I went through a depression and didn’t clean anything including dishes in my house for six months. I am so happy that I have recovered and have a clean and organized house now and have no problems cleaning. I understand these people a little and have sympathy for them.
@@Burlykim13 I think you should read her comment properly. She is saying she has understanding and sympathy because of what she went through, so your response doesn't make sense.
Right? I love the show Hoarders, but I hate how inhumanely the process is done. Usually the situations are more dire in that show (like the tenant is getting evicted or needs to rent out a room for money), but they truly don't give them the support they deserve during the process. It's just a traumatic 3 day cleanup instead of a therapeutic process like it needs to be.
@@NumeroLetter Agree. Hoarders is a combination of tough love and condescension. It's highly scripted and there has to be a crisis in every episode, one way or another. Within minutes, the hoarder is accused of being uncooperative, with a "there they go again" exasperation on the part of the "expert". One hoarder wanted to keep a single houseplant at the start of a clean-up. This was portrayed as obstinance.
you can tell that stelios is not a faker unlike so many other show hosts who also claim to be therapists. the sheer force he put into holding his tears back when that old lady talked about feeling empty inside after she lost her best friend, THAT, i felt through the screen and almost teared up myself. the way this show is composed is so humane and real, i feel like we miss having those shows nowadays, that actually get to the heart of people. society is getting more and more depressive. it's about time we get to feel our hearts again.
Same! It’s easy to buy too much when I go out shopping… if I just stay home and see what I have I get into a purging mood. Often just cleaning up lifts my spirits.
I wish I had your resolve! I'm getting into restoring Cabbage Patch dolls, and I just bought quite a few online today so I can fix them up and turn them around for a profit. It was kind of an impulse thing!! At least I don't plan on KEEPING them, but they're gonna be in my house until I can repair them and sew them some new clothes. xD Maybe I'll watch some more episodes so I remember that they're not here to stay, lol!!!
@@prayerverse780 I just heard a YT by "Minimal Mom: Decluttering 101." She advocates 15 minutes/day, max (at least to begin with), setting a timer. That sounded appearling to me.
I love this show so much more that US version. They are so kind in this one instead of yelling and threatening like in the US. Kindness goes a long way.
yeah i got burned out from the staged "drama". least with these shows its fairly educational with the physiologist interviews on certain behaviors. the sleep insomnia episode for example.
@@fingerprint5511 and @Denise Carpenter Same feelings about USA versions.I turn on captions and literally write down dialogs, to internalize them, to help my with my own healing process. Abandonment, rejection, neglect. I am afraid to move to another state, to live closer to my daughter. The attachment to things is safer, less threatening for me than relationships with people. This episode is huge help for me.
@@annajaworska3627 hello, I've heard that the urge to try and better our life situations is a part of us all being human. Your search here for understanding (about possessions, relationships, holding on and letting go) seems to show just that. Doreen shows us that we don't have to be perfect - just comfortable in our skins, and accepting of our frailties.
I love that the Stelios asked catalogue lady : “Who took care of you?” I was thrown into an extreme caregiving role for a few years and 1. I saw how many people around me with whom I considered myself very close, never asked how I was doing, but those who did I kept around me moving forward. & 2. That awakening made me treat myself and I hired housekeepers for the first time in my life to keep things in order while caring for others.
He comes across, as very kind and understanding. God bless him and the people that hoard. Ye will be ok. I used to hang on to stuff, I didn't need. It's a great feeling, sending it to charity , to people that need the clothes and ornaments.
Because I can relate strongly to the grief caused by many losses, I thought "So do I" for a second... but then I remembered that I never think nothing worse can happen; I'm expecting worse from around every corner. And the thing is that so far I've been right. Anyway, I'm sorry for whatever it is that you've been through. :(
I've known two hoarders, and they both had VERY grave emotional/mental disturbances (including untreated depression) aside from the hoarding, which I came to see a symptom of what was going on inside their heads. I saw a deterioration in each of them mentally and emotionally, as they were no longer "present" even if you were in the room with them. I saw their personalities starting to fragment as they became more and more hermitlike and hidden in a fortress of their own creation.
@@nomsantsoane3984 I did not know either of these friends were hoarders for at least five years, maybe longer. One of them came to my church just stinking of rotten garbage. You could smell it across the room. Any time the subject of their home came up, there was a sort of panicky "no, we can't have the meeting there, we're repainting the whole house". The strangest one I heard (from the smelly lady) was, "There's too much cat fur around." Her car was also hoarded all the way up to the ceiling of the back seat. One of her favorite comments was, "My home is my castle."
@@nomsantsoane3984 Several times, members of my church tried to help this lady. She broke her ankle and someone "found out" about the hoard by accident when visiting her. Her response was, "I'll clean it up myself," "it doesn't bother me", or "it isn't that bad". Case closed - there was nothing more we could do. My other friend's favorite TV show was HOARDERS! She watched it avidly, knew all the people's names by heart and often referred to them, while her hoard went to the ceiling in the next room. She would often tsk about those poor women and how they refused to accept help and how disturbed their families were. I am not kidding, this is how deep the denial went! At one point she tried to sell her home (without cleaning it up, as she described it as being "in good working order"), and three years later, when they had no offers, people were saying things to her like, "Oh, that's because it's a blue house, and blue houses don't sell very quickly." The entire community had come together, not to help her clean up her house, but to support her in her denial. BTW, her husband was a retired realtor who had been selling homes for more than 20 years. No, I'm not making any of this up! But this is the kind of emotional fortress hoarders can build. "They need therapy and support" can't happen when the denial runs this deep. You have to admit there's a problem and admit you need help, then stop pushing it away.
