9 IMPORTANT Tips EVERY PARENT MUST KNOW to Protect Your Child From SEXUAL ABUSE + PREDATORS
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ส.ค. 2024
- In this video, I share 9 Tips to Protect Your Child From PREDATORS + SEXUAL ABUSE. This has been on my mind for a while and I hope this gives you more insight on steps you can take with your kids to protect them and keep them safe from child abusers and child molesters. Please "like" this video, it really helps our channel + thanks for watching friends! Follow me on IG for more fun: / nicolelelagreen
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We at Protect Your Children Inc thank you so much for this video. Our mission is to educate the public and raise awareness. There needs to be VIRAL videos with this information.
THIS is the kind of content that needs to be heard by every parent everywhere. My heart is also deeply burdened by how rampant sexual abuse is and so I’m so grateful that you are bringing awareness to it. Thank you from one mama to another
My daughter is now 1 and we are starting to implement boundaries with touching. My fiancé really likes to tickle her and I have been telling him that he has to respect the “stop” boundary. Even though it’s innocent and fun between us we want her to feel respected and know that her “No” and “Stop” mean something.
@LION THE KING huh ??? Like I said.. it’s about teaching her that no and stop mean NO and STOP regardless of who the person is. I don’t want her growing up with thinking “it’s just playing” is okay even if she says stop. “Just playing” is how a lot of ppl get these kids into keeping quiet about abuse. So thanks but I’ll proceed as I am.
! That’s such a good one, thank you. 🙌
Also very important to teach our children to NOT touch others inappropriately 👍
Well it's more important to teach predators to keep their hands of off children
@mrpuppysuperprohackergodno7513 even so if we don't teach the child to not touch others without consent there gonna become one of those predators.
Not an easy topic to talk about, but I’m so so glad you did.
Loved the difference between " secrets" & "surprise"; loved: "only play doctor with clothes on" and dolls.
As a survivor of sexual childhood abuse by the hand of a family member, I cannot express how crucial this information is for parents to engrain into their children to protect them. I will 100% be using all of these techniques on my children one day. Thank you for making this video! ♥
I and my twin am a surviour as well but by a friend my mum knew from years ago. I had issues with my ex touching me it took me 3 years to trust him.
My best friend was sexually abused when she 6 by a 13 year old. She thought it was a game, even if it hurted. She didn't know what happend. She realised years later. The boy was the child of her mothers friend. Knowing where your children play, open doors & better communication could have helped her
Very good information! My sister and i were molested by our step dad when we were young and my mom was very naive about the whole thing. She let it go on for a long time. Remeber single parents, some men and women look for single parents, specifically to abuse their children. Do not be naive, protect your babies first. They are more important then you feeling lonely.
“Some men and women look for single parents, specially to abuse their children”!! This is so alarming! I never thought about it but you are right... There are really cruel people out there.
Because the huge majority of sexual abuse is committed by someone known to the victim, I am very uncomfortable with the idea of allowing sleepovers when my daughter is older.
Me too, my daughter is just 6 months old but this is something I’m already worrying about.
Ok so as a kid myself,(I'm 14) I have only had 2 sleepovers with only one person each time. The people whom I have had sleepovers with, have been very close friends as in, I have known them for more than a year, I have been to their house, my parents have met both of their parents and like them/ trust them with me, and they have met my friend and enjoyed haveing her over. It's also a good idea to only have same sex sleepovers, as in both children are either girls or a boys. When they are younger and having sleepovers, you should check in on them every hour or two to make sure everything is going fine, but when they are older, you should let them have a little more freedom and put more of your trust in them. Your child should be fine as long as you teach them boundaries of their body, and make sure that they arent uncomfortable around this person. They should only be having sleepovers or playmate with kids that are withing a year of their age, i say this because even in a one year difference, the older child could know more about their body, and be at the stage where they want to experiment with their body, and others. If your child is the younger one, they could be taken advantage of. Its unlikely, but you never want to take the chance! I hope this helped you a bit.
