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Anthony, thank you so much for giving a platform to these important topics, I really appreciate it and fully support this series🌸hope everyone is staying safe and keeping healthy. 💕
It really sucks that the girl who was almost murdered thought about all the things she wanted to do before she died and now can't do any of those things because of the consequences of that event
Right? A person did that to her and changed her whole life forever. She has to put in the time, energy and money to handle her life. I so hope the perpetrator rots in jail it makes me so angry
This was honestly the most maddening thing that I've heard and sadly she is not the only one. Please whoever this has happened to, remember that even in your most vunerable and weak moment there is someone out there who wants to meet you someday or already knows you and loves you so please never go away and never lose the feeling of never giving up
To the girl who survived sexual assault/attempted murder: You are not a train wreck. You are a beautiful survivor. I repeat, you are beautiful. And strong. Never forget that.
I know. Imagine raising such a respectful and amazing man, he's really doing something great with this series. Channels like his and Jubilee are so overlooked, but so important.
You should do "I spent a day with people who have schizophrenia." Because schizophrenia is such a heavily stigmatized disorder. Edit: He did it everybody! And ALL of us made that happen! : ) I would say go and watch it, but let's be honest: You already have!
I feel like his work/interviews with people with mental disorders is so important. I’d love to see ones on PTSD, bipolar disorder, personality disorders like ASPD, all kinds. He’s doing such good work, and I am super excited about the platform he’s giving these people who are usually reduced to a stereotype.
rawd dawg it’s so frustrating how deeply negative stigma affects people. I have PTSD due to sexual and emotional abuse and I am constantly invalidated, despite PTSD being one of the more widely “accepted” mental illnesses. I can only imagine the bullshit you have to deal with, having a personality disorder that sounds like a disorder that is thought to be violent and dangerous (schizophrenia). Edit: sorry, not personality disorder, I’m mixing them up. But all the same, anything involving “schiz-“ is so heavily stigmatized.
@@rawddawg I hope you encounter people who are more understanding in the future. It sucks that society thinks people with mental disorders are dangerous, but at least there are some people who stand for what's right, like Anthony.
Well I have got a story for you then couple years ago when I was 17 it was bout 11pm had just finished 10 hour shift and was fairly tired and annoyed was on the bus home it was a double-decker bus so the driver couldn't see anything that was going on but there was atleast 10 people also sitting upstairs but anyway there was this man about 35/40 sitting couple seats in front of me and he had a lighter and he was burning the plastic of the back of the seat in front of him and it produced such a horrible smell I ignored him at first like everyone else on the bus but he kept going eventually I start looking at the other people on the bus to see if there were gonna say anything but they all just looked at me almost as if they wanted me to do something which kinda made sense everyone is upstairs on that bus was either quite old or just not really able to do much about this situation so I turned back around and the seat is now starting to go on fire so I decided I was gonna say something so I tapped him on the shoulder and said fairly nicely could you please not do that its making the bus stink but he just got angry with me and started telling me to mind my own business and carried he was clearly on some kind of drug but he still knew what he was doing so I asked him again and this time when he turned around he stood up and walked over to me got in my face if u have a problem with me fight me I didn't even know how to react but I was already not in the best of moods so I was just like yeah fuck it why not but I got him to get of at my stop so eventually he went back to his seat and waited for my stop (I had told him when I was getting off) The whole rest of the bus journey I was just thinking right I'll just get of the bus and batter him shouldn't be too hard(never been so wrong) I had been in a couple fights before so wasn't really thinking bout it too much eventually we got off the bus (just to point out quickly not one single person on that bus tried to help or do well anything) and we went over to this patch of grass not to far from the stop straight away he ran at me and his hands on my throat so I just started throwing hooks but none of them hurt him atol or even fazed him really to my shock he got me to the ground and was sitting over and started saying all this crazy shit like I'm gonna tie you up and put you where no one will find you then he was on about this van I was going in bear in mind that I'm getting choked as he is saying this to me I honestly thought for sure I was dead but I managed to uppercut his chin and he bit his own tungue after that I managed to flip him of me and get his hands of my neck as soon I as got the chance I just ran as fast as I could back to my house there was scratches all over my neck from him digging his nails in thinking back that guy didn't want a fight he was an actual nutcase he just wanted to kill me don't know why I bothered to type all that but hope someone finds it interesting atleast
@@daniellewegman2642 I actually didn't I just didn't even think to at the time and when I got home i didn't really tell my mum the whole story till recently she just kinda thought I got in a fight(which wasn't that unexpected for me at the time) she said recently if she had realized how serious it was she would have phoned the police, I think at the time I was a bit shocked and confused I just didn't really know what to say or do tbh
Same. I don't either. It stems from fear of judgement (at least for me) so if I feel like that person would judge me/my home I am gonna be more scared. Hoarding and agoraphobia are pretty common together. It stems from the need/desire to "cocoon" ourselves.
Would love to see “I spent a day with therapists” or other people in the field. As mentioned, many people have a toxic outlook on it, which is really sad.
@@joyfullysilent i know, but whatever they talk about would be more interesting and understandable with real life examples which they cant give because of well.. thier patients.
I love how Anthony told the girl not to push herself to tell a story she wasn’t comfortable sharing, and later she said she was so glad she had a place to talk about agoraphobia. The best part of this series is how clear it always is that Anthony cares about the wellbeing of the people he’s interviewing
she almost got murdered and then her little brothers died... I can't even imagine functioning after that.. she's so strong, what an amazing woman. also it's horrible that some of her family and friends would disapprove, she's been through way more than many people ever will...
Seriously tho why would she go out with someone she doesn't even know? Like the person could be taking you somewhere out in the woods. I'm not trying to be insensitive but c'mon
@@TI-oz7rg "i'm not trying to be insensitive" imagine if you were... please, guys, you HAVE to understand that some people just aren't aware of the same things that we are. her situation happened so many years ago when people didn't really talk about the danger of the internet yet and she was clearly naive. when you say something like that about a victim you're basically blaming THEM for what happened.
I would love to be in a video like this. Personally, as someone with an eating disorder, I wouldn’t mind talking about it. I’ve self harmed, not to a large extent, but if i could help spread knowledge, i would. i think because of the lack of attention i got as a child (mostly because my sister has cerebral palsy and got waaay more attention than me) that i _wanted_ something wrong with me so i could have attention. so i developed an eating disorder, knowingly. but that’s just me...
I'm a recovering heroin addict, I would love to be interviewed about it. If my story could help someone then I'd talk about it till I'm blue in the face.
My daughter has this, she became overwhelmed with her depression and agoraphobia where she tried to take her life via overdosing. She’s doing well now and is finally back at school! I’m so proud of my baby and the steps she takes everyday to get better!!!
I'm so glad you're an understanding mother who is proud of her taking each step and celebrating that, it means a lot to a child 🙏 I hope she is getting better
@@phoebe7560as someone that would have a panic attack everyday from just sitting in class. I got over it by just doing it I wouldn’t tell anyone how I was feeling because I already knew what I had is a mental issue so I would forcibly sit through it or go to the restroom and just sit and breathe
Agoraphobia has a spectrum. Some ppl can leave their house but most ppl can’t. Some ppl can’t even leave their bedrooms. Agoraphobia is a panic disorder. My heart truly goes out to all my fellow sufferers, God bless us all! 💜
i have agoraphobia, i can barely leave the house by myself, but i can go to familiar places with my safe people, or friends houses, or doctors appts. there was also a time where i even couldnt do that!
God this representation is so important. Therapy should be “normal”. I have 3 anxiety disorders and although they aren’t specifically addressed in this series it’s so validating to see people who understand that anxiety is out of our control and is more than a fear of people
I think the main think people need to understand is that people who have anxiety have no control over it, it's never their fault. People need to realise that, I wish people would realise that.
Same. My friends are so accepting, thankfully, I've got GAD and some trauma and other shit. But on the other hand, there are these ppl who pretend to be depressed of having an anxiety disorder or some other shit and just NO. IT'S NOT COOL OR FUN OR "EDGY".
@@faery_grl2466 It just really invalidates the genuine suffering people go through. People get nervous all the time, people get anxious too, that's okay. But to say instead that you have anxiety the disorder is just misleading and hurtful to those who really do have it.
whenever Anthony talks to people with some form of anxiety disorder you can tell some parts hit him harder than expected. I just wanted to say thank you to him for not only helping educate people with these videos but also for being open himself and sharing his own experiences. it's comforting to know that someone who online seems "normal" (whatever normal is) is just a human like everyone else and its a good reminder that you never know what is happening in someone's life and to always be kind and considerate. I look forward to these videos every week.
Holly MAHA i believe since his mother has agoraphobia herself and other mental health issues it has made him really empathetic. between that and his own health issues, i think, really gives him that ability to educate people about such misunderstood topics while still making people feel so valid and accepted despite whatever they struggle with.
Feeling like a burden is one of the worst aspects for me. Because when you can’t work and you can’t go out and you can’t contribute you start to venture into some dangerous territory in terms of wondering why you’re still around. If anyone else feels like this just know I’m rooting for you. I hope we all get through it.
Thanks for this comment you wrote 1 year ago. This I'd EXACTLY how I have felt. I hope life is going well for you and you're surrounded by love. I'm rooting for you too. ❤️
Anthony is one of the best listeners I’ve ever seen. He seems like the type of guy that you could have a conversation with and not even realize that you’re talking for hours.
Anthony is a good listener because he is curious about these kind of things. He is interested interviewing people who experienced the things that never happened to Anthony.
anthony needs to do a video with people who have OCD, because it is SO misunderstood and literally everyone claims they have it. but not just people with contamination OCD but people who have the other types like checking, intrusive thoughts, mental contamination, ruminations yk, it would be really awesome to see that also when that one lady was talking about how when some people tell others that they have agoraphobia and OCD people say they do too, i have OCD and almost daily at my old school people said they did too and it was so annoying like (ONLY if someone pointed it out otherwise they wouldn't notice) they would say something like "i'm OCD and that table hurts my OCD like if ya gonna pretend you have a disorder at least put it in a sentence that makes sense lmao
yep my cousin has OCD, I don't know which type but it's not the contamination type. I think that video would be very informative bc I remember my first thought when I found out she had it was "but she doesn't seem to overly clean anything" and I can see how many others might think that that's almost the definition of OCD when it's very far from it. I hope you're doing well!
@@LauraLaura-mv4xh yeah it's also a good idea for people like you with family members or friends who have OCD, because idk about other people but i got bullied for it and it would be good for people to have a platform to talk about itt. thank you, you too! :)
Yes oh my gosh thank you for suggesting that. I have been diagnosed with OCD and I agree people just throw it around. It’s completely misunderstood and misrepresented and I’m sure a video made by Anthony would help clear any incorrect misconceptions.
YES YES YES I saw an add that had 3 pencils in a row & 1 pencil was uneven & the caption said “We turned OCD into a game!” With the objective being to straighten the uneven pencil. OCD isnt a game, it’s a life altering disease😠
If school hadn’t assigned a reading project where I read a book from the perspective of a person with OCD, I honestly wouldn’t know anything about it besides the “washing hands” cliche, so I think that video would educate a lot of people. I also think a video interviewing people with ADHD would be super cool because until a few days ago I thought it just meant boys running around during class lol, but actually it’s a lot more complicated than that and can present itself differently in every person. After some research I realized that I have a lot of the symptoms and plan on going to the doctor to see as soon as I work up the nerve to tell my mom. I’m frustrated that I didn’t know about it sooner because I always felt like there was something wrong with me and I was just being lazy, even though I really wanted to focus. Anyways sorry for the long reply haha I hope Anthony sees your comment
15:23 this conversation, this was great, its 100% how I feel with my social anxiety, wanting to be a responsible adult but not being able to have a job, and getting so upset that I have to live off my parents, the hardest is when your called lazy..
THIS THIS THIS OH MY GODDDD I get called lazy all the time, or told to "just try harder" and I'm so god damn sick of hearing it! We're NOT lazy, we LITERALLY CANNOT DEAL WITH THE LEVEL OF ANXIETY WE ARE FEELING. IT IS AN INVOLUNTARY REACTION AND WE ALMOST CANNOT CONTROL IT AT ALL. Sorry but I hear this all the time and it makes me so mad not to respond when I hear it. Hope you have a good day and that your anxiety was as managed as possible! 🤙❤
@@UndeadRed Hey, thankyou, ive seen two psychiatrists and thought talking it out doesnt help much they have taught me alot about how to explain anxiety and understand why i am the way i am. an easy way of explaining it is everyone has the survival instinct of fight or flight, people with anxiety have a very strong flight instinct, when something goes wrong or they are in a difficult situation their body goes into survival mode and their natural instinct is to get the hell away from the danger (sometThing as simple as asking a stranger a question can cause this) this is why after an anxiety attack and the adrenaline shock you feel very tired, you might even find that you may feel unwell for a few days because your immune system drops . anxiety isnt "just" a mental disorder, anxiety can eventually take a toll on your body and health, its so important that we dont just "live with it and avoid the scary things" but try to work on ourselves every day, even if its something as small as walking into a store and asking if they have a shirt your size. i hope you are also going well :]
SAME I have a SEVERE panic disorder and terrible agoraphobia had terrible experiences with mental health facilities and overall never got the right treatment I am now 17 turning 18 still haven’t got a job yet and overall literally cannot function in society because of it. I’m literally considered disabled now just waiting for the response to get financial benefits but having the feeling of being a burden is the worse, my mom is an immigrant who works and also has to take care of me which absolutely breaks me having to see her life carrying me its something I wish I couldn’t live with to make her life better.
When he looked at the camera and said “mom you’re not a burden” I started crying. Anthony, the people on your life are so lucky to have you and we (your fans) are so lucky too. Thanks for everything you do
Alexis your comment is really beautiful and you are so right. His empathy is so *vivid* and (in my eyes) undoubtedly genuine. You cannot fake that level of patience and understanding. I'm truly grateful to be able to watch these interviews
Hearing Anthony say "You're not a burden" even if it wasn't directed to the audience almost made me cry. I always feel like a burden to everyone and I just needed that at the moment. I also want to thank Anthony for all of his interview, especially on mental health or physical health, where he always treat people with so much respect and don't push his guess to talk about traumatic event, those interview are the most respectful interview I have ever seen. So for all your work, thank you!
I started bawling when you said "if you woke up and didnt have agoraphobia what would you do" I have agoraphobia and multiple other mental and physical diseases and disabilities. And my only answer was to get my surgeries that i need.... its life or death now with the infection in my jaw and agoraphobia and now the lock down.... I just wanna go get help... I just want my surgery.... I'm so tired of being so sick and tired.....😭😭😭😭
This comment really got to me because my agoraphobia prevented me from going to a doctor for something really serious when I was younger. I'm so sorry that you're going through this but I promise you it will get better if you just hold on. You must be going through serious hell especially right now because of everything going on and all I can say is that I truly believe in you and even though I don't know you I'm sending you virtual love and good thoughts
dont worry, you WILL get the help you need. This will be over soon and you can get your jaw fixed. I hope your anxiety is soothed by knowing there are hundreds of random people rooting for you.
