Dude I literally just got word that I failed a class in school today. How- what- your timing is impeccable. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now.
Bummer. So, how you approached that class didn’t work. What do you need to change to be better? When you review the test, learn what went wrong. Did you read questions wrong? Practice reading (fun stuff like Star Wars or Harry Potter is excellent reading practice.) Did you forget to read the directions (my teacher drove home the importance of reading directions by making the first direction, “sign your paper at the top and turn in your paper now.” Any work done after that was an automatic fail.)? Did you check your work, make sure you included everything required, and didn’t put stuff in the wrong order? Did you misunderstand a concept? Maybe do some extra learning about that concept. Failing a test shows you where you need to improve. If lots of people fail the same test, it tells the teacher where they need to improve in their instruction. Its a learning experience.
@@StarNanny Awe thanks I appreciate it but no, I just couldn't start the final project cuz of reasons so my teachers helping me finish it. Ive just been struggling all year in this class since its online and I *suck* at time management. And uh for the record I'm a certified nerd, it wasn't that I didn't understand the topic.
Two things I always keep in mind. "The champions at the top have failed more times than you've tried" and "You can learn way more from your failures than you will ever learn if you only win"
I almost started crying at 18:46 when they said "shoot for the Stars if you miss you'll land on the moon" that's something my grandpa would say to me. Man I love this podcast
The song that Impulse is referring to at approx 48mins is "Everybody's Free (to Wear Sunscreen)" by Baz Luhrmann. And the full line is "Do one thing each day that scares you." The older I've gotten the more that song makes sense to me. Another fantastic podcast, guys. This one turned on a lightbulb above my head about why I've been struggling with one particular aspect of my creative endeavours, so thank you for that brain fodder. Going to be chewing on this for a bit.
Skizz, you're handling stream stuff just fine, and our feelings are not hurt if you miss us sometimes. I'm sure it hurts, just know that being hurt or let down that you missed something like that speaks to unrealistic expectations on the viewer's part, not a short coming on yours. Yes you want to set an expectation you'll do all the shouts, yes you try and could arguably try harder, but at the end of the day, you can't have personal 1-1 conversations with every viewer while also playing a game that often requires you to interact with others and requires at least a little attention, if not your full attention. There's a reason we talk about streamer brain. You're good and we love you!
Chat goes by so fast. I'm always shocked if a streamer actually reads my comment or sees my resub. So, I agree, most people's feelings are not hurt if you miss them sometimes.
Due to many toxic adults, both inside and outside the home, I believed that I if I failed that I was worth being alive. It took many years of help to unlearn the negative thinking. This episode was extremely important in helping me feel better about failure. So thank you!😊
In the office I was known as the guru of all the machines. That was because I broke the machines EVERY way possible so I knew how to fix whatever situation anyone else was in. One has to fail to learn.
Most of these episodes are so freakin relatable. The "wanted 100k, almost gave up at 60k" made me pause the video, get a drink, take a very deep breath with my eyes closed and consider whether I wanted to cry or finish the ep.
Had to come back and listen again to this episode. Just had a horrible dress rehearsal and it's opening night for my theater. People's attitudes were getting at me (I'm the star and co-director) then my voice started to go. I was ready to give up on tonight, but listening to this episode again really helped. The show must go on
Mistakes are such an integral part of the human experience. But mistakes, as much as they failures, the are leasons the be learned from. I believe that one only truly fails when they choose not to learn from their mistakes. And if you fail to learn you are doomed to repeat your mistakes till you finally learn.
So I already listened to this episode late last night, and I just wanna thank you two for making even the idea of listening to this podcast bearable. I have EXTREME anxiety about failure, it's screwed me over a lot in the past and is screwing me over now. Even when impulse first mentioned the topic, I winced a little. But I trusted you two when you said it wasn't a tough talk, and I'm glad I did. It'll take a bit, but I hope to internalize what you've passed on here. (On a lighter note, I legit FELT that joke before skizz said it, I've got a sixth sense)
As they said, “failure” is NOT a character flaw. It is a learning experience. It should not be an emotional thing. It should be a cerebral, start thinking thing…what needs to be done differently, what needs to change to accomplish whatever it is. We get better with practice at nearly anything. 👍 Maybe think about what initiated your anxiety originally. Did you have abusive teachers when you were young? A child needs to practice to get good at anything…pronouncing words, potty training, using utensils. If someone was yelling at you during those learning experiences, it could be what has caused your anxiety. Define whatever it was, think about it, accept the facts, they are in the past, done. They are not “now”. They are not “you”. The best antidote to over-emotionalized anything is “turn your brain on, and leave it on.”
I've recently felt like a major failure myself lately. Financial issues, family issues, seemed like my family wasn't getting what they needed, and I just couldn't do so many things. Oddly enough, it took me imagining you saying "Why would you think you're a failure?" nonchalantly. It actually helped me get out of the funk!
