The obly time im unable to understand when others are joking is if ive known them for a long time and i understand their humor, even then im not always ables to figure out when they are joking
I was just thinking my whole life I understand jokes and sarcasm, but actually I just do when I am with people I already know really well. Just got a new job and a college is joking very often, and I just didn't get it intentionally😁
Yes I have such a hard time with this. All five I have issues with but this one gets me a lot of times. I still haven’t been tested yet. But I’m getting a lot of tests don’t soon with a neurologist. Lost my job due to medical problems.
People with adhd stim too to get their dopamine up to focus and self regulate! Neurotypicals stim as well but it’s less pronounced, I.e. scratching your head to think/tapping pen.
"not understanding jokes" is pretty well covered in Community, episode 1.5 "Advanced Criminal Law", where Troy makes jokes that Abed takes literally & then Abed "retaliates" with a very long, over drawn joke, that isn't really funny, but perfectly juxtaposes the understanding gap.
I have under the radar stimming: I flick my index and middle finger back and forth together very quickly. Feeling the percussive/rhythmic sensation is soothing.
My sarcastic personality and love of humor is actually what had me doubting my diagnosis at first, I mean when I was with people I was comfortable with, I was a regular clown. Then I realize I’ve got loads of all the other stuff. Stimming is a big one for me. I actually was twisting my hands around in my lap and bouncing my leg so much yesterday when I had anxiety at the doctor, that I excused myself for a bit to calm down and came back to a water bottle and the doctor letting me know we could take our time during the appointment and not to worry. I must have looked a mess. 😂
This is one of the things that is keeping me from bringing this up with my doctor. I'm really good with humor and sarcasm, but that seems to be about the only thing that doesn't fit with autism for me. Do you feel like having a diagnosis was helpful to you? I'm uncertain as to whether or not I should even bring it up at my next appointment.
@@emilyshelly4055 I don’t think a lot changed with my diagnosis, personally. My parents already sort of knew and I’d already started to figure out a way to make it through school without help (although it may have been quicker and less stressful with accommodations, I’ll just never know). It mainly helped me stop doubting my own experiences and blaming myself for failures caused by stuff I could not control. I think the fact that it’s an official diagnosis can help when you’re struggling with thinking that maybe you’re just lazy or don’t try hard enough, because there’s a medical professional that agrees that you do have it and will work with you to find alternative ways to get things done. And while I don’t currently have a job, I was told there are certain accommodations I would be entitled to get. So if accommodations are something that would be helpful to you at work or in school then that is also a benefit.
I’m really happy I watch your videos. It’s things that cemented my understanding that my chances are high of being on this spectrum. Doctors I worked with assumed I had it before I even realized. I can’t get a formal diagnosis yet… I’m at a new job and am so lucky they accept me as I am with ADHD, but also believe me that I most likely have autism. They work with me and are so understanding of me. I work hard for them because they work with me. These all applied to me. My coworkers actually stim with me when I’m doing it. They aren’t teasing me. They just embrace my traits and want to show support by doing it. I’ll snap my fingers or start making weird vocal sounds. They do it right back. I love them!!!
I’ve had severe anxiety with the phone system. There are days I broke down in tears from the anxiety of it. Those I work with at the hospital have pulled me aside, talked me through it and then gave me helpful hands at working through it. I think I’m very lucky. Even tho I dealt with hard times, my adult years have been very fortunate that I’ve made great friends, found good job and have strong relationships at home. I hope others are lucky too. I know how hard it is to deal with these things when you don’t have those around you being understanding.
I'm have asd (late diagnosis) who loves to create jokes and I thoroughly enjoy the comedy genre, yet I often don't get jokes directed toward me (oddly enough). I've used humor as a coping mechanism and for masking most of my life and I can quickly make a joke about anything. I find it is my asd superpower. However it also gets me in trouble a lot because I joke about EVERYTHING. the more uncomfortable I am the more I joke. So whenever I'm at a funeral, hospital,event etcetera (where I am at my most uncomfortable state) I make jokes during conversations that I find hilarious but others look at me like I kicked a kitten or something. I do my best now to avoid being anywhere that absurd humor is unwelcome.
Same here. I have a big sense of humor... but extremely sarcastic, a colleague told me I sometimes hurt people. I think it's because I don't know when I can , and because if find a lot of sentences funny, and I like to play with words ,so I interrupt I stay too focused on the other potential meanings and completly get lost from what we were talking about. I also find people weird because they can't see the beauty of strange sentence they say, playing with words, sarcasm or cynicism. I find all that a lot more interested than any conversation.
I just found out I have autism at 45 years old. Which explains all of my behaviors but I really wish I would’ve known this earlier in my childhood so I wouldn’t have had to gone through life thinking something was wrong with me and why nobody else was doing things that I was doing.
Can't understand jokes: check; Stimming: check; Weird food likes and dislikes: check; Anxiety and Meltdowns: check; Anger Management Issues: more when I was young, but, yes. I finally decided to start the assessment process and found a clinical psychologist online... lots of work to do and I'm a bit nervous, but I feel I really need to do this
I have food allergies, including late onset celiac disease. When that came on I started having panic attacks. I had them for years, and was on a bunch of SSRIs, none of which helped (well, Xanax helped a little). A nutritionist did muscle testing and told me I was allergic to milk as well as gluten. I went off of milk products and have never had another panic attack, and that was 22 years ago. I am also off of all anti-anxiety drugs and anti-depressants. I'm still a nervous person, but panic attacks were the bane of my life when I was having them. So anyone out there who has panic attacks, get yourself tested for food allergies. Even if you don't have panic attacks, food allergies cause inflammation in the gut which translates into anxiety.