@@nicolestark373 thank you so much 😭😭😭 oh my gosh. I cant even begin to say how much this means to me... it sucks for the sole fact that I was taking the strides to try to get the surgery done and then we got on lockdown. I keep having doctors tell me that I was too medically complex for them to comfortably work on me. We have called dozens of new doctors near everyday to try to get in contact with one that will help. It's been a real bumpy ride. Holy cow. I didnt think my comment would get this much traction especially from Anthony as well 😭 just said what came from my heart. While beaches sound nice, I just wanna be able to get my surgeries done hassle free, anxiety free. Thank you again. So much for your kind words.
Important note from a therapist: agoraphobia is not just “I don’t want to leave the house”. That’s a super common misconception! Agoraphobia is that if we are not with a “safe” person or near a “safe” place then we will feel panicked and unsafe. So most people with agoraphobia are able to leave the house, but feel limited sometimes by distance away from home or doing things by themselves ❤ love your videos!! Just wish this had been addressed
This is me. I can go to work, stores, restaurants etc. as long as they are in my safe zone. But I cannot do elevators or go outside my area. I have not been to the beach I’m years and I love the beach. I tried this weekend and turned around almost halfway there. I felt like I wasn’t going to be safe even though I wasn’t alone. I was so angry at myself. I disappointed myself but most importantly, my kid. This was going to be her first trip to the beach.
I always explained it as my safe places are “islands” and anything between them is rough ocean I have to sail through. I can only leave the house with my boyfriend, he’s basically the captain of my ship
@@reginamcadory674I had to make sure I didn’t write this!! I’m 42 y/o woman and I have this exact experience. I too love the beach and we live about 4 hours from Florida’s beautiful emerald coast. I haven’t been in over 20 years. I have one daughter and she is now 16. I’ve had agoraphobia since my junior yr of high school, but found it got much worse once my baby started growing up. My 30’s were riddled with self-hate and loathing…and drinking. I had so much guilt for not being able to go on family vacations or even drive her alone out of my “comfort zone”. As she gets older, I do find it getting somewhat better. It definitely ebbs and flows on a spectrum. I still have issues if my “safe people” are unreachable and when I’m completely alone and unable to contact my husband or my mom. I am able to go out alone as well, but to a certain extent. I started doing exposure therapy again this past year, and I’ve gotten 3 hrs away from home (with my husband) to go have some fun, which is HUGE as you know. I still do not take elevators…ever. No stairs, no deal. It’s nice to share community with others who can relate. We will get to the beach again, and will appreciate it more than anyone could know!❤
@@Bram_Duin Uhm okay I know.. and wasn't meaning that? I just think he has the skills to attribute to one and also seems like he'd be a good fit as a therapist because he knows what he's saying and it would benefit others greatly. That's all.
I’d love to see “I spent a day with adults with ADHD.” I personally have ADHD and my adult life seems to be drastically different than other neurotypical adults. ADHD is so widely misunderstood as a disorder and everyone seems to only understand it in terms of kids in school.
Sabrina Cook I think that’s important because so many people say “oh I’m so adhd” and people think adhd is fun or funny but it’s really not it’s actually really tough
Feels. 8 times, just now, I started writing a reply, but lost track of where I was going each time I started over with a different sentence... and now it's 27min later. So I gave up and wrote this, because I think it's a pretty good summary of how I'm affected... P.S. once I started writing the above, the following sentences were backspaced more times than I can remember, because my mind kept jumping to a new sentence option & forgetting what I was just writing. And I have proof read this so many times to make sure it makes sense & isn't going off on tangents. Technically this is a tangent. It is now 42min later. I am dead serious. 43min.
Just 5 or so years ago, I couldn’t even walk too close to the front door of my house without having a panic attack. Now I can stand outside of my house alone (for short periods of time) and go for car rides, etc. Progress is slow but considering I never thought I’d be able to do these things, I’m proud of the work I’ve put in.
I'm so sorry for you, everytime I sleep somewhere I'm unfamiliar with I get a panic attack so I cannot even imagine that feeling with going outside especially in the society we live in
I broke down crying when you said, "The people around you help you because they love you and care about you and want you to feel safe. You're not a burden." I am disabled and have been my whole life. I definitely feel like a leech, and it's actually the primary reason why I feel so embarrassed whenever I talk about being disabled and whenever I have to mention that I live at home. I don't think I've ever heard it explained that way when we (disabled people) talk about feeling like leeches. Nobody has ever really said anything before that has made me feel like I'm *not* a burden on my family. Thank you.
I know exactly how you feel. I don't know what your disability is but I can only tell you how awful it is for the disability to be on the inside. I suffer with sever cptsd, social anxiety and gad. And I hate whenever I have to meet new people because I know I have to explain why I am not able to work. And because in my country, people are quite morons when it comes to mental illnesses. If it's something like schizophrenia where the symptoms are showing, you get labelled as crazy. And if it's something that only you are experiencing on the inside, you get labelled as lazy and get told that you're only using it as an excuse to not do stuff. How the hell am I supposed to not feel worthless when I get nothing but judgement from people around me? Not to mention how ALONE that makes me feel. I haven't been able to find a single person that understands my struggles in over 10 years, it's that bad...
Hey man, you matter. Without you, history might’ve been different. Even if you have disabilities, that doesn’t stop you from accomplishing your dreams and goals. Who knows, maybe when you get older, you can make a big change in the world.
It sucks though being told you are a burden. It’s little comments like “I have to take time out of my day to take you to therapy” and it makes you feel so unworthy and like you are wasting time and resources.
I know how you feel. I have two rare autoimmune diseases. And it’s hard knowing that I can’t work full time and take care of my elderly mother because I need so much help myself.
The worst thing is you can never tell if someone has it. So when people think I’m panicking from these small interactions like someone getting to close or looking at me weirdly. People judge and it hurts especially if you can’t breathe and your trying to get your air back and your trying to think clearly and move but everything shuts down and it’s embarrassing when people witness it
I feel that :( my "friend" used to get mad at me because when she would stand too close to me I'd ask her to step back because it triggered my anxiety and she thought it was just me being mean for a while until I had a full panic attack because of it ;-; super embarrassing to try and explain...
That's awful :( what is the best thing someone can do to help in a situation like that? If i were to witness that i would absolutely want to help but don't want to make matters worse for the person ❤
I would love to see a "I spent a day with Indigenous people" theres so much stuff to be talked about. Conditions of reservations, murder of indigenous women, misconceptions on money, etc.
I’m white washed because by grandma is very Norwegian, but- I’m also Native American, and I guess I can say indigenous- cause like I guess- but no one knows because I came out the whom looking like a piece of paper
i think the issue with this is that Indigenous people are not a monolith -- we are a racial group and a political identity. Anthony doesn't really do videos like that. The vast majority of us Native people also do not live on reservations. That's a stereotype and I think if that was a major theme within a video, it wouldn't do our people justice. If you are interested in these answers to your questions, there are so many resources, books, articles, interviews, podcasts, influencers, etc etc that already talk about their experiences and break down these stereotypes. I say this all with love and hope you are able to understand. -- An Indigenous person (who is also agoraphobic!) :)
I just want to hug the MySpace girl. She is so cute and I cried hearing her story. She is so strong and I am so blown away by their bravery for telling their story. Hugs to everyone on this video. You are all loved and wonderful. ❤
The thing with feelings of shame associated with "feeling like a burden", that's not a mental issue, it's a social issue. Shame is a social feeling, it's a relational emotion through and through, and like you said, the mantra in the USA is that everything is earned, even dignity, and that all value is derived from usefulness. Pragmatism, meritocracy, utilitarianism, it all stems from a staged belief in individual "virtue" through work, as a way to evaluate self worth, and capitalism in essence is designed to embody that belief, it's a social system designed to evaluate worth on an individual level in markets that are construed as fair and equally opportunistic. That's why you need "good credit" to find even the crappiest of crappy dwellings, your market value and your personal value as a human being have been merged, if you have good credit, you're a good person. Bad credit, bad person. Easy a pie. And I'd add that it's that way because communities and solidarity are dangerous forces for progress, the "market" is not. It's a gambling field, you may have the best hand, but if you can't afford to play at the big table.... tough luck. Whoever has the deepest pockets can generate a cult of personality, why? Because they "proved their election". Just like Beyoncé said, best revenge is your paper. (She MIGHT be a black Bill Gates in the making!) It fuels everything in American society, from reality TV to new protestant religious movements to televised sports to Elon Musk to Alex Jones to Donald Trump. Your political system, social system, economical system is all based on that simple lie, or illusion, that one's dignity and worth relies heavily on their financial success and autonomy. Since it's already tl;dr, lemme go off: without the "self-made" illusion, such an inequalitarian society couldn't thrive! The only way power and money can remain into the hands of the "elected few", is if the people at the "bottom" believe that they are there because they deserve to be (the poor, the disabled, the marginal, the disenfranchised, those who have one or more discriminating risk factors tied to their gender, age, origins, cultural identity, etc.), because they supposedly CAN and SHOULD be able to rise to the top if they are worthy, and "hustle", work hard enough. The powerful can legitimize their privilege through that lens of "hard work" and "merit", but to do so, they can't admit that there are systemic roadblocks preventing other, more or as deserving people to take their "hard earned" place in the world, or the whole edifice upon which they built their own self-worth is gone. It's not like they're gonna go "Oh well! Guess we didn't deserve it that much after all!", no... Like Tucker Carlson, they'll fight for their unfair share of the pie, like those parents from the college admissions scandal (before they got caught). They feel ENTITLED to it. About that scandal... we'll put up a show once in a while, to reaffirm the myth. Sacrifice a few perceived "offenders" to the collective consciousness, to preserve the image of a working system. As we do with Wall Street and other white-collar crimes, send one or two in jail for fraud, or "cancel" a company or two. We like to pretend like their actions weren't perfectly in line with the business model, but the results of a "few bad apples".. Just like we'll use different terms for white mass shooters ("mentally unstable individual" vs "terrorist"). Because admitting that their actions are tied to their culture means questioning our OWN culture, our own societal flaws. And we don't like to think of ourselves as a society, even less a flawed one! MURICA THE GREAT! Furthermore, we like to think of ourselves as a group of individuals, as "Maggie" once famously said. Especially when someone fucks up. When they succeed, then perhaps we can risk a little "he's one of us!"... It's kinda like a parent whose kid turned out a killer, "We didn't raise him that way! Not my fault! No way!", but if that same kid had become a doctor, or a lawyer, the parents would want to believe they had a hand in setting him up for success. (It's more complicated than that, it's about more than just family influence, the example is grotesque, but you get the idea..) Even though we know from over a century of social science that class mobility is at best very limited, this "lottery of success" has kept american society going for a while, and selfish behaviors are usually rewarded better than social care and solidarity. Domestic work is not considered worthy, because we used to have slaves, and then women for that, working for free. Now the rich pay the poor to do that "degrading" work. Feminists have written extensively about the devaluation of domestic work, and invisible labor. We're seeing now how poorly the "true heroes" of society are being treated, the people who care for others are often underpaid, and often seen as a threat to the elites (think of doctors vs nurses). Politicians of that mindset are more inclined to "sacrifice others" (such a fucking oxymoron) without their consent, to let the weak and the poor die "working the fields", or "keeping the economy afloat", as they say. That's also why they don't want a dignified universal health care, one which you don't have to "earn" access to. Same with education. If you get too smart, you'll come to realize the subterfuge, and without steep loans to pay back, you'll be free to create your own opportunities, inspire and uplift your communities, instead of having to work off that loan for more than half your active life for a tiny slice of "capital pie", and maybe a bit of enjoyment after you "retire" from that miserable job you kept because of the family insurance plan and the minimal safety it provided for you and your loved ones. There's only so much "risk" a young graduate can take when they are responsible for others, which is probably why the wealthy and aspiring "tycoons" don't reproduce as much, and later in life. IN CONCLUSION, haha... You are more than just your resume. Everyone is "useful" and should have the same right to a dignified existence. You can choose stuff, sure, but none of us are completely free from systemic structures that precede us. You are, WE are groomed for labor, not unlike cattle, learning from a young age to submit and obey rules and not question people in positions of power too much. Education doesn't only serve that nefarious role though, as only through education, through knowing how lightly or heavily determined and influenced by outside forces your existence really is, can you really free yourself from those dynamics, and learn to value yourself differently, based on less falsely darwinistic ideals. (The fittest is not always the richest, as we've seen of late! *coughs*) There's no shame in not knowing something, as long as you can admit it, it's not about intellectual elitism, but about the difference between freedom and "freedumb", or the right to be right all the time like a fucking narcissistic idiot. It's a real issue. A problem acknowledged is a problem half solved, they say... There's no shame in wanting to feel valued by the people around you, and the only thing in the way is that ONE idea. That really deeply ingrained idea that you are only worth what you can produce and offer on a market. I hope that after reading this, you don't feel as much like a "burden". It's not you, it's US. (As in WE, not as in United States, but pun accepted.. lol) And if you made it to the end...CONGRATS! You get a PhD in reading more than 140 characters from Internet University! YOU get a degree, and YOU get a degree! FREE OF CHARGE, mofos! lol Meanwhile, I spent more than an hour drafting an essay in a youtube comment section, so that you can benefit from my education. I won't be getting royalties, so if you feel like leaving a comment, or a like, I'll accept those in exchange for my free labor! ;) haha Gimme the "care", I value it greatly!
It appalls me that people genuinely believe people's worth is based off of how much money they make or how fiscally successful they are. But they do!!! THEY DO!!! I've met real people who believe that. It makes me so angry. The system is rigged against you and you still think it's righteous? Ugh. Thanks for writing this though. This was very well-thought out.
Hey, sometimes reality can't conveniently fit into a bite size format explanation! xD Complex things require complex analysis. We are also taught that the simplest answer is often the right answer, that's not always true! I think it's a bias of our model, to atomize everything and hyperspecialize so much that each part of the whole feels too overwhelmed to think of the whole without catching a headache. We lose sight of the big picture focusing on the smaller, more manageable thing, ourselves, our families, but we lose sight of the purpose. As Carl Sagan famously said, we live in a world dominated by technology and a fraction of us only can explain how technology works. Division of labor, to the point where the guy that makes the nails doesn't know what a hammer does. That didn't quite work out too great for a lot of the scientists on the Manhattan Project... Losing sight of the roots of why we do what we do can lead to normalizing something that is fundamentally flawed. Thus impairing us from ever being able to fix it. Doesn't mean we have to be radicals all the time, that would be exhausting, but sometimes we should go further, and dig deeper. No one should have to live their lives thinking they are a burden, there are no weak links in this chain, we're all related, we all have the same limited time to do the best we can on this planet, with limited knowledge and information to guide us, all we can do is try and leave it better than we found it for our fellow humans in the next generation. I'm a teacher out of work right now, so might as well keep doing my part, even if it's just to a few people on the internet! I don't need to get paid to get value out of what I do, a few likes and comments is ample reward! Thanks for taking the time to read.
Yeeeeeeessss!! I would love to see other people in recovery or who have recovered from whatever eating disorder they are suffering from or did suffer from
Totally but it needs to be more than one video! One with Bulimia and Anorexia and Binge eating disorder (the more common ones) And one with EDNOS and diabulimia and other more rare ED's.
