Ladies, all you have to do is.. absolutely nothing. Men reveal themselves in their efforts. If you like what he is doing, stay. If you don't like what's going, leave. sure, communicate..but do it twice maximum. Dont nag. Dont put up with BS. If nothing changes, actually use your leaving power and don't come back unless he is proving himself. There is nothing else to think about. Sending love and light to all, you are all deserving of what you actually desire
I was love bombed. The guy started calling me Mrs. Moore and told me he knew I was his wife within the first few weeks. He even changed my name in his phone to “Future Wifey”. Within 3 mths we were broken up bc he had found someone else to turn his head. Trash!
Gurlll, listen to this segment, and not only listen hear!!!!! It happened to me before It should be against the law for someone to play someone but believe me Karma and prayer is a mofo. God bless!!
When you hear "I don't know what I want" - and your heart hears it at that very moment. Let your heart take the reins - then brace yourself for your brave exit. ✨️
Y’all just need to know that men will tell you who they are in the beginning just by thier conversation. It’s up to some ladies to decide to walk away or not
Don't invest too much if it is one sided. Take a little step back because it is a sign you aren't doing the things that fufil you. I did that and once i broke it off after three years, I found all this time i had on my hands.
*It's important to remember that these signs don't necessarily guarantee that someone will break your heart, but they can serve as indicators to evaluate the health and compatibility of a relationship. Trust your instincts, communicate openly, and prioritize your emotional well-being in any relationship.*
I’m so over getting my 💔. I learned the game and now I know to never fall in love with anybody but myself. It’s ok to love, but never give your all to anyone because it’ll fail you eventually.
You are excellent at what you do. You are sweet, compassionate, funny, likable, magnetic, and most of all- intelligent and insightful. Thank you for what you do ❤
Someone who loves you genuinely will be going at a moderate pace where both people are comfortable, so that things develop naturally and there’s time for them to grow and build a bond, they don’t want to lose this important thing, they be living for years and not found this beautiful individual. They want to put in work, and add value to continue to have this precious gift in their life.
I just realized today that all my pain , tears and heartache I felt wasn’t on what was standing in my face it was the potential I believe me and him could have and when he Didn’t live up to it my heart felt shattered . So I’m learning to not live in what could be but what’s right in front of me to protect myself .
Real talk AJ💯. In my younger years, I was played like a piano by a certain person, However, we had some good, fun times. I have no regrets. I was blessed and grateful for the lesson. I agree, please go with your instinct...it will never fail you. I ignored all the red flags because i was craving attention, and they served it up 🤣. But I knew what time it was. I was smart enough to keep my guard up, and when the time came, I walked away.💕
MJ, You is so right. I just let go of a man. who i been wanting to have a relationship. Now i see he does not want me at all. I say that was no problem. I block him on everything and i keep on moving. Life is too short.
Why did MJ just narrations my entire romantic history smh LOL but seriously thanks for these gems. MJ is proof you don't have to make past mistakes your future ❤
Love this story time and gems you dropped in this video teaching us ladies. And the part about women being so on point in their lives with every thing else except not being wise enough to learn how not to get played by these men. I say keep ya legs closed and you’ll find everything you need. Thank you so much MJ ❤❤❤
I'm so glad that I found this channel because i had a freind that stayed with me for a long time and I thought we was boyfriend and girlfriend and I done everything for this man been knowing him for 15yrs bought him a car gave him money when he need it pay off his child support for him and then he had the nerve to say I was never his girlfriend and that's why I'm glad that I found this channel because you have taught me alot and after this happen to me I just feel like I will never find the right man for me because of how this guy treat me and he still be texting and calling me but he has a girlfriend
21:00 when you say we should not say anything, I have to disagree with this because, I've ignored things that happened and didn't say anything; but when I got home I really wished I had said something sarcastic. To let him know that I didn't think that was cute. Sometimes men do things intentionally just to see how we respond. At a certain age we realize this. I have learned in my 55 + years, that It's important to address the issue at the time IT Becomes an issue, rather than reflecting later ... Asking if he remembers what he did. But this was still a good video MJ. Much Love to Ya.
