Leveling Up Is Lonely I When Friends Start Falling Off After You Start Winning 😓

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  • Are you currently in a season of wins? Is life looking up for you? Have you been everyone's biggest cheerleader and now when it's your turn, it seems like everyone's gone ghost? If so, this video is for you! The things people don't tell you when you're leveling up in life because that old saying can unfortunately ring so true "people want to see you do well but never better than them!"
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  • @muvaqjira
    @muvaqjira 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    Love these videos! ❤ you’re truly amazing Brooke. “People are upset because you stepped out the box they permanently put you in”
    A WORD.
    The only, and I do mean only, way to be happy for other people and their success, is to have impermeable trust in God with your life’s journey. Jealousy is a lack of faith.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you so much! I'm glad that resonated with you! 🥹🫶🏾
      And you are absolutely correct!!! Jealousy is indeed a lack of faith for sure!!!!!!!

    • @myopinionnotyours.6053
      @myopinionnotyours.6053 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I don't cry over ppl that don't want to be in my lives either.

    • @2015ben
      @2015ben 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      💯

  • @MoInTheCity03
    @MoInTheCity03 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    And you might have to leave family members behind also …. They can be the ultimate root of jealousy and envy

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Oh absolutely!! Family can be just as bad too!!!!

  • @aford1716
    @aford1716 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    BROOKE you are not lying! New career, married, new baby, new homeowner all were amazing events that were not celebrated by blood relatives! People really showed me who they really are. I had to give them the deuces ✌🏽

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Oh yes!!! People truly show out especially when it's multiple wins back to back! They can't take it! I'm glad you cut them off! Good riddance!! 👋🏾
      And congratulations to you on all of your milestones and achievements and many more blessings!! 💕🎉

    • @RHOMyDamnHouse
      @RHOMyDamnHouse 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      My identical experience. May we continue to reap the blessings we deserve.❤

  • @spongebobuniverse
    @spongebobuniverse 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Brooke you aint lonely! In my head we’re best friends, lol!!!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      🤣🤣🤣🩷🩷🩷

    • @jenniferwade7861
      @jenniferwade7861 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Okaaaaaayyyy! 🎤🎵We are Sisters🎵🎵😂😂

    • @Atembe
      @Atembe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same! Friend in my Head as Auntie Wendy would say 😂😂❤

  • @Monica.Corrie
    @Monica.Corrie 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    It’s sort of sad to say, but as we get older, our circle of friends gets smaller. Cheers to your success Brooke! You’re phenomenal! Your true friends will show up for you! Sending you so much love, respect and the best vibes. 💗🥰

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      It is sad but it's true!!! And the sooner people realize it the happier they'll be!! Lol!!!
      Thank you so much! That really means a lot! 🥲💕🥹

    • @themissingpiece9145
      @themissingpiece9145 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      So True

  • @Jay-yx9so
    @Jay-yx9so 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    I’m loving these life advice videos, this one was the truth!!!!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much!!! 🩷

  • @Dr.DellPhD
    @Dr.DellPhD 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    My first step of moving "friends/folks" out of your life, deleting them from my phone contact 📱. Eliminating the urge or frustration is cathartic

  • @theperfumedpreppy
    @theperfumedpreppy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    So accurate. Post-Covid, when I decided to really improve myself, I lost a lot of people. I can count my real friends on one hand.

  • @BlackAndHonestEducation
    @BlackAndHonestEducation 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I have never had friends. I had to accept it and just move on with my life. When I accepted that, I was just fine. The world did not come to an end.

    • @DESLYNREDFERN
      @DESLYNREDFERN 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Me too, no friends and I am a nice positive lady. I had friends at school, but no more. God knows I have try hard to have friends but it always turn out negative. Love to you @BlackAndHonestEducation 😄

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      When I look back at a lot of situations I definitely feel this way too not even going to lie! I think the majority of people we cross paths with are social acquaintances and a select few are actual friends!!

    • @BlackAndHonestEducation
      @BlackAndHonestEducation 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @DESLYNREDFERN Thanks for the love. I began to notice that I had a supportive, sisterly, and kind approach to friendships, and I was met with a lot of hate and unmatched support. I couldn't tell who had a distorted view of friendship, me or them. So, I just rolled by myself, and I was a lot happier.

    • @BlackAndHonestEducation
      @BlackAndHonestEducation 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @TheBrookeAshley Absolutely. Just a couple of days ago, I said if I saw those people, I would not allow them to talk to me or come near me. I just don't want to fake it because I know who and how they are.