I LOVE your videos. My son is on the spectrum, my husband is being tested and my best friend is investigating this as an option for her. I constantly send her your videos !!! Thanks for your consistency, honesty, research and heart behind what you do
Could the sensory processing disorder present as someone who is very sensitive to touch (like dust or cat hair landing on someones face driving them crazy or flinching when another person touches them unexpectedly) instead of any food related issues?
My daughter is autistic and she has a very low pain threshold. Sensory issues can also be to do with sound: a problem with certain sounds; a problem with volume; a problem with sudden sounds.
I just applied for the autism behaviour program at my local college! Your channelle has helped me learn so much not only about my self but what I want to do with my Early childhood Edcaution course!
Honestly for me, I don’t have anger management issues or food issues, and I’m not too bad with jokes/sarcasm (sometimes I understand, other times not so much) but I stim a lot and I have anxiety for social situations. I have been considered autistic since being a toddler. I just discovered your channel and I really like the content.
Thanks for all of your hard work & insight, you articulate it very well. Can you do a video on autism but from a pervasive developmental focus? When my son was born at 26 1/2 weeks in 1998 there was very little info available. He's now 23 with ADHD, Schizophrenia, PTSD, Anxiety & Depression, Developmental Delays as well as autism. He was diagnosed with pervasive developmental disorder until it was considered in the Autism Spectrum. He has issues that I didn't see mentioned very often. Also, the way all of these issues manifests in him is very complicated. Three things in particular are very difficult for me to support him with. He has no self awareness- looking into a mirror & seeing his face is dirty, or his hair needs combing or doesn't see it as requiring action. He has no concept of cause & effect. He also has extreme difficulty with hygiene in all areas. He has been treated in psych as well as other medical specialties. No one has ever dealt with his most extreme issues. Any info would be appreciated. Thank you-
I’ve had anger for a long time now and I now I’m trying to find an Autism specialist near me in the states. Thanks for helping me realizing lots of tbigns
Yeahp I’m really bad with most peoples jocks. Despite having a stand-up gig years ago. That’s no jock. I go the other way with anger. I still got/get frustrated when people can’t understand what I still think are the simplest of things, but I’m super passive and will try to explain something ten different ways before giving up and doing it myself…. That’s the first time I’ve put that is written and seeing it now😳 Am I passive aggressive🙊
Jokes, right? “Jocks” refers to athletes and athleticism. I understand this. For me sarcasm drives me nuts, especially on social media where you cannot read and understand the person’s motive for sarcasm. To me, sarcasm is a bad joke.
As someone with the diagnosis, I find social media is data overload. How do you deal not only with using it, but also reading every message? With so many followers, the reading alone could take longer than your lifetime. I'm in the 2nd half of life now with a huge record collecction, so I spend time calculating the duration of media compared to my expected lifespan to see if it would be possible to hear them all. If not, many will be leaving my possession or not entering it in the first place.
I have understanding and speaking issues, meaning that when you tell me something I may not understand it, and if I did what you say took a completely different meaning from what you initially meant to communicate to me; also when I talk even though I'm listening to the discussion and what I say is related to the conversation people say that they don't understand what I'm talking about or that I talk weird in a non-neurotypical way. I would to know if this is just my problem or if other autistic individuals have the same problem.
I'm Constantly having to explain to people how my comments during the conversation are related. Then my explanations become word stew from the 10 different ways that I try to reword my original comment to make it understandable to anyone else.
I've gotten better with sarcasm, just dived into it headlong & embraced it fully. Somehow, I'm usually funnier to other people when I'm not trying to make a joke 🤷🏻♀️ My relationship with food is odd, with the varied cravings; and I definitely have some consistency aversions. I'm just glad my body tells me when I need sodium, iron, potassium, etc. Love that bonus 💚
What I find makes me angry ( and it is an issue quite often) is that when you try and explain to neurotypicals how you are feeling , your concerns either get dismissed or they look at you in a pitying way and try to tell you that what you are feeling isn’t valid . And social injustice also makes me furious. Never had any issue with food though- worked in the food industry for years -except peas . Absolutely hate peas . Worst food ever ( except organs - liver , kidneys , ect ) Although someone tried to get me to eat some alpaca today , and they got very upset when I told them that I just couldn’t do it - they actually got quite angry ! Sometimes I think it’s the neurotypicals that are the strange ones .
yes I find it impossible to understand sarcasm and jokes… it’s led to me having a couple of trust issues. I can’t eat wiggly/not crispy bacon or runny sauces I also enjoy full flavours. I have very bad anxiety and the only times it reduces is when I “explode” I often have to say to my parents that they should think of me of a volcano and tell them they shouldn’t take it personally… they don’t listen get furious with me to the point where they come up close and I can smell their breath which makes me aggressive and then i “attack” because I don’t know any other way to make it stop. Edit: woah I wrote a whole paragraph
Why did it say ODD in the thumbnail? I'm just asking because before I got diagnosed with Asperger's I was told have an ASPD which was before that ODD and in the old days even high functioning sociopath. Awesome vid, keep going! Greetings from Netherland
I heard in a Kanye interview he said he looks around in a room and thinks "am I the only one that's not crazy?" Well now I know, nope there is a whole community of people who are not crazy right here! We are just uniquely equipped to understand and analyze the world in a way most people can not.
