One Year of Using the Flylady System | Before and After
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- A year ago I was lost in a sea of clutter and mess. I found the Flylady system and never looked back! After one year of keeping up with my routines and a massive decluttering project later, here is what my house looks like now!
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One Year of Using the Flylady System | Before and After
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If I stop watching TH-cam, my house will be pristine..😂😩
I wish I didn't identify with that, lol!
Right?!
Lmao! So very true!
😂 Yup!
🤪
Imagine having a mom that you can trust enough to call and have her over to help you with house work instead of shouting at you...
Or who will smile in your face about it and then go tell any and everyone who will listen about what a slob and failure you are.
Right?
Difficult to imagine you have over 125 likes! So that many don’t have moms they can call for help?!! That sad! I hope you all are better mom and make generational change!❤
Hahaha anyone else watching this when they should be cleaning? Maybe its just me lol. Who knows, maybe ill get inspired.
Don't feel bad I do the same when I should be cleaning.
Me me me 🤣
I'm watching this when I should be working out. Can't find any motivation here. Trying to find a stay home mom who exercises in the morning. Got any?
Don’t get inspired, get busy. Fly lady is based on 15 minutes and Zone cleaning. We just have to put on our cleaning shoes and put in the time. I find myself getting easily distracted - start in room One, go to another to either get something or put in that room and then start a chore in room Two. 🙃🤪 Not judging, I need to re-embrace Flylady system.
😂😂😂❤️ feelin ya
Love FlyLady! One of the sayings of hers that I love: "don't worry about catching up, just start where we are".
maryinsanfrancisco that saying just made me relax! 💕
Thank you for being so real with us! I'm glad that instead of beating yourself up through the video, you focused on how far you have come! It's good for us all to be more gentle with ourselves.❤️ I loved hearing you say that you're so proud of yourself! You absolutely should feel proud of yourself!! I know FlyLady would be too! Thanks for all the TH-cam videos you are creating for us!😊
CHAOS - Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome - That's me
I like that acronym! It's so true!! I will use that to keep me motivated when I need to be.
W9
That's funny
I didn't know there was a word for me!!! Working on that now thanks to Steph!
It's in the bible...didn't want people to hear God word so they went ahead of them to create chaos. May not have used that word but the actions are there.
I can't believe fly lady is still going strong. Classics never die.
Rachel S. White I know!! I first “met” Fly Lady online in the late 90s! I still love and use the “fling boogies”!
There’s an app now too
I've never heard of fly lady. I've heard of Marie Kondo. Is it the same?
@@mrskhillman6042 There are similarities but along with decluttering, Flylady is more about using baby steps to create habits.
Yes, the system truly assist with bringing organization to one's life in so many ways... amazingly, the mind and body follows... because one discovers they, also are WORTH it!
Oh my gosh
Her “before” house has NOTHING on my current house.
Time to leap into action.
Just curious, how is it going? :)
Thank you for being real and showing us what your house was like. Because I'm a slob too and want to live in a clean and organised home.
Those "clean with me" videos with women in spotlessly clean homes already make me laugh. First video I have seen of yours, love it!
I so agree!!!
Agreed! Love that she is so honest and real. Gives me hope that I can get there too!
Those women work hard, whether you believe it or not,I grew up in a house where there was 9 people living in it and that house better get and stay clean before after and during mom or dad was home especially if you want to have fun on weekends people were always suprise when they came over.
It's like a diet/weight loss video from someone who stayed always skinny 😂 to have been always tidy is just as admirable as that. But often they don't seem to know the shame of having a messy home.
I honestly appreciate you showing this. So many lifestyle youtubers who do "clean with me" type videos are like "ugh my house is a DISASTER"... when there's barely any mess at all.. It's so disheartening and makes me feel like a failure. So it's nice to know I'm not alone.
Thank you for being so open and honest about your “ before “ house. You did a great job’. Fly lady is great at keeping your home clean and tidy. Keep up the good work.
Thank you! I am so glad that I found the flylady system and finally changed my bad habits :)
@@TheSecretSlob
You are doing an amazing job.
Continued Success.
