Yes indeed doing good for fellow human even with your enemy though it's sounds not good for us, there is nothing wrong in doing good even with your enemies... No matter what you still got merit from our creator, our God Almighty... I'm not a saint I may say I'm hypocrite but what I'm telling is definitely true
that is the truth! I have finally set boundaries lost most all my family and it was hard but I put myself first and for the first time in 59 years I am at peace. I now know what peace feels like.
Thank you so much! This truly resonates with me. My name is Clara, and I'm learning this at 70. I've sacrificed for my extended family, work, friends, and everyone who knows me. Now, I'm exhausted and facing severe health issues. I wish I had heard this years ago.
JESUS PLEASE PRAY WITH ME 🙏. GOD PLEASE FATHER I HUMBLY COME BEFORE THEE PRAYING FOR HEALING AND WHOLENESS FOR YOUR PRECIOUS DAUGHTER 😢❤️. IN JESUS NAME AMEN 🙏. THANK YOU GOD&JESUS I LOVE YOU💯💞💞💞💞💞💞
One thing about it we are never too old to learn when we learn better. We do better. And you are so right it would take a toll on your health and it’s not worth it It was a hard pill to swallow to realize especially with family😢😊
This is me too. Realized at 52 years ran away from all relatives and settled far. Now I am focusing on myself. There are other distant relatives around who also think I can give them a chance to exploit my kindness. I refuse this, in capital letters
My old mum told me that she sees a good heart in me . And he advised me to train myself when training others. I took the advice. If not i would have been embarrassed in my life. When you too kind people see you as a fool.
I too was that way. Then, I became home less and the few that helped were not the many I'd put my energy into. I ended all those relationships and none have sought me out as we are no longer compatible. These were family people. I was sooo trained to give to be accepted. I still see my tendency to over give and I pull back.... I'm much better now at noticing much more quickly that the other person is spending zero energy toward mutual ness and I end it right then and there. Such relief. I no longer need anyone's acceptance because I accept my own worth. Perhaps, that is the reason I started with this particular family to begin with. ❤
I was always happy to help “yes of course” to the point of absolute exhaustion and self neglect, I struggled to say “No!” to anyone, even strangers. Then when I needed help not one person was there to lend an ear just to listen nor to give advice and help, I would ring and leave a message they never returned my phone call this happened to me several times throughout my life until now, now I have finally learned my lesson I say “No” and though I struggle with the guilt afterwards at least I am taking the 1st step to caring for myself.
Thanks for confirming, it took me over 50 years, i remember Joyce Meyer speaking about something similar to this! It's ok to say NO! People would drain you if you're nice! Thanks Oprah ❤
I used to be this kind of person. When I finally learned how to say NO. I lost everyone around me. I realized, they liked what they used to get from me only. It's was about their interests, not about friendship. I still think everyone should be kind to each other, but there are a lot of selfish people around, ready to take advantage from the others, there is no way that it can happen. So protect your own energy .
I've been giving and giving for years. I've wasted my TIME and ENERGY on others. .. Haven't received anything back. Now I'm being KIND to ME. And I'm extremely HAPPY. 🙂
Reflecting myself right now been working since teenager for my families in the Philippines until now at 60yrs old, yes i think its a habit . Working 3 jobs for others is so exhausting. Thanks Oprah
It hits me at the core.The speaker is telling me exactly what is all about my life.I am at that stage where my friends and relatives have become dependants.I feel guilty if I don't solve someone's problem. Iam now at 50 and determined to stop this habit.I wish I heard this in my 30s Iam greatly moved by this talk.
Fire fire fire. Oh my God , preach preach , preach on. The world is listening, we are listening. Yes i have been caught in this act of kindness and loosing myself. I have learnt a lot.
Chronic work stress from not saying no to a boss who guilted me into staying caused adrenal crisis and autoimmune symptoms. I ended up in the hospital with horrible breathing episodes and lethargy that made me feel like I was dying. Doctors said it was because I was. I HAD to quit that job to stay alive. I eliminated all stress to heal. It took me 2-3 months to build my body back up.
Madam Oprah is know all over the years as a giver, very kind woman, done so much for humanity, God bless her, all she said is true, am learning from it from now on .