IM EXCITED FOR THIS ONE!! :D Also, could you guys get the man, the one, the only, the prankster: Grian on the show? I’d probably rewatch it on loop! ❤❤ And best part is, he’d show up on time since Jimmy isn’t here XD
4:43 - I know impulse has said in the past (particularly with the life series) how he wants to improve and flex his improv skills and Is always looking to improve it. From what I recall it doesn’t come as naturally to him, if I have remembered that right? But I think you’re funny as heck even when you’re not trying to be But, in saying that. Every now and and then, just out of no where at all when everyone was least suspecting it, he comes out with this level of quick wit. And to that I say well done. I really laughed out loud when I heard you say that. Again very sharp :D
25:00 I love making the distinction between failing and being a failure. Making success or failure someone’s identity is so harmful, even when you’re doing it to yourself. There’s so much in life that we can define ourselves by, failure or success of arbitrary goals is something I’ve tried to get away from
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At 48:30, the song is Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen by Baz Lurhmann, a very relaxed song with lots of wizdom!
Man this had me, I'd just failed the bar exam and the feeling absolutely sucked. At first I was determined to feign optimism but that made me feel worse after a while. Eventually decided to take some down time really allowed myself to feel my feelings, let myself be sad and I'm finally here again preparing for the next exam. I'm now aware of my own flaws and the things I need to work on this time. The journey isn't easier because I'd done it before but I'm trying again and that in itself is a win. Thanks for this podcast, guys. Here's to celebrating our callouses
Definitely allow yourself to feel those feelings. Acknowledge the work and the loss. Just don't let it ruin the stuff coming up next! You got this!! Yay for second chances.
The bar exam is brutal. My aunt was licensed in two states no problem but when she moved to Florida she failed the bar at least twice possibly a third before getting it because all the extra immigration laws and such were so different from she was used to in the Midwest. If you want it you'll get there might be a challenge but thats ok ❤
There's a lyric from an artist I listen to that I think relates to this topic pretty well:- "We all try to climb the ladder, and when we make it to the top, we wonder what we're even climbing after."
I'm guilty of having a fear of failure that holds me back from taking opportunities. But the line about doing one brave thing each day really inspires me! I think I'll remember to do that, no matter how small those brave things may be (for instance, I might walk to a restaurant further than my local area tomorrow!).
I understand that you can’t reach everyone but the ones you do reach its everything to them. My best friend is a huge Skizz fan. She got into a car accident was bed ridden and depressed and only Skizz episodes could make her laugh. You wished her a happy birthday a few weeks ago after she and I did a birthday stream and it meant everything to her. Please remember to focus on those you have reached and not just on those you missed.
I love how good the mics are where at 4:20, I can hear that siri was talking lol, not what she said but that she said something lol. Love this episode really needed this
An example of failing but really succeeding: years ago I worked at Walmart ( which I now refer to as my lesson in humility), I worked unloading trucks and I wanted to get my weight down to 185, at the time I was pushing 200, well I plateaud at 190 and couldn't loose any more. I kept getting thinner and actually got down to a size 9, which I have NEVER been in my life. But the extra weight I couldn't lose was all muscle.
Bless ya'll for discussing these topics in such a healthy and measured way. Without going too deep into it (and trauma dumping all over the place) sometimes fear of failure is also a coping mechanism. You can't fail if you never start. In other words, you can't be a disappointment to yourself, your family, or your friends if you never have expectations. Often times, learning to fail is a skill we're taught as children. If we never learn how to fail, accept that failure, then move forward; everything becomes what feels like an insurmountable mountain. I'm learning to fail in my 30s because I was too scared to fail before. It's rough but when you achieve a goal, no matter how small, celebrate that goal! And don't move your goal posts out from under yourself.
I’ve learned a lot about failure. It’s not necessarily about hitting a specific goal, it’s about the journey of trying your best to obtain it. Failure is an essential component for growth, which is what we really crave
Great quote: every failure makes you stronger… reflect don’t dwell! So needed this podcast as I feel like I’m failing at my health and fitness journey at present but just need to reflect and not dwell. Thank you ❤
I'm dealing with a lot of stress from college right now. I thought about this video so I'm rewatching again. Thank you guys. This podcast is helping me very much today
You’ve inspired me, I’ve been to scared to take risks and commit to a TH-cam channel, even just as a hobby, so I’m going to create one, get small goals, work until I get there. And not give up and truly fail. Very motivational podcast guys, love the show.
Since the start of this podcast series, I've watched religiously with every episode. I've always been able to pull information on life tips and general health and well-being. Watching genuine people talk about learning experiences is an amazing way to self reflect so that you both alot from the bottom of my heart. You've inspired me to speak out about my health issues in the hopes it may help others who are in a similar situation of issues they can't or don't want to address out of embarrassment.
Best one yet, guys! I really want my 11 year old to hear this and really glean everything to use in her own life. But I suppose teaching someone to have the confidence to fail is probably only possible by example. Everything you guys said resonated with how I approach most things. You really nailed it, and thank you for reminding me that in trying to impart as much wisdom and strength to my daughter as I can, because I will never quit trying to do that, I will never fail at it.
I commented on the "What's Still Stopping You" video about starting to take the steps towards a career in aviation and I can attest that failure truly is the ultimate teacher. I recently had a flight that I felt absolutely awful about, but rather than just wallow in it and get down on myself, I decided to evaluate what went wrong and worked on those things. As a result, I passed a recent evaluation with great accolades from the evaluator.
Failure is success in a way you can learn from your mistakes and from failure I am still trying to figure out what I can learn but I am trying I don’t give up I have a lot of health issues and other complications your videos are very helpful both of you and this podcast but I never give up and I hope I never will
Love the episode! One piece of advice I always give people that is related: Don't ever apply for a job that you're fully qualified for. I see a lot of people held back in their careers because they wait until they meet 100% of qualifications. If you meet all the qualifications, you are over qualified.
