Met a guy Saturday , all week he been talking about his car problems, constantly complaining about bills! I told him dude I don’t think I’m the one for u and blocked his butt
Yea no doubt he was waiting to hear that "let me help you out" line. No real man of value would complain about finances to a woman he's trying to court. He was seeking help, that's all.
J Peavy right . Now if we been seeing each other for like 6-12 months I may understand but we just met that was insane . I’m a woman and don’t open up that fast to anyone about anything
My mom was murdered by a man she took care of. She paid all the bills and defended him against other men, she was very "masculine". He had no job or source of income at all. He got another woman pregnant so she wanted to leave him. When she tried to leave, he murdered her. I wish she had this information. It could've saved her life.
I saw this and i thought this was Fake. Im stunned. Buying rental properties are for married couple or business partners. He will cheat on her BUt keep her around- she is setting up herself for emotional and financial disaster.😩😩😩
Even weak men are providers, they’ll take your money and provide for another woman, I’ve seen it too many times. You paying the bills and he’s taking the side chick on trips or getting her lights turned back on. A man will eventually want to feel like the hero even if he’s faking on your dime!
On you for choosing a sociopath. You ladies never feel accountable in your choice of men. That's why men like me leave the table when we realize what a dumb rigged game it is having to deal with the damaged leftover and provide for it on top of it.
Funny how you mentioned that. I bought my ex a watch for Christmas some years ago and his response was, "No seriously where's my Xbox?" (I also did not not get a Christmas gift from him)
Chloe is so right abt this. I feel literally sick, aged ten years and do not smile or have a great aura anymore. But last month I told him we are over. He does not want it to be over. But paying bills every month for 8 years, just because my son could have his father around, became very tiring. But no more ☝🏾
So you better don't expect that a man will take care of you. In normal relationships people care of each other and appreciate what they receive. Men take care of woman by doing masculine things for her, she takes care of him by doing feminine things for him.
@Fatgoat Goat some men choice to because its what they where taught or believe that's what they are suppose to do. If you're part of MGTOW, we might as well stop talking because we are on 2 totally different sides and we would get no where with this conversation.
The thing I’m confused about is, what thought popped in ur head to get this man a rental property in the first place? And he didn’t even want to open the bag sis smh the ghetto
My sister was in a similar situation footing all the bills while a ninja laid up in her apartment smoking and being useless. She started having panic attacks and palpitations. But she finally dropped him, and threw his behind out so he could run back to his mom. She'll never do that again. And I'll be making sure she doesn't.
I’m a Mexican woman and I’m so tired of how I’ve had to become the man in my life to survive. Men just don’t know how to be men anymore. I’m just staying single from now on. There is no point in being unhappy with feminine men of all races. Cause I’ve had this happen to me with Caucasian, Middle Eastern, Latino and Black men. So, I’m done. I rather be alone.
A woman is a helpmeet to the man... so I will take care of my husband, but I will not PROVIDE for him. I told my husband before we got married that I will not be paying the bills. There are many reasons why men need to learn how to carry the weight, such as childbearing. If my doctor wanted to put me on bedrest while pregnant and my husband actually depended on my finances, we would be messed up.
@@TheRibofJESUS you can contribute financially to a relationship right? If your husband pays 100 percent gets sick or a bad car wreck your household expenses are in trouble. Their are different ways to provide. It just doesn't mean paying 100 percent of the bills. Even a woman staying home taking care of the kids is a provider. When a woman marries you are his equal. A relationship has two providers.
You want to provide something to your man? provide some support, encouragement, a pair of ears and let him know he's capable of getting what he wants and needs.
Wheewwwww 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾 “the burden of masculinity will age you”. Ain’t that the truth. I have 2 younger brothers and so I am now 3 years into the journey of undoing physical toll the stress of being a parentified girl took on my body. But I love my self care, wearing skirts and dresses, doing my kale nails and make up because my femininity MATTERS. I wont be chasing a dusty or 50/50 or mum’s boy EVER again
It's better to be alone than to have to pay even 50 50 and even less . What's the point in doing any of that? Men don't appreciate or love you for it at all anyway.
The Bible does say women are a man's helpmate and she is your equal. 50/50 is the logical thing to do. Women are not the prize. You don't pay for a prize.
Only a bm would choose a chain which nose dives in value than a property which appreciates in value. 😴😴😴😴black women need to get it together. Becky's who date brothas have a masculine energy about them too. They usually pay for everything when dealing with bm.
@@timferris1478 YES ONLY. I don't even know any non blk men who walk around with chains, but grown 40+ yr old bm love jewelry, whips and spending money on hookers/strippers. Imagine Bill Gates at a strip club making it rain. You will never see that.
PrincessLeah187 xx Ok Well that’s your perspective and I can agree to an extent so in saying that yes we as black men have to do better In regards of spending money on stupid shit like chains however men in general no matter what ethnic background fuck off their money on unessary shit.I have a lot of non black male colleagues and I see these guys buy hookers ,drugs , bullshit electronics ,and depreciating cars all the time. Men in general buy bullshit things to show off and stunt its just different styles from each ethnic background. It’s not just a black man thing.
I constantly get shamed by other black women because I am not into switching roles. They think I'm not a down female and that I'm incapable of properly loving a man because of this. The standards are so low nowadays that I see black women say that they would kill for a man who isn't a provider as long as he doesn't cheat. Isn't that what you're suppose to do in a exclusive relationship? From what I've seen, women who provide for their men get cheated on the most. These effeminate men will impregnate you, eat your food, drive your car, take your money, and what will you get in return? A headache, disrespected, and made to look like fool.
My husband held me down through a med school program and made sure I did not have to worry about money, even though my worrywort self still did. He invested in me, and I will invest in him and be his cheerleader as he continues to move up in his field. And if he chooses to finish college to get into higher management/ corporate positions, I'll be there to make sure he does. My dad was a great example of a provider and thats what i want for my family. And his father worked while his mother stayed at home and made money on her own from doing hair, catering, and baking because she wanted to. And we both want the same dynamic for our family. Period, no exceptions.
Changing my mindset changed everything. When you see your lover as the prize, nine times outta ten, you'll be their mule. Never me again...Thank you Chloe.
