helps me to count my struggles as a first time mum as something to be grateful for...
Also, I had to restrain the urge to do more than being a mother at home. I now prioritize my spirituality and caring for myself and my baby more now.
I believe this phase is just to lay low to build a stronger capacity.
I'm sending you loads of love and strength ❤️. You got this mama💓
You've got MJ. I'm so glad lots of mum are talking about their struggles. This help rather than keeping it bottled up. Again, God's got you. He'll give you grace to fulfill this beautiful obligation❤
Amen🥹🥹... I guess, talking did help❤❤❤❤
Thanks for sharing your story dear. It sure gets better with time , I’m a living witness. We bless God for the gift of our babies ❤. Hugging you from here 🤗🥰
Thank you so so much for this!!i really appreciate this video !!!thank you for being vulnerable..You just motivated me to share my story too !!Motherhood is not beans !!Kudos to all mothers out there ..May the lord keep giving you the strength to tackle each day as it comes !!thank you so much
I'm glad to find other mothers who can resonate with me,,, sharing this took a lot of thought from mee... i thought I was the only one having these issues🥹❤
Glad you’re able to rest in God’s words for strength. May God continue to strengthen you. I’m not a mum yet but I’m a neonatal nurse. Sometimes I get emotionally attached and stressed and then remind myself I’m not their mum. I can only try to imagine how overwhelmed mothers get. Thank God for the kind people you have around too. Like they’ve told you, I sincerely pray you enjoy the “better” part that comes soon. Well done to all mothers! 🎉🎉
You have got this mama. I’m sending you lots of hugs
The best mummy ever I am sure of it!
You’re doing so well mama. I love the Bible verse in the beginning and your vulnerability.
Keep going and seek professional support if everything is getting really,
really bad.
❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much❤, youre far too kind
I watched all of your videos from when you announced your pregnancy and I can tell you that you are amazing and you are a wonderful mom. This is a phrase,the sparkling Nurse MJ is get back❤ everything will fine. Sending plenty Hugssssss
Thank you so much ❤🥹I sincerely appreciate
Love from me to you dear❤❤,woman to woman it isn't easy but glad u scale through
MJ, you’re doing absolutely amazing. It’s not easy as a new mom of 18months old baby, a nurse in the UK actively working, I totally relate.
It gets better. You can do all things through Christ that strengthen you. Sending you hugs and kisses from here. ❤❤❤
This is literally me right now, it’s truly so overwhelming.
Be strong sis, at the end of the day it gonna be worth it. Sending you lots of love.
Why is no one talking about how emotional this vlog is?😢😢
Nothing prepares us enough for mothehood. Thanks for putting this out. It will help the single ladies to be better prepared. Stay strong. Stay blessed
This is so touching. Your strength is renewed in this season in Jesus name
You are doing really well MJ
Motherhood is never easy but you are navigating it so well. Well doing darling.
You are Loved, MJ!
You can never fail for Christ is within you!
Now you’re making me cry 😢😢😢 I am coming to give you some cuddles 🥰 ❤🎉 I just want to tell you that you are doing a great job 👏 and thanks to an amazing hubby.❤❤
These are makor concerns and like you said no one really gets it until you experience it and unfortunately, some African mothers make it look like its a walk in the park and make it difficult for new mothers to want to speak out to avoid being tagged "lazy". Our strength is in our maker that makes all of this possible, he will make it easy🙏.. Well-done Babe just take it a day at a time, this phase too shall pass. God bless and keep you and your family in love, strength and blessings
Hmm, I can relate with this. 3 months ppt with a baby that refuse to suck. It has been stressful but we will be fine. I know it is a phase. Welldone Nurse MJ, you got this.