When I spiral about failure, I look back at my previous “failures” to contextualize my ability to handle it. It’s what my mom taught me to do. She always said punishing yourself before it happens then again when it happens is just plain cruel to yourself. Especially when the reality is, you are going to deal with it like every other hardship in life. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t try to correct something if you see failure looming, but just don’t tear yourself down. Definitely easier said than done, especially when you have anxiety like me but I appreciate my mom teaching me how capable I am. I’m heading into my 30’s now and I see the positive effects it has had in my life.
Great episode again! Direct to the point. I'm 37 and struggle with a lot of self-identity issues and only in the last couple years have I really started to understand why I am the way I am. By most metrics I live a successful, fulfilling, and happy life, but under the surface, mentally, I really struggle with belonging and thinking I am failing. I don't hate my parents, quite the opposite, but I do think childhood neglect combined with too strong of criticism of my perceived failures caused a lot of my issues from imposter syndrome to giving up easily during failure, for years, I just thought that was who I was, a failure and I'd set my life goals according to that belief. Thankfully I've been able to build up some self-confidence over the last decade, but it was a rough road, and still is, but understanding the underlying causes of why I feel the way I am, gives me some comfort, but I doubt I will ever be "cured" of those personal doubts, I think to an extent that might just be human nature. I still have the occasional "dark day" where I get very depressed and view my life as a failure, but those are getting less and less as I get older.
Seniors put on a play in high school, Drama teacher assigned the roles to the best of the class so it would be a good show. One senior wanted the lead role, did his best, and did not make the lead role. He was told by the Drama Teacher that he was not a serious actor and was removed from the whole play. He was very upset about it. Just imagine for a moment what would have happened if Harrison Ford allowed this failure to keep him from becoming an Actor…
I enjoy baking to the point where i will bake 25 to 30 different candies, cookies and desserts at Christmas and give them away to friends and family to enjoy. Every year I have one or more "fails". However, some of them were received so well that I had requests to make them again the same way.
Great podcast! I was up for promotion to assistant manager at work but my promotion depended on my boss being promoted to manager first. She got passed over for someone else. If I had been promoted to her assistant I wouldn’t have been able to do the job because it requires 3 nights a week and I have a young child who would have needed a babysitter. I didn’t find out about that requirement until afterwards. I’m still working towards that position but I’m not ready for it yet. Besides that the girl who got the manager position is one of my best friends! Thank God for unanswered prayers.
Shortly after high school finished, I learned not to think of it as a failure but as a learning moment to improve and learn from in the future. Since adopting that philosophy, I have been happier because I am not so focused on "failing" but trying to improve each time as time goes on. Looking at the big picture and journey overall instead of the initial steps, you need to learn to ride a bike first before you win the Tour de France, for example. No one expects a little kid to win an endurance race when learning to ride a bike with training wheels, and I find life is kinder to you if you adopt that method; you need to learn and improve skills before you can master a skill.
That "do one brave thing each day" is really inspiring. Imma try that starting tomorrow if I can. And who knows, if I feel like it or if I have the occasion, maybe I'll try more than once a day
I want to thank the two of you for this topic today. I've struggled with the negative effects of failure for many years, and have been going through a particularly hard time very recently. Skizz, your DNF story has given me a lot to think about, a base to reevaluate my goals, that just because I havent finished yet, I havent actually failed at. (Side note:as a Canadian, hearing you bring up Shoresy brought a smile too my face.)
I have "failed" a lot in life bc of mental disabilities. I was heavily encouraged by family and society pressure to assimilate into regular society, to get the job, to get the degree, to find a partner, to join clubs and activities. But every one that I was encouraged into, I failed at, because it wasn't right for me. Eventually I told eveyrone to just go away and leave me to it (after a serious mental breakdown), and now I'm working a job I love, have my own family and home and engage in things that make me happy. I think "failing" is just discovering that either something just isn't right for you or that it just isn't the right time. Like the cruise ship singer - he's found his place, and if he had won the show then who knows what route he would have gone down, but it's unlikely that he'd have found himself singing happily on a cruise ship. Viewing failure as a step on a path to success has helped me a lot, and knowing each time I fail I've discovered one route that just isn't right for me, but if I try again, next time maybe I'll find the right route.
This podcast reminds me of a Thomas Edison quote related to inventing the light bulb: "I haven't failed. I've just found 10,000 versions that don't work."
I recently identified that my fear of abandonment from childhood trauma is the root of what causes me to cripple myself and not try. That fear of failure is such an abusive thing to do to yourself and can affect those around you if you don't realise what you're doing. I'm actually a really lucky person who is doing well but constantly need to kick that fear.
This is an important episode, I'm glad you covered this and I hope it reaches a lot of people. I kind of wish that you covered the idea of 'failure' in comparison to the people around you. It's not a fair mindset but I feel like its one a lot of people can relate to. My little brother graduated college with a teaching license and an opportunity to start his dream career right out of the gate. His girlfriend has an internship for her dream career and already makes more money than anyone in the friend group by a lot. But I graduated three years ago and I'm no closer to any goal than when I was in high school. I'm so proud of both of them, don't get me wrong. But its just not fair and I can't help but feel like I'm doing something so desperately wrong. Maybe I'm not, though, maybe its just not time yet...? You're both an inspiration. Keep it up. Looking forward to the next one
46:54 That's me, and I'm NOT proud of it. I have the expectation that if I'm going to do something I'm going to do it all-out, and by doing that I set the bar too high and It's and endless cycle of failure. But I have in recent years been doing something similar to "one brave thing," I take advantage of (probably) once in a lifetime moments. Similar to escargot, I tried caviar. I didn't like it but at least I've tried it.
