Also remember when you are starting from scratch, it can take years to get the bones/structure plants established!! Drought/dry springs don’t help. Taken me 6 yrs to get the right shrubs/right place to thrive. More losses than wins but it is starting to look good finally! 😂
The only thing that frustrates me is when I want heavy things moved. I want them moved yesterday and I can’t get them done. I purchased a two wheel dolly from Amazon which only cost 30 something dollars and I move planters buckets grow bags statues anything without anybody’s help. I think that was my best purchase ever in my backyard.
Garden Frustrations in suburban Connecticut--our property backs up to a wooded area: 117-year old tree comes down taking out two mature red maples, an iron bird feeder, and a patio-shading Japanese maple raised over twenty years. Black bear who took out wrought iron bird feeder and hummingbird feeder while I was watching her do it. Deer who have systematically grown in population so that they ate all my well-established hostas, hydrangeas, day lilies, roses, rhododendron, ivy, etc. Rabbits who ate my Autumn Joy sedums and Echinacea (one also gave birth under a prized ornamental grass that she and her mate dug up--while we were watching). Chipmunks who tunneled under my new pavers, removing sand as they dug, making the path have to be replaced. (We gently relocated 23 chipmunks that year.) Wild Turkeys who ate my patio pots of red coleus. Leaf miners that infected 18 boxwoods. Paying $20,000 plus over 30 years for tree removal: Ash tree borers, the new Beech tree Bark disease (just last year), microbursts, hurricanes, fungus infestations, etc. Squirrels!. Fox who ate squirrels in front of us. Linda, the list goes on. I now have a lot of big statement rocks, wrought iron benches, and large obelisks instead of plants. I'm 78 and have waved the white flag.
Hey Linda! Well, this video of frustrations could not have come on a better day when I was feeling the same way. We removed an in ground pool last year after forty years and my entire "pool garden" was gone except for a few perennials that my hubby helped me dig up and repot. He will be 71 and I'm 72 and while he and my son were working so hard today to create me a flower garden area, I just broke down in tears. I realized that I was expecting too much for our age, that I most likely won't see a lot of it come to maturity, etc. I'm feeling better, (even though I woke up and can not get back to sleep) I adjusted my thinking on the size of it to make it more manageable and realistic and the LOVE they were putting in to it I believe is truly what made me so emotional. Aging sucks, especially when you love to garden but everything will work out in the end. It's not as if we didn't just make a beautiful veggie garden (completely grown from seed) that will balance my new and practical flower garden. Feeling blessed. Take care.
I hear you though I’m not there yet. But I saw it with my mom. The best thing for her was bringing her to public gardens and letting her break off small parts on plants and sticking them in Her garden. She was an avid gardener having been raised on a farm in Ireland. By golly those cuttings grew! It wasn’t much a branch here or there. But it was a spirit lifter. 🥰🌷🌸🌞
Gardening is not for the faint of heart! Keep on “ keeping on “!! You have a wonderful garden and are a true Garden Warrior! I am impatient too and want it done now 😊
You've been working on your garden for a year and I've been working on mine for 25. You're ahead of me! ( I had to reinvent too) most folks can only dream of that beautiful space you're working on! We all love it. Patience tends to help us create something better than what we first thought as our ideas grow!! Enjoy🎉😊
Feel your pain ? Linda for 31 years I’ve lived on this sand hill in South West / central Kansas. Tumbleweeds ,thistles and pig weeds. Gurrrrl! This is why I run to watch you and your never ending encouragement. Maybe our age has us feeling impatient?
I feel u. Today I got my81 year old self out in the garden here in Ct. it was a high 50 and sunny. Fifteen minutes later it was raining. We have been having so much rain. Your garden is so much more mature than ours in the north east. Thanks for all your time and sharing your experiences
I’m in CT also. I never would have imagined Oklahoma would be so much warmer. I am 80 years old too and I was raking and clean the yard today (Sunday). I was also caught in the rain. 😂
Oh, Linda, you really hit it when you mentioned the things that we used to be able to pick up and carry around in the yard and now they have become too heavy! That is not only true outside. It is also true inside. Like you I have very little patience. I want things done when I want them done. My mother said something wise to me a very long time ago. She said Suzanne you will get to the age that it will be important to have friends who are a good bit younger. I am now 75 and yes I do have some friends who are in their 40s and 50s. I can’t believe 50 is younger, good heavens thank you for the touch of reality. It definitely applies to us all bless you my friend.
Linda, Linda, Linda!!! Your garden is beautiful, I understand your frustrations, I think it's all a part of being a gardener, we all do it, I know no matter how hard I work in the garden, I am never satisfied, there is always something else I think needs to be done, or done better - there is just no relaxing! Take a deep breath, go make another mimosa, go sit for a minute...just try! Just know you are not alone ! Have a good day 😊 ❤
I love the pots you bought for Leah. I’m sure she was overjoyed. I use coffee filters in the bottom of my pots to keep the soil from falling through. I have 2 large pots of mint…spearmint and peppermint. In the spring I remove them from the pots and vigorously prune the roots. Stewart may want to try that to help control his mint. I just put them on their side and tug…or cut around the edge to get them out and hack off about two thirds of the roots. The growth is stronger and fuller. 🥰🦋🕊
Better to air your frustration and in doing so,as you have so skillfully demonstrated, figure out how to solve the problem, creating a happy solution. Thank you so much. You make it look so easy.
