Nice woman. Very articulate. I admire that she can explain the pain of feeling alone sometimes, but she doesn't whine or beat her breast. I find her inspiring. What a nice guest interview.
This is a really powerful episode. It's really a whole new type of discussion that I haven't seen before on this channel, and the difficult emotions and circumstances she's talking about must resonate with a lot of single people.
The Singles in The Villages club has a compassionate care volunteer group. Connecting with others helps when it comes to situations like getting sick. Being proactive and finding out what resources are available ahead of time helps singles to deal with the fear of "if the worse were to happen". I was faced with hard decisions in January upon learning I had to go to NYC for a major, dangerous surgery. Don't wait until you have to reach out--find out what resources are available so you are ready if the time ever comes.
Jerry and Linda..."You hit a HOME RUN with this interview with Kim. Fascinating comments as many singles can relate to Kim's experiences. I retired and came here (by accident...long story) as a single 20 yrs ago and LOVE it here. I have many single and couple friends and have embraced the Village's lifestyle. I've extended myself over the years in joining groups and making the effort to socialize and form close friendships. I'm blessed to have many friends who "are there for me as I am for them" if a problem should arise. Kim is fortunate to be a great communicator, beautiful and has a great smile. She's solid in her character. Again, fantastic show and may I suggest that you continue to have Kim on periodically to share her opinions, experiences and suggestions on being single in the Villages. God bless you both for your efforts in making the Villages such a special place to live.
When this video started, I thought, oh wow! Never looked at this side of retirement, especiallly in the Villages. Real eye opener. It was refreshing to get another perspective about the Villages. God bless this woman for sharing and making known the needs of the singles.
Jerry and Linda, thank you for airing this show. I'm single and I AM moving to The Villages, and the scenario she gave about being alone in a crowd of people is so true. Still can't wait to see you when I get there. 😍
I felt bad hearing about here challenges with the residents. I think she is a very brave woman to share her story. I wish her much happiness and to stay as healthy as possible. ❤️
Was a solo traveler on the cruise with Jerry and Linda a few weeks ago. Jerry and Linda, and all the other guests worked very hard to make me feel welcome and included. So thankful for their kindness!!! Kay
I wish I had found out about the cruise so I could be with other people closer to my age. Do you think that they will do it again. I used to cruise once a year to different places. Maybe they only invite residents of the Villages.
The most alone I have felt here in The Villages was when I was going under anesthesia at the Doctors office and needed someone to drive me home! “I am really alone! 😮” Called my church though and a lovely fellow member was able to help. But, it was a real eye opener.
@@jthooper1963 hello again. Start looking at your food and the chemicals in them. Food is so different now. Apertame makes me ill; as well as any other of the sugar substitutes. I thought I was so sick for three days: it was the low sugar yogurt (chemical crap!) with sucrose or whatever. Read labels. Feel better.
Kim is lovely. I'm glad to hear she keeps active. I've been single for many years and for the most part enjoy my alone time. That being said it is hard when there's a couples event and I'm by myself. It's also hard when I'm not feeling well and I still have to take care of things by myself. I understand where she's at and what she's saying. Thank you Jerry and Linda for having her as a guest and giving Kim the opportunity to share her views about being single in the Villages. I will say to her to remember it's better to be single and take care of things the way you want them to run rather than to be in a bad marriage or unfavorable relationship. Focus on your blessings and stay awesome.
I am in the exact same situation as this lovely lady! I turned 61 in February and I can really relate to her situation and am really struggling at the moment. My husband passed away 9 years ago and I’m very independent but everyone is attached and I am the third wheel. I walk most days and brunch with gal pals regularly but retirement isn’t what I imagined it would be.
Youre not in the same situation. You are a widow..and its only been 9 years for you. She's been single from divorce for the last 18 years.....Her situation is self imposed. Yours is not.
She was very brutally honest and I like that. Not everything can be roses for everyone. She tried she really did, unlike the couple you have talked about before that didn't even try and moved. I'm so glad you did this show. Thank her for all of us.
Excellent interview ! I’m retired, 60 yr old single male. Will be renting come Sept-Dec, to get a much ‘better feel’ for The Villages. Previously, I have experienced two Lifestyle visits. I’m sold on the active lifestyle the Villages does offer. Kim, has addressed / confirmed, the many concerns, I find myself, still thinking about prior to my arrival. Kim, Thank you for sharing and wishing you all the best !
Jerry, renting for several months is a good idea, and you should get a really good feeling for TV. I'm a single guy, early 60s, and have been here a little over a year. i absolutely love it here - and have found it very easy to meet friends, even as a single person. I hope you get out an expose yourself to as a many clubs, activities, social events as possible during your stay.
@@Jerry-oj6zmMichael could be the guest Jerry & Linda interviewed twice when he first bought a patio villa in the Village of Richmond that was surrounded by rentals. Then he was interviewed several months later after decorating his home & meeting more friends and getting involved in several activities.
She’s very correct. This is a couples world. It’s good to remember, sadly we all end up alone. Be kind to and don’t ignore your single friends. She’s hit the nail on the head throughout. I found women were very threatened by me as a single young or middle aged woman. I’m very independent and have come to accept my aloneness, not loneliness, and enjoy my own company. I travel alone. If I was afraid to do that, I’d miss so many things. I meet people. I have a wit about me and talk with strangers. You say don’t think about it when they exclude singles. I say it’s thoughtless. I can tell you from experience, when singles are excluded most often it’s intentional, not an oversight.
What a fantastic show! I do appreciate her honesty and realistic views about being truly single. I am also truly single (not dating) and live in Ohio. No matter where we are, yes, it's really not easy facing the fact that you're going to be doing a lot of things alone. You get used to it, and I can call friends to join me for things, but I'm trying to embrace going out to eat alone, traveling alone, even camping alone... and you have to be tough, like she said. I do think it gets easier as we get older to do things alone, but in the back of your mind is, if something happens, what do I do? I just really appreciated her views, her attitude and her honesty!!
Jerry and Linda, thank you for approaching this subject. Like Kim I have been single for many years and am contemplating a move to the Villiages. This probably won't be one of your most watched videos, but certainly targeted a population of retirees or soon to be retirees that are seldom the focus. Thank you Kim for sharing what others of us are thinking. C.
I think it will be very helpful if Linda & Jerry do an updated "Being Single in The Villages". I found the one from 4 years ago to be very helpful prior to moving to The Villages this past September. It prompted me to research singles' clubs and consider all of the different activities and events while waiting to close on my house and move here. Their video and the research into singles' clubs gave me a head start once moved in. I respect and understand the concerns expressed in the video, yet my experience as a single person here has only been positive. I am a 63 years young woman, have been single for several years, retired for several years, have two grown sons living a distance away. In fact, I also lived in this area, moved back to be closer to family in PA, then came back in September 2023. Yet, I do not agree with not recommending moving here for single women under the age of 65. I highly recommend moving here and celebrating life as a single person. Whether you enjoy staying home or going out every night, there are others here who are happy to get together and enjoy that time with you. I hope your viewers keep an open mind and consider that there are single women here under the age of 65 who are very happy to be here.