Thank you and welldone mama❤
Also experienced this, my baby is 13 month now…all I could say now is that it’s is going to get better
Sending you hugs Moji. It will get better. 🤣 I can’t believe I’m saying this, my baby is 3 months and as a first time mum, I can say you’re right, motherhood is hard. I have been taking care of my son alone here in the UK, no mother or friends to help. On the days I feel tired, I vent my anger and frustration on my husband. And it has really affected my relationship with my husband, every focus and attention is to my son. But I know it will definitely gets better. Exclusive breastfeeding is not for the weak stop calling yourself a failure. You’re a strong woman ❤
You’ve got this dearie👍
The Lord is your Strength 💯
You are a good Mum to your child
A good wife to your husband
An asset to this generation
Thanks for sharing 🤗🤗
Thank you for the kind words🥹... I am a good mom!❤🥹
The Lord be with you through out this period and always remember that you are enough and the best mother to your child ❤
Thank you❤
Sending you warm hugs 🫂
Keep hanging there, you aren't a failed mum, be strong... Lots of love from here
It’s just for the meantime Sis. I’m a FTM, seven weeks postpartum doing it all alone in the UK coupled with the fact that I had an emergency CS. I just try to encourage myself sincerely.
Mine was something else i was always missing my mum like mad sleepless nights yet during day cant even sleep
I want to believe that it will get better, my baby is just 3 months old, and as a first time mum, I have no help, no mother no friends no family. I didn’t even have anyone to help me recover from the emergency CS, the failed induction and the pain I went through when they broke my water at 35 weeks. One thing that keeps me going is that I know it will get better ❤
I can’t even think of doing exclusive with no help, na person wey dey alive dey do mummy. When I feed my baby some breast milk and formula, he sleeps well, I also try to catch some sleep, so that I can live long🤣. Sending hugs to all mothers, we are strong 💪
@@ibironketowoju9022 it's an experience may God see us through all alone me too with a cs
@@Repairandfarming5483 This...
You’ve got this MJ been there twice and like everyone always says it get better believe me I can relate but don’t be too afraid to ask for help or speak to someone love and light ❤
Seeing my experience right in you.Hmmm,I had to return back to work at two months postpartum with no help juste and my husbandwho was a student.It was indeed a struggle but I am much better now just that I still feel PSTD sometimes.
You will get better love,God is your strength.
It will all get better. The Lord is your strength ❤
I just logged back into my YT ! I honestly do not know what I did to deserve this kindness from you! ☺ ❤Thank you"all soooo much. You'all definitely made me feel better.
Watching this I can feel your pain
I feel so emotional rn😫
MJ, it's but a phase.Seeing,your child grow and excel is the rewarding part of motherhood.
It's very right you voice it out,talk positivity and prayed about it ;it will heal you emotionally.The Lord is your strength. Motherhood is sacrificial, demanding but eventually worth it on the long run.
I've been there,a first time mom (my son is 2years old)and I really understand you.Going through a c/s to birth him is a herculean task which you were able to overcome so nurturing him with ease will be easier for you. You're a strong woman 💯 .In years to come,you will watch this v-log and just smile,afterall. Sending you hugs 🤗🤗
The Lord is your strength...this phase will pass you by. Hang in there Sis
Hang in there mama
It will get better honestly
I experienced this and I was traumatised in the first 3 months but 8 months now and it’s definitely better.I will tell my story soon too
God will continue to strengthen you sis❤
Thanks for sharing sis❤🥹
💐💐👑💛✨️💛✨️
I'm most proud that you are authentically sharing the journey of motherhood. You are amazing for showing up everyday even when it feels far from perfect and tests every aspect of self and as a women. Im praying that God restores your strength and that you rediscovery the best version of yourself. Deftinely it will get better and may you find this truth as you blossom throughout motherhood and thrive as a woman. Its a new and precious experience. Give yourself grace love. ❤ God will guide your steps. Just seek Him at any moment. 🕊🙏✨️💛🔑. This diary entry could just be a newfound purpose towards sheding light on what matters most to first time mothers and all mothers. May those surrounding you contuine to hear your needs and uplift you. 🥰
Not a mom yet but here to tell you to keep going and stay strong. You can do you, you got it, it’ll get better ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much❤❤❤
I am glad you overcame. I pray for more of God’s strength for you. Please take time to take very good care of yourself and stay stronger as the days go by. Much love from here ❤❤
Sending you warm hugs ❤. You’ve got this 🥰💪🏻
Aww hang in there.. it gets better. The thing about motherhood is that once you embrace it with all it's inconveniences, the struggle becomes less and less. So accept and love your new life. Cuz you can never ever go back to life before the baby. And your husband must also accept and love the new you. And your new life with the baby. You have to try childcare for at least 6hrs so you can have a few hours to yourself to rest and do other things uninterrupted. Otherwise this is it. Just love all of it.