Here in Flanders it has been very wet for weeks on end and I battle an invasion of slugs. I tried every method under the sun (even Nematodes), but still remove by hand at least 200 every evening (with a headlight on). They ate half of my daffodils and tulips and are now on to my alliumleaves and Echinacealeaves etc...🤢Well, at least I get my squats in at night and discover little seedlings of plants to come! And the joy still outweighs the inconveniences! 💚
I can so relate to your frustration, Linda!! Not only regarding your weather conditions, but about a problem you guys in the US luckily don't have to deal with: It's the box tree moth. It has destroyed lots of parks & gardens starting back like probably 10 years ago in Europe. Nobody knew in the beginning what it actually was. Later gardeners found out about these moths which have been invaded from China. It's a huge problem as they have no natural enemies. They breed in three stages & their caterpillars can eat up a whole plant within a few days. Since I have lots of boxwood hedges, balls & cones in my garden, it takes me forever to cut out the caterpillars & their nests every single year. Most people have thrown out all of their boxwood in Europe because it's so hard to fight these moths. It's incredibly nerve wracking & exhausting, because there's no way to ever get rid of them. I thought about pulling out all of my boxwood, but I can't let go of it just yet. So, I too keep complaining year in, year out...😅😉 Love your channel, Linda...thank you for cheering us up with your instructive & heartwarming content!! ❤
Linda, you're talking about life itself. We all need to ve patient, and yes, venting is always a great thing to do. Your garden is beautiful always. Love your videos too.
The WIND this spring!! Oh my goodness. Strange weather, cold then warm. Being alone I want things done yesterday but I'm learning to have patience now. Your garden is beautiful!
Instead of burying my plant stands, I used landscape staples to secure them to the ground. After watering the ground a few times they glued themselves in very well, and I can hardly get them out now. Very stable.
My most aggravating frustration this Spring has been the roses. All my potted roses had vivid green canes going into Spring, then all of the sudden several of them just turned brown and died for no apparent reasons. Those things are expensive!
🌿💗 I’m 2 frustrations in and had to comment….I understand exactly how you feel. I get this way every now and then and really have to be intentional with the concept of GRATITUDE as it took me decades to truly understand this concept (as smart and enlightened as I think I am…🤣…) To get me there, I lament, “Well, things could be way worse” and that gets me to feeling grateful for what I have or have accomplished in the moment. I so appreciate your sharing your feelings and frustrations with your viewers. That has been the glue that keeps us all together--your honesty and vulnerability. 🤣💗🌿
Yes! I can relate to your frustration! Gardening is the only hobby I know that needs such a balance of expectation, planning, and letting go of expectations on this scale. Hopefully it's making me a better person?! LOL
I am feeling your frustrations Linda. Gardening in Oklahoma is not for the faint of heart! I am also at that point of life that i cannot physically do the work in my garden that I could just a few years ago. I am always looking for solutions and alternatives. I love your show and you.
Oh, definitely, feel your pain and frustrations. My main one is dealing with deer and rabbits. Spraying helps somewhat but am gradually replacing with deer and rabbit resistant plants and netting. We have been getting heavy rains (7b DC/Md) which has caused erosion and wet areas. Am using river stones and putting in rain garden native plants in those areas. Love the hammock.
Frustrated with deer 🦌. Ate 10 rose buds, hostas, and chewed the strawberry plants to numbs. Also, can I mention age! Everything takes 3 times longer at 72! But I won't give up my garden. I'm thankful that at least someone else cuts the grass, especially in the heat of Florida.
I feel your pain, Linda! We face very similar conditions here in southeast Nebraska, zone 5b though with the extremes I have to plant for our sometimes arctic winters and brutal summers... in our third year of drought and I often feel SO discouraged and unsure of whether I can keep anything going if we don't have a break soon. But your videos are very helpful as you are the only gardener I follow who faces conditions as harsh and sometimes more harsh than mine! I love the cottage garden style so the way you've adapted it to the plains is so helpful to me and lots of others. Thank you and thanks for the honest video ❤
This post was spot on for me today. It was 85 degrees, (a little north of you), wind blowing, everything trying to dry out and I couldn't get anything done. I too, couldn't move the things I wanted to get placed and hysterically, I had an ongoing battle with my garden hose...all day long. I was near tears. I am in the earlier stages of planning my beds and plantings and frustrated that weather is predicted to be in the 30s next weekend so will have to wait a little longer. THEN, I hopped on here and now I actually feel a little better. So very funny on the timing!
Absolutely!! Over in Broken Arrow!! Feel the pain of Oklahoma highs and lows. Broken hearted over freeze deaths! But like you delighted to see pollinators on my newly planted salvia! Thank you inspiring teachings!!
Gosh this is why strength training is So Important as we age!!!! “Don’t let your plants bully you” says Linda. I say -Don’t let weakness bully you either!!! Gardening is such a pleasure that it would be awful to lose it!!! If you work to maintain strength you won’t have to quit doing something you love!!!
I feel your frustration. I have a list of my own frustrations. The critter pressure is probably my #1, followed by the weather. We had a mild winter in southeastern NC with less rain than normal. The daffodils have not put on much of a show. I fear this summer is going to be really hot. I have quit trying to plan what to plant. I base my plant choices on what I can find at the local nursery and the box stores. I plant what I can find. Sometimes I do order some things. One of my favorite gardening books is "The Layered Garden" by David L. Culp. I love this quote. "It is good advice, in the garden and beyond, to love what loves us back. and not to covet what loves the gardens of others."
I find many times,it so much cheaper, to use larger hanging baskets , 4/ pack or 6 / pack,that are becoming more rare to find each year in our nurseries. Using the hanging baskets are a great choice to break up.
I feel your frustration but my frustration is much different here in Ontario, Canada. Our temps are still pretty chilly most days, way too much rain and wind and thunder and lightning ⛈ storms. It looks like you are a whole month ahead of us. My perennials are just poking through the dirt right now. My tulip buds and grape hyacinths haven't even opened up yet. The bunnies have half of them chewed up. I can't even get out in my garden yet, and the big box garden centers are not even open yet. And on top of all that we might still get some snow next week 🤦🏼♀️😪. The grass is always greener and your beautiful garden looks very green and beautiful from this side of the fence 😂😅❤
Thanks for keeping it real and relatable! The weather is a big challenge! I try to watch the weather for the week and plan my gardening/yard work.☀️🌦️💨🍃 Love the gift planters you created!!💚🌿
My garden frustration is actually my lawn. We can’t consistently get grass to grow on 3 acres to save our lives. It’s just a money pit having to reseed and then water water water! Grrrr. I have been taking parts of the lawn and making flower beds. Maybe one day the grass will disappear and it will all be flowers!😂
Look into doing a meadow conversion in part of your lawn. Once the native wildflowers are established, they pretty much only need to be mowed once a year in the fall. you can simply let the lawn grow and add new plants as you weed out invasives, or use cardboard or black plastic to kill the grass and start the meadow from scratch. You will never have to mow weekly or water again.
