Are We Narcissists? w/ Jae (DAY6) & AleXa I HDIGH Ep. #34
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ก.ย. 2020
- There's nothing wrong with confidence and prioritizing your own needs to live a healthy life. However, some people take such pride too far and end up being a bit *narcissistic*. But what does that label actually entail? Jae and AleXa dive deep and get even a little spooked along the way.
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Jae be lookin like an anime character with the cap covering his eyes
The amount of energy Alexa had, took time to grow on me but i absolutely love her , she's so funny. ❤️
Everyone has their own Sleep paralysis demon, it's very interesting you should look into it.
Can you talk about your DEFENSE MECHANISMS?
They started talking about Narcissism how did they ended up telling ghost stories. Now imma watch some day6 memes compilations so I can sleep...
Im scared rn
yeah, i'm like shit guess we ain't sleeping tonight :D i'm laying in my bed literally shaking so bad
Same bro imma watch some liv and Maddie to get unscarred
I love it how they put trigger warning at the beginning. That's so thoughtful :(
truuu jae bestest boi
ikrrr i love him sm
Im happy he put that there, bc I just avoided a bullet to the heart by him being thoughtful~ now i have time to toughen up and watch it anyway!
@@opheliawoods ur so strong. I'm rooting for you ❤️
dee deelu thank you dear~☺️
the theater kid jumped out when alexa was reading the narcissist lines. sis got in CHARACTER.
She has a great voice for story-telling. Her words are so expressive.
Dude Jae's ghost story legit creeps me out. It was nice seeing his face as he tells the story but I got so many goosebumps than when I listened to the podcast and again when I watched this video. Also, this is probably me favorite episode so far, really important topic and messages.
Saaaaaaaaaaaame!!!! I heard it and it creeped me out, and now watching it, I'm creeped out again 😂
i do the same here!
I think the song jae was talking about was pumped up kids by foster the kids
@@devensingh9195 I searched the lyrics, there is no devil word..
I just heard this episode and i deadass cried,, I was so creeped out oml
He has a hoodie on and looks beautiful
Indeed, but made me miss his face tho :(
Idea for next podcast: How much exercise/activity do we ACTUALLY need?
Agree. In quarantine time we really need that
ama humaira how muchhh tho 👀👀👀
Woah this is a good one
More than we are doing for sure.. 🙄
Dee S. 💀💀😂😂😂
Just so people don't get confused, a person with the mental disorder NPD and a narcissistic person are different. A person with NPD (mental illness) usually gets it from a traumatic event in their childhood and uses it as a defense mechanism without noticing.
Thank you for adding that!
dude i need an episode about ghost things even though im scared of them sjsbsjbs
exactly that 🤣
The “you’re my only friend” “no wonder nobody else likes you” “I’m the only one defending you” is an us against the world thing. They’re trying to isolate the person from their friends/family/other people. Because then they’d feel uncomfortable discussing their relationship. They’ll see it as a betrayal and that they should feel ashamed for talking about “private” things.
Caitlin Burrows my parents do this to me and idk how to stop them
@@justkencontrol I'm by no means a doctor, and if you have a chance to talk to someone qualified, you should, but I found this and there's a section about coping and setting boundaries: www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
Caitlin Burrows thank you so much 😭😭😭😭
@@justkencontrol i hope you're doing well now. im sure you know this, but thats a really toxic dependent relationship, and ik yk you deserve better than that. best wishes to you
ohh this makes me remember a webtoon 'My deepest secret'... IntEresTing~
One of my ex literally said "you were the one" during my 1st week into the relationship... also later on he said things like "why can't you be like other girls?" or "you and your friends' sense of humor are so lame"
DUDE I'M JUST GLAD THE RELATIONSHIP WAS OVER 😭
People change really fast
I’m glad you’re out of that relationship now, that man is sick.
you deserve better, thank God the relationship is finally over
Omg I AM so glad that it's over for you!
AleXa sings: your insecure don't know what for
Jae : Who's song is that?