Oh my God the emotion stuff is all me and it comes off as me being cold are heartless. Like I don’t care to say hi in morning for work I just want to get the day started and done successfully.
I always just laughed along when it came to jokes. Anything I truly find comical tends to be intellectual or witty comments and the such. I hate stimming so much. I always get made fun of when I twitch my legs constantly, crack my knuckles or bite my nails, etc. etc... Not my fault I am having anxiety issues or trying to calm down. Over time I hid most of them pretty well, or got used to only doing them when completely alone. If I could live off chicken nuggets and macaroni and cheese, I would! My mom hates how picky I am still, even at 39. Onions freak me out, even worse when cooked. SO DAMN SLIMY EWW EWW EWW. SO much anxiety. I hate it. I am 39, and I swear I haven't had a moment where I am not having anxiety. I learned to just not show feelings or have them, bottle them up, push them down, what ever I have to... My dad wasn't a kind man (psychically and extremely emotionally abusive), so I don't want to angry like he is. I don't want to hit people. I don't want to abuse someone. Another reason I just stay alone I guess. Hitting myself in anger is the worst part. Why does autism and ADHD seem to common too? At least from what I have gathered talking to people online. It seems like a lot of autistics also have ADHD. My therapist wants to test for ADHD. I was like.... dude I was diagnosed ADHD at 8 pfffft. Some how autism at 37. Depression and anxiety at 15. Why does autism get misdiagnosed as something else so commonly in women? I was even misdiagnosed as ASPD previously.
To me it's all frowned or judged upon. Stimming (something I done as a kid) especially when achieved something or even when something/ group winds you up, a behaviour you don't realise you're doing. I still stim today but realise and control it by rubbing my hands together. Anger management is a huge issue or should I say frustration management. You feel all alone and left out. NT's all stick together and will use you for their own ends. Also I hate being ridiculed by them - mainly at school but also in the workplace from the odd NT.
Hand flapping for me is new just recently learned that I do it after I get too excited. Also last year I had anxiety over my phone megabytes to the point my mom was asking for help our aunt over Skype cause she is psychologist something like hat and my mom wanted to give me meds but I calmed down and learned to not to care anymore.
Yes about jokes! I take things literally. . . Is stimming restricted to physical expression? Or can it be also involve input received such as listening to a song repetitively, obsessively, for example . . . ?
Anxiety is something I had to deal with quite early not so much at home but at school, granted back then I think we called it fear. Bullies had a tendency to goad me into going to the office and lying about the reason for it, well this time I “full well” knew they were lying so I kept walking, to the principal’s office. What they didn’t realize I knew the principal well enough over the summer. So he took care of my long simmering problem. The point is at some point I learned to go outside of my “comfort zone”, was a challenge but that paid dividends down the road. Not everyone would want to try that, but it worked a little discomfort now, might be big trade off later😏
Dan, I’ve been later in life diagnosed ASDL1 and even though logically it makes perfect sense, I’m still struggling in the Imposter Syndrome phase. I don’t think negatively about ASD. Any advice regarding this matter?
People often assume my son has issues regulating his emotions because he has ASD, APD, crippling dyslexia.. but I keep saying- his emotional reactions make complete sense given the way his brain is receiving the stimuli. It doesn’t seem to be an issue of him not regulating himself, if I felt that uncomfortable and stressed and misunderstood every day I would get frustrated too! Does anybody else have similar thoughts?
Contrary to the sarcasm item on your list, I actually live my life in sarcasm mode which doesnt go down too well with everyone. Its the method I use to "join in" in social surroundings so I am very switched on with sarcasm. the food item also, I cant say I have any issues with food, ok I make the same sandwiches every day for a month before i change to something else for a month but no other issues. anxiety, anger management and frustrations totally on board with.
Hi, could you please do some videos on self-gaslighting (about symptoms/traits, diagnosis, etc.) and internalized ableism? :) I've been diagnosed for 3 years at this point (at 19), yet I still go back and forth - sometimes I'm like "whoa, I'm really autistic, this makes sense now" and then I sit and obsess "what if their and mine conclusion is wrong? what if it's just bunch of anxiety disorders? what if it's something else? what if I'm just too lazy?", etc... I wish someone would make some content about how to stop this cycle.