Kind regards from Ireland Kate. 👱♀️☕☕
I’m so proud of you! I also applaud your openness to show the “before” shots-especially your lack of shaming yourself endlessly for being sloppy. You struck just the right balance: this isn’t good, I’m gonna change it. Perfect! A real, practical, doable inspiration for all of us. 💚
Woo hoo, you've come a long way baby! 😍 Always love those "before and after" moments with the Flylady system - giving you a pom pom salute! 🎉🎉🎉 And I'm crying with laughter here at one of the comments which asks if I'm your Mum?! 😄 Hugs to you, and your lovely Mum 👋💖😃
Oh my goodness! Diane! You have no idea how much you changed my WHOLE life! I thought I was a born slob and that was that. Thank you so much for everything that you do and how much you inspire everyone
@@TheSecretSlob Yes, we both have "exotic" accents 😄 Have a lovely day! 👋💖
Love you Diane in Denmark too! I started with you around last winter with my first cup of coffee in the mornings and binged every video you had made to that point. I'm not completely flying but am sticking to many of the habits and I often catch myself saying put it where it goes before I even drop it. Thanx so much for your inspiration also.
I am about to turn 49 and my kids are 13 and 10. I am JUST NOW getting to the point of seeing progress! I have been a slob my entire life. I am so glad you figured this out while your kids are still little because boy, mine have been digging their heels in during my transformation lol!!! You have given me so much inspiration and many ideas, so thank you! 💗
The way u talk encourages me a lot. Watching your video right now just gave me hope I can also get out of my cluttered home.
Ur so pretty!
Congratulations for being so determinated and for sharing with us your daily routine.
Ur inspiring.
God bless u and your beautiful family.💝❤
I dream of the day I get control over my home. We literally have too much.
After we had a house fire (due to a refrigerator that caught on fire in the middle of the night!), I had to list literally more than a thousand household items, their original prices, when I bought them, etc., so we could be reimbursed by the insurance company. That was when i realized we had too much stuff. I’ve always liked getting rid of stuff but now I buy a LOT LESS! It helps that our two daughters are living on their own now (one at grad school and the other at college/work). Really really think carefully before you buy stuff to go around your home. Do you REALLY need it? I found that mostly I do not!
If you don’t use it lose it. If you don’t need it don’t buy it. I have put 5 , 30 gallon trash bags of clothes into the recycle pickup for people to use. Minimal is the way to go. We have all spent tons of money over the years on things that weren’t necessary. I’m guilty as charged 🤦🏼♀️
@@Happybidr I'm sorry to hear about the fire. I sometimes fantasize using a leaf blower to just make everything fly away. I told my husband, and he went out and bought a shop vac with a blower!
@@SnicklesKidsShow A leaf blower? Well that's a new twist on "flying!" I love it! But you can do this, you know...and if you feel stuck in the process, pamper yourself with a beverage or a tub bath and your thoughts - on paper or not - and envision the way through. I imagine it is different for everyone and even for different kinds of stuff. I had a lot of stuff that would cost more to sell than to give away, but I was sentimental - so I wrote the cutest, cleverest "ads" in the local free-share group to find homes for things that would otherwise be dumped in the trash by charities. I found a woman doing dog rescue who was delighted to take a crib mattress marketed as a large dog bed, lol. String lights with plastic lobsters on them. A priests' shirt. All kinds of odd things. I waited until I was depressed and a little angry to get rid of other things. I envisioned a better wardrobe and bought a couple of nicer pieces before I purged my closet enthusiastically. When staying with a friend as a house-guest, I felt there was no room for me because of all the "decor." Then it was easy to purge my own small, spare guest space. I got a pad of big graph paper and made paper "furniture" of all we had and rearranged things throughout the house - and suddenly it was easy to see that I couldn't have a spacious-feeling space that was easy to walk through if I didn't get rid of some pieces. The graph paper doesn't lie unless you measure incorrectly. I've often used the "group and conquer" method - similar to the Kon Mari method in which you gather similar things together and see what you have duplicates of. I did that in our garage when planning wall-mounted storage and it is so much easier to function there now. I'm using the same method to deal with paperwork and older computers and software that got disorganized with some filing cabinet changes and stash-n-dash behavior and old-fashioned procrastination. In order to get clarity, I have had to break the Flylady rule about only getting out what you can put away in 15 minutes. But though it is taking a number of months (not continuously, I need enough energy and the right mindset to work on it effectively and I don't have that energy/mindset continuously), breaking this rule has saved me from the reason it hasn't gotten done in the past: out of sight, out of mind. I love how you said "I dream of the day I get control over my home." If you start by picturing clearly what you DO want, it is easier to let go of whatever doesn't fit that scenario.