I’m right along with you today. Living in KS zone 6a our weather is ridiculous up and down, drought with crazy winds. I really feel like Oklahoma, Texas, Missouri & KS just have the extreme of the extreme being in the middle of so many different climates. It’s been so windy and now hotter than heck. But then dropping back into the upper 30s end of this week so all my annuals have to come inside at night. Your garden is so beautiful but I totally understand how we have things that didn’t work as we thought. I keep having to redo my mailbox garden and moving plants around. Also, so many things struggling or dying from no rain in almost 4 months. That may be my biggest frustration is no rain, I feel it. Thanks for sharing this cuz I think so many of us are going through so many crazies in the garden right now. In the end the beauty that is looking good definitely is worth it all. 😊❤
This might be my favorite video of yours! I certainly can identify with all your frustrations. Mine is just not doing enough weeding or seed starting or planting etc. And yes only God is perfect . I am heading back to the garden and do some weeding! PS your gardens are gorgeous.
I totally relate! I have a girls' lunch in August and they love the garden and my sister says " I know what you are going to say - you should have been here last month!" This year I'll so it in July! Also, not being able to move heavy things just kills me. It is frustration to the extreme! Guys are so lucky!!! I try and can usually accomplish more than I thought. I figure out a way - brains over brawn!🤓
Sometimes life interferes with gardening. We had to fly from SC toTX for a family medical emergency. I hurriedly planted hellebores just out of the box and brought seedlings from under grow lights into the garden under cloches having checked that freezes were not expected. Not everything survived, but family comes first. Surplus mint suggests mint juleps.
Yesterday, I found some of your salvia, which was SO exciting. Then, I spent the better part of the day fighting the wind and the heat to get them planted. Today, there is less wind, but almost 90 degrees. Ugh, I feel your frustration. - KC Metro 💚
Wow! Spot on with the frustrations! Suddenly myself and my better half found ourselves in our late 70’s, wondering where the years went. Hubs having hip problems and just had surgery so not able to be my “heavy lifter” like before! However he is just putting together my Gorilla Cart” from Amazon. An early Mom’s Day gift to lighten my load. So kind and thoughtful! Indeed I am blessed🙏 Loved being able to relate to this great video. Many thanks(Canada Zone 5b)
THANK YOU! I already had a Worx battery and charger so I got the tool only loppers. OMG. Game changer. It only took me 20 minutes to trim up several Trees and my two crepe Myrtle’s. I have some arthritis in my hand and this saved me! PS. I also got a hammock as an early birthday present for myself. Waiting on the stand to be delivered ! Thanks again!
Sunny, windy and 78 here in Ohio right now. Finally got to do some much needed flowerbed cleanup. All the rain we’ve had in the past few weeks made digging new beds oh so easy. Sure does beat trying to dig in concrete soil😂
You said it have to garden with the conditions we have. I would like warmer but I have to go along The weather is the weather really can’t change it. Happy gardening!!!!!
Omg! You described me to the tee! I want that perfect backyard yesterday. Love the idea for plant stands. I have a couple of ferns on stands that get blown over with the strong gulf coast winds. Thank you for sharing your frustration. You’re not alone.
I understand your pain....and today I have a new one: just discovered a baby rabbits nest under my birds nest shrub in the middle of my flower garden!!! Rabbits love flowers and all kinds of greens. I will just have to be patient and hope they will go else where when they grow up. I also think I now need a hammock!!!
Same here Linda! I am about 3 hours from you and we have mornings in the 30s and days in the upper 80s. Tons of wind 😩 Spring is no longer a gradual warm up. However there have been years where it was cold and wet the entire spring!
Good for you on focusing on the positive! It's easy to get frustrated, but taking each day one day at a time & focusing on the positive is the best way to go. It has been unusually windy here in the Upstate of SC & hotter than usual. Having to water so early on in the season is not fun. Your garden is looking beautiful!
I live in a suburb of Buffalo , NY. this year so wet & cold. Seriously, only about 3 really nice sunny days!! Our summers are wonderful. We have a lot of garden walks in the area which are wonderful!
I became frustrated when I bought that Blubala non kink hose which came with the nozzle; the hose is great but that nozzle! I had turned it on and omg! Squirting water everywhere from all the crevices. So of course I had to go run out and get one of those fire type hose nozzles. And now it's perfect. And I totally get what you're saying about the plants on your list. I did get some of them especially the ones that you recommended like the ligustrum and the better boxwoods, but I'm having problems trying to find other perennials on my list. I guess I'll keep trying. I DID have to online order quite a few plants which I was happy with. I do that same thing with thinking that if it isn't perfect, then it's nothing. But I'm getting over that. It is what it is.
My big frustration is deer eating my roses, lilies, azaleas, rhododendrons etc. I tried all the sprays, can't afford a fence and I live next to a state forest...any ideas? Linda your garden is beautiful, I enjoy seeing it every week!
Your potting area is so practical, yet the pretty-potted dusty Miller makes it a beautiful statement! Are any of us surprised at the blending of practical and beauty? Nope! Thanks for your ideas, Linda!
All your frustrations resonated with me. Like you say, the best solution is to take a break - and drink the drink of your choice - in my case it is a cup of tea. Even more annoying than lousy weather is when it is a perfect day, and for one reason or another you cannot be outside. It feels like such a wast of nature gift! Love your hammock. It is perfect for your outdoor living room. Kudos!