Glad to hear you are happy here - I am a single guy under 65, and have never been happier or more content in my life as I am now here in The Villages - I have more friends than I can spend time with in any given week. There is so much positivity and energy with most people I meet. Retirement in The Villages is the best!
What a fantastic show!! Your guest brought up a lot of issues I never even thought about. She was so articulate. So sincere. It was great to hear her perspective. I know I plan to make some adjustments to how I include singles even more than I thought I was already doing.
Kim, keep at it and stay busy. I will be 69 in April, I was married for 23 years and divorced since 2005. I was a little hesitant to do things on my own, but that was changed by and older lady. I had went to The USA Airforce Museum and was on a bus to see the Memphis Bell during its restoration. We started talking since we were both there alone. She told me if she waited for someone to do things with all the time, she probably would never go anywhere. And I told her thats the way I felt. You have to drive your own bus. You go girl.
I enjoyed this show very much. Thank you for such an honest perspective of the challenges singles face. You both have big hearts and care for others. Your guest was very articulate! Great interview!
Kim made fantastic points and I agree about a lot of it. My closest friends are mostly married and don't make things awkward, but I feel like a lot of couple feel awkward and don't know what to do with us. They think about balance and couples like themselves and don't want a "spare" person at their dinner party. I'm absolutely fine being single, but I swear some people seem to feel embarrassed on my behalf. Why? I'm not! One of my single friends and I always look out for one another because we know it's hard when you have things that can't be done by single people. As a single person, I can't even get a colonoscopy without having someone I know come and pick me up afterwards because of the anesthesia. I can't stay there and I can't get a cab/Uber home. Being single never feels like a hardship for me until I realize I can't even get a necessary medical test on my own. She and I buddy up and offer things like rides to the doctor. I came over and helped her take care of her pets when she had foot surgery and was bedridden for a week. We need friendships like that, but it's certainly going to be harder to find those kinds of friends when "Singles" groups allow unmarried couples who don't have to think about things like that.
She mentioned a fair amount of singles she knows that feel the same way. Perhaps that same group could be a support to each other. I've been in the Villages 6 months as a single and have had a different experience. I have a close support group of 4-8 people and we help each other out.
My Grandma, a widow, lived in a 55+ in Ft Myers in the 80s and 90s. Despite all of the couples, she managed to find a wonderful group of friends also mostly widowed, who had a lot in common with her. They formed their own EGA group and met once a week for lunch and stitching. My grandma was never lonely, she enjoyed her solitude and her routine. She traveled a lot too. Went on cruises, even by herself. I hope to be as independent as she if something should happen to my husband.
She is right on the money. What she said is so true. Married women see you as a threat. Which is so funny because you probably wouldn’t want their man under any circumstance. It is better to be on your own than to be with someone and be alone.
Lost my wife 13 years it’s still hard on me. The VA is trying very hard working on my social life. I joined the singles club haven’t used it yet, working on it.
This is really a great video.. I’ve been single for over 20 yrs.. I agree it is hard..I haven’t been on vacation for many yrs, three years ago I decided if I wanted to Go on vacation I had to Do this by myself.. sooo three years ago I started coming down to the villages.. I truly enjoy it and have been embraced by so many people, but it is hard if you want to go Out at night.. I do go to the squares but it is usually when someone comes down to visit me.. this year I will leave my comfort zone and go to the square at night alone.. if this lady wants to meet up when I’m down there I will be there starting April 1st..
Linda & Jerry, this was one of your best interviews yet. Kim, your candor, perspective & insights on being single in The Villages were much appreciated. I hope you get on the dragonboat team & are able to resume golfing in the future.
Thank you for having a single lady. Seriously considering buying in the villages. Couples are great, but being alone is totally different. Thank you! You both are the best!
Hello there Kim! We are here near Fenney and so appreciate your feelings. Please, Jerry and Linda, give her our contact information. Kim, we are having a golf cart parade on March 24th in the Fenney, McClure, DeSoto area. Please contact us for information. Don't quit. There are people out there that want to connect. You're vibrant, and your energy will attract more energy!🤗
I am 63 and was considering moving to The Villages. Kim's viewpoint confirmed all my concerns and I now realize moving there is not for me. It's amazing how much I related to everything Kim discussed. Thank you - Great video. This was life changing. Thank you Kim!!
Please don’t buy into what Kim is saying. She has brought 95% of here difficulties upon herself. I’ve known her since she moved here. Drama, drama ,drama. Many, many. Young er singles are quite happy here. If you’re a glass half full person, you’ll be fine.
I am 58, single and Love it (live on the southern end) sadly the previous reply is not that far off. I think it is an amazing place for Singles- they also have a born in the 1960's group for Villagers. So sadly I do not think her feeling is the majority But that is her feelings and hopefully things might change. In life we all want happiness and good health!! So those are my wishes...
@@Paige-dm4wn Thank you for your post. When I was listening to Kim on the video I said to my husband I don't think I'd want to be her friend because she's so negative. Her negative energy was bringing me down. I wanted to read the comments to see what others thought and most of them are so positive. I thought to myself, well I guess it's me until I read your comment and a few others. I am a glass half full person and I'm mostly a positive kind of person. As a gentleman wrote in his comment, she needs to look in the mirror and take responsibility and not blame others. She's doing something wrong. I wish her the best on her journey.
I dunno... She wasn't happy "back home" and moved to the Villages. Didn't like it.... moved back. Wasn't happy back there... moved back here. She's not totally wrong but she seems to have a negative attitude and an "it's all their fault" attitude.
I live in a Active Adult Community in California. I am 60 and probably the 3rd or 4th youngest person in the community of 1700 residents. I am a widower and I am not invited to socialize with people that are coupled up. All of the single women are at least 75, and only socialize with the other single women. They have no intention of going on a date with any man. They have already decided that they have alreeady had "The love of their life". They are not interested in anyone else. I work from home most days. Being alone 4 or 5 days a week, takes a toll, and makes depression worse. I am seriously considering moving to the Villages once I retire in 2030, but I expect that the same problems are going to exist in all of the Active Adult Communities around the country. I really enjoyed Kim's willingness to mention all of the scenarios. I can totally relate to so many things that she mentioned. Jerry and Linda I really enjoyed ths personal interview. I hope that you have more of these types of videos with both singles and couples. I am interested in seeing the different perspectives, and what things they wouold mention when you asked them about what they consider a Pro and a Con about the Villages and their social experiences. Thank you so much Jerry and Linda.
Please consider moving sooner than later. Florida and The Villages are great in comparison to California. Keep watching Jerry and Linda, they are wonderful.
I agree completely about not having a “back-up” if I get sick. This is why I stay in my community and have lived in MI my entire life. I don’t like the winters, but sacrifice that by being near family and friends. I remain active by going to silver sneakers three mornings per week, play mahjong, attend Bible studies and go to lunch/dinner, plays and movies with friends.