Me : 👁️ 👄 👁️
shalini amin kAtY pErRy-
@@suthani its ONE DIRECTION
shalini amin iK-
@@suthani were u doing sarcasm? 😂
shalini amin yes i was being sarcastic-
I grew up with a narcissistic mother. The key is that their narcissism comes from their own deep rooted need to be popular, loved and/or favored and in some cases (my mothers) is indicative of severe lack of self esteem. To validate their worth they'll make friends through manipulation then tear them down to make them feel better about themselves. They usually have an extreme lack of empathy but are good at pretending to be empathetic, they'll paint themselves as a victim at any given chance and will never admit when they're wrong in an argument. My only solution is to get out of the relationship ASAP, there is never any winning and a narcissist will never change no matter how hard you fight back or how much you try to ignore. If you're worried that you're a narcissist, dont be, because a narcissist will always perceive themselves as a saint.
4:57 alexa got the right idea tho, one should undergo some psychological tests to know if they have a mental disorder or not (in this case narcissistic personality disorder [NPD]). one could have a narcissistic personality but it's not always a disorder, or as jae said, "everyday narcissist". thank you jae, alexa and dive studios for bringing this topic to light.
Thankyou for putting that warning before hand ^
I won't watch this episode but I'm really happy that Dive warns people about stuff like that.
Recovering from abusive narcissistic relationship took toll on you. You questioned everything for months and wonder where it went wrong and questioned your self worth. I survived it and I’m healed now after 3 years. I hope everyone who goes through the same pain can recover too. Take your time and remember, other people don’t determine your self worth. You are worthy💕
Thanks for this ep, Jae and Alexa.
After 3 years is after break up or after 3 years in relationship?
The fact that AleXa is a Heathers fan makes me love her even more
What if Jae had another podcast with his friend where they just talk about scary stories????😲😂
AleXa referencing Heathers the Musical... I love her so much. T T
YES OMFG
THE MOVIE AND THE MUSICAL I got so excited
Paranormal episode for Halloween 🎃 please! When Jae kept repeating "Run" I honestly thought my car radio was acting up. Lol!
"the devil is coming for you you'd better run run run run run...." 😂😭😭😭😭
I just want to mention how the aesthetics of these two today at the exact polar opposites and I love it
"Call me Tablo, Im wearing his hat today"
I miss him😭😭😭
who?
Great episode. I worked once for a genuine narcissist, was a nightmare. 😔 Got chills when you read out the stuff they'd say in relationships, I'd run a mile if I ever heard that.
After my grandma died my mum started experiencing her TV coming on in the middle of the night, and she was convinced that my grandma was haunting her. My mum doesn't have faith, but I do, so I offered to come over and pray and I have a good sense of the spiritual. Anyway I didn't sense anything spiritually but I just happened to look at her TV and google the manual. Turned out there was an update service ran every night between 1 and 2 am, and there was a reported fault on it. So we ran the solution and no more night time switch ons. I believe in ghosts though because they're in the bible 😉, but I'm not scared of them any longer.
On another note, have you looked up the meaning of 666. I heard that 7 was considered a perfect number in certain cultures, and so having 666 as the mark of the beast was actually just saying it fell short of perfection. I haven't researched it myself though so I don't know if it's true. Maybe one for your podcasts. 😁
Peace ✌
okay but AleXa's acting skills are FIRE🔥 she sounded like a COMPLETELY different person at 11:50 onwards, im in complete awe🤯
I can listen to Alexa's speaking voice everyday and find peace.
“because you’ve lost my trust you have to earn my trust back” I HAVE BEEN TOLD THIS EXACT PHRASE
I read in my psych textbook that if u want to practice being more empathetic, u can try mimicking the facial expressions of the other person. Like if u r trying to understand a sad person, u mimic their sad expression and that way u can better feel their emotions yourself putting yourself in their shoes
Alexa looks so beautiful with new hair style and jae looks like bad ass with his hoodie on . I wish we both of them the best on these show. ♥️♥️♥️
Love how AleXa reacts to everything she reads and that made my day🤣
Again, thank you for the trigger warning.
What I wanna add, though, is that there are different kinds of narcissism: the one kind they mentioned in the beginning (huge ego, etc.) is the typically known "male narcissism" and the symptoms they modelled the DSM-IV/V diagnosis after but there's also another side to narcissism where you make yourself smaller and more helpless than you are to gain attention, admiration and pity. That kind of narcissism is known as "vulnerable narcissism".