Being a gardener is definitely about adapting to the rollercoaster of weather and circumstances of life. I am where you were last year. I moved to a new build in December 23’. Having left a home of 30+ years with mature trees and landscape, only to have no soil or any type of planting places, as of yet, has been a punch to my gardening spirit. We built into a hill and require more infrastructure, ie a retaining wall (going in this week) before reshaping the landscape, adding soil, seed and plantings. I’ve stayed positive by babying my houseplants and seed starts to prepare for planting. I’ve also been focusing on all of my plant/tree/shrubs selections and dreaming of how it will all come together just fine with patience. Thank you for sharing the ups and downs, Linda. Keeping it real truly helps your fellow gardeners. ❤
I definitely can understand your garden frustrations. I have plenty of my own. I live in Texas ! Extreme heat ,extreme cold, tornado warnings and watches and worse of all is my silly constant act of comparing my 8 month old garden not living up to my mature previous 20 year old garden, which was in a completely different consistent and mild (almost boring)growing environment. I jut need to snap out of it and learn what this new garden needs and wants.❤😂
We have to plant our fruit trees, just like the edible garden, within the high garden fencing to protect them from the deer and elk. The realities of beautiful Northern Idaho. Accepting the realities we can have a little less frustration.
We hired someone to grade and install hardscaping, and they created a huge drainage issue for my back garden. For three weeks, we’ve been digging out, leveling, and repairing, and with deluges of rain, slopped around in a lot of mud. So for sure, this new garden is toughening me up! OKC gardening is challenging but the beauty is worth the pain. Thank you for being open and resilient!
Oh Linda I can soooo relate to not wanting to wait and lifting many things that I shouldn't be doing at 74. But I can get impatient when I get an idea and want it done.
Great list of frustrations most gardeners have experienced. Have always enjoyed gardening as a form of meditation. As I have gotten older have learned that each year adjustments need to be made. Trying to maintain my “Zen” spirit when common tasks become more difficult. Gardens are never finished! Plant a tree for future generations to enjoy.🌳
I thank God for my gardening and indoor plants and design, after working for the government for 30 years, raising boys as a single parent, and working 56 hours a week, I can say that I love this and am grateful that God has given us this glorious beauty.
Oh how I hear your pain. I am in Zone 5 in Ontario Canada and we are having crazy rain. We expect this in April but in the interim I am moving my garden boxes and prepping the soil. This is the deep breathing season where I want to get started but have to wait until late May. I have made the mistake of trying to get early but have had to replant so patience is key at this time of year. So I am concentrating on the moving of my boxes, top dressing, purchasing cloches and seeds etc. My greatest pain for me at this point is I may have planted my seeds under the light tooo early. So frustrating. btw, I bought the same hose and it is wonderful.
Love the new Hammock! Just an added surprise to the beautiful backyard. Sending hugs, love, prayers, kindness, and a daily dose of encouragement. ♥️🙏🏼🌹🦋👍🏼
Thank you for sharing your frustrations. I feel those same frustrations, and I thought your yard was perfect. I wish I had just some of your energy. I'm 71 and have back problems, so I really get aggravated that I can not do what I once could do. I love your videos 😊.
Thanks so much for recommending the hose Linda ❤ I'm 68 with arthritis and dang, the hoses I had were awful!! Then I went on Amazon per your recommendation and I am so happy with this hose!!! It is everything you say it is!!! Thank you!!
@@kevinnadeau2764 The one she showed today. It's aluminum I think. And like she said... lightweight and does not kink!! She has it listed on her Amazon page.
Believe me I know your frustration! I started gardening when I was 70. It gave me such joy I never thought possible. I was the girl you all knew who would never sweat or get her hands in dirt. Lol, lol, so never say never!! My first year was going well then came the pain. #1 Had serious back problems, the weather started changing. 2 years in a roe my plants froze even some covered. 11 degrees in Texa🎉s, no way!!!! But it was true. Then I had h6 surgeries in one 12 month period. L
I agree with you. I live in the South and the weather is one of the most challenging aspects of gardening. This past summer was windy and terrible hot.
My top frustration here in Colorado is the madding unpredictable spring weather. Last year after all the dang hail several times, it snowed mid May. I'm not talking in the mountains, it was the front range area. If your plants aren't ripped apart by the hail then they are frozen and smashed by the snow. Covering and uncovering is so much work. 😬
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I replaced all of my hoses with the ones you recommended and I am thrilled with them. No kinking and no struggling and no dirty hands from trying to move them around.
I'm so glad you had this video. I torture myself constantly with not having my garden as perfect as yours.!!!!! Lol.! Thanks for bringing this to light...... We all do our best and that is all we can do...
Linda dont be a slave to symmetry! Sometimes being 'sisters' is just as nice as being 'twins' ! 🌷🌼
Stewart is great and his laugh always makes me laugh. 😊
I so enjoy your relaxed , truthful attitude!
😊😊Thank you Linda for being genuine and real !
Also remember when you are starting from scratch, it can take years to get the bones/structure plants established!! Drought/dry springs don’t help. Taken me 6 yrs to get the right shrubs/right place to thrive. More losses than wins but it is starting to look good finally! 😂
The only thing that frustrates me is when I want heavy things moved. I want them moved yesterday and I can’t get them done. I purchased a two wheel dolly from Amazon which only cost 30 something dollars and I move planters buckets grow bags statues anything without anybody’s help. I think that was my best purchase ever in my backyard.
I have a hand truck which I like better than the dolly bc it’s easier to get things on and off. 😊
Thank you Linda.... you look great non-makeup and yes this was a terrific video.
Garden Frustrations in suburban Connecticut--our property backs up to a wooded area: 117-year old tree comes down taking out two mature red maples, an iron bird feeder, and a patio-shading Japanese maple raised over twenty years. Black bear who took out wrought iron bird feeder and hummingbird feeder while I was watching her do it. Deer who have systematically grown in population so that they ate all my well-established hostas, hydrangeas, day lilies, roses, rhododendron, ivy, etc.
Rabbits who ate my Autumn Joy sedums and Echinacea (one also gave birth under a prized ornamental grass that she and her mate dug up--while we were watching). Chipmunks who tunneled under my new pavers, removing sand as they dug, making the path have to be replaced. (We gently relocated 23 chipmunks that year.) Wild Turkeys who ate my patio pots of red coleus. Leaf miners that infected 18 boxwoods. Paying $20,000 plus over 30 years for tree removal: Ash tree borers, the new Beech tree Bark disease (just last year), microbursts, hurricanes, fungus infestations, etc. Squirrels!. Fox who ate squirrels in front of us. Linda, the list goes on. I now have a lot of big statement rocks, wrought iron benches, and large obelisks instead of plants. I'm 78 and have waved the white flag.
