I counted the many times he infected me with STIs yet I'd been faithful a wife. I chose to leave him

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  • Wanjiku is trying to pick up her pieces after walking out of her 2nd marriage. So far, she says that she no longer takes her ant-depressant drugs. She has finally found peace. She no longer worries about what time he will come home or worry that she may be suffering from yet another infection.....
    Here is her story from a woman who has tried marriage twice...

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  • @MethayaKagoni
    @MethayaKagoni  ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Thank you Wanjiku for being so bold and telling your story. We celebrate for speaking out. May women who are in abusive relationships, be inspired by your story.
    Promote Wanjiku by giving her a chance to dress you. Call her via this number: 0748752314

    • @malaika4158
      @malaika4158 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      most women we going through this !

    • @Maureen463
      @Maureen463 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It would be better if there are English subtitles for your foreign viewers

  • @kkm2102
    @kkm2102 ปีที่แล้ว +219

    A number of lessons here for ladies who are getting married (1) Have enough time of courtship before you agree to marriage (2) when you are in a relationship, watch out for red flags (3) never abandon your career even when you get married, (4) always have a secret bank account which you should never reveal to him come rain come sunshine. I am a man and I can tell men can be tricky. If you are a learned woman why would you sacrifice your dignity for marriage? Never ever worry about public opinion. When you suffer, it's not them who suffer, it's you. Even if you have 5 children, get out of that marriage very fast and let God take care of the rest.

    • @jjjoan100
      @jjjoan100 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      You have a special place in heaven. Thank you.

    • @mercyk2672
      @mercyk2672 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Thats good advice. When I got married, me and him had separate bank accounts. We shared bills but never comingled our finances. When we divorced, I didn't suffer at all and I'm actually thriving. I didn't give up my well paying job since he couldn't afford to take care of us. He was financially irresponsible

    • @judy_lesta
      @judy_lesta ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you so much Kenneth

    • @wambuinderitu2461
      @wambuinderitu2461 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Wow😊 very good advice kenn thank you for enlightening us especially us under 25 yrs...we are now wise❤

    • @annemaina2996
      @annemaina2996 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You have a special place in heaven aki

  • @elizabethwaitherawangari5044
    @elizabethwaitherawangari5044 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    Behind every down fall of a woman there’s a narcissist

  • @annmwariri3059
    @annmwariri3059 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Sometimes we complain when we're dumped after being pregnant unalia, tunajichukia we get scared of being discussed and being called single mother's and not knowing that mungu alituzuia kupitia alot of pain, abuse, being cheated on and so many more ......9yrs down the line after being dumped, we struggle, we suffer, we go through alot kulea watoto lkn siku ya mungu na baraka zake zikikufikia ooh my good lord ...you sit down unaangalia maisha ya mwenye alikudump unasema thankyou jesus 🥰🥰.

  • @wawerusarah251
    @wawerusarah251 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Pls stop lying to young girls aty aki commmit kwa church(wedding) na kutoa dowry uvumilie juu ata jirudia . No. Commitment or no commitment. Dowry or no dowry. Wedding or no wedding . Mtu mbaya ni mbaya. Mzuri ni mzuri

  • @lucymaina2869
    @lucymaina2869 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    The biggest lesson is that anyone who claims to love you must have your interest at heart .This means supporting your course , adding to your life ,not destroying it.The minute that stops,walk away.Applies to both men and women.

  • @uniquecritical7628
    @uniquecritical7628 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Women in Africa keeps on committing the same mistakes. Most men in Africa are from broken families or polygamous families, how on earth would you expect them to love you while themselves don't know what is love? 🤔

  • @muthoni987
    @muthoni987 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This is a strong woman coz she has rescued herself twice. She will go far. Keep on keeping Carol!

  • @khathywambui5776
    @khathywambui5776 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    another lesson ladies should learn...priotise your financial freedom and power and independence,dont shelve ambitions,careers,leave employment,close that shop,put education on hold for marriage....this marks the beginning of misery in your life,no man will play around with an independent woman...you are a beautiful lady,focus on yourself and your kids..tigana na arume.

  • @florencegachukia5641
    @florencegachukia5641 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This lady is beautiful and humble, soft spoken kwani what do men like?
    Pole my sister take care of your family our heavenly father is now the father of your children and they'll never lack. Continue working hard and smart.