Honestly, I don't know how any of you streamers or even video makers can concentrate enough to both play and talk, yet alone handle a live chat PLUS interaction. I feel like you all do a very good job. It also helps when you have mods that let chat know if you have to concentrate more than usual and are more likely to miss chat, etc. In any case, I feel like you are all very good at what you do.
One of my favorite Boxing Channels on this site, is Rummy's Corner. His failures have become a sort of running gag in that community. But not only does Rummy use those failures as motivation to keep going, but he uses those failures to STRENGTHEN is current argument he is trying to make. "I was wrong about this thing in the recent past, and that is why this other thing will happen in an unexpected way in the future..." kind of deal. Super entertaining, and kinda wholesome to listen to. Especially coming from a Sports Commentary side of analysis, that kind of approach is not only different, but refreshing. I think our Failures can be used to not only as Motivation, and not only as Learning Experiences, but as a Tool for what you are trying to Accomplish Today.
Been waiting for the failure podcast! Failure is a great teacher. We can always learn from others success and failures. My favorite failure quote. Success isn't permanent and failure isn't fatal. Not that failure is fun but I promise I will fail a few more times today! Love this topic.
In the BEST way...y'all are the dads the internet didn't know it needed. Haha! Great podcast! So many young people these days don't have someone in their life to tell them to keep trying, keep going.
Love this podcast! 💜 Talking about failure and high jumps, I kept picturing Shirou from "Fate/Stay Night" running the high jump over and over again. Any other Fate fans here?
there was this really good short that i saw the other day (from piratesoftware iirc) where the guy gave a bit of advice for getting on a goal when you have that deathly anxiety of failure. if your brain is stopping you, make a deal with it. take three months to work on your goal. then at the end, stop and examine how far you come. and if you really can't move on with your goal, then let yourself admit that you cant do it. the idea is to condition yourself to at least try, and move past the enormous hurdle some people have of actually getting started.
Failure at something just means your dreams are not over just that you have to find another door to go through, Night classes or go to summer school and try again..There is always another opportunity to shine at something.🌟
Honestly, thanks for this stream. This kind of helps me out. I've been down in the dumps hating myself over some stuff, but this helped me get in the right head space to do better.
I try to learn from every experience in life. Failure is something I expect to happen from time to time. But this year I learned something of myself. I can’t learn from every experience. I told Skizz this on his stream a week or 2 ago: my ex girlfriend just suddenly vanished out of my life and I still don’t know why she just left without a word. Not even saying we are breaking up. Leaving me in limbo. There are thousands of things going through my head. What triggered her to get away from me? I see now since last week that it is not always possible to learn from every failure and that it is fine not to learn from it at these moments. My mind was and kind of still is stuck in a loop. For people who have that issue like me. Tell yourself it is fine to not learn if you cannot find what you did wrong. And maybe the failure isn’t with yourself but with someone else.
THE WAY THEY STARTED “U ARE A FAILURE”
That 2inch joke was killer 😂 I love when they go R rated
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Agreed lmao, I was cackling
Dude I literally just got word that I failed a class in school today. How- what- your timing is impeccable. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now.
maybe school is not your thing, have you tried car detailing?
I feel you. Ugh, my school year is over, and I just found out I flunked my math class 😮💨😔😵😵💫😡
Sending you an e-hug
Bummer. So, how you approached that class didn’t work. What do you need to change to be better? When you review the test, learn what went wrong. Did you read questions wrong? Practice reading (fun stuff like Star Wars or Harry Potter is excellent reading practice.) Did you forget to read the directions (my teacher drove home the importance of reading directions by making the first direction, “sign your paper at the top and turn in your paper now.” Any work done after that was an automatic fail.)? Did you check your work, make sure you included everything required, and didn’t put stuff in the wrong order? Did you misunderstand a concept? Maybe do some extra learning about that concept. Failing a test shows you where you need to improve. If lots of people fail the same test, it tells the teacher where they need to improve in their instruction. Its a learning experience.
@@StarNanny Awe thanks I appreciate it but no, I just couldn't start the final project cuz of reasons so my teachers helping me finish it. Ive just been struggling all year in this class since its online and I *suck* at time management. And uh for the record I'm a certified nerd, it wasn't that I didn't understand the topic.
Two things I always keep in mind. "The champions at the top have failed more times than you've tried" and "You can learn way more from your failures than you will ever learn if you only win"
Those are wise words! Thank you for sharing!
I almost started crying at 18:46 when they said "shoot for the Stars if you miss you'll land on the moon" that's something my grandpa would say to me. Man I love this podcast
The song that Impulse is referring to at approx 48mins is "Everybody's Free (to Wear Sunscreen)" by Baz Luhrmann. And the full line is "Do one thing each day that scares you." The older I've gotten the more that song makes sense to me. Another fantastic podcast, guys. This one turned on a lightbulb above my head about why I've been struggling with one particular aspect of my creative endeavours, so thank you for that brain fodder. Going to be chewing on this for a bit.
This goes well with a quote from Joseph Campbell: The cave you fear most, holds the treasure you seek.