I know Jaelexa couldn't have possibly covered every part bc they basically were just so SHOOK after their first article they kind of dropped the topic (and after hearing Alexa's reaction, I'm not surprised, it must've brought back some bad memories) but when covering mental health issues (and narcissism IS a mental health issue bc it's a personality disorder - if you develop a personality disorder, you usually went through something severely traumatic. You can inherit it, too, but mostly personality disorders develop due to childhood trauma) it's important to see the other sides as well.
Also, I find it VERY relatable when Jae said he's usually very angry. Hearing that helped a lot.
the difficult part about manipulation (whether from a narcissist or not) is that they do it so slowly and carefully that you don't realize you're being manipulated until months later. It's hard because you feel stupid for falling for it, but you also still hurt a lot. Like how could someone treat you like that, maybe you deserved it, maybe you are a bad person. Time and working on loving yourself will help heal it all though. I cannot wait to get to that point where it doesn't hurt anymore.
Just realising my ex was a narcissist as well as a sociopath :') First red flag for me was when he said talking about music/ bands you liked was stupid and he would give me the silent treatment any time I got excited about music, knowing full well how much music was a part of me. As soon as he busted out the 'Nobody will ever love you like I do, you know that right?' I knew it was time to escape.
i fell off my chair when Alexa sang "OUR LOVE IS GOD"
I've been watching Dive Studios contents so much to the extent they are already appearing in my dreams now. I'm not complaining tho. Sending my love❤
Jae: “what is a narcissist?”
*me knowing Jae can’t hear me*: MY EX. MY EX WAS ONE.
idk why this is my fav hdigh ep i keep coming back to this
I agree with Jae. If you're not doing your part, then why would I care. 👍
I'm so happy Jae realised that cats are not how the popular media has portrayed them to be❤️ they are just as loving and attached to their humans as dogs❤️
This video totally changed my whole perception about narcissism, it's kind of scary if you think about the worst case scenarios.
Guys I can even say that this is my most favorite HDIGH episode! Thank you, Jae, Thank you, AleXa, Thank you, Diane!
Next podcast : artificial inteligent, living in mars, black hole, astronomy
I'm loving the podcasts with both hosts! Alexa has a great vibe and Jae is such an interesting character overall. I always look forward to them every week. Keep it up!
I need a loop of jae banging the table
I CANT STOP LAUGHING
:'')
tablo won't reply to u because u said people who likes pineapples on their pizza are weird CHAROT HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Kaya nga HAHAHAH nasaktan ren ako don HAHHA
Awts first time ko makakita nung charot sa comment section nang Dive
Jae lost 10 points from me when he said that SORRY NOT SORRY JAE
I loved how AleXa was so into while reading, I loved her expressions and Jae's nose and lips >_
I just love to believe that people who make great music, has a special feel and understanding about the world they live in. It's like, they translate certain situations and feelings through a song which is then realized by the listeners resulting into these hit songs we have right now. Basically they have enough experience, have gone through tons of emotions and gained brain powers to write a good song. Music is art, what's an artists who doesn't have anything to express.
That's just how I understand the art form
Who is your favorite current JYP Entertainment soloist or group?
You can choose one or two.
@@Leyelle GOT7 are my homies and Day6 is just amazing
I love all the artists in JYP they are all talented but for me these groups' music just hit differently
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I can’t remember if they’ve ever touched this subject before, but I think hearing them talk about enneagram personality types would be really interesting!!
Next podcast on your supernatural experiences!!! Multiple stories would be great too!!! Maybe a topic on seeing ghosts in the industry as a sign of luck for an upcoming project?
Alexa needs to get into acting because the way she read those common quotes was 11/10 creepy lol
she's a theater major for a reason. hihi. 😁😁
I 100% agree with Jae at 9:50
Living with someone first should be the norm because I have multiple experiences with people where they are completely different at home than in public. People are the most comfortable and themselves at home, so you will "see the real them" at that time. I dodged many bullets because I lived with friends (college dorms) first and learned some scary things about them and I'm sure they learned things about me that they would not have seen otherwise (my true introverted self). Hopefully the taboo of living together will change in the near future. A lot of heartache, pain and struggle can be avoided.
These traits are actually serious matters and a lot of people are in abusive relationships, where a lot of them don’t realise it or don’t know what to do. When people are in these relationships it’s hard for them to get help, it isn’t as easy as saying “don’t be friends with these people, or tell someone, or get out of the relationship”, so if you guys know or realise that you’re in an abusive relationship get professional help and try as hard as you can to tell someone who’s trusted and professional in this matter
it's good to see alexa with a glass of water. Don't forget guys: drink water !