  • @agneswanjau559
    @agneswanjau559 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Carol you have perfect Kikuyu. No English mixing. You are beautiful and composed, except in the illness of ur baby which is expected. May God give you the desires of your heart dear.

  • @Elsamuigai9620
    @Elsamuigai9620 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks kagoni. my marriage failed 2yrs ago and I'm learning so many things from this platform. now I'm a strong lady.

  • @annmumbiz62
    @annmumbiz62 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Pesa ni Shetaaini.. So many married women are suffering in silence but can't move out asiitwe Single Mother kama sisi... I made my decision ya kutoka 10 years ago. NO REGRETS.. I had alcelrs but not anymore.. Mr. Right saii ako na 4th Wife.. Narssist kills u in silence🤐, , nlifake nko happy but mtu uchoka

    • @judy_lesta
      @judy_lesta ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jesu ni mwathani ma

    • @ruthwaweru1284
      @ruthwaweru1284 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ann.marriage is good when u have the right person but for now let me keep it low

  • @kaarinyagambaluka6420
    @kaarinyagambaluka6420 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I too discharged myself by force. Premature babies can be very stressful to the mother. I went thro a lot of stress. But I thank God for my son cause today he is a father.

  • @janewanjiru2410
    @janewanjiru2410 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Why would anyone trade such a beautiful woman with anyone else surely

  • @1on1withjune81
    @1on1withjune81 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The man was trying to finish her. Glad you left him.

  • @winniemathu3168
    @winniemathu3168 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Narcissist. Alcoholism etc he needed canceling to know himself. It's good you left

  • @carolinemuthee1322
    @carolinemuthee1322 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is what i went through infections madharau it was hard very very painful bt God gave me strength i moved out n never looked back sought medication now am happy stress free i sleep till morning bila kuamshwa i even gained weight

  • @jacklinewahome2416
    @jacklinewahome2416 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Why do married women,put all their trust in their men? Psalms:146-3.... don't put your trust in Human leaders,no human being can save you,when they die they return to the dust.on that day all their plans come to an end.

  • @Lydia-ev6jr
    @Lydia-ev6jr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I know this lady,,,pole carol.strong woman,may the lord jesus Christ meet your needs.

  • @njerijanet4216
    @njerijanet4216 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This lady is very bold shes destined for greatness marriage is not a death sentence dont stay in abusive marriages

  • @emilynjoroge3195
    @emilynjoroge3195 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are a bold woman carol.Thank you for sharing your story,

  • @lynnmwende7548
    @lynnmwende7548 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    We learned the hard way, let the youth learn from our stories( know exactly what you want in life and make the right decisions.

  • @Susan-ie7ev
    @Susan-ie7ev ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Women, never leave your jobs or businesses because of marriage. Have your own life, such that even when the marriage ends, u have a life to go back to

  • @lynnmwende7548
    @lynnmwende7548 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are going far for you have a good heart and are knowledgeable now. May God open doors that no man can. Again thank God for your children, the biggest blessing ever!

  • @wakiurujames8509
    @wakiurujames8509 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such a sad case… but also a peaceful ending despite all struggles! Very strong l lady still standing strong after such a turmoil relationships.. May God bless you and expand your territories
    Monica thanks for such an inspiring educative narration🇬🇧

  • @ednakithinji8704
    @ednakithinji8704 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Carol it never the end, keep walking you will go far. Cheers beautiful gal

  • @beenjeery7959
    @beenjeery7959 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Single moms before you get pregnant for your new guy please make sure wewe mwenyewe without him utawezana na hiyo mzigo av noticed these men you meet and they over insist on you getting their baby and you aren't ready the moment utashika hiyo mimba huwa wanakutoka and by the time that baby is born hata you are not together anymore yet before the pregnancy he was THEE perfect partner so please fanyeni hizi hesabu first.

  • @kariukinganga
    @kariukinganga ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Our sisters and daughters should know that one has to be self reliance before you commit yourself to someone
    Know how to manage your risks by asking yourself one question
    What if?

  • @monicahlishiar6631
    @monicahlishiar6631 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Since there is no expert in marriage I will learn from others 💝♥️💖😍

  • @juliejoshua9880
    @juliejoshua9880 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for sharing. Many women in silence

  • @cheupecheupe7865
    @cheupecheupe7865 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is my girl,sorry to learn what you went through.He was controlling and never supportive of any business idea that you brought home . Being Single and Happy is immeasurable.