What an education and advised I got today date 08/11/2024 am the person whom am doing that as am listening to Ophrah advise, about what we do ourselves and bring people first than herself to say , no and and these was neglecting my own life. Thank you so so very much today is the start day Friday 08 Nov. 2024.Done. Amen
I am grateful to hear this! It hits me hearing this, it happened my name is Sarah I really felt seemed Oprah talking to me straight. I was glad the other day I stood up for myself and said NO, and I confronted that person that she should be the one to do it and you told me to do it ? Why did you say that? That’s not how it works. I realized that’s why she said it to me that easy to do it not even asking if I can because she took advantage of my kindness. So, I decided to say NO! and she did what she needs to do because I said No!
Must protect myself first, it is not selfish. It is a good way to defend bad things coming in to abuse me and harm me. 🎉thankfully to Ms. Oprah 🎉🎉🎉 very great 👍 speech
Thank you for this msg, I gave all my life to my extended Family until about three days ago, I just have to tell one of my Niece I cannot and I was crying just because I don't even have nothing to my self I gave everything I have out.
Welcome to the club hon... I'm sure your pocket looking better, your peace will come! Sad but true... They see you as a tap,,, financial, emotional, physical etc. the expectations of others are bottomless... Set boundaries say NO!... no explanation... be well.
I now listen to all your audios and help me a lot dealing with life’s challenges . You’re the best life’s coach Madam Oprah . At least , when I need an advice I don’t have to doubt putting my trust in because your words always make sense . I always have faith in you as one of the most influential celebrities … Your success , works and accomplishments - plus your whole well being say it all ! Power , strength , intelligence , beauty , dignity and integrity deep within a kind and gentle soul . You’re an almost perfect God’s gift 🎁.
TRUE TALK. Am the last person in my house, my family members offer any act of helping hand or kindness because I do it for everyone. So they think am okay that I don't need it.
I started saying no when I noticed people love my money more than me and when my beloved big sister left me when I was broke and saw me again doing good after abandoned me for 3yrs and started asking me for money but I told her pls stop asking me for me. I still help her though but not loosing myself because of them not again, many of them like that. Have worked to care for them now I’m working less for my well being because of my old age. Thank you Jesus ❤❤❤ Thanks for sharing ma’am 😘
I totally agree with everything said in this video. I too have experienced this. But now , better late then never, have learnt to say no in many cases.
Thia is nothing but truth am in thus situation now thanks to open my eye am that friend of yours i use to walk miles to people who cant take one step for me 😢
That is what I ve gone through. I used to help everybody, church, work, distant and close relations, friends without thinking about myself. When I got worn out both physically and mentally, I started yo say No! But it was too late. Some of those who got used to be getting from me took it as if I am now selfish and they became angry with me and friendships collapsed. But most of them understood me and respected me.
Iam grateful i have this message today. Iam on an intentional journey of knowing myself deeper and this has come at the right moment, being emotionally drained is so bad, iam overcoming it in Jesus's name
Thank you , I’ve been close to losing myself. I’ve set myself some boundaries recently. It’s been tough and raw but hopefully in time things will become better. X🌟✨🥰💚🙏🏻
Ms. Oprah, you touched an area in myself which has always depleted my energy. I love what you say ever since you conducted your show where you interviewed celebrities. I thought as if what you said came out of my mind. Love you ❤
Thank you Oprah I've been doing that for years in my church but now when you put yourself first s like you neglet them but now I'm turning 60 my body s not the same like I was young. Thank you I thought I've done wrong for stopping to be available
Thank you so much, dear Im in it as I try to hold the saying in the bible, Give to who asked👃 Give till you feel hurt👃 But you Oprah really enlighten many like us Thank you 👍👃❣️
Kindness is very important
But you must set boundaries and practice self care as well
Right I just told someone that if they were read proverbs 4:23 it tells us above all things got your heart not no one else but yours
Yes indeed doing good for fellow human even with your enemy though it's sounds not good for us, there is nothing wrong in doing good even with your enemies... No matter what you still got merit from our creator, our God Almighty... I'm not a saint I may say I'm hypocrite but what I'm telling is definitely true
Kindness is holyness
We all need to be aware of not trying to take advantage of another human being.
@@seaglasscolor right
yes indeed true
No, we don’t. We need to learn to guard our heart. The Bible tells you that. Read proverbs.4:23 it says above all things guard your heart
Exac
Yes,that happened to me when my house was destroyed.