Alexa can be a good actress! The way she delivers the phrases it was great!
Who is your favorite current JYP Entertainment soloist or group?
You can choose one or two.
It still be Day6!
@@janetcarpio9248 lol, have I asked you before, if so sorry
Jae saying that truely good artists can never be narcissists because they always thing there's someone better in the game and it makes perfect sense. I'm a baby multi Stan and BTS are my ultimate group but yesterday I was watching their full Grammy nomination video and this top of their game monster group looked at the other nominees and Said Those artists were a force to be reckoned with. Why I say this is because BTS in general and the rapline (RM Suga and J-Hope)in particular have been called narcissists for their diss tracks, daechwita And chypher series especially. But those things they talk about are things that they have actually achieved and they still always talk about what's next. And I feel that Jae, as a veteran artist himself, understands that Very well and it's one of the reasons that even after 10 years in the industry he's still very valid because he's constantly improving as all good artists do
seriously i think this episode was roller coasterrr but this one is my favorite so farrrr goosebumps 😭
Watched this knowing that my former partner had some narcissistic and manipulative qualities and although I was surprised at how many of the things I’d heard verbatim, I realized that some people go through way worse.
Side note: I needed a warning for the scary stories at the end omg 😭
Lack of empathy does not mean that you are not emotional. You can still be emotional but the object of your emotion and its direction is only towards the benefiting solely you. So you can be at the top of your industry and be a great artist while still being a narcissist because narcissism does not mean you're not skilled at your craft. But if you take advantage of others or use them in order to create the best benefits for yourself at the expense of the theirs and that would be a sign and such cases definitely exist especially at the top of the entertainment industry
9:19 jae is a mood
this podcast is so wise, the channel also wise, the people involved in it is so wise. all is wise.
thankyou!
Thank you for producing such amazing podcast with important subjects ❤️❤️
Alexa dancing when she got reminded of her song was so cute i love her so much lol
Ooh alexa hoodie is cute
I was never in such relationship but when they read "You did this to yourself" I really cried :( , imagine someone saying this to you😢
1:16 "5Head" Jae is one of us now. He is speaking in Twitch emotes lol
This podcast precisely described how my father treats me
15:20 Alexa I felt that so hard omg, and also love your laugh
next episode of HDIGH recommendation : time travel, astronomy, ghost stories
Who is your favorite current JYP Entertainment soloist or group?
You can choose one or two.
I hope diane will back to talk with them specially in this ep the topic needs more people to talk. i miss her talking with jae and Alexa 😔💔
i love alexa style in this episode, just casual with that cute pink hoodie 😇
i was about to fall asleep at the end of the podcast until they talked about the ghost stories and the "run run run" of Jae creep me out jdjsks... so i came here to listen the story again and watch their gestures, yep i don't understand myself either HAHAHA
Jae, your ghost story got me scared haha especially when you repeated what came on the Spotify Playlist
god this is the best episode of HDIGH so far!!!
Jae: "5head"
I see, Jae's speaking twitch language more and more
We definitely a podcast on your ghost stories !! I feel like a lot of us have actually experienced those weird stuff and it would be interesting to hear it ! Thanks for this one about narcissism, we need to bring this to light because everyone is narcissist but to certain degrees - healthy people would be able to re focus on other people's feelings whilst the ones that have got issues,like real narcissisme issues,would not be able to. So it's good to be able to recognize the patterns and walk away from them as you cannot change anyone,but you can change the way you react to it! 💜
Empathy is like putting yourself into someone else’s shoes and understand their feelings. I think Jae has great empathy. Maybe he’s talking abt sympathy at 7:23ish
"am i your only friend? you're my only friend.
we dont need anyone else."
yeah that sums up about Yandere.
I feel so lucky learning early on how its ok to choose your friends, and so I haven't really had much toxic experience. Learn to surround yourself with positivity and let go of people you feel are toxic. Its okay to let go. Some people are meant to stay and some people are meant to make you grow, that's life. God bless yall
Jae story about ghost left me creeped out. Glad that i watch this in the morning.