  • @carlicemoore4797
    @carlicemoore4797 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This woman is strong... I love her.. God bless you Carol

  • @samsonngengi3942
    @samsonngengi3942 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So sorry for this carlo.Thank God that you have managed to gather yourself and rebuild your life again. marriage should be entered into prayerfully, advisebly and with fear of God.we are all naked before God and seeking Him through can help us evade problems in marriage. If we find ourselves in abusive relationship its better to quit than be killed or live in depression. To those planning for marriage its important to seek counsel from genuine servants of God and parents and pray through because it can ruin entire life

  • @damaris.kahunyo.5339
    @damaris.kahunyo.5339 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Do Single mothers feel lonely? I always wonder why single mum's are remarried and make same mistakes,

  • @sarahjoyce7356
    @sarahjoyce7356 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great lesson may God bless you and your children.May you never lack 🙏🏾

  • @shiruk9228
    @shiruk9228 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    It looks like camera person likes your manicure 💅 keeps showing us all the time😅

  • @virginiahchege6882
    @virginiahchege6882 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This woman is so beautiful ❤❤

  • @Beemo254
    @Beemo254 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The moment a man tells you nizalie....RUUUUUN!!!!!

  • @danielkaruga7770
    @danielkaruga7770 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    She's Beautiful strong lady,

  • @susanwambui41
    @susanwambui41 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you Monica for this story,, I went through the same for 3years and it was so traumatised. It affected my life until now..I hope young ladies would learn from the story.

    • @liznyaga3918
      @liznyaga3918 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sorry for what you went through. Please consider counselling, it will help with the trauma.

  • @juliegicheru921
    @juliegicheru921 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Women go through a lots it's my six year being a single mother weee hii life ya mr right ningekua kwa 6x6 let me have my freedom

  • @marywangari2555
    @marywangari2555 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This second guy was on a revenge mission but the child is a blessing from God and what is important is that you are mother

  • @nelliejoseph9063
    @nelliejoseph9063 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautiful Lady..may God expand ur territories

  • @mamaketotos4414
    @mamaketotos4414 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Ladies we really need to appreciate ourselves for who we are can't afford to loose my job because of a man caro workhand for the sake of your kids

  • @janenjerikaringe6502
    @janenjerikaringe6502 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The why are you single has taught me a lot interms of the mistakes young women make before entering marriage. They are eye opening and educativ. Keep up the good work.

  • @wanjirunyambura2708
    @wanjirunyambura2708 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Domestic violence can never be justified!!! Never ever ever ever ever!!!

  • @victormaina9343
    @victormaina9343 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Some men will never see heaven. Pole sana whatever you went through in the hands of that beast. You deserve the best cute 🥰🥰

  • @uniquemukabs1921
    @uniquemukabs1921 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wanjiku thanks for your genuine love you heard to your narcissist husband,but you had enough red flags,its a good lesson now to all women..do not wait for your future life be destroyed by another stupit person...

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Carol is very beautiful ❤️..what i have learnt is that when you are intending to get married is to follow the right procedures to be legally married, knowing your purpose and always loving yourself everyday ❤... thanks monicah for the stories you bring us😊

    • @dansonmaina.
      @dansonmaina. ปีที่แล้ว

      Same thing I thought!

    • @saimomaina
      @saimomaina ปีที่แล้ว

      on point ☝️

    • @Utadowot
      @Utadowot ปีที่แล้ว

      Following the right procedures for marriage is not enough. People change everyday. You can marry a saint and sleep with a monster that same night! Always know when to walk out and make it final

  • @magdalinewacera1943
    @magdalinewacera1943 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Another reason for me to stay single 😢

  • @highlandssuites8255
    @highlandssuites8255 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    this lady is soo beautiful

  • @margretmuchiri249
    @margretmuchiri249 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    beautiful and strong lady

  • @ruthmueni1810
    @ruthmueni1810 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    so sad story this lady has gone through a lot but thank God she re discovered herself Carol all is not you will pick up again

  • @wamaithamary3463
    @wamaithamary3463 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pole sana carol for that painful story may God see u through 😢😢

  • @susannyambura9634
    @susannyambura9634 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What a painful story but in life there is a second chance big up Mum ugi wi mbere ya hinya

  • @nancynyokabi3887
    @nancynyokabi3887 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    A man taking dowry to ur parents doesn't mean he will not cheat on you., it all depends with the man. Choose urself Carol, (selflove)!! and ur children , its all that matters now!