Only 2 people show up for me
Thank you, Oprah. Kindness without boundaries isn’t wise and sometimes costly.
yes indeed
that is the truth! I have finally set boundaries lost most all my family and it was hard but I put myself first and for the first time in 59 years I am at peace. I now know what peace feels like.
Thank you so much! This truly resonates with me. My name is Clara, and I'm learning this at 70. I've sacrificed for my extended family, work, friends, and everyone who knows me. Now, I'm exhausted and facing severe health issues. I wish I had heard this years ago.
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Thank you for the message. I realized this when i start to geel tired and strange health iissues are coming to me
JESUS PLEASE PRAY WITH ME 🙏. GOD PLEASE FATHER I HUMBLY COME BEFORE THEE PRAYING FOR HEALING AND WHOLENESS FOR YOUR PRECIOUS DAUGHTER 😢❤️. IN JESUS NAME AMEN 🙏. THANK YOU GOD&JESUS I LOVE YOU💯💞💞💞💞💞💞
One thing about it we are never too old to learn when we learn better. We do better.
And you are so right it would take a toll on your health and it’s not worth it
It was a hard pill to swallow to realize especially with family😢😊
This is me too. Realized at 52 years ran away from all relatives and settled far. Now I am focusing on myself. There are other distant relatives around who also think I can give them a chance to exploit my kindness. I refuse this, in capital letters
Thank you, Oprah. Now in 71, thanks to you i will be smarter. Now i collapse because people just using me.❤💙💛
You are talking to me. This is my life!
On point hit the nail on the head. I start learning to love myself and set boundaries.
60 years to learn this. When we need some kindness all those people are nowhere to be seen.
in todays world kindness means you are allowing people to walk all over you :(
So true I’m in my 60s and just now learning not mad with anybody not angry anybody but I’m ✔️ done ✔️
Sure
My old mum told me that she sees a good heart in me . And he advised me to train myself when training others. I took the advice. If not i would have been embarrassed in my life.
When you too kind people see you as a fool.
Absolutely!
I too was that way. Then, I became home less and the few that helped were not the many I'd put my energy into. I ended all those relationships and none have sought me out as we are no longer compatible. These were family people. I was sooo trained to give to be accepted. I still see my tendency to over give and I pull back.... I'm much better now at noticing much more quickly that the other person is spending zero energy toward mutual ness and I end it right then and there. Such relief. I no longer need anyone's acceptance because I accept my own worth. Perhaps, that is the reason I started with this particular family to begin with. ❤
I was always happy to help “yes of course” to the point of absolute exhaustion and self neglect, I struggled to say “No!” to anyone, even strangers. Then when I needed help not one person was there to lend an ear just to listen nor to give advice and help, I would ring and leave a message they never returned my phone call this happened to me several times throughout my life until now, now I have finally learned my lesson I say “No” and though I struggle with the guilt afterwards at least I am taking the 1st step to caring for myself.
That is 100% true Oprah God bless you and thank you🙏🏽
Thanks for confirming, it took me over 50 years, i remember Joyce Meyer speaking about something similar to this! It's ok to say NO! People would drain you if you're nice! Thanks Oprah ❤
Wish I saw this 20 years ago. But it is ok. Not too late. Thank you madam Opra
I learned that lesson over 20 years ago. It’s a beautiful thing to protect yourself first.
This is so on the Money!! It’s taking me 60plus years to realize this, now I set boundaries & teach people how to treat me & it feels Wonderful!!! ❤
I used to be this kind of person. When I finally learned how to say NO. I lost everyone around me. I realized, they liked what they used to get from me only. It's was about their interests, not about friendship. I still think everyone should be kind to each other, but there are a lot of selfish people around, ready to take advantage from the others, there is no way that it can happen. So protect your own energy .
I've been giving and giving for years. I've wasted my TIME and ENERGY on others.
.. Haven't received anything back.
Now I'm being KIND to ME. And I'm extremely HAPPY. 🙂
Talk to me Oprah. We are talking to me. At 59 I heard you and will set boundaries. The rest of my life will be guided by this advice. Preach on.
Reflecting myself right now been working since teenager for my families in the Philippines until now at 60yrs old, yes i think its a habit . Working 3 jobs for others is so exhausting. Thanks Oprah
This reach me when I needed most.Thank you😢
Setting boundaries is key.