You must have the patience of Job!😳🙏
@@elisbethfinos6162 Soon I'll have to build an Ark or open a Wildlife Reserve.🐻🦃🐾🐿🐇🦊
Hey Linda! Well, this video of frustrations could not have come on a better day when I was feeling the same way. We removed an in ground pool last year after forty years and my entire "pool garden" was gone except for a few perennials that my hubby helped me dig up and repot. He will be 71 and I'm 72 and while he and my son were working so hard today to create me a flower garden area, I just broke down in tears. I realized that I was expecting too much for our age, that I most likely won't see a lot of it come to maturity, etc. I'm feeling better, (even though I woke up and can not get back to sleep) I adjusted my thinking on the size of it to make it more manageable and realistic and the LOVE they were putting in to it I believe is truly what made me so emotional. Aging sucks, especially when you love to garden but everything will work out in the end. It's not as if we didn't just make a beautiful veggie garden (completely grown from seed) that will balance my new and practical flower garden. Feeling blessed. Take care.
You don't stop gardening when you get old, you get old when you stop gardening 🤛💚 (not my saying)
@@adevuyst1 Yes, I love this! Gotta remember.
I hear you though I’m not there yet. But I saw it with my mom. The best thing for her was bringing her to public gardens and letting her break off small parts on plants and sticking them in Her garden. She was an avid gardener having been raised on a farm in Ireland. By golly those cuttings grew! It wasn’t much a branch here or there. But it was a spirit lifter. 🥰🌷🌸🌞
@@youbetcha108 So sorry for your loss and thank you for such an uplifting story about your Mom...I bet her gardens were beautiful.
Gardening is not for the faint of heart! Keep on “ keeping on “!! You have a wonderful garden and
are a true Garden Warrior! I am impatient too and want it done now 😊
I’m 64 and have arthritis in my back. I’m stubborn and want to do things on my own. I’ve learned I need to accept my limitations!
So many blessings 🙌 no room for complaints
God's peace
Yea! U got a root slayer shovel. The best shovel ever.
Love my root slayer!
You've been working on your garden for a year and I've been working on mine for 25. You're ahead of me! ( I had to reinvent too) most folks can only dream of that beautiful space you're working on! We all love it. Patience tends to help us create something better than what we first thought as our ideas grow!! Enjoy🎉😊
Feel your pain ? Linda for 31 years I’ve lived on this sand hill in South West / central Kansas. Tumbleweeds ,thistles and pig weeds. Gurrrrl! This is why I run to watch you and your never ending encouragement. Maybe our age has us feeling impatient?
I feel u. Today I got my81 year old self out in the garden here in Ct. it was a high 50 and sunny. Fifteen minutes later it was raining. We have been having so much rain. Your garden is so much more mature than ours in the north east. Thanks for all your time and sharing your experiences
I’m in CT also. I never would have imagined Oklahoma would be so much warmer. I am 80 years old too and I was raking and clean the yard today (Sunday). I was also caught in the rain. 😂
Send your rain to MO😊
Need more ideas on watering
@@judymarshall2573 we are getting desperate.
Oh, Linda, you really hit it when you mentioned the things that we used to be able to pick up and carry around in the yard and now they have become too heavy! That is not only true outside. It is also true inside. Like you I have very little patience. I want things done when I want them done. My mother said something wise to me a very long time ago. She said Suzanne you will get to the age that it will be important to have friends who are a good bit younger. I am now 75 and yes I do have some friends who are in their 40s and 50s. I can’t believe 50 is younger, good heavens thank you for the touch of reality. It definitely applies to us all bless you my friend.
Linda, Linda, Linda!!! Your garden is beautiful, I understand your frustrations, I think it's all a part of being a gardener, we all do it, I know no matter how hard I work in the garden, I am never satisfied, there is always something else I think needs to be done, or done better - there is just no relaxing! Take a deep breath, go make another mimosa, go sit for a minute...just try! Just know you are not alone ! Have a good day 😊 ❤
I feel your pain! Gardening is a “Beauty and the Beast” type of relationship!
I love the pots you bought for Leah. I’m sure she was overjoyed. I use coffee filters in the bottom of my pots to keep the soil from falling through. I have 2 large pots of mint…spearmint and peppermint. In the spring I remove them from the pots and vigorously prune the roots. Stewart may want to try that to help control his mint. I just put them on their side and tug…or cut around the edge to get them out and hack off about two thirds of the roots. The growth is stronger and fuller. 🥰🦋🕊
I feel your pain. I put so much time and effort and some plants just don't work for me. I decided to be thankful for the success I do have!
Better to air your frustration and in doing so,as you have so skillfully demonstrated, figure out how to solve the problem, creating a happy solution. Thank you so much. You make it look so easy.
Here in Flanders it has been very wet for weeks on end and I battle an invasion of slugs. I tried every method under the sun (even Nematodes), but still remove by hand at least 200 every evening (with a headlight on). They ate half of my daffodils and tulips and are now on to my alliumleaves and Echinacealeaves etc...🤢Well, at least I get my squats in at night and discover little seedlings of plants to come! And the joy still outweighs the inconveniences! 💚
Oh I soooo relate to this today!!!! Every year we get a warm few days that just takes the life out of my tulips and spring blooming trees!!!:(((
My gardening frustration is that I can’t get into my zone 3 garden yet! 😏. Yes please to a visit to Leah’s little garden spot! 👏🇨🇦👏
I can so relate to your frustration, Linda!! Not only regarding your weather conditions, but about a problem you guys in the US luckily don't have to deal with: It's the box tree moth. It has destroyed lots of parks & gardens starting back like probably 10 years ago in Europe. Nobody knew in the beginning what it actually was. Later gardeners found out about these moths which have been invaded from China. It's a huge problem as they have no natural enemies. They breed in three stages & their caterpillars can eat up a whole plant within a few days. Since I have lots of boxwood hedges, balls & cones in my garden, it takes me forever to cut out the caterpillars & their nests every single year. Most people have thrown out all of their boxwood in Europe because it's so hard to fight these moths. It's incredibly nerve wracking & exhausting, because there's no way to ever get rid of them. I thought about pulling out all of my boxwood, but I can't let go of it just yet. So, I too keep complaining year in, year out...😅😉
Love your channel, Linda...thank you for cheering us up with your instructive & heartwarming content!! ❤
Linda, you're talking about life itself. We all need to ve patient, and yes, venting is always a great thing to do. Your garden is beautiful always. Love your videos too.
