i tried to be "that girl" and here's how it turned out
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- tldr: i am not that girl but man oh man did i give it my best shot
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Lol now the 'green smoothie' saga makes sense. I kept thinking "what keeps making her try such nasty drinks" 😭
thank u i tried so hard 😭😭
@@tbhstudying I think the green smoothie could have helped ur constipation tho :')
The thing is that the good things about the That Girl Aesthetic (Working out, moving your body, waking up early and eating healthy)
Are things that any aesthetic could apply to their lives, those are just good habits! The moment it becomes an aesthetic is when it mixes with the visual aspect and commodification of it, so I don't think "That Girl" could be or has ever been about the 'values'
This is why I love your context Seo. Maybe I'm just on the wrong side of the internet 90% of the time but your one out of two TH-camrs I found that don't constantly promote consumerism, toxic productivity (well you recognize the times you might have in the past), and are genuine with social and racial problems you encounter or see, especially in this studygram community.
Welcome to Commentary TH-cam
thank u sm! i'm always trying to improve myself and the kind of content i make, so i'm glad that it's coming across that way
omg i know that feeling about summer. i don’t like that i don’t have an structure schedule and i hate that feeling that i’m not doing nothing but at the same time i don’t have energy nor motivation to do something 😭
love your commentary on the subject, exactly what i was thinking and what i see a lot of other poc creators saying about it too! but to add on to ur point about manifestation, i definitely feel it is real to a certain extent BUT manifestation alone isn't going to get you anything if you're not working for what you want as well. telling ppl to manifest their way into their goals is unrealistic if they're not helping themselves get there.
def true! reframing your mindset and focusing on your goals isn't inherently a negative thing. i just think it's irresponsible to tell people that they just need to manifest harder when the obstacles they're facing are things like generational trauma and poverty, workplace inequities, lack of housing, racism and xenophobia, etc etc etc. my fury is mainly targeted at influencers who market manifestation and success classes to people (primarily AFAB people) and it overlaps so much with the MLM sphere too.
As always, I love your thoughts on these subjects~ the "that girl" aesthetic is hard because of what you said, it looks like we're celebrating toxic productivity. And what I always notice is that there isn't any time in these that-girl vlogs for yourself. You have the gratitiude journal but it seems more of a chore, another step in the day and not something that's genuine to the heart, for you. From an opposite end, not everyone's job is online or have a normal routine. It doesn't really give space to people's jobs and those who are following that-girl routines then having sopntanous appointments often cause spirals to time management and breaking structure.
im doing another challenge where i try to do morning pages / gratitude journaling for 3 months and it's literally so hard! some days, it feels like a chore and i find myself expressing more negativity than actual gratitude :(
Honesty love your videos, not only does it feel genuine and transparent but your personality just seems so awesome 🫶🏼
aw thank you so much!! i rly appreciate it 🥺🥺
Hey hey. I wanted to say I really appreciate your content. I found you like a year before your stationary no-buy (thx algorithm) and then when you shifted your content that really helped. Like really. When you were talking about feeling the need to buy certain things because everybody uses them in that community it really hit me. This happened to me in the bullet journal and health/kinda-that-girl side of media (support small businesses but fuck protein powder). Your stationary no-buy definitely made me come back down to earth and now this video made me realise that I should also overthink the importance of other objects that are made to look necessary for success.
Much love and appreciation, can’t wait to see your next video!
thank you so much! i'm so glad that i was able to provide a space for that + i'll continue to strive towards creating content that is more realistic! sending much love 💕💕
love the evolution of seo over the years, you go girl!!
I love how you share your thoughts with us on many different topics! It's really helpful to know that someone else out there thinks the same as me :)
Wow, I have been watching your videos for years and I love how your style and type of content has evolved in this chatty but insightful video, this has to be my favourite video i have watched in a while 💕
loved this video!! also, as a kinesiology student, it made me so happy hearing about how doing exercise made you feel better and gave a lot of benefits!! :)
your videos are SO well researched and entertaining!
aw thank you so much!!
I’m seriously such a huge fan of you and have been for a long time!
I love your videos and how you talk with such wisdoms
LOVE THIS VIDEO u always articulate ur thoughts so well ur so cool
eeeee thank u sm!! i kept refilming this video bc i wanted to make sure that my points were clear!
i love how true and real you are
ur content is motivating and entertaining in a way that i think does a good job of not pressuring the audience to meet certain socioeconomic criteria in order to achieve their academic/personal goals!! i always have fun watching them and they make me wanna try something new :>
thank uuuu 🥺🥺 this makes me so happy!
Your videos make my day thankyou so much
you are so kind!! tyyyy 💕💕
This was really great though, very insightful. Will you keep up the running or daily workouts? Maybe add a podcast or audiobook to them and chef's kiss
Speaking pure truth. Thankyou :)
I really liked the way you explained stuff
Great take! As with anything I think this trend is only worth taking on if it serves you and inspires you to be better. Personally I like this trend as I feel like there is a bit of a "healthy habit bashing" happening before - people were celebrating having a messed up sleep schedule, being a mess etc which made me feel bad about sharing anything positive.
true! i don't think that working out and expressing gratitude is inherently bad? i just think that it becomes problematic when the notion of developing better habits gets commodified and gentrified :(
hi! your videos are the best! I am a new subscriber after watching you ‘notes on a budget’ video
i fully agree with your points!
one thing I'd like to add is that I always thought that all those things like working out, eating lots of veggies and fruit, being mindful and practicing gratitude are all things that are generally really healthy and can surely be beneficial for almost anyone, but the content you find to the That Girl Aesthetic all suggest that there is a certain pensum you need to fulfil so that it counts like run x amount, eat this much of that, do this that many times. and at that point it turns non-inclusive because what about people with for example chronic illnesses? what about people with clinical depression that can hardly get out of bed? (to mention only two things) not everyone is able to live up to that, so definitely not everyone can be That Girl
of course it has its positives, but staying critical is important, which is why appreciate you making content like this so much :))
no literally, i could never do the "that girl" routine when i was in the lightest of my depressive episodes. it's hard to maintain even when i'm relatively stable and mentally healthy!
