this must be one of most brilliant and enlightening piece of advice from Anthony. detach yourself from societal standards. don’t think about them. don’t engage to talk about them, dont analyze them, ignore them completely. the only way to be happy
I thoroughly enjoyed this one . I think what Russell was trying to say, is to strive to be best self and make changes if it will help but also to accept self as you are with flaws and all and to not compare to others. This was really great- I love your authenticity
Anthony knows how to make people feel better by truly being oneself, which includes the good and the bad, a complexity that forms your true self. Love that!
ha yeah. I'm working on this. Like i used to have this weird disonanced hybridised view over whether I was attractive or not and some days I thought YEAH YOU LOOK GOOD! others I was appalled and hid from myself but I never took the time to really really look at what I ACTUALLY look like until recently. Unless on my top healthiest happiest days It's not pretty..it's not particularly feminine or sexy or exotic at all, sometimes (in my view) doesnt look like a human) and I just see what I look like and say (wtf really? Why god? just..why, why the hell was I landed with this) but Anthony is helping me deal with this and accept it, the good that other people see and the what I see as bad. O boy they were/are huge massiveee insecurities, it's gonna be a work in progress to get there. Been hiding from myself but know I can't anymore and...yes it really will help you or anone if you can do that too :) Sorry for the tangent, thinking outloud haha
I think what you're saying vs what he is saying is like a venn diagram. You guys have some overlap but also some different opinions. I personally go more along with what you are saying, Anthony. It's okay to want to improve yourself and want better for yourself, but also know that even without all of that, I'm still worth it and I have value. Love the video and you Anthony!
He's saying the same thing you were getting at, he just builds up to a main point to hit all the caveats beforehand, so its less punchy than you are and more meandering.
But what is the practical way to do it? like, if i want to be confident and love myself has you say Anthony, how should i start? what should i do? just think about it? how did you do it?? how should i forget about society standards? can you understand what im saying? Nice video btw, love you ant
What you say, Anthony, this is some seriously cool enlighten stuff 🦄💜😁🐙🌹🍀💓 Pertaining to the question about bettering himself, I think/feel Russel wants to feel secure and it is still a process in his psyche - that is the vibe I get. And usually, the mental energy around insecurities is usually a bit insecure because it reflects the subject that is very far from self-enjoyment.
EDIT: ok, watching further I think Russell is essentially saying improve the things about yourself that YOU want to see improved, not what society tells you should be improved. If being "stronger" or "fitter" only matters to you because society tells you it should, ignore that stuff because it's not going to make you happier and thus, it won't make you feel any more confident. However, if you want to be "stronger" or "fitter" because achieving that will bring you true joy and a sense of fulfillment on a personal level, then you should pursue those things. His message is about self improvement and personal growth, seeking contentment within yourself. Just work on being the best version of you, whatever that looks like to YOU, irrespective of what society tells you is best. I feel like I'm of 2 minds about how to deal with your insecurities and flaws and I can honestly agree with both of these perspectives in a way. On the one hand, if there's something about yourself that you don't love or you're uncomfortable with, why shouldn't you strive to improve on whatever that is? And not even just in the context of self confidence, I personally believe that constant personal growth and development is imperative to realizing your best, most evolved self in general, and I'd like to think that we all want to become the best version of ourselves. An impaired, stagnant existence isn't healthy for anyone and I'd hate to look back 20 years from now and see I'm the same exact person. Life is about growth and evolution. And if you're going to be working on yourself and developing yourself anyway, why not focus on the things about yourself that you'd like to see improved? It just makes sense in terms of evolution and personal growth. However, more in the context of self confidence specifically, I think you achieve a more authentic, sincere confidence if you're truly confident in everything about yourself. Feeling good about yourself, flaws and all, is knowing that your flaws don't depreciate your value and that's a good space for healthy confidence. I think focusing on your weaknesses as they pertain to how confident you feel, that almost tends to lend itself more to becoming self conscious about your flaws. If you believe your ability to feel confident is dependent on your ability to improve your flaws and shortcomings, you're never going to be able to truly achieve that confidence until you're able to "fix" those things. And not all flaws can be fixed or worked on. In the end, I think it's a bit of both and it's very individualized. If working on those insecurities make you feel better about yourself and you feel accomplished from the effort you put into it, then it's just naturally going to lend itself to greater self confidence. But, if focusing on your insecurities causes you to fixate on them and makes you feel like you're incomplete until you conquer them, learning to accept them rather than rectify them is going to make you feel more confident in yourself. I don't think there's a wrong answer to this, it's just whatever brings you fulfillment.