This video has helped me so much!!!! I am an only child and lost my Dad in 1994 and my Mom in 1996!!!! Letting go of things they touched are my worst fears!!!! My family has been through all the stuff they wanted. Now it's time for me to let other people enjoy the good things we had. I hope this works!!!!
It shows how far these people have come to be able to recognize the warning signs. I think that's the hardest part of any recovery, to be able to look outside yourself objectively and to see the problem for what it is. You address it and move forward.
At the end of this episode, when it was obvious that Doreen's obsession to hoard had not been "cured", I couldn't help but think that a different tack might have worked with her. Her neighbors & she herself talked about her desire to connect with other people. But Doreen blocked the two decluttering ladies, firmly holding on to things that were of no use to her. It seems that with a person like Doreen, presenting her with true individual cases of people in need -- a family which suffered a housefire or a woman forced to flee an abusive husband, for instance -- would have been a way of touching her heart in a way that the phrase "give to charity" did not.
GOD bless catalog lady asking her neighbour for help. That almost made me cry. My youngest left home just this year after losing so many to Covid. I'm watching these so I don't get in that rut.
From her hair and clothing to her collections, home decor, and food choices, Alison strikes me as someone who is stuck in her teens. I hope she can take advantage of the psychological help Stelios offered her.
In the first episode Allison was in a much worse place emotionally. She did also appear to be on the spectrum. In this episode while she is struggling she seems more emotionally in tune with her feelings and just in a better overall place. Stelios is such a kind person. Comforting her and letting her know that she is still healing even though she's had setbacks. Everyone deserves a Stelios for guidance and support.
So many of these people that hoard, you can see they are sad and broken inside. They just want a hug and when they get one from Stelios you can see what an effect it has on them. Tina went straight in for that hug cos you could tell she just needed someone 18:45
Nice to see a catch up on the two who were on the show before. One does wonder how they get on, as it is such big changes in a short space of time, following many years of hoarding. It also gives a realistic view of the problems, that it can come back the minute there is stress again.
I think the follow up with the lady with blonde hair was the most successful. She's so sweet. I totally get her vibe. All she really needs in life is some one to give her some quality time and some encouragement cause she really does shine. 🥰
Wonder if any of the ladies ever form an attachment to Stelios? He gives them comfort and hope to solve their problems. Sometimes he seems to be the only one to see the hoards without judgement........
But that's not entirely true. I was married to two different men decades ago, both of whom were hoarders, neither of whom had experienced any sort of trauma at all, NONE. Their parents were alive and healthy in both instances, they had both grown up in wonderful homes, much loved by their parents, and neither of them had lost anyone. You can't make a blanket statement like that and have it be believable, because there are thousands of reasons people hoard, including plain greed and narcissism.
I feel so bad for them. Especially for Doreen.. imagine being old and alone, clinging to your things as memories and keeping your friend’s things because no one else will… I don’t know if I’d have the emotional strength to throw it all out either… I have a similar condition to a hoarder. I’m able to let go and throw stuff out, but I’m in too much pain to keep my house clean and tidy all the time and even when it is clean I think, maybe it’s not as clean as it should be and I’m ashamed of having people over even then… I hope I’ll be able to accept help.
Doreen needs to volunteer at a nursing home, and play games or puzzles with the lonely old people, it would make her feel needed again and refresh her life with new friends
Same here! It must be so difficult to get rid of so many things they feel attached to. I have a doubt that may sound silly: Does hoarding involve disorganization and clutter? I mean, could a collector of, let´s say, videogames be considered a hoarder despite having all the games in perfect order and clean? Thank you!
@@javierbilbao73 collecting can turn into hoarding when it becomes excessive and starts taking up critical space, narrowing hallways, intruding into the kitchen, or taking allll the time to keep dusted.
I feel sorry for Doreen's son God forbid when his Mom passes, her son will have to be the one to tackle his Mom's hoard and get rid of everything in the house. This is what senior hoarders don't see.
Cleaning can be so therapeutic if you let it be. It doesn’t have to be a boring chore. Thinking of it as resetting my house to default settings helps me get stuck into it.
I think Marie Kwando's method of piling all the clothes together in one spot is a great idea. It makes the person realize just how much they have and how ridiculous the amount is!
hoarding is a sickness but, if you can organize the things you hoard and store them in a neat manner, then you become a collector, if you list them on ebay, you became.a reseller
Thank you for sharing, I'm at this moment going through magazines and disposing of them properly, in the trash can. Thanks for the help in the motivation department 👌👍
I don't subscribe to any magazines anymore. Here in the USA they are pricey, loaded with advertising. Where to store them? Even craft (quilting, sewing, needlework ones) are going to 6 issues a year Yet no where to store! So just figured I'd be happy not worrying about getting more projects, etc to deal with, by no longer getting them. 😉
I live in a trailer, we have very limited storage space. My bookshelves in my art area are loaded with books and other items. I don't want to add more to these shelves to keep all easily accessed and neat in appearance.
Excellent that you are doing that but I would just like to gently say that the proper way to dispose of any paper / magazines etc is recycling, not trash. Good luck though and keep it up 😊
The problem which these beautiful people faced may had been or is the fact that all they had been left with was their memories and these items reminded them of what they had lived. Since these objects can be sensed, touched, felt they were the only thing that proved all of their experiences had indeed happened. They wanted to be in the past and relive it through the hoarding.
It's been awhile since I've watched Hoarders but today is one of those days I need to see these shows when I'm feeling less than excited about what I have to get done but when you compare it becomes simply this: I've got this!
Doreen seems like a nice person; it's too bad she didn't see that she'd have honored her friend's memory in a beautiful and generous way by giving those clothes to be sold at lower prices from a charity or thrift store (whatever they're called in the UK). I could see some very decent garments in those mountains of clothes, and I could see where a lot of women would benefit from being able to buy such nice things at a very reasonable price.
