I had that happen to me and my 3yr old daughter back 1988 at LAX Airport. I will never forget that day when the Airline worker did the same thing to my card. I was trying to fly back home to St Louis and in fear that I would be stranded in California. My cousin came to my rescue and I said to myself NEVER again. And it’s 2024 and it has not ever happened again because that was a lesson I never want to repeat!!!
The background questions should be; How long have they been "dating"? Are they dating with a purpose, or have they just been dating? He can not start talking "our future" now if they have never had the discussion before.
I’m not messing up my destiny. I’m not inviting potential chaos into my life. I’m telling you that I know I can’t handle it. With the understanding that his girlfriend has to do what she feels is best for her. The real question is how important and valuable is our relationship? Are we on the road to being united as one? For the record 30k ain’t no money when put up against the love of your life and future.
I know what Bishop is talking about...back in the day the credit card company used to tell us as sales people to cut up the customers cards. Nerve wrecking for all involved!
New boyfriend's counter offer should be marriage with the option to stay at home if she wishes. If he can't offer that he need to congratulate her on her promotion.
Both parties are right. As a man I have boundaries. As a women they are looking for a secure income/life style. So if they meant to be they can communicate & work out a compromise
Mindset shift that was needed. I love how open you are with going to therapy but it sounds like you are doing the work and taking good questions into session. Torre and Sarah are an absolutely beautiful couple. So thankful for what they are doing together.
I definitely understand trying to protect the girlfriend from the ex. Sometimes an ex is waiting for an opportunity to manipulate the situation. However, I would also hope that the couple is discussing marriage and permanent commitment in their relationship. Hopefully the boyfriend is demonstrating that he is not just playing around with her. Maybe she is entertaining the thouhht because she doesn't feel secure in the relationship? 🤷🏾♀️
I’m sorry but that man didn’t mention anything about marrying his girlfriend. They aren’t even engaged. I understand protecting destiny, but he didn’t even hint at marrying her. So why should she pull back on a promotion just because her boss would be her ex? That woman probably doesn’t have an ounce of a feeling for her ex from 5 years ago. She’s a single woman paying her own bills. Demanding that she pass it up isn’t fair.
Anthony, I just want to say thank you for your podcast because like he said the information that you’re giving is so important and it has helped me to come out of debt. The only thing that I owe and Pay on is a mortgage and I just want to say thank you.
You don't hear men talking about Infertility often!! This is my jam and it is so important for the topic to be discussed especially among black men. Thank you Anthony for this amazing conversation. 😀
It was a great interview. My thoughts on the last question is this is a boyfriend. Unless he is prepared to secure her future with a marriage before the opportunity passes. She needs to take the opportunity.
Let’s be thankful for the wisdom of Bishop Henry Fernandez. In fact, I’m not familiar with him at all. However, he shared a lot of helpful information today!🙏🏽
The key word is BOYFRIEND! You are single until you're not. If he has not proposed to her to be his wife, then he can't expect that. If they are engaged, then a conversation can be had. This had nothing to do with whether she is a wife or just a woman. The analogy between pulling a ventilator plug and a 30k pay increase is a far reach. The 30k increase is for both of them in the mind of woman who has team/partner mindset not just looking out for herself. A man, who is not comfortable with himself, tends to expect a woman who is not his wife to "lay down her life" for him. The husband is supposed to lay down his life for his wife. Now, if she didn't tell him that's deceitful. However, if she is upfront about who was going to be her boss and having the conversation before accepting the job offer and ask for the both of you to pray about it, she screams wife because she has submitted to your opinion. This pastor is not giving good advice. This is not biblical nor practical. If a man can't handle you working in the same building as an ex, then he can't handle himself being around w his ex. This is sad. SMH. I hope those who watch this take it with a grain of salt. Every person who calls himself a Man of the Cloth is just that a Man. We all have to seek God first when making any decision and ask God to point us in the right direction for Godly and sound wisdom. Just because we like a person doesn't mean everything that they say is sound advice or coming from the right place.
