*Anna you are the STRAIGHT UP GOAT. So, I have something that I’ve been struggling with over the past couple years; being with a man and NOT wanting to get married. I know you found your forever man, and you are so lucky for that, we are so happy for you! What are your opinions on looking for a man/woman to be with forever, but not getting married? I don’t believe in marriage, the custom and history of it, it’s just something I don’t want to do. I’ve had so many people tell me “oh you’ll want to get married if you find the right person” and even though I know they mean well, I always end up rolling my eyes, because I am 1001% positive it isn’t what I want lol. Do you feel like the majority of young men (I’m 33 years old) absolutely want a ‘wife’ and kids? Because for the life of me, I can’t find them. I dated a wonderful guy in the beginning of this year but ended up breaking up with him because we had “the talk”. He wants to get married and have children, I absolutely do not. He was literally PERFECT for me, and I walked away from him. I feel sad about it sometimes, but I know it was ultimately the right decision. Any words of wisdom?*
So glad you are addressing boundaries with family! I have severe CPTSD from having extremely controlling mom, sister, etc that gaslight, etc. I've had to introduce the concept of boundaries but I've had to accept that either I am their puppet or they attack me for having boundaries. Of course this has played out in my romantic relationships and is why I've been single trying to heal from all that attachment wounding before I end up replaying old dynamics
I love hearing what you had to say and that TH-cam let you speak for a longer time. Considering your advice makes me feel like I’m listening to the big sister I wished I had. Thank you for your insight. 🙏🏽
I love that you don't just spout cliches to sound wise but give more thoughtful ways of reframing ideas that we've probably tried to accept but haven't worked. That takes actual self reflection and its helpful to hear through your lived experience. Binging your channel!
The truth tho is that it’s not so straight forward and know what they get. I keep hearing these old men that like dating young girls complaining about how “there are no real women out there anymore, everybody wants money” bla bla bla. They’re super unrealistic and stuck in their high school brains thinking they can date young and FOR LOVE
Anna, do you have an opinion on evolving and becoming the right person for a relationship or a job (or just for the sake of being better)? Would love to hear your take on that.
more thoughts on transactional relationships? I feel like it's some level it is all transactional and we pretend it's not but I might be jaded as well?? even at 65 men still want thin and pretty and creepily one night stands!
It's funny you see sugar dating as a problem for feminism because women aren't equal in the relationship. I think the problem is there's a huge wealth inequality and women are born with a valuable stock of wealth that men do not have access to--their sexuality which is idolized. You would see a lot of young men doing sugar dating to pay their college loans or afford a decent living situation if there was a market for that (albeit there is a small one but its nowhere close). That's demand driven not supply driven. The solution to sugar dating isn't about emancipating women from traditional gender roles, but that tons of young people are incredibly poor, struggling to make ends meet and $1-3k a month is going to transform their life.
God I am genuinely so so glad that people like you exist. Love your opinions and point on views!!!
*Anna you are the STRAIGHT UP GOAT. So, I have something that I’ve been struggling with over the past couple years; being with a man and NOT wanting to get married. I know you found your forever man, and you are so lucky for that, we are so happy for you! What are your opinions on looking for a man/woman to be with forever, but not getting married? I don’t believe in marriage, the custom and history of it, it’s just something I don’t want to do. I’ve had so many people tell me “oh you’ll want to get married if you find the right person” and even though I know they mean well, I always end up rolling my eyes, because I am 1001% positive it isn’t what I want lol. Do you feel like the majority of young men (I’m 33 years old) absolutely want a ‘wife’ and kids? Because for the life of me, I can’t find them. I dated a wonderful guy in the beginning of this year but ended up breaking up with him because we had “the talk”. He wants to get married and have children, I absolutely do not. He was literally PERFECT for me, and I walked away from him. I feel sad about it sometimes, but I know it was ultimately the right decision. Any words of wisdom?*
So glad you are addressing boundaries with family! I have severe CPTSD from having extremely controlling mom, sister, etc that gaslight, etc. I've had to introduce the concept of boundaries but I've had to accept that either I am their puppet or they attack me for having boundaries. Of course this has played out in my romantic relationships and is why I've been single trying to heal from all that attachment wounding before I end up replaying old dynamics
Love ur content, literally consider u a bigger sis I never had
I love hearing what you had to say and that TH-cam let you speak for a longer time. Considering your advice makes me feel like I’m listening to the big sister I wished I had. Thank you for your insight. 🙏🏽
I love that you don't just spout cliches to sound wise but give more thoughtful ways of reframing ideas that we've probably tried to accept but haven't worked. That takes actual self reflection and its helpful to hear through your lived experience. Binging your channel!
I love listening to your commentary on things! 😂
The truth tho is that it’s not so straight forward and know what they get. I keep hearing these old men that like dating young girls complaining about how “there are no real women out there anymore, everybody wants money” bla bla bla. They’re super unrealistic and stuck in their high school brains thinking they can date young and FOR LOVE
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Anna, do you have an opinion on evolving and becoming the right person for a relationship or a job (or just for the sake of being better)? Would love to hear your take on that.
Love hearing your thoughts! Thanks for continuing to show up and share with us on YT! 🤗
more thoughts on transactional relationships? I feel like it's some level it is all transactional and we pretend it's not but I might be jaded as well??
even at 65 men still want thin and pretty and creepily one night stands!
It's funny you see sugar dating as a problem for feminism because women aren't equal in the relationship. I think the problem is there's a huge wealth inequality and women are born with a valuable stock of wealth that men do not have access to--their sexuality which is idolized. You would see a lot of young men doing sugar dating to pay their college loans or afford a decent living situation if there was a market for that (albeit there is a small one but its nowhere close). That's demand driven not supply driven.
The solution to sugar dating isn't about emancipating women from traditional gender roles, but that tons of young people are incredibly poor, struggling to make ends meet and $1-3k a month is going to transform their life.