@@kaikouchickamatsu we Stan education 🥺 diabulimia is a condition where type one diabetic people purposely give themselves less insulin to lose weight. Wikipedia's article is pretty good if you want to know more ♥️
I think I've wanted to squish him on every video I've seen so far. Especially the ones where he wears soft, fuzzy sweaters. He's just so kind to everyone, it's very touching. He could sell hugs for charity.
ive been wanting anthony to do an "anxiety disorders" episode for soo long because of his own mental health & his mother's, everytime he brings up anxiety i feel so validated
Yes me too! Panic and anxiety disorders are seriously highly undermined and looked at by society as things only “insane” people have but that aren’t actually common, but they are one of the most common type of disorder and we need to be heard and respected
@Alexis great question! they manifest similarly, for example i only leave my house six times a month because of my social anxiety, but they have two different root fears. its public vs social. so while neither are gonna hang out at a coffee shop, the agoraphobic's fear is about the place and the sociophobic's fear is about the people.
Emma Bunch-Benson They can look very similar, but the difference is that if a place doesn't have other people (or very few people) those with certain degrees of social anxiety could handle it while those with agoraphobia will not be able to because it is still a public space. Also, those with social anxiety also are fearful of how others view them while those with agoraphobia do not experience it to the same degree (if not diagnosed with social anxiety as well) and if they do feel that way it may just be because of society's views and not from a fear like social anxiety. Those suffering from any anxiety will search for something as safe, such as a home, certain habits like washing hands, or an item. Those with social anxiety may pick their home as something safe like those with agoraphobia, but those with social anxiety could have something else as a safe space while those with agoraphobia, the only safe space is their home.
That’s awful, I remember at school being told I didn’t have agoraphobia because I would come to school... but you’re the only one that feels your feelings, don’t let others tell you what your feelings are or how much they matter
Stop feeling sorry for yourself is my pet peeve, its true you shoukd try not to dwell and to others the situation might seem small but its easier saud than done to just shut off my emotions
When she said that when she explains her conditions people go “oh yeah me too” I felt that. I have ADD, anxiety disorder, and chronic depressive disorder, and it’s so incredibly annoying when ignorance is mixed with sympathy. I wish there was more accurate explanations of disorders especially ADD/ADHD cause many believe that it’s not even a real disorder. I’m really glad that Anthony is shedding light on mental illnesses.
My dad has ADHD, but since it's not severe and the medication made him feel "dull," he doesn't use medication. My mom literally does not believe it's real, which sucks because I think I have it, my dad thinks I have it, my grandmother thinks I have it, now all I'm waiting for is a diagnosis. I entirely agree with your point on the combination of ignorance and sympathy. I have a story that is entirely based on harmful ignorance: My parents suck (I don't really want to go into details because the details of events can be triggering for me), and one time I had a really bad night with my mom and I was absolutely miserable the next day. I have depression, anxiety, trust issues, and possibly trauma from life with my parents. If a situation with them is triggering enough for me, I will get a little dissociative amnesia. I know the event happened, I know basics like I walked to the porch, I ran to the bathroom, stuff like that, but I don't know 99% of what was said, what was done. Remember that. One of my friends (friend 1) asked me why I was acting weird and I told him I had a bad night with my mom. Another friend of mine (friend 2) was there with me, he knew what my parents were like, so I just said I had a problem with my parents last night. Friend 2 (the one who knows about my parents) pushed me to tell him what happened, but I said I didn't want to talk about it, especially not in the middle of the cafeteria. He kept pushing me, and I finally said that my mom had gotten drunk and said some awful things. Friend 1 wanted me tell him what she said, and I said that I don't remember. Friend 1 said, "Of course you remember, it happened yesterday." So, based on things my mom has said that I *do* remember, I told them. Friend 1 literally said, and I quote, "That's not a reason to be upset. Everyone's parents do that. My life is so much worse and you don't see me complaining about it all the time." and Friend 2, who KNOWS WHAT MY MOM HAS DONE, *AGREED WITH HIM.* I just got up and left, one of my other friends came with me and she let me just cry in the bathroom with her. To this day I still don't trust either of them with talking about my parents because they don't know, and they will never understand what life was like for me. This is an example of ignorance (and being a huge prick) that can cause severe harm to someone. I have had less intense situations with Friend 2 trying to relate to me, he has depression and PTSD from a sexual encounter. He tries to relate with me on that, and while he has some similar mental troubles, they aren't the same because they were bred from completely different situations. I don't relate to every female just because we're both female, and you can't do that to someone who has depression. Sure, we have some symptoms in common, but the overall cause and effect of the depression are different. I'm perfectly fine with people trying to have sympathy, I'm fine if you say, "hey, I've had a panic attack before," that's perfectly fine, but when you start trying to invalidate what I feel and what I've been through because, "Oh yeah, I've been through that, too." No, you haven't. I'm sure you've been in situations where you have similar feelings, but you haven't lived through it. Sorry for the long rant lol, not entirely sure if all of this makes sense, I just started writing and ended up venting tbh. Probably gonna confront Friend 2 about this situation and some point, but considering he makes fat jokes to me when I eat a lot (I had anorexia a little over a year ago, btw, and he knew about it), he won't give a f*ck.
Lyn Creatives I can relate to that. I don’t feel comfortable going into all the details, but I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, and a severe depressive disorder. So many people equate feelings of sadness or disappointment with depression as a mental illness. I’m all about being there for people, but it kind of hurts when people dismiss my mental illness as just “normal” feelings. I’m in the process of recovery, and it makes me so happy that influencers bring light to these situations. 🌸💖
I’ve got adhd and what people actually think it’s like shocks me all of the time. I struggle a lot because of my adhd and I just get told: *Me: Adhd is actually pretty hard, I’ve got way more struggles than people actually think.* “It’s not even a bad thing, you just have energy” *Me: I breakdown multiple times a day because I hear everything all of the time, not being able to stop it. It’s because I can’t focus at all.* “Umm, that’s because of you, not adhd, lack of concentration doesn’t do that” *Me: Forgot to take my sleeping medication last night so I couldn’t sleep all night until 5am for an hour, I was so tired but it was impossible.* “Omg, me too, I was trying to sleep last night and I like couldn’t” *Me: oh, I’ve got adhd.* “I think I’ve got that too, I move my leg a lot” *Me once again: oh, I’ve got adhd.* “It’s not even a real thing, you probably just have more energy than some other people” *Me: *lists multiple things I struggle with because of my adhd** “You can’t have struggles like that with adhd” “Why do you get to listen to music in class, I want to do it too!” *Me: I’m unable to ignore anything, especially sounds, so when I listen to music I can focus on my schoolwork for some reason.* “Just ignore the sounds, it’s easy, just focus”
i felt exactly the same way, except in reference to ocd and anxiety disorder. people need to realise that these are real, debilitating mental illnesses and it makes me so happy to see Anthony talk about these topics with such an understanding and respect.
Wow, I had the exact same experience. I remember how derealizing and depersonalizing it was when the sun would start setting. It genuinely became impossible to sleep and from the moment I'd wake up until the moment I went to bed I'd be phasing in and out out of derealization. That feeling you get as if you're watching someone else moving your arms in front of you like in a first person video game and nothing around you exists or feels real is traumatizing. I don't quite get why it would hit especially hard when the sun started setting. Either way though I feel like I'm mostly through it all somehow. I thought I was going to develop schizophrenia for nearly a month straight and wouldn't be able to dream without feeling that terrible feeling of derealization then next morning. I legitimately had a phobia of dreaming for a large chunk of time. All of it lasted for about 3 months and depression and anxiety have strongly lingered ever since and I maybe had all but 2 panic attacks that might've lasted a minute in the following 7 months but overall the severe dissociating anxiety is over and I hope it's plateauing for you by any degree. Not sure if hearing my experience will be helpful at all, I have no idea if I'm a lucky case to not have had any more dissociation after 3 months of it being consistent or if it's at all common to grow past it. Either way it's not the end of your life to experience this for the rest of it, if it is the case and you still experience it, the only thing you can do is accept that it's apart of who you are. You gotta own it somehow even if you don't want to.
this comment was posted months ago but i hope you'll still see this. I understand the feeling you're describing, I didn't feel it every night but sometimes it was so overwhelming I couldn't do anything but sit in my room feeling like I was in some sort of danger and sometimes had panic attacks. I talked about it with my therapist at the time and she said something very interesting: isn't that what animals feel in the wild? when the sun goes down they know they have to hide or they'll be exposed to predators. I believe this feeling is a manifestation of our instincts as daytime creatures. The more I thought about it the more it made sense, and understanding where that terrible feeling came from helped me overcome it. I know everything in life is different for everyone, but I hope my experience can help you in some way or another :) stay strong, things get better
Me too! I was just telling my friend that as soon as the sun goes down it’s like a different world. And I honestly thought I was crazy and the only one this happened to. I want to cry bc I kno I’m not alone and it’s not in my head. This never happened to me until a year ago
Anthony would be such a great therapist. He's so great at listening and I've never seen him invalidate anyone for the way they feel. His patience and compassion is absolutely incredible. Keep up the great work.
I have been completely housebound because of Agoraphobia since 2005, I am so thankful to find this video, I think a lot of people think 'why don't you just go outside?' there is a lot more to it and not being able to go across the threshold is so difficult beyond words and I have not seen much information about it. When they were asked 'how does the quarantine affect you?' I said out loud 'it doesn't affect me my routine is the exact same'. I always feel like such a burden and do not contribute to the world. Thank you so much for this video and I hope your mother and everyone else in the video is doing well
i was agoraphobic due to panic disorder and it was fuckin harsh. i don’t know if it works the same for everyone but i was able to mostly overcome agoraphobia by going into the situations that made me panic and uncomfortable until they weren’t uncomfortable anymore
I love how when she was telling Anthony about her story he didnt make her feel like she has to finish her story. How he cares more about her safety and her being okay than having the whole story for his interview
So watching this again two years later. I have had agoraphobia for 10 years. It was so crippling that I couldn’t step out of my house for more than 5 minutes at a time at its worst. 2 years ago my family and I moved across the country to our new home. I have had several small adventures and experienced different things I thought i would never be able to do. For my fellow agoraphobics, there is hope!! I never thought I could do this ever. Taking baby steps and you are stronger than you give yourself credit for! My biggest hugs to all of you. You are not alone and you are so loved! And to Anthony, that part where you told your mom you are not a burden and that whenever she wants to you will take her to the beach hits so close to home. I am 28 and a mom to 3 and can relate to your mom’s story so much. I know we are around the same age but you are such an incredible son and big hugs to you as well. Your series is incredible and thank you for giving people a voice who aren’t heard very much.
That is so cool to hear : ] I’m really happy for you, I hope you keep progressing:] it may be slow at times but I’m sure you’ve learned first hand, how time heals.
I completely feel you! I’ve been dealing with it for about 5 years now and the most I’ve accomplished is walking around my neighborhood, but everytime I complete a walk I feel like I’ve accomplished something. I think being consistent in pushing yourself is what really makes a difference. I’ve fallen back many times where I do a walk and then don’t for weeks or months and it sets me back… so keep pushing yourself, even if it’s just a little, everyday!
justeliza I was wondering that too! Of course she doesn’t have to talk about it but it did seem to be a very hopeless situation and I doubt that he just let her go after he was so determined to go through with his plan. I really really feel for the girl and I hope she knows what a strong person she is❤️
Anthony, thank you so much for interviewing Kylee-- She's my sibling and I love them with all my heart and this meant the world to her. She was calling me days in advance of the interview nervous as all hell and I just knew her charm would win you over. Thank you!
I'm thankful he interviewed her too! I've followed her on Instagram for a few months now, and she's such an amazing person. I'm so glad that she got such a big opportunity to share her experiences and spread awareness all at the same time. It's really amazing to see!
I’m an autistic girl who was warned to be disabled and was emotionally and mentally abused for being the way I am. My agoraphobia was caused by a giant meltdown from being overstimulated trying to go to college when I couldn’t handle it and i clawed scars into my arm and was dissociative... I was always called a brat and spoiled and ungreatful. It’s been terrifying to be so sick and be constantly screamed at and shamed. I just want help and to be me. I’m tired of all the obstacles of ableism.....
I relate to you so much.. university literally threw me under the bus I already had problems with social anxiety, unattentive DAD and extreme sensitivity but going to Uni was so overwhelming I ended up not living my apartment except for classes (and even that began to be to much).
Alyce Renae I’m scared to go to college because I have panic attacks out in public, when I got a job I kept having panic attacks before and durning work bc the public setting and pressure was too much for me. I’m not diagnosed with anything, but I’m scared to move onto college because I think I’m not ready and the anxiety will get in the way of having a normal college experience. I don’t know what diagnosis I can get, but if the get one and get on meds I guess it’ll help.
Goddess Sage If getting a diagnosis and going on meds is a possibility for you, I would strongly advise you to do it. Without therapy and medication, I wouldn’t be able to have a job, or even have the energy to leave my house. I wish you the best!
The same thing happened to me when I was 8. I'm also autistic and I just had a complete meltdown. Since then, I've never been able to step outside the house on my own. I'm 23 now. I'm surrounded by supportive people, luckily, but I'm also surrounded by strong, independent people and I'm constantly comparing myself to them. I'm not actually diagnosed with agoraphobia, but I have just finished my six month intensive therapy and we talked a lot about agoraphobia, and it just seemed to fit. I write publicly about myself, my struggles, my understanding of my autism, my anxiety, and it feels good to get things out in the open
University had not been fun at all for me. It requires so many social interactions and I just couldn't do it most of the time because of my social anxiety. Add the fact that everyone seems to be against me and being left behind by the people I thought were my friends, my distrust for people grew and I just automatically hate everyone and assume anyone wouldn't like me in fear of getting hurt again. I want friends, I really do, but I rather stay inside and be content with myself than going outside and risk it with unpredictable social interactions. People say it's bad that I'm not socializing but years of trauma has shaped me this way. I honestly just want it to stop
" they wouldn't approve", time to stop thinking that having anxiety is a choice. Did it ever work, when you were stressed, someone told you " Stop stressing" and BOOOM, not stressed anymore. If anyone could control that, we wouldn't be even stressed or have anxiety.
When Anthony asked the question about how they feel about people claiming they’re agoraphobic with coronavirus going around I was like “oooofff shade to you trish”
Me being able to order McDonald's on my own for the first time was amazing, I broke into the widest smile when I realized I could do it 🙌 It may seem like such a small thing that is done a lot, but it was such a big accomplishment for me at the time :3
yay, congratulations! I have anxiety (not social anxiety tho) , and absolutely do not go and buy stuff myself ;-; mainly cuz I would totally mess up Great job !
This video made me realize that my mom is most likely an agoraphobic. Every detail matches her to a t. I knew she had anxiety and past trauma, but this whole time I've just put her off as a complete shut-in. I feel like such a dick now. Bruh I gotta talk to my mom
As someone who has agoraphobia and is still trying to 'figure it out' to explain to people, this video was so validating, ESPECIALLY when they talked about small mundane tasks being big achievements. I'm working my way to going to the shops by myself so there's a mission for me to complete! I remember I created an analogy that sort of explains how it feels personally through it: having agoraphobia feels like having a ball and chain around your ankle. It's always there, nobody else sees it but you and every 'mundane' task you need to complete depends on how much energy you have to drag that ball and chain around with you. Sorry for the splurge of text there, but yeah this video helped a lot to validate how it feels!