    • @BlackAndHonestEducation
      @BlackAndHonestEducation 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @TheBrookeAshley Key words- look back. That's where these folks are. Back there.

  • @Dr.DellPhD
    @Dr.DellPhD 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Omgosh Brooke, you are so right! When I earned my PhD, got my new luxury car, homeowner, thriving kids, and living a soft life. Those friends went into a sunken place. Those farewell friends were my bridesmaids, college friends, etc. Bye 👋🏽 I'm better without the drama

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Continue to thrive and win!! 🎉🎉 I already know your ex-friends were seething at your back to back wins!!

  • @Waddlles
    @Waddlles 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I'm so happy you are doing these videos! It fits with you brand very well!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

  • @tresboujay
    @tresboujay 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I personally had this happen with someone who was mentoring me which really floored me at the time because I was thinking what are we even doing here?!?!? It was a hard lesson but I’m glad I learned it.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Oh wow! That's so crazy! I'm so sorry to hear that that happened to you!! Yes - it can happen in any type of relationship! Colleagues, mentors, etc. People get insecure and scared that you might "surpass" them and start acting out! Very sad!!

    • @tresboujay
      @tresboujay 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@TheBrookeAshley 100% facts!!!

  • @nataliesasha8216
    @nataliesasha8216 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I really hope that’s not the case for me. I’m seeing friends get married, go back to school, I myself am making a transition and all we are doing is supporting each other and offering helping hands. I hope it stays that way.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I hope it stays that way too and that's a blessing that you haven't dealt with the mess I have because what I'm talking about is unfortunately the norm!! But congratulations to you and your friends and I hope your circle stays happy and blessed!

    • @nataliesasha8216
      @nataliesasha8216 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@TheBrookeAshley outside of envy, I also see so many unnecessary breakdowns due to lack of communication and taking people for granted. Even with your party, I tell you once, if I don’t hear from you that’s it. See how quick they’ll turn around and act like you did not tell them anything. Is life busy, yes, however you’re grown, schedule time in to communicate.

    • @NellyTyler-zt9cl
      @NellyTyler-zt9cl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      👏🏾💞👏🏾

  • @queenlyellis9867
    @queenlyellis9867 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    This video was made for me! I needed to hear this and the shhh on future plans video. 🤫

  • @helensimpson-davis4679
    @helensimpson-davis4679 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Speak sister, so true everyword.

  • @dandraking1278
    @dandraking1278 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Brooke, keep moving up baby and don't be distracted by the friendless God is putting new ppl in your life. Periodt ❤😊

  • @anthonyturner3054
    @anthonyturner3054 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    So true. Those friends smile in your face, but stab you in the back. They were never your true friends. Some fall in that crab mentality and want everyone to be miserable instead of lifting them.

  • @masseiy
    @masseiy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I don't get the idea of looking at someone an envying them to the point of hate/resentment. There's enough room for everyone and we walk our own paths and its more fun to root for people than hope they fail

  • @tnewman6967
    @tnewman6967 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Girl the way I was juking when you were interviewing! ❤ love it for you! The real ones will show up keep standards high! Keep doing what you love and living your best life.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @addiehill6888
    @addiehill6888 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    So proud for you Brooke….you are a beautiful young lady ❤❤❤

  • @saaunique
    @saaunique 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It's crazy how strangers will like your social posts and root for you more than your actual friends?! Letting that sink in.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s extremely sad!!! SMH!!

  • @geraldinecastar
    @geraldinecastar 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    The absolute truth. My leveling up definitely destroyed some relationships. It makes me appreciate my real friends and family that much more.

  • @DESLYNREDFERN
    @DESLYNREDFERN 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Thanks Miss Brooke Ashley, I live in the U.K and is 49years old. I just needed to heard every word you said on this subject/topic. Wishing you more, more and more of my God blessings 💌

  • @danadayne5117
    @danadayne5117 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Brooke you are absolutely right. That’s why you have to move in silence when you have plans and goals and about to put something in action. Not everyone is happy for you. Some friends/associates low key envy you and take delight if something you are working towards fail. Keep moving forward and walk in your success! I remember a 6:28 couple of years ago you were discouraged. But you hung in there and soared!!!!
    Congratulations on your home!!! That’s exciting! Stay blessed. 😊

  • @jenbunny1984
    @jenbunny1984 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Loving these gems 💎
    Thank you, Brooke!!!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm so happy to hear this!! You're very welcome and thank you for watching!