The WIND this spring!! Oh my goodness. Strange weather, cold then warm. Being alone I want things done yesterday but I'm learning to have patience now. Your garden is beautiful!
Instead of burying my plant stands, I used landscape staples to secure them to the ground. After watering the ground a few times they glued themselves in very well, and I can hardly get them out now. Very stable.
My most aggravating frustration this Spring has been the roses. All my potted roses had vivid green canes going into Spring, then all of the sudden several of them just turned brown and died for no apparent reasons. Those things are expensive!
Perfectly imperfect
🌿💗 I’m 2 frustrations in and had to comment….I understand exactly how you feel. I get this way every now and then and really have to be intentional with the concept of GRATITUDE as it took me decades to truly understand this concept (as smart and enlightened as I think I am…🤣…) To get me there, I lament, “Well, things could be way worse” and that gets me to feeling grateful for what I have or have accomplished in the moment. I so appreciate your sharing your feelings and frustrations with your viewers. That has been the glue that keeps us all together--your honesty and vulnerability. 🤣💗🌿
Yes! I can relate to your frustration! Gardening is the only hobby I know that needs such a balance of expectation, planning, and letting go of expectations on this scale. Hopefully it's making me a better person?! LOL
I am feeling your frustrations Linda. Gardening in Oklahoma is not for the faint of heart! I am also at that point of life that i cannot physically do the work in my garden that I could just a few years ago. I am always looking for solutions and alternatives. I love your show and you.
Oh, definitely, feel your pain and frustrations. My main one is dealing with deer and rabbits. Spraying helps somewhat but am gradually replacing with deer and rabbit resistant plants and netting. We have been getting heavy rains (7b DC/Md) which has caused erosion and wet areas. Am using river stones and putting in rain garden native plants in those areas. Love the hammock.
I sure can relate to your frustrations. It’s actually the same here in Kansas!!!🙏💜🙏
Frustrated with deer 🦌. Ate 10 rose buds, hostas, and chewed the strawberry plants to numbs. Also, can I mention age! Everything takes 3 times longer at 72! But I won't give up my garden. I'm thankful that at least someone else cuts the grass, especially in the heat of Florida.
I feel you….70 yo here in coastal NC and I am also slower.
Yes slower at 70, but have had a broken ankle for 6 weeks. At least it’s autumn here, not spring
Great hammock. Hubs will NEVER get better
I feel your pain, Linda! We face very similar conditions here in southeast Nebraska, zone 5b though with the extremes I have to plant for our sometimes arctic winters and brutal summers... in our third year of drought and I often feel SO discouraged and unsure of whether I can keep anything going if we don't have a break soon. But your videos are very helpful as you are the only gardener I follow who faces conditions as harsh and sometimes more harsh than mine! I love the cottage garden style so the way you've adapted it to the plains is so helpful to me and lots of others. Thank you and thanks for the honest video ❤
This post was spot on for me today. It was 85 degrees, (a little north of you), wind blowing, everything trying to dry out and I couldn't get anything done. I too, couldn't move the things I wanted to get placed and hysterically, I had an ongoing battle with my garden hose...all day long. I was near tears. I am in the earlier stages of planning my beds and plantings and frustrated that weather is predicted to be in the 30s next weekend so will have to wait a little longer. THEN, I hopped on here and now I actually feel a little better. So very funny on the timing!
The bain of my gardening existence-weeds.
Absolutely!! Over in Broken Arrow!! Feel the pain of Oklahoma highs and lows. Broken hearted over freeze deaths! But like you delighted to see pollinators on my newly planted salvia! Thank you inspiring teachings!!
And just like that ,Poof ,your Beautiful Tulips are GONE 😞 On with the Summer garden now .
Gosh this is why strength training is So Important as we age!!!! “Don’t let your plants bully you” says Linda. I say -Don’t let weakness bully you either!!! Gardening is such a pleasure that it would be awful to lose it!!! If you work to maintain strength you won’t have to quit doing something you love!!!
I feel your frustration. I have a list of my own frustrations. The critter pressure is probably my #1, followed by the weather. We had a mild winter in southeastern NC with less rain than normal. The daffodils have not put on much of a show. I fear this summer is going to be really hot.
I have quit trying to plan what to plant. I base my plant choices on what I can find at the local nursery and the box stores. I plant what I can find. Sometimes I do order some things.
One of my favorite gardening books is "The Layered Garden" by David L. Culp. I love this quote. "It is good advice, in the garden and beyond, to love what loves us back. and not to covet what loves the gardens of others."
I find many times,it so much cheaper, to use larger hanging baskets , 4/ pack or 6 / pack,that are becoming more rare to find each year in our nurseries. Using the hanging baskets are a great choice to break up.
I feel your frustration but my frustration is much different here in Ontario, Canada. Our temps are still pretty chilly most days, way too much rain and wind and thunder and lightning ⛈ storms. It looks like you are a whole month ahead of us. My perennials are just poking through the dirt right now. My tulip buds and grape hyacinths haven't even opened up yet. The bunnies have half of them chewed up. I can't even get out in my garden yet, and the big box garden centers are not even open yet. And on top of all that we might still get some snow next week 🤦🏼♀️😪. The grass is always greener and your beautiful garden looks very green and beautiful from this side of the fence 😂😅❤
Thanks for keeping it real and relatable! The weather is a big challenge! I try to watch the weather for the week and plan my gardening/yard work.☀️🌦️💨🍃 Love the gift planters you created!!💚🌿
My garden frustration is actually my lawn. We can’t consistently get grass to grow on 3 acres to save our lives. It’s just a money pit having to reseed and then water water water! Grrrr. I have been taking parts of the lawn and making flower beds. Maybe one day the grass will disappear and it will all be flowers!😂
Look into doing a meadow conversion in part of your lawn. Once the native wildflowers are established, they pretty much only need to be mowed once a year in the fall. you can simply let the lawn grow and add new plants as you weed out invasives, or use cardboard or black plastic to kill the grass and start the meadow from scratch. You will never have to mow weekly or water again.