I make jokes and use sarcasm, and I don't always fail to understand it but sometimes, I do have moments where I struggle to identify sarcasm right away (or at all), and sometimes I am the last person to get a joke, or I'll need someone to explain the joke for me to get it. My sister knows me for asking her (and sometimes other people), "Was that sarcasm?" It's happened more often than usual recently, I feel. There was a point where during musical rehearsal, the teacher said I made a face at them in response to something they said, and I was trying to explain to her "No I didn't know I was making a face, I didn't think anything of what you said-" and then my sister told me "Calm down, it's sarcasm." My teacher was joking about it and I wasn't sure so I automatically jumped to explaining myself to avoid a misunderstanding lol. There was another point at my birthday party where one of my friends said they wanted to take something home with them (I think it was all of a type of food we had) and I was responding "I could ask my parents about that but I'm sure you'd be able to take it home-" and she cut me off and said she was joking. I DID NOT DETECT THAT AT ALL, WHAT?! There was also another racist joke in a video that everyone understood except me, and I had to ask for an explanation. My stepdad let me know what it was and it had something to do with a black person and someone's stuffed toy gorilla... I realize I went in detail but I tried cutting it shorter, I just wanted to try to provide examples of what I'm talking about. I'm just turned 18, got diagnosed with ADHD, and I'm suspecting autism as well because of how much I feel like I struggle in social situations, as well as many other minor details...
The food issue is also about reliability, isn’t it? It’s about a preference for items of food that can be relied on to have the same taste/texture/consistency each time, as opposed to others, particularly fruit, which can vary enormously.
ADHD also leads to stimming- it can calm the brain down and help it focus on one thing. ADHD brain's tend to be all over the place, bouncing idea off idea- if I distract part of mine the rest can do what I need to get done. Doesn't always work.....
Wait.. you said only people with ASD never pick up on jokes/sarcasm? I have ADHD-I and I have that trait. I know there are a lot of similarities between ASD and ADHD which is why videos like this are really confusing for me when youtubers say things like this.
Who here has ever hypothesize on ASD and a direct link with trauma while in the the mother is pregnant or early childhood. The studies took place while WWII and in Germany 🤔
Back in the 70s I never got it especially the SNL humor that the kids copied. Parents made sure I didn't watch shows like that. Numbers 4 and 5 were a huge problem until recently.
@@TheAspieWorld , yep, makes life fun!😄 People who don’t know me very well can really get thrown for a loop until things get explained to them, lol! (“Why can’t she sit still? Does she drink too much coffee??)🤣
So I thought I might be in the spectrum I saw a therapist for the first time last week and she said immediately she doesn’t think I’m autistic apparently I can’t be autistic because so experienced love as a child and did well in school so she says I might have oppositional defiant disorder :/
I would suggest seeing someone else..... I'm fairly sure the lack of love theory went out of date decades ago! Autistic people can do well in school- my partner is a maths professor and many of his colleagues and students are on the spectrum.
For humor I would rather say that autistic person understand the concept very differently rather than not at all. My favorite meme on my FB come from my autistic friends and they're usually the one that can appreciate my "special kind of humor" the most. That being said I've known autistic person that had more difficulties with humor but as I said in a lots of cases is not about not understanding humor but understanding it differently wich can be confusing to NT that make jokes that just sound like lame to us.
I would always separate my food when I was a kid and my parents thought it's so weird. I still do, I don't like wet food mixing up with "things that are supposed to be dry" in my head :D
With the joking part, I laugh at things that I think are funny but the person would be serious. Perhaps they say something I think is stupid thinking that it was a joke.
The obly time im unable to understand when others are joking is if ive known them for a long time and i understand their humor, even then im not always ables to figure out when they are joking
*YES THIS!!*
i just assume… kinda fires back when they’re not joking about a serious topic and i’m just laughing
I was just thinking my whole life I understand jokes and sarcasm, but actually I just do when I am with people I already know really well. Just got a new job and a college is joking very often, and I just didn't get it intentionally😁
Yes I have such a hard time with this. All five I have issues with but this one gets me a lot of times. I still haven’t been tested yet. But I’m getting a lot of tests don’t soon with a neurologist. Lost my job due to medical problems.
What gets me is so often people assume I'm joking when I'm not.
People with adhd stim too to get their dopamine up to focus and self regulate! Neurotypicals stim as well but it’s less pronounced, I.e. scratching your head to think/tapping pen.
"not understanding jokes" is pretty well covered in Community, episode 1.5 "Advanced Criminal Law", where Troy makes jokes that Abed takes literally & then Abed "retaliates" with a very long, over drawn joke, that isn't really funny, but perfectly juxtaposes the understanding gap.
I have under the radar stimming: I flick my index and middle finger back and forth together very quickly. Feeling the percussive/rhythmic sensation is soothing.
You have explained this topic so well. I understand my asd , better, now.
My sarcastic personality and love of humor is actually what had me doubting my diagnosis at first, I mean when I was with people I was comfortable with, I was a regular clown. Then I realize I’ve got loads of all the other stuff. Stimming is a big one for me. I actually was twisting my hands around in my lap and bouncing my leg so much yesterday when I had anxiety at the doctor, that I excused myself for a bit to calm down and came back to a water bottle and the doctor letting me know we could take our time during the appointment and not to worry. I must have looked a mess. 😂
This is one of the things that is keeping me from bringing this up with my doctor. I'm really good with humor and sarcasm, but that seems to be about the only thing that doesn't fit with autism for me. Do you feel like having a diagnosis was helpful to you? I'm uncertain as to whether or not I should even bring it up at my next appointment.