  • @realestatebykemi
    @realestatebykemi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Preach. I remember you telling this before. I went thru this when I started my real estate brokerage. Now I couldn’t care less about having friends. Friends is a 4 letter word, as far as I’m concerned.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Congratulations on your real estate brokerage! 💕 I understand how you feel because I am a bit jaded now when it comes to friendship but don't lose hope! There are people out there who want to see you win!! Let them come to you! 🫶🏾

    • @realestatebykemi
      @realestatebykemi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@TheBrookeAshley Thanks, Brooke! I prefer hanging out with my Mom now that she relocated. She’s my biggest supporter, & vice versa. I do meet some nice ladies, but I keep everyone at a casual arm’s length distance. I no longer share personal secrets or have expectations, because people can be very unreliable, envious, inconsistent, play mind games, competitive, copycats, passive aggressive, narcissistic, fake, cancel last minute plans, or talk behind your back & tell your business… I just have strong discernment & little patience at this point in my life. I’m planning my retirement & getting ready to start traveling the world & live my best life.
      It’s funny when you listed the ridiculous excuses they come up with not to do something. I invited a friend to go to Myrtle Beach & she was all in until she heard she’d have to split accommodations. I guess she assumed I was going to pay for transportation & resort. Next thing I’m hearing is she can’t find a dog sitter. 🙄🙄🙄 😂 Guess what, I went by myself & loved every second.

    • @saaunique
      @saaunique 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A “friend” did the same thing when we planned a trip to NYC. I still went and had a blast!

  • @talkswitTK
    @talkswitTK 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    So lonely and so worth it. Onward and upward B!!! ❤

  • @BeasleySays
    @BeasleySays 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    First! So happy for your GLOW up! 🩷💜🙏🏾

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much!! 🩷

    • @BeasleySays
      @BeasleySays 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@TheBrookeAshley always love!

  • @Hairloverrr
    @Hairloverrr 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Familiarity breeds contempt. When people see you blossoming and flourishing, they can't fathom how it is possible because they're not experiencing that prosperity in their life. In their head, they can only measure your accomplishments by their limitations in life not understanding your success is not and does not need to be their success.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Preach! My grandmother used to always say that and that saying is SO true!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @dandraking1278
    @dandraking1278 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    The residue is falling off, I'm truly happy for you, walk through every door, cross every threshold that God has for you and don't look back! 🙏🏽❣️

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much!! 💕

  • @Randa_Diba
    @Randa_Diba 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am Caribbean and like you, I have always moved in silence. "Friends" who may have "offered" to help when I have a setback, are nowhere to be found when I'm on the upswing. They have chosen to freeze me in time. I don't shop with friend, and I am very selective in what I share. Life has also taught me that the older I get, the less friends I need. Jealousy doesn't mean they don't have; they just don't want you to have. Keep these Life Advice videos coming!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m on the same wavelength as you when it comes to not needing that many friends!! It’s so true!! I’m so glad you’re liking the life advice videos!! 💖🥹

  • @LylahK
    @LylahK 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Love these videos Brooke! Im glad I have a pretty good foundation so I didn’t experience that much lack of support however that jealousy was STRONG from some. It was crazy because I never realized jealousy could be masked as pleasantries. I always thought it would be direct and nasty but actually it takes many forms!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Oh yes - jealousy can be masked or hidden for a little while but it ALWAYS comes out eventually! And when you spot it....RUN!!!

  • @Truthfavorblessed
    @Truthfavorblessed 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    When you have God’s favor, He will always make paths for you and direct your steps as you trust Him. Unfortunately, some people feel comfortable in darkness and don’t like His Light shining near them, especially from people that they know.
    The enemy has really tricked some people into being this way when in reality, they are imprisoning themselves away from joy and love. When you can’t celebrate God moving in someone’s life, it’s time to seek Him for help.
    But, some people are in love with sadness, so pray for them and trust God to handle them. If they are meant to be in your life, He will allow it, so keep your peace as He works it out. Enjoy your freedom from toxicity! 🙌🏽
    Congratulations 🎉 to you for continuing to press forward, Brooke. 🙏🏽

  • @kesh7711
    @kesh7711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Brooke, you handle it with grace & class. It's not even friends that are our biggest haters but including family. As the saying goes, people want to see you do well, but not better than them.