My brother died more than 40 years ago in Mozambique during the rRhodesian war. Because of the conflict we could not get his body out and because of the situation we were not even allowed to know where he died and where his body had been entered. In fact because his helicopter had burnt out we did not even know if his body had been entered. It took us more than 35 years before we found out the details and as times had changed we were able to go to the place where we learned that the local people had buried him. Unfortunately my parents never found out before they passed what his fate was and it effected them badly. After we went to the place there were memorial services for him and others that had died in the same military operation but every time it was like a knife being twisted in my gut. The very last memorial service I refused to go to. I felt enough was enough and the money I would spend on the trip I looked on line for a good charity which catered for people who desperately needed help in areas where their lives had been decimated by war and transferred the funds to them. I have finally found peace and I have come to terms with his loss. I believe that when you grieve so much for a person you actually disturb their spirit. They feel the pain and anguish of their loved ones very badly. I was prepared to accept my dear brothers parting but every time I was bombarded with information about where he died and how he died by my family. They did not want to let themselves or anyone else forget him. I made it quite clear to them that I will never forget my brother but that for my sake and his I had to let it go because my time is not yet up and I dont like the constant reminder of his tragic death to cloud my life all the time. By doing this I allowed myself to get closure and I am happy about it. I pray for his soul every day and hope I will see him again but I dont allow grief to govern my life. I too have had bouts of hoarding but I have learned to control the impulse and keep it a minimum. And if anyone needs any of these items I gladly let them go.
Hoarding has to do with trauma but also depression. I've known a few people who were hoarders and that was during a bad depression period. They haven't been hoarders since. These people shop a lot to get a high or hold on to things to have a sense of security. It's a sort of way to fill a void. And they are often inable to clean or get rid things because depression can be so debilitating. The amount of stuff and clutter is overwhelming.
Off topic here but at 19:05 Stelios looks quite stylish! The colour combination he's wearing really suit him! I admire the patience the doctors and organizers have towards hoarders. Many years ago I helped someone with a hoarding disorder and I can't imagine doing this on a regular basis. It was very difficult and so infuriating. On numerous occasions I was on the brink of totally losing it but I kept my cool (by I don't know what kind of miracle). I couldn't do it again even though I understand it's a mental disorder.
Divide a room into a grid and start on that grid, from 1 to however big the room is. Get boxes, packing tape, and a felt tip pen and collect all of the same thing to put in the boxes, like shoes, pants, coats, blouses, paper, on and on and stack the boxes in one cleaned out room until it's full except a path in the middle of the room so you will have a place to walk and keep going until all the rooms are full except the kitchen and the bathroom those two rooms are the forbidden rooms and under no circumstances do those room become cluttered or full of anything ever, that's when you start getting rid of things.
@Asherah 1147 she helped someone. there are different causes, so there would be different approaches. and not everyone who is overwhelmed by their stuff, is dealing with mental illness. many just not know how to start.
The lady hoarding the chocolate, I'd be worried about my waistline & dwindling bank account. Human necessity is a strange thing yet these people need serious help. I think we all suffer from some hoarding behaviour & some are alot worse than others & these people would be much happier in clean environments.
He's been there, she just wouldn't let anyone in. It's not like he's going to knock the door down. And even with all the help, she hung onto almost everything. That's even with the professionals there.
That little old lady was mean ...after all that work and she still wouldn't let go...Miss we all getting older and are gonna die and leave it all....such selfishness
I feel like that's a common impulse (she just takes it to the extreme), to want to grab extra if something is on sale or be more inclined to buy something you didn't plan on because it's the last one.
A good way to reduce collections is to select 10 then choose 1. Continue untill you have say ten left then choose 3 from the final lot. Hide all the rest in boxes if you cant bare to part with them immmediately. After a month see if you can remember whats in the box. Youll realise you havent got a clue. Then get rid of the boxs. Focus on how much good your stuff will doing to the next person. Thinking of it as rehoming as you would a cat or dog.
Same here. I can say I have one friend. I feel safe with her, because in a way she doesn't see me. When we meet, she say: "I like your blouse" or I like the color of your hair" After so many years, I never heard from her : It is nice to see you or something like that.
I really wish I was close to Doreen but I live in America. I'm 57 and I understand that loneliness. It's so deep and sometimes "things" feel like they can replace people. She is so much in my thoughts.
It's so sad. Most of the stuff they throw away. Isn't any good at all. Bugs, damaged, etc. That why they throw out everything. If they try give it away. Most places wouldn't take it. Like Goodwill. That why it is thrown away.
I'm wondering from where do they get this much money to buy these many things? Here in India people are struggling to buy food for their family, especially women are way more concerned about the basic necessities for her kids among the lower classes than the upper class people. And here i see that people spending hundreds of thousands of money for shopping and still in sick mental condition.
I’m sure that women being raised to be independent and work, while quite a bit of women are raised to have children and depend on the man. Also, these things have been accumulated over time and not all at once. Debt is also a common problem.
I once helped an acquaintance on benefits with getting her household in order. As she told me I was the first and only one who helped her. After the house was clean......she sold it and made over 25,000€. Years later she called me again, somehow she bought a new house. It was filled to the roof with trash. Helped her again and you guessed it, she sold it once it was cleaned and made a lot of money with that one. Years later I dit hear I was not the only one helping her. Friends and neighbours were always there to help that parasite.
I can’t believe her son was using excuses for not being in his Mom’s home for fourteen years! I would check on my parents at least three times a week. It makes me really angry.