Encouraged myself to keep watching this and finally realize that i can't denying the facts anymore. I've been in this circle of friends for almost 6 years and now i have to stand up for myself and let them go even if that will be hard.
I'm like super scared of ghosts and it feels good you guys fear them too lol don't know why but listening to Jae story made my really curious about what could have happened!!!! I want a second part of this.
anyways, this is the first ep I listened bc I've finished all Get Real ones and I've been following jae on Twitter for a few months now. I'll for the previews eps and I'll watch the all, very good content and also adore the way Alexa and jae speak!
Thank you for covering this topic. It's really interesting that you guys brought up that you can't really be a narcissist as a musician because of empathy and striving to be better! On the other hand, narcissistic traits are very common among successful business people!
Watching this video brought back memories of past experiences I've had with people, and looking back on it now makes me shudder. Sometimes it's unbelievable how much we will excuse unacceptable behaviour from people we love. Like Jae and Alexa said, let's try to surround ourselves with loving and supportive people ❤️
The introduction 😂 okay.... But I pass it
BRUH I WAS LISTENING TO THE PODCAST AND I GOT SCARED WITH JAE’S STORY AHHHHH
if anyone's been through this, know that you're valid and that everything will get better. I'm sure there's tons of people around you that truly love you that will stay by your side through your recovery and will help you build your self-confidence back up. Hang in there!! You've got this
he rlly made a tw at the beginning i love this man so much
I came to watch how AleXa's cup jump from the table (also the macbook too) haha
I honestly believe that as a society we’re becoming more and more individualistic, and even tho that has some similarities to narcissism, it’s very different. For instance, if you’re individualist you believe that every win and every lost you suffer is actually all on you. You don’t realize other elements that affect you and your life.
This is my favorite episode by far! I actually learn a lot plus so entertaining!
AAAAA ALEXA IS DEF A THEATRE KID AND IT MAKES ME FANGIRL EVEN MORE
The best and most entertaining episode I’ve seen! 👏🏽
yo this episode was kinda crazy doe
the theater kid inside alexa is showing when she mentioned heathers and that makes me so happy aaa
I'm really surprised, my father always says things like that to me, I had not realized that he is exactly a narcissist. what should I do? :(
Hey I think maybe u should confront ur dad calmly and explain to him how uncomfortable u feel and convince him to talk to u in a softer calm way but if it doesn’t work out or u don’t feel comfortable enough u should definitely talk to people around u. Anyone u trust and confront them about the issues ur facing. It’ll be hard at first but I promise it will get better and easier after u give courage to urself:)) I believe in u💜
My dad told my sister after she won a poem recital competition, "you won because I am your father". I didn't realize that time, but now I got goosebumps remember what he said.
sincerely,these people need pshycological help,try and convince him to look for help,if he refuses,i strongly recommend you to find good people (outside your family) you can surround yourself with,never let your dad isolate you from other people,also,talk to people that you trust about his behavior,do not keep this secret,that's what he wants... also,avoid talking about things that are important to you with him,he'll use it against you (sounds mean,but you have to understand that your dad has a mental illness,and that makes him work differently then other people,common advice is NOT functional with him,these people are used to lie and manipulate information and your head,your dad is not trustworthy,i'm sorry. also,this has no cure,he'll be forever like that,i'm sincerely sorry about this,it's not easy to deal with these people.)
Just ask him, "are you sick? Pls see the doctor"
talk to someone. if you're in school, talk to a teacher or therapist, or talk to friends and family as much as possible
for the next podcast you should talk about ghosts and spirits, i can see that you have nice storys about that
THIS IS MY FAVORITE EPISODE FROM HDIGH PODCAST😭😭😭😭👍👍👍👍
that's the first time i've whating this podcast, and i really liked. thank you so much! it makes me think a lot! I like day6 so much, and Alexa is so cute and funny♡♡♡
"Call me Tablo, 6head. Please respond to my dms." -JAE HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
how did it ended up Jae talking about creepy thing? I got goosebumps all over my body when he somewhat sung 'devils... run run run...' and I'm about to sleep.
Omg Jae's story was so scary that i had goosebumps listening and rn I'm alone at home wth😫
idk why i could see jae's ghost story being in a movie scene. when he told the story i couldn't help to imagine the scene like i was watching movie, especially when he said he was driving and about the cross.