  • @MayaD773
    @MayaD773 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I’m so glad I went through these friendships trials while “down” bc I don’t have to worry about these things. 🎉 my circle so small it’s a cheerio.
    Folks def be insecure I’m always talking about quitting my job & my coworkers be all “yeah right” I just laugh like all you want me stagnant here and miserable with you nopeeeee😂

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      That's good that your circle is small! (Maybe don't tell your co-workers your plans though! Just quit in silence lol! 😆)

    • @MayaD773
      @MayaD773 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@TheBrookeAshley oh yeah bc they bringing too much bad juju and words are powerful regardless def took that tidbit from you! I stopped saying it just watch me celebrate when it’s time 🫶🏽

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@MayaD773 💗💗💗💗

    • @realestatebykemi
      @realestatebykemi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@MayaD773 I used to do HR. If you have FMLA & short term disability benefits, take it instead of quitting right away. This way you can go back if your other plans don’t pan out.
      Get a doctors note and go to HR. You will get full pay because they pay about 75% of your income but no taxes are deducted, so it adds up to the same net you get now.

    • @MayaD773
      @MayaD773 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@realestatebykemi 👀✍🏽

  • @ciarajca25
    @ciarajca25 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    In this Engagement i am learning who everyone TRULY is

  • @oshear3617
    @oshear3617 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I remember you alluded to a lot of this in your lives last year, so happy that you felt comfortable enough to share.

  • @johannawigg6921
    @johannawigg6921 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Cassie Phillips poem " Let Them" comes to mind, I love these ❤

  • @LeleSM94
    @LeleSM94 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Keep these types of videos coming, I love it!❤

  • @sashat3436
    @sashat3436 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is great advice! I think a follow up discussion on how to spot red flags/ early signs of jealousy and envy from friends and loved ones, would be really helpful. Sometimes when we realize these things it’s too late and there’s already hurt and trauma.

  • @LadyMoringaAndTheCallalooMan
    @LadyMoringaAndTheCallalooMan 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    5:08 😂🤦🏽‍♀️ damn

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Lmaoooo chile folks were just coming up with all sorts of lies on why they didn't want to attend my housewarming lmaooo!!! 🤣🤣

  • @mommav0107
    @mommav0107 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Its clear to me, that you’ve made sacrifices and worked hard, in order to get where you are…Don’t let haters rain on your parade…they are insecure, jealous and mad thinking they could do it better…as if! Frankly, it’s their loss!

  • @cammey1941
    @cammey1941 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Brooke, you are speaking facts

  • @karimabdushshahid6799
    @karimabdushshahid6799 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Preach Preacher Preach 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 Not one lie told.

  • @s_rachelle01
    @s_rachelle01 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    BROOKE!!! You are preaching! It’s tight but it’s right!!

  • @Christina-uu3wq
    @Christina-uu3wq 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Brooke, you’re so right! I had no idea I was in competition with a very close friend who never called after I had my first baby. Crickets from her. We never spoke again. Who needs that kind of envious friend???

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Omg that's crazy!!! Wow wow wow!! The jealousy really jumped out with your ex-friend! What a shame! I'm glad you no longer speak to her!! Envy/jealousy cannot exist in any relationship especially a friendship!!
      Congratulations on your first baby! Wishing you and your family many blessings! 💕💕

  • @mamatosh05
    @mamatosh05 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Yes, jealousy & envy comes from those closest to you for the most part. You don’t want to feel, think or believe nah… they’re not jealous, but it happens. Stay blessed & keep pushing for greatness.

  • @Breanna_monique
    @Breanna_monique 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brooke, you are truly THAT girl. You shine without trying. You're at the top baby and don't let fairweather friends bring you down. Continue to grow and do great ❤

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much love! I really appreciate you!!! You're too kind!! 💕🥹

  • @carrie618
    @carrie618 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    4:40 Oh my gosh. 😳 I'm so sorry, Brooke! I'm stunned. I rarely catch a live, so I didn't know it was that in your face! Unreal. "Walk my pet goldfish." 🤣 I do hear what you're saying, though. In high school, after I won a state prize, I remember thinking, "Now my mom is really going to hate me." My dad was always pushing me to achieve, and my mom was always threatening to pull me out of anything I enjoyed. You're spot on that envious people can be very dangerous. How wise to see their voluntary departure as a gift. Please do get religious on us. You are a light in the world, walking in your purpose. ✨ Also, I never get tired of your "Thank you, Jesus" clip! 🙏 May God continue to bless you. 💞

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      LOL! Everyone had the craziest excuses - it was unreal lmao! 🤣
      Thank you so much!! 💕

  • @meeunice
    @meeunice 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Brooke, I am loving these videos. They're like big sister therapy time. 😂
    I don't have any friends. The last friend I had tried to k*ll in my sleep. No lie. We had a sleepover and she tried to smother me. It was so shocking and heartbreaking. She apologised and didn't even give a good reason for her actions. I just couldn't trust her again after that. 12 years of great friendship down the toilet. The other one (we were a threesome, I was always left out) just stopped talking to me for no reason, but they remained friends mind you.
    After that incident, I've just been super weary of people.
    All I have is my immediate family. I love them so much, they're so kind and supportive.