I just got played without any love bombing . I didn’t ration it out He did call it a relationship , called Me his girlfriend but didn’t act like it Avoided talking about “Us” I pushed for more and he finally left
GOLD!!!!!!! I def learned something today. “You teach people how to play you when you show them what you notice. Announce your departure.” 🤌🏽🗣 COME ON HOLY GHOST! 🙌🏽
I really needed this video. I went through many of these things in my last relationship. My ex did a lot of these things to mentally and emotionally abuse me. He played me so bad that I ended up homeless because we were supposed to move out of state together and get married. He abandoned me and felt no remorse.
Yep I was love bombed met this guy at a party he dropped me off home next day he showed up at my door with Roses I knew I was in trouble and found out he was married 4 years later. He brought me expensive things, expensive vacations and then by chance my best friend knew a mutual friend of his wife. Thanks be to god I wrestled my way out of that it has made me strong as a beast I love god first followed by me then my husband
Omg, this is exactly what happened to me. So now two questions remain - 1) what is in us that attracts these type of men and 2) how can we not get bored of the men that pace themselves with giving us attention? Also, usually somehow they are less attractive than the players.
This was soooooo good. I was dying laughing when he said he don’t need no grade A penis because it’ll have you putting stuff on your credit, missing work, etc. 😂😂
MJ, You Are Absolutely And Unequivocally 100% On The Money!! ... You Certainly Do Know Of What You Speak. .. WE All Love Your Excellent Advice. .. Please Know That We Are Listening And Learning So Much From You! .. Oh Yes, We All Love That Sexy See-Through Shirt!! .. You Rock On All Levels!! .. Much Love!!! ❤❤❤
🤣 thanks for sharing , I walked away on my last relationship after being semi dumped , and I told him I don't care how much I love you I ain't never gonna come back , and you will understand one day what you done to me , when your daughter comes home crying , because she met a man just like you , and matter what she says or does he just ACT RIGHT !!!!
I am taking a break from dating. I decided to enjoy my summer baby. I am so over it. ❤ Dang man basically said I was delusional and created everything in my head. Like it wasn't mutual no WE created this in my head. But yet I have to like he said "be responsible for my feelings." 😑
That’s gaslighting with no accountability. He has to accept that he played a part in the vibe y’all created together. It doesn’t all rest on you. Glad you are learning but hate the way you had to learn the lesson. Peace and Blessings ❤
Thank you @thatgirlcocoa yes ma'am I learned and I walked right out. That was our last conversation. I don't want people like him to have any type of access to me. Love ❤️ and Blessings as well.
It’s not your fault it is his! If he lied to you about wanting a relationship than changed up that’s all on him, he will get his karma trust me this happened to me 5 years ago and that @sshole has gotten lots of bad karma ever since lol
Why mi ❤️ is not at a million or more sub yet I know it takes time but he is the best I love u so much love everything about u an wat u do support from me a million times!!!!
MJ I love you and your videos lol you just crack me up for days while telling me what I need to hear unfiltered and honest. I appreciate you so much. Thank you for the light you bring this world. ❤✨⭐️
you are 100% right darling ..Never outshine the master..play damn and you will get results ...what you do about it is upon us ..thank you so much MJ you are the best...PS soo love the top you are wearing today thank you♥♥♥♥
Some of our women an be doing real well on the outside, but on the inside they are hurting, and feeling inadequate and don't want to use their power because they are truly pressed for a man. Therapy would help.
Ladies, all you have to do is.. absolutely nothing. Men reveal themselves in their efforts. If you like what he is doing, stay. If you don't like what's going, leave. sure, communicate..but do it twice maximum. Dont nag. Dont put up with BS. If nothing changes, actually use your leaving power and don't come back unless he is proving himself. There is nothing else to think about. Sending love and light to all, you are all deserving of what you actually desire
Big major facts
I have decided to leave today, it hurts but I have been complaining,nagging telling me that he’s hurting me yet he doesn’t care
I was love bombed. The guy started calling me Mrs. Moore and told me he knew I was his wife within the first few weeks. He even changed my name in his phone to “Future Wifey”. Within 3 mths we were broken up bc he had found someone else to turn his head. Trash!
Oh my, some people are ridiculous. 😒
Sorry that happened to you
you got future faked too. hush dear, at least it didn't get dragged on
Gurlll, listen to this segment, and not only listen hear!!!!! It happened to me before It should be against the law for someone to play someone but believe me Karma and prayer is a mofo. God bless!!
Wow!