I'm a single woman living in the Portland OR area. This gal is totally on point. The worst part is my own family members. They will go out to dinner, wine tasting, etc.. As couples. And I rarely see my siblings, because they have their own children and grandchildren. I am considered an "extended" family member. Invited for get togethers on holidays. It is what it is. 🙃
A very interesting show. We got to see her experience as a resident that we haven't see yet. I'm sure she is well on her way to having many friends to share things with. Thank you for doing this show and I thank her for putting herself out there and sharing.
Thank you for sharing these struggles. I really haven't thought about that perspective so deeply before. Even though I don't live in TV, I could be more inclusive and understanding of the single ladies in my circle. Thank you for opening my eyes!
Thanks for the video! Your guest was both articulate and insightful. I'm a single senior, and I love it. But I'm more of a loner, so it works well for me. I hope she tries out for the dragon boat teams because that will give her another way to feel included.
Yep, so use to it... Doesn't bother me, in the least... Rather hang out, and spend my time and money on a single beautiful young blonde lady... Something, I can get into... Subbed, and always a thumbs up : )
I really enjoyed Kim’s candor and at times wondered about some of the things she mentioned. It’s good to have a full picture and different perspectives of people who have experienced TV. No place is perfect, so to hear the unmasked truth from this articulate woman of her take on TV is really very much appreciated. Thank you for another great show. Really enjoyed this one and food for thought.
As a single villager, it was a little intimidating at first, but through exposure and recognition on this channel (thanks Jerry and Linda!), and joining lots and lots of clubs and activities, and "putting myself out there" in social situations, the friendships naturally formed. I have a pretty healthy mix of single and couple friends, and luckily, have been accepted in most social circles. Kim, keep putting yourself out there, so many great people here in The Villages - This is a great place to retire (at least for me), as a single person.
It is good to hear someone's perspective, whether single or in a couple. EVERYONE has difficulties and positive attributes to their way of life. When listening to someone else's perspective, it opens the mind beyond one's own thinking, or at least it should. I am coming down with my 90 year old mother who has lived with this single lady (always single) for the last 11 years. I know one day she will be gone and I will be on my own again. I am strong of character, but, alone is alone. I will do my best to fit in and to have a wonderful life as it is in The Villages!!!!
I have recently joined the Fenney Fun Singles group and the two events that I have experienced the people in the group were very accepting and everyone I met was an actual single.
This episode is one of the best I’ve watched, so substantial, real and I admire her candidness talking about her experiences as a single person and I agree with Jerry this wonderful woman is going to have to hide once in awhile to get away from all the friends and invitations that’s going to come her way after this episode. lol
Oh how I can relate. I appreciate this episode. Topics were brought up that I had not even given thought to. I will be 62 in August and single. However, I am not as active as most are that live in The Villages. Thank you for this content.
I'm so glad to see this interview. It covers the fact of there are some women in a couple relationship that feel threatened by a single woman. I am one of a group of single women that are happy to be truely single. We have been through relationships (married and living together). We have been there, done that and have NO desire to do that again! AND are happy to make our own decisions with no second person putting restrictions or limitations on our lives. I do NOT hate men. I have a happier life living by myself. I enjoy my friends male and female. Thank you for letting me post this.
Thank you, Kim, for a very honest perspective on being single in the Villages! I hope, as time goes by, that the social scene will be more welcoming and inclusive of singles! It is a very important reminder to all of us to be more inclusive of singles!!
The things she is describing occurs EVERYWHERE. It's not the Villages....her best chance of making friends is at the Villages. She tried going back home and didn't like that either. Not really understanding why she came back to TV if she didn't like it the first time. SMH Very negative interview (not yalls fault tho) You need to do a little more searching for someone that's happy, single and lives the tv!!! I've met many!
God Bless you, Kim! Fellow PA gal, here. We're in Southern York County & looking forward to our move to TV in 2 years. We started visiting there in 2019, bought a home in 2021 (rented until our move) & continue to visit each November. I'm so ready & can't wait to get there but have to admit it's scary. I've never lived anywhere but where I am. Plan is for me to move down the year b4 hubby to get the house ready & find employment. He can retire b4 me. I won't fit in with the singles or the couples. Thanks so much for sharing!!
What a great video and I am single with no back up too and am working until September this year, I agree it's hard to be alone and who do you call if you need anything, I am also learning to do things by myself and hopefully things will be better when I retire, time will tell
I know we have many single friends that we hang out with as well as other couples. In our neighborhood we include everyone and no one feels alone especially the holidays. We love our experiences with your cruises and found lots of fun with them. We choose to meet everyone and never feel pettiness or being rejected by others. Good show and great insight! Good to know Kim is reaching out & continuing to see others in groups.
Thank you for this episode. When I lived in The Villages, I was married. I'm returning divorced and I think that I will be handicapped, socially. We were received as a couple, mainly, because people were enchanted with my foreign wife. I know it's going to be a little bit tougher, being solo, now. But your guest is right. At least there are plenty of things to do inside the Bubble for OLDER singles than "out here".
I can’t see making single couples quit or not be allowed in a singles club… suppose they met in that club … they still want to be involved .. I don’t get it. Seems a bit demanding
I’m so glad I watched this one episode. I am single and I keep wondering about the Villages, if I should take the plunge and move. Very interesting! I always love watching.
Thank you for this episode. I enjoy all your episodes, but like your budget episodes, this one gave me decision making information. I felt like it got to the crux of some of my wonderings about being single in the Villages. It didn’t turn me off by any means, it just felt very real and transparent about something I have given much thought to. Thank you SO much!!!
Thank you for this episode. It was very powerful and I've been thinking about it since I watched it on Thursday. I am a single woman - widowed 4-1/2 years ago shortly after moving to TV. I didn't know anybody here and had to deal with my husband's death and its aftermath by myself since I have no family and his family, all but one brother, abandoned me. But I stayed in TV because I knew I would be worse off anywhere else. At least in TV, I was/am able to get out and meet people and take part in a variety of activities. I still haven't found "my tribe" but I keep looking. I do miss having someone to go to meals with or do things with, but I've been doing things solo and so far that has worked for me. I have become rigidly independent so I don't have to rely on anyone else to take care of me, and I'm luckily in great health so haven't run into any medical problems that I would need assistance. I only hope this all continues on a forward path.
My daughters and I moved to FL 14 yrs ago. They are into Ballroom and Square Dancing and Salsa. Back in our home state of Ky...we would go to a monthly dance and even though there were couples there...a wife would allow her husband to dance with my daughters....and it was most generous. Here in Florida...the wives are NOT AS GENEROUS. They hang onto their MAN..Like the country music song goes...and any female...of any age is considered a threat!!] IT is almost like being back in high school. We..my daughters and I open our home and our hearts..to ALL people...AS we build community here. Best wishes...and PEACE ON THE JOURNEY!!
Interesting viewpoint on life in TV as a Single by Kim. My advice for her would be to keep on forging life on her terms. Only She knows what brings her joy, the ultimate goal for all. Her observations about other Singles there and finding like minded friends may help. Learning to enjoy your own company is a gift you give yourself. Even married people with different interests often like to do things separately. I wish her well. We're all trying to make our days meaningful.