I'm happy you feel that way. It's always hard to explain mental conditions, even to yourself, because there are no visual indicators like with a broken arm for example. Wish you all the best.
Morgan Rachel I’d prefer to focus on the issue and the people who have agreed to be in the public eye for such a misunderstood subject than to focus on something like you are.
I love how Anthony listens with no judgement, and doesn’t force them to talk if they don’t feel comfortable talking about it. He deserves a lot more recognition 💖
I’m a fully housebound mother of 6 with agoraphobia. I’ve had it since I was 15. It was so relieving to me to hear that your mom is agoraphobic. Gives me hope that my babies will turn out ok! ❤️😭❤️
Mewesical let people express their ways of comfort. If prayers make them feel more connected and helpful, then all the power to them! That means something to them. If it doesn’t for you, then scroll on by, no need to comment. Respect others.
Mewesical personally, I don’t pray cause I’m not religious, but thinking about them is a kind thing to do, and I’m sure that knowing that people are thinking of you is comforting to the peoples you’re thinking of
oh my god i cried while watching this. i was diagnosed with anxiety at 13 and started experiencing agoraphobia shortly after that. i became homebound for the first time when i was 14, and again when i was 16. i didn’t leave my house for 5 years. i’m 25 now and my comfort zone is still incredibly limited. i feel like most people don’t understand agoraphobia and it is often belittled or misjudged. agoraphobia completely controls my life and i cant wait for the day when i can go places freely. thank you for shedding some light on the situation.
I wanna throw in there I didn’t understand agoraphobia until I developed panic disorder which morphed into agoraphobia. I definitely was all in agreement with the stigmas thinking how could you be so terrified over nothing? Then I got it and I literally would black out and get heart palpitations and stuff just at the grocery store.
Another agoraphobic here. I was completely housebound for 9 months back in 2014 and I’m still severely limited on what I can and can’t do. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. Keep your head up. ❤︎
i searched up agoraphobia today because i wanna know more about it and learn from people who actually have it especially since i’ve recently met people with agoraphobia i can’t even imagine what it’s like all i can do is empathize and listen hope all of you at some point get to a place where you feel some sort of safety as someone who has had a ton of trauma throughout my whole life i can understand that, but yea everyone should feel safe much love🤝💓
@༈෴ะ Skippy Kanyeะ෴༈ ya I think about what job I could comfortably have and how I could sit through college lectures feeling trapped but don’t give up we can all overcome these things it just takes time
I Lost 8 years to agoraphobia. Glad to say now at 21 years old I’m recovering fully and have been visiting all of the places one by one I’ve blacklisted back then. I wish these lovely souls that one day they may be able to be in that gratifying moment of recovery and have a beautiful compassionate environment during their path. Super proud of them for doing this interview and Sending love to everyone diagnosed with agoraphobia.
EMMIE : I began having some small red flags 8 years ago when it came to agoraphobia. Along with severe depression. I began to associate people and social functions with my trigger of fear. The root of agoraphobia for me was that I was able to be perceived. I felt that any where I went everyone was always looking at me they were judging me and I felt suffocated. It made me fear the outside and I became paranoid. Soon panic attacks started setting in when I was a freshman in highschool. I couldn’t walk the hallways during passing period or go to the lunch room without having fear pummel me. As the fear grew, I stopped attending classes. I couldn’t leave my home. I couldn’t leave my bed. I couldn’t go near windows much less attend school. This led me to dropping out of highschool at 16. I began a mental blacklist if places I refused to step foot in. The only destination I had was my home and hospitals. I couldn’t leave my home without clothing checking myself multiple times and I had to wear sunglasses during the rare times I did leave the house. Without sunglasses I would have episodes. Being chained to the comfort of my room was normal for me. I wouldn’t leave home in weeks/months. Then Fast forward to last September, I realized I had had a panic attack or a mental breakdown in very literally every corner of my home. Being trapped no longer felt comforting. It felt brutal. I was not only trapped mentally but I was physically trapped. And it was because I allowed myself to drift into fear. I felt as if I betrayed myself. Other teens had their highschool years and I was robbed of it because of mental illness. So I decided to do something about it. I was tired caging myself so i began saying yes to outtings even when everything in my body screamed no. Little by little I began achieving small accomplishments. I walked my dog for the first time in years by myself. I took the bus for the first time in years. I began speaking to strangers in the grocery store. I walked to my local store after not being there for 8 years. At the beginning every time I left my house, I would come back home in emotional shambles. Panic attacks were heightened but I wanted to live for once and I wanted it badly. No one was going to stop me not even myself either. So I kept doing it over and over again. Things that may seem mundane to some, were my greatest accomplishments in a long time. Finally I got to a point where yes I felt nervous but I also felt excited to leave my home. The world has so many beautiful things, !NEW things that I missed and am now happily able to experience. When I was in recovery from depression at the same time I saw how much of Outside is so green and colorful. I was no longer living in my head or seeing the world through a very dark and dim black and white film. I SAW and FELT in color. My senses came back and I was on sensory overload ina. Good way. Outside is radiant and the animals are beautiful. Trees are gorgeous and color schemes in stores are marvelous. Agoraphobia and Depression had control over me for a very long time. I didn’t realize until later that nothing is ever in control of me. I’m in control of it. And I loved myself despite of the past. I loved myself more to keep saying fuck you every time I felt it wanted me to be dragged down again. Recovery doesn’t stop. Triggers come back up. The thing is I decide I love myself and am worth enough to live the way I want to live.
Same, i basically lost all me teenage years to the fear of going out certain places. I am currently working on getting out of my comfort zone and found people that are super respectful about my boundaries. There are still some places that I don't feel ready to visit (like clubs, festivals), but I'm finally doing stuff I'd never done in my teenage years (like going into smaller/empty bars, cinema) and I even live in a rather big city now. Sometimes it's still overwhelming, but I'm managing simple walks and doing groceries very well by now^^
I would love to hear about others with Avoidant Personality Disorder, but think it would be a massive challenge to find people with AvPD who are willing to be interviewed
People in my family think I’m being “dramatic”, it felt so good to watch this and hear people talk about feeling the way I feel just having to go outside and be around people. People are miserable right now during isolation but it’s nice not having people ask me to go out all the time wondering why I don’t want to go...
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AnthonyPadilla I love you so much here’s a link for youth-cam.com/video/q1xYjQsLQ-A/w-d-xo.html
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AnthonyPadilla I love this channel so much, you help me cope through corona
I feel them tho
Anthony, thank you so much for giving a platform to these important topics, I really appreciate it and fully support this series🌸hope everyone is staying safe and keeping healthy. 💕
Anthony is the CEO of loving his mom
and CEO of interviews
ian's mom
I’m not crying you are🤧
Not while I’m alive
The CEO of understanding people
It really sucks that the girl who was almost murdered thought about all the things she wanted to do before she died and now can't do any of those things because of the consequences of that event
Right? A person did that to her and changed her whole life forever. She has to put in the time, energy and money to handle her life. I so hope the perpetrator rots in jail it makes me so angry
I thought about the same thing.. bless her :( I hope she can somehow achieve whatever she wants to
I'm hoping the guy was caught
It's so sad ☹️☹️☹️
This was honestly the most maddening thing that I've heard and sadly she is not the only one. Please whoever this has happened to, remember that even in your most vunerable and weak moment there is someone out there who wants to meet you someday or already knows you and loves you so please never go away and never lose the feeling of never giving up
The girl who shared her story of surviving that possible rape and definite murder attempt was incredibly brave to share her story.
Fr, that and her little brothers. Absolutely heartbreaking.
Im assuming she was raped. She had a really hard time talking about it and i dont doubt that was his intention of meeting her. :( bless her soul tho
man people are so strong
Bless her soul, such a strong woman 💖 she seems so selfless and caring 😌✨💛
I have so much respect for her wauw
i’m not even a mom but Anthony saying “Mom, you’re not a burden.” straight to my face hit my soul hard.
timestamp?
@@ashequitaj 15:44
Best blessing ever!
cause it hit your motherly side, probably.
@@ShinryuZensen everyone has a motherly side, even people who aren’t women
To the girl who survived sexual assault/attempted murder: You are not a train wreck. You are a beautiful survivor. I repeat, you are beautiful. And strong. Never forget that.
Johannesburg777 AMEN
Thank you ❤️
Truly. From the bottom of my heart
That means so much
i also like turtles
Also she’s got a nice cat!!
Just the fact that she's able to talk about it shows how remarkably strong she really is.
Imagine raising Anthony Padilla. His mom has my respects because she did a great job
Agreed. Imagine raising him *and struggling with Agoraphobia at the same time. I don't know if I could ever be a mum honestly with this disorder.
I was just thinking his mum raised a lovely human being. Xx
I know. Imagine raising such a respectful and amazing man, he's really doing something great with this series. Channels like his and Jubilee are so overlooked, but so important.
Ismael Medina he’s so nice 😫
GutsAndGlam yeah jubilee gets clowned on way too much, its actually interesting and important
“I spent a day with therapists” honeslty would be such a good video. I’d really like to know there struggles and stigmas
Me, a therapist: Hell yeah
I read I spent a day with the rapists...
“I’ll take the rapists for 200”
@@comedyjar4522 that’d be a very weird, confusing and hateful video I think
@@ClySaga maybe 🤔 🥲
You should do "I spent a day with people who have schizophrenia." Because schizophrenia is such a heavily stigmatized disorder.
Edit: He did it everybody! And ALL of us made that happen! : ) I would say go and watch it, but let's be honest: You already have!
Iris Sparkle yes it is my uncle has it
I feel like his work/interviews with people with mental disorders is so important. I’d love to see ones on PTSD, bipolar disorder, personality disorders like ASPD, all kinds. He’s doing such good work, and I am super excited about the platform he’s giving these people who are usually reduced to a stereotype.
Yes dude I got diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder like 8 years ago and people always get uncomfortable if i tell them about it
rawd dawg it’s so frustrating how deeply negative stigma affects people. I have PTSD due to sexual and emotional abuse and I am constantly invalidated, despite PTSD being one of the more widely “accepted” mental illnesses. I can only imagine the bullshit you have to deal with, having a personality disorder that sounds like a disorder that is thought to be violent and dangerous (schizophrenia).
Edit: sorry, not personality disorder, I’m mixing them up. But all the same, anything involving “schiz-“ is so heavily stigmatized.
@@rawddawg I hope you encounter people who are more understanding in the future. It sucks that society thinks people with mental disorders are dangerous, but at least there are some people who stand for what's right, like Anthony.
Anthony: How many rings should I wear
His wardrobe: Yes
lAsT tImE I cHecKeD, YeS iSn'T a NuMbEr!!!1!!!111!!!!!
Makes him look a bit like Johnny Depp - love it so much
Shaya Firth His comment is a joke
@Shaya Firth I'd take your own advice
Shaya Firth you're the one who didn't get the joke💀
"Panic Attack Connoisseur" really shouldn't have made me laugh like that.
JuMixBoox same 😳
That SENT ME
When he said Panic, i was like “PANIC! AT THE DISCO!“
SAME IDK WHY
As a person with anxiety, calling myself a panic attack connoisseur sounds so much more sophisticated. I love that so much. 💁🏻♀️
I love it!! would you mind if I adopt your term?
@@shizuevoltam it’s not my personal term, one of the people who were interviewed said that. I think it’s genius. 10/10 would recommend 👍🏼
that's the best thing I've heard all day and I'm going to refer to myself as such for a very long time :]
@@blue.yy_ but at the same time, we can ALL overcome 💪🏻 hell, I’m sill battling my panic disorder. Just gotta stay positive 😄
I love your spirit. More power to you ❤
please do an episode of "i spend a day with people with OCD!" its so highly stigmatized as just being a perfectionist
*please*
It's so stereotyped in a horrible way, and it hurts.
julia reste Yes! I totally agree!
OMG YES PLSPLSPLS
And Link Neil should be on it XD
YEEES
damn it’s so weird to hear the story of someone who was actually almost murdered
i really want to know how she survived but I also dont want to violate boundaries by asking
@@pvic6959 yeah, i wonder if the dude got arrested or something for that
Well I have got a story for you then couple years ago when I was 17 it was bout 11pm had just finished 10 hour shift and was fairly tired and annoyed was on the bus home it was a double-decker bus so the driver couldn't see anything that was going on but there was atleast 10 people also sitting upstairs but anyway there was this man about 35/40 sitting couple seats in front of me and he had a lighter and he was burning the plastic of the back of the seat in front of him and it produced such a horrible smell I ignored him at first like everyone else on the bus but he kept going eventually I start looking at the other people on the bus to see if there were gonna say anything but they all just looked at me almost as if they wanted me to do something which kinda made sense everyone is upstairs on that bus was either quite old or just not really able to do much about this situation so I turned back around and the seat is now starting to go on fire so I decided I was gonna say something so I tapped him on the shoulder and said fairly nicely could you please not do that its making the bus stink but he just got angry with me and started telling me to mind my own business and carried he was clearly on some kind of drug but he still knew what he was doing so I asked him again and this time when he turned around he stood up and walked over to me got in my face if u have a problem with me fight me I didn't even know how to react but I was already not in the best of moods so I was just like yeah fuck it why not but I got him to get of at my stop so eventually he went back to his seat and waited for my stop (I had told him when I was getting off)
The whole rest of the bus journey I was just thinking right I'll just get of the bus and batter him shouldn't be too hard(never been so wrong) I had been in a couple fights before so wasn't really thinking bout it too much eventually we got off the bus (just to point out quickly not one single person on that bus tried to help or do well anything) and we went over to this patch of grass not to far from the stop straight away he ran at me and his hands on my throat so I just started throwing hooks but none of them hurt him atol or even fazed him really to my shock he got me to the ground and was sitting over and started saying all this crazy shit like I'm gonna tie you up and put you where no one will find you then he was on about this van I was going in bear in mind that I'm getting choked as he is saying this to me I honestly thought for sure I was dead but I managed to uppercut his chin and he bit his own tungue after that I managed to flip him of me and get his hands of my neck as soon I as got the chance I just ran as fast as I could back to my house there was scratches all over my neck from him digging his nails in thinking back that guy didn't want a fight he was an actual nutcase he just wanted to kill me don't know why I bothered to type all that but hope someone finds it interesting atleast
Joseph Hunter did you ever report that guy this is crazy man
@@daniellewegman2642 I actually didn't I just didn't even think to at the time and when I got home i didn't really tell my mum the whole story till recently she just kinda thought I got in a fight(which wasn't that unexpected for me at the time) she said recently if she had realized how serious it was she would have phoned the police, I think at the time I was a bit shocked and confused I just didn't really know what to say or do tbh
"Can I consider myself a trainwreck?"
I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want to be Anthony's hair in 2018
HAHA
Fareris
I’m glad I’m not the only one who remembers that era
I live for this comment
Late 2018 early 2019
That my friend was nasty
My late husband had this. He didn't like his own family coming over.
Rip. My love
My condolences. Rest in peace
@@ayleen6411 basically like sympathy. please try not to be inconsiderate :(
@@ayleen6411 it’s like sympathy, similar to saying “I’m sorry for your loss”
Same. I don't either. It stems from fear of judgement (at least for me) so if I feel like that person would judge me/my home I am gonna be more scared. Hoarding and agoraphobia are pretty common together. It stems from the need/desire to "cocoon" ourselves.