  • @wanguiannmarimbet5726
    @wanguiannmarimbet5726 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    She is beautiful ❤❤

  • @shaniceandshantel474
    @shaniceandshantel474 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Carol you are so beautiful.
    Am sorry u suffered all that abuse in ur two marriages.
    I congratulate u for being so bold to walk away.
    Wishing u God's blessings

  • @shintykiarie6606
    @shintykiarie6606 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Weuh people go through alot Ngai amuteithie

  • @dansonmaina.
    @dansonmaina. ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yaani, what do men really want? Anyways, God's grace upon Carol and her businesses as she forges ahead in life.

  • @fionamacharia9993
    @fionamacharia9993 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wish I would tag my mum here,this is a strong woman and may God bless her.there are woman who never leave and they end up damaging their children

  • @revzippyelikanahhbstminist4609
    @revzippyelikanahhbstminist4609 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Watch forbred flag young ladies. 2: Be financially self independent. 3: Never give a man a chance to beat you. 4: Speak out loudly , dont be silence when living with monster abusers. Change yourself. They dont change

  • @RebeccaMbote-dt4fk
    @RebeccaMbote-dt4fk ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So heartbreaking

  • @margaretmungai1924
    @margaretmungai1924 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So beautiful ❤️

  • @user-ni6nt3rw1n
    @user-ni6nt3rw1n ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Naniguo wi muthaka cjui wanaume wanataka aje

  • @janekabura6163
    @janekabura6163 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Once the first marriage fails, just forget about a second marriage. They rarely survive.

    • @ednahchirchir1924
      @ednahchirchir1924 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Not all. After learning lessons one should take time to heal from trauma and change what is needed. Love yourself first so that you can be able to share and receive love

    • @jdm6682
      @jdm6682 ปีที่แล้ว

      People marrying for wrong reasons

    • @joannjeru4307
      @joannjeru4307 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Not at all really depends with lots of things

    • @ednahchirchir1924
      @ednahchirchir1924 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Many have worked. If you married the wrong person at first, definitely you will learn and not fall again

  • @teresiawairimu4621
    @teresiawairimu4621 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi girl go for deliverance to the right church then as for your first and second born let them know their biological dad and let him educate them in college please
    You have tried so hard to bring them up to high school. So let him do the college

  • @lynnmwende7548
    @lynnmwende7548 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wen through the same, wasted my time and energy and still very single for i would not cope but i am happy with minimum stress.

  • @monicamigwi128
    @monicamigwi128 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Ladies b very careful, some men r very canning

  • @rhouzedavids38
    @rhouzedavids38 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Coodness 😢😢 this is my exact situation 😢 i wish i can meet this lady. Am watching this in deep tears. Waa... May God make me this strong 😢

    • @anitathuku3723
      @anitathuku3723 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sending you hugs ❤

  • @carolinenduta875
    @carolinenduta875 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    pole sana Carol for what you went through

  • @hellenwangui86
    @hellenwangui86 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A very beautiful African woman.

  • @maggiewairimu5877
    @maggiewairimu5877 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Shiko you're a strong Gal❤❤
    Solder on🎉 nīgùthiī Ríu😊😊

  • @annann2097
    @annann2097 ปีที่แล้ว

    😮huh! Things women go through woiii. What a story....

  • @mbotemillicent1986
    @mbotemillicent1986 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Pole. Sana ..lakini ... Women have power! A child can never make a man stick to you ..it's just a way of making sure you as a woman your tied down...to commit to him...but what comes first ...vanishies also very first and men never value beauty as they glorify it initially that is the things I learned many years ago...and men forget so first and any irresponsible guy cannot make a husband.and many men who marry a woman who have kids from another man feels like you we be using him to help you raise another man's kids and they start madharau kidogo kidogo ata ukizaa mtoto wake..so the best thing ukitoka Kwa another marriage and you got young kids ...stay focused until your kids are fully grown..wamilize Hadi shule.. bcoz failure to these nasty consequences follows ...and women should stop reporting to a violent person that your planning to leave.!it's not wise.