Wow, Jerry & Linda, what a terrific guest! She was so honest, but feel sorry she hasn’t been accepted. Keeping busy, volunteering or a part time job might help. Also getting a pet might help a lot! Sorry she is having trouble in TV where everyone seems so friendly & welcoming. Really hope your show helps her find a great companion. 😢
Wow! This is exactly how I feel. It's hard for folks not in this situation to understand and I know it sounds like we just need to get out there and meet people and stop hiding in our home. But it's not that easy when you are by yourself. Yes, I feel alone even though I live here with all of these great people in The Villages. I am not a loner or a wallflower and can strike up a conversation with anyone. But it's hard not having a significant other and/or a support system to go and do something with - knowing that you have to go out there by yourself again and again. It's one thing to chit chat and another to form a support system where you can go out and do things on a regular basis. I retired from Ohio in 2021 and moved to Ft. Myers at age 61. It was supposed to be with a relative, something we'd planned for years, but they got sick and passed away and without a plan B, I came on down to Florida alone. After Hurricane Ian and an F3 tornado, I decided to move here because I had been watching your videos since before I retired. Plus, I was tired of living in an apt down there where everyone got up and went to work and I sat at home. Thought coming here, I would have people to do things with and many activities. Think I forgot that when you never marry, don't have a lot of relatives, and work for 46yrs, your co-workers become your family and your support system. Retiring and moving away means you lose your support system - and, if you were a workaholic, you have to figure out how to fill your days. I thought that would be easy, couldn't wait to retire. Then, twice in the last year, I've had some rare illness and yes, it's very scary living alone with no support system/family, trying to figure out how to get to the doctor and get meds, and groceries, etc. I love to meet a great guy, but more importantly, I'd like to have a support system of friends that I can do things with on a regular basis. As soon as I feel better, I'm going to try again to get involved with some groups, there is a neighborhood group here where I'm renting my home (long term) down south of 44, that would be a start, they are very nice and welcoming. I've lived in 5 different states in the past and have never had any problems making friends, but then I met people through work. Thank you, Jerry and Linda, for having this guest on - I know there are many of us who are single and don't see any family or friends (mine are still working up north lol), on a regular basis, so we have to start over - this time without work as the glue.
If I was a licensed (whatever) and knew that I could not practice in TV or Florida did not check to find out if I could practice before moving that is a major problem. Change careers good but tough at 60ish as she mentioned. Something and I can't put my finger on it is just not sitting right. Trust your gut always. Perhaps not a popular response, but it is how I feel after watching this.
I kinda giggle watching this. We are new only 6 months. We are in the north (Nancy Lopez) and we are living on a street that is 80% single, divorced, widowed. And on our street the ladies have a meet up for lunch once a month. There has been two driveway parties and I feel no one is singled out. I really can’t tell who is married or coupled together. Everyone is mingling. I only know if they tell me . BTW Jerry and Linda how do you know this nice lady on your show today. BTW if the nice lady is reading this my husband and I lived in the Deep Creek lake area ( Western Maryland) and just sold our home there. in 2021. We do own home in Lewes Delaware that we are putting on the market to live full time in The Villages. My husband still works remotely.
I received a big dose of reality by watching this video today. Thank you Kim for your honesty. I have been dreaming about and had such high hopes of coming to the Villages after my retirement in the next few years. The place appears so friendly and beautiful. The idea of enjoying some of the constant happenings was so intriguing. I wanted the opportunity to attend some of the daily entertainment and fun social events. The potential of a less stressful lifestyle is important to me and this place seemed right for me to experience just that. More importantly, I did not want my life to end with the regret of not doing something I have been longing to do for years. I understand that everyday there would not be a bed of roses but anticipated more good days than bad in Florida's Friendliest Hometown and golf cart community. I was especially excited about leaving the cold behind here in the North. I am married but there is no interest from any of my family members to make such a move and my spouse plans to work until he literally drops. That is certainly not my plan. I don't want to sit at home like many retirees here do for 9 months waiting for it to get warm enough to possibly get out and find things to do. While I had envisioned on making some lengthy visits back here to be with family during the warmer months, I wanted to spend most of the year down south. I was hoping it would be easy to get a part time job in the Villages to supplement my meager retirement. Kim enlightened me to the realization that I might be rejected due to my age. I was also looking forward to trying to establish some new friendships while remaining somewhat active. It never entered my mind that it would be so difficult to do so there until I watched this video. Now I am sad and certainly disheartened that my future plan may not become my reality. Love your show and thank you for sharing all sides of life in the Villages.
Don't let the negativity from this woman change your mind about moving to The Villiages. I'm going to cut and paste a response from a Villager about Kim and this video. Here it is: @Paige-dm4wn 1 day ago Please don’t buy into what Kim is saying. She has brought 95% of her difficulties upon herself. I’ve known her since she moved here. Drama, drama ,drama. Many, many. Younger singles are quite happy here. If you’re a glass half full person, you’ll be fine.
What a great interview. I appreciated Kim's honesty. She is a lovely, active well spoken lady. That can be intimidating to insecure women. Great video!
Debbie downer. I see why she has problems. I am single in The Villages. I love The Villages. All my neighbors are wonderful. We help each other and we always have someone to talk with.
This was helpful. Kim would do well to start a TH-cam show focused on this. Not just about older singles in the villages, but in general. There are a lot of older singles who could relate. Let us know if she starts one. With your help, she has a good start!
I have lived in the Villages before, and I can relate to her issue on singles. I am divorced and I felt the same way. Most of the residents are married and I felt like an outsider, but I feel that way now, so it is the same everywhere, therefore I believe that it is not a Villages problem, it is a society problem. It's tough to overcome. I don't have the answer.
This is hard to hear because I am 65 year old considering a move to the villages. I’m aware that being single is tuff but I’m hoping that I can find different club interests that I can join and will feel included. Good luck to her.
Nice woman. Very articulate. I admire that she can explain the pain of feeling alone sometimes, but she doesn't whine or beat her breast. I find her inspiring. What a nice guest interview.
This is a really powerful episode. It's really a whole new type of discussion that I haven't seen before on this channel, and the difficult emotions and circumstances she's talking about must resonate with a lot of single people.
We are all one step away from being in her shoes… need to think about this with the singles. Very eye opening show. Nice lady.
I am 69 and single and have no backup if I get sick. It is scary. I am glad she mentioned that.
The Singles in The Villages club has a compassionate care volunteer group. Connecting with others helps when it comes to situations like getting sick. Being proactive and finding out what resources are available ahead of time helps singles to deal with the fear of "if the worse were to happen". I was faced with hard decisions in January upon learning I had to go to NYC for a major, dangerous surgery. Don't wait until you have to reach out--find out what resources are available so you are ready if the time ever comes.
Jerry and Linda..."You hit a HOME RUN with this interview with Kim. Fascinating comments as many singles can relate to Kim's experiences. I retired and came here (by accident...long story) as a single 20 yrs ago and LOVE it here. I have many single and couple friends and have embraced the Village's lifestyle. I've extended myself over the years in joining groups and making the effort to socialize and form close friendships. I'm blessed to have many friends who "are there for me as I am for them" if a problem should arise. Kim is fortunate to be a great communicator, beautiful and has a great smile. She's solid in her character. Again, fantastic show and may I suggest that you continue to have Kim on periodically to share her opinions, experiences and suggestions on being single in the Villages. God bless you both for your efforts in making the Villages such a special place to live.