Skizz, you're handling stream stuff just fine, and our feelings are not hurt if you miss us sometimes. I'm sure it hurts, just know that being hurt or let down that you missed something like that speaks to unrealistic expectations on the viewer's part, not a short coming on yours. Yes you want to set an expectation you'll do all the shouts, yes you try and could arguably try harder, but at the end of the day, you can't have personal 1-1 conversations with every viewer while also playing a game that often requires you to interact with others and requires at least a little attention, if not your full attention. There's a reason we talk about streamer brain. You're good and we love you!
Chat goes by so fast. I'm always shocked if a streamer actually reads my comment or sees my resub. So, I agree, most people's feelings are not hurt if you miss them sometimes.
Due to many toxic adults, both inside and outside the home, I believed that I if I failed that I was worth being alive. It took many years of help to unlearn the negative thinking. This episode was extremely important in helping me feel better about failure. So thank you!😊
Truth. Failure is a learning tool. It is NOT anything existential. It is NOT a personality trait. ❤
"If you are watching and you feel like you're a failure, you probably are". Thanks Skizz🤣🤣🤣
That joke that skizz made makes me really want a fully unfiltered skizz channel
Great topic gents! Also, Skizz you had me rolling with your comment regarding the 12 inches.... 🤣that was quick!
Hes so witty. Inspiringly so!
In the office I was known as the guru of all the machines. That was because I broke the machines EVERY way possible so I knew how to fix whatever situation anyone else was in. One has to fail to learn.
Most of these episodes are so freakin relatable. The "wanted 100k, almost gave up at 60k" made me pause the video, get a drink, take a very deep breath with my eyes closed and consider whether I wanted to cry or finish the ep.
Had to come back and listen again to this episode. Just had a horrible dress rehearsal and it's opening night for my theater. People's attitudes were getting at me (I'm the star and co-director) then my voice started to go. I was ready to give up on tonight, but listening to this episode again really helped. The show must go on
I'd love to see Joel and Lizzie on the podcast
Oh Joel! 😂
Mistakes are such an integral part of the human experience. But mistakes, as much as they failures, the are leasons the be learned from. I believe that one only truly fails when they choose not to learn from their mistakes. And if you fail to learn you are doomed to repeat your mistakes till you finally learn.
So I already listened to this episode late last night, and I just wanna thank you two for making even the idea of listening to this podcast bearable.
I have EXTREME anxiety about failure, it's screwed me over a lot in the past and is screwing me over now. Even when impulse first mentioned the topic, I winced a little. But I trusted you two when you said it wasn't a tough talk, and I'm glad I did.
It'll take a bit, but I hope to internalize what you've passed on here.
(On a lighter note, I legit FELT that joke before skizz said it, I've got a sixth sense)
JUST DO IT!
if all fails just move to Baja
As they said, “failure” is NOT a character flaw. It is a learning experience. It should not be an emotional thing. It should be a cerebral, start thinking thing…what needs to be done differently, what needs to change to accomplish whatever it is. We get better with practice at nearly anything. 👍 Maybe think about what initiated your anxiety originally. Did you have abusive teachers when you were young? A child needs to practice to get good at anything…pronouncing words, potty training, using utensils. If someone was yelling at you during those learning experiences, it could be what has caused your anxiety. Define whatever it was, think about it, accept the facts, they are in the past, done. They are not “now”. They are not “you”. The best antidote to over-emotionalized anything is “turn your brain on, and leave it on.”
4:55 CLIP IT
I went to the doctors today to get medication, and thanks to Impulse, I said "medificate." YOU INFECTED MY BRAIN WITH THAT WORD
I've recently felt like a major failure myself lately. Financial issues, family issues, seemed like my family wasn't getting what they needed, and I just couldn't do so many things.
Oddly enough, it took me imagining you saying "Why would you think you're a failure?" nonchalantly. It actually helped me get out of the funk!
IM EXCITED FOR THIS ONE!! :D
Also, could you guys get the man, the one, the only, the prankster: Grian on the show? I’d probably rewatch it on loop! ❤❤ And best part is, he’d show up on time since Jimmy isn’t here XD
4:43 - I know impulse has said in the past (particularly with the life series) how he wants to improve and flex his improv skills and Is always looking to improve it. From what I recall it doesn’t come as naturally to him, if I have remembered that right? But I think you’re funny as heck even when you’re not trying to be
But, in saying that. Every now and and then, just out of no where at all when everyone was least suspecting it, he comes out with this level of quick wit. And to that I say well done. I really laughed out loud when I heard you say that. Again very sharp :D
3:55 DANGIT You triggered my HomePod 😂
25:00 I love making the distinction between failing and being a failure. Making success or failure someone’s identity is so harmful, even when you’re doing it to yourself. There’s so much in life that we can define ourselves by, failure or success of arbitrary goals is something I’ve tried to get away from
At 48:30, the song is Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen by Baz Lurhmann, a very relaxed song with lots of wizdom!
This is something I needed. Thanks Imp and Slizz for sharing these stories and helping to motivate many, if not all of us who watched. God bless
Man this had me, I'd just failed the bar exam and the feeling absolutely sucked. At first I was determined to feign optimism but that made me feel worse after a while. Eventually decided to take some down time really allowed myself to feel my feelings, let myself be sad and I'm finally here again preparing for the next exam. I'm now aware of my own flaws and the things I need to work on this time. The journey isn't easier because I'd done it before but I'm trying again and that in itself is a win. Thanks for this podcast, guys. Here's to celebrating our callouses
Definitely allow yourself to feel those feelings. Acknowledge the work and the loss. Just don't let it ruin the stuff coming up next! You got this!! Yay for second chances.