Doreen needs to find love again! She’s a lovely lady. There must be an older single gentleman out there who’d be glad to have a companion to grow old together. I bet the hoard would be gone and stay gone. But just in case, she can make arrangement for a weekly cleaner and check-up person.
He's a handsome man, too! I'm no "cougar," and I'm old enough to be his mother, but I do appreciate a good-looking man, and those blue, blue eyes are definitely GORGEOUS on a man who is easy on the eyes!
Why are people still ordering from catalogue instead of the internet? I was feeling bad for Doreen, but her insistence on keeping all those bags of clothes annoyed me. She will never look at those bags again, and eventually her son will have to get rid of them and everything else.
From all the shows I’ve watched, it seems like when they r able to remove the whole hoard to another location all at once it seems to get good results.
Clothes don't have to be bought it could be inherited, received as gift or even found on streets when someone takes them out to trash. Flea markets are also cheap which doesn't help the hoarders.. My mom is hoarder so i know some things
Most hoarders are in extreme amount of debt. They don't have the money to buy things, things do go unpaid.... while others will hoard things they spend little to no money on things, as trash is typical for some hoarders. You have to also remember, some of the things they have trouble letting go, are things that they bought or received years ago.
Oh I felt such sympathy for Tina, surely her parents would not like her putting her life on pause to have things that may be of emotional significance but not having purpose today.
Such lovely women with great hearts, it is powerful of them to seek help, show how strong they really are. If people around them was half as strong and kind they would not had ended up in such a situation. Time to be strong for yourself girls, You can do it, I believe in you ❤🌹❤🌹❤🌹🤗
It seems to me that Doreen just wanted someone to tidy the house for her. I could NOT live with all those boxes around me, much less bags and bags of clothes. Obviously I'm the opposite personality to a hoarder. Now if I could just persuede my husband.........
I went through a depression and didn’t clean anything including dishes in my house for six months. I am so happy that I have recovered and have a clean and organized house now and have no problems cleaning. I understand these people a little and have sympathy for them.
Way to go girl!!! So proud of you!!! Big hugs!!!❤❤
@@Burlykim13 I think you should read her comment properly. She is saying she has understanding and sympathy because of what she went through, so your response doesn't make sense.
Indeed
I like how they show a realistic picture of the process where it’s a gradual process that can’t be “fixed” in one week.
Right? I love the show Hoarders, but I hate how inhumanely the process is done. Usually the situations are more dire in that show (like the tenant is getting evicted or needs to rent out a room for money), but they truly don't give them the support they deserve during the process. It's just a traumatic 3 day cleanup instead of a therapeutic process like it needs to be.
@@NumeroLetter Agree. Hoarders is a combination of tough love and condescension. It's highly scripted and there has to be a crisis in every episode, one way or another. Within minutes, the hoarder is accused of being uncooperative, with a "there they go again" exasperation on the part of the "expert". One hoarder wanted to keep a single houseplant at the start of a clean-up. This was portrayed as obstinance.
So much better than the US version that is stupefied and only focuses on drama. Mind you anything is better than US tv.
SO true. Hoarders purposely put unstable people into a panick attack.
💯not giving the impression it gets fixed in a few days of others cleaning your home
you can tell that stelios is not a faker unlike so many other show hosts who also claim to be therapists. the sheer force he put into holding his tears back when that old lady talked about feeling empty inside after she lost her best friend, THAT, i felt through the screen and almost teared up myself. the way this show is composed is so humane and real, i feel like we miss having those shows nowadays, that actually get to the heart of people. society is getting more and more depressive. it's about time we get to feel our hearts again.
So nicely said... You're right about us needing more influences like this.
On days I want to go on a shopping spree, or on days I feel lazy to clean my house, I watch an episode about hoarders.....
Same! It’s easy to buy too much when I go out shopping… if I just stay home and see what I have I get into a purging mood. Often just cleaning up lifts my spirits.
@@lorabetht9206 it takes me forever to get into purging mood. How do you psych yourself for that?
I wish I had your resolve! I'm getting into restoring Cabbage Patch dolls, and I just bought quite a few online today so I can fix them up and turn them around for a profit. It was kind of an impulse thing!! At least I don't plan on KEEPING them, but they're gonna be in my house until I can repair them and sew them some new clothes. xD Maybe I'll watch some more episodes so I remember that they're not here to stay, lol!!!
@@prayerverse780 i just watch one of these shows
@@prayerverse780 I just heard a YT by "Minimal Mom: Decluttering 101." She advocates 15 minutes/day, max (at least to begin with), setting a timer. That sounded appearling to me.
I love this show so much more that US version. They are so kind in this one instead of yelling and threatening like in the US. Kindness goes a long way.
yeah i got burned out from the staged "drama". least with these shows its fairly educational with the physiologist interviews on certain behaviors. the sleep insomnia episode for example.
The USA versions of any show are degrading and inhuman. They are war people afterall. All about annihilation and glory of a victor.
@@fingerprint5511 and @Denise Carpenter Same feelings about USA versions.I turn on captions and literally write down dialogs, to internalize them, to help my with my own healing process. Abandonment, rejection, neglect. I am afraid to move to another state, to live closer to my daughter. The attachment to things is safer, less threatening for me than relationships with people. This episode is huge help for me.
@@annajaworska3627 hello, I've heard that the urge to try and better our life situations is a part of us all being human. Your search here for understanding (about possessions, relationships, holding on and letting go) seems to show just that. Doreen shows us that we don't have to be perfect - just comfortable in our skins, and accepting of our frailties.
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Doreen's son is a sweetheart. Must be so difficult for him seeing his Mum struggle 😞
Yes true. Feel sorry for Doreen, she took care of so many people but said no one took care of her 😞😔
its such a helpless feeling having a hoarder parent that wont accept any level of help
Yes!
my son is the hoarder I cant help , he just wont let me ..I think it's worse .