When this video started, I thought, oh wow! Never looked at this side of retirement, especiallly in the Villages. Real eye opener. It was refreshing to get another perspective about the Villages. God bless this woman for sharing and making known the needs of the singles.
It can be difficult as a single
Jerry and Linda, thank you for airing this show. I'm single and I AM moving to The Villages, and the scenario she gave about being alone in a crowd of people is so true. Still can't wait to see you when I get there. 😍
I felt bad hearing about here challenges with the residents. I think she is a very brave woman to share her story. I wish her much happiness and to stay as healthy as possible. ❤️
Was a solo traveler on the cruise with Jerry and Linda a few weeks ago. Jerry and Linda, and all the other guests worked very hard to make me feel welcome and included. So thankful for their kindness!!! Kay
You are so nice!❤❤❤
I wish I had found out about the cruise so I could be with other people closer to my age.
Do you think that they will do it again.
I used to cruise once a year to different places.
Maybe they only invite residents of the Villages.
@@brentseizer1019I think Jerry & Linda are going on a cruise to Alaska in July. Don't know if there is still space available.
The most alone I have felt here in The Villages was when I was going under anesthesia at the Doctors office and needed someone to drive me home! “I am really alone! 😮” Called my church though and a lovely fellow member was able to help. But, it was a real eye opener.
Hope you're doing better.❤
@@rea8755Oh yeah, thank you. Just a minor scoping of my throat because of my acid reflux. 🙂
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Good to hear. Your Blessings are many with your Church family.
@@jthooper1963 hello again. Start looking at your food and the chemicals in them. Food is so different now. Apertame makes me ill; as well as any other of the sugar substitutes. I thought I was so sick for three days: it was the low sugar yogurt (chemical crap!) with sucrose or whatever. Read labels.
Feel better.
Rusty Nelson In the Villages 🎉
This is one of my favorite interviews that you have done. Kim was great at expressing the single life in TV. I hope things turn around for her soon.
Kim is lovely. I'm glad to hear she keeps active. I've been single for many years and for the most part enjoy my alone time. That being said it is hard when there's a couples event and I'm by myself. It's also hard when I'm not feeling well and I still have to take care of things by myself. I understand where she's at and what she's saying. Thank you Jerry and Linda for having her as a guest and giving Kim the opportunity to share her views about being single in the Villages. I will say to her to remember it's better to be single and take care of things the way you want them to run rather than to be in a bad marriage or unfavorable relationship. Focus on your blessings and stay awesome.
Great video, my husband recently passed away, we had planned moving to TV, I am going to brave it alone at age 60…stay tuned !!
You are very brave. Hope you love it like we do. See you when you get here!
I am in the exact same situation as this lovely lady! I turned 61 in February and I can really relate to her situation and am really struggling at the moment. My husband passed away 9 years ago and I’m very independent but everyone is attached and I am the third wheel. I walk most days and brunch with gal pals regularly but retirement isn’t what I imagined it would be.
I will be 59 and fortunate enough to be retired. Single since 2015. Same situation. It gets very lonely.
Youre not in the same situation. You are a widow..and its only been 9 years for you. She's been single from divorce for the last 18 years.....Her situation is self imposed. Yours is not.
@@thetruthhurts7500are you okay?
@@faepage5157 What is that suppose to mean? Because I'm telling the truth and not just jumping on the bandwagon of self pity?
She was very brutally honest and I like that. Not everything can be roses for everyone. She tried she really did, unlike the couple you have talked about before that didn't even try and moved. I'm so glad you did this show. Thank her for all of us.
Excellent interview !
I’m retired, 60 yr old single male. Will be renting come Sept-Dec, to get a much ‘better feel’ for The Villages. Previously, I have experienced two Lifestyle visits. I’m sold on the active lifestyle the Villages does offer.
Kim, has addressed / confirmed, the many concerns, I find myself, still thinking about prior to my arrival.
Kim, Thank you for sharing and wishing you all the best !
Jerry, renting for several months is a good idea, and you should get a really good feeling for TV. I'm a single guy, early 60s, and have been here a little over a year. i absolutely love it here - and have found it very easy to meet friends, even as a single person. I hope you get out an expose yourself to as a many clubs, activities, social events as possible during your stay.
@@MichaelofTheVillages Thank you for sharing Michael …Those are my intentions !
@@MichaelofTheVillages -just curious Michael, are you currently still renting or did you decide to purchase after one year ? Wishing you the best !
@@Jerry-oj6zmMichael could be the guest Jerry & Linda interviewed twice when he first bought a patio villa in the Village of Richmond that was surrounded by rentals. Then he was interviewed several months later after decorating his home & meeting more friends and getting involved in several activities.
I have a feeling this lady is gonna find lots of friends in TV Thanks to Linda & Jerry
take it from me, yes she will!
Volunteering has helped me feel supported and part of a tribe while doing something for others. 🥰
Hi Ruth....IKR..good for you
She’s very correct. This is a couples world. It’s good to remember, sadly we all end up alone. Be kind to and don’t ignore your single friends. She’s hit the nail on the head throughout. I found women were very threatened by me as a single young or middle aged woman. I’m very independent and have come to accept my aloneness, not loneliness, and enjoy my own company. I travel alone. If I was afraid to do that, I’d miss so many things. I meet people. I have a wit about me and talk with strangers. You say don’t think about it when they exclude singles. I say it’s thoughtless. I can tell you from experience, when singles are excluded most often it’s intentional, not an oversight.
She chose to be alone for the last 18 years. She is the problem.
What a beautiful, sincere woman - may she find a companion - evenly yoked - thanks Jerry and Linda - best show
A very lovely lady, and I admire her for giving TV another try. I related to a lot of what she said,. Thank you for this very insightful show!
She hit the nail on the head. Everything she said is very true
What a fantastic show! I do appreciate her honesty and realistic views about being truly single. I am also truly single (not dating) and live in Ohio. No matter where we are, yes, it's really not easy facing the fact that you're going to be doing a lot of things alone. You get used to it, and I can call friends to join me for things, but I'm trying to embrace going out to eat alone, traveling alone, even camping alone... and you have to be tough, like she said. I do think it gets easier as we get older to do things alone, but in the back of your mind is, if something happens, what do I do? I just really appreciated her views, her attitude and her honesty!!
She was excellent.
Jerry and Linda, thank you for approaching this subject. Like Kim I have been single for many years and am contemplating a move to the Villiages. This probably won't be one of your most watched videos, but certainly targeted a population of retirees or soon to be retirees that are seldom the focus. Thank you Kim for sharing what others of us are thinking. C.
This is one of my favorite videos. It is enlightening, informative, and brings awareness to the perspective of single adults. Thank you for sharing.