  • @tresboujay
    @tresboujay 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No lies told and I love the Jill Marie Jones thumbnail! 😍

  • @coyac3482
    @coyac3482 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I needed this video Brooke! Currently engaged and will be getting married in October and I have found myself dumbfounded by the lack of support and rude comments I’ve heard concerning my wedding. I agree with you though it is no need to cry about people who show you who they are.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Congratulations on your engagement!!! 💕 And yes everything is all fine and well when you're single but let you get in a great relationship, engaged or married - the jealousy truly jumps out! It's very sad!! But please ignore the haters, pay them dust and keep enjoying your life! 💕

  • @maritza1409
    @maritza1409 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ❤ your content! 100% agree with what you say. My motto this year was "say less" after I saw ppl's true colors. 🤐Now I'm just going to move in silence. 🙌 Wishing you all the BEST.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yessss!! Moving in silence is the way to go!!!! Thank you so much!! 💕

  • @TiggysTC
    @TiggysTC 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is such a true statement that you made in this post, but what’s even more disheartening is when those very people who don’t want to see you grow or get better are your own family members !😢😢If your family / spouse doesn’t wanna see you grow prosper/ level up the who do you have left? This was my personal experience so I just had to learn to be my own cheerleader and just move in silence from Unfortunately some cases I had to downplay some of my accomplishments.
    Overall, I just learned to keep my mouth shut about many things that were going on in my life.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Unfortunately family can be the absolute worst as well!!!!! I'm so sorry that you're going through this but you're def doing the right thing by being your own cheerleader and moving in silence!!!! I'm praying that you find people who will celebrate and cheer you on!! If this counts for anything I'm rooting for you and your success! 💕🫶🏾

  • @dayum_mi
    @dayum_mi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I know you have siblings but I swear you are my little sister in my head. I’m so happy to see your growth and Ws. What a much needed message. I hope I get to meet you one day.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you! You're too kind!! 🩷🩷🫶🏾

  • @Kgothatsolhosie
    @Kgothatsolhosie 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brooke, girl!!! I moved into my first apartment a few months ago. I finally did a moving in /birthday party. I got rsvps and stuff, brought all the food. Not a single friend of mine came. Not even a text. My cousin blocked me! The few people that showed up and the few people that called to say, I'm sorry, THOSE ARE THE REAL ONES. you've been right from day one. So mad because so much food and money was wasted.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      First off, congratulations on your new apartment!! 💖🫶🏾 OMG!!!! That is beyond crazy!! You see how demonic jealousy is?! I hope you never speak to them again!! It’s so sad how people can’t be happy for you!! But now you see their true colors!!!

  • @joanpierce5245
    @joanpierce5245 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brooke, you better Preach!!!!

  • @teamenjoylife1354
    @teamenjoylife1354 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you for this video !❤🎉

  • @chi.vision
    @chi.vision 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ashley!!!!! This is timely like you just don’t know! Thank you for posting this video!❤

  • @brittany1640
    @brittany1640 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sadly, this is very similar to my story/experience. Congratulations on your success and I know you’ll do even greater things. 🙏🏾🥂💕

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much!! 💕 Sending you lots of love and please know that if you're dealing with this then you're obviously doing well in life to have haters!!!!