Start with 30 bags in 30 days. It helped me so much!
Thank you for making me feel normal while also giving me hope!!
Yay, Diane in Denmark! I started with her 31 days of baby steps and she made it so simple.
She is the BEST!
About every 3 months I dump the ‘lost sock’ bin. I know it sounds wasteful, but do the mates every ‘really’ get back together?
We had a laundry basket full of mismatched socks. The whole family went through it, and paired NINETY PLUS socks!!! Couldn't believe it. Dumped the rest and now 2 mths later, the basket is starting to grow again. Smh
I just wear the mismatched socks lol it adds ~personality~ to your outfit
Many moons ago I took the sock bin and made a cast of sock puppets with the help of many small hands and put on a show.
Buy them all the same colour. No more mismatched socks ever again
@@carolc2574 Yes, I do this too. Now they go when there are holes in them. :) Some people use them as rags though; if you have something really dirty to clean, you can use a (clean) partnerless sock, and then throw it away after.
Never heard of “fly lady” before gonna look it up now. So, after watching this video I went & washed my dirty dishes! 😊
My house has rooms FULL of junk. Not always bad stuff, a lot are things that are still good but we don't use. It's disgusting and I wish it wasn't that way. My mom has been basically hoarding stuff for as long as I remember and it has effected me to the point that I can't keep my own spaces clean. Right now, I'm living in a college dorm, but my room at home is so so messy with clothes and stuff all over.
Lately, I've been getting into minimalism and such, so I'm excited to get to clean up my room and hopefully keep it that way.
FlyLady.com has a student control journal. So helpful for students!
Spend your time decluttering first and it will make cleanup a lot easier. Flyladys fling boogie is great for that. She's got some great ideas for declutting.
Hard when it’s family. I have someone in my life who buys stuff from thrift stores that we don’t need or want every single week she’s bringing more garbage around.
I'm a storage unit for family. I should charge lol
I think that is awesome you're trying to embrace minimalism I wish I would have embraced it before starting a family. I come from a family of pack rats I use the word pack rats because hoarders just sounds scary. I think all of us have struggle letting go I wish I would have accumulated so many things to begin with in my life. I've made a lot of great changes doing really good a couple years ago but so Since then has crept back in. I did find a system that worked great for me but then I went and had another baby and need to reach week things and restart. Just work on you and your stuff. You can do it whether you come from a hoarding background or not. embrace the simplicity now it will make your life a whole lot easier as time goes on!
Good job! A home shouldn't look like a showroom. Yours looks like a nice home that's lived in and comfortable. 😍
Fly Lady Diane sent me here today! She and her videos have changed...my life. Nice to see a fellow Canadian on the team (your accent!). If anyone reading this is now walking out of rooms overwhelmed (I see you crying... been there) and in despair, please be assured your situation *is* rescuable 😊. Watch Diane in Denmark's 31 day series and implement her gentle and daily suggestions and you'll get there. And of course keep watching Steph here too - proof that the Fly Lady System works. I've gone from ashamed and overwhelmed to "sure, drop by anytime!" 🤩
Hi! Thanks for stopping by :) Glad to see that she is helping so many people!
@@TheSecretSlob And now you are too!
This is the first of your videos I've seen. My house is worse🤦♀️. Then again I don't live near family, I have 2 kids under 2, and a husband at work 12 hours every day. That said, this video has probably given me more hope then any other I've seen
You can do it. My mom live 10 hours away, and we had 2 under 2 when I started! Go easy on yourself and start little by little :)
The secret is to get rid of most of it. Keep only the necessary things.
Most of the clutter is stuff my parents forced on us when they moved across the country. It's been really hard to get motivated to go through all the 20-30 boxes of junk,anf its only gotten worse the last 4 years, but I'm working on it. I feel a little more motivated lately.
YasuTaniina good luck! How’s it going?
Flylady saved me when I had my first 4 babies in as many years. Her system really does work
I totally think that the before shots were pretty darn good. My clean is messier than your messy. 😁 Definitely not a dump.
I agree w everything you said!