I think it will be very helpful if Linda & Jerry do an updated "Being Single in The Villages". I found the one from 4 years ago to be very helpful prior to moving to The Villages this past September. It prompted me to research singles' clubs and consider all of the different activities and events while waiting to close on my house and move here. Their video and the research into singles' clubs gave me a head start once moved in. I respect and understand the concerns expressed in the video, yet my experience as a single person here has only been positive. I am a 63 years young woman, have been single for several years, retired for several years, have two grown sons living a distance away. In fact, I also lived in this area, moved back to be closer to family in PA, then came back in September 2023.
Yet, I do not agree with not recommending moving here for single women under the age of 65. I highly recommend moving here and celebrating life as a single person. Whether you enjoy staying home or going out every night, there are others here who are happy to get together and enjoy that time with you.
I hope your viewers keep an open mind and consider that there are single women here under the age of 65 who are very happy to be here.
Glad to hear you are happy here - I am a single guy under 65, and have never been happier or more content in my life as I am now here in The Villages - I have more friends than I can spend time with in any given week. There is so much positivity and energy with most people I meet. Retirement in The Villages is the best!
What a fantastic show!! Your guest brought up a lot of issues I never even thought about. She was so articulate. So sincere. It was great to hear her perspective. I know I plan to make some adjustments to how I include singles even more than I thought I was already doing.
Kim, keep at it and stay busy. I will be 69 in April, I was married for 23 years and divorced since 2005. I was a little hesitant to do things on my own, but that was changed by and older lady. I had went to The USA Airforce Museum and was on a bus to see the Memphis Bell during its restoration. We started talking since we were both there alone. She told me if she waited for someone to do things with all the time, she probably would never go anywhere. And I told her thats the way I felt. You have to drive your own bus. You go girl.
I can relate to this women as so many of us singles here do
You have had some good and great videos, this one is the best interview & video you’ve posted. Thanks for showing the real villages without the fluff.
Glad you enjoyed it!
@@JERRYANDLINDAyou hosts did a good job of facilitating frank talk.
I'm hesitant now: F age. 65.
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I enjoyed this show very much. Thank you for such an honest perspective of the challenges singles face. You both have big hearts and care for others. Your guest was very articulate! Great interview!
Thank you so much!
Great video! If I lived in TV, I would be her friend!
Thanks for being so honest!
Kim made fantastic points and I agree about a lot of it. My closest friends are mostly married and don't make things awkward, but I feel like a lot of couple feel awkward and don't know what to do with us. They think about balance and couples like themselves and don't want a "spare" person at their dinner party. I'm absolutely fine being single, but I swear some people seem to feel embarrassed on my behalf. Why? I'm not!
One of my single friends and I always look out for one another because we know it's hard when you have things that can't be done by single people. As a single person, I can't even get a colonoscopy without having someone I know come and pick me up afterwards because of the anesthesia. I can't stay there and I can't get a cab/Uber home. Being single never feels like a hardship for me until I realize I can't even get a necessary medical test on my own. She and I buddy up and offer things like rides to the doctor. I came over and helped her take care of her pets when she had foot surgery and was bedridden for a week. We need friendships like that, but it's certainly going to be harder to find those kinds of friends when "Singles" groups allow unmarried couples who don't have to think about things like that.
She mentioned a fair amount of singles she knows that feel the same way. Perhaps that same group could be a support to each other. I've been in the Villages 6 months as a single and have had a different experience. I have a close support group of 4-8 people and we help each other out.
Bravo to you. You've done the best thing by seeking out other singles.
Thank you! I do believe we can create our own secondary “families”, But it does take consistent effort, and patience.
My Grandma, a widow, lived in a 55+ in Ft Myers in the 80s and 90s. Despite all of the couples, she managed to find a wonderful group of friends also mostly widowed, who had a lot in common with her. They formed their own EGA group and met once a week for lunch and stitching. My grandma was never lonely, she enjoyed her solitude and her routine. She traveled a lot too. Went on cruises, even by herself. I hope to be as independent as she if something should happen to my husband.
She is right on the money. What she said is so true. Married women see you as a threat. Which is so funny because you probably wouldn’t want their man under any circumstance. It is better to be on your own than to be with someone and be alone.
Yes, if you have your own money who needs an old fart lol!
Lost my wife 13 years it’s still hard on me. The VA is trying very hard working on my social life. I joined the singles club haven’t used it yet, working on it.
This is really a great video.. I’ve been single for over 20 yrs.. I agree it is hard..I haven’t been on vacation for many yrs, three years ago I decided if I wanted to
Go on vacation I had to
Do this by myself.. sooo three years ago I started coming down to the villages.. I truly enjoy it and have been embraced by so many people, but it is hard if you want to go
Out at night.. I do go to the squares but it is usually when someone comes down to visit me.. this year I will leave my comfort zone and go to the square at night alone.. if this lady wants to meet up when I’m down there I will be there starting April 1st..
Linda & Jerry, this was one of your best interviews yet. Kim, your candor, perspective & insights on being single in The Villages were much appreciated. I hope you get on the dragonboat team & are able to resume golfing in the future.
Thank you for having a single lady. Seriously considering buying in the villages. Couples are great, but being alone is totally different. Thank you! You both are the best!
Hello there Kim! We are here near Fenney and so appreciate your feelings. Please, Jerry and Linda, give her our contact information. Kim, we are having a golf cart parade on March 24th in the Fenney, McClure, DeSoto area. Please contact us for information. Don't quit. There are people out there that want to connect. You're vibrant, and your energy will attract more energy!🤗
I am 63 and was considering moving to The Villages. Kim's viewpoint confirmed all my concerns and I now realize moving there is not for me. It's amazing how much I related to everything Kim discussed. Thank you - Great video. This was life changing. Thank you Kim!!
Please don’t buy into what Kim is saying. She has brought 95% of here difficulties upon herself. I’ve known her since she moved here. Drama, drama ,drama. Many, many. Young er singles are quite happy here. If you’re a glass half full person, you’ll be fine.
I am 58, single and Love it (live on the southern end) sadly the previous reply is not that far off. I think it is an amazing place for Singles- they also have a born in the 1960's group for Villagers. So sadly I do not think her feeling is the majority But that is her feelings and hopefully things might change. In life we all want happiness and good health!! So those are my wishes...
@@Paige-dm4wn Thank you for your post. When I was listening to Kim on the video I said to my husband I don't think I'd want to be her friend because she's so negative. Her negative energy was bringing me down. I wanted to read the comments to see what others thought and most of them are so positive. I thought to myself, well I guess it's me until I read your comment and a few others. I am a glass half full person and I'm mostly a positive kind of person. As a gentleman wrote in his comment, she needs to look in the mirror and take responsibility and not blame others. She's doing something wrong. I wish her the best on her journey.
I dunno... She wasn't happy "back home" and moved to the Villages. Didn't like it.... moved back. Wasn't happy back there... moved back here. She's not totally wrong but she seems to have a negative attitude and an "it's all their fault" attitude.
I live in a Active Adult Community in California. I am 60 and probably the 3rd or 4th youngest person in the community of 1700 residents. I am a widower and I am not invited to socialize with people that are coupled up. All of the single women are at least 75, and only socialize with the other single women.
They have no intention of going on a date with any man.
They have already decided that they have alreeady had "The love of their life".
They are not interested in anyone else.