This reminds me of one of my friends who went above and beyond for her boyfriend on valentine's day, she slept with some old rich guy for money and bought her boyfriend some D squared t shirts, Balenciaga sneakers, Cartier glasses, two very expensive perfumes, she paid for a hotel suite, bought very expensive lingerie, chocolate and champagne but all he got her was a small teddy bear and one rose 😂😂😂😂
Thank you Chloe, this message is really needed. I see this everyday and it saddens me to the core. I have known women who have done the very same thing for the dusties in their lives. Now that its TAX SEASON the dusties are really working it. I have a family member that is basically providing for her man, she pays his bills buys his food and gives him money to go out with his homeboys. I once tried to tell her that she should stop doing this because this man treats her like dirt. He has zero respect for her and he even jumped on her during an argument and damaged her back. She is spending the kids tax money on this loser instead of fixing up her home for herself and her kids. She really believes that man has her best interest at heart but he doesn't. He only shows up when its payday and tax season then when he has taken all of her and the kids money, he ups and leaves her heartbroken and crying like a fool. This man has a baby with her and she thinks that will keep him by her side. She halfway cares for the children and her home but she makes sure that dusty is living comfortable with everything he needs. He leaves her when he has collected all the money and then goes on to the other single mom and does the same thing to her. Its funny how these women think they "got it going on" until they are left broke and broken. Chloe please make it make sense.
With all the Level Up channels popping up, there’s no way Pickmeisha’s are still running around rampant. All you can do is keep them in prayer. I’m just grateful that I cannot relate to this anymore. The desperation is a reminder of my darkest days. I rebuke such low vibrations from entering my orbit. Chloe, I believe God is working through you. He was fed up with women playing themselves and chose you to restore the balance. I’m praying for your mental wellbeing because this gig ain’t easy. May your message continue to reach and resonate worldwide. Love you, sis 💜
Omg chloe when you said women who operate in the masculine are trying to buy protection and love I was covered in goosebumps. I’ve been operating in my masculine not so much around men in relationships but men in my closer circle of kin and friends etc. I had a dad who was a “dusty” & Male relatives who were just feminine & bitter & full of cunningness & criticism. As a child I was highly criticized and outcasted both at school & other wise in my personal life. I lost my willpower at age 15-16 & now at nearly 25 I’ve spent a whole decade being a “yes man” & doing everything for everyone just in hope of getting some of what I need & deserve rightfully as you teach. I became drained, received most the health issues you said, lost weight & was still disrespected & tested in every regard. I’m so blessed that god gifted me with your Chanel & content. I’m gonna have to work a lot to heal & reflect & work on myself & raise my standards & not cower at the thought of being in a conflict or “hated”
Today I vow to never emasculate a man. I will never take care of a man. I vow that today. He gets TWO presents a year with a budget of 100 dollars for birthday and Christmas gifts! I'm putting down the burden of masculinity. I will not wear the pants in my relationship. I will be feminine.
At the current age of 34 I'm finally following my own grandmothers advice to allow men to provide. I'm a single working woman with a good paying career but I no longer do anything other than sit back looking pretty and being witty. The men are putting in more work into chasing me than ever before when I was in my 20's and probably desperate to prove that I was bringing everything to the table. Also piece of ADVICE NEVER tell a man how much money you have in the bank as a matter of fact I make sure to down play my actual income all together.
This video is spot on 🎯. I was married to a Dusty and was not only the breadwinner but soul provider. As time went on I was so burdened from taking care of him it literally was egregious. Fast forward to today we are divorced and I have been spending my time cultivating my feminine energy and it has been delicious. I love @Chloe_ videos because she does an amazing job of not only teaching how to be feminine on the outside but to do the internal work first and foremost. I really love this channel!
WOW! Thank you Chloe, this is a much needed message for tax season and beyond.. Ladies, if a man wants to know your financial situation RUN. These men need OSCARS for the performances they put on around this time of year. I keep a gaggle of platonic Male friends, and I overhear them discussing the tactics they use to extort money out of unassuming "good women"... yes I said extort. One in particular told me about a situation where his friend utilized emotional manipulation to extract money from a "fat girl". He laughed as he explained his game plan. He recounted that he played nice the closer it was to payday. Every week he strategically played mind games until he conditioned her to part with half her paycheck! Ladies, the first step is honesty, and that's with yourself. If you are overweight and unkempt these men are using you for money and comfort. I didn't want to accept it either but they only care about looks. They assign value to you based on that and decide if you are a target to be used or someone they are genuinely interested in. If they like you then will spend on you. If he doesn't spend on you or expects you to provide for him you have a low value in his mind. Ladies, keep your money in your pocket and invest in feminine upkeep, clothes, hair, nails. That will help attract better quality men, and keep dusty men at a distance.
I never wanted to be the provider, nor was taught such, but found myself in these situations time and time again. Went to counseling for years, flipped my own script and never accidentally put myself in these situations again.
Chloe once again you are on point with this message. I must say based upon my own experiences from other women. I have seen women spend years on dusty just to look old,sick and depressed at 40 years of age. Hypergamy is the key to success for feminine women.
I'm celebrating my birthday tomorrow. I'm also very thankful for the way God has wired me. I do not let people talk me into doing the unnatural, the media included. Very strongwilled i am. I'm greatful for your video's, Chloe, you have no idea. So many women in the world have sold their souls to this nonsense of taking on men's roles as providers. I'd rather die standing i tell you. I'm also grateful for the women on this channel and other similar ones...at least they want to do better.
These are the types of Men that have a Woman that is Quick to tell another Woman -" that's why your Single and don't have a Man! " Well sometimes Single is the new Happy.
I was in the grips of a brutal narcissitic relationship at one point. I found this channel about 3 years into being away from him. I really thank you Chloe_! I was out but struggling with my emotions and my time.. I was lost. I havent been with anyone else in over 4 years since breaking up with him. So now, when I finally put myself out there all the way again, I will be soooo ready! Love and Light girl!! 🥰
Thank you for your channel. I am 47, and just learning how to truly be a feminine woman. Channels like yours have come to my rescue. Again, a million thanks.