hummmm,,, no truer words❤
Sending you love mama. It’s really hard but God is your strength. It will get better🤗🤗🤗
You got this babe.. You can do it.. You’re doing a very great job taking care of your son. You are enough, you’re simply enough babe🥰🥰 Much love from this end 🥰🥰
When I had my son, I felt good and happy cos I had my people around me but when I had my daughter, I had post natal depression, I was stressed, tired, always crying at every little thing, I had just my husband with me then and he was really supportive, after maternity leave when I started going out to work I felt better and gradually everything disappeared, That experience made me not want to try again. It is well with you and you will be fine in the end. God will continue to support you and your family ❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are strong boo ❤❤❤ you got this! Sending you love and light 🫂🫂🫂🫂
Love you ma! ❤️
Please take your time with TH-cam.
We understand. 🥺
You are doing an amazing job. Be easy on yourself .💛🙏🏿
MJ. 🎉 This is a phase and it will pass🎉. Pele sister mi😢. We love you. Our prayers are with you. You'll be fine
It’ll definitely get better ❤😩🫂
I know how you feel hun the Lord is your strength. It will get better
You have got this MJ💕
You will be fine, I have 3 under 5, juggling NHS job and still pushing
Story of my life!! Babe you'll be fine.. with time! So sorry darling
i don’t know if I should be happy I have other mothers who can relate, but yes, I'm glad to know I'm not alone. Thank you❤
Sending you warm hugs, darling 🫂🫂🫂🫂.
It’s time for more African women to be open about motherhood. Children r a blessing but we r not super humans. The trauma that comes from childbirth is real
Also I don’t know how single mothers do it
@@MsStefy01honestly! I say this all the time. I respect them
It’s easier felt than telt. 🥹😔
This!
@@NurseMJTV thanks for keeping it real without glamorizing it. All the best mama u got it.
Congratulations momma, im also a new mom of a 7 month old im also a carer in the Uk and had a csection im 28 and i think if it wasnt for my mom and a helper i would have gone insane because its not easy. I returned to work and my chest tightened and i couldnt breathe i think it was a panic attack. I applaud new moms in the uk without help
Please how did you get the helper?
The comments 😢y’all are indeed strong women ❤❤❤❤
Please a word of advice. Don’t get pregnant as soon as you get married or before marriage. Make sure you enjoy your marriage to the core. Speaking from a personal experience, we all want kids and all but trust me in a foreign land it’s very different.
MJ prayers and love from this end. You’ve got this.
Don't weary yourself. U will be fine
Sending you lots of love❤
Is Well Dear, More Strength ❤❤❤
The Lord is your strength.
Amen❤
It will all end in praises ma🙏
Lots of love and light ❤❤
Hello MJ, I missed your content so much ❤❤
Awwhn, Thank you🥹
Love and light😢❤
Sending love and light ❤
❤❤❤❤❤
From someone who gave birth the same time I gave birth your videos were my go to😢 I didn't have my mum with me after giving birth, struggled as a first time mum through ceasarian section as well, I didn't have any help it was draining fell into depression for the first few months but my partner stepped in for me. It will get better nurse. MJ, wat I did was I accepted reality and saw taking care of my baby as a daily routine, I just saw it as something I needed to do for my day to go well and since then I've lived it nd enjoyed it🫶
I apologize for your experience, but have you considered using a breast pump? My sister was able to sleep because she would pump and store milk, allowing anyone to feed her baby while she rested.
It would really help you. Sorry again. 🩷🩷🩷
From someone who gave birth the same time I gave birth your videos were my go to😢 I didn't have my mum with me after giving birth, struggled as a first time mum through ceasarian section as well, I didn't have any help it was draining fell into depression for the first few months but my partner stepped in for me. It will get better nurse. MJ, wat I did was I accepted reality and saw taking care of my baby as a daily routine, I just saw it as something I needed to do for my day to go well and since then I've lived it nd enjoyed it🫶
I think accepting this new life is what I am struggling with...😞Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me rockstar❤