The bar exam is brutal. My aunt was licensed in two states no problem but when she moved to Florida she failed the bar at least twice possibly a third before getting it because all the extra immigration laws and such were so different from she was used to in the Midwest. If you want it you'll get there might be a challenge but thats ok ❤
There's a lyric from an artist I listen to that I think relates to this topic pretty well:-
"We all try to climb the ladder, and when we make it to the top, we wonder what we're even climbing after."
I'm guilty of having a fear of failure that holds me back from taking opportunities. But the line about doing one brave thing each day really inspires me! I think I'll remember to do that, no matter how small those brave things may be (for instance, I might walk to a restaurant further than my local area tomorrow!).
I understand that you can’t reach everyone but the ones you do reach its everything to them. My best friend is a huge Skizz fan. She got into a car accident was bed ridden and depressed and only Skizz episodes could make her laugh. You wished her a happy birthday a few weeks ago after she and I did a birthday stream and it meant everything to her. Please remember to focus on those you have reached and not just on those you missed.
I really like the 5 whys thing. That's super good for targeting motivation and reminding yourself what matters!
I love how good the mics are where at 4:20, I can hear that siri was talking lol, not what she said but that she said something lol. Love this episode really needed this
An example of failing but really succeeding: years ago I worked at Walmart ( which I now refer to as my lesson in humility), I worked unloading trucks and I wanted to get my weight down to 185, at the time I was pushing 200, well I plateaud at 190 and couldn't loose any more. I kept getting thinner and actually got down to a size 9, which I have NEVER been in my life. But the extra weight I couldn't lose was all muscle.
Bless ya'll for discussing these topics in such a healthy and measured way.
Without going too deep into it (and trauma dumping all over the place) sometimes fear of failure is also a coping mechanism. You can't fail if you never start. In other words, you can't be a disappointment to yourself, your family, or your friends if you never have expectations.
Often times, learning to fail is a skill we're taught as children. If we never learn how to fail, accept that failure, then move forward; everything becomes what feels like an insurmountable mountain.
I'm learning to fail in my 30s because I was too scared to fail before. It's rough but when you achieve a goal, no matter how small, celebrate that goal! And don't move your goal posts out from under yourself.
I’ve learned a lot about failure. It’s not necessarily about hitting a specific goal, it’s about the journey of trying your best to obtain it. Failure is an essential component for growth, which is what we really crave
First statement: “we’re channeling Joel, we’re talking about failures today” out of context had me dying
Great quote: every failure makes you stronger… reflect don’t dwell!
So needed this podcast as I feel like I’m failing at my health and fitness journey at present but just need to reflect and not dwell. Thank you ❤
Honestly I'm more surprised when streamers I watch actually notice my comments! You both do a fab job interacting when you stream.
From an engineering viewpoint, failure is just learning what doesn’t work, now try something else….change the approach.
47:53 the line is from "Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen" by Baz Luhrmann
"do one thing every day that scares you"
Im so happy i forgot that it was even friday. Also the joel moment at the beginning is 10/10
57:39 "You probably are..." Skizz... that was beautiful! Never change, Dude! xDDDD
I'm dealing with a lot of stress from college right now. I thought about this video so I'm rewatching again. Thank you guys. This podcast is helping me very much today
You’ve inspired me, I’ve been to scared to take risks and commit to a TH-cam channel, even just as a hobby, so I’m going to create one, get small goals, work until I get there. And not give up and truly fail. Very motivational podcast guys, love the show.
We use the 5 whys when we focus on a continuous improvement project, such as waste reduction, process improvements, etc.
Since the start of this podcast series, I've watched religiously with every episode. I've always been able to pull information on life tips and general health and well-being. Watching genuine people talk about learning experiences is an amazing way to self reflect so that you both alot from the bottom of my heart. You've inspired me to speak out about my health issues in the hopes it may help others who are in a similar situation of issues they can't or don't want to address out of embarrassment.
Best one yet, guys!
I really want my 11 year old to hear this and really glean everything to use in her own life. But I suppose teaching someone to have the confidence to fail is probably only possible by example. Everything you guys said resonated with how I approach most things. You really nailed it, and thank you for reminding me that in trying to impart as much wisdom and strength to my daughter as I can, because I will never quit trying to do that, I will never fail at it.
The "5 Whys" idea is so thought-provoking. Thanks Skizz, I'll try to remember it.
I commented on the "What's Still Stopping You" video about starting to take the steps towards a career in aviation and I can attest that failure truly is the ultimate teacher. I recently had a flight that I felt absolutely awful about, but rather than just wallow in it and get down on myself, I decided to evaluate what went wrong and worked on those things. As a result, I passed a recent evaluation with great accolades from the evaluator.
Failure is success in a way you can learn from your mistakes and from failure I am still trying to figure out what I can learn but I am trying I don’t give up I have a lot of health issues and other complications your videos are very helpful both of you and this podcast but I never give up and I hope I never will
failure is something you do, not something you are. well said skizz
Love the episode! One piece of advice I always give people that is related: Don't ever apply for a job that you're fully qualified for.