@@emilyshelly4055 I don’t think a lot changed with my diagnosis, personally. My parents already sort of knew and I’d already started to figure out a way to make it through school without help (although it may have been quicker and less stressful with accommodations, I’ll just never know).
It mainly helped me stop doubting my own experiences and blaming myself for failures caused by stuff I could not control. I think the fact that it’s an official diagnosis can help when you’re struggling with thinking that maybe you’re just lazy or don’t try hard enough, because there’s a medical professional that agrees that you do have it and will work with you to find alternative ways to get things done.
And while I don’t currently have a job, I was told there are certain accommodations I would be entitled to get. So if accommodations are something that would be helpful to you at work or in school then that is also a benefit.
@@HyperWolf Thanks so much for your response. I really appreciate your insight.
I’m really happy I watch your videos. It’s things that cemented my understanding that my chances are high of being on this spectrum. Doctors I worked with assumed I had it before I even realized. I can’t get a formal diagnosis yet…
I’m at a new job and am so lucky they accept me as I am with ADHD, but also believe me that I most likely have autism. They work with me and are so understanding of me. I work hard for them because they work with me.
These all applied to me. My coworkers actually stim with me when I’m doing it. They aren’t teasing me. They just embrace my traits and want to show support by doing it. I’ll snap my fingers or start making weird vocal sounds. They do it right back. I love them!!!
It's super common to hear that having *adhd* but not diagnosed with autism but thinking they may. I suggest totally going for an assessment.
I’ve had severe anxiety with the phone system. There are days I broke down in tears from the anxiety of it. Those I work with at the hospital have pulled me aside, talked me through it and then gave me helpful hands at working through it.
I think I’m very lucky. Even tho I dealt with hard times, my adult years have been very fortunate that I’ve made great friends, found good job and have strong relationships at home. I hope others are lucky too. I know how hard it is to deal with these things when you don’t have those around you being understanding.
@The Aspie World: That is my plan!!! I’m starting to look more into it now that I have insurance.
My son was just diagnosed with autism at 40+. Thank you for your input.
I'm have asd (late diagnosis) who loves to create jokes and I thoroughly enjoy the comedy genre, yet I often don't get jokes directed toward me (oddly enough). I've used humor as a coping mechanism and for masking most of my life and I can quickly make a joke about anything. I find it is my asd superpower. However it also gets me in trouble a lot because I joke about EVERYTHING. the more uncomfortable I am the more I joke. So whenever I'm at a funeral, hospital,event etcetera (where I am at my most uncomfortable state) I make jokes during conversations that I find hilarious but others look at me like I kicked a kitten or something. I do my best now to avoid being anywhere that absurd humor is unwelcome.
Same here. I have a big sense of humor... but extremely sarcastic, a colleague told me I sometimes hurt people. I think it's because I don't know when I can , and because if find a lot of sentences funny, and I like to play with words ,so I interrupt I stay too focused on the other potential meanings and completly get lost from what we were talking about. I also find people weird because they can't see the beauty of strange sentence they say, playing with words, sarcasm or cynicism. I find all that a lot more interested than any conversation.
@@murielbilly4296 all facts, no tax lol
This sounds like me as well, specially the part about being bad at jokes or double meaning comments aimed at me.
I just found out I have autism at 45 years old. Which explains all of my behaviors but I really wish I would’ve known this earlier in my childhood so I wouldn’t have had to gone through life thinking something was wrong with me and why nobody else was doing things that I was doing.
Can't understand jokes: check; Stimming: check; Weird food likes and dislikes: check; Anxiety and Meltdowns: check; Anger Management Issues: more when I was young, but, yes. I finally decided to start the assessment process and found a clinical psychologist online... lots of work to do and I'm a bit nervous, but I feel I really need to do this
You have a habit of describing my life in public. I am smiling, really enjoyed this because it is so very spot on,
Ha! 🙌🏼🔥
So relatable. I’m so grateful for this channel. Thanks heaps for cranking out consistently great content that’s so informative.
I have food allergies, including late onset celiac disease. When that came on I started having panic attacks. I had them for years, and was on a bunch of SSRIs, none of which helped (well, Xanax helped a little). A nutritionist did muscle testing and told me I was allergic to milk as well as gluten. I went off of milk products and have never had another panic attack, and that was 22 years ago. I am also off of all anti-anxiety drugs and anti-depressants. I'm still a nervous person, but panic attacks were the bane of my life when I was having them. So anyone out there who has panic attacks, get yourself tested for food allergies. Even if you don't have panic attacks, food allergies cause inflammation in the gut which translates into anxiety.
I LOVE your videos. My son is on the spectrum, my husband is being tested and my best friend is investigating this as an option for her.
I constantly send her your videos !!!
Thanks for your consistency, honesty, research and heart behind what you do
being on the spectrum like me do you ever have day's
Where Your eyes start tearing at any Random moment for no reason.
I'd love 2 know why happens 🌻
Could the sensory processing disorder present as someone who is very sensitive to touch (like dust or cat hair landing on someones face driving them crazy or flinching when another person touches them unexpectedly) instead of any food related issues?
YES
@@TheAspieWorld K, thanks! ❤️
Absolutely!!
My daughter is autistic and she has a very low pain threshold. Sensory issues can also be to do with sound: a problem with certain sounds; a problem with volume; a problem with sudden sounds.