I’m right along with you today. Living in KS zone 6a our weather is ridiculous up and down, drought with crazy winds. I really feel like Oklahoma, Texas, Missouri & KS just have the extreme of the extreme being in the middle of so many different climates. It’s been so windy and now hotter than heck. But then dropping back into the upper 30s end of this week so all my annuals have to come inside at night. Your garden is so beautiful but I totally understand how we have things that didn’t work as we thought. I keep having to redo my mailbox garden and moving plants around. Also, so many things struggling or dying from no rain in almost 4 months. That may be my biggest frustration is no rain, I feel it. Thanks for sharing this cuz I think so many of us are going through so many crazies in the garden right now. In the end the beauty that is looking good definitely is worth it all. 😊❤
This might be my favorite video of yours! I certainly can identify with all your frustrations. Mine is just not doing enough weeding or seed starting or planting etc. And yes only God is perfect . I am heading back to the garden and do some weeding! PS your gardens are gorgeous.
Linda, I just adore you!!!! 😂😂😂
I totally relate! I have a girls' lunch in August and they love the garden and my sister says " I know what you are going to say - you should have been here last month!" This year I'll so it in July! Also, not being able to move heavy things just kills me. It is frustration to the extreme! Guys are so lucky!!! I try and can usually accomplish more than I thought. I figure out a way - brains over brawn!🤓
Sometimes life interferes with gardening. We had to fly from SC toTX for a family medical emergency. I hurriedly planted hellebores just out of the box and brought seedlings from under grow lights into the garden under cloches having checked that freezes were not expected. Not everything survived, but family comes first.
Surplus mint suggests mint juleps.
Yesterday, I found some of your salvia, which was SO exciting. Then, I spent the better part of the day fighting the wind and the heat to get them planted. Today, there is less wind, but almost 90 degrees. Ugh, I feel your frustration. - KC Metro 💚
Oh, can I ask where you found it in KC please??
Thank you Linda, I love being real. My gardening self understands! I understand the lack of patience. It’s very difficult to wait for someone else.
Sometimes it is the anticipation that your garden will mature that is the fun part. I love watching your garden grow.
Wow! Spot on with the frustrations! Suddenly myself and my better half found ourselves in our late 70’s, wondering where the years went. Hubs having hip problems and just had surgery so not able to be my “heavy lifter” like before! However he is just putting together my Gorilla Cart” from Amazon. An early Mom’s Day gift to lighten my load. So kind and thoughtful! Indeed I am blessed🙏 Loved being able to relate to this great video. Many thanks(Canada Zone 5b)
THANK YOU! I already had a Worx battery and charger so I got the tool only loppers. OMG. Game changer. It only took me 20 minutes to trim up several
Trees and my two crepe Myrtle’s. I have some arthritis in my hand and this saved me! PS. I also got a hammock as an early birthday present for myself. Waiting on the stand to be delivered ! Thanks again!
The candle drink is funny. 0:17
Linda, I relate sooooo much with you on this ... Thank you for sharing
Your garden looks perfect to me!
Sunny, windy and 78 here in Ohio right now. Finally got to do some much needed flowerbed cleanup. All the rain we’ve had in the past few weeks made digging new beds oh so easy. Sure does beat trying to dig in concrete soil😂
Same here in Indiana. Clay soil. But lots of Pete Moss, compost, and such has made my beds pretty good.
You said it have to garden with the conditions we have. I would like warmer but I have to go along The weather is the weather really can’t change it. Happy gardening!!!!!
Nothing’s perfect in life
Omg! You described me to the tee! I want that perfect backyard yesterday. Love the idea for plant stands. I have a couple of ferns on stands that get blown over with the strong gulf coast winds. Thank you for sharing your frustration. You’re not alone.
I understand your pain....and today I have a new one: just discovered a baby rabbits nest under my birds nest shrub in the middle of my flower garden!!! Rabbits love flowers and all kinds of greens. I will just have to be patient and hope they will go else where when they grow up. I also think I now need a hammock!!!
Same here Linda! I am
about 3 hours from you and we have mornings in the 30s and days in the upper 80s. Tons of wind 😩 Spring is no longer a gradual warm up. However there have been years where it was cold and wet the entire spring!
It's too early to garden where I am, so I'm applying your sage advice to my life in general. Cheers!
Linda thank you for the info on the garden hose. I purchased 2 for my yard last week and they are literally life changing! 😂😂😂
Good for you on focusing on the positive! It's easy to get frustrated, but taking each day one day at a time & focusing on the positive is the best way to go. It has been unusually windy here in the Upstate of SC & hotter than usual. Having to water so early on in the season is not fun. Your garden is looking beautiful!
Oh heck yeah! We definitely feel your pain. I broke my wrist a few weeks ago which held me back from doing different gardening chores.
I love your potting soil bucket. I have a bucket we used for ashes from our fireplace. Recycle!
I live in a suburb of Buffalo , NY. this year so wet & cold. Seriously, only about 3 really nice sunny days!! Our summers are wonderful. We have a lot of garden walks in the area which are wonderful!
I do feel your pain. Right now we are playing the "is it dead" game at my garden. LOL.
I became frustrated when I bought that Blubala non kink hose which came with the nozzle; the hose is great but that nozzle! I had turned it on and omg! Squirting water everywhere from all the crevices. So of course I had to go run out and get one of those fire type hose nozzles. And now it's perfect. And I totally get what you're saying about the plants on your list. I did get some of them especially the ones that you recommended like the ligustrum and the better boxwoods, but I'm having problems trying to find other perennials on my list. I guess I'll keep trying. I DID have to online order quite a few plants which I was happy with. I do that same thing with thinking that if it isn't perfect, then it's nothing. But I'm getting over that. It is what it is.