Same here (almost.) Her level of messy in the before is my "it's a little messy but if someone is planning on coming over, i can hurry up and throw it all in my bedroom and close the door" kind of messy. This video is so inspiring, though. Stepping away from youtube now so i can get my own house clean....
I so appreciate your sharing the before n after of your home it’s encouraging to see it can be done. I have 27 years worth of stuff plus a craft business that I’m not doing anymore storing in my house. Been watching the minimal mom which has helped me get started. Your honesty n willingness to share before n afters is soooooo encouraging . Thank you 😊
This is one of those times that TH-cam Recommends made my day. You don’t know how much I needed this channel!!
You stated that you hated the bookshelf in the living room... Hang it in the pantry or pop it under the hanging shelf tucked in the back corner. It would be a great way to get stuff organized and off the floor. Or hang it in your laundry room and have a lost sock bin, hangers, cleaners , softeners, and seasonal wear. Or use the shelf in your entry way to organize kids shoes, adult shoes, extra baby bag, and kids school gear. In our home we have a basket with each person's initials that holds one pair of shoes , one pair of sandals, and several pairs of socks. This makes getting out the door easier in the mornings. If you hang a lovely set of hooks for you adults, then hang one that is three feet off the ground so little ones can start learning that they need to help by hanging their own stuff up.
This is my first video and I'm subscribing to watch how you grow!!!!
Love love this very real picture of progression! Go you! Great job! Thank you for sharing your journey.
Thank you Kandy :)
I actually paused the video and cleaned my house! I’m back. Your house looks wonderful.
Amy C ba ha ha me too! I washed my dishes!
Darkis Art These videos are powerful. I remember watching Hourders buried alive. My house would be spotless because I cleaned during the commercials! 😂
Woo hoo! Go you!
Amy C wow! I’m impressed!
I love that you are such a young mom who is getting control before decades of motherhood pile up on you!
L.C.H. is right abt not
letting the years pile up on you! I love your little one's kitchen!
The sock basket! Consider getting a different color or fit of sock for each kid. My son has black ankle socks, my daughter has white ankle socks, my toddler has white short crew cut socks. This eliminates matching, and if you lose one, you'll never know because there are plenty more like it in the drawer. My kids can sort and fold their own laundry and they know whose socks are whose easily and can throw them in their drawer.
All three of my kids can wear the same size sock. So I buy 30 pairs of black ankle socks at a time 🤣 I realize one day they will be in different sizes and then I will have to probably do what you said with each kid has their own color
I’m watching this video because I’m you: didn’t clean my bathroom for months, it’s gross, I know! But I don’t mind living in my own ness... 😂😂😂😭... time to try the fly lady!!! Thank you!!!
How are you doing now, a year later?
I found you while watching 👀Diane in Denmark. Happy Easter. 🐇🐥 💃
Happy Easter!
I love Diane in Denmark
Me too!
Your video popped up on my TH-cam home and I couldn't stop watching! Love the genuineness and how far you've come! Wow!!
You’re GREAT. You absolutely should be proud of yourself! I’m 63 & I want to be just like you. I’ve been married 37 years & my husband says he’s putting “ Messiest girl in the World” on my tombstone 😂 Keep up the good work & sharing your story ❤️🙏
Katy Phillips Haha my nickname growing up was ‘Miss Messy’ so I know where you’re coming from!!
Thanks for the kind comments 🙂
Great job! But don't forget you had a baby, and every moment you give to a baby is WAY more important than a perfect household!!! Love from France. PS. I regret I did'nt make a video of my before/after... I came to flylady during a burnout, too much work and no time and energy left... now it is much better, and decluttering really installs harmony and peace in your home.
@TheRickie41. Yes, children and family, pets come first. I'm 👏
@@TheRickie41
That's what I'm talking about ! That's a love that is pure and forever. 😍👍
The whole purpose of FlyLady is to have more time to love on your family stress free without guilt. She teaches how to do anything in 15 minute blocks.
I love Diane in Denmark! It is lovely too see she has helped other ladies out there too 😜
I loved how your daughters kitchen cleaning skills improved too lol
Here via DIANE IN DENMARK....isn't she great? She has helped me to understand FlyLady better...well done you x
This is the first Flylady video I have seen. I have no idea what the Flylady system is, so most of it was lost on me in terms of translation, or the process of how the system worked in each room she showed. Sometimes it pays to do a little recap of what is being addressed, so there is a context as we watch the videos. Some of us were not here from the beginning.