"Scarcity mindset is only a concept thats created by fear"! 🔥
When you hear "I don't know what I want" - and your heart hears it at that very moment. Let your heart take the reins - then brace yourself for your brave exit. ✨️
Y’all just need to know that men will tell you who they are in the beginning just by thier conversation. It’s up to some ladies to decide to walk away or not
💯
I'm coming out of a 20 year marriage, and never dated. All these dating rules and do's and dont's is overwhelming 😮💨😮💨
I'm right there with you. 19 years of marriage, 25 years total.
😂 we lost together! Bless us
20 years of marriage and overwhelmed.
@@Celestetecye b😅😊
21 years of marriage and also this dating world is very overwhelming
He’s not committed to you he’s not truly there for you, or loving you.
Every time I'm questioning my one-sided relationship. Your videos come up ❤. I needed this!
That’s a sign
17:05
@@Jean-eu3tj. T😅😅book😅
When the student is ready the teacher appears! 😊
Don't invest too much if it is one sided. Take a little step back because it is a sign you aren't doing the things that fufil you. I did that and once i broke it off after three years, I found all this time i had on my hands.
*It's important to remember that these signs don't necessarily guarantee that someone will break your heart, but they can serve as indicators to evaluate the health and compatibility of a relationship. Trust your instincts, communicate openly, and prioritize your emotional well-being in any relationship.*
I’m so over getting my 💔. I learned the game and now I know to never fall in love with anybody but myself. It’s ok to love, but never give your all to anyone because it’ll fail you eventually.
I'm convinced that everyone gets played at least once. The key is learning & growing. Don't keep falling for the same game.
Oh yes, I recognize the “love bombing” and uncomfortable talking about commitment. Yes, it happened to me!
You are excellent at what you do. You are sweet, compassionate, funny, likable, magnetic, and most of all- intelligent and insightful. Thank you for what you do ❤
Someone who loves you genuinely will be going at a moderate pace where both people are comfortable, so that things develop naturally and there’s time for them to grow and build a bond, they don’t want to lose this important thing, they be living for years and not found this beautiful individual. They want to put in work, and add value to continue to have this precious gift in their life.
I just realized today that all my pain , tears and heartache I felt wasn’t on what was standing in my face it was the potential I believe me and him could have and when he Didn’t live up to it my heart felt shattered . So I’m learning to not live in what could be but what’s right in front of me to protect myself .
And this is why I am single and loving it❤❤❤
Real talk AJ💯. In my younger years, I was played like a piano by a certain person, However, we had some good, fun times. I have no regrets. I was blessed and grateful for the lesson. I agree, please go with your instinct...it will never fail you. I ignored all the red flags because i was craving attention, and they served it up 🤣. But I knew what time it was. I was smart enough to keep my guard up, and when the time came, I walked away.💕
MJ, You is so right. I just let go of a man. who i been wanting to have a relationship. Now i see he does not want me at all. I say that was no problem. I block him on everything and i keep on moving. Life is too short.
Why did MJ just narrations my entire romantic history smh LOL but seriously thanks for these gems. MJ is proof you don't have to make past mistakes your future ❤
Thank u baby. Cover men being jealous of their significant other!!!
Needed this! Just told him we should stay friends cause I feel it’s love bombing
Love this story time and gems you dropped in this video teaching us ladies. And the part about women being so on point in their lives with every thing else except not being wise enough to learn how not to get played by these men. I say keep ya legs closed and you’ll find everything you need. Thank you so much MJ ❤❤❤
Im over it at this point😢 Hopefully my future husband will find me in my travels
Wow.. you taught this 50 yr old a lot . This was so on point. I agree with everything you said.
Once again MJ is gangsta with the gems. I’m saving this video.
I'm so glad that I found this channel because i had a freind that stayed with me for a long time and I thought we was boyfriend and girlfriend and I done everything for this man been knowing him for 15yrs bought him a car gave him money when he need it pay off his child support for him and then he had the nerve to say I was never his girlfriend and that's why I'm glad that I found this channel because you have taught me alot and after this happen to me I just feel like I will never find the right man for me because of how this guy treat me and he still be texting and calling me but he has a girlfriend
Dam!! 🤦🏾♀️Lesson learned the hard way!
Block him
21:00 when you say we should not say anything, I have to disagree with this because,
I've ignored things that happened and didn't say anything; but
when I got home I really wished I had said something sarcastic.