Wishing you the best and all the success. Stay true man.
I just applied for the autism behaviour program at my local college! Your channelle has helped me learn so much not only about my self but what I want to do with my Early childhood Edcaution course!
Honestly for me, I don’t have anger management issues or food issues, and I’m not too bad with jokes/sarcasm (sometimes I understand, other times not so much) but I stim a lot and I have anxiety for social situations. I have been considered autistic since being a toddler. I just discovered your channel and I really like the content.
Thanks for all of your hard work & insight, you articulate it very well. Can you do a video on autism but from a pervasive developmental focus? When my son was born at 26 1/2 weeks in 1998 there was very little info available. He's now 23 with ADHD, Schizophrenia, PTSD, Anxiety & Depression, Developmental Delays as well as autism. He was diagnosed with pervasive developmental disorder until it was considered in the Autism Spectrum. He has issues that I didn't see mentioned very often. Also, the way all of these issues manifests in him is very complicated. Three things in particular are very difficult for me to support him with. He has no self awareness- looking into a mirror & seeing his face is dirty, or his hair needs combing or doesn't see it as requiring action. He has no concept of cause & effect. He also has extreme difficulty with hygiene in all areas. He has been treated in psych as well as other medical specialties. No one has ever dealt with his most extreme issues. Any info would be appreciated. Thank you-
I’ve had anger for a long time now and I now I’m trying to find an Autism specialist near me in the states. Thanks for helping me realizing lots of tbigns
Yeahp I’m really bad with most peoples jocks. Despite having a stand-up gig years ago. That’s no jock.
I go the other way with anger. I still got/get frustrated when people can’t understand what I still think are the simplest of things, but I’m super passive and will try to explain something ten different ways before giving up and doing it myself….
That’s the first time I’ve put that is written and seeing it now😳 Am I passive aggressive🙊
*Oh man!!* _Tell me about it_ ! Only certain comedians I can understand the jokes of!
Jokes, right? “Jocks” refers to athletes and athleticism. I understand this. For me sarcasm drives me nuts, especially on social media where you cannot read and understand the person’s motive for sarcasm. To me, sarcasm is a bad joke.
@@SeniorJohnQPublic I like sarcasm that isn't at someone's expense. I cannot understand online sarcasm though.
As someone with the diagnosis, I find social media is data overload. How do you deal not only with using it, but also reading every message? With so many followers, the reading alone could take longer than your lifetime.
I'm in the 2nd half of life now with a huge record collecction, so I spend time calculating the duration of media compared to my expected lifespan to see if it would be possible to hear them all. If not, many will be leaving my possession or not entering it in the first place.
I have understanding and speaking issues, meaning that when you tell me something I may not understand it, and if I did what you say took a completely different meaning from what you initially meant to communicate to me; also when I talk even though I'm listening to the discussion and what I say is related to the conversation people say that they don't understand what I'm talking about or that I talk weird in a non-neurotypical way. I would to know if this is just my problem or if other autistic individuals have the same problem.
I'm Constantly having to explain to people how my comments during the conversation are related. Then my explanations become word stew from the 10 different ways that I try to reword my original comment to make it understandable to anyone else.
I've gotten better with sarcasm, just dived into it headlong & embraced it fully.
Somehow, I'm usually funnier to other people when I'm not trying to make a joke 🤷🏻♀️
My relationship with food is odd, with the varied cravings; and I definitely have some consistency aversions. I'm just glad my body tells me when I need sodium, iron, potassium, etc. Love that bonus 💚
What I find makes me angry ( and it is an issue quite often) is that when you try and explain to neurotypicals how you are feeling , your concerns either get dismissed or they look at you in a pitying way and try to tell you that what you are feeling isn’t valid . And social injustice also makes me furious.
Never had any issue with food though- worked in the food industry for years -except peas . Absolutely hate peas . Worst food ever ( except organs - liver , kidneys , ect ) Although someone tried to get me to eat some alpaca today , and they got very upset when I told them that I just couldn’t do it - they actually got quite angry ! Sometimes I think it’s the neurotypicals that are the strange ones .
That's how teenagers feel about their parents. I think you're on to something.
@@cgc1581 A lot of autistic traits are similar to those of children or teenagers, indicating that part of them never really 'grows up'.
I feel like you’re the only one out there putting out relevant content.
yes I find it impossible to understand sarcasm and jokes… it’s led to me having a couple of trust issues. I can’t eat wiggly/not crispy bacon or runny sauces I also enjoy full flavours. I have very bad anxiety and the only times it reduces is when I “explode” I often have to say to my parents that they should think of me of a volcano and tell them they shouldn’t take it personally… they don’t listen get furious with me to the point where they come up close and I can smell their breath which makes me aggressive and then i “attack” because I don’t know any other way to make it stop.
Edit: woah I wrote a whole paragraph
Why did it say ODD in the thumbnail? I'm just asking because before I got diagnosed with Asperger's I was told have an ASPD which was before that ODD and in the old days even high functioning sociopath.
Awesome vid, keep going!
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I heard in a Kanye interview he said he looks around in a room and thinks "am I the only one that's not crazy?" Well now I know, nope there is a whole community of people who are not crazy right here! We are just uniquely equipped to understand and analyze the world in a way most people can not.