@@ayleen6411 Why did you ask like that? So rude.
Would love to see “I spent a day with therapists” or other people in the field. As mentioned, many people have a toxic outlook on it, which is really sad.
Yes, genius idea!!!
Yes, that would be so interesting!
Yes i'd love to see that!
YESSS
Yessss! And he can get in touch with TH-cam channel Psychology in Seattle with Dr. Kirk Honda
You should do “I spent a day with therapists”
I read that wrong and thought it said rapist...😑
OMG YESS PLZZ
I dont think therapists can share what patients say
@@everyone343 they can't but there are questions that have nothing to do with the patients
@@joyfullysilent i know, but whatever they talk about would be more interesting and understandable with real life examples which they cant give because of well.. thier patients.
"Can I be classified as a train wreck"
Me:"I fricking love this woman"
I want to be their friend🥺
same I love them
@@coralnevarez6151 I'm always down for my friends 😊
There instagram doesn't work, do you know what it is by chance?
@@Mel0nMel user changed name prob
I love how Anthony told the girl not to push herself to tell a story she wasn’t comfortable sharing, and later she said she was so glad she had a place to talk about agoraphobia. The best part of this series is how clear it always is that Anthony cares about the wellbeing of the people he’s interviewing
she almost got murdered and then her little brothers died... I can't even imagine functioning after that.. she's so strong, what an amazing woman. also it's horrible that some of her family and friends would disapprove, she's been through way more than many people ever will...
That black haired girl must be so strong to go through what she did and want to be able to speak out about it.
She truly is a tough nugget 💓👊
Yeah ,this horrible guy don't deserve anything ! he litterly ruin two lifes and caused lifetime heavy consequences in that girl life .
I liked her sans plush
Seriously tho why would she go out with someone she doesn't even know? Like the person could be taking you somewhere out in the woods. I'm not trying to be insensitive but c'mon
@@TI-oz7rg "i'm not trying to be insensitive" imagine if you were...
please, guys, you HAVE to understand that some people just aren't aware of the same things that we are. her situation happened so many years ago when people didn't really talk about the danger of the internet yet and she was clearly naive. when you say something like that about a victim you're basically blaming THEM for what happened.
He should do “I spent a day with Suicide/eating disorder/drug addict/self harm survivors/recoverers”! I would love to see it.
hee hee
Yes!! I would love to see this!!
I would love to be in a video like this. Personally, as someone with an eating disorder, I wouldn’t mind talking about it. I’ve self harmed, not to a large extent, but if i could help spread knowledge, i would. i think because of the lack of attention i got as a child (mostly because my sister has cerebral palsy and got waaay more attention than me) that i _wanted_ something wrong with me so i could have attention. so i developed an eating disorder, knowingly. but that’s just me...
Paperbag Clarisse recovering addict here, I’m open about it ☺️
I'm a recovering heroin addict, I would love to be interviewed about it. If my story could help someone then I'd talk about it till I'm blue in the face.
Yess please eating disorders, there are so many types and they are so stereotyped
My daughter has this, she became overwhelmed with her depression and agoraphobia where she tried to take her life via overdosing. She’s doing well now and is finally back at school! I’m so proud of my baby and the steps she takes everyday to get better!!!
I'm so glad you're an understanding mother who is proud of her taking each step and celebrating that, it means a lot to a child 🙏 I hope she is getting better
That is really really great that she's better!! I struggle with the same, would you mind if u say how she got better?
I hope she is still doing well ❤
ur an amazing mother
@@phoebe7560as someone that would have a panic attack everyday from just sitting in class. I got over it by just doing it I wouldn’t tell anyone how I was feeling because I already knew what I had is a mental issue so I would forcibly sit through it or go to the restroom and just sit and breathe
Kylee is such a badass, that must have been so traumatizing I can't imagine almost dying and then losing my younger siblings
Badass confirmed!!!!!
Just thinking about losing my actual two younger brothers makes me break down I cant
@@StrayyedAJ fr dude I have a little brother and used to have nightmares about him dying I can't imagiNE
“this was worth pushing myself for” has to be one of the most rewarding things to hear
Anthony’s dedication to his mother at the end has me literally in tears
I straight up had tears in my eyes!!
sobbing for real
Same
😭 K, I've wiped my face dry now.
Literally crying and thinking about my future children 😭😭😭😭 I'm not even pregnant or anything 😂😂😂
Agoraphobia has a spectrum. Some ppl can leave their house but most ppl can’t. Some ppl can’t even leave their bedrooms. Agoraphobia is a panic disorder. My heart truly goes out to all my fellow sufferers, God bless us all! 💜
i have agoraphobia, i can barely leave the house by myself, but i can go to familiar places with my safe people, or friends houses, or doctors appts. there was also a time where i even couldnt do that!
I didn’t realize how addicted to TH-cam I’ve been since isolation started, but now I’m watching TH-cam videos posted “40 seconds ago” 😭😂
I can relate
@@priscillaramona4634 I too
Hannah Venz well you’re an idiot then
That's just me all the time lol
Yes it’s a problem for me too 😭😭. And it’s so sad when you’ve watched everything on your subscriptions list and don’t know what to do then 😂
God this representation is so important. Therapy should be “normal”. I have 3 anxiety disorders and although they aren’t specifically addressed in this series it’s so validating to see people who understand that anxiety is out of our control and is more than a fear of people
I think the main think people need to understand is that people who have anxiety have no control over it, it's never their fault. People need to realise that, I wish people would realise that.
YES. THIS. Like I wish I COULD control it.
Same. My friends are so accepting, thankfully, I've got GAD and some trauma and other shit.
But on the other hand, there are these ppl who pretend to be depressed of having an anxiety disorder or some other shit and just NO.
IT'S NOT COOL OR FUN OR "EDGY".
I hate when people are like “my anxiety is sooo bad” when they don’t have any diagnosed anxiety (I have been diagnosed with extreme anxiety disorder)
@@faery_grl2466 It just really invalidates the genuine suffering people go through. People get nervous all the time, people get anxious too, that's okay. But to say instead that you have anxiety the disorder is just misleading and hurtful to those who really do have it.
whenever Anthony talks to people with some form of anxiety disorder you can tell some parts hit him harder than expected. I just wanted to say thank you to him for not only helping educate people with these videos but also for being open himself and sharing his own experiences. it's comforting to know that someone who online seems "normal" (whatever normal is) is just a human like everyone else and its a good reminder that you never know what is happening in someone's life and to always be kind and considerate. I look forward to these videos every week.
Holly MAHA i believe since his mother has agoraphobia herself and other mental health issues it has made him really empathetic. between that and his own health issues, i think, really gives him that ability to educate people about such misunderstood topics while still making people feel so valid and accepted despite whatever they struggle with.
Hearting this comment because Anthony didn’t see it! ❤️
Feeling like a burden is one of the worst aspects for me. Because when you can’t work and you can’t go out and you can’t contribute you start to venture into some dangerous territory in terms of wondering why you’re still around. If anyone else feels like this just know I’m rooting for you. I hope we all get through it.
I relate to this😩😭
Thanks for this comment you wrote 1 year ago. This I'd EXACTLY how I have felt. I hope life is going well for you and you're surrounded by love. I'm rooting for you too. ❤️
I hope we all get through it too, thank you. :)
Our worthiness is not through our contributions or accomplishments x
Reading this comment brought me a little hope. Thank you. ❤
Anthony is one of the best listeners I’ve ever seen. He seems like the type of guy that you could have a conversation with and not even realize that you’re talking for hours.
Anthony is a good listener because he is curious about these kind of things. He is interested interviewing people who experienced the things that never happened to Anthony.
Anthony: Talks about his mom and how much he loves her
My heart: Melted like the cheese on a pizza 🥺👏😭
YeahitsLeah W I’m eating pizza right now actually
Well now I want pizza
anthony needs to do a video with people who have OCD, because it is SO misunderstood and literally everyone claims they have it. but not just people with contamination OCD but people who have the other types like checking, intrusive thoughts, mental contamination, ruminations yk, it would be really awesome to see that
also when that one lady was talking about how when some people tell others that they have agoraphobia and OCD people say they do too, i have OCD and almost daily at my old school people said they did too and it was so annoying like (ONLY if someone pointed it out otherwise they wouldn't notice) they would say something like "i'm OCD and that table hurts my OCD like if ya gonna pretend you have a disorder at least put it in a sentence that makes sense lmao
yep my cousin has OCD, I don't know which type but it's not the contamination type. I think that video would be very informative bc I remember my first thought when I found out she had it was "but she doesn't seem to overly clean anything" and I can see how many others might think that that's almost the definition of OCD when it's very far from it. I hope you're doing well!
@@LauraLaura-mv4xh yeah it's also a good idea for people like you with family members or friends who have OCD, because idk about other people but i got bullied for it and it would be good for people to have a platform to talk about itt. thank you, you too! :)
Yes oh my gosh thank you for suggesting that. I have been diagnosed with OCD and I agree people just throw it around. It’s completely misunderstood and misrepresented and I’m sure a video made by Anthony would help clear any incorrect misconceptions.
YES YES YES I saw an add that had 3 pencils in a row & 1 pencil was uneven & the caption said “We turned OCD into a game!” With the objective being to straighten the uneven pencil. OCD isnt a game, it’s a life altering disease😠
If school hadn’t assigned a reading project where I read a book from the perspective of a person with OCD, I honestly wouldn’t know anything about it besides the “washing hands” cliche, so I think that video would educate a lot of people. I also think a video interviewing people with ADHD would be super cool because until a few days ago I thought it just meant boys running around during class lol, but actually it’s a lot more complicated than that and can present itself differently in every person. After some research I realized that I have a lot of the symptoms and plan on going to the doctor to see as soon as I work up the nerve to tell my mom. I’m frustrated that I didn’t know about it sooner because I always felt like there was something wrong with me and I was just being lazy, even though I really wanted to focus. Anyways sorry for the long reply haha I hope Anthony sees your comment
15:23 this conversation, this was great, its 100% how I feel with my social anxiety, wanting to be a responsible adult but not being able to have a job, and getting so upset that I have to live off my parents, the hardest is when your called lazy..
@Ssilnah hope u do
Ah, I hate being called lazy. It's like completely disregarding the reasons and emotions to your actions.
THIS THIS THIS OH MY GODDDD I get called lazy all the time, or told to "just try harder" and I'm so god damn sick of hearing it! We're NOT lazy, we LITERALLY CANNOT DEAL WITH THE LEVEL OF ANXIETY WE ARE FEELING. IT IS AN INVOLUNTARY REACTION AND WE ALMOST CANNOT CONTROL IT AT ALL. Sorry but I hear this all the time and it makes me so mad not to respond when I hear it. Hope you have a good day and that your anxiety was as managed as possible! 🤙❤
@@UndeadRed Hey, thankyou, ive seen two psychiatrists and thought talking it out doesnt help much they have taught me alot about how to explain anxiety and understand why i am the way i am. an easy way of explaining it is everyone has the survival instinct of fight or flight, people with anxiety have a very strong flight instinct, when something goes wrong or they are in a difficult situation their body goes into survival mode and their natural instinct is to get the hell away from the danger (sometThing as simple as asking a stranger a question can cause this) this is why after an anxiety attack and the adrenaline shock you feel very tired, you might even find that you may feel unwell for a few days because your immune system drops . anxiety isnt "just" a mental disorder, anxiety can eventually take a toll on your body and health, its so important that we dont just "live with it and avoid the scary things" but try to work on ourselves every day, even if its something as small as walking into a store and asking if they have a shirt your size.
i hope you are also going well :]
SAME I have a SEVERE panic disorder and terrible agoraphobia had terrible experiences with mental health facilities and overall never got the right treatment I am now 17 turning 18 still haven’t got a job yet and overall literally cannot function in society because of it. I’m literally considered disabled now just waiting for the response to get financial benefits but having the feeling of being a burden is the worse, my mom is an immigrant who works and also has to take care of me which absolutely breaks me having to see her life carrying me its something I wish I couldn’t live with to make her life better.
When he looked at the camera and said “mom you’re not a burden” I started crying. Anthony, the people on your life are so lucky to have you and we (your fans) are so lucky too. Thanks for everything you do
No problem mate 👍
I did the same thing. I love how much he cares for his mother.💛
Alexis your comment is really beautiful and you are so right. His empathy is so *vivid* and (in my eyes) undoubtedly genuine. You cannot fake that level of patience and understanding. I'm truly grateful to be able to watch these interviews
6a6y lam6 Thanks love, I agree 100%. He’s a rare type of person to come across these days
Me too 🥺
Hearing Anthony say "You're not a burden" even if it wasn't directed to the audience almost made me cry. I always feel like a burden to everyone and I just needed that at the moment.
I also want to thank Anthony for all of his interview, especially on mental health or physical health, where he always treat people with so much respect and don't push his guess to talk about traumatic event, those interview are the most respectful interview I have ever seen. So for all your work, thank you!
Same. I feel like a burden whenever I cry or don't seem completely happy.
You are not a burden, your emotions are valid. You deserve to express emotions and have your needs met ❤
I did too.💜
I almost cried too. Although people would argue that I'm not a burden I feel like it a lot of the time
It made me cry ㅜㅜ
In a way, weirdly this series has really rekindled my faith in how there are people who are inherently good
Jimjamz Same. I’m still a bitter old bitch though.
Same 😊 there are some good ones out there. I try to remind myself of that
Mykie: what accessories are you gonna wear?
Anthony: *yes*
I was LIVING for those flamboyant hands covered in bling 😅🤣
*clink* *jingle*
I LOVE the rings so much
I was about to say he looked ridiculously minimalistic but then he started talking with his hands and then I saw all the bling
I teared up when that woman genuinely said, "this was worth pushing myself for"
“i kinda consider myself a train wreck”
GIRL SAME
Did you miss the part about things they don't want to hear?
Can we just take a second to appreciate that Anthony takes all this time to make great videos that are factually correct and important! ❤
Reese Weeks nah it’s all about the money 💰💰
His videos should be shown in classes to educate people on these kinds of topics
Reese Weeks yesss we love
T e e G e e T i n k s I agree
Jacob ♥️
I started bawling when you said "if you woke up and didnt have agoraphobia what would you do" I have agoraphobia and multiple other mental and physical diseases and disabilities. And my only answer was to get my surgeries that i need.... its life or death now with the infection in my jaw and agoraphobia and now the lock down.... I just wanna go get help... I just want my surgery.... I'm so tired of being so sick and tired.....😭😭😭😭
This comment really got to me because my agoraphobia prevented me from going to a doctor for something really serious when I was younger. I'm so sorry that you're going through this but I promise you it will get better if you just hold on. You must be going through serious hell especially right now because of everything going on and all I can say is that I truly believe in you and even though I don't know you I'm sending you virtual love and good thoughts
I hope you get help for your agoraphobia and jaw soon. You deserve to live in good health and at ease.
dont worry, you WILL get the help you need. This will be over soon and you can get your jaw fixed. I hope your anxiety is soothed by knowing there are hundreds of random people rooting for you.