I agree. If she can't handle working around her ex, who she may not even see that much, that means she can't handle herself around other attractive men with great personalities
Fast food prices are phenomenal. One meal 12 dollars on average do that x6 in a week. Thats money that could of gone toward groceries that would last way longer than 1 "happy meal".
Firstly, the boyfriend never said he plans on marrying her. Secondly, we don't know how long they have been dating Thirdly, we don't know if the ex still has feelings or if she still has feelings. If so, then no. I don't like how Henry is saying negative things about the girl friend.
I really enjoy the content of the show. I disagree with the pastor about the video ???. If I know God wants me to take that Job I will 100% take it. More content is needed.
I respectfully disagree with the pastor that the woman should decline a 30K raise because her ex is at the new company. This is something to seriously pray and fast about. There are also a few questions/insights to ask and ponder: -Were the circumstances of the break-up due to a toxic personality trait or a temporary external situation? -She made it known to her current bf about that crucial detail, demonstrating exceptional loyalty and vulnerability. -Is she thoroughly healed from her ex and has made it clearly known she has zero feelings for him without hesitation? -Is the break-up fresh or has it been some years? -Has she brought him up in recent conversations and has exhibited anxiety and anger or peace? -Will she be working with him in close proximity or will she rarely if ever see him? -Is she guaranteed to cheat if she works with him? -Does she currently have strong boundaries towards male friends or males in general? -If she can't handle being in the same company with an ex, can she handle being in the same company with other handsome men with great personalities?
Keyword is BOYFRIEND. Not husband. He’s requiring a huge sacrifice and he’s not her husband. It low key gives “I don’t trust you.” She doesn’t have to work with her ex to cheat. She can do that for free. 🤷🏾♀️
I needed this. I was a little angry that everybodys student loans have been forgiven BUT mine. I took the loans with no intention of paying it back 🤦🏽♀️. That is not okay and I literally still own the car I bought with them. I am paying them now. If it is ever forgiven hallelujah thank you Jesus! If not, I've paid MY debt.
Thats not the gospel, the gospel is we are all fallen sinners, worthy of the wrath of God. But christ took all of our sins, all of our failures and brought justice on that cross. In exchange he gave us his righteousness and made us right with God.
I completely disagree with this story about the woman turning down this job. That's not her husband first of all. And the fact that he threatened to leave her if she took the job. Boy bye. We don't know how hard she has worked in her career. What's wrong with wanting more? And he is just assuming the ex has ulterior motives. And if she turns down this job I guarantee you she will hate him for it later 🙄
Thanks for this powerful message. Bishop talked to my soul and I'm listening.
I had that happen to me and my 3yr old daughter back 1988 at LAX Airport. I will never forget that day when the Airline worker did the same thing to my card. I was trying to fly back home to St Louis and in fear that I would be stranded in California. My cousin came to my rescue and I said to myself NEVER again. And it’s 2024 and it has not ever happened again because that was a lesson I never want to repeat!!!
The Bishop was on point!
LOVE BISHOP FERNANDEZ!! A true man of God and a yardy.... with all due respect!
The background questions should be; How long have they been "dating"? Are they dating with a purpose, or have they just been dating? He can not start talking "our future" now if they have never had the discussion before.
I’m not messing up my destiny. I’m not inviting potential chaos into my life. I’m telling you that I know I can’t handle it. With the understanding that his girlfriend has to do what she feels is best for her. The real question is how important and valuable is our relationship? Are we on the road to being united as one? For the record 30k ain’t no money when put up against the love of your life and future.
Thank you for telling the truth!! GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾
I know what Bishop is talking about...back in the day the credit card company used to tell us as sales people to cut up the customers cards. Nerve wrecking for all involved!
This was awesome!
I am 60yrs old and I am still learning.