To let him know that I didn't think that was cute.
Sometimes men do things intentionally just to see how we respond.
At a certain age we realize this.
I have learned in my 55 + years, that
It's important to address the issue at the time IT
Becomes an issue, rather than reflecting later ...
Asking if he remembers what he did.
But this was still a good video MJ.
Much Love to Ya.
Been down that road myself MJ. I learned that lesson the hard way. But I learned. 😊
I just got played without any love bombing . I didn’t ration it out
He did call it a relationship , called Me his girlfriend but didn’t act like it
Avoided talking about “Us”
I pushed for more and he finally left
If you’re in Zimbali then that sure means you’re in Durban!!😍😍😍 good to have you MJ, I hope you enjoy your stay in the warmest city in the country❤
GOLD!!!!!!! I def learned something today. “You teach people how to play you when you show them what you notice. Announce your departure.” 🤌🏽🗣 COME ON HOLY GHOST! 🙌🏽
Soooo Timely.
Yes, there has been that lingering 'off' feeling.
I call it a lack of congruence
MJ
You always put sunshine in my day.
Smh my ex told me after 2 years he didnt care for marriage. The relationship was very one sided- I should’ve known and left earlier but stayed
MJ I Love Ur Mint colored pullover! MJ i hope u all settled in ur new Envirnment
MJ what state are u loving in now ?
Phenomenal video! MJ is the truth! ❤️
Do good MJ. You are literally saving my life here. You are the truth.
That's Good Stuff MJ You Be On Point Every Time!!!! Whew I Love It... Keep Them Coming 💙🫶🏾😀
Come on MJ!! So on point with your storytelling and perfect analogies!! I thought I was in church I said Amen so much.
I really needed this video. I went through many of these things in my last relationship. My ex did a lot of these things to mentally and emotionally abuse me. He played me so bad that I ended up homeless because we were supposed to move out of state together and get married. He abandoned me and felt no remorse.
That's awful so sorry ❤
@@annaisis7510 Thank you. It’s alright. I’m better now and I’m rebuilding my life. It’s definitely been a hard road.
@@darnelljunior3813 you're already winning love and light 🩷
I just found you and can I just let you know I FUCKING LOVE YOU! you are such a vibe and you're giving it to us real. Thank you for that ❤
😢you’re like my best friend, telling me what I need to hear instead of what I want to hear.
all facts MJ!!!. I have been there and done that. pay attention ladies to alll these signs.
Good words and common sense. Mother wisdom.... teach the truth....your respected 🎉💯 ❤and appreciated 🎉thank you.....
I want to hug you and cry
Thank you
Hey MJ….Everything you’re saying is so true….I enjoy so much listening to you…This message was for me…
Gor me too... Im falling in love for the first time and im sure with a player
You blew it out the water on this topic!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Hey, hey HEEYYYYYY, MJ❤❤. Love u!
Birmingham, Alabama
I too have learned all those parlour tricks those tricks be trying, that’s how I got my boyfriend and love of my life.
That's right he always call me when he's riding in his truck going some were and I told him about it.
Yep I was love bombed met this guy at a party he dropped me off home next day he showed up at my door with Roses I knew I was in trouble and found out he was married 4 years later. He brought me expensive things, expensive vacations and then by chance my best friend knew a mutual friend of his wife. Thanks be to god I wrestled my way out of that it has
made me strong as a beast I love god first followed by me then my husband
I give up on dating im b alone .😐
Girl me too. It's hard out here😔
MJ you are fabulous❣
This video was ABSOLUTE FIRE!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
MJ you gave me life!!!! Much needed😂
This is why im single and not dating I ask questions they tell on themselves I move on
They sure do tell on themselves. Pay attention ❤❤
You're the best advice giver 😊
I love you. You need your own talk show
Lawd I’ve been love bomb for the last year and he just stopped calling because I called him out about his shit. I’m loving you Mj ❤️
M J, you know those men very well, good job❤❤.
Omg, this is exactly what happened to me. So now two questions remain - 1) what is in us that attracts these type of men and 2) how can we not get bored of the men that pace themselves with giving us attention? Also, usually somehow they are less attractive than the players.