@@nicolestark373 thank you so much 😭😭😭 oh my gosh. I cant even begin to say how much this means to me... it sucks for the sole fact that I was taking the strides to try to get the surgery done and then we got on lockdown. I keep having doctors tell me that I was too medically complex for them to comfortably work on me. We have called dozens of new doctors near everyday to try to get in contact with one that will help. It's been a real bumpy ride. Holy cow. I didnt think my comment would get this much traction especially from Anthony as well 😭 just said what came from my heart. While beaches sound nice, I just wanna be able to get my surgeries done hassle free, anxiety free.
Thank you again. So much for your kind words.
@@emilialoubanoff4281 yes yes yes! And thank you so much 😭😭😭 this means so much to me...
Important note from a therapist: agoraphobia is not just “I don’t want to leave the house”. That’s a super common misconception! Agoraphobia is that if we are not with a “safe” person or near a “safe” place then we will feel panicked and unsafe. So most people with agoraphobia are able to leave the house, but feel limited sometimes by distance away from home or doing things by themselves ❤ love your videos!! Just wish this had been addressed
This is me. I can go to work, stores, restaurants etc. as long as they are in my safe zone. But I cannot do elevators or go outside my area. I have not been to the beach I’m years and I love the beach. I tried this weekend and turned around almost halfway there. I felt like I wasn’t going to be safe even though I wasn’t alone. I was so angry at myself. I disappointed myself but most importantly, my kid. This was going to be her first trip to the beach.
I always explained it as my safe places are “islands” and anything between them is rough ocean I have to sail through. I can only leave the house with my boyfriend, he’s basically the captain of my ship
@@WaryfaerieSame here, you put it very well
@@reginamcadory674I had to make sure I didn’t write this!! I’m 42 y/o woman and I have this exact experience. I too love the beach and we live about 4 hours from Florida’s beautiful emerald coast. I haven’t been in over 20 years. I have one daughter and she is now 16. I’ve had agoraphobia since my junior yr of high school, but found it got much worse once my baby started growing up. My 30’s were riddled with self-hate and loathing…and drinking. I had so much guilt for not being able to go on family vacations or even drive her alone out of my “comfort zone”. As she gets older, I do find it getting somewhat better. It definitely ebbs and flows on a spectrum. I still have issues if my “safe people” are unreachable and when I’m completely alone and unable to contact my husband or my mom. I am able to go out alone as well, but to a certain extent. I started doing exposure therapy again this past year, and I’ve gotten 3 hrs away from home (with my husband) to go have some fun, which is HUGE as you know. I still do not take elevators…ever. No stairs, no deal. It’s nice to share community with others who can relate. We will get to the beach again, and will appreciate it more than anyone could know!❤
i love how they are in a tv on a chair i just think that’s such a cute detail😭
Anthony is interviewer goals, he listens to his guests & never interrupts them. He is so genuine & empathetic.
He should become a therapist! 🙌
Mal Rosette he probably shouldn’t...
@@squidge4728 why?
@@Wildmetalhead Cuz therapy is way more than just interviewing lol
@@Bram_Duin Uhm okay I know.. and wasn't meaning that? I just think he has the skills to attribute to one and also seems like he'd be a good fit as a therapist because he knows what he's saying and it would benefit others greatly. That's all.
I’d love to see “I spent a day with adults with ADHD.” I personally have ADHD and my adult life seems to be drastically different than other neurotypical adults. ADHD is so widely misunderstood as a disorder and everyone seems to only understand it in terms of kids in school.
Sabrina Cook
Yes! This would mean so much to me
Sabrina Cook I think that’s important because so many people say “oh I’m so adhd” and people think adhd is fun or funny but it’s really not it’s actually really tough
Feels.
8 times, just now, I started writing a reply, but lost track of where I was going each time I started over with a different sentence... and now it's 27min later. So I gave up and wrote this, because I think it's a pretty good summary of how I'm affected...
P.S. once I started writing the above, the following sentences were backspaced more times than I can remember, because my mind kept jumping to a new sentence option & forgetting what I was just writing. And I have proof read this so many times to make sure it makes sense & isn't going off on tangents. Technically this is a tangent.
It is now 42min later.
I am dead serious.
43min.
SAME I REALLY WANT HIM TO DO THAT ESPECIALLY WITH ADULTS WITH ADHD
This would be amazing. People don't believe that adhd is as debilitating as it is.
Just 5 or so years ago, I couldn’t even walk too close to the front door of my house without having a panic attack. Now I can stand outside of my house alone (for short periods of time) and go for car rides, etc. Progress is slow but considering I never thought I’d be able to do these things, I’m proud of the work I’ve put in.
Well done, small steps are better than no steps is the motto I live by, I also have agoraphobia and cannot leave my house, I am slowly working on it
I'm so sorry for you, everytime I sleep somewhere I'm unfamiliar with I get a panic attack so I cannot even imagine that feeling with going outside especially in the society we live in
CEO of being respectful and loving his mom
I broke down crying when you said, "The people around you help you because they love you and care about you and want you to feel safe. You're not a burden."
I am disabled and have been my whole life. I definitely feel like a leech, and it's actually the primary reason why I feel so embarrassed whenever I talk about being disabled and whenever I have to mention that I live at home. I don't think I've ever heard it explained that way when we (disabled people) talk about feeling like leeches. Nobody has ever really said anything before that has made me feel like I'm *not* a burden on my family. Thank you.
Don't ever feel burdened. Your family truly loves you!
I know exactly how you feel. I don't know what your disability is but I can only tell you how awful it is for the disability to be on the inside. I suffer with sever cptsd, social anxiety and gad. And I hate whenever I have to meet new people because I know I have to explain why I am not able to work. And because in my country, people are quite morons when it comes to mental illnesses. If it's something like schizophrenia where the symptoms are showing, you get labelled as crazy. And if it's something that only you are experiencing on the inside, you get labelled as lazy and get told that you're only using it as an excuse to not do stuff. How the hell am I supposed to not feel worthless when I get nothing but judgement from people around me? Not to mention how ALONE that makes me feel. I haven't been able to find a single person that understands my struggles in over 10 years, it's that bad...
Hey man, you matter. Without you, history might’ve been different. Even if you have disabilities, that doesn’t stop you from accomplishing your dreams and goals. Who knows, maybe when you get older, you can make a big change in the world.
It sucks though being told you are a burden. It’s little comments like “I have to take time out of my day to take you to therapy” and it makes you feel so unworthy and like you are wasting time and resources.
I know how you feel. I have two rare autoimmune diseases. And it’s hard knowing that I can’t work full time and take care of my elderly mother because I need so much help myself.
The worst thing is you can never tell if someone has it. So when people think I’m panicking from these small interactions like someone getting to close or looking at me weirdly. People judge and it hurts especially if you can’t breathe and your trying to get your air back and your trying to think clearly and move but everything shuts down and it’s embarrassing when people witness it
There are so many physical symptoms. I used to throw up on the spot. Was terrible meeting new people or going out. I’m thankful for this video!
I feel that :( my "friend" used to get mad at me because when she would stand too close to me I'd ask her to step back because it triggered my anxiety and she thought it was just me being mean for a while until I had a full panic attack because of it ;-; super embarrassing to try and explain...
I'm so sorry you have to deal with that! I've got ptsd so I totally understand feeling embarrassed by the reactions of your disorder.
That's awful :( what is the best thing someone can do to help in a situation like that? If i were to witness that i would absolutely want to help but don't want to make matters worse for the person ❤
I would love to see a "I spent a day with Indigenous people" theres so much stuff to be talked about. Conditions of reservations, murder of indigenous women, misconceptions on money, etc.
Thats nice experience :)
Agreed ❤️
I’m white washed because by grandma is very Norwegian, but- I’m also Native American, and I guess I can say indigenous- cause like I guess- but no one knows because I came out the whom looking like a piece of paper
i think the issue with this is that Indigenous people are not a monolith -- we are a racial group and a political identity. Anthony doesn't really do videos like that. The vast majority of us Native people also do not live on reservations. That's a stereotype and I think if that was a major theme within a video, it wouldn't do our people justice. If you are interested in these answers to your questions, there are so many resources, books, articles, interviews, podcasts, influencers, etc etc that already talk about their experiences and break down these stereotypes. I say this all with love and hope you are able to understand.
-- An Indigenous person (who is also agoraphobic!) :)
I just want to hug the MySpace girl. She is so cute and I cried hearing her story. She is so strong and I am so blown away by their bravery for telling their story. Hugs to everyone on this video. You are all loved and wonderful. ❤
I'm crying too, my heart hurt when she told her story
The thing with feelings of shame associated with "feeling like a burden", that's not a mental issue, it's a social issue. Shame is a social feeling, it's a relational emotion through and through, and like you said, the mantra in the USA is that everything is earned, even dignity, and that all value is derived from usefulness. Pragmatism, meritocracy, utilitarianism, it all stems from a staged belief in individual "virtue" through work, as a way to evaluate self worth, and capitalism in essence is designed to embody that belief, it's a social system designed to evaluate worth on an individual level in markets that are construed as fair and equally opportunistic. That's why you need "good credit" to find even the crappiest of crappy dwellings, your market value and your personal value as a human being have been merged, if you have good credit, you're a good person. Bad credit, bad person. Easy a pie. And I'd add that it's that way because communities and solidarity are dangerous forces for progress, the "market" is not. It's a gambling field, you may have the best hand, but if you can't afford to play at the big table.... tough luck. Whoever has the deepest pockets can generate a cult of personality, why? Because they "proved their election". Just like Beyoncé said, best revenge is your paper. (She MIGHT be a black Bill Gates in the making!) It fuels everything in American society, from reality TV to new protestant religious movements to televised sports to Elon Musk to Alex Jones to Donald Trump. Your political system, social system, economical system is all based on that simple lie, or illusion, that one's dignity and worth relies heavily on their financial success and autonomy.
Since it's already tl;dr, lemme go off: without the "self-made" illusion, such an inequalitarian society couldn't thrive! The only way power and money can remain into the hands of the "elected few", is if the people at the "bottom" believe that they are there because they deserve to be (the poor, the disabled, the marginal, the disenfranchised, those who have one or more discriminating risk factors tied to their gender, age, origins, cultural identity, etc.), because they supposedly CAN and SHOULD be able to rise to the top if they are worthy, and "hustle", work hard enough. The powerful can legitimize their privilege through that lens of "hard work" and "merit", but to do so, they can't admit that there are systemic roadblocks preventing other, more or as deserving people to take their "hard earned" place in the world, or the whole edifice upon which they built their own self-worth is gone. It's not like they're gonna go "Oh well! Guess we didn't deserve it that much after all!", no... Like Tucker Carlson, they'll fight for their unfair share of the pie, like those parents from the college admissions scandal (before they got caught). They feel ENTITLED to it. About that scandal... we'll put up a show once in a while, to reaffirm the myth. Sacrifice a few perceived "offenders" to the collective consciousness, to preserve the image of a working system. As we do with Wall Street and other white-collar crimes, send one or two in jail for fraud, or "cancel" a company or two. We like to pretend like their actions weren't perfectly in line with the business model, but the results of a "few bad apples".. Just like we'll use different terms for white mass shooters ("mentally unstable individual" vs "terrorist"). Because admitting that their actions are tied to their culture means questioning our OWN culture, our own societal flaws. And we don't like to think of ourselves as a society, even less a flawed one! MURICA THE GREAT! Furthermore, we like to think of ourselves as a group of individuals, as "Maggie" once famously said. Especially when someone fucks up. When they succeed, then perhaps we can risk a little "he's one of us!"... It's kinda like a parent whose kid turned out a killer, "We didn't raise him that way! Not my fault! No way!", but if that same kid had become a doctor, or a lawyer, the parents would want to believe they had a hand in setting him up for success. (It's more complicated than that, it's about more than just family influence, the example is grotesque, but you get the idea..)
Even though we know from over a century of social science that class mobility is at best very limited, this "lottery of success" has kept american society going for a while, and selfish behaviors are usually rewarded better than social care and solidarity. Domestic work is not considered worthy, because we used to have slaves, and then women for that, working for free. Now the rich pay the poor to do that "degrading" work. Feminists have written extensively about the devaluation of domestic work, and invisible labor. We're seeing now how poorly the "true heroes" of society are being treated, the people who care for others are often underpaid, and often seen as a threat to the elites (think of doctors vs nurses). Politicians of that mindset are more inclined to "sacrifice others" (such a fucking oxymoron) without their consent, to let the weak and the poor die "working the fields", or "keeping the economy afloat", as they say. That's also why they don't want a dignified universal health care, one which you don't have to "earn" access to. Same with education. If you get too smart, you'll come to realize the subterfuge, and without steep loans to pay back, you'll be free to create your own opportunities, inspire and uplift your communities, instead of having to work off that loan for more than half your active life for a tiny slice of "capital pie", and maybe a bit of enjoyment after you "retire" from that miserable job you kept because of the family insurance plan and the minimal safety it provided for you and your loved ones. There's only so much "risk" a young graduate can take when they are responsible for others, which is probably why the wealthy and aspiring "tycoons" don't reproduce as much, and later in life.
IN CONCLUSION, haha... You are more than just your resume. Everyone is "useful" and should have the same right to a dignified existence. You can choose stuff, sure, but none of us are completely free from systemic structures that precede us. You are, WE are groomed for labor, not unlike cattle, learning from a young age to submit and obey rules and not question people in positions of power too much. Education doesn't only serve that nefarious role though, as only through education, through knowing how lightly or heavily determined and influenced by outside forces your existence really is, can you really free yourself from those dynamics, and learn to value yourself differently, based on less falsely darwinistic ideals. (The fittest is not always the richest, as we've seen of late! *coughs*) There's no shame in not knowing something, as long as you can admit it, it's not about intellectual elitism, but about the difference between freedom and "freedumb", or the right to be right all the time like a fucking narcissistic idiot. It's a real issue. A problem acknowledged is a problem half solved, they say... There's no shame in wanting to feel valued by the people around you, and the only thing in the way is that ONE idea. That really deeply ingrained idea that you are only worth what you can produce and offer on a market. I hope that after reading this, you don't feel as much like a "burden". It's not you, it's US. (As in WE, not as in United States, but pun accepted.. lol) And if you made it to the end...CONGRATS! You get a PhD in reading more than 140 characters from Internet University! YOU get a degree, and YOU get a degree! FREE OF CHARGE, mofos! lol Meanwhile, I spent more than an hour drafting an essay in a youtube comment section, so that you can benefit from my education. I won't be getting royalties, so if you feel like leaving a comment, or a like, I'll accept those in exchange for my free labor! ;) haha Gimme the "care", I value it greatly!
Thanks for taking the time and writing that! Such a well-written, true and important read.
oh wow. i think this is the longest youtube comment (that wasn't the bee movie) that i've seen. that was amazing!
It appalls me that people genuinely believe people's worth is based off of how much money they make or how fiscally successful they are. But they do!!! THEY DO!!! I've met real people who believe that. It makes me so angry. The system is rigged against you and you still think it's righteous? Ugh.
Thanks for writing this though. This was very well-thought out.
We love a TED talk.