I love that the Stelios asked catalogue lady : “Who took care of you?” I was thrown into an extreme caregiving role for a few years and 1. I saw how many people around me with whom I considered myself very close, never asked how I was doing, but those who did I kept around me moving forward. & 2. That awakening made me treat myself and I hired housekeepers for the first time in my life to keep things in order while caring for others.
the doctor is so relaxing... i love his voice... good vibes
He comes across, as very kind and understanding. God bless him and the people that hoard. Ye will be ok. I used to hang on to stuff, I didn't need. It's a great feeling, sending it to charity , to people that need the clothes and ornaments.
Also, I love how they say “ get it sorted” for getting things worked out.
Me too 😊
I'm liking this much better than Hoards USA Show! Plus I get to look at ENGLAND 🇬🇧 Reminds me of Living in Europe when we're US Military..
"as soon as I think, nothing worse can happen, something does." I hear you, Allison.
Because I can relate strongly to the grief caused by many losses, I thought "So do I" for a second... but then I remembered that I never think nothing worse can happen; I'm expecting worse from around every corner. And the thing is that so far I've been right.
Anyway, I'm sorry for whatever it is that you've been through. :(
I've known two hoarders, and they both had VERY grave emotional/mental disturbances (including untreated depression) aside from the hoarding, which I came to see a symptom of what was going on inside their heads. I saw a deterioration in each of them mentally and emotionally, as they were no longer "present" even if you were in the room with them. I saw their personalities starting to fragment as they became more and more hermitlike and hidden in a fortress of their own creation.
This makes so much sense! Ty for sharing.
True hoarding is the emotional state menifesting itself in the physical world.
@@nomsantsoane3984 I did not know either of these friends were hoarders for at least five years, maybe longer. One of them came to my church just stinking of rotten garbage. You could smell it across the room. Any time the subject of their home came up, there was a sort of panicky "no, we can't have the meeting there, we're repainting the whole house". The strangest one I heard (from the smelly lady) was, "There's too much cat fur around." Her car was also hoarded all the way up to the ceiling of the back seat. One of her favorite comments was, "My home is my castle."
@@ferociousgumby hoarders need emotional support and therapy
@@nomsantsoane3984 Several times, members of my church tried to help this lady. She broke her ankle and someone "found out" about the hoard by accident when visiting her. Her response was, "I'll clean it up myself," "it doesn't bother me", or "it isn't that bad". Case closed - there was nothing more we could do. My other friend's favorite TV show was HOARDERS! She watched it avidly, knew all the people's names by heart and often referred to them, while her hoard went to the ceiling in the next room. She would often tsk about those poor women and how they refused to accept help and how disturbed their families were. I am not kidding, this is how deep the denial went! At one point she tried to sell her home (without cleaning it up, as she described it as being "in good working order"), and three years later, when they had no offers, people were saying things to her like, "Oh, that's because it's a blue house, and blue houses don't sell very quickly." The entire community had come together, not to help her clean up her house, but to support her in her denial. BTW, her husband was a retired realtor who had been selling homes for more than 20 years. No, I'm not making any of this up! But this is the kind of emotional fortress hoarders can build. "They need therapy and support" can't happen when the denial runs this deep. You have to admit there's a problem and admit you need help, then stop pushing it away.
This video has helped me so much!!!! I am an only child and lost my Dad in 1994 and my Mom in 1996!!!! Letting go of things they touched are my worst fears!!!! My family has been through all the stuff they wanted. Now it's time for me to let other people enjoy the good things we had. I hope this works!!!!
P.s. Both of my parents were hoarders!!!!
Good luck and strength to you
Stelios has a wonderful gentle heart ❤ He's helped so many.
I loved the episode. Very touching and interesting.
I agree I love Stelios he is awesome ☺❤
It shows how far these people have come to be able to recognize the warning signs. I think that's the hardest part of any recovery, to be able to look outside yourself objectively and to see the problem for what it is. You address it and move forward.
At least Allison got rid of that boyfriend that didnt help her when she asked for help.
I thought he was her son at first.
He made a GREAT decision leaving her. He is so much better off than living with a packrat.
Stelios is so kind and understanding I just love him for his encouragement
Ànd insight. Blessings 💕💕👍💕🙋♀️💕🐶💕🐶💕
Yesss he speakers so calmly I think that helps
At the end of this episode, when it was obvious that Doreen's obsession to hoard had not been "cured", I couldn't help but think that a different tack might have worked with her. Her neighbors & she herself talked about her desire to connect with other people. But Doreen blocked the two decluttering ladies, firmly holding on to things that were of no use to her. It seems that with a person like Doreen, presenting her with true individual cases of people in need -- a family which suffered a housefire or a woman forced to flee an abusive husband, for instance -- would have been a way of touching her heart in a way that the phrase "give to charity" did not.
It scares me to see how debilitated Doreen is by losing her parents. I would never want my children or anybody to react that way to my death.
That is why we need to set each other free rather than create dependence, easier said than done of course.
GOD bless catalog lady asking her neighbour for help. That almost made me cry. My youngest left home just this year after losing so many to Covid. I'm watching these so I don't get in that rut.
From her hair and clothing to her collections, home decor, and food choices, Alison strikes me as someone who is stuck in her teens. I hope she can take advantage of the psychological help Stelios offered her.
Time capsule: that's probably where it's initiated, the pain.
Hi 👋 Nancy, how are you doing?