It hits me at the core.The speaker is telling me exactly what is all about my life.I am at that stage where my friends and relatives have become dependants.I feel guilty if I don't solve someone's problem. Iam now at 50 and determined to stop this habit.I wish I heard this in my 30s
Iam greatly moved by this talk.
Fire fire fire. Oh my God , preach preach , preach on. The world is listening, we are listening. Yes i have been caught in this act of kindness and loosing myself. I have learnt a lot.
This is so true that it took me all these years. I would give my all but not to myself
Chronic work stress from not saying no to a boss who guilted me into staying caused adrenal crisis and autoimmune symptoms. I ended up in the hospital with horrible breathing episodes and lethargy that made me feel like I was dying. Doctors said it was because I was. I HAD to quit that job to stay alive. I eliminated all stress to heal. It took me 2-3 months to build my body back up.
To be kind is good, but do it with wisdom because there is an award for your kindness , the creator of the universe is watching.
Thanks for this wonderful message. It's true being too generous is toxic to oneself.
Thank you once again Ophrah Winfrey.
Love you as always.
me too
This message is speaking to me, yes I'm Tired empty Exhausted 😢
Madam Oprah is know all over the years as a giver, very kind woman, done so much for humanity, God bless her, all she said is true, am learning from it from now on .
What an education and advised I got today date 08/11/2024 am the person whom am doing that as am listening to Ophrah advise, about what we do ourselves and bring people first than herself to say , no and and these was neglecting my own life.
Thank you so so very much today is the start day Friday 08 Nov. 2024.Done.
Amen
Yes Yes
Thank you so much
Amen
Extremely grateful hearing my life journey. Thank you for help me to stop and reflect. Its my turn.❤❤❤
God never tires in helping people
Thanks a lot Mom Opra.This message is more valuable than kindness itself....eye opening indeed ❤
Thank You Oprah..An eye opening that kindness will work againts You..❤❤❤
Oprah you said it all
This video came right on time. The story of my life. Now I know better. Thanks Oprah
I am grateful to hear this! It hits me hearing this, it happened my name is Sarah I really felt seemed Oprah talking to me straight. I was glad the other day I stood up for myself and said NO, and I confronted that person that she should be the one to do it and you told me to do it ? Why did you say that? That’s not how it works. I realized that’s why she said it to me that easy to do it not even asking if I can because she took advantage of my kindness. So, I decided to say NO! and she did what she needs to do because I said No!
Thank you for this message, yes I have felt that way till I had realised I have nothing to my name .
This is an assurance that I am on track.
Thank you.
I learned this painfully. No more.
It's so true.I'm grateful to hear this. Thank you so much for sharing. God bless you!💖🩷💕💞❤️💓💋🙏🙏🙏
You are so welcome
Thank you soo much,this is my turning point was crying of being overburdened with people life of asking anytime they want ..I say thanks
( No) is the answer thank you 🙏 Oprah❤
Must protect myself first, it is not selfish. It is a good way to defend bad things coming in to abuse me and harm me. 🎉thankfully to Ms. Oprah 🎉🎉🎉 very great 👍 speech
Thank youOprah
Thank you for this msg, I gave all my life to my extended Family until about three days ago, I just have to tell one of my Niece I cannot and I was crying just because I don't even have nothing to my self I gave everything I have out.
Thanks!
Wellcome ❤️and thank you for supporting
I'm happy to hear this. Thank you
This video has confirmed what I already know. I have to make myself my first priority. It’s ok to be there for others but not to my own detriment.
I am there...the family i have supported for 35years has turned against me...coz i am learning to say no...
You are not alone....... be strong
Welcome to the club hon... I'm sure your pocket looking better, your peace will come! Sad but true... They see you as a tap,,, financial, emotional, physical etc. the expectations of others are bottomless... Set boundaries say NO!... no explanation... be well.
They all turned against us
Not you alone
Thanks for this Oprah. Listening to your videos is teaching me self-care. I'll begin to be careful how I show kindness from now on.