  • @anew525
    @anew525 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey Brook girl, you are right when you level up… there will be those that fall away, but I take it as a divine protection… because where God is taking you everyone can’t go… but just know you’ll always the right ppl supporting as you level up… proud of you #churchfam4lyfe

  • @Lynn-ir4ey
    @Lynn-ir4ey 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Story of my life!! Cheers to you 🥂

  • @Dr.DellPhD
    @Dr.DellPhD 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'm proud of you, Brooke🎉🎉🎉

  • @marilove11
    @marilove11 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yay! So after I finish studying I will have TWO videos to watch from you. 😊

  • @lovejones92
    @lovejones92 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is a fantastic video! I’ve shared awhile ago how I lost majority of my childhood friends (all but 1) once I went to the military and leveled up in life. Sad part is that I didn’t find out how these ladies felt about me and my newfound success until I was in the thick of it dealing with grief from the loss of my parents. Much like you I don’t hesitate to cut ppl off who aren’t for my wellbeing because like you said jealousy is dangerous. Since I cut them off I came off of all social media platforms, only keeping LinkedIn and TH-cam, but nothing they could keep tabs on me for anything I have going on in my life. If you don’t like a person so much you shouldn’t feel a need to keep up with them so that moving in silence thing is a big deal for me when it comes to these ladies. I still wish them all the best because I wasn’t raised to be hateful or spiteful, but much like Queen Bey said “Always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper 💸” so whenever they see me, they really see me 😏.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Keep thriving and I’m glad you’ve cut those ladies out of your life!! Jealousy is dangerous - “cruel as the grave.” Not to be taken lightly at all!! And be clear - your ex-friends are probably still lurking and keeping tabs on you til this day upset at your success lol!! Keep winning!!💖🥂🎉

    • @saaunique
      @saaunique 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same, I’m only on LinkedIn and TH-cam now because family members were pulling and sending my pics from Facebook and IG to each other! Envious. Crabs in an effin barrel!

  • @zoraxye4325
    @zoraxye4325 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brooke, this is a great new series and so true. So relatable. Unfortunately, your "friends" are/were straight trash. I remember when you originally shared the story. How could nobody show up? Like how???? You don't need them in your life. I hate to admit that I can relate, it was a painful discovery. (I wasn't even levelling up that much!!) The silence was defeaning & the lack of support was mind boggling, (extremely hurtful too) I couldn't believe it. 5 years on, I totally get it. #fairweatherfriends #frenemies #byebye
    Brooke, continue to flourish. Continue to thrive & continue to soar. You're a beautiful person, inside and out.❤❤❤

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much!!! 💖 I’m so glad you’re enjoying the new series! 🤗
      I’m so sorry you went through this too but even if you don’t think that you’re leveling up that much people will still get jealous because any type of improvement rattles people! It’s just a fact!! Keep winning!! 💖🫶🏾

    • @zoraxye4325
      @zoraxye4325 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @TheBrookeAshley You're welcome Brooke. The new series is excellent.
      As for me, what hurt the most was the defeaning silence. Not a text, a call, an email or a WhatsApp message after a very significant life event. There's no reason to he jealous of anyone's journey. *What's for you is for you and what's for me is for me!*
      Anyway Brooke, we move
      Love to see your progress. I'm pretty sure your ex friends watch every single one of your videos and listen to your podcast. Human nature is weird af...

  • @VeronicaHuguley-sg7yj
    @VeronicaHuguley-sg7yj 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for these wonderful words!! ❤ I am so happy for you and your Glow- up is top tier. ☀️
    Love and Blessing!!🔥🔥

  • @jamerjessica
    @jamerjessica 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    YESSSS Toni Childs 🎉

  • @Simone_Janee
    @Simone_Janee 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love when you tell this advice it hits every time right on time!!! I can COUNT on it at this point 😂😂😂 thank the LORD I came to watch this today

  • @b.abouttowwn
    @b.abouttowwn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brooke, you are saying a word and dropping jewels!!!! Thank you!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @janetsamon749
    @janetsamon749 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you so much Brooke Ashley for this video. I experienced this with my family years ago and could not understand this.

  • @pattysklodowski6732
    @pattysklodowski6732 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    AMEN AMEN weed out that weedy needy garden. At 66 still get bullied and when I just smile and keep going gets many even further away. No need to feed NEGATIVITY...YOU DID THIS with PERFECTION ❤

  • @joannwilson2226
    @joannwilson2226 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brooke we are friends in my head.. where ever I see you on the Red Carpet I am cheering. But seriously your advice is on point. I also don't believe in everyone praying for me either because some people are praying for your downfall.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Aww thank you so much!! 🩷 I agree - a lot of people aren't praying for you to be blessed - they're praying for the opposite! It's wicked out here!!