My parents would never let me go to sleepovers. I HATED it!! I always thought they were so over protective. Now as a parent, yup I totally get it. I can't imagine letting my daughter have a sleepover anywhere but grandma's house where I can trust that she's safe.
I really needed this, I was sexually abused between ages 5-6 by a family friend, I never told anyone and now I’m super protective over my son and other children in my family. I can never tell my family why and they just don’t understand it, and I can’t tell them about my experience because the perpetrator is still a family friend.
I'm currently pregnant with my first, and this has been on my mind before I was even planning to have kids. I'm especially afraid if this baby is a girl. I'm so worried how I can protect my children, and now this video was recommended, so thank you! I hope I will remember these tips in the future when I need them
There is something else that comes to mind as I listened to your great video. Predators tend to Always groom their victims. If you see anyone getting too close to a child, being touchy feely, or overly involved with a child (touching, stroking hair, hand on shoulder -or any body part- iregardless of a child's signs of feeling comfortable/uncomfortable Be Aware!!! Most times it is not a one off chance thing... They plan. They groom. and it's not always men.
Here's an example:
th-cam.com/video/V4PLSPvJ9BY/w-d-xo.html
Trust your gut!
I don't have children but i have a ton of nieces and nephews. Shared this on facebook for my family
When I meet kids (family/regular babysitting) I don’t expect hug. We do high five or shake hand 👋 but if they want hug I will take it! Sometimes I ask but if they say no, I say something like “it’s ok, if you’re not feeling it, we’re not doing it”
It’s important to mention it doesn’t always happen behind closed doors. I read a case where a teenage cousin abused two younger cousins in their backyard. Always keep an eye on your children, even if they are just playing outside.
Thank you for this video
I was sexually assaulted by my cousin. I’m currently pregnant with my first child, all of these things will be implemented in my home. When I was assaulted, I didn’t tell my mom for a couple years because I was scared she would be mad at me. She never talked about things like that happening so I didn’t really understand what happened or how to talk about it. Thank you for this video 💕
Thank you for this. I was abused by several children my age as a child myself. My number one rule is no sleepovers. No one sleeps over anywhere, ever. Thats where and how it always happened. It happened at least 5 times between ages 5 and 10. Always girls my age. I will never allow anyone to hurt my girls. NEVER
Im with you on the no sleepovers. thanks for commenting
The sad thing is that usually children that act out that way are being abused themselves.
I'm so sad for this, growing up I never had sleepovers because my mom was abusive so i kinda want my children to have that, but I'm so afraid of them getting abuse at someone else's house
@@KassyDS wow thanks for your comment. I always wondered why those girls my age did what they did to me.. like how did they know about those things to do to me? Now I understand, and I feel terrible for them
@@florenciahoracio8517 I would say just no sleepovers until children are much older, and only with friends that you know very well. Always check in with them about how they are being treated, and make sure they have the option to leave if they ever feel uncomfortable. I never had bad experiences with sleepovers, but looking back my mother did NOT know the families of some of my friends and bad things could have happened.
As a once victim of sexual abuse from the age of 5-9, I appreciate you for making this video!!
Thank you so much for this! I worked at the YMCA for the majority of college and we had to take sexual abuse prevention classes every year. The amount of basic information that is unknown by people due to the taboo and stigma around the subject is insane. Child on child abuse is also a LOT more common than people realize so thank you for mentioning that too! It’s heartbreaking but most older children who abuse smaller children are being or have been abused themselves 💔
It’s our responsibility as adults to keep our children safe, thank you for shedding light on such a difficult topic!
Saving this video to show my hubby and rewatch and make notes
I never thank my mom but I think about it a lot. Because she did have this open communication with me about this topic, I was able to recongize when a friend was molesting me and I knew what to do/who to go to. Because of this we helped bring an end to a cycle of abuse.
What was the thing that stuck out most would you say that helped you? Thanks for sharing
@@89DaniiM That I could come to her and not be in trouble. My mom made that clear throughout my childhood. She told me what spots I could only touch & when my playdate crossed that boundary-- I got up, told their mother I needed to call my mom, refused to answer why and waited for my mom and I to speak in private. Idk how I knew as a child I needed to keep quiet until my parent was present. I did not want their mom to invalidate my claims. And sure enough they found out my friend was being molested by an older sibling, who was being molested by their uncle.