These are the dynamics I've watched growing up. Men in my family fed me their childhood sob stories. I felt the chaos and confusion and only in my adulthood I felt like something s off with these men.. I was also secretly attracted to strong, provider type of man but felt undeserving of them. After years of therapy I ve discovered your videos and finally I know that there is something seriously wrong with these type of men. I am european btw.
For 3 years, I provided for a man, that wasn't even my husband! I was miserable everyday! For some reason, I felt I didn't deserve better. Never again! I know my worth and hope that more and more black women start to see the light. Great video!
I’m not into role reversal at all .When I hear a big strong man needs my little 100 pound self for any type of support I’m turned off automatically. Why would this big strong man supposed to be a leader warrior protector king need a delicate woman to help him build? If you need a woman to build you shouldn’t date.
My parents are like this and honestly, seeing it growing up instilled in me to run away from similar relationships. They have been together over 30yrs an my mom, at 65, is still running things. Nothing but animosity and resentment between them.
Luv the video, sis. I think we're gonna need a part 2, 3, and 4 for the ladies in the back. 😜 This needs to be an ongoing message so we can reprogram and rehabilitate and these women.💅💞
I've found that most of this behavior is learned/taught through the Brother-Sister relationship. Many Women are damn near forced to take care of Brothers as he/they grow up getting in and out of trouble. So Women/Sisters grow an instinct to take care of Men/Brothers and the Men/Brothers grow up with the expectation to be taken care of. The I am my Bothers Keeper syndrome that some Women/Sisters never grow out of. As Dr. Kunjufu used to say, some Mothers raise their Daughters and love their Sons.
What men don't understand is that these gifts comes with the hefty price of disrespect for men. It's sweet at first, but it turns sour with the men eating serious losses
I am actually glad and at the same time disguised that this is circulating. Black Women!!! We need to talk! This video is a prime example of how we undervalue ourselves, right there in color, circulating for the world to see.
This is literally my friends. I believe my friend is paying for all the trips that she is going on. Her man got mad on Their anniversary because she asked him to plan out the date and he ended up not doing anything for her. LIKE WHAT IN THE WORLD!!! And she is still with him. Ughhh
Role reversal is a daunting experience. I did it once and was so DISORIENTED about negotiating my femininity because I knew I wasn’t wired for such BS. The guy ate it up and I resented bringing it to the table. But I woke up to who I AM, dumped dude and I would never consider bringing anything to the table ever NEVER.
Not to mention, the woman is also resentful of her man-child because he doesn't do enough if anything and she has to bring home the bacon, fry it up, save the grease, make his plate first and then serve it to him.
Every SINGLE TIME I watch one of these videos, I’m 🤣🤣🤣🤣 for the rest of the day “Ladies, emasculation is when a man’s pride & peen is chopped off at the root AND stem!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Basically they become angry, bitter eunuchs! So that’s about 75% of the guys I’ve met then! 🤭🙂🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
So let me get this straight. She gave the man a home that he could make residual income off of and he was mad because he wanted jewelry? Lol ok girl...
Whew so grateful for this channel. It’s helped me up my mentality so much more. I rest in my Femininity 💯 % of the time. I’ve left that surrogate mothering behind as soon as I crossed 30. I was defo miseducated throughout my 20s
So true! I almost fell down that slippery slope until I woke up. And what a difference it is when you embrace your feminine side. Thank you for your straight forward gems of knowledge! 💎
My Step Father hip me to this situation I diden know. Anyway he was an electrical engineer and he believed the men suppose to work. And women only if they wanted to. He was easy going. Treated my mom and family respectfully cause he was a Masculine Male.
You are such a blessing to all women who have lost themselves you really want to see women make good decisions I'm 35 and I always put my self first thanks chloe
I’m so selfish Idk how to even give to anyone that much, my 16 year old son has a job because I told him I’m not buying ur butt clothes anymore at 16 get a job get off video games
This is GOSPEL... wish I had learned it sooner. Single mothers who have to hustle to provide, 50/50 situations and the woman bringing home the bacon... we are not biologically and psychologically set up for this and it takes a toll.
I just had man on Salaams bug me about working for him! He kept saying I was raised right because I had a graduate degree and a profession. I told him I'm tired of working and that I'm looking for a provider man. I cut the convo short and then unmatched. Urgh.
I have done a lot of stupid things....but pay a man's way ain't been one of them...sheesh...I have wasted my time but not my coin....I'm learning in other ways though!!! That's a fact! Thank Chloe!
I did a little bit of this but not too much and it's not doing again, dealt with man who I used to cook clean borrow money buy shit for him, he took ages to pay me back and was resentful and disrespectful.
I honestly needed to hear this. I have been so depressed in this relationship Im in. This guy is a total receiver. And is the laziest dude i have ever been with. The most expensive gift i have got is $2 box of chocolate. I'm over it. I want to be the women in the relationship. I always feel like the provider. Im tired of it!
@@danijones819 i think im dealing with because he has no where to go. And has no family in the state i live in. I feel bad making someone homeless. Im trying to see if his mom will pay for a ticket back home. Cause he is truly getting on my last nerve.
Girl you just read me! I hate operating in my masculine energy and I hate worrying so much about my career, bills, and so many other things. I need to change this because it's not cute nor is it healthy.
Always a lovely straight to the point video. That man was embarrassed and felt emasculated for her doing that...that why he wanted something small, because he knew she was acting manly. Sigh!
Naaaah... can’t be me. I’ve been a Pickmesha in the past but never got this bad. I still regret ALMOST buying a bowl of ice cream for a dusty over two years ago. 😂 😂 Not on my dime! 👿
My mother has been in this situation all her life. I learned from just watching her....Iset boundaries and I am not afraid to say what I want. Too many men exuding feminine energy and I see it way too much online...