This was soooooo good. I was dying laughing when he said he don’t need no grade A penis because it’ll have you putting stuff on your credit, missing work, etc. 😂😂
😂
MJ, You Are Absolutely And Unequivocally 100% On The Money!! ... You Certainly Do Know Of What You Speak. .. WE All Love Your Excellent Advice. .. Please Know That We Are Listening And Learning So Much From You! .. Oh Yes, We All Love That Sexy See-Through Shirt!! .. You Rock On All Levels!! .. Much Love!!! ❤❤❤
I thank God for your life, you just saved a gurl in UK ... Woooo thank God ... something just clicked God dame.
🤣 thanks for sharing , I walked away on my last relationship after being semi dumped , and I told
him I don't care how much I love you I ain't never
gonna come back , and you will understand one
day what you done to me , when your daughter
comes home crying , because she met a man
just like you , and matter what she says or does
he just ACT RIGHT !!!!
NO...MATTER...WHAT... SHE...SAYS..OR...DOES
I am taking a break from dating. I decided to enjoy my summer baby. I am so over it. ❤ Dang man basically said I was delusional and created everything in my head. Like it wasn't mutual no WE created this in my head. But yet I have to like he said "be responsible for my feelings." 😑
That’s gaslighting with no accountability. He has to accept that he played a part in the vibe y’all created together. It doesn’t all rest on you. Glad you are learning but hate the way you had to learn the lesson. Peace and Blessings ❤
Thank you @thatgirlcocoa yes ma'am I learned and I walked right out. That was our last conversation. I don't want people like him to have any type of access to me. Love ❤️ and Blessings as well.
It’s not your fault it is his! If he lied to you about wanting a relationship than changed up that’s all on him, he will get his karma trust me this happened to me 5 years ago and that @sshole has gotten lots of bad karma ever since lol
I am cracking up. Your knees buckling
Why mi ❤️ is not at a million or more sub yet I know it takes time but he is the best I love u so much love everything about u an wat u do support from me a million times!!!!
You are a god send to women!
Mj, you are so correct.. you hitting the nail on the head..omg I went through it. Why did you not said this earlier.
😢The best advice ever thank you mj
A diamond mine full of facts!!!! 💯💯💯
Thanks for another class session. I am learning so much from you. 🎉
MJ I love you and your videos lol you just crack me up for days while telling me what I need to hear unfiltered and honest. I appreciate you so much. Thank you for the light you bring this world. ❤✨⭐️
Hi M.J. I am so happy to see you. I miss watching and listening to you. I am so used to feeling happy and up lifted watching you.
Excellent, MJ: I enjoy listening and learning from your channel. I am thrilled I found you.
You know the signs, just choose to ignore them. 🤦🏾♀️
I adore u...
You so speak the truth...I've been listening straight on.....your advise is priceless 🎉🎉
I appreciate you from the bottom of my ❤️❤️❤️❤️.
🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏
Those "love-bombers" can be hiding...a whole other life & refusing to address ANYTHING when you confront them. Wtf
I love your wordddd 🗣🗣🗣🗣
I love me some Mr. Harris ya’ll!!!!!!! Tell it baby
I was just talking about love bombing 💣 to my clients in group therapy yesterday
Damn this was some damn good advice thank you MJ ❤
Not if u break his first
Mj Harris. Fantastic post with a fantastic personality to match. Highly engaging . Makes me smile. X:-)
Wow. This video is spot on 💞💞...
Love the green Top
Thank you for the great advice ❤
you are 100% right darling ..Never outshine the master..play damn and you will get results ...what you do about it is upon us ..thank you so much MJ you are the best...PS soo love the top you are wearing today thank you♥♥♥♥
I so love you!!!❤
I just stumbled across your channel, and not only are you smart but you’re absolutely hilarious! I love it.
i’m loving these best friend i ain’t lying!! keep ‘em coming hunnay!!
Exactly this is the best advice ever
Nah MJJJJJJJJJJ YOU had me chuckling every few seconds. Your story telling is amazing
So, I wanna know. How do we reverse the situation and play with these dudes who are none committal?
By not playing with them. Once enough women refuse to play with them the loneliness will hit them hard
You are so real
Lord this was my same story !
I love it when you tell stories 😂❤
Some of our women an be doing real well on the outside, but on the inside they are hurting, and feeling inadequate and don't want to use their power because they are truly pressed for a man. Therapy would help.