It’s human trafficking awareness month, so I really appreciate your timing! This is so important to me and I am very glad you covered this
As a child of sexual assault, i appreciate this video so much. most parents don’t think about this
Who are the 3 people disliking this video? 🤔
I think this video was very informative and it needs to be talked about and shared for our children and others. Keep sharing Nicole, God Bless. 👍💕
So glad you’re being awareness to this topic! I know people who’s lives were literally ruined because of sexual abuse in childhood. They struggle with substance abuse and mental health and their quality of life is no where close to what it should be. It’s so important that we protect our children from a lifetime of hurt.
You know this is the type of content that needs to be shared all over social media... I grew up with sexual abuse for 16 years of my life and I thought there would never be a way out, but I did and I am strong. It's difficult as it can be ur own family members who do these type of things. Glad you sharing this content cause parents needs to be more aware. #STOPSEXUALABUSE
Not the most comfortable conversation, but very well said thank you for the great content!
Just remembering my 4th grade science teacher saying “youre parts arent private, stop calling them that, everybody already knows of them” thinking back thats freighting
Wow, thank you so much. I’ve been so scared with my 4 year old brother, I want to protect him so bad and I don’t want anyone to hurt him. Thank you, God bless you and your family ♥️
thank you for talking about this, this is such an important topic that is never ever spoken about. many children will be prevented from dangerous situations now so thank you thank you thank you! god bless x
Hey lovely, you spoke about this so well! Thank you for addressing this. I truly believe it’s what God wanted you to do. Please share as much information as you can about all this (clues of abuse, trafficking, online predators etc.) as I am listening to you and learning. And I’m only one person, I’m sure many more will agree. Thanks Nicole! God bless you and your family x
This is such a worthwhile topic to highlight.
First time mom to my baby boy in May 2020, and I am so glad you are speaking on this topic Nicole! This has been a heavy subject on my heart on how to protect my son.
1) 2:26 Teach proper names of body parts
2) 4:10 Creat open communication around this topic
3)5:25 talk to your child about touching boundaries
4) 7:30 Don’t ask your child to maintain your emotions
5) 8:25 Be very careful with the word secret
6) 9:35 Clarifying rules for playing doctor
7) 10:33 Identify who you can trust
8) 11:13 Keep doors open in your home
9) 12:35 Report any suspected abuse immediately
This is such an important topic. Thank you so much for bringing attention to this. Parents need to be informed.
As a new mom, who was almost abused, thank you so much for this video🥺❤️
Thank you for sharing this information! It’s very important for parents and caregivers to know this. God bless you and your family.
I'm so glad you're passionate about this, as no other YT moms I subscribed to have this kind of content. So important! Will rewatch this several times as I implement each & every tip.
Love this!!! As an Aunty to 6 nieces and 1 nephew I believe this subject should be able to be discussed openly! I could not have said it any better. You have raised some amazing points that I will be taking on board with my family and my future kids. God bless and please keep up the good work
This comment Is for the TH-cam algorithm , because I want this video to get more attention ! Thank u for talking about this topic. I watch your videos even tough I don’t have a kid and not expecting one. But better to learn Early then too late !
Thanks Nicole and well done for speaking about this. Really opened my eyes.
Thank you SO MUCH for making this video!!! To be honest, their were certain things we thought were okay as kids to do with family members & now that I’m older with a 3 month old, I don’t want her to think it’s okay.
Please make more videos like these. Everyone, including myself, needs to be educated and aware for ourselves, children and adults that are going through this.
Hey Nicole, I deeply appreciate this video; this subject is so important as parents to discuss. I want my child as safe as everyone’s and I think that if we keep each other awoke on subjects like this; we will all be helping our children.
Thank you.