Oh geezus, the dust! Damn, damn, damn!! (Florida Evans voice!👏). I am glad that you spoke the truth about this role reversal b.s. Women need a clue and get with the feminine program instead of taking care of "Coddled Clyde". Masculine women need to learn the lessons of celebrity women who make more than the man. Being a masculine woman can be hazardous to her health!🚫
I am always looking at the women in my apartment building, how they are physically and their appearance in general, and I can safely say that they are with a 50/50 dusty. There are only about 2 or 3 women who seem very feminine and take care of themselves, two of them may not have children, the rest are aging terribly and seem frustrated. I don't want to be one of them in the future. It scares me.
I feel confused. My boyfriend pays all of my bills except my phone bill. I live in one of his homes. I say that because I had a convo with him recently about if we had a daughter I would want her to be provided and cared for. He on the other hand said he want an independent daughter and that if anything he wouldn’t mind her building up a man. It’s safe to say I don’t see this relationship going further. Smh he wouldn’t mind his daughter being a work mule for a man. 🤨
M Lane 2years & Yeah one of his homes. We live in the same state. It’s just confusing that he fully supports me but acts like he wouldn’t want that for a daughter. He is like the perfect person to me but I’m really picky about how I want my children to be raised & treated once I have them so I’m like confused if I should just leave cause of his statement. It turned me waaay off. I’m not raising a work mule
Because white women know the truth..of who our black men really are...which is KINGS. We as blacks are Kings and queens but most don't even know their history so this is what we are left with! A strong black man should be ready and equipped to care and provide for a strong black woman .
Miss Britt facts see it all the time. My roommate works at a coffee shop and she told me one time a blk man and ww came in she paid for both coffees and pastries. They sat down and talked outside and she came back in to grab both coffees. He didn’t even have the decency to grab the coffees. Smh
When you said it makes women age I can definitely see it affect the women my age and I’m only 23. Like I saw this girl at the gym the other day I used to go to high school with and i barely recognized her. She looks a solid 35-40 in the mit. Idk what life did to her but back when I was 15 I knew she was tryna play the shit out of this really nice dude for someone else and I felt horrible how she treated him, now it looks like karma had it’s way w her. 🤷🏼♀️😗
I have identified myself as being in my masculine for my entire life. I am only 29 but have so many responsibilities (paying all the bills, cooking cleaning and taking care of 3 kids while pregnant with 4th) this is my 2nd marriage and both men are weak and feminine . I work night shift and that also adds to my bitterness. I want to tap into my femininity and let go of this baggage. How do I start?
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You can’t buy a “future” with a man! 🕳
you can't put his love on layaway either
@@pianotnt explain what is meant by layaway?
@@islandgirlruby2750 thank you
@@mcali-reviews5585 It’s possible with sperm donor
Met a guy Saturday , all week he been talking about his car problems, constantly complaining about bills! I told him dude I don’t think I’m the one for u and blocked his butt
Yea no doubt he was waiting to hear that "let me help you out" line. No real man of value would complain about finances to a woman he's trying to court. He was seeking help, that's all.
Taylor Hall blocked and deleted it was so irritating 😠 I’m like wtf smh 🤦🏽♀️
That is so mean
J Peavy right . Now if we been seeing each other for like 6-12 months I may understand but we just met that was insane . I’m a woman and don’t open up that fast to anyone about anything
@M Lane Very random question. Why do you ask?
My mom was murdered by a man she took care of. She paid all the bills and defended him against other men, she was very "masculine". He had no job or source of income at all. He got another woman pregnant so she wanted to leave him. When she tried to leave, he murdered her. I wish she had this information. It could've saved her life.
Nakeita Horne oh my i hope your doing okay 🙏🏽
My condolences. I am so sorry to hear that.
Yes, young women, especially black women need this information, I’ll be sure to pass this knowledge on to my younger sisters and other young ladies!
Wow....I'm so sorry to hear that. You and your family are in my prayers...
SO SORRY FOR your loss.
I would never ever ever ever eveeeeeer give a man money or provide for him. I know my worth and value.
I saw this and i thought this was Fake. Im stunned. Buying rental properties are for married couple or business partners. He will cheat on her BUt keep her around- she is setting up herself for emotional and financial disaster.😩😩😩
Growing up my mother and great aunts always said never tell a man how much money you have/make. Now I understand.
I agree
❌Don't be a mother to your husband and don't be a wife to your boyfriend❌
yes
Even weak men are providers, they’ll take your money and provide for another woman, I’ve seen it too many times. You paying the bills and he’s taking the side chick on trips or getting her lights turned back on. A man will eventually want to feel like the hero even if he’s faking on your dime!
On you for choosing a sociopath. You ladies never feel accountable in your choice of men. That's why men like me leave the table when we realize what a dumb rigged game it is having to deal with the damaged leftover and provide for it on top of it.
cringing sooo hard! its like a mommy giving her son clothes for Christmas and he starts crying because he wanted an Xbox. SMH
Funny how you mentioned that. I bought my ex a watch for Christmas some years ago and his response was, "No seriously where's my Xbox?" (I also did not not get a Christmas gift from him)
@@bambidaydreamer3 damn! girl at least he's in the past...we live and we learn!
Chloe is so right abt this. I feel literally sick, aged ten years and do not smile or have a great aura anymore. But last month I told him we are over. He does not want it to be over. But paying bills every month for 8 years, just because my son could have his father around, became very tiring. But no more ☝🏾
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im proud of you for wanting and deserving MORE for your life!!!!!
Yes 👏🏾 you come first, be safe during this transition and talk to you higher power for strength!!
Proud of you for knowing your value. Now don’t look back!
Good for you 🙏
I Refuse to Care of any man Regardless of Race
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Facts!
So you better don't expect that a man will take care of you. In normal relationships people care of each other and appreciate what they receive. Men take care of woman by doing masculine things for her, she takes care of him by doing feminine things for him.
@@m.r.5990 you know what she means. Financially or being his momma.
@Fatgoat Goat some men choice to because its what they where taught or believe that's what they are suppose to do. If you're part of MGTOW, we might as well stop talking because we are on 2 totally different sides and we would get no where with this conversation.
The thing I’m confused about is, what thought popped in ur head to get this man a rental property in the first place? And he didn’t even want to open the bag sis smh the ghetto
Desperation, I'm praying that she wakes up 🙏🏽💝
He told her to open the bag\🎁 🛍 and she did it smdh
He was recording instead, just to show how stupid she looks.