I adored this video, and would like to know your opinion on different topics since your expression is so eloquent 😌
thank you sm! are there any specific topics you are interested in?
completely agree with all your points except for manifestation! my critique of it is that it's essentially been stolen from Hinduism (like most of spirituality) and watered down for white people and now we have these white people claiming that their chakras have been opened or that they've manifested their dream lives without understanding what it means-- and i fully understand and accept that there might not be a huge amount of overlap between the that girl aesthetic and the spirituality people but i think it's starting to meld more and more
I am liking these videos better now
Here just to say I love the plants in the background:)
thank uuuu
pls make a video about your thoughts regarding manifestation! i really hate it too and i wanna hear you rant about it 💀
oh thank god you hate this “aesthetic” too. i think this trend also doesn’t account for people who work 8 hrs a day and don’t have time to walk/workout/etc every day along with raising kids, cooking, appointments, kids’ clubs, etc. it would be much harder for a person with that lifestyle to commit to this aesthetic than a tiktok influencer whose job is just to post lifestyle videos.
no literally! idk how people are working full time, raising kids, AND managing to pull off an influencer lifestyle!
would be really interested in a video about your thoughts on manifestation 👀
Would love to see your thoughts on manifestation on another video! It has become kind of like an aesthetic too (?)
yes! i want to try and be able to run 10K by the end of the year!
ONLY REALISTIC ONE HERE. ILY.
Good points
loved loved loved this analysation! esp the lack of diversity aspect
give us the manifestation rant video
As productive as "That girls" purport to be, they sure seem to have lazy days with all the time in the world to do what little they do. Get at me when "That girl" finally finds a full time job and actually gets productive.
the green smoothies now makes sense LMAO
i totally agree with the food part. i eat a lot of filipino food, and i don't think that would be considered "aesthetic" enough for the that girl community lol. i find it kinda weird how those videos only show western food tbh
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that girl tiktoks is straight up Patrick Bateman morning routine nahhhhh dam
So, I enjoy the motivational part of the that girl aesthetic, but I think it becomes a problem as soon as it hits the all or nothing and consumerist attitude. Because even though I am privileged enough to be a white slim middle class woman, it's impossible to achieve as a 24/7 lifestyle as someone who struggles with mental health. Yet I've seen people portrait the that girl stuff as a way of "getting rid" of your mental health issues. And while yes, that might work for some light feelings of depression with the whole movement and routine for people with mental illness this whole toxic productivity and all or nothing thing is unachievable. Yeah, of course I feel better when I exercise somewhat regularly within my capacity and eat healthy food, but that doesn't mean, I don't need meds or therapy anymore. And don't even get me started on the whole manifestation and gratitude stuff. I'd love to hear your opinion on it in a video tho.
Sorry this is unrelated, but I know in one of your older posts you had a way of applying heat to your books to erase the frixion pens and highlighters in your books. Can you explain how you did that? I'm a teacher and I want to let my kids write directly in their books, but I'm not sure if you were putting them on a hot plate or something. Sorry if I made that up or it was a different creator.
you could probably blast a hair dryer on the pages to get the heat to activate the ink!
It seems like it's only on tiktok but I went to the mall the other day and saw a lot of girls who were dressed like the 'clean girl' aestethic and I know it's wrong to tell people how to dress but I find it so disheartening to see this generation are all wearing black and beige tracksuits and slick back hair just because they want to look like a carbon copy of some 'that girl' on tiktok I really don't see the appeal tbh.
i'm convinced that people were just making normal smoothies w green food coloring in them because i have no idea how people drink those every single day 😭😭😭
Can you give me "Mental health info" for Indonesia ? ✨
def also think this is becoming a micro trend! like you cannot tell me this isn’t a source of the minimalist and capitalist marketing it’s giving kim kardashian for sure ;^;
omg i forgot who it was but someone on my IG commented that this is patrick bateman for the girlies and i honestly laughed so hard at that
@@tbhstudying omg 😭
First, I hate this trend because it makes it seem like the vegan diet/green things to eat is the only healthy diet and the only way to live. Different cultures have different diets and different definitions of health. Every individual has different definition of health.
It makes sense if a lot of people just happen to have a similar diet as healthy, since most of the that girl trend is westernised to begin with. But people from other countries also consume this content and veganism is not sustainable in a lot of other countries. Neither is it financially beneficial or good for environment.
If you can afford vegan food sources and your country can provide them without exploitation, sure, go ahead and be vegan.
But for other people, locally sourced food is the healthiest and better for the environment. So... that should be considered before the 'that girl' trend sends the whole message of one-fit-for-all health by veganism and stuff.