Such an important topic. I also plan to be completely open with my kids about everything body-related from a very young age. My parents never did and looking back, there was one incident I had around 6 years of age, involving a slightly older boy, that could have turned bad but luckily didn't. Great video, as always!
I loved this whole video! I’m glad how you mentioned that predators can be other children as well that’s such an important topic to note. It’s less talked about and also very common. Thank you for making this video 😊
Thank you for doing this video, Nicole. I can tell how hard this must have been for you having a very young child. But so so so important to bring more awareness to ❤️
I actually really loved this. Teaching them these things is amazing!
Thank you sweety, we all needed to watch this. Thank you, the struggle is real. ❤️
I would love to see a video about Online Predators especially as your son gets older and this becomes a topic that you’re thinking about. Thank you for spreading knowledge in this topic!
really appreciate the fact that you spoke up about this so thank you very much nicole❤️!!
I really appreciate that you are sharing what you have learned about this topic. As a mom, I focus a lot on teaching my child to be a good person and stay positive, but sometimes I forget to prepare her for the dark side of life. So thanks a lot for sharing this.
Absolutely love this video!! Please never stop creating content like this. God bless you and your beautiful family
As a victim of sexual abuse, I always want to learn more ways on how to help prevent it from happening to others. I don't have kids yet, but this is just going to be locked in for when I do. Thank you
I really appreciate you sharing the information on a topic that no one seems to want to talk about til it’s far too late. I really love when you mentioned how we need to teach them boundaries by our actions, as well. If my kids don’t want affection from me I just let them be, as hard as it is to do sometimes. And I’m a proud mama because my daughter will GLADLY tell you when she doesn’t want kisses or hugs.
Thankyou for doing this, even if people may not click on this because its serious, I'm very thankful that you are discussing these things, it's really important. 💞💞
Wow thanks for sharing this!! I’m glad you spoke on abuse between other kids or siblings I personally went through that growing up !! This video was very helpful ❤️
So glad you you touched on this, it is so important and the things you mentioned were very helpful!
So proud of you for doing this! Thank you so much!
There needs to be more videos like this out there regardless of how uncomfortable the topic may be, thank you for making this video and your tips are very helpful.
Thank you for making this video!! This is sooo important to listen to!
Cant wait!! I just had a baby girl shes 2 month old and i already worry about this stuff...god bless you and your beautiful family and thank you for putting content like this i can learn from and look forward to.
Remember that people in power ,priest, religious leaders workers, teacher , family uncles and aunties. Can be predators clubs,and teams should spoken about.
Thank you for being brave enough to talk about this I think this is a very important topic for us parents. Especially having a daughter like my self it’s something I think about all the time thank you ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you for keeping this topic at the front of our minds
This is such a great and informative video, Nicole. Thank you for listening to the Lord’s nudging and posting this video ❤️
Thanks for this video. Seriously. The difference between "secret" and "surprise" is an amazing tip.
This is so necessary and THANK YOU. Not easy but absolutely necessary. YES Please do this again at some point later.
Loved the bathing suit idea!
Thank you for covering this topic! Such good information!
This is SO important! Thank you! Some of these I wouldn’t have thought of.
It’s not an easy topic but you’ve presented it really well and to the point. I’ve been thinking and praying about this and how best I can impart this knowledge with my son. I’ve learnt from this video and you’ve given me a stepping stone. thank you!
Dont be that mom that doesnt believe in you or doesnt do anything about it. That's the worst thing you can do. That girl will forever be broken . Years will pass by and still hurt her the same as it did when it happened.
Great suggestions! Many of these I had already planned on implementing, but others I had not come across before. Thank you so much for making this video! :)
So important to bring awareness to this topic! Thank you for sharing!
Thanks for watching!
Thank you for talking about this! Great video.
Hard to talk about but HAD to be done! Well done for talking about this ❤️
My son is one years old but I am thankful for your research on this topic! I can’t say I haven’t thought about some of this since sex trafficking is so prevalent! But I am very grateful for in info!