I love you Anthony but Russell is a narcissist, a misogynist and loves to be aggressive about his unchecked opinions and conspiracy theories. A few watered down speeches he managed to get from some reading about confidence or whatever are not going to change that.
You're missing the point. Anyone can feel insecure, ugly, stupid or like a failure. Russell Brand was a drug addict for years and years and now has been clean for even longer. He's even said why he did drugs and how strongly that tied in with his anxiety and low self worth. Just because someone is accomplished and attractive doesn't mean they aren't allowed to ever feel bad about themselves. I've been considered above average attractive for most of my adult life, yet I used to get panic attacks throughout my early 20s and sometimes couldn't even leave the house because I felt so hideously ugly and was afraid of people seeing me. You can never know what someone's going through on the inside and your scornful response shows a bitterness and lack of compassion that you might want to take a closer look at.
this must be one of most brilliant and enlightening piece of advice from Anthony. detach yourself from societal standards. don’t think about them. don’t engage to talk about them, dont analyze them, ignore them completely. the only way to be happy
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I thoroughly enjoyed this one . I think what Russell was trying to say, is to strive to be best self and make changes if it will help but also to accept self as you are with flaws and all and to not compare to others.
This was really great- I love your authenticity
Anthony knows how to make people feel better by truly being oneself, which includes the good and the bad, a complexity that forms your true self. Love that!
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Absolutely love Russell! A genius and is one of the few left (including yourself Anthony) who are keeping the sanity alive in this world lol.
Too bad he decided to cash in and become the Dave Rubin of intellectualism.
Your insecurities are no longer insecurities if you are confident in them
ha yeah. I'm working on this. Like i used to have this weird disonanced hybridised view over whether I was attractive or not and some days I thought YEAH YOU LOOK GOOD! others I was appalled and hid from myself but I never took the time to really really look at what I ACTUALLY look like until recently. Unless on my top healthiest happiest days It's not pretty..it's not particularly feminine or sexy or exotic at all, sometimes (in my view) doesnt look like a human) and I just see what I look like and say (wtf really? Why god? just..why, why the hell was I landed with this) but Anthony is helping me deal with this and accept it, the good that other people see and the what I see as bad. O boy they were/are huge massiveee insecurities, it's gonna be a work in progress to get there. Been hiding from myself but know I can't anymore and...yes it really will help you or anone if you can do that too :)
Sorry for the tangent, thinking outloud haha
Very insightful, this is one of my favorite videos from you. "Being present. Acknowledging the shared human experience", that's beautiful. Thanks!
You've improved your posture, coach! Good to see that!
Did you previously suggest he do so?
@@kingayy9267 I have indeed. More than once.
Great video, I like that you are not the classical coach on internet that wants only to became a social machine without caring about human qualities
Seeing yourself in others is what I call love. I really love your ideas
You're so authentic Anthony...loved the video
Second best video behind Michael Scott!!! Love you anthoney!
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Nice!! Two of my favorite men together yay my lucky day!!!
Damn Anthony, you are a really wise man
I think what you're saying vs what he is saying is like a venn diagram. You guys have some overlap but also some different opinions. I personally go more along with what you are saying, Anthony. It's okay to want to improve yourself and want better for yourself, but also know that even without all of that, I'm still worth it and I have value. Love the video and you Anthony!
u da bess
He's saying the same thing you were getting at, he just builds up to a main point to hit all the caveats beforehand, so its less punchy than you are and more meandering.
you helped me!! thank u
Glad I could help!
Russel, is very intelligent
and a teacher!
But what is the practical way to do it? like, if i want to be confident and love myself has you say Anthony, how should i start? what should i do? just think about it? how did you do it?? how should i forget about society standards? can you understand what im saying?