Good Point! I will add some context in the details. Thanks!
So I have just discovered your channel and I see so much of myself input “before”! We have 7 people in a 3 bedroom 1 bathroom 1000sqft house and it literally looks like your before every single day. I’ve just started the flylady system and am already so happy! Thank you for sharing your before and after, it has motivated me to keep going! 🥰
Wow! You are in a tight space! So glad you have found it helpful :)
Ok, so your mess is not that bad...it’s just useful stuff that hasn’t been put away. My house is full of JUNK! How do I start to tackle that kind of mess?!?! Decluttering is my biggest problem. Help!!!!!
Mine was a lot of junk too, I had over 5 car loads go out the door! Just little by little. Do one small thing every day!
What a great idea for a video and how you did it. You should have WAY more followers!
Thank you Allison :) Good luck with your decluttering journey!
Thank you for your honesty. You are inspirational and I’ve subscribed to you. Tell your fans: it’s never too late to start!!!!!!
I will! Thank you!
My first video of yours. It is amazing the way you react to your old habits and "mess tolerance". You have inspired me to pick up fly lady. I'm starting your channel from the beginning. Thank you!
I follow the Diane of Denmark channel since 2 or 3 years now and also discovered your channel today. I gave you a blue thumb and subscribed. Good job dear ans continue this méthode. Greetings from Belgium.
We are so proud of Diane. (Paddi @ WWW.FLYLADY.NET).
Thank you so much for being real. You have done a great job. I am struggling to get the FlyLady down but you have shown me that little by little it can be done.
It can! Little by little, stick with it :)
Little by little is the key! Every time I tried to implement her whole system at once, I got overwhelmed, threw up my hands and walked away. Then something FINALLY clicked, and I started just swishing and swiping the bathroom. Then I started setting a timer. Not always doing exactly what Flylady would do, but doing SOMETHING for 15 minutes -- usually the thing that was bugging me most at the time. Gradually I added in more elements of her system, and over time, they're making such a HUGE difference!
Sweetness give yourself a break! What you see now shows how much you can now see. Before, you could not "see" all the stuff, which is why it was that way. As for the laundry room, You can now see the floor! That is Major, Major!! Job well done!
Aunt B
Thank you!!
What a sweet comment :-D
Awe I love this! I have a friend of mine that was so embarrassed of her messy house all the time that I literally took her to mine to show her that we were kindred spirits and that she NEVER had to apologise to me about that. It made her feel better to see my house in ruins too. I've been trying to do better but lately I have been letting my children learn how to clean so it of course is not "mom" clean anymore.
Incredible and sooo inspiring! I remember when I saw your first videos and I was afraid you might give up. I didn’t want you to raise your kids in the loving (yet frustrating) chaos my children grew up in. Now I have all teens, and we are finally feeling the peace that comes with routines. As I’ve mentioned before in my comments, I unfortunately still have a long road ahead (haven’t moved in 20 years) but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Praying other young parents will see your videos and save them years of frustration and regrets! Glad your going to stay active on you tube!💕 Way to go on your progress!
Thank you so much Carrie. Your support means so much :) I am so glad I found Diane in Denmark and the Flylady system when I did so that I could turn it around early. So glad that you are feeling more peace in your home. The decluttering will come too - little by little :) Hope you are having a wonderful day.
I love that you told the truth that you didn't clean the bathroom for months let dishes pile up knowing their such judgmental jurks judging.Im glad Im not the only one who isnt perfect.
You definitely are not alone. Don't ever think that.
Adding 4 tall laundry hampers will help with your family laundry. Darks/jeans,towels, colors, whites. Sheets can be washed the same day they are taken off the beds. This will allow you to do a load a day using whatever bin is full
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Lori G. I sort by color and weight which sounds complicated but it's not. Heavy stuff like towels and jeans in one load. Light weight anything in another. For both, every color except white, beige and baby pink in another. Cold gentle for everything except sheets and towels. Air dry black, delicate and dry clean only. The only thing you can't put in a machine is wool, angora, silk and especially not RAYON. That shrinks more than wool.
Thanks for sharing. I just love your back splash! Do you happen to know the name of it?