In the first episode Allison was in a much worse place emotionally. She did also appear to be on the spectrum. In this episode while she is struggling she seems more emotionally in tune with her feelings and just in a better overall place. Stelios is such a kind person. Comforting her and letting her know that she is still healing even though she's had setbacks. Everyone deserves a Stelios for guidance and support.
So many of these people that hoard, you can see they are sad and broken inside. They just want a hug and when they get one from Stelios you can see what an effect it has on them. Tina went straight in for that hug cos you could tell she just needed someone 18:45
yes. hugs are healing..
as long as covid free.
Nice to see a catch up on the two who were on the show before. One does wonder how they get on, as it is such big changes in a short space of time, following many years of hoarding. It also gives a realistic view of the problems, that it can come back the minute there is stress again.
I think the follow up with the lady with blonde hair was the most successful. She's so sweet. I totally get her vibe. All she really needs in life is some one to give her some quality time and some encouragement cause she really does shine. 🥰
Wonder if any of the ladies ever form an attachment to Stelios? He gives them comfort and hope to solve their problems. Sometimes he seems to be the only one to see the hoards without judgement........
I've been wondering about that too. Since he's also a very good looking man.
I only like watching episodes with Stelios he is a real charm! I like how he helps in the way hoarders truly need gentleness.
It's so great that they came back to check on old clients. Great to see that they are keen to get more help and support to move forward!
This guy understands it's about trauma.
But that's not entirely true. I was married to two different men decades ago, both of whom were hoarders, neither of whom had experienced any sort of trauma at all, NONE. Their parents were alive and healthy in both instances, they had both grown up in wonderful homes, much loved by their parents, and neither of them had lost anyone.
You can't make a blanket statement like that and have it be believable, because there are thousands of reasons people hoard, including plain greed and narcissism.
j b how were you able to find TWO men to marry who are hoarders?
I’m really curious to know!
I feel so bad for them. Especially for Doreen.. imagine being old and alone, clinging to your things as memories and keeping your friend’s things because no one else will… I don’t know if I’d have the emotional strength to throw it all out either…
I have a similar condition to a hoarder. I’m able to let go and throw stuff out, but I’m in too much pain to keep my house clean and tidy all the time and even when it is clean I think, maybe it’s not as clean as it should be and I’m ashamed of having people over even then… I hope I’ll be able to accept help.
Doreen needs to volunteer at a nursing home, and play games or puzzles with the lonely old people, it would make her feel needed again and refresh her life with new friends
I felt so relieved when I saw the order being created in the elder lady’s home.
I like seeing the follow ups. I'm glad they reached out for help when they fell into bad habits. It takes courage!
Same here! It must be so difficult to get rid of so many things they feel attached to. I have a doubt that may sound silly: Does hoarding involve disorganization and clutter? I mean, could a collector of, let´s say, videogames be considered a hoarder despite having all the games in perfect order and clean? Thank you!
@@javierbilbao73 collecting can turn into hoarding when it becomes excessive and starts taking up critical space, narrowing hallways, intruding into the kitchen, or taking allll the time to keep dusted.
Dirty again :D
I feel sorry for Doreen's son God forbid when his Mom passes, her son will have to be the one to tackle his Mom's hoard and get rid of everything in the house. This is what senior hoarders don't see.
Or he could contact a hoarding company but I guess it could be expensive.
It is a nightmare for the children.
Exactly. And the hoarders don’t care. Most are selfish narcissistic people.
Cleaning can be so therapeutic if you let it be. It doesn’t have to be a boring chore.
Thinking of it as resetting my house to default settings helps me get stuck into it.
I think Marie Kwando's method of piling all the clothes together in one spot is a great idea. It makes the person realize just how much they have and how ridiculous the amount is!
Stellios' tie and matching handkerchief are just gorgeous.
hoarding is a sickness
but, if you can organize the things you hoard and store them in a neat manner, then you become a collector, if you list them on ebay, you became.a reseller
How sweet is Doreen, the catalogue lady!! 😌
Also, so sad for Allison and Tina. 😥
She was very mean to the cleaning ladies😕
To look at she reminds me of Liz Smith, (The Royle Family who played Nanna) at first glance.
Thank you for sharing, I'm at this moment going through magazines and disposing of them properly, in the trash can. Thanks for the help in the motivation department 👌👍
I don't subscribe to any magazines anymore. Here in the USA they are pricey, loaded with advertising. Where to store them? Even craft (quilting, sewing, needlework ones) are going to 6 issues a year Yet no where to store! So just figured I'd be happy not worrying about getting more projects, etc to deal with, by no longer getting them. 😉
I live in a trailer, we have very limited storage space. My bookshelves in my art area are loaded with books and other items. I don't want to add more to these shelves to keep all easily accessed and neat in appearance.
Excellent that you are doing that but I would just like to gently say that the proper way to dispose of any paper / magazines etc is recycling, not trash. Good luck though and keep it up 😊
The problem which these beautiful people faced may had been or is the fact that all they had been left with was their memories and these items reminded them of what they had lived. Since these objects can be sensed, touched, felt they were the only thing that proved all of their experiences had indeed happened. They wanted to be in the past and relive it through the hoarding.
@Flo ride you've got it. Thanks 👍
It's been awhile since I've watched Hoarders but today is one of those days I need to see these shows when I'm feeling less than excited about what I have to get done but when you compare it becomes simply this: I've got this!
This Dr is a good loving person
It so sad that those two Ladies wasted an entire day cleaning her ( Doreen's) house and had to reload the junk back into her house. Very frustrating.
Doreen seems like a nice person; it's too bad she didn't see that she'd have honored her friend's memory in a beautiful and generous way by giving those clothes to be sold at lower prices from a charity or thrift store (whatever they're called in the UK). I could see some very decent garments in those mountains of clothes, and I could see where a lot of women would benefit from being able to buy such nice things at a very reasonable price.