@@beanz25ful right and once again she still didn't peep 👀 game
lbrown1192 Right, y’all heard her say “See” meaning she knew he only wanted a chin and a watch smh But sis decided to go all out Nd outdo herself smh
Can't believe how foolish I was and no one ever told me how I shouldn't help a man smh. Thank you.
At least you know now. I see women in their 50's-60's still making this mistake
@@LateshaRenee thank you. That is so sad to think they never get to the point of that not being good enough.
Ikr, I hate I never had a good female role model in my life
Same I help no one
My sister was in a similar situation footing all the bills while a ninja laid up in her apartment smoking and being useless. She started having panic attacks and palpitations. But she finally dropped him, and threw his behind out so he could run back to his mom. She'll never do that again. And I'll be making sure she doesn't.
"Women who role reverse are trying to buy protection." Wow, that was me. Thank you.
I’m a Mexican woman and I’m so tired of how I’ve had to become the man in my life to survive. Men just don’t know how to be men anymore. I’m just staying single from now on. There is no point in being unhappy with feminine men of all races. Cause I’ve had this happen to me with Caucasian, Middle Eastern, Latino and Black men. So, I’m done. I rather be alone.
I Will Not Take Care or Provide for any Man My Children are my Number Priority
And you are your #1 priority too sis🙏🏽💝
A woman is a helpmeet to the man... so I will take care of my husband, but I will not PROVIDE for him. I told my husband before we got married that I will not be paying the bills. There are many reasons why men need to learn how to carry the weight, such as childbearing. If my doctor wanted to put me on bedrest while pregnant and my husband actually depended on my finances, we would be messed up.
Even if i didn't have kids im not taking care of no man
@@TheRibofJESUS you can contribute financially to a relationship right? If your husband pays 100 percent gets sick or a bad car wreck your household expenses are in trouble. Their are different ways to provide. It just doesn't mean paying 100 percent of the bills. Even a woman staying home taking care of the kids is a provider. When a woman marries you are his equal. A relationship has two providers.
You want to provide something to your man? provide some support, encouragement, a pair of ears and let him know he's capable of getting what he wants and needs.
Wheewwwww 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾 “the burden of masculinity will age you”. Ain’t that the truth. I have 2 younger brothers and so I am
now 3 years into the journey of undoing physical toll the stress of being a parentified girl took on my body. But I love my self care, wearing skirts and dresses, doing my kale nails and make up because my femininity MATTERS. I wont be chasing a dusty or 50/50 or mum’s boy EVER again
It's better to be alone than to have to pay even 50 50 and even less . What's the point in doing any of that? Men don't appreciate or love you for it at all anyway.
@KXNG KXNG broken Heart alerte😅😅
@KXNG KXNG women go for men they are attracted to. Simple. Would you be with a woman you are not attracted to at all just because she's nice?
@@winstonsjulia5942 Ask again please this guy IS just so weird
@KXNG KXNG agree very attractive men are also boring an you can't just base things on attraction and sex
The Bible does say women are a man's helpmate and she is your equal. 50/50 is the logical thing to do. Women are not the prize. You don't pay for a prize.
Ladies and lurkers welcome
@Lagonavienne LMBO
@THEwhimsical1 And ear hustlers
This was sooooo embarrassing! Who gives a BOYFRIEND anything close to this
The mentally ill, pray for them
Only a bm would choose a chain which nose dives in value than a property which appreciates in value. 😴😴😴😴black women need to get it together. Becky's who date brothas have a masculine energy about them too. They usually pay for everything when dealing with bm.
PrincessLeah187 xx only?
@@timferris1478 YES ONLY. I don't even know any non blk men who walk around with chains, but grown 40+ yr old bm love jewelry, whips and spending money on hookers/strippers. Imagine Bill Gates at a strip club making it rain. You will never see that.
Girl dont reply to the dusties. This is their only time that they get to speak to beautiful women.
PrincessLeah187 xx Ok Well that’s your perspective and I can agree to an extent so in saying that yes we as black men have to do better In regards of spending money on stupid shit like chains however men in general no matter what ethnic background fuck off their money on unessary shit.I have a lot of non black male colleagues and I see these guys buy hookers ,drugs , bullshit electronics ,and depreciating cars all the time. Men in general buy bullshit things to show off and stunt its just different styles from each ethnic background. It’s not just a black man thing.
PrincessLeah187 xx yes white beckys love taking care of black men so sad smh
I constantly get shamed by other black women because I am not into switching roles. They think I'm not a down female and that I'm incapable of properly loving a man because of this. The standards are so low nowadays that I see black women say that they would kill for a man who isn't a provider as long as he doesn't cheat. Isn't that what you're suppose to do in a exclusive relationship? From what I've seen, women who provide for their men get cheated on the most. These effeminate men will impregnate you, eat your food, drive your car, take your money, and what will you get in return? A headache, disrespected, and made to look like fool.
ShadyBrooks stop talking about your standards to them. Don’t ever let shaming tactics get to u.
And it's funny cause the ones who DON'T provide still cheat ...lol...
My husband held me down through a med school program and made sure I did not have to worry about money, even though my worrywort self still did. He invested in me, and I will invest in him and be his cheerleader as he continues to move up in his field. And if he chooses to finish college to get into higher management/ corporate positions, I'll be there to make sure he does. My dad was a great example of a provider and thats what i want for my family. And his father worked while his mother stayed at home and made money on her own from doing hair, catering, and baking because she wanted to. And we both want the same dynamic for our family. Period, no exceptions.
Changing my mindset changed everything. When you see your lover as the prize, nine times outta ten, you'll be their mule. Never me again...Thank you Chloe.
Here after my notification. early today. The hypergamy tribe is here.