Thank you! It is called Alchimia Blue. I got it from Ideal Tile.
Me too! I notice EVERY time I see your kitchen.
What kind of counters do you have, is it real granite?
I just found your channel. I love the Fly-lady system. It has literally changed my life. I love watching other Fly-lady gals.
Haven't even watched this video all the way through yet but I'm liking and subscribing to your channel just because its so nice to find a channel that shows REAL LIFE houses get messy. Love it.
I wish my house looked like yours originally did...let alone how it looks now. My house is a disaster area.
In a word: Wow 😮. In two words: Great 👍🏿 job! Thanks for sharing this very inspiring video! I hope everyone who is willing to take action on the Flylady system today has the same testimony this time next year! 🤞🏿
Love your mom...You've done a great job in just a year .....you live in your home and its ok....I love the Flylady system it works🤗
Very impressive! I love that you took before and after pictures.
Nice to see your cheerful face again. Tremendous improvement in your home. Well done. You rule the house now, it doesn’t rule you. Anne 👍😄
Thank you! It feels amazing! I even showed my husband and he was speechless too. I guess we didn't remember how bad it was since I changed it so slowly.
Love Diane in Denmark! ❤️😊
ME TOO!!!❤❤
I live alone with 3 rescue dogs and my house still gets messy! Good job! Your kitchen looks great. I broke a hip a couple of years ago, and got really behind so now I'm on a mission too to get my things in order. It takes time especially when you're dealing with some medical issues. The thing is not to give up and throw in the towel! Even short periods of time everyday helps.
You are right on point! keep it up!
You look much happier and healthier now. I am at your first video now. Growing up I was an organized child. Because I lived in chaos. When I got married I was still organized just a clean freak and germaphobe. I went through being unappreciated, depressed, and finally I am so through and done with this world I deserve to be organized again. For myself. So that's how I got to your video. Thanks for posting this one.
Just watched your first video! Already in love! Real house, real person! I see self love that you have learned over time! I want to learn that! Thank you so much for sharing!
I saw your video 4 or 5 days ago. I had never heard of FlyLady. I've now been to the website, signed up, and today is day one of my 31 Baby Steps. Thank you for taking the time to document your journey and share it publicly.
I believe this is going to be a gamechanger for me.
THANK YOU!
Wow! You've done a great job in just a year. Well done! I'll have to check out your other videos now. The FlyLady system is great, isn't it?
I found your channel on Tuesday and I have binge watched all your videos. Thank you for being so open and honest. I have done more in the past 3 days than I have in a month...thanks to you!!! Alao happy to watch a fellow Canadian 🍁
I knew you were Canadian when I saw the crokinole board in the front closet. Lol
We are so much alike, but thankfully my husband keeps me on my toes. He's more of a tidy freak and keeps me motivated to tidy.
Great job on your change....gonna have to check out this Diane lady! Haha
Wow, thank you so much! I am so glad to hear that you got so much done! And glad to have a fellow Canuck on board!
Is crokinole a Canadian thing? I had not heard of it before, but my husband and his friend love it!
Yes its definitely Canadian. We love it at our house. 😊
Hi :) Diane in Denmark is also my favourite youtuber and I'm a new flybaby too! I hope after a year to be satisfied with my home organisation like you! The FLYLady system is the best!
Girlfriend , just found ur channel! Love this video before and a year after. Congrats!!!
I had learn how to be very organized in USAF....so my org style went from chaos to creatively organized for 23+ years ....then after a long distance move back to home on the east coast, a long grueling divorce and several,serious long term family illnesses...i have never really recovered from the move 6 years ago! I unpacked almost everything...then family member become very ill...and another grave illness...and every time that happen d -all work in my house stopped...boxes everywhere, boxes half empty, piles on top of piles trying tp look for something specific...became a chaotic nightmare ....that i am just now getting back to where i hope i can finally get it all completely unpacked and put away! And it is so true that when stuff is effectively organized it ssoo much more peaceful!
Congrats on all u have accomplished!
Thank you for sharing this, I just discovered your channel. Looking forward to seeing more.
4 years later this is still my favorite video. Watch it when I need some cleaning motivation!