They're called charity stores
A thrift or Charity shop is where they will end up eventually.
My brother died more than 40 years ago in Mozambique during the rRhodesian war. Because of the conflict we could not get his body out and because of the situation we were not even allowed to know where he died and where his body had been entered. In fact because his helicopter had burnt out we did not even know if his body had been entered. It took us more than 35 years before we found out the details and as times had changed we were able to go to the place where we learned that the local people had buried him. Unfortunately my parents never found out before they passed what his fate was and it effected them badly. After we went to the place there were memorial services for him and others that had died in the same military operation but every time it was like a knife being twisted in my gut. The very last memorial service I refused to go to. I felt enough was enough and the money I would spend on the trip I looked on line for a good charity which catered for people who desperately needed help in areas where their lives had been decimated by war and transferred the funds to them. I have finally found peace and I have come to terms with his loss.
I believe that when you grieve so much for a person you actually disturb their spirit. They feel the pain and anguish of their loved ones very badly.
I was prepared to accept my dear brothers parting but every time I was bombarded with information about where he died and how he died by my family. They did not want to let themselves or anyone else forget him. I made it quite clear to them that I will never forget my brother but that for my sake and his I had to let it go because my time is not yet up and I dont like the constant reminder of his tragic death to cloud my life all the time. By doing this I allowed myself to get closure and I am happy about it. I pray for his soul every day and hope I will see him again but I dont allow grief to govern my life. I too have had bouts of hoarding but I have learned to control the impulse and keep it a minimum. And if anyone needs any of these items I gladly let them go.
When you rent out a place and then see on TV your tenant is a hoarder.....
Hoarding has to do with trauma but also depression. I've known a few people who were hoarders and that was during a bad depression period. They haven't been hoarders since. These people shop a lot to get a high or hold on to things to have a sense of security. It's a sort of way to fill a void. And they are often inable to clean or get rid things because depression can be so debilitating. The amount of stuff and clutter is overwhelming.
Off topic here but at 19:05 Stelios looks quite stylish! The colour combination he's wearing really suit him! I admire the patience the doctors and organizers have towards hoarders. Many years ago I helped someone with a hoarding disorder and I can't imagine doing this on a regular basis. It was very difficult and so infuriating. On numerous occasions I was on the brink of totally losing it but I kept my cool (by I don't know what kind of miracle). I couldn't do it again even though I understand it's a mental disorder.
Divide a room into a grid and start on that grid, from 1 to however big the room is. Get boxes, packing tape, and a felt tip pen and collect all of the same thing to put in the boxes, like shoes, pants, coats, blouses, paper, on and on and stack the boxes in one cleaned out room until it's full except a path in the middle of the room so you will have a place to walk and keep going until all the rooms are full except the kitchen and the bathroom those two rooms are the forbidden rooms and under no circumstances do those room become cluttered or full of anything ever, that's when you start getting rid of things.
Thank you !
@Asherah 1147 she helped someone. there are different causes, so there would be different approaches. and not everyone who is overwhelmed by their stuff, is dealing with mental illness. many just not know how to start.
The lady hoarding the chocolate, I'd be worried about my waistline & dwindling bank account. Human necessity is a strange thing yet these people need serious help. I think we all suffer from some hoarding behaviour & some are alot worse than others & these people would be much happier in clean environments.
Am I the only one wondering where her son was for the last 14 years, now present and critical?
He's been there, she just wouldn't let anyone in. It's not like he's going to knock the door down. And even with all the help, she hung onto almost everything. That's even with the professionals there.
That little old lady was mean ...after all that work and she still wouldn't let go...Miss we all getting older and are gonna die and leave it all....such selfishness
Purplesweetpepper Pepper yes, then her poor son will be the one stuck cleaning out her hoard!
Extreme anxiety & loneliness. Trauma. Loss.
Kim: yes you summed it up. Trauma and loss cause anxiety and depression.
I feel like that's a common impulse (she just takes it to the extreme), to want to grab extra if something is on sale or be more inclined to buy something you didn't plan on because it's the last one.
They should have told Doreen to carry it all back in herself .😢💔
“Securing your future” by buying lots. That makes a lot of sense.
i loe how stelios trully understand his clients, for doreen just by making her house safe for her to live in is a progress
A good way to reduce collections is to select 10 then choose 1. Continue untill you have say ten left then choose 3 from the final lot. Hide all the rest in boxes if you cant bare to part with them immmediately. After a month see if you can remember whats in the box. Youll realise you havent got a clue. Then get rid of the boxs. Focus on how much good your stuff will doing to the next person. Thinking of it as rehoming as you would a cat or dog.
she's so ashamed of her hoarding but all the curtains are opened and you can see everything from her kitchen window..
I also haven’t had any friends cone over in 14 years and my house is nice and tidy. I just don’t have any friends…
I haven't had anyone in for 2 years, but that's cause of Corona
Same here. I can say I have one friend. I feel safe with her, because in a way she doesn't see me. When we meet, she say: "I like your blouse" or I like the color of your hair" After so many years, I never heard from her : It is nice to see you or something like that.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I only have 1 good friend.
@Duckychan Duckychan Very true. ☺️
I live with a Hoarder mom. It is a challange.
Stelios is a wonderful person
I do believe that is Olivia Colman narrating. I love her.
I really wish I was close to Doreen but I live in America. I'm 57 and I understand that loneliness. It's so deep and sometimes "things" feel like they can replace people. She is so much in my thoughts.
It's so sad. Most of the stuff they throw away. Isn't any good at all. Bugs, damaged, etc. That why they throw out everything. If they try give it away. Most places wouldn't take it. Like Goodwill. That why it is thrown away.