This episode was so uplifting and thanks Pastor for your wisdom. ❤
New boyfriend's counter offer should be marriage with the option to stay at home if she wishes. If he can't offer that he need to congratulate her on her promotion.
He should just move on
Both parties are right. As a man I have boundaries. As a women they are looking for a secure income/life style. So if they meant to be they can communicate & work out a compromise
This message was RIGHT.
Focus on the goal...having patience in my goals...dont focus on the process ..my Lord!!
This is powerful. Thank you, gentlemen, for this message.
Mindset shift that was needed. I love how open you are with going to therapy but it sounds like you are doing the work and taking good questions into session. Torre and Sarah are an absolutely beautiful couple. So thankful for what they are doing together.
Excellent conversation!!
I definitely understand trying to protect the girlfriend from the ex. Sometimes an ex is waiting for an opportunity to manipulate the situation. However, I would also hope that the couple is discussing marriage and permanent commitment in their relationship. Hopefully the boyfriend is demonstrating that he is not just playing around with her. Maybe she is entertaining the thouhht because she doesn't feel secure in the relationship? 🤷🏾♀️
I’m sorry but that man didn’t mention anything about marrying his girlfriend. They aren’t even engaged. I understand protecting destiny, but he didn’t even hint at marrying her. So why should she pull back on a promotion just because her boss would be her ex? That woman probably doesn’t have an ounce of a feeling for her ex from 5 years ago. She’s a single woman paying her own bills. Demanding that she pass it up isn’t fair.
My thoughts exactly! I cannot restrict my earning opportunities for a man that hasn't offered me a lifetime commitment!
Exactly 💯 💯 💯
I see your point, but why would you be dating someone that is not marriage minded?🤔 independent women are too valuable to be a placeholder. IJS
Why would she date a man she wouldn’t potentially Mary
I agree she should take the job and build a better future he should trust her..
Powerful🔥🔥🔥 VALUABLE
My bishop, he's truly a man of God. He very real.and down to earth, and in the realm of reality
Anthony, I just want to say thank you for your podcast because like he said the information that you’re giving is so important and it has helped me to come out of debt. The only thing that I owe and Pay on is a mortgage and I just want to say thank you.
You don't hear men talking about Infertility often!! This is my jam and it is so important for the topic to be discussed especially among black men. Thank you Anthony for this amazing conversation. 😀
It was a great interview. My thoughts on the last question is this is a boyfriend.
Unless he is prepared to secure her future with a marriage before the opportunity passes. She needs to take the opportunity.
Let’s be thankful for the wisdom of Bishop Henry Fernandez. In fact, I’m not familiar with him at all. However, he shared a lot of helpful information today!🙏🏽
The key word is BOYFRIEND! You are single until you're not. If he has not proposed to her to be his wife, then he can't expect that. If they are engaged, then a conversation can be had. This had nothing to do with whether she is a wife or just a woman. The analogy between pulling a ventilator plug and a 30k pay increase is a far reach. The 30k increase is for both of them in the mind of woman who has team/partner mindset not just looking out for herself. A man, who is not comfortable with himself, tends to expect a woman who is not his wife to "lay down her life" for him. The husband is supposed to lay down his life for his wife. Now, if she didn't tell him that's deceitful. However, if she is upfront about who was going to be her boss and having the conversation before accepting the job offer and ask for the both of you to pray about it, she screams wife because she has submitted to your opinion. This pastor is not giving good advice. This is not biblical nor practical. If a man can't handle you working in the same building as an ex, then he can't handle himself being around w his ex. This is sad. SMH. I hope those who watch this take it with a grain of salt. Every person who calls himself a Man of the Cloth is just that a Man. We all have to seek God first when making any decision and ask God to point us in the right direction for Godly and sound wisdom. Just because we like a person doesn't mean everything that they say is sound advice or coming from the right place.