Exactly why I’m here in 2023 😂
This is what I've been needing and praying for! I've been struggling with creating a routine and trying to figure out how to keep house. I knew the basics of cleaning but somehow "tidy" has eluded me and most of all, I want better for my kids. I'm almost 40 and it drives me insane that I can't keep tidy enough for unexpected company or even comfortable living day to day. SINCERELY, thank you!
When I was in grad school at age 35 with 2 grade school youngsters and a traveling spouse I devised a system to never leave a room without checking for and taking whatever was in that room that should be in the room I was going to (if that makes sense?). I had to be efficient with my time in order to attend class, study, keep house, do kid things and be there for hubby. For example, if I was coming downstairs from my bedroom I brought the laundry basket, if it was full, to the laundry room and immediately started a load of laundry. Face it, much laundry with modern fabrics and detergent does not need to be sorted if washed on cool or warm water. I did sort heavy clothes like jeans. While I was in the laundry room I checked the dryer and folded clothes ready for the basket to return upstairs. I left the return trip laundry basket at the foot of the stairs where the next household member going upstairs took the basket and its contents to a designated bedroom for the owner to put away. When I left the house for the garage I maybe took the trash out then too. If I was reading the newspaper and finished it I placed it next to the door leading to the recycling container. Simple steps like this helped me stay calmer during stressful times like exam periods. It was a constant vigilance of what doesn’t belong here at this time, should I take it where I am going? Gradually rooms became mostly uncluttered and organized. I realize now as I am distracted by so many electronic gadgets how efficient I was then.
I think that being messy isn't problematic per se.
It is what you are feeling and how it plays out in the mind.
Shame, guilt etc social isolation, feelings of worthlessness and so on.
My favourite lecture is on two people eating a donut.
One has an eating disorder, the other is just eating a donut.
Can you tell which is which?
My mess problem is really the person with the eating disorder as it eats away at me. I have all kinds of stuff going on in my head which you cannot see.
I actually read a book in two days since starting flylady. I had most of my stuff done by nine am and was free to read, guilt free for the first time in a decade.
Thank you secret slob.
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You are telling my story! Now I am inspired even more to keep moving in the right direction--I don't feel so overwhelmed any more! Thanks for your channel!!
I love fly lady!
TH-cam recommended your channel to me. Thank you for showing your realistic house from before and now. Nothing is more discouraging than watching a "Clean with Me" video where they are basically just disinfecting an already immaculate house. Ugh.
Thank you! Haha I felt the same way :)
One of my new favorite channels! yay! 👍😃
I’m 50. I’m tired. I’m now inspired again!
Love in Christ Jesus,
mrs. b
in fl🌴
poolahpot me too! I’m 70...I’m REALLY tired! Living with daughter’s family, including 3 little boys, and this is inspiring for me.
Your before house was not that bad. I'm 61 and mine is way worse! But I know it feels good and I am proud of you too!
Diane in Denmark for president 😃👍❤️
Get rid of all your socks and give everyone in the house their own colour! No matching! :)
We don't use socks anymore...we all just go barefoot...
My boys both like black but they each have their own length--fortunately one likes long and one likes crew
Here’s my best “hack” ever! “Handle” it once is the mentality! When you take off your dirty socks pin the pair of socks together with craft safety pins. Do not use regular safety pins. Wash, dry, toss in the drawer! Done beats perfect everyday!
Give each family member a garment bag to pin to their hamper, where they can put their socks in when they take them off. Wash in the zipped up garment bag, then let them pair them back up. This way you won’t lose any and each person will get the right ones back, without having to put in lots of extra effort to use this type of a system.
Samantha So smart! We just fold them together when we take off & flip apart as thrown in wash (that keeps them paired) but not tied to the right person; that’s an awesome idea!
I’m much older than you and I wish I had discovered this way of cleaning many years ago. My babies are now grown but I am still challenged with organizing my stuff. I’ve followed Diane in Denmark for over a year now and I’ve improved but I have much more work to do. I’m still in the process of decluttering believe it or not. I guess it’s an ongoing process. The beauty of the Flylady system is that you can always jump in and start. I’m happy to have discovered you. You’re a ray of sunshine. Thank you from Staten Island, New York!
The back-splash and shelves are terrific, great choice.
I'm so proud of you! You've brought your house under control and turned it into a real Home. Good job Steph!
Thank you :)
Diane rocks! Great job!