Always happy to see your video. Thanks Linda
Yes, I can relate completely. CT can have extremes all in the same day 😊
Hi, Linda. Thank you for your video. ❤ Happy the week.
I look forward to the balcony styling
My big frustration is deer eating my roses, lilies, azaleas, rhododendrons etc. I tried all the sprays, can't afford a fence and I live next to a state forest...any ideas? Linda your garden is beautiful, I enjoy seeing it every week!
Love the hammock pillow❤
Your potting area is so practical, yet the pretty-potted dusty Miller makes it a beautiful statement! Are any of us surprised at the blending of practical and beauty? Nope! Thanks for your ideas, Linda!
All your frustrations resonated with me. Like you say, the best solution is to take a break - and drink the drink of your choice - in my case it is a cup of tea. Even more annoying than lousy weather is when it is a perfect day, and for one reason or another you cannot be outside. It feels like such a wast of nature gift! Love your hammock. It is perfect for your outdoor living room. Kudos!
Being a gardener is definitely about adapting to the rollercoaster of weather and circumstances of life. I am where you were last year. I moved to a new build in December 23’. Having left a home of 30+ years with mature trees and landscape, only to have no soil or any type of planting places, as of yet, has been a punch to my gardening spirit. We built into a hill and require more infrastructure, ie a retaining wall (going in this week) before reshaping the landscape, adding soil, seed and plantings. I’ve stayed positive by babying my houseplants and seed starts to prepare for planting. I’ve also been focusing on all of my plant/tree/shrubs selections and dreaming of how it will all come together just fine with patience. Thank you for sharing the ups and downs, Linda. Keeping it real truly helps your fellow gardeners. ❤
I definitely can understand your garden frustrations. I have plenty of my own.
I live in Texas !
Extreme heat ,extreme cold, tornado warnings and watches and worse of all is my silly constant act of comparing my 8 month old garden not living
up to my mature previous 20 year old garden, which was in a completely different consistent and mild (almost boring)growing environment.
I jut need to snap out of it and learn what this new garden needs and wants.❤😂
I feel your pain,in Ga. I am continually trying to protect my plants and peach tree from deer and squirrels.
We have to plant our fruit trees, just like the edible garden, within the high garden fencing to protect them from the deer and elk. The realities of beautiful Northern Idaho. Accepting the realities we can have a little less frustration.
We hired someone to grade and install hardscaping, and they created a huge drainage issue for my back garden. For three weeks, we’ve been digging out, leveling, and repairing, and with deluges of rain, slopped around in a lot of mud. So for sure, this new garden is toughening me up! OKC gardening is challenging but the beauty is worth the pain. Thank you for being open and resilient!
Oooh good idea! I have those same plant stands...I will bury mine too! Thanks Linda for that little tweak.
Oh Linda I can soooo relate to not wanting to wait and lifting many things that I shouldn't be doing at 74. But I can get impatient when I get an idea and want it done.
Great list of frustrations most gardeners have experienced. Have always enjoyed gardening as a form of meditation. As I have gotten older have learned that each year adjustments need to be made. Trying to maintain my “Zen” spirit when common tasks become more difficult. Gardens are never finished! Plant a tree for future generations to enjoy.🌳
I thank God for my gardening and indoor plants and design, after working for the government for 30 years, raising boys as a single parent, and working 56 hours a week, I can say that I love this and am grateful that God has given us this glorious beauty.
Mark Twain said “Every body complains about the weather but no one does anything “.
Oh how I hear your pain. I am in Zone 5 in Ontario Canada and we are having crazy rain. We expect this in April but in the interim I am moving my garden boxes and prepping the soil. This is the deep breathing season where I want to get started but have to wait until late May. I have made the mistake of trying to get early but have had to replant so patience is key at this time of year. So I am concentrating on the moving of my boxes, top dressing, purchasing cloches and seeds etc. My greatest pain for me at this point is I may have planted my seeds under the light tooo early. So frustrating. btw, I bought the same hose and it is wonderful.
Love the new Hammock! Just an added surprise to the beautiful backyard. Sending hugs, love, prayers, kindness, and a daily dose of encouragement. ♥️🙏🏼🌹🦋👍🏼
I think we are all frustrated in the Spring because we've been waiting all winter to get going.
Thank you for sharing your frustrations. I feel those same frustrations, and I thought your yard was perfect. I wish I had just some of your energy. I'm 71 and have back problems, so I really get aggravated that I can not do what I once could do. I love your videos 😊.
Stewart clearly enjoyed this video 😂 Too funny
Thanks so much for recommending the hose Linda ❤ I'm 68 with arthritis and dang, the hoses I had were awful!! Then I went on Amazon per your recommendation and I am so happy with this hose!!! It is everything you say it is!!! Thank you!!
What is the water hose?
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The one she showed today. It's aluminum I think. And like she said... lightweight and does not kink!! She has it listed on her Amazon page.
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Believe me I know your frustration! I started gardening when I was 70. It gave me such joy I never thought possible. I was the girl you all knew who would never sweat or get her hands in dirt. Lol, lol, so never say never!! My first year was going well then came the pain. #1 Had serious back problems, the weather started changing. 2 years in a roe my plants froze even some covered. 11 degrees in Texa🎉s, no way!!!! But it was true. Then I had h6 surgeries in one 12 month period. L
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Oh wow!!! I know how difficult it can be but the satisfaction keeps me going!! Hope you are doing well!
I agree with you. I live in the South and the weather is one of the most challenging aspects of gardening. This past summer was windy and terrible hot.
My top frustration here in Colorado is the madding unpredictable spring weather. Last year after all the dang hail several times, it snowed mid May. I'm not talking in the mountains, it was the front range area. If your plants aren't ripped apart by the hail then they are frozen and smashed by the snow. Covering and uncovering is so much work. 😬
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I replaced all of my hoses with the ones you recommended and I am thrilled with them. No kinking and no struggling and no dirty hands from trying to move them around.
I'm so glad you had this video. I torture myself constantly with not having my garden as perfect as yours.!!!!! Lol.! Thanks for bringing this to light...... We all do our best and that is all we can do...