I agree. If she can't handle working around her ex, who she may not even see that much, that means she can't handle herself around other attractive men with great personalities
Management and discipline is key, dont watch the process, focus on your vision...
Fast food prices are phenomenal. One meal 12 dollars on average do that x6 in a week. Thats money that could of gone toward groceries that would last way longer than 1 "happy meal".
This was beautiful! This episode made me want to podcast forreal
Hi Bishop,good to see you two link together. It’s 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️💃🏿💃🏿
Hi Anthony, TFC member.
Love what you bring to the table.
👏👏👏👏🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️
Firstly, the boyfriend never said he plans on marrying her.
Secondly, we don't know how long they have been dating
Thirdly, we don't know if the ex still has feelings or if she still has feelings. If so, then no. I don't like how Henry is saying negative things about the girl friend.
I agree the focus should have been on the boyfriend.. because what she plans to help them grow as a couple
I really enjoy the content of the show. I disagree with the pastor about the video ???. If I know God wants me to take that Job I will 100% take it. More content is needed.
I respectfully disagree with the pastor that the woman should decline a 30K raise because her ex is at the new company. This is something to seriously pray and fast about. There are also a few questions/insights to ask and ponder:
-Were the circumstances of the break-up due to a toxic personality trait or a temporary external situation?
-She made it known to her current bf about that crucial detail, demonstrating exceptional loyalty and vulnerability.
-Is she thoroughly healed from her ex and has made it clearly known she has zero feelings for him without hesitation?
-Is the break-up fresh or has it been some years?
-Has she brought him up in recent conversations and has exhibited anxiety and anger or peace?
-Will she be working with him in close proximity or will she rarely if ever see him?
-Is she guaranteed to cheat if she works with him?
-Does she currently have strong boundaries towards male friends or males in general?
-If she can't handle being in the same company with an ex, can she handle being in the same company with other handsome men with great personalities?
Keyword is BOYFRIEND. Not husband. He’s requiring a huge sacrifice and he’s not her husband. It low key gives “I don’t trust you.” She doesn’t have to work with her ex to cheat. She can do that for free. 🤷🏾♀️
Great insights
I opened my Sofi savings account 2 months ago and I'm excited to begin saving! My next step is life insurance/will planning.
I needed this. I was a little angry that everybodys student loans have been forgiven BUT mine. I took the loans with no intention of paying it back 🤦🏽♀️. That is not okay and I literally still own the car I bought with them. I am paying them now. If it is ever forgiven hallelujah thank you Jesus! If not, I've paid MY debt.
Bishop Drooping Gems 💎
What a store Bishop. My wife and I have the same story.
2 ten pound sons! Ur cup runneth over Sir!👏🏾🙏🏾
Great knowledge and word >>>>
This was a great interview.
Can new boyfriend offer her better than that???
Good question! It’s a “boyfriend “! I’d understand if they were married! No boyfriend can tell me what to do. That’s just me!
So curious to kno if they were not taking vacations before like the one they did in Hawaii.
Go through the drive thru bro.
Smh she works for her ex boyfriend this conversation should of never happened lol
See you are listening
Thats not the gospel, the gospel is we are all fallen sinners, worthy of the wrath of God. But christ took all of our sins, all of our failures and brought justice on that cross. In exchange he gave us his righteousness and made us right with God.
I completely disagree with this story about the woman turning down this job. That's not her husband first of all. And the fact that he threatened to leave her if she took the job. Boy bye. We don't know how hard she has worked in her career. What's wrong with wanting more? And he is just assuming the ex has ulterior motives. And if she turns down this job I guarantee you she will hate him for it later 🙄
I agree she will have resentments
He need to be her husband, to have any say at all. He's a boyfriend.
She can get that 30k from somewhere else...not from the ex if she is great at her job. Not worth losing a husband.
Great info, I believe that man was GOD, BECAUSE YOU ASKED YOU RECEIVED, Won't HE DO IT,!!!¡