This reminds me of one of my friends who went above and beyond for her boyfriend on valentine's day, she slept with some old rich guy for money and bought her boyfriend some D squared t shirts, Balenciaga sneakers, Cartier glasses, two very expensive perfumes, she paid for a hotel suite, bought very expensive lingerie, chocolate and champagne but all he got her was a small teddy bear and one rose 😂😂😂😂
Maybe he broke
Thank you Chloe, this message is really needed. I see this everyday and it saddens me to the core. I have known women who have done the very same thing for the dusties in their lives. Now that its TAX SEASON the dusties are really working it. I have a family member that is basically providing for her man, she pays his bills buys his food and gives him money to go out with his homeboys. I once tried to tell her that she should stop doing this because this man treats her like dirt. He has zero respect for her and he even jumped on her during an argument and damaged her back. She is spending the kids tax money on this loser instead of fixing up her home for herself and her kids. She really believes that man has her best interest at heart but he doesn't. He only shows up when its payday and tax season then when he has taken all of her and the kids money, he ups and leaves her heartbroken and crying like a fool. This man has a baby with her and she thinks that will keep him by her side. She halfway cares for the children and her home but she makes sure that dusty is living comfortable with everything he needs. He leaves her when he has collected all the money and then goes on to the other single mom and does the same thing to her. Its funny how these women think they "got it going on" until they are left broke and broken. Chloe please make it make sense.
Lord have mercy... that's just sad. I could NEVER put a man before myself and my child(ren). What's her relationship like with her father?
That so called "man" acted like a 5 year old child at their birthday party and the "woman" was the clown!!!
With all the Level Up channels popping up, there’s no way Pickmeisha’s are still running around rampant. All you can do is keep them in prayer.
I’m just grateful that I cannot relate to this anymore. The desperation is a reminder of my darkest days. I rebuke such low vibrations from entering my orbit.
Chloe, I believe God is working through you. He was fed up with women playing themselves and chose you to restore the balance. I’m praying for your mental wellbeing because this gig ain’t easy. May your message continue to reach and resonate worldwide. Love you, sis 💜
He was so dusty! And she was crazy for gifting this 2 him! She need to break up and put this property in her name.
Right or her kid(s) name if she has any...smh...I hate so many black women have been taught/shown to cater to men, I'm praying for all black women🙏🏽💝
I was really hoping that video was fake or something, cause it's depressing to watch.
Omg chloe when you said women who operate in the masculine are trying to buy protection and love I was covered in goosebumps. I’ve been operating in my masculine not so much around men in relationships but men in my closer circle of kin and friends etc. I had a dad who was a “dusty” & Male relatives who were just feminine & bitter & full of cunningness & criticism. As a child I was highly criticized and outcasted both at school & other wise in my personal life. I lost my willpower at age 15-16 & now at nearly 25 I’ve spent a whole decade being a “yes man” & doing everything for everyone just in hope of getting some of what I need & deserve rightfully as you teach. I became drained, received most the health issues you said, lost weight & was still disrespected & tested in every regard. I’m so blessed that god gifted me with your Chanel & content. I’m gonna have to work a lot to heal & reflect & work on myself & raise my standards & not cower at the thought of being in a conflict or “hated”
I pulled up on the title alone. This whole vid is facts! Stop paying for and buying things for these dusty men.
🗣🗣Close the bank and burn the cape!!
Today I vow to never emasculate a man. I will never take care of a man. I vow that today. He gets TWO presents a year with a budget of 100 dollars for birthday and Christmas gifts! I'm putting down the burden of masculinity. I will not wear the pants in my relationship. I will be feminine.
Beautiful vow
At the current age of 34 I'm finally following my own grandmothers advice to allow men to provide. I'm a single working woman with a good paying career but I no longer do anything other than sit back looking pretty and being witty. The men are putting in more work into chasing me than ever before when I was in my 20's and probably desperate to prove that I was bringing everything to the table. Also piece of ADVICE NEVER tell a man how much money you have in the bank as a matter of fact I make sure to down play my actual income all together.
This video is spot on 🎯. I was married to a Dusty and was not only the breadwinner but soul provider. As time went on I was so burdened from taking care of him it literally was egregious. Fast forward to today we are divorced and I have been spending my time cultivating my feminine energy and it has been delicious. I love @Chloe_ videos because she does an amazing job of not only teaching how to be feminine on the outside but to do the internal work first and foremost. I really love this channel!
WOW! Thank you Chloe, this is a much needed message for tax season and beyond.. Ladies, if a man wants to know your financial situation RUN. These men need OSCARS for the performances they put on around this time of year. I keep a gaggle of platonic Male friends, and I overhear them discussing the tactics they use to extort money out of unassuming "good women"... yes I said extort. One in particular told me about a situation where his friend utilized emotional manipulation to extract money from a "fat girl". He laughed as he explained his game plan. He recounted that he played nice the closer it was to payday. Every week he strategically played mind games until he conditioned her to part with half her paycheck! Ladies, the first step is honesty, and that's with yourself. If you are overweight and unkempt these men are using you for money and comfort. I didn't want to accept it either but they only care about looks. They assign value to you based on that and decide if you are a target to be used or someone they are genuinely interested in. If they like you then will spend on you. If he doesn't spend on you or expects you to provide for him you have a low value in his mind. Ladies, keep your money in your pocket and invest in feminine upkeep, clothes, hair, nails. That will help attract better quality men, and keep dusty men at a distance.
I never wanted to be the provider, nor was taught such, but found myself in these situations time and time again. Went to counseling for years, flipped my own script and never accidentally put myself in these situations again.
Embarrassing on both ends!! 🤦🏽♀️
Chloe once again you are on point with this message. I must say based upon my own experiences from other women. I have seen women spend years on dusty just to look old,sick and depressed at 40 years of age. Hypergamy is the key to success for feminine women.
I'm celebrating my birthday tomorrow. I'm also very thankful for the way God has wired me. I do not let people talk me into doing the unnatural, the media included. Very strongwilled i am. I'm greatful for your video's, Chloe, you have no idea. So many women in the world have sold their souls to this nonsense of taking on men's roles as providers. I'd rather die standing i tell you. I'm also grateful for the women on this channel and other similar ones...at least they want to do better.
Happy birthday girl!! #piscesseason
Happy birthday
@@bd3966 Thank you, dear!
@@rapsodyevans1693 Thank you!!
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These are the types of Men that have a Woman that is Quick to tell another Woman -" that's why your Single and don't have a Man! "
Well sometimes Single is the new Happy.