I work from home most days. Being alone 4 or 5 days a week, takes a toll, and makes depression worse.
I am seriously considering moving to the Villages once I retire in 2030, but I expect that the same problems are going to exist in all of the Active Adult Communities around the country.
I really enjoyed Kim's willingness to mention all of the scenarios.
I can totally relate to so many things that she mentioned.
Jerry and Linda I really enjoyed ths personal interview.
I hope that you have more of these types of videos with both singles and couples.
I am interested in seeing the different perspectives, and what things they wouold mention when you asked them about what they consider a Pro and a Con about the Villages and their social experiences.
Thank you so much Jerry and Linda.
Please consider moving sooner than later. Florida and The Villages are great in comparison to California. Keep watching Jerry and Linda, they are wonderful.
I agree completely about not having a “back-up” if I get sick. This is why I stay in my community and have lived in MI my entire life. I don’t like the winters, but sacrifice that by being near family and friends. I remain active by going to silver sneakers three mornings per week, play mahjong, attend Bible studies and go to lunch/dinner, plays and movies with friends.
I'm a single woman living in the Portland OR area. This gal is totally on point. The worst part is my own family members. They will go out to dinner, wine tasting, etc.. As couples. And I rarely see my siblings, because they have their own children and grandchildren. I am considered an "extended" family member. Invited for get togethers on holidays. It is what it is. 🙃
Sometimes family can be the absolute worst!!
A very interesting show. We got to see her experience as a resident that we haven't see yet. I'm sure she is well on her way to having many friends to share things with. Thank you for doing this show and I thank her for putting herself out there and sharing.
Thank you for sharing these struggles. I really haven't thought about that perspective so deeply before. Even though I don't live in TV, I could be more inclusive and understanding of the single ladies in my circle. Thank you for opening my eyes!
Thanks for the video! Your guest was both articulate and insightful. I'm a single senior, and I love it. But I'm more of a loner, so it works well for me. I hope she tries out for the dragon boat teams because that will give her another way to feel included.
Another very interesting and honest show . And this applies to a lot of us not in TV also.
As a single guy, its normal to be left out. Couples hang out and vacation together. I just got used to it.
I'm still not used to it! I hope to adopt your attitude. Thanks!
Yep, so use to it... Doesn't bother me, in the least... Rather hang out, and spend my time and money on a single beautiful young blonde lady... Something, I can get into... Subbed, and always a thumbs up : )
I really enjoyed Kim’s candor and at times wondered about some of the things she mentioned. It’s good to have a full picture and different perspectives of people who have experienced TV. No place is perfect, so to hear the unmasked truth from this articulate woman of her take on TV is really very much appreciated. Thank you for another great show. Really enjoyed this one and food for thought.
As a single villager, it was a little intimidating at first, but through exposure and recognition on this channel (thanks Jerry and Linda!), and joining lots and lots of clubs and activities, and "putting myself out there" in social situations, the friendships naturally formed. I have a pretty healthy mix of single and couple friends, and luckily, have been accepted in most social circles. Kim, keep putting yourself out there, so many great people here in The Villages - This is a great place to retire (at least for me), as a single person.
Great Show today Linda and Jerry. This Lady articulates well.
Thank you for sharing. This was an outstanding video.
It is good to hear someone's perspective, whether single or in a couple. EVERYONE has difficulties and positive attributes to their way of life. When listening to someone else's perspective, it opens the mind beyond one's own thinking, or at least it should. I am coming down with my 90 year old mother who has lived with this single lady (always single) for the last 11 years. I know one day she will be gone and I will be on my own again. I am strong of character, but, alone is alone. I will do my best to fit in and to have a wonderful life as it is in The Villages!!!!
Great!! Enjoy it!
Great video! Thanks to this lovely lady for her honesty. I do feel there are some negative problems in TV. Not sure if I will move there.
I have recently joined the Fenney Fun Singles group and the two events that I have experienced the people in the group were very accepting and everyone I met was an actual single.
This episode is one of the best I’ve watched, so substantial, real and I admire her candidness talking about her experiences as a single person and I agree with Jerry this wonderful woman is going to have to hide once in awhile to get away from all the friends and invitations that’s going to come her way after this episode. lol
Oh how I can relate. I appreciate this episode. Topics were brought up that I had not even given thought to. I will be 62 in August and single. However, I am not as active as most are that live in The Villages. Thank you for this content.
Very nice show, a little sad for her, but she has so much going for her I’m sure her life will start changing soon! Thanks guys👍🏻👍🏻
Wow she gripes about everything!! Not sure if she will ever find happiness anywhere!
I'm so glad to see this interview. It covers the fact of there are some women in a couple relationship that feel threatened by a single woman.
I am one of a group of single women that are happy to be truely single. We have been through relationships (married and living together). We have been there, done that and have NO desire to do that again! AND are happy to make our own decisions with no second person putting restrictions or limitations on our lives. I do NOT hate men. I have a happier life living by myself. I enjoy my friends male and female. Thank you for letting me post this.
Got my pharmacy technician license at age 55. Still working at 72
This was so heartfelt and real. I appreciate this conversation
Thank you, Kim, for a very honest perspective on being single in the Villages! I hope, as time goes by, that the social scene will be more welcoming and inclusive of singles! It is a very important reminder to all of us to be more inclusive of singles!!
The things she is describing occurs EVERYWHERE. It's not the Villages....her best chance of making friends is at the Villages. She tried going back home and didn't like that either. Not really understanding why she came back to TV if she didn't like it the first time. SMH
Very negative interview (not yalls fault tho)
You need to do a little more searching for someone that's happy, single and lives the tv!!! I've met many!
I love this show. I live alone. It is hard.
God Bless you, Kim! Fellow PA gal, here. We're in Southern York County & looking forward to our move to TV in 2 years. We started visiting there in 2019, bought a home in 2021 (rented until our move) & continue to visit each November. I'm so ready & can't wait to get there but have to admit it's scary. I've never lived anywhere but where I am. Plan is for me to move down the year b4 hubby to get the house ready & find employment. He can retire b4 me. I won't fit in with the singles or the couples.
Thanks so much for sharing!!
What a great video and I am single with no back up too and am working until September this year, I agree it's hard to be alone and who do you call if you need anything, I am also learning to do things by myself and hopefully things will be better when I retire, time will tell
Thanks. Very informative video. That’s the reality of being single . It’s not easy.
I know we have many single friends that we hang out with as well as other couples. In our neighborhood we include everyone and no one feels alone especially the holidays. We love our experiences with your cruises and found lots of fun with them. We choose to meet everyone and never feel pettiness or being rejected by others. Good show and great insight! Good to know Kim is reaching out & continuing to see others in groups.
Thank you for this episode. When I lived in The Villages, I was married. I'm returning divorced and I think that I will be handicapped, socially. We were received as a couple, mainly, because people were enchanted with my foreign wife. I know it's going to be a little bit tougher, being solo, now. But your guest is right. At least there are plenty of things to do inside the Bubble for OLDER singles than "out here".
I can’t see making single couples quit or not be allowed in a singles club… suppose they met in that club … they still want to be involved .. I don’t get it. Seems a bit demanding
Jerry ad Linda you are so compassionate for this young lady.