Thank you so much!I needed this very much!💯🙏❤
Great video! Knowledge is so important. Here are a few more tips that I’ll be applying and that could have saved me and others getting abused
1. Watch how your child is around people if they come over or you go over to their house. If the child is instantly uncomfortable with that person then that’s a red flag
2. When other children come over to play and say you’re having them play in the pool make sure they change in separate rooms in their own private space and you stay in the corridor in case they need your help.
3. When your children get to that age when they can wash themselves make sure you always respect their bathroom time and only go in if they call you and want your help. In my culture it’s normal to see adult family members naked because we used to all share a bath but it’s not right as it teaches your children that it’s okay to be naked in front of family and other people when those parts are private and abuse happened in my family as well by my mums cousins
4. This is extreme but I don’t even care. I will never let my child sleep over at someone else’s house family or friend I do not care. They can come over after I have vetted the parents and the child as well, because I’m not playing Russian roulette with my child’s childhood.
5. Have an open dialogue and always see if your child likes certain people ask them what they think and feel about those people after they gone and never make your children play with children that they don’t like even you’re friends with the parents and you want them to get along.
6. The thing that would have helped me disclose is if I had a good enough relationship with my mum and felt that she would have believed me or heard me because I’m African and family is almost like a cult where you can’t say anything wrong about older people because you’re seen as disrespectful.
Thank you so much Nicole for sharing this it was a very hard topic to talk about but you gave some really good information. ♥️
I just gotta say thank you. This is incredibly important.
You're amazing Nicole!! THANK YOU for creating this video. So proud of you and your channel!!!!!! xoxoxoxoxox
I wished I new this early on in my life. This would have prevented for my two girls to be sexual molested by my friends. Is a horrible and traumatic experience they have to endure all along in their young life. This is the best information that a parent can get to protect their children. Thank you for sharing this video.
I'm a mum and a teacher, this was very enlightening. Thank you for sharing.
This is so so so important. Thank you for making this video.
Thank you so much for making this video! I’m pregnant with a baby girl and this topic makes me so nervous! Not a lot of people talk about this.
Thank you so much for talking about this!!!
Thank you for sharing these tips; I’m really grateful for them!
I think a series on this topic is wonderful!!!❤️
I love that you’re doing this
Thank you so much for making this video. I think it's a very important subject and not spoken about enough! I'm 41+1 weeks pregnant of our first son and thinking about how I want to talk to him about this subject when he is old enough to understand and what I can do to protect him when he's only a baby. I'm soaking up all information I can get about this subject because I find it very important! Thank you again for making this video.
Thank you for making this video!!
This is an awesome video! Thank you for sharing!
I truly wish more family channels would talk about this, this is why I love your channel, your family comes first. Not TH-cam. Some family channels know fine well abusers are watching their content and I the worse cases they exploit their own children for clicks. We do not talk about this enough as a society, I have been aware of this growing issue for as long as I've I've online. The internet is absolutely crawling with predators too, silicon valley is not going to protect our kids. They just want as many people clicking on their platforms as possible and that means kids too, in order to sell our data. Its on parents to keep their kids off line until they are adults imo. If our governments were actually competent we would have massive regulations on the internet and stronger age laws. I dont think anyone under the age of 20 should have internet access unless it's for study etc. We need to have an entirely separate intranet for kids which has safeguards. Predators are talking to our kids in the privacy of their bedrooms, on their phones. This is a massive problem all round. Cannot say how refreshing it was to see this video. You are a great mum, totally on the ball. This is how to parent and educate others. 👍💜
We at Protect Your Children Inc thank you so much for this video. Our mission is to educate the public and raise awareness. There needs to be VIRAL videos with this information.
Thank you so much for this advice, I’m pregnant with my first and I was wondering how to protect my kids from these pedophiles cause they’re everywhere. Those books that you linked are so helpful in introducing this topic to kids.
Really important topic, thank you so much! 💛
Amazing video! I have never thought about this, but it’s a topic that needs to be discussed. I just had my first baby and will definitely use these tips, plus the books are great! Thank you! God bless you and your family
Thank you God Bless you and your family as well 🥰
Thank you so much for the topic!!
Loved this video so much, thank you🥰