I had to learn this the hard way. Believing a woman should be a ride or die but that was the biggest load of b.s I ever did.
I was in the grips of a brutal narcissitic relationship at one point. I found this channel about 3 years into being away from him. I really thank you Chloe_! I was out but struggling with my emotions and my time.. I was lost. I havent been with anyone else in over 4 years since breaking up with him. So now, when I finally put myself out there all the way again, I will be soooo ready! Love and Light girl!! 🥰
Why do I feel the urge to cry for this lady? Why can't she see just how dusty this man is?
I think women lile this have a dusty self concept of their own. That's why they refuse to see a dusty man for who he is
@@LateshaRenee Hmm, you are so right. But, it's so sad that she's wasting her time and money on a low value man.
Thank you for your channel. I am 47, and just learning how to truly be a feminine woman. Channels like yours have come to my rescue. Again, a million thanks.
These are the dynamics I've watched growing up. Men in my family fed me their childhood sob stories. I felt the chaos and confusion and only in my adulthood I felt like something s off with these men..
I was also secretly attracted to strong, provider type of man but felt undeserving of them. After years of therapy I ve discovered your videos and finally I know that there is something seriously wrong with these type of men. I am european btw.
For 3 years, I provided for a man, that wasn't even my husband! I was miserable everyday! For some reason, I felt I didn't deserve better. Never again! I know my worth and hope that more and more black women start to see the light. Great video!
I’m not into role reversal at all .When I hear a big strong man needs my little 100 pound self for any type of support I’m turned off automatically.
Why would this big strong man supposed to be a leader warrior protector king need a delicate woman to help him build?
If you need a woman to build you shouldn’t date.
Your channel has really helped me see the error of my ways in my past relationships. Thank you
My parents are like this and honestly, seeing it growing up instilled in me to run away from similar relationships. They have been together over 30yrs an my mom, at 65, is still running things. Nothing but animosity and resentment between them.
Luv the video, sis. I think we're gonna need a part 2, 3, and 4 for the ladies in the back. 😜 This needs to be an ongoing message so we can reprogram and rehabilitate and these women.💅💞
I've found that most of this behavior is learned/taught through the Brother-Sister relationship. Many Women are damn near forced to take care of Brothers as he/they grow up getting in and out of trouble. So Women/Sisters grow an instinct to take care of Men/Brothers and the Men/Brothers grow up with the expectation to be taken care of. The I am my Bothers Keeper syndrome that some Women/Sisters never grow out of. As Dr. Kunjufu used to say, some Mothers raise their Daughters and love their Sons.
What men don't understand is that these gifts comes with the hefty price of disrespect for men. It's sweet at first, but it turns sour with the men eating serious losses
When Chloe said masculine woman age quickly and gain weight this so true because you feel like you just adopted little boy
I am actually glad and at the same time disguised that this is circulating. Black Women!!! We need to talk! This video is a prime example of how we undervalue ourselves, right there in color, circulating for the world to see.
I was just watching the never chase a man video. Ik m addicted to you chloe!!
This is literally my friends. I believe my friend is paying for all the trips that she is going on. Her man got mad on Their anniversary because she asked him to plan out the date and he ended up not doing anything for her. LIKE WHAT IN THE WORLD!!! And she is still with him. Ughhh
Role reversal is a daunting experience. I did it once and was so DISORIENTED about negotiating my femininity because I knew I wasn’t wired for such BS. The guy ate it up and I resented bringing it to the table. But I woke up to who I AM, dumped dude and I would never consider bringing anything to the table ever NEVER.
Not to mention, the woman is also resentful of her man-child because he doesn't do enough if anything and she has to bring home the bacon, fry it up, save the grease, make his plate first and then serve it to him.
This made me sick to my stomach 🙄🙄🙄
This gave me PTSD lol
Denise Ramirez lol. It was so difficult to watch!
Cruzan26 Be gone troll.
ultravioletmix33. Lol it really was. This mindset is toxic to our womanhood.
As soon as she said “rental property” I looked at her hand 😒 super cringe is an understatement.
RUNWAYBEAUTY now I gotta go watch the video again 😂
May Francis getting rental property for a man and you don’t have a ring. This was way too much.
@@RUNWAYBEAUTY exactly but at the same time you shouldn't wven be buying it for your husband. Real men are providers, protectors, and leaders.
lbrown1192 you missed my point. He was not even her husband.
I wouldn’t have done it if I had a ring.
I liked this one for the Title alone.👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💯🔥❤👸🏽
@@kanecierra8940 Okay 🤗,Would you like to be Family 🥰🙏🏽✌🏾
Every SINGLE TIME I watch one of these videos, I’m 🤣🤣🤣🤣 for the rest of the day “Ladies, emasculation is when a man’s pride & peen is chopped off at the root AND stem!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Basically they become angry, bitter eunuchs! So that’s about 75% of the guys I’ve met then! 🤭🙂🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
So let me get this straight. She gave the man a home that he could make residual income off of and he was mad because he wanted jewelry? Lol ok girl...
Whew so grateful for this channel. It’s helped me up my mentality so much more. I rest in my
Femininity 💯 % of the time. I’ve left that surrogate mothering behind as soon as I crossed 30. I was defo miseducated throughout my 20s
I dated 2 mommas boys... Worst relationships ever..Never Again... #MarriedToTheirMomma
No ambition just materialistic
No ambition equals broke
@M Lane right
So true! I almost fell down that slippery slope until I woke up. And what a difference it is when you embrace your feminine side. Thank you for your straight forward gems of knowledge! 💎
My Step Father hip me to this situation I diden know. Anyway he was an electrical engineer and he believed the men suppose to work. And women only if they wanted to. He was easy going. Treated my mom and family respectfully cause he was a Masculine Male.
I laugh every time you say “ladies and LURKERS” lol. Wonderful video sis! You truly are a role model for me.
Chloe’s information is so accurate and consistent. Even years later it’ll connect and all make sense. I love listening to the videos, new and older.
You are such a blessing to all women who have lost themselves you really want to see women make good decisions I'm 35 and I always put my self first thanks chloe
And watch out for the Man who actually Marries you because of his financial impressions about you.
