Nick Cave opens up about how he dealt with grief and the loss of his son Arthur who died aged 15.
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- Nick Cave opens up about how he dealt with grief and the loss of his son Arthur who died aged 15.
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Jesus Nick. “If I did not talk about it, I would turn inward on myself. I would harden.”
All these years of therapy trying to understand why nothing phases me. Wondering why I can’t cry. Why I’m “dead inside”. All these years being told by one therapist to another that “I had to harden, so I could do my job. (EMS and the hospital trauma team) Years of feeling soulless. Years of feeling hollow. Years of feeling like a monster.
Not a single shrink or medical doc could help me w the emptiness.,Then here comes Nick. Within 20 seconds has made me understand why I feel like I do. Within 20 seconds allowed me to feel like a human being again. And within 20 seconds has allowed me to cry again. Bless you Nick. I hope you know just how much you mean to your fans. You are not only brilliant in the creative sense. Your words off stage have undoubtedly rescued many people’s soul. Bless you.,
Lying attention seeker
Your actions have undoubtedly rescued many people's souls too. Bless you too mate. Hope you're feeling better - I used to struggle with extremely acute anxiety, and it's completely gone now for me. Never give up.
Thank God for Nick . You do matter. Welcome home.
All the love to you and huge respect and adoration for all that you do. I'm so pleased you found some relief here. Nick certainly has a way to express and reform the chaotic thoughts of many of us ❤
Poor guy lost Two kids. My wife died and it ROCKED me. I can't imagine.
I lost my only son, only child, when he was just 4 years old.
Because I am not a celebrity, nobody wants to talk about it any more.
Hearing Nick talk about his experience is cathartic and oddly comforting. He is exactly right, I changed completely 😮😮❤❤
Its heartbreaking how people let you alone in your heartbreak as they refuse to feel their own pain and how can you emphasize truely with someone if you dont wanna go there. So as long as you grief you remind them of what they dont wanna deal with and in a way what a deep person you and how superficial they are. Im so very sorry for you❤
Woww such wisdom words..Thank you@@bohemia9956
That’s so incredibly sad 😢 I’m so sorry for your loss . I have two friends one who lost her first child in the womb at the third trimester but had to carry him to full term . She has had 4 others but jaden is her first born and it’s only with those of us who knew her at that time she feels she can speak about it openly . So I encourage her to celebrate his birthdays and the anniversary of his passing ❤❤❤❤ I hope you have friends you can share with or find someone like me
Remember your son lots of people just find the kids loss of life hard. Please note there are people whom know people who have suffered a loss and we do think of them. It's a hard subject life goes on but memories stay
As humans we are tasked with maintaining normalcy while the world falls down around us brother I can’t imagine losing a child there’s things none of us understand and losing a precious innocent life is one of them. Be proud and keep his memory alive however you see fit if you won’t remember and stand up for him no one will
Ive met very few people who know of the raw talent that is nick cave. But those who have, love you dearly sir. Cant imagine what that kind of pain would be like. Thank you for surviving it. Idk if id be able to.
Ooohh, I've been a fan for over 30 years. Avalanche.!!
You think so?
I guess you're right, but it seems unbelievable, how this consumate Artist has been working for decades at a level of Artistry and Honesty otherwise unheard of, how much is this Man, admired by other Musicians, whenever i talk about him, i refer to him as:
The Supreme Pontiff...
I've seen him perform live, "many" times, and it never seems to be enough, just outstanding, ever since, The Birthday Party...
This Man does not know how to fail, one is awestruck by his performance, and obvious Talent, for me it's like a Religious experience...
Losing not just one son, but TWO?!? My heart goes out to him.
Im a fan of the Birthday Party, never so much the Bad Seeds but my wife died right between the deaths of his two sons like it's like dead center and it kind of opened me back up to his music the guy really is a fucking genius I can't imagine what the guy has gone through and his entire family is going through losing my wife rocks me to my core but losing two children I cannot imagine
Top 5 best live concerts you could possibly see - and I think it’s clear now that the Warren Ellis era/influence surpasses Blixa era. Not just the seeds but man, the film scores Warren and Nick have cranked out are amazing too
Nick is such a beautiful soul.
@@Matthias_Fischer You seem nice.
@@Matthias_Fischer So to be clear you're trawling through videos of musicians and likely people you don't like to tell everyone you don't like them for...... why?
He is a poet of pain and a superhero! His eyes, his eyes!!!
im only 14 and nick caves music has been a big impact on my life, my favourite song of all time is into my arms and ive loved that song since before i can remember so seeing this bought tears to my eyes i love nick ❤
❤❤❤ I love it when the youth has good taste because most do not
I'm 14 too
This is a great thing about going to Bad Seeds gigs, you see like four generations of people there. I'm 30s, discovered them in my teens, via people 30 years my elders.
hey, i'm 17 now but I discovered Nick when I was 14 too, he's amazing and such a soul. im so glad there are people my age-ish that relate to that level of work :)
Same age I became a Nick Cave fan! Definitely helped me through my teen years, and continues to do so. I'm 34 now..