I see a lot of people held back in their careers because they wait until they meet 100% of qualifications.
If you meet all the qualifications, you are over qualified.
When I spiral about failure, I look back at my previous “failures” to contextualize my ability to handle it. It’s what my mom taught me to do. She always said punishing yourself before it happens then again when it happens is just plain cruel to yourself. Especially when the reality is, you are going to deal with it like every other hardship in life.
This isn’t to say you shouldn’t try to correct something if you see failure looming, but just don’t tear yourself down. Definitely easier said than done, especially when you have anxiety like me but I appreciate my mom teaching me how capable I am. I’m heading into my 30’s now and I see the positive effects it has had in my life.
This was exactly what I needed today. Thank you guys for being awesome.
This was so good. I struggle with not identifying my failures with myself and this has encouraged me to work on that! 🙂
Great episode again! Direct to the point. I'm 37 and struggle with a lot of self-identity issues and only in the last couple years have I really started to understand why I am the way I am. By most metrics I live a successful, fulfilling, and happy life, but under the surface, mentally, I really struggle with belonging and thinking I am failing. I don't hate my parents, quite the opposite, but I do think childhood neglect combined with too strong of criticism of my perceived failures caused a lot of my issues from imposter syndrome to giving up easily during failure, for years, I just thought that was who I was, a failure and I'd set my life goals according to that belief. Thankfully I've been able to build up some self-confidence over the last decade, but it was a rough road, and still is, but understanding the underlying causes of why I feel the way I am, gives me some comfort, but I doubt I will ever be "cured" of those personal doubts, I think to an extent that might just be human nature. I still have the occasional "dark day" where I get very depressed and view my life as a failure, but those are getting less and less as I get older.
Seniors put on a play in high school, Drama teacher assigned the roles to the best of the class so it would be a good show. One senior wanted the lead role, did his best, and did not make the lead role. He was told by the Drama Teacher that he was not a serious actor and was removed from the whole play. He was very upset about it.
Just imagine for a moment what would have happened if Harrison Ford allowed this failure to keep him from becoming an Actor…
Really appreciate subjects like this in the podcast, especially when it's two normal people. Just living normal lives on TH-cam 😂
Thank you guys
Loving the podcast! Can’t wait for episode 100!
I enjoy baking to the point where i will bake 25 to 30 different candies, cookies and desserts at Christmas and give them away to friends and family to enjoy. Every year I have one or more "fails". However, some of them were received so well that I had requests to make them again the same way.
Great podcast! I was up for promotion to assistant manager at work but my promotion depended on my boss being promoted to manager first. She got passed over for someone else. If I had been promoted to her assistant I wouldn’t have been able to do the job because it requires 3 nights a week and I have a young child who would have needed a babysitter. I didn’t find out about that requirement until afterwards. I’m still working towards that position but I’m not ready for it yet. Besides that the girl who got the manager position is one of my best friends! Thank God for unanswered prayers.
Shortly after high school finished, I learned not to think of it as a failure but as a learning moment to improve and learn from in the future. Since adopting that philosophy, I have been happier because I am not so focused on "failing" but trying to improve each time as time goes on. Looking at the big picture and journey overall instead of the initial steps, you need to learn to ride a bike first before you win the Tour de France, for example. No one expects a little kid to win an endurance race when learning to ride a bike with training wheels, and I find life is kinder to you if you adopt that method; you need to learn and improve skills before you can master a skill.
That "do one brave thing each day" is really inspiring. Imma try that starting tomorrow if I can. And who knows, if I feel like it or if I have the occasion, maybe I'll try more than once a day
56:52 "why do you need to be the best?" "We'll save that Why for therapy."
I am so glad you left in the part needing bleeped 😂😂😂😂 also i quote that Joel line ALL the time
I want to thank the two of you for this topic today. I've struggled with the negative effects of failure for many years, and have been going through a particularly hard time very recently. Skizz, your DNF story has given me a lot to think about, a base to reevaluate my goals, that just because I havent finished yet, I havent actually failed at. (Side note:as a Canadian, hearing you bring up Shoresy brought a smile too my face.)
I have "failed" a lot in life bc of mental disabilities. I was heavily encouraged by family and society pressure to assimilate into regular society, to get the job, to get the degree, to find a partner, to join clubs and activities. But every one that I was encouraged into, I failed at, because it wasn't right for me. Eventually I told eveyrone to just go away and leave me to it (after a serious mental breakdown), and now I'm working a job I love, have my own family and home and engage in things that make me happy. I think "failing" is just discovering that either something just isn't right for you or that it just isn't the right time. Like the cruise ship singer - he's found his place, and if he had won the show then who knows what route he would have gone down, but it's unlikely that he'd have found himself singing happily on a cruise ship. Viewing failure as a step on a path to success has helped me a lot, and knowing each time I fail I've discovered one route that just isn't right for me, but if I try again, next time maybe I'll find the right route.
42:47 relating to the fact that Skizz watches Letterkenny and Shoresy.
“It’s not success unless you have someone to share it with”
This podcast reminds me of a Thomas Edison quote related to inventing the light bulb: "I haven't failed. I've just found 10,000 versions that don't work."
The 10,001st version was just stealing Tesla's idea. 😅🙊
I only see my psychiatrist every 6 months, so this podcast has become my therapy. (Approved by my psychiatrist as well ❤️)
39:08 Skizz the editing here and timing is absolutely impeccable
Love the 5 whys! I use this at work and home. Such a powerful tool but scary for some.