Stelios has a soothing voice with the hoarder poeple
I’m really addicted watching what should I do 😬
I'm wondering from where do they get this much money to buy these many things? Here in India people are struggling to buy food for their family, especially women are way more concerned about the basic necessities for her kids among the lower classes than the upper class people. And here i see that people spending hundreds of thousands of money for shopping and still in sick mental condition.
I also wonder this! I live in England & can only afford the basics.
Not a house, let alone stuff to put in it.
They could be in a lot of credit card debt. This is never mentioned, but I do wonder.
Many of them are in a lot of debt.
I’m sure that women being raised to be independent and work, while quite a bit of women are raised to have children and depend on the man.
Also, these things have been accumulated over time and not all at once. Debt is also a common problem.
@BethDWriter For all you know these women have high paying jobs - remember mental health issues can effect anyone.
Can not believe that the son did not know. Very attentive one that is.
A great episode. Very therapeutic..cleansing to the soul 👍
I absoutley love the professionals in this..there so patient, polite, kind, and very compassionate..towards the persons who need help...
I've got a single armoire. What I wear is put on the right side so what I don't wear in a year on the left side all goes bye bye.
And when You buy new clothes? 😁😁
@@miranda8598 something else needs to go. I clean it out and don't buy anything untill it's in the Goodwill given away or in the trash.
A normal person would be afraid to walk in those landfills!!
Good luck and have a happy life. Everyone deserve a good mental and physical health.
I once helped an acquaintance on benefits with getting her household in order. As she told me I was the first and only one who helped her. After the house was clean......she sold it and made over 25,000€. Years later she called me again, somehow she bought a new house. It was filled to the roof with trash. Helped her again and you guessed it, she sold it once it was cleaned and made a lot of money with that one. Years later I dit hear I was not the only one helping her. Friends and neighbours were always there to help that parasite.
I'm always amazed at how manipulative hoarders can be.
@@maryfields1382 YES, QUITE MANIPULATIVE & it's absolutely heartbreaking 💔
Doreen has such a lovely smile.
IT'S NOT ALWAYS LAZINESS, WHEN THEY HAVE SEVERE DEPRESSION AND SEVERE MOBILITY ISSUES THIS TYPE OF THING CAN HAPPEN.
I can’t believe her son was using excuses for not being in his Mom’s home for fourteen years! I would check on my parents at least three times a week. It makes me really angry.
i dont understand minimalism, until i see something like this.
Doreen is her own worst enemy, refusing to get rid of clothing she cannot possibly use.
She says that you cannot get rid of something.......she's attached to!!!!! How, she doesn't even know where things are or what those things are??
Doreen needs to find love again! She’s a lovely lady. There must be an older single gentleman out there who’d be glad to have a companion to grow old together. I bet the hoard would be gone and stay gone. But just in case, she can make arrangement for a weekly cleaner and check-up person.
First hoarding situation that made me feel hungry.
Stelios has the most handsome hair style ever.
He's a handsome man, too! I'm no "cougar," and I'm old enough to be his mother, but I do appreciate a good-looking man, and those blue, blue eyes are definitely GORGEOUS on a man who is easy on the eyes!
God Bless the professional cleaners! I love those women!
This is wonderful ❤ helping people without shaming them....much better than the American version
Confronting the hoarder and snapping them to the reality of losing their home isn’t “shaming.”
Why are people still ordering from catalogue instead of the internet? I was feeling bad for Doreen, but her insistence on keeping all those bags of clothes annoyed me. She will never look at those bags again, and eventually her son will have to get rid of them and everything else.
I really love Stelios ...he is so kind and loveable.
How is it possible that the son doesn't know his mum is a hoarder ?
I put these on in the background whenever I'm tidying up it helps
The same
Doreen seems to think 'if I smile like an imbecile I'll get my own way'..... she's actually a horrible bully. Her poor son......
How we miss our dear parents. ❤
From all the shows I’ve watched, it seems like when they r able to remove the whole hoard to another location all at once it seems to get good results.
I can’t afford to hoard clothes and food! Where do these people get the money??!
Clothes don't have to be bought it could be inherited, received as gift or even found on streets when someone takes them out to trash. Flea markets are also cheap which doesn't help the hoarders.. My mom is hoarder so i know some things
Most hoarders are in extreme amount of debt. They don't have the money to buy things, things do go unpaid.... while others will hoard things they spend little to no money on things, as trash is typical for some hoarders. You have to also remember, some of the things they have trouble letting go, are things that they bought or received years ago.
I hope she does not fill the clean, empty spaces with more items.
Oh I felt such sympathy for Tina, surely her parents would not like her putting her life on pause to have things that may be of emotional significance but not having purpose today.
Such lovely women with great hearts, it is powerful of them to seek help, show how strong they really are. If people around them was half as strong and kind they would not had ended up in such a situation. Time to be strong for yourself girls, You can do it, I believe in you ❤🌹❤🌹❤🌹🤗
Living alone after tragedy. This is what happens.
Alison looks much nicer without the purple hair.
Allison needs to cut up the credit cards and just not even enter a shop, just like an alcoholic can't go into bars.
What it feels like inside my head .
. . On-point.
Nicest Hoarder of ANY hoarder ever on any of the US or UK Hoarder shows.... Hope she is ok.
My hoarder mother didn't see anything wrong with the way she was living
It seems to me that Doreen just wanted someone to tidy the house for her. I could NOT live with all those boxes around me, much less bags and bags of clothes. Obviously I'm the opposite personality to a hoarder. Now if I could just persuede my husband.........
What a nice man!!
He has a filling for her. When she said her husband died long time ago. And she can’t help her self alone