Hey, sometimes reality can't conveniently fit into a bite size format explanation! xD Complex things require complex analysis. We are also taught that the simplest answer is often the right answer, that's not always true! I think it's a bias of our model, to atomize everything and hyperspecialize so much that each part of the whole feels too overwhelmed to think of the whole without catching a headache. We lose sight of the big picture focusing on the smaller, more manageable thing, ourselves, our families, but we lose sight of the purpose.
As Carl Sagan famously said, we live in a world dominated by technology and a fraction of us only can explain how technology works. Division of labor, to the point where the guy that makes the nails doesn't know what a hammer does. That didn't quite work out too great for a lot of the scientists on the Manhattan Project... Losing sight of the roots of why we do what we do can lead to normalizing something that is fundamentally flawed. Thus impairing us from ever being able to fix it. Doesn't mean we have to be radicals all the time, that would be exhausting, but sometimes we should go further, and dig deeper. No one should have to live their lives thinking they are a burden, there are no weak links in this chain, we're all related, we all have the same limited time to do the best we can on this planet, with limited knowledge and information to guide us, all we can do is try and leave it better than we found it for our fellow humans in the next generation.
I'm a teacher out of work right now, so might as well keep doing my part, even if it's just to a few people on the internet! I don't need to get paid to get value out of what I do, a few likes and comments is ample reward! Thanks for taking the time to read.
I would love to see an "I spent a day with people with eating disorders"
Edit: and I would love to see Binge Eating Disorder, included in that
It'd be nice for ARFID eating disorders too because that's extremely rare and I'd love for that to be covered.
Yeeeeeeessss!! I would love to see other people in recovery or who have recovered from whatever eating disorder they are suffering from or did suffer from
Totally but it needs to be more than one video! One with Bulimia and Anorexia and Binge eating disorder (the more common ones)
And one with EDNOS and diabulimia and other more rare ED's.
@@m0rior I've never heard of diabulimia. I need to look up what that is now.
@@kaikouchickamatsu we Stan education 🥺 diabulimia is a condition where type one diabetic people purposely give themselves less insulin to lose weight. Wikipedia's article is pretty good if you want to know more ♥️
"But I love when it rains, cause I'm agoraphobic."
Ayyy
Corpse? :)
@@pretty_fork1907 yes💞💞
:D
Why I clicked. I stayed bc I love this content.
That poor woman was almost murdered and then after enduring that she lost the brothers who got her through it all. That is heartbreaking.
My heart is absolutely shattered for Kylee. She’s so strong for getting through everything she has been through.
My heart is shattered for everyone of them
I don’t get these sorts of comments, what exactly do you mean by “getting through”? What else was she supposed to do but to keep living.
Blue Balloons she could of easily given up and knocked herself off?
She is very strong to have been able to go through that
"Can I just call myself a trainwreck?" Is it bad that I heavily relate to that statement?
You're so brave
I dont know why but the fact you have a Rontaro pfp adds to this
Kaitlin Barnard not just any Rantaro! A goth Rantaro
I do too
Can we just take a sec to appreciate how understanding and kind Anthony is?
I think I've wanted to squish him on every video I've seen so far. Especially the ones where he wears soft, fuzzy sweaters. He's just so kind to everyone, it's very touching. He could sell hugs for charity.
ive been wanting anthony to do an "anxiety disorders" episode for soo long because of his own mental health & his mother's, everytime he brings up anxiety i feel so validated
trivia seesaw outsold me too!! And for the same reason. I hope a lot of people thumb this up so that he sees this!
Yes me too! Panic and anxiety disorders are seriously highly undermined and looked at by society as things only “insane” people have but that aren’t actually common, but they are one of the most common type of disorder and we need to be heard and respected
@Alexis great question! they manifest similarly, for example i only leave my house six times a month because of my social anxiety, but they have two different root fears. its public vs social. so while neither are gonna hang out at a coffee shop, the agoraphobic's fear is about the place and the sociophobic's fear is about the people.
Emma Bunch-Benson They can look very similar, but the difference is that if a place doesn't have other people (or very few people) those with certain degrees of social anxiety could handle it while those with agoraphobia will not be able to because it is still a public space. Also, those with social anxiety also are fearful of how others view them while those with agoraphobia do not experience it to the same degree (if not diagnosed with social anxiety as well) and if they do feel that way it may just be because of society's views and not from a fear like social anxiety.
Those suffering from any anxiety will search for something as safe, such as a home, certain habits like washing hands, or an item. Those with social anxiety may pick their home as something safe like those with agoraphobia, but those with social anxiety could have something else as a safe space while those with agoraphobia, the only safe space is their home.
Yeah I would love to see an episode on that and eating disorders tbh
The thing that makes me the most mad is ,ppl say "it's in ur head","stop victimizing yourself","get over it" words from my father.
Ughh he aint shit sis. Never been it, will not ever be the shit.
That’s awful, I remember at school being told I didn’t have agoraphobia because I would come to school... but you’re the only one that feels your feelings, don’t let others tell you what your feelings are or how much they matter
Stop feeling sorry for yourself is my pet peeve, its true you shoukd try not to dwell and to others the situation might seem small but its easier saud than done to just shut off my emotions
@@naomijenkins7848 She's just frustrated at people's lack of empathy & respect & I bet she feels sorry for those type of people, not herself.
@@jinijinxer97 whos she?? Im referencing my mum but i never mentioned her
When she said that when she explains her conditions people go “oh yeah me too” I felt that. I have ADD, anxiety disorder, and chronic depressive disorder, and it’s so incredibly annoying when ignorance is mixed with sympathy. I wish there was more accurate explanations of disorders especially ADD/ADHD cause many believe that it’s not even a real disorder. I’m really glad that Anthony is shedding light on mental illnesses.
My dad has ADHD, but since it's not severe and the medication made him feel "dull," he doesn't use medication. My mom literally does not believe it's real, which sucks because I think I have it, my dad thinks I have it, my grandmother thinks I have it, now all I'm waiting for is a diagnosis.
I entirely agree with your point on the combination of ignorance and sympathy. I have a story that is entirely based on harmful ignorance:
My parents suck (I don't really want to go into details because the details of events can be triggering for me), and one time I had a really bad night with my mom and I was absolutely miserable the next day. I have depression, anxiety, trust issues, and possibly trauma from life with my parents. If a situation with them is triggering enough for me, I will get a little dissociative amnesia. I know the event happened, I know basics like I walked to the porch, I ran to the bathroom, stuff like that, but I don't know 99% of what was said, what was done. Remember that.
One of my friends (friend 1) asked me why I was acting weird and I told him I had a bad night with my mom. Another friend of mine (friend 2) was there with me, he knew what my parents were like, so I just said I had a problem with my parents last night. Friend 2 (the one who knows about my parents) pushed me to tell him what happened, but I said I didn't want to talk about it, especially not in the middle of the cafeteria. He kept pushing me, and I finally said that my mom had gotten drunk and said some awful things. Friend 1 wanted me tell him what she said, and I said that I don't remember. Friend 1 said, "Of course you remember, it happened yesterday." So, based on things my mom has said that I *do* remember, I told them. Friend 1 literally said, and I quote, "That's not a reason to be upset. Everyone's parents do that. My life is so much worse and you don't see me complaining about it all the time." and Friend 2, who KNOWS WHAT MY MOM HAS DONE, *AGREED WITH HIM.* I just got up and left, one of my other friends came with me and she let me just cry in the bathroom with her. To this day I still don't trust either of them with talking about my parents because they don't know, and they will never understand what life was like for me.
This is an example of ignorance (and being a huge prick) that can cause severe harm to someone. I have had less intense situations with Friend 2 trying to relate to me, he has depression and PTSD from a sexual encounter. He tries to relate with me on that, and while he has some similar mental troubles, they aren't the same because they were bred from completely different situations. I don't relate to every female just because we're both female, and you can't do that to someone who has depression. Sure, we have some symptoms in common, but the overall cause and effect of the depression are different.
I'm perfectly fine with people trying to have sympathy, I'm fine if you say, "hey, I've had a panic attack before," that's perfectly fine, but when you start trying to invalidate what I feel and what I've been through because, "Oh yeah, I've been through that, too." No, you haven't. I'm sure you've been in situations where you have similar feelings, but you haven't lived through it.
Sorry for the long rant lol, not entirely sure if all of this makes sense, I just started writing and ended up venting tbh. Probably gonna confront Friend 2 about this situation and some point, but considering he makes fat jokes to me when I eat a lot (I had anorexia a little over a year ago, btw, and he knew about it), he won't give a f*ck.
holy shit, we have the same mental illnesses
...yay?
Lyn Creatives I can relate to that. I don’t feel comfortable going into all the details, but I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, and a severe depressive disorder. So many people equate feelings of sadness or disappointment with depression as a mental illness. I’m all about being there for people, but it kind of hurts when people dismiss my mental illness as just “normal” feelings. I’m in the process of recovery, and it makes me so happy that influencers bring light to these situations. 🌸💖
I’ve got adhd and what people actually think it’s like shocks me all of the time. I struggle a lot because of my adhd and I just get told:
*Me: Adhd is actually pretty hard, I’ve got way more struggles than people actually think.*
“It’s not even a bad thing, you just have energy”
*Me: I breakdown multiple times a day because I hear everything all of the time, not being able to stop it. It’s because I can’t focus at all.*
“Umm, that’s because of you, not adhd, lack of concentration doesn’t do that”
*Me: Forgot to take my sleeping medication last night so I couldn’t sleep all night until 5am for an hour, I was so tired but it was impossible.*
“Omg, me too, I was trying to sleep last night and I like couldn’t”
*Me: oh, I’ve got adhd.*
“I think I’ve got that too, I move my leg a lot”
*Me once again: oh, I’ve got adhd.*
“It’s not even a real thing, you probably just have more energy than some other people”
*Me: *lists multiple things I struggle with because of my adhd**
“You can’t have struggles like that with adhd”
“Why do you get to listen to music in class, I want to do it too!”
*Me: I’m unable to ignore anything, especially sounds, so when I listen to music I can focus on my schoolwork for some reason.*
“Just ignore the sounds, it’s easy, just focus”
i felt exactly the same way, except in reference to ocd and anxiety disorder. people need to realise that these are real, debilitating mental illnesses and it makes me so happy to see Anthony talk about these topics with such an understanding and respect.
That self-proclaimed “trainwreck” has a heartbreaking story. My stomach sank listening to her story of surviving the attack.
Every night I get panic attacks. I dread when the sun goes down. I have so much trouble breathing and get scared I will die
im so glad im not alone. Ive had this situation for the past 13 years.
Wow, I had the exact same experience. I remember how derealizing and depersonalizing it was when the sun would start setting. It genuinely became impossible to sleep and from the moment I'd wake up until the moment I went to bed I'd be phasing in and out out of derealization. That feeling you get as if you're watching someone else moving your arms in front of you like in a first person video game and nothing around you exists or feels real is traumatizing. I don't quite get why it would hit especially hard when the sun started setting. Either way though I feel like I'm mostly through it all somehow. I thought I was going to develop schizophrenia for nearly a month straight and wouldn't be able to dream without feeling that terrible feeling of derealization then next morning. I legitimately had a phobia of dreaming for a large chunk of time. All of it lasted for about 3 months and depression and anxiety have strongly lingered ever since and I maybe had all but 2 panic attacks that might've lasted a minute in the following 7 months but overall the severe dissociating anxiety is over and I hope it's plateauing for you by any degree. Not sure if hearing my experience will be helpful at all, I have no idea if I'm a lucky case to not have had any more dissociation after 3 months of it being consistent or if it's at all common to grow past it. Either way it's not the end of your life to experience this for the rest of it, if it is the case and you still experience it, the only thing you can do is accept that it's apart of who you are. You gotta own it somehow even if you don't want to.
this comment was posted months ago but i hope you'll still see this. I understand the feeling you're describing, I didn't feel it every night but sometimes it was so overwhelming I couldn't do anything but sit in my room feeling like I was in some sort of danger and sometimes had panic attacks. I talked about it with my therapist at the time and she said something very interesting: isn't that what animals feel in the wild? when the sun goes down they know they have to hide or they'll be exposed to predators. I believe this feeling is a manifestation of our instincts as daytime creatures. The more I thought about it the more it made sense, and understanding where that terrible feeling came from helped me overcome it. I know everything in life is different for everyone, but I hope my experience can help you in some way or another :) stay strong, things get better
Me too!!!! At 1730 every damn night I start getting panic attacks. Sun goes down and I am done. It’s weird.
Me too! I was just telling my friend that as soon as the sun goes down it’s like a different world. And I honestly thought I was crazy and the only one this happened to. I want to cry bc I kno I’m not alone and it’s not in my head. This never happened to me until a year ago
Anthony would be such a great therapist. He's so great at listening and I've never seen him invalidate anyone for the way they feel. His patience and compassion is absolutely incredible. Keep up the great work.
You know you're stalking TH-cam too much when you see this 30 seconds after it's posted and you don't have notifications on.
Rashel Cadeau so true though dude. You did the same thing? Coincidence I think not
fuck I think you're right
Quarantine really do be doing us like this
Frfr lmfao
Turn your notifications on guys!!!
I have been completely housebound because of Agoraphobia since 2005, I am so thankful to find this video, I think a lot of people think 'why don't you just go outside?' there is a lot more to it and not being able to go across the threshold is so difficult beyond words and I have not seen much information about it. When they were asked 'how does the quarantine affect you?' I said out loud 'it doesn't affect me my routine is the exact same'. I always feel like such a burden and do not contribute to the world. Thank you so much for this video and I hope your mother and everyone else in the video is doing well
You are NOT a burden Omg :( !!! You have to live your life how YOU feel comfortable abs safe
i was agoraphobic due to panic disorder and it was fuckin harsh. i don’t know if it works the same for everyone but i was able to mostly overcome agoraphobia by going into the situations that made me panic and uncomfortable until they weren’t uncomfortable anymore
Wow, that's my birth year, I can't imagine being inside that whole time. I hope you are able to overcome your fears one day
Anthony talking about his mother made me cry a little.
it's so sweet :(
Her plushies. Bru they were judging me. Staring into my soul
sans
sans
I love how when she was telling Anthony about her story he didnt make her feel like she has to finish her story. How he cares more about her safety and her being okay than having the whole story for his interview
DoodleRo that just shows how incredible of a person and interviewer Anthony is. He was born for this job.
So watching this again two years later. I have had agoraphobia for 10 years. It was so crippling that I couldn’t step out of my house for more than 5 minutes at a time at its worst. 2 years ago my family and I moved across the country to our new home. I have had several small adventures and experienced different things I thought i would never be able to do. For my fellow agoraphobics, there is hope!! I never thought I could do this ever. Taking baby steps and you are stronger than you give yourself credit for! My biggest hugs to all of you. You are not alone and you are so loved!
And to Anthony, that part where you told your mom you are not a burden and that whenever she wants to you will take her to the beach hits so close to home. I am 28 and a mom to 3 and can relate to your mom’s story so much. I know we are around the same age but you are such an incredible son and big hugs to you as well. Your series is incredible and thank you for giving people a voice who aren’t heard very much.
That is so cool to hear : ] I’m really happy for you, I hope you keep progressing:] it may be slow at times but I’m sure you’ve learned first hand, how time heals.