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Oh my God the emotion stuff is all me and it comes off as me being cold are heartless. Like I don’t care to say hi in morning for work I just want to get the day started and done successfully.
I always just laughed along when it came to jokes. Anything I truly find comical tends to be intellectual or witty comments and the such.
I hate stimming so much. I always get made fun of when I twitch my legs constantly, crack my knuckles or bite my nails, etc. etc... Not my fault I am having anxiety issues or trying to calm down. Over time I hid most of them pretty well, or got used to only doing them when completely alone.
If I could live off chicken nuggets and macaroni and cheese, I would! My mom hates how picky I am still, even at 39. Onions freak me out, even worse when cooked. SO DAMN SLIMY EWW EWW EWW.
SO much anxiety. I hate it. I am 39, and I swear I haven't had a moment where I am not having anxiety.
I learned to just not show feelings or have them, bottle them up, push them down, what ever I have to... My dad wasn't a kind man (psychically and extremely emotionally abusive), so I don't want to angry like he is. I don't want to hit people. I don't want to abuse someone. Another reason I just stay alone I guess. Hitting myself in anger is the worst part.
Why does autism and ADHD seem to common too? At least from what I have gathered talking to people online. It seems like a lot of autistics also have ADHD. My therapist wants to test for ADHD. I was like.... dude I was diagnosed ADHD at 8 pfffft. Some how autism at 37. Depression and anxiety at 15.
Why does autism get misdiagnosed as something else so commonly in women? I was even misdiagnosed as ASPD previously.
To me it's all frowned or judged upon. Stimming (something I done as a kid) especially when achieved something or even when something/ group winds you up, a behaviour you don't realise you're doing. I still stim today but realise and control it by rubbing my hands together. Anger management is a huge issue or should I say frustration management. You feel all alone and left out. NT's all stick together and will use you for their own ends. Also I hate being ridiculed by them - mainly at school but also in the workplace from the odd NT.
Hand flapping for me is new just recently learned that I do it after I get too excited. Also last year I had anxiety over my phone megabytes to the point my mom was asking for help our aunt over Skype cause she is psychologist something like hat and my mom wanted to give me meds but I calmed down and learned to not to care anymore.
Yes about jokes! I take things literally. . .
Is stimming restricted to physical expression? Or can it be also involve input received such as listening to a song repetitively, obsessively, for example . . . ?
Anxiety is something I had to deal with quite early not so much at home but at school, granted back then I think we called it fear. Bullies had a tendency to goad me into going to the office and lying about the reason for it, well this time I “full well” knew they were lying so I kept walking, to the principal’s office. What they didn’t realize I knew the principal well enough over the summer. So he took care of my long simmering problem. The point is at some point I learned to go outside of my “comfort zone”, was a challenge but that paid dividends down the road. Not everyone would want to try that, but it worked a little discomfort now, might be big trade off later😏
Thank you.
Thank YOU!
Dan, I’ve been later in life diagnosed ASDL1 and even though logically it makes perfect sense, I’m still struggling in the Imposter Syndrome phase. I don’t think negatively about ASD. Any advice regarding this matter?
People often assume my son has issues regulating his emotions because he has ASD, APD, crippling dyslexia.. but I keep saying- his emotional reactions make complete sense given the way his brain is receiving the stimuli. It doesn’t seem to be an issue of him not regulating himself, if I felt that uncomfortable and stressed and misunderstood every day I would get frustrated too! Does anybody else have similar thoughts?
Contrary to the sarcasm item on your list, I actually live my life in sarcasm mode which doesnt go down too well with everyone. Its the method I use to "join in" in social surroundings so I am very switched on with sarcasm. the food item also, I cant say I have any issues with food, ok I make the same sandwiches every day for a month before i change to something else for a month but no other issues. anxiety, anger management and frustrations totally on board with.
Good video,I see my traits that you mentioned
Hi, could you please do some videos on self-gaslighting (about symptoms/traits, diagnosis, etc.) and internalized ableism? :) I've been diagnosed for 3 years at this point (at 19), yet I still go back and forth - sometimes I'm like "whoa, I'm really autistic, this makes sense now" and then I sit and obsess "what if their and mine conclusion is wrong? what if it's just bunch of anxiety disorders? what if it's something else? what if I'm just too lazy?", etc... I wish someone would make some content about how to stop this cycle.
I just recently was diagnosed and I basically trained myself to understand humor better, I am also extremely sarcastic myself.
I make jokes and use sarcasm, and I don't always fail to understand it but sometimes, I do have moments where I struggle to identify sarcasm right away (or at all), and sometimes I am the last person to get a joke, or I'll need someone to explain the joke for me to get it. My sister knows me for asking her (and sometimes other people), "Was that sarcasm?" It's happened more often than usual recently, I feel. There was a point where during musical rehearsal, the teacher said I made a face at them in response to something they said, and I was trying to explain to her "No I didn't know I was making a face, I didn't think anything of what you said-" and then my sister told me "Calm down, it's sarcasm." My teacher was joking about it and I wasn't sure so I automatically jumped to explaining myself to avoid a misunderstanding lol. There was another point at my birthday party where one of my friends said they wanted to take something home with them (I think it was all of a type of food we had) and I was responding "I could ask my parents about that but I'm sure you'd be able to take it home-" and she cut me off and said she was joking. I DID NOT DETECT THAT AT ALL, WHAT?! There was also another racist joke in a video that everyone understood except me, and I had to ask for an explanation. My stepdad let me know what it was and it had something to do with a black person and someone's stuffed toy gorilla... I realize I went in detail but I tried cutting it shorter, I just wanted to try to provide examples of what I'm talking about. I'm just turned 18, got diagnosed with ADHD, and I'm suspecting autism as well because of how much I feel like I struggle in social situations, as well as many other minor details...