  • @admusik99
    @admusik99 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Speak on it! Well done for your achievements, Brooke! 🫶🏼

  • @mowalker483
    @mowalker483 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Absolute truth💕

  • @misstty
    @misstty 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for this “how to move”series Brooke ❤ Your experiences really do help with understanding how to move and take care of oneself!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're so welcome! I'm glad you're enjoying!!! 🩷

  • @NayNaySayersX
    @NayNaySayersX 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you Brooke! Love these life topics! 💜✨💜

  • @kirstenjholmes
    @kirstenjholmes 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brooke! I am loving the new content! 💕💕 So happy to see you diversifying your content. I'm so proud of you, internet friend!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much!! 💕

  • @mybls_
    @mybls_ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for sharing your experience with us! Everything you said is true!
    Be safe and keep winning 🙏🏽♥️

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You're very welcome! Thank you for watching!! 💕🫶🏾

  • @TheFrenchieoolala
    @TheFrenchieoolala 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brooke so sorry you going through that. Believe me. I been there. But the bright side people who secretly hate on you can be dangerous thank God he removed them

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are absolutely correct! Jealous folks are dangerous!!

  • @tztyles
    @tztyles 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A few years ago I lost a lot of weight and thru hard work I have kept it off. I was so happy and for the first time in my life felt like i owned my body vs. my body owning me. I shared my results on social media and I was surprised from the feedback that I got and how different some friends would treat me. It was something that I was not expecting and blind sided by it. I would even get threats from random numbers. It was scary. Jealously is real gotta be careful and if you need to cut people off do it.

  • @NicE32E
    @NicE32E 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Girl it is SO lonely!!!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It truly is!! 💕🫶🏾😓

  • @unapologeticallyromel7096
    @unapologeticallyromel7096 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Amen pastor Brooke ❤

  • @Ashleylovesbaby
    @Ashleylovesbaby 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This video is right on time!! I’m going through the worst friendship break up of my life! She’s been my friend since MIDDLE SCHOOL (I’m 38 now)!!! I just got married and we’re expecting our 3rd child. We were in a very low point in our relationship a few years ago and she was there all through the fall out, encouraged the break up, encouraged me getting in the streets so we could be single together…then promptly got a boyfriend less then a month later. I was good with that. Happy for her. When me and my husband started trying to iron things out for our kids she discouraged it. When we started exploring if there was anything there I was dumb (all while her and her boyfriend are making up/breaking up every week). When we got married, she was mad we did it with just the two of us and the person that introduced us as a witness. Made it all about her. When i told her I was pregnant she says “oh well i guess you’re just getting everything you want” with an attitude. I couldn’t talk about how i was feeling without her getting upset or changing the subject back to herself so I just let her. Figured she was going through a hard time so I’ll be her sounding board. Now, since i don’t call her everyday (as i said, im newly married, 5 months pregnant and have 2 kids) she needs to take a step back from the friendship because im not giving her what she needs. Am I wrong here? I’ve been replaying this over in my head for weeks now. Crying all the time

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m so sorry to hear this! You’re not wrong at all! Your friend is jealous of you and you need to cut her off asap!!! I hate to be so blunt but your friend only likes you if she feels that she’s doing better than you. That is not a friendship. Look at the signs she’s showing you and LET HER GO!!!!!
      I hope this helps! 💖🫶🏾

    • @Ashleylovesbaby
      @Ashleylovesbaby 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@TheBrookeAshley Thank you Brooke ❤️❤️❤️. That’s been the general consensus I’ve gotten from my mother, sister and husband. I’m just having a hard time letting go. I was genuinely her friend and I really thought she was mine. This is a new chapter in my life and like you said, everybody can’t come 🥲

    • @kimgreen7613
      @kimgreen7613 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@AshleylovesbabyI had a friend who was typically there through any bs with men. Good friend right? Got into a new relationship and got married To a man who genuinely loves me and is nice and consistent and just wonderful to be honest and she backed off of me. It was odd! It was hurtful! It took me awhile to realize that she only is a friend when I’m down. We are no longer friends. Do I think about it her sometimes? Yes absolutely. But am I ok with us no longer being friends. I am. You need to let that friendship go. It will hurt and you will think of her, but maybe she wasn’t meant to be in your life forever. Best of luck to you!

    • @Ashleylovesbaby
      @Ashleylovesbaby 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kimgreen7613 Thank you Kim! Y’all are reaffirming everything I’ve heard and been ignoring for too long.In time, I hope to look back on this and be at peace with it all and I’m glad you were able to move on in happiness and wishing you so much more ❤️❤️

  • @jorgeherrera-uo2pr
    @jorgeherrera-uo2pr 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    AHHHHHHH ANOTHER ONE WEVE BEEN WAITING FOR!!!!
    I feel this so much!!!