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I myself have lost 2 children so I know your pain.🌹
I'm so sorry for your losses. I have myself lost a son.
An unspeakable tragedy. It speaks volumes to his emotional intelligence and character that he was able to continue with his life in any form after what happened.
A deeply principled and intelligent man, and a hugely gifted artist. We’re lucky to have him and I wish him the best in the face of the tragedies he’s had to deal with in his life.
We keep our candles burning, Nick. Be at peace!
So sad that he lost 2 of his sons 😢
He lost his father in a car accident around the age of 20, I think. A lot of tragedy in his life.
Father, son.. talented bandmates & mates, it comes with the package l spose!?!
I still listen to Boys Next Door & the Birthday Party... they were kids (as was l)..
But talented flowed from them all..
Rowland wrote Shivers at 16!!!
That's be enough for some bands...some!
And now his close friend Shane
@@ko0974yes but in fairness Shane was lucky to make it to the age he did.
@@ko0974 I'm sad for Nick that he lost a friend in Shane. But it's really quite amazing that Shane made it so far. I thought he'd be dead 20 years ago, the way he lived. RIP.
You can see a ton of pain in those eyes. God bless him.❤
I played into my arms on my drive to my baby sisters funeral .. it's so beautiful.. it makes me cry every time I hear it.. she was only 36yrs.. I hate cancer.. 😭
I’m so very sorry about what happened to your sons. I wish you the very best to you, your wife and loved ones.
Nick cave got me through life as a teen. I'm 44 now and I'm forever thankful for his music. I'm so sorry for his loss but he is so inspiring about how to move forward in life but never forgetting. Talking is so important. Thank you Mr Cave.
A real unrehearsed and reachable soul is so present in him - I love that so much about this man. Neither of us can articulate what he manages to render with his art, but we meet each other so clearly in perfect ways that transcend words. I sense the immensity of pressure he feels, in rendering that. But he navigates it like an artisan. He is a tremendous human being, and I love him. And I hope he sees this, and knows he is truly loved.
Beautifully put!
This man means SO MUCH to so many people, for so many things..
We keep our candles burning..
I’m crying just listening to him recall it. 😢😭 No parent should ever out live their children.
I truly love this man. What a gift he is to us all, even when he carries such pain ❤
there is nothing more tragic than when a parent has to bury their child, of any age.
you have an incredible voice, Nick. Thank you for sharing your talent 💕
I owe so much to this man and his art, and I'm so thankful for him surviving and living through this terrible loss. His music has helped me save myself in many ways, it helped me find beauty in the darkest of days
My girl died at 35. It’s a struggle but I’m doing it. Had she died as a teenager, it would have killed me. I don’t think I would have stayed here.
My only son died in his sleep earlier this year. I am devastated. My friends and family don't know what to say so they pretend it hasn't happened. He was a great joy and l miss him all the time. You have my sympathy.
I love you Nick..I lost my nephew just recently..he was like a son to me..your music keeps me from pulling the trigger
Just a lowly American southerner here… you are an artist sir!! Here we think a man can’t tell a story in song unless he’s lost something, my friend you tell a thousand stories thank you
Wow that is quite profound. You can't tell a story in song unless you've lost something. I think that will stick in my mind for some time
Can't hold myself not to cry
Please know how much all of us felt your loss. When I lost my husband, I knew my grief wasn't normal. He had a mental illness that I've only come to understand after the fact & everything was so wrapped up in it before he died, I was numb. Your music saved me & continues to save me again & again. Thank you & God bless you and your family.
Very intelligent man
👍
How's that ? He's just a wanker who adds biblical references to his songs to make himself look profound.
I (fortunately) haven’t had too much drama in my life, but listening to Nick and Warren always brings tears to my eyes. Such powerful music with zero vocals.
Love him. Been reading his Red Hand Files newsletters for years now. His words have gotten through some hard times 🖤
I think it’s so good he is sharing this - it may help others to learn how to process grief.
So sorry to hear about this Nick, can’t imagine the pain and grief you’ve went through, much love from Belfast, Northern Ireland ❤️👍
I'm obsessed with this man's music since Peaky blinders, his music is my biggest inspiration for making my own music and art, and is played daily on my phone. It's heartbraking to hear him talk about that. I'm sending hugs to all of the parents who lost their children. May they rest in peace.
Life can be so very cruel. Due to where my life is, and at 55 with a 9yo, if he died, I would kill myself. He is my hope. I am thankful for people like Nick Cave.
I think I would too, if my daughter had died at a young age. She died at 35, and I’ve managed to have gratitude for those 35 years.
Great that he can articulate this. A genius on so many levels, but a human still…..
Soon after the death of his son, I saw Nick at Ebbsfleet train station in the UK checking in with his manager. I walked up to him and thanked him for his beautiful music. 'Thanks, mate!" was his reply. :-D
An amazing person and singer. I'm sorry
Ive lost both parents and a best friend; i can only imagine how losing a child must feel.