I have all of these except for the food one.
You just explained my ex to a T.
Lack of empathy too.
A lot of autistic people are extremely empathetic. We just have a hard time expressing it.
i have autism, major depressive disorder and cptsd
The food issue is also about reliability, isn’t it? It’s about a preference for items of food that can be relied on to have the same taste/texture/consistency each time, as opposed to others, particularly fruit, which can vary enormously.
Got a question! I have adhd and I stim all the time I was told that its because of the adhd would that not be technically true?
ADHD also leads to stimming- it can calm the brain down and help it focus on one thing. ADHD brain's tend to be all over the place, bouncing idea off idea- if I distract part of mine the rest can do what I need to get done. Doesn't always work.....
May I add one more...sensitivity to sound and actual pain with loud repetitivei, I e sound
Are you feeling ok? You look like something’s not right. I hope you’re feeling well and life is treating you ok!!
I can only pick up in sarcasm by certain people I've known forever but it still might take time for me to process that it was a joke
Wait.. you said only people with ASD never pick up on jokes/sarcasm? I have ADHD-I and I have that trait. I know there are a lot of similarities between ASD and ADHD which is why videos like this are really confusing for me when youtubers say things like this.
Who here has ever hypothesize on ASD and a direct link with trauma while in the the mother is pregnant or early childhood. The studies took place while WWII and in Germany 🤔
I have adhd autism and Dyslexia I hate Rough texture Food and Alcoholic drink
ah those with ADHD also has stimming so its not unique to Autism alone...
Is bitting nails a symptom?
Thank you
Back in the 70s I never got it especially the SNL humor that the kids copied. Parents made sure I didn't watch shows like that. Numbers 4 and 5 were a huge problem until recently.
Oh, every one of those apply to me!😳
_Oh cool!_
@@TheAspieWorld , yep, makes life fun!😄 People who don’t know me very well can really get thrown for a loop until things get explained to them, lol! (“Why can’t she sit still? Does she drink too much coffee??)🤣
This is a great video, Dan!! It is clear and concise.
Thank you for making your content here and on Facebook.
So I thought I might be in the spectrum I saw a therapist for the first time last week and she said immediately she doesn’t think I’m autistic apparently I can’t be autistic because so experienced love as a child and did well in school so she says I might have oppositional defiant disorder :/
I would suggest seeing someone else..... I'm fairly sure the lack of love theory went out of date decades ago! Autistic people can do well in school- my partner is a maths professor and many of his colleagues and students are on the spectrum.
@@zoehancock thank you I’m currently seeking a second opinion
My 6 year old has odd so I understand the anger part a lot.
I like Jim Careys' type of humour. Also "Herman" comics humour. It's like agressive. Also it must be how I can relate at times.
For humor I would rather say that autistic person understand the concept very differently rather than not at all.
My favorite meme on my FB come from my autistic friends and they're usually the one that can appreciate my "special kind of humor" the most.
That being said I've known autistic person that had more difficulties with humor but as I said in a lots of cases is not about not understanding humor but understanding it differently wich can be confusing to NT that make jokes that just sound like lame to us.
I recently read that Autistic people can become catatonic. I have done that occasionally but never knew why.
I have a lot of angry in me , but I can't get it out because I don't know how ,
I would always separate my food when I was a kid and my parents thought it's so weird. I still do, I don't like wet food mixing up with "things that are supposed to be dry" in my head :D
Signs, indicators, characteristics
The bitter irony: we are always being sarcastic.
The first one it hella true lol
Never mind.. they’re all hella true
Wait.. I thought stimming was also an ADHD thing? I stim, but I thought it was just cuz of my ADHD?
You Rock!
My 4.5 year old tries to retell (echolalia) jokes from Moana. Then does fakes laugh at his joke.
All these unique behaviour traits my son displays
I'm diagnosed with asd and I eat everything! I must be lucky I guess
Yeah. For me, my Ramen Noodles for lunch has to be a certain amount of soft
With the joking part, I laugh at things that I think are funny but the person would be serious. Perhaps they say something I think is stupid thinking that it was a joke.
I do not have autism.
I am the Grandmaster of bad jokes
I don't like food touching love dino nuggets
I'm 52 and I still cannot eat most vegetables. The textures are just disgusting to me.
I understand jokes but no one seems to understand mine...or think they are as funny as I find them.
Don’t speak when spoken to…a dead give away
Haha chicken nuggets and "Autism pasta" = noodles, butter and sometimes melted cheese. 👍
I feel like I'm the only person with autism who doesn't like nuggets
I petition to get rid of our infinity symbol and instead replace it with a chicken nugget to represent autism :)
Please no I don't like nuggets