Ok sooo... For the past 24 hours I have been following the immediatley rule ( i made it up). I figured I left everything to later one because I knew I would get free time as the day went on. But if I wash I dry the clothes and fold and put away as soooon as its out. I put shoes and jackets as soon as we walk in the door. Dishes are washed as soon as the we all finish the food. Also as I cook my meals I empy each pot onto the dinner plates if I have extra left on the pots I pack my husband next day lunch. I make my sons snack a day before, iron his clothes a day before. So my day consists of tiny little tasks one after another and my home is cleaaaannn!
You are an inspiration! I am currently in a place similar to where you were. I really want to change for the better. Thank you for honestly sharing your story, so many of us relate! 💓
I really had not realized that there were other people, women who felt like I do! Almost word for word you were reciting what I have thought and said to my friends. Because of you and Erica Lucas I am grasping a better understanding of my situation, becoming motivated to begin decluttering my home minamising our belongings, and create a sanctuary! My husband deserves it, I want it and our family needs this home to be more peaceful and less chaotic! Thank you for the information and insight and enthusiasm!
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I just stumbled upon this video by mistake and my house is just like your before video. I'm constantly overwhelmed and this video just gave me hope and a light at the end of the cluttered tunnel. Thank you for sharing.
This is so inspiring! TH-cam doesn’t feel like a guilty pleasure any,ore! It is changing my life!
Love Diane in Denmark! Congratulations on the progress! I hope to get to the point where I don't have so much clutter.
Hi! This is my first time watching your channel but loved this video!! This such an inspiration. After kids I felt the chaos heavily as well. I have actually never heard of this concept but can’t wait to look up more info! Subscribing!
Your before house is exactly like how mine is right now. Overwhelming and exhausting to think about. You’ve done amazing! Thanks for being an inspiration!
I'm feeling shamed because your old dirty room is cleaner than my current room 😬😬😬 but I'm trying your 21 day plan, on day 4 now 💪
TH-cam found you for me some how, but I like your energy subscribed!!!
Steph, seriously, I'll be thrilled if I can get my "after" video to look as good as your "before" state. Not being facetious at all. 😭
I’ve been following the fly lady for over a year. But thank you for the encouragement. I’m still working on my house
Did your Mum help you to find out about Dianne in Denmark, or IS your Mum Dianne in Denmark? I’m hoping it’s the second one. I love her!
LOLOL - My mum helped me find Diane in Denmark :) We always sit and watch DiD when we get together :)
This made me tear up. I keep coming back to FlyLady again and again, but I can't get out of the chaos. I try. I clean every single day. Nothing gets better. I want what you have SO badly...control, a peaceful space.
The main area that keeps people from flying is they fail to declutter. The FlyLady decluttered 27 items three times a day for NINE months. You can make this happen if you declutter. I have faith in you.
Don't give up! Do you have a friend who can be objective and blunt enough to help you realize that you just have to let go of some of the clutter/accumulated stuff if you want to save yourself from continuing/worsening distress and chaos? I just started going through all sorts of "ancient" things, w the help of a guy friend (who sees sentimental value in virtually nothing).
It's a very slow and sometimes painful process, but I am hopeful. I would keep curtains drawn so no one could see inside my house and would talk to people who stopped by stepping out onto my tiny porch to talk to them. It's still a mess, but less of one, and I now have window blinds and actually keep them open/up most of the time during the day, and have the front door open w just the screen door between me and the porch.
I hope to make a lot more progress, and I know you can, too! I wish us all great luck and motivation!!!
The KonMarie method is helping me get rid of stuff, that I just can’t seem to let go. It sounds stupid...thanking things, but basically “breaking up” with those things. But, it makes me feel less guilty getting rid of those things. While I think she does go a bit overboard on what she says to get rid of, I have found it waaay easier to declutter using her method. Now, if I can just stop my husband from bringing other people’s crap into my house! (He has a friend who just sold his mother’s house, and there’s a lot of “good stuff” in there!) 🙄
Our stories of where we started before we decided to change are so similar: prekids vs post-kids, calling mom, etc!!! Thanks for sharing (and yeah...the bathroom confession....was true for me too. Yeck, but hooray for new habits!) My channel was born out of the relief and excitement that comes from seeing the light climbing out of overwhelm. So happy to have found your channel!