I love Nick Cave, been a fan since 14. RIP Arthur.
I had no idea, and ive been a fan for twenty or so years. I am feeling absolutely horrible about your loss.my condolences and sincere sympathy goes out to you and your family.
Your are such an inspiration to me, and im sure millions more. It’s easy to relate to soulful sound and the real life grit in your music. We get to live in it because of your hard work and talent!!
Thank you!
The pizza scene in his film just kill’s me now. Him so happy with his baby boys.
It crushes me that Nick is managing to work through this, because there is no way I could survive losing my only child. In such an unexpected, truly tragic way. Love, all the way. x
Poor nick ,let’s just hope he can one day recover,I’ve been through this experience and am still on edge with it
Respect to Mr. Cave and his family X
KING INK strolls into town...
He sniffs around!!
1982...15 yo @ the Stage Door pub...still one of the best gigs lve been to!!
You can never guess what life dishes up mate...lost a son mself, stay strong Nick!
We loves ya, Nick. I'll never forget being double booked at Metropolis studio with you for a few days, and we shared the studio and hung out.
I have a tattoo on my ankle you doodled on me one night after a gig, which i treasure ❤
Thanx for sharing, Nick
Thank you for share such deeply personal insights. Much love to you and your family..
I’m dealing with loss of my Son Taylor the same way I understand how you feel Nick Cave
Thinking of you
We don’t get over it but we do get better
I just cannot imagine. Nick Cave is such an amazing human being and artist. I have so much admiration and respect for him.
One of the few remaining true artists.
It sounds like he dealt with his pain in a very healthy way. I really feel for him because of course that is every parent's worst nightmare.
Great job moving THROUGH it. It’s the only way. God bless you ❤
Heartbreaking
How much these words resonate with me ❤
So heartbreaking.
Nick is a wonderful human being!
For me as a person who speaks another language on a daily basis, the lyrics and Nick Cave puts in his songs makes English at its utmost of the dependence of this language
What an amazing human and artist..🙏🙌
He is so talented
There's nothing so sad as it..
I have a 14 yr old and I cant imagine being able to carry on after that.
All the love to you Nick. I can't imagine that loss. Thank you for all you've done for me in dark times
Heart breaking.
This is life Nick, you're not alone
You are courageous Mr. Cave, I admire
Your attitude, 🎉❤🎉
God bless him....❤❤❤
Big hugs, as I can not imagine! I understand his truth!
We love you, and thank you sharing your journey and your heart with us ❤️
Into my arms , a beautiful song
Into my arms, O Lord, into my arms
Heart breaking
Sending so much Love to you and your beautiful wife dear 🌹❤️🙏
One great Man . great great Man.
I can't imagine that kind of loss.
Gripping - I share a number of curious facts with Nick including our birth dates, father deaths, twin fatherhoods, and twin son names, all random coincidences. We nearly lost our son our son Aaron at birth, and since Nick and Susie’s loss of Arthur I keep close watch over our son Aaron more than ever. I cannot explain the parallels.
I am so sorry for arther
Even his answer on that heartbreaking topic reveals the melody of a melancholic song.
We love you Nick...❤ your Stagger Lee will remain my favourite song always, thank you for this song and ALL your music Nick. Good luck in going forward
He's an inspiration.
You've gotta just keep on pushing. Keep on pushing. Push the sky away ❤️
Love you so Mister Nick Cave ❤
How sad, Nick is much loved by music fans all over the world, and nobody should have to bury their child.
Nick is an outstanding person..❤
Im so sorry
I lost my 5yr old to a drunk driver.. we were walking on the sidewalk and a drunk driver jumped the curb and ran us over.. it killed Jayden instantly... I cannot even BEGIN to describe the pain... the emptiness you deal with every moment of everyday....
Amazing how much he looks like my past love..also named Nick .sorry that Nick Cave lived a tragic personal life.😢❤
God bless you Nick
Love ❤️❤️❤️ him people just ain't no good ❤❤❤my favorite song from him❤
No parent should have to bury their child - Theoden
All the feels ❤ for you, and your families
I'm sorry 😔 nick
Respect ✊🏼 Maestro 🙏🏼 been listening to Faith Hope and Carnage you’re an inspiration
I love you dear mate. Brave warrior, Earth angel of mine❤ Angel's are riding by your side. Your my hero , if you stop, then so will I... ❤
💔
I send you light, just as you do with us when you Comme and sing with your band, I send you love
Ник , ты сделал меня человеком . Спасибо , родной! Соболезную .
Musical genius. I'm willing to bet, a parenting genius as well....
mr cave you are awsome
We lover you for the extraordinary Essence that lives from your (excuse for my english orribile)
@@Maryjane-rr6yo sorry for my terrible english but the question Is " why and while Nick cave Is a extraordinary Person? I learn the message with fan ....and the rest..
it's great that you try English instead of not trying🖤🖤🖤
@@Theresa-lu2gl grazie ❤️
que fuerte
Love you ❤ take care