I recently identified that my fear of abandonment from childhood trauma is the root of what causes me to cripple myself and not try. That fear of failure is such an abusive thing to do to yourself and can affect those around you if you don't realise what you're doing. I'm actually a really lucky person who is doing well but constantly need to kick that fear.
This is an important episode, I'm glad you covered this and I hope it reaches a lot of people. I kind of wish that you covered the idea of 'failure' in comparison to the people around you. It's not a fair mindset but I feel like its one a lot of people can relate to.
My little brother graduated college with a teaching license and an opportunity to start his dream career right out of the gate. His girlfriend has an internship for her dream career and already makes more money than anyone in the friend group by a lot. But I graduated three years ago and I'm no closer to any goal than when I was in high school. I'm so proud of both of them, don't get me wrong. But its just not fair and I can't help but feel like I'm doing something so desperately wrong. Maybe I'm not, though, maybe its just not time yet...?
You're both an inspiration. Keep it up. Looking forward to the next one
46:54 That's me, and I'm NOT proud of it. I have the expectation that if I'm going to do something I'm going to do it all-out, and by doing that I set the bar too high and It's and endless cycle of failure. But I have in recent years been doing something similar to "one brave thing," I take advantage of (probably) once in a lifetime moments. Similar to escargot, I tried caviar. I didn't like it but at least I've tried it.
everyone's obsessed with Joel lol
I love these podcasts, my husband and I had such a good chat about failure because of this. It made us admit how lazy we both are! 😂
Honestly, I don't know how any of you streamers or even video makers can concentrate enough to both play and talk, yet alone handle a live chat PLUS interaction. I feel like you all do a very good job. It also helps when you have mods that let chat know if you have to concentrate more than usual and are more likely to miss chat, etc. In any case, I feel like you are all very good at what you do.
Failure is the father to innovation...
One of my favorite Boxing Channels on this site, is Rummy's Corner. His failures have become a sort of running gag in that community. But not only does Rummy use those failures as motivation to keep going, but he uses those failures to STRENGTHEN is current argument he is trying to make. "I was wrong about this thing in the recent past, and that is why this other thing will happen in an unexpected way in the future..." kind of deal. Super entertaining, and kinda wholesome to listen to. Especially coming from a Sports Commentary side of analysis, that kind of approach is not only different, but refreshing.
I think our Failures can be used to not only as Motivation, and not only as Learning Experiences, but as a Tool for what you are trying to Accomplish Today.
Been waiting for the failure podcast! Failure is a great teacher. We can always learn from others success and failures. My favorite failure quote. Success isn't permanent and failure isn't fatal. Not that failure is fun but I promise I will fail a few more times today! Love this topic.
In my martial arts class they teach that failure is our friend, it stands for First Attempt In Learning.
In the BEST way...y'all are the dads the internet didn't know it needed. Haha! Great podcast! So many young people these days don't have someone in their life to tell them to keep trying, keep going.
Thank you for putting smiles on peoples faces
Love this podcast! 💜
Talking about failure and high jumps, I kept picturing Shirou from "Fate/Stay Night" running the high jump over and over again. Any other Fate fans here?
there was this really good short that i saw the other day (from piratesoftware iirc) where the guy gave a bit of advice for getting on a goal when you have that deathly anxiety of failure.
if your brain is stopping you, make a deal with it. take three months to work on your goal. then at the end, stop and examine how far you come. and if you really can't move on with your goal, then let yourself admit that you cant do it. the idea is to condition yourself to at least try, and move past the enormous hurdle some people have of actually getting started.
39:02 impulses face moving along with it haha
My daughter(6) even says, "it's OK to fail because without failing we won't learn" wish I had her attitude growing up.
I just learned I failed to get into the school of my dreams for the third year in a row, this topic couldn't have arrived at a better time. Thank you
Failure at something just means your dreams are not over just that you have to find another door to go through, Night classes or go to summer school and try again..There is always another opportunity to shine at something.🌟
Another great one gents ❤ I love the mantra of doing something brave every day. Also love the five whys.
As much as we all love the guests you guys have on..this is the type of content that we all can learn from.❤🎉
Doc is coming 🎉!!!!!
Wow, good timing.... Really... good.. timing.... for my life....
wasn't expecting this to help me so much a bit teary but in a good way, thanks guys
Honestly, thanks for this stream. This kind of helps me out. I've been down in the dumps hating myself over some stuff, but this helped me get in the right head space to do better.
I try to learn from every experience in life. Failure is something I expect to happen from time to time. But this year I learned something of myself. I can’t learn from every experience. I told Skizz this on his stream a week or 2 ago: my ex girlfriend just suddenly vanished out of my life and I still don’t know why she just left without a word. Not even saying we are breaking up. Leaving me in limbo. There are thousands of things going through my head. What triggered her to get away from me?
I see now since last week that it is not always possible to learn from every failure and that it is fine not to learn from it at these moments. My mind was and kind of still is stuck in a loop.
For people who have that issue like me. Tell yourself it is fine to not learn if you cannot find what you did wrong. And maybe the failure isn’t with yourself but with someone else.
Thanks, guys, for all of this.
thank you for this episode, it made me realize so many things ❤️
48:20 this song is titled class of " " (everyone deserves to wear sunscreen) by Baz Luhrmann