I’m so selfish Idk how to even give to anyone that much, my 16 year old son has a job because I told him I’m not buying ur butt clothes anymore at 16 get a job get off video games
Your doing a great job with your son.
@@ngeee10 thank u
This is GOSPEL... wish I had learned it sooner. Single mothers who have to hustle to provide, 50/50 situations and the woman bringing home the bacon... we are not biologically and psychologically set up for this and it takes a toll.
I just had man on Salaams bug me about working for him! He kept saying I was raised right because I had a graduate degree and a profession. I told him I'm tired of working and that I'm looking for a provider man. I cut the convo short and then unmatched. Urgh.
"Stop buying men rental properties" 😭😂😂😂 Omg. But I guess it needs to be said.
I have done a lot of stupid things....but pay a man's way ain't been one of them...sheesh...I have wasted my time but not my coin....I'm learning in other ways though!!! That's a fact! Thank Chloe!
It's sad that you even have to make a video on this but it is needed and I'm praying for all black women🙏🏽💝
I did a little bit of this but not too much and it's not doing again, dealt with man who I used to cook clean borrow money buy shit for him, he took ages to pay me back and was resentful and disrespectful.
I honestly needed to hear this. I have been so depressed in this relationship Im in. This guy is a total receiver. And is the laziest dude i have ever been with. The most expensive gift i have got is $2 box of chocolate. I'm over it. I want to be the women in the relationship. I always feel like the provider. Im tired of it!
Me too, girl. I'm tired too. If I have to do it alone, I'm going to be alone.
@@danijones819 i think im dealing with because he has no where to go. And has no family in the state i live in. I feel bad making someone homeless. Im trying to see if his mom will pay for a ticket back home. Cause he is truly getting on my last nerve.
@@foxyglam15 How has it been?
@@earthgoddess4779 its over! I am super happy and lost 50 pounds. And have 100% of my life again!!!!
@@foxyglam15 So happy and proud of you! Congratulations on your weight loss🥳🎊. Wishing you the very best in life💫🙏🏽
This is also called being co-dependent and an enabler.
Girl you just read me! I hate operating in my masculine energy and I hate worrying so much about my career, bills, and so many other things. I need to change this because it's not cute nor is it healthy.
Always a lovely straight to the point video.
That man was embarrassed and felt emasculated for her doing that...that why he wanted something small, because he knew she was acting manly. Sigh!
Naaaah... can’t be me. I’ve been a Pickmesha in the past but never got this bad. I still regret ALMOST buying a bowl of ice cream for a dusty over two years ago. 😂 😂 Not on my dime! 👿
If you have to pay that man's way....I almost guarantee he will NOT protect you!
Kobe Bryant once said, once a man gets married he leaves his mother and sister'' or something like that. Even the bible says this!!!!!!
The fact that she said she knew he would react that way is horrible. Sounds like she should’ve left a loooong time ago!
My mother has been in this situation all her life. I learned from just watching her....Iset boundaries and I am not afraid to say what I want. Too many men exuding feminine energy and I see it way too much online...
Oh geezus, the dust! Damn, damn, damn!! (Florida Evans voice!👏). I am glad that you spoke the truth about this role reversal b.s. Women need a clue and get with the feminine program instead of taking care of "Coddled Clyde". Masculine women need to learn the lessons of celebrity women who make more than the man. Being a masculine woman can be hazardous to her health!🚫
I am always looking at the women in my apartment building, how they are physically and their appearance in general, and I can safely say that they are with a 50/50 dusty. There are only about 2 or 3 women who seem very feminine and take care of themselves, two of them may not have children, the rest are aging terribly and seem frustrated. I don't want to be one of them in the future. It scares me.
This is golden and life altering!
I truly “O”verstand….,I’m grateful for this !
Thank you!❤
I feel confused. My boyfriend pays all of my bills except my phone bill. I live in one of his homes. I say that because I had a convo with him recently about if we had a daughter I would want her to be provided and cared for. He on the other hand said he want an independent daughter and that if anything he wouldn’t mind her building up a man. It’s safe to say I don’t see this relationship going further. Smh he wouldn’t mind his daughter being a work mule for a man. 🤨
M Lane 2years & Yeah one of his homes. We live in the same state. It’s just confusing that he fully supports me but acts like he wouldn’t want that for a daughter. He is like the perfect person to me but I’m really picky about how I want my children to be raised & treated once I have them so I’m like confused if I should just leave cause of his statement. It turned me waaay off. I’m not raising a work mule
My ex fiancé wanted me to give him my debit card. I left him.
White woman do this a lot for bm !!!!!! Ijs
Miss Britt Yes, especially the “600lbs life” types.
Because white women know the truth..of who our black men really are...which is KINGS. We as blacks are Kings and queens but most don't even know their history so this is what we are left with!
A strong black man should be ready and equipped to care and provide for a strong black woman .
No woman should ever buy her way into a man's heart. Regardless!
Miss Britt facts see it all the time. My roommate works at a coffee shop and she told me one time a blk man and ww came in she paid for both coffees and pastries. They sat down and talked outside and she came back in to grab both coffees. He didn’t even have the decency to grab the coffees. Smh
@@candylove49 .😂😂😂😂😂
When you said it makes women age I can definitely see it affect the women my age and I’m only 23. Like I saw this girl at the gym the other day I used to go to high school with and i barely recognized her. She looks a solid 35-40 in the mit. Idk what life did to her but back when I was 15 I knew she was tryna play the shit out of this really nice dude for someone else and I felt horrible how she treated him, now it looks like karma had it’s way w her. 🤷🏼♀️😗
Have to watch ,go and come back a second time for the comment section alone ...it’s always too lit 🔥 and I’m early
Lol exactly! I'm very early for once
Its lit now...lol!🔥🔥🔥🔥
I have identified myself as being in my masculine for my entire life. I am only 29 but have so many responsibilities (paying all the bills, cooking cleaning and taking care of 3 kids while pregnant with 4th) this is my 2nd marriage and both men are weak and feminine . I work night shift and that also adds to my bitterness. I want to tap into my femininity and let go of this baggage. How do I start?