I completely feel you! I’ve been dealing with it for about 5 years now and the most I’ve accomplished is walking around my neighborhood, but everytime I complete a walk I feel like I’ve accomplished something. I think being consistent in pushing yourself is what really makes a difference. I’ve fallen back many times where I do a walk and then don’t for weeks or months and it sets me back… so keep pushing yourself, even if it’s just a little, everyday!
Anthony you rock!!! My mom has agoraphobia and my sister and I would go on vacation to the beach every year! 😊
I'm very curious how the girl who almost got killed got out of it...that was really scary
She said how. She begged for her life. Assuming he let her go
She explained how she got into that situation, she doesn't have to explain her trauma motion by motion if she doesn't want too.
@@angiiemarie6097 i never said she had to lol? i just said i was curious about how one gets out of such an intense situation
justeliza I was wondering that too! Of course she doesn’t have to talk about it but it did seem to be a very hopeless situation and I doubt that he just let her go after he was so determined to go through with his plan. I really really feel for the girl and I hope she knows what a strong person she is❤️
Anthony, thank you so much for interviewing Kylee-- She's my sibling and I love them with all my heart and this meant the world to her. She was calling me days in advance of the interview nervous as all hell and I just knew her charm would win you over. Thank you!
I'm thankful he interviewed her too! I've followed her on Instagram for a few months now, and she's such an amazing person. I'm so glad that she got such a big opportunity to share her experiences and spread awareness all at the same time. It's really amazing to see!
@Crow yeah! I'll tell her💕
Can you please tell her she's strong and beautiful!🖤
@@sdrpicasso1847 I will! The comments have been so sweet😚
Mad respect for your sister!
I’m an autistic girl who was warned to be disabled and was emotionally and mentally abused for being the way I am. My agoraphobia was caused by a giant meltdown from being overstimulated trying to go to college when I couldn’t handle it and i clawed scars into my arm and was dissociative... I was always called a brat and spoiled and ungreatful. It’s been terrifying to be so sick and be constantly screamed at and shamed. I just want help and to be me. I’m tired of all the obstacles of ableism.....
I relate to you so much.. university literally threw me under the bus I already had problems with social anxiety, unattentive DAD and extreme sensitivity but going to Uni was so overwhelming I ended up not living my apartment except for classes (and even that began to be to much).
Alyce Renae I’m scared to go to college because I have panic attacks out in public, when I got a job I kept having panic attacks before and durning work bc the public setting and pressure was too much for me. I’m not diagnosed with anything, but I’m scared to move onto college because I think I’m not ready and the anxiety will get in the way of having a normal college experience. I don’t know what diagnosis I can get, but if the get one and get on meds I guess it’ll help.
Goddess Sage If getting a diagnosis and going on meds is a possibility for you, I would strongly advise you to do it. Without therapy and medication, I wouldn’t be able to have a job, or even have the energy to leave my house. I wish you the best!
The same thing happened to me when I was 8. I'm also autistic and I just had a complete meltdown. Since then, I've never been able to step outside the house on my own. I'm 23 now. I'm surrounded by supportive people, luckily, but I'm also surrounded by strong, independent people and I'm constantly comparing myself to them. I'm not actually diagnosed with agoraphobia, but I have just finished my six month intensive therapy and we talked a lot about agoraphobia, and it just seemed to fit.
I write publicly about myself, my struggles, my understanding of my autism, my anxiety, and it feels good to get things out in the open
University had not been fun at all for me. It requires so many social interactions and I just couldn't do it most of the time because of my social anxiety. Add the fact that everyone seems to be against me and being left behind by the people I thought were my friends, my distrust for people grew and I just automatically hate everyone and assume anyone wouldn't like me in fear of getting hurt again. I want friends, I really do, but I rather stay inside and be content with myself than going outside and risk it with unpredictable social interactions. People say it's bad that I'm not socializing but years of trauma has shaped me this way. I honestly just want it to stop
" they wouldn't approve", time to stop thinking that having anxiety is a choice.
Did it ever work, when you were stressed, someone told you " Stop stressing" and BOOOM, not stressed anymore.
If anyone could control that, we wouldn't be even stressed or have anxiety.
*Just waiting for Trisha to claim she has agoraphobia…*
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I'm still mad about that. How dare she. (>~
:)))))))
don't give her ideas
When Anthony asked the question about how they feel about people claiming they’re agoraphobic with coronavirus going around I was like “oooofff shade to you trish”
Me being able to order McDonald's on my own for the first time was amazing, I broke into the widest smile when I realized I could do it 🙌
It may seem like such a small thing that is done a lot, but it was such a big accomplishment for me at the time :3
I know I'm late but congratulations and good job, I'm proud of you :)
@@redacted1973 Thank you so much ^^ 💕💕💕
@Ella Denis ;v; Thank youuu!
yay, congratulations!
I have anxiety (not social anxiety tho) , and absolutely do not go and buy stuff myself ;-; mainly cuz I would totally mess up
Great job !
@@sumathijai6251 I was sure I was going to mess up, so I literally sat in one of the booths and practiced my order for like half an hour xD
“Can I consider myself a train wreck”
*i choked*
Sophia Young-Bolton FRICKING ME
White people comments
Sophia Young-Bolton well rip then
Bob Wulf now THAT made me choke XD
Bob Wulf Racist!
I'm here after corpse's song . Hoping for the best for all people who suffer with this
Their stories are so sad, and Anthony handles them so professionally it’s so nice
Lillian I love the gif your profile picture is from
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Trisha Paytas’ next video: “I have.. AGORAPHOBIA😔”
honestly might actually happen
But it would be spelled wrong and she would have no correct information
Adernys Plush World I’m betting for that
SHHHH don’t give her ideas
Bruh ur so rude.... Maybe she DOES have it. I have a lot if co-morbid disorders. It happens.
This video made me realize that my mom is most likely an agoraphobic. Every detail matches her to a t. I knew she had anxiety and past trauma, but this whole time I've just put her off as a complete shut-in. I feel like such a dick now. Bruh I gotta talk to my mom
Did you talk to her yet?
How's it going now?
how'd it go? we're gonna keep checking in until you respond
well did you talk to her?
As someone who has agoraphobia and is still trying to 'figure it out' to explain to people, this video was so validating, ESPECIALLY when they talked about small mundane tasks being big achievements. I'm working my way to going to the shops by myself so there's a mission for me to complete!
I remember I created an analogy that sort of explains how it feels personally through it: having agoraphobia feels like having a ball and chain around your ankle. It's always there, nobody else sees it but you and every 'mundane' task you need to complete depends on how much energy you have to drag that ball and chain around with you.
Sorry for the splurge of text there, but yeah this video helped a lot to validate how it feels!
I'm happy you feel that way. It's always hard to explain mental conditions, even to yourself, because there are no visual indicators like with a broken arm for example. Wish you all the best.
How long before Trisha Paytas comes out as agoraphobic?
(Or is she too busy chasing Hila's brother?)
💀💀💀💀😂😂😂😂😂
Morgan Rachel I’d prefer to focus on the issue and the people who have agreed to be in the public eye for such a misunderstood subject than to focus on something like you are.
Shes too busy learning Hebrew
Let’s give these people their voice instead of randomly talking about Trisha Paytas...
@@JennRighter Chill lol
The way he talks about his mother is so damn precious. She should be proud, she raised an awesome kid!
I love how Anthony listens with no judgement, and doesn’t force them to talk if they don’t feel comfortable talking about it. He deserves a lot more recognition 💖
I’m a fully housebound mother of 6 with agoraphobia. I’ve had it since I was 15. It was so relieving to me to hear that your mom is agoraphobic. Gives me hope that my babies will turn out ok! ❤️😭❤️
I would really like a "I spent a day with people with schizophrenia" video :o
Emily T i would love that.
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👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
i would like that too, they are considered crazy and dangerous, when that isn't the case
let’s pray for everyone here and especially the girl whose brothers passed away :(( may they rest in heaven
Thoughts are prayers 🙄 yeah super helpful
Mewesical this is a youtube comment section, what do you want them to do?
Mewesical let people express their ways of comfort. If prayers make them feel more connected and helpful, then all the power to them! That means something to them. If it doesn’t for you, then scroll on by, no need to comment. Respect others.
Lila Chahda well said
Mewesical personally, I don’t pray cause I’m not religious, but thinking about them is a kind thing to do, and I’m sure that knowing that people are thinking of you is comforting to the peoples you’re thinking of
"Sometimes I wonder who I am outside of these conditions"....Man that really hit me in the feels...
This was oddly comforting. I suffer from agoraphobia and I’ve never an seen accurate depiction of what it’s like in media before. Thank you for this.
oh my god i cried while watching this.
i was diagnosed with anxiety at 13 and started experiencing agoraphobia shortly after that. i became homebound for the first time when i was 14, and again when i was 16. i didn’t leave my house for 5 years. i’m 25 now and my comfort zone is still incredibly limited. i feel like most people don’t understand agoraphobia and it is often belittled or misjudged. agoraphobia completely controls my life and i cant wait for the day when i can go places freely. thank you for shedding some light on the situation.
I wanna throw in there I didn’t understand agoraphobia until I developed panic disorder which morphed into agoraphobia. I definitely was all in agreement with the stigmas thinking how could you be so terrified over nothing? Then I got it and I literally would black out and get heart palpitations and stuff just at the grocery store.
Another agoraphobic here. I was completely housebound for 9 months back in 2014 and I’m still severely limited on what I can and can’t do. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. Keep your head up. ❤︎
i searched up agoraphobia today because i wanna know more about it and learn from people who actually have it especially since i’ve recently met people with agoraphobia i can’t even imagine what it’s like all i can do is empathize and listen hope all of you at some point get to a place where you feel some sort of safety as someone who has had a ton of trauma throughout my whole life i can understand that, but yea everyone should feel safe much love🤝💓
@༈෴ะ Skippy Kanyeะ෴༈ ya I think about what job I could comfortably have and how I could sit through college lectures feeling trapped but don’t give up we can all overcome these things it just takes time
Amen
I Lost 8 years to agoraphobia. Glad to say now at 21 years old I’m recovering fully and have been visiting all of the places one by one I’ve blacklisted back then. I wish these lovely souls that one day they may be able to be in that gratifying moment of recovery and have a beautiful compassionate environment during their path. Super proud of them for doing this interview and Sending love to everyone diagnosed with agoraphobia.
Thats amazing! :D
Congratulations! I'm so happy for you. Stay safe
Would you be okay sharing more about your journey to recovery? Either way, congratulations and I wish you the best.
EMMIE : I began having some small red flags 8 years ago when it came to agoraphobia. Along with severe depression. I began to associate people and social functions with my trigger of fear. The root of agoraphobia for me was that I was able to be perceived. I felt that any where I went everyone was always looking at me they were judging me and I felt suffocated. It made me fear the outside and I became paranoid. Soon panic attacks started setting in when I was a freshman in highschool. I couldn’t walk the hallways during passing period or go to the lunch room without having fear pummel me. As the fear grew, I stopped attending classes. I couldn’t leave my home. I couldn’t leave my bed. I couldn’t go near windows much less attend school. This led me to dropping out of highschool at 16. I began a mental blacklist if places I refused to step foot in. The only destination I had was my home and hospitals. I couldn’t leave my home without clothing checking myself multiple times and I had to wear sunglasses during the rare times I did leave the house. Without sunglasses I would have episodes. Being chained to the comfort of my room was normal for me. I wouldn’t leave home in weeks/months. Then Fast forward to last September, I realized I had had a panic attack or a mental breakdown in very literally every corner of my home. Being trapped no longer felt comforting. It felt brutal. I was not only trapped mentally but I was physically trapped. And it was because I allowed myself to drift into fear. I felt as if I betrayed myself. Other teens had their highschool years and I was robbed of it because of mental illness. So I decided to do something about it. I was tired caging myself so i began saying yes to outtings even when everything in my body screamed no. Little by little I began achieving small accomplishments. I walked my dog for the first time in years by myself. I took the bus for the first time in years. I began speaking to strangers in the grocery store. I walked to my local store after not being there for 8 years. At the beginning every time I left my house, I would come back home in emotional shambles. Panic attacks were heightened but I wanted to live for once and I wanted it badly. No one was going to stop me not even myself either. So I kept doing it over and over again. Things that may seem mundane to some, were my greatest accomplishments in a long time. Finally I got to a point where yes I felt nervous but I also felt excited to leave my home. The world has so many beautiful things, !NEW things that I missed and am now happily able to experience. When I was in recovery from depression at the same time I saw how much of Outside is so green and colorful. I was no longer living in my head or seeing the world through a very dark and dim black and white film. I SAW and FELT in color. My senses came back and I was on sensory overload ina. Good way. Outside is radiant and the animals are beautiful. Trees are gorgeous and color schemes in stores are marvelous. Agoraphobia and Depression had control over me for a very long time. I didn’t realize until later that nothing is ever in control of me. I’m in control of it. And I loved myself despite of the past. I loved myself more to keep saying fuck you every time I felt it wanted me to be dragged down again. Recovery doesn’t stop. Triggers come back up. The thing is I decide I love myself and am worth enough to live the way I want to live.
Same, i basically lost all me teenage years to the fear of going out certain places. I am currently working on getting out of my comfort zone and found people that are super respectful about my boundaries.
There are still some places that I don't feel ready to visit (like clubs, festivals), but I'm finally doing stuff I'd never done in my teenage years (like going into smaller/empty bars, cinema) and I even live in a rather big city now. Sometimes it's still overwhelming, but I'm managing simple walks and doing groceries very well by now^^
"You're not a burden."
Just let that sink in.
@@PrisonerFN-24601 IF they do realize it, that is. The mind can be a scary place.
Thank you, as someone who only sees them self as burden, thank you.
@@hundred2949 hang in there. I've been there, and it does get better with time. :)
@@fermio thanks again
Charles Darwin had agoraphobia. He couldn’t even go to his fathers funeral.
really? surprising fact...
you learn something new everyday
@@hit87436 it’s a book called how they croaked
@@hit87436 I fact checked and I misspoke, he didn’t go to his fathers funeral. He went to two of his children’s
I couldn't go to my grandmothers funeral either in my worst time of the phobia :(
Anthony should do a video with
Psychopaths and Sociopaths
Avoidant Personality Disorder
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Bailey G and psychotic disorders like schizophrenia
So a video with Trisha then
@@5andramv SHAAAAADE
I would love to hear about others with Avoidant Personality Disorder, but think it would be a massive challenge to find people with AvPD who are willing to be interviewed
@@DisasterScene true. A lot of the people who HAVE Avoidant won't/haven't go see someone about it so many don't know. I think it's interesting.
When wendy said "I often wonder what kind of person I would have been without these conditions"
I felt that. I say that nearly every day.
People in my family think I’m being “dramatic”, it felt so good to watch this and hear people talk about feeling the way I feel just having to go outside and be around people. People are miserable right now during isolation but it’s nice not having people ask me to go out all the time wondering why I don’t want to go...
Makenna Jordan I’m sorry 🥺 you feel that way
Candles Are life, thank you ❤️ It’s not easy, but we all have our problems 😕🤷🏼♀️
Please don’t listen to your family when they call you dramatic. You’re not dramatic, your feelings are valid.
Mies thank you 🙏🏻 I think for the first time ever I’m starting to feel like they are..😌