Nice video btw, love you ant
What you say, Anthony, this is some seriously cool enlighten stuff 🦄💜😁🐙🌹🍀💓
Pertaining to the question about bettering himself, I think/feel Russel wants to feel secure and it is still a process in his psyche - that is the vibe I get.
And usually, the mental energy around insecurities is usually a bit insecure because it reflects the subject that is very far from self-enjoyment.
Yes! Self love! Thank you. Fyeah. Russel is referring to conditional self esteem.
EDIT: ok, watching further I think Russell is essentially saying improve the things about yourself that YOU want to see improved, not what society tells you should be improved. If being "stronger" or "fitter" only matters to you because society tells you it should, ignore that stuff because it's not going to make you happier and thus, it won't make you feel any more confident. However, if you want to be "stronger" or "fitter" because achieving that will bring you true joy and a sense of fulfillment on a personal level, then you should pursue those things. His message is about self improvement and personal growth, seeking contentment within yourself. Just work on being the best version of you, whatever that looks like to YOU, irrespective of what society tells you is best.
I feel like I'm of 2 minds about how to deal with your insecurities and flaws and I can honestly agree with both of these perspectives in a way.
On the one hand, if there's something about yourself that you don't love or you're uncomfortable with, why shouldn't you strive to improve on whatever that is? And not even just in the context of self confidence, I personally believe that constant personal growth and development is imperative to realizing your best, most evolved self in general, and I'd like to think that we all want to become the best version of ourselves. An impaired, stagnant existence isn't healthy for anyone and I'd hate to look back 20 years from now and see I'm the same exact person. Life is about growth and evolution. And if you're going to be working on yourself and developing yourself anyway, why not focus on the things about yourself that you'd like to see improved? It just makes sense in terms of evolution and personal growth.
However, more in the context of self confidence specifically, I think you achieve a more authentic, sincere confidence if you're truly confident in everything about yourself. Feeling good about yourself, flaws and all, is knowing that your flaws don't depreciate your value and that's a good space for healthy confidence. I think focusing on your weaknesses as they pertain to how confident you feel, that almost tends to lend itself more to becoming self conscious about your flaws. If you believe your ability to feel confident is dependent on your ability to improve your flaws and shortcomings, you're never going to be able to truly achieve that confidence until you're able to "fix" those things. And not all flaws can be fixed or worked on.
In the end, I think it's a bit of both and it's very individualized. If working on those insecurities make you feel better about yourself and you feel accomplished from the effort you put into it, then it's just naturally going to lend itself to greater self confidence. But, if focusing on your insecurities causes you to fixate on them and makes you feel like you're incomplete until you conquer them, learning to accept them rather than rectify them is going to make you feel more confident in yourself. I don't think there's a wrong answer to this, it's just whatever brings you fulfillment.
Where is the link to the Brand video he was referenced in?
Lovely video Tony. Greetings from germany. :)
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loved his books! highly recommend
This is a informative video
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I love you Anthony but Russell is a narcissist, a misogynist and loves to be aggressive about his unchecked opinions and conspiracy theories.
A few watered down speeches he managed to get from some reading about confidence or whatever are not going to change that.
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He was saying what you was saying.
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Shy people can’t be happy.
OK
And confident people can’t be sad.
Great explanation.
Lmao both ENFP's
So... How a hot tall British rich superstar became confident? Man, what a journey, it must have been very difficult.
lol but he was referring to when he was young
You're missing the point. Anyone can feel insecure, ugly, stupid or like a failure. Russell Brand was a drug addict for years and years and now has been clean for even longer. He's even said why he did drugs and how strongly that tied in with his anxiety and low self worth.
Just because someone is accomplished and attractive doesn't mean they aren't allowed to ever feel bad about themselves.
I've been considered above average attractive for most of my adult life, yet I used to get panic attacks throughout my early 20s and sometimes couldn't even leave the house because I felt so hideously ugly and was afraid of people seeing me.
You can never know what someone's going through on the inside and your scornful response shows a bitterness and lack of compassion that you might want to take a closer look at.
@@ona_tzar Kind of like comics with depression.
You're a very basic and dense human being.