  • @maalady4631
    @maalady4631 ปีที่แล้ว

    My cutie gal didn't know yu went through all this our beautiful gal....pole swee

  • @sue.7494
    @sue.7494 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Carol is so beautiful!!!!!!

  • @suzziewangombe2465
    @suzziewangombe2465 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Carol is very cute❤️

  • @maureennjeriwanjiru1050
    @maureennjeriwanjiru1050 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    NGAI wa atumia agoõka ríí hîî??😢😢

  • @newtonnjugunanewtonnjuguna8755
    @newtonnjugunanewtonnjuguna8755 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Serious mistakes that most girls are doing, moving to a boyfriend and believe to just themselves that they are legally married.
    How would you seriously agree on some issues like getting married to someone without involving your parents?

    • @catherinegitau9053
      @catherinegitau9053 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sadly they refer to those men as husbands

    • @teresiamaina9573
      @teresiamaina9573 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ata ushinde ukiwaambia wanaona uko n wivu

    • @trizahmacharia2939
      @trizahmacharia2939 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'd better go thru all this as come we stay rather than a legal marriage

    • @Njitagwo_Shiro
      @Njitagwo_Shiro 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@trizahmacharia2939if you have properties that’s when you realize the importance of a certificate

  • @shifta81
    @shifta81 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    She has gone thru alot 😢😢😢,may you recover all what you’ve lost, including good health

  • @machariawamachariamacharia3797
    @machariawamachariamacharia3797 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Watching from tunduma Tanzania

  • @margaretnjeri4064
    @margaretnjeri4064 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Women/radies who are in a toxic relationship or marriage, Plz learn something from this episode 2to3 redfrags are enough to make ua decisions don't wait the worse, better mwenye anakupiga physically than mentally 😢now si kama zamani ati vumilia No No✊

  • @charitykariuki-gr7dv
    @charitykariuki-gr7dv ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Listening

  • @geoffreykinyua2946
    @geoffreykinyua2946 ปีที่แล้ว

    Aki I'm sorry..I feel your pain

  • @moniwawarikuo2253
    @moniwawarikuo2253 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Narcissists always right according to them
    Lot of wisdom t know them

  • @eunicegitau6252
    @eunicegitau6252 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hugs mummy,lakini Mungu ni nani utang'aa ushangae

  • @nellykatrina4794
    @nellykatrina4794 ปีที่แล้ว

    Pole ngarana...sina la kusema 😢

  • @ruthwaweru1284
    @ruthwaweru1284 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Iko place sijaelewa hapo anesema ..hajaijikuta hosi n her first marriage alikuwa anashinda hosi i stand to be corrected

    • @vanessawanjiku4284
      @vanessawanjiku4284 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Okey I want to believe like hajaijipata hivo after delivery ,, like watoto wote amepata bila shida /C's

    • @ruthwaweru1284
      @ruthwaweru1284 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@vanessawanjiku4284 ooh i get it now thnx

    • @marykaari817
      @marykaari817 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😢 she meant her maternity hospital cases have been seemless.

    • @ruthwaweru1284
      @ruthwaweru1284 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@marykaari817 ok dear

  • @bredawakio5381
    @bredawakio5381 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🎉mombasa locked❤

  • @cessmayna6940
    @cessmayna6940 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Tumirimu turia kagoni.....hehehe

  • @annengunya3402
    @annengunya3402 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Young ladies please learn from this.

  • @teresiawachira1034
    @teresiawachira1034 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The 2nd man made her lose her good paying contracts? Then he frustrates her?

  • @peterkariri7991
    @peterkariri7991 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sorry my sister 😐

  • @janenyambura4428
    @janenyambura4428 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Carol Pole umeuzanga nguo za watoto kairitu.

  • @user-ii8mf3eg3f
    @user-ii8mf3eg3f 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Am learning a lot aki kagoni

  • @carolshii8023
    @carolshii8023 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Atumia mageragira maingi ma

  • @wairimuruth9553
    @wairimuruth9553 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Micii ni ndogo

  • @johnnguyo62
    @johnnguyo62 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Big support Nakuru Egerton uko top 10💪