  • @Phumla_Olive
    @Phumla_Olive 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You have a bestie here in South Africa Brooke 🤗🤗🤗 It has been great watching your growth 💐

  • @Kgothatsolhosie
    @Kgothatsolhosie 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    4:50 I remembered this when my situation happened.

  • @marilynhaywood9317
    @marilynhaywood9317 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes, so true!!

  • @jonathanmensah5832
    @jonathanmensah5832 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I learnt the hard way the importance of moving in silence. Jealousy and envy is real. However if God opened that door for you, no man can shut. He will lay a table before us in the presence of our frenemies/enemies. Keep shining Brooke!

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You’re absolutely correct!!!!! He sure will prepare a table in front of our enemies! They’re watching us eat right now lmao! 🤣

    • @jonathanmensah5832
      @jonathanmensah5832 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@TheBrookeAshley Lool..exactly. A mouth-watering spread it will be😂

  • @food4thesoul683
    @food4thesoul683 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Envy is no joke stay focused

  • @abriaangel9986
    @abriaangel9986 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I had a friend cut me off and I wasn't even doing nothing worthy of "leveling up", other than fitness but this happened after I lost weight.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Omg weight loss is a big reason why people get upset/jealous!!! Never underestimate the power of your appearance and how that can cause uneasiness and envy from others! A lot of people have stories of friends no longer wanting to be around them after weight loss! I'm sorry you dealt with that but thank God she showed her true colors!!

    • @abriaangel9986
      @abriaangel9986 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@TheBrookeAshley It is what it is, I know within myself I did nothing to her that's why initially it felt so weird, I thought I was imagining things. Homegirl straight ghosted me lol!

  • @oshear3617
    @oshear3617 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for sharing this. This series so far has been great.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you! I'm so happy that you're enjoying!! 🩷

  • @madisonwestwater7665
    @madisonwestwater7665 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ❤ Another fabulous video! Thank you Brooke ❤ xx

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m glad you enjoyed!! Thank you for watching!! ❤️

  • @themissingpiece9145
    @themissingpiece9145 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    People show you who they are as we get older we get to see people for who they are. Sometimes things happen and people show they true colors.Good riddance to bad rubbish,

  • @vondashicole1137
    @vondashicole1137 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey Brooke! Those friends who didn't show up should be sure to forget the address. Jealousy is not normal. Some people enjoy you as long as you stay at the same level. I used to be hurt, but now I'm relieved.

  • @davidanthony1992
    @davidanthony1992 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Blood relatives and friends. I graduated from college March 2nd and closed on my home the following week and some of the loudest voices couldn’t even muster a simple congratulations. NGL it made me really sad.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      First off, Congratulations to you because that's amazing! 🎉
      I'm so sorry to hear this but now you know how people really feel about your accomplishments! It's really sad that people closest to you can't celebrate you!! But keep your head up and continue to do great things!! 🫶🏾

  • @breakthecycle1971
    @breakthecycle1971 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your star is rising Brooke, so let the haters hate. 🌟 It’s so unfortunate but human beings are really weird creatures. That’s ok, because you have your TH-cam girls here to support. It was a big deal for me to perfect my smile so when I finally had my braces removed after wearing for a few years, it was disappointing that no one complimented me on my new smile. Thank you for always being an example of light!🥳❤️ Jealousy….. is a mental cancer. B C Forbes

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Aww thank you!! 💖 I’m so sorry to hear you experienced that but not surprising bc people are jealous over everything including a perfect smile! I hope you blinded them with your straight teeth every time you saw them lol!! But yes jealousy is definitely a mental cancer! I agree!!!

    • @breakthecycle1971
      @breakthecycle1971 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TheBrookeAshley Yes I did!😀

  • @c-iloveyou729
    @c-iloveyou729 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This was an excellent post!!! Brooke you are wise beyond years!!! I am beyond proud of you, I feel like I know you personally. God is and going to bless you richly, and I can't wait to see all your accomplishments. PS, you also look sun kissed and beautiful!!! Bye haters.

    • @TheBrookeAshley
      @TheBrookeAshley  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much!! 🩷

  • @ItsAmandaTV
    @ItsAmandaTV 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Brooke! You already know because we’ve talked but all facts in this video, sis!

  • @unapologeticallyromel7096
    @unapologeticallyromel7096 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I lost so many friends and I'm only 25 and still trying to make it in this world.