You are completely and absolutely right. It's my own experience and now I am suffering. ❤
Yes I can totally relate to this
Thank you so much, I have been a victim almost all my life but enough is enough 😢
So true and when you try to hold back then you know the truth about about giving
Thank YOU, I SO needed to hear this.🙏🙏🙏
You are so welcome
Thank you my dear Oprah Winfrey 🙏♥️
I now listen to all your audios and help me a lot dealing with life’s challenges . You’re the best life’s coach Madam Oprah . At least , when I need an advice I don’t have to doubt putting my trust in because your words always make sense . I always have faith in you as one of the most influential celebrities … Your success , works and accomplishments - plus your whole well being say it all ! Power , strength , intelligence , beauty , dignity and integrity deep within a kind and gentle soul . You’re an almost perfect God’s gift 🎁.
TRUE TALK. Am the last person in my house, my family members offer any act of helping hand or kindness because I do it for everyone. So they think am okay that I don't need it.
Exactly what a wonderful message, it has just hit my head,am the victims .thank you
You are absolutely RIGHT! Thanks for this video!
Glad it was helpful!
I started saying no when I noticed people love my money more than me and when my beloved big sister left me when I was broke and saw me again doing good after abandoned me for 3yrs and started asking me for money but I told her pls stop asking me for me. I still help her though but not loosing myself because of them not again, many of them like that.
Have worked to care for them now I’m working less for my well being because of my old age. Thank you Jesus ❤❤❤ Thanks for sharing ma’am 😘
Thank you Oprah, you deserve what you have and the perfect relationship with your partner!
Big lesson learned from this message ❤
Very true I got it thanks for opening My eyes
I totally agree with everything said in this video. I too have experienced this. But now , better late then never, have learnt to say no in many cases.
Wow Wow!! Thank you Oprah...indeed you were talking directly to me
Thanks Oprah. You are talking to me.
Thank you Ms. Oprah.
Thank you, Oprah God bless you for this words of wisdom all what you said it is true god almighty bless us
Thanks God for this 🙏
Thia is nothing but truth am in thus situation now thanks to open my eye am that friend of yours i use to walk miles to people who cant take one step for me 😢
I learnt that the hard way. Getting better at saving myself 💓
That is what I ve gone through. I used to help everybody, church, work, distant and close relations, friends without thinking about myself. When I got worn out both physically and mentally, I started yo say No! But it was too late. Some of those who got used to be getting from me took it as if I am now selfish and they became angry with me and friendships collapsed.
But most of them understood me and respected me.
So so true! Am still in the learning stage🙌
Realy thank you for wakıng me up!!!
Thanks for sharing this 🎉
You are talking to me mama. Thanks a lot
I do not know what it is to set boundaries until I had more for myself
My life will not remain the same after watching this video
Thats not kind indeed i have learned the hard way too.Thank you oprah for learning us this lesson to set boundries so others can repect you❤
Iam grateful i have this message today. Iam on an intentional journey of knowing myself deeper and this has come at the right moment, being emotionally drained is so bad, iam overcoming it in Jesus's name
It took me 64 years to finally get ir
I can see clearly now , I am a changed person. They can’t understand me now. I can say no now, freely and on capitol letters
I love this message and I'm going to share it with others. Thanks Madam.
This is me right now , yess
This story is really for me
Who the hell says yes to everyone & everything... a people pleaser. It's not about stop being kind. Its about stop being a people pleaser.
Maybe you're the one receiving the kindness if you don't understand giving everything to everyone
True. 😊 My Tank was empty, so stepping back to Fill Up again. Amen.🙏
This hit me in my soul, I am balling!
Thank you soul sister. Guilt and the need the to grow are often in conflict ,
@@petracanard ❤️
Thank you , I’ve been close to losing myself. I’ve set myself some boundaries recently. It’s been tough and raw but hopefully in time things will become better. X🌟✨🥰💚🙏🏻
This is what I feel at this moment.
Amen❤, ,,facts!!!
Great piece Oprah
This is me since I was a child 😭 now I’ll change in my life.
Ms. Oprah, you touched an area in myself which has always depleted my energy. I love what you say ever since you conducted your show where you interviewed celebrities. I thought as if what you said came out of my mind. Love you ❤
Thank you Oprah I've been doing that for years in my church but now when you put yourself first s like you neglet them but now I'm turning 60 my body s not the same like I was young. Thank you I thought I've done wrong for stopping to be available
The inspiration words for abroken soul shafic ssekiwunga
Well said.....🙂
Thank you so much, dear
Im in it as I try to hold the saying in the bible, Give to who asked👃
Give till you feel hurt👃
But you Oprah really enlighten many like us
Thank you 👍👃❣️