Wow, thank you, Donna.
Jerry and Linda, that was a great show, it hit home for a lot of people, including myself, thank you so much for your great work!!
Our pleasure!
I am 76 and a widow for 11 yeas and agree with your guest.
Linda looks so tiny in-between the woman and Jerry…😅
What an amazing woman❤ God bless you! Thanks for your story. Great interview J & L❤
I’m so glad I watched this one episode. I am single and I keep wondering about the Villages, if I should take the plunge and move. Very interesting! I always love watching.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you for this episode. I enjoy all your episodes, but like your budget episodes, this one gave me decision making information. I felt like it got to the crux of some of my wonderings about being single in the Villages. It didn’t turn me off by any means, it just felt very real and transparent about something I have given much thought to. Thank you SO much!!!
You're welcome!
Thank you for this episode. It was very powerful and I've been thinking about it since I watched it on Thursday. I am a single woman - widowed 4-1/2 years ago shortly after moving to TV. I didn't know anybody here and had to deal with my husband's death and its aftermath by myself since I have no family and his family, all but one brother, abandoned me. But I stayed in TV because I knew I would be worse off anywhere else. At least in TV, I was/am able to get out and meet people and take part in a variety of activities. I still haven't found "my tribe" but I keep looking. I do miss having someone to go to meals with or do things with, but I've been doing things solo and so far that has worked for me. I have become rigidly independent so I don't have to rely on anyone else to take care of me, and I'm luckily in great health so haven't run into any medical problems that I would need assistance. I only hope this all continues on a forward path.
Thank you Sue, what a great attitude.
My daughters and I moved to FL 14 yrs ago. They are into Ballroom and Square Dancing and Salsa. Back in our home state of Ky...we would go to a monthly dance and even though there were couples there...a wife would allow her husband to dance with my daughters....and it was most generous. Here in Florida...the wives are NOT AS GENEROUS. They hang onto their MAN..Like the country music song goes...and any female...of any age is considered a threat!!] IT is almost like being back in high school. We..my daughters and I open our home and our hearts..to ALL people...AS we build community here. Best wishes...and PEACE ON THE JOURNEY!!
Interesting viewpoint on life in TV as a Single by Kim. My advice for her would be to keep on forging life on her terms. Only She knows what brings her joy, the ultimate goal for all. Her observations about other Singles there and finding like minded friends may help. Learning to enjoy your own company is a gift you give yourself. Even married people with different interests often like to do things separately. I wish her well. We're all trying to make our days meaningful.
So true. My hubby is a computer gamer and I feel single most of the time 😆
@frannader2739, very wise words!
@@dianasimplifies Ha ha, let's meet up for coffee.
@@frannader2739 🤣🤣🤣
Wow, Jerry & Linda, what a terrific guest! She was so honest, but feel sorry she hasn’t been accepted. Keeping busy, volunteering or a part time job might help. Also getting a pet might help a lot! Sorry she is having trouble in TV where everyone seems so friendly & welcoming. Really hope your show helps her find a great companion. 😢
Wow! This is exactly how I feel. It's hard for folks not in this situation to understand and I know it sounds like we just need to get out there and meet people and stop hiding in our home. But it's not that easy when you are by yourself. Yes, I feel alone even though I live here with all of these great people in The Villages. I am not a loner or a wallflower and can strike up a conversation with anyone. But it's hard not having a significant other and/or a support system to go and do something with - knowing that you have to go out there by yourself again and again. It's one thing to chit chat and another to form a support system where you can go out and do things on a regular basis. I retired from Ohio in 2021 and moved to Ft. Myers at age 61. It was supposed to be with a relative, something we'd planned for years, but they got sick and passed away and without a plan B, I came on down to Florida alone. After Hurricane Ian and an F3 tornado, I decided to move here because I had been watching your videos since before I retired. Plus, I was tired of living in an apt down there where everyone got up and went to work and I sat at home. Thought coming here, I would have people to do things with and many activities. Think I forgot that when you never marry, don't have a lot of relatives, and work for 46yrs, your co-workers become your family and your support system. Retiring and moving away means you lose your support system - and, if you were a workaholic, you have to figure out how to fill your days. I thought that would be easy, couldn't wait to retire. Then, twice in the last year, I've had some rare illness and yes, it's very scary living alone with no support system/family, trying to figure out how to get to the doctor and get meds, and groceries, etc. I love to meet a great guy, but more importantly, I'd like to have a support system of friends that I can do things with on a regular basis. As soon as I feel better, I'm going to try again to get involved with some groups, there is a neighborhood group here where I'm renting my home (long term) down south of 44, that would be a start, they are very nice and welcoming. I've lived in 5 different states in the past and have never had any problems making friends, but then I met people through work. Thank you, Jerry and Linda, for having this guest on - I know there are many of us who are single and don't see any family or friends (mine are still working up north lol), on a regular basis, so we have to start over - this time without work as the glue.
Very nice Lady With some issues
Best show yet
If I was a licensed (whatever) and knew that I could not practice in TV or Florida did not check to find out if I could practice before moving that is a major problem. Change careers good but tough at 60ish as she mentioned. Something and I can't put my finger on it is just not sitting right. Trust your gut always. Perhaps not a popular response, but it is how I feel after watching this.
I agree !!! She makes alot of valid points. Should be some volunteer groups for rides to drs, groceries etc. I saw some of comments on this.
This was one of your best shows. Your guest was well spoken and prepared. Thanks so much.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I kinda giggle watching this. We are new only 6 months. We are in the north (Nancy Lopez) and we are living on a street that is 80% single, divorced, widowed. And on our street the ladies have a meet up for lunch once a month. There has been two driveway parties and I feel no one is singled out. I really can’t tell who is married or coupled together. Everyone is mingling. I only know if they tell me . BTW Jerry and Linda how do you know this nice lady on your show today. BTW if the nice lady is reading this my husband and I lived in the Deep Creek lake area ( Western Maryland) and just sold our home there. in 2021. We do own home in Lewes Delaware that we are putting on the market to live full time in The Villages. My husband still works remotely.
May I ask where you are in Lewes? We live there also.
@@meadow3720We live on RT 9 south of Hopkins Creamery. Near Dollar General at light by Hudson Rd. Where are you?
By Minos Conaway close to the Georgetown Lewes trail and Red Mill Pond.
@@meadow3720 I cut through that rd off costal hwy from my dog groomer. It comes out on RT 9
Everywhere she goes is a bad experience. What’s the common denominator here? This is a victim mentality. I prefer to see the bright side of life.
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I received a big dose of reality by watching this video today. Thank you Kim for your honesty. I have been dreaming about and had such high hopes of coming to the Villages after my retirement in the next few years. The place appears so friendly and beautiful. The idea of enjoying some of the constant happenings was so intriguing. I wanted the opportunity to attend some of the daily entertainment and fun social events. The potential of a less stressful lifestyle is important to me and this place seemed right for me to experience just that. More importantly, I did not want my life to end with the regret of not doing something I have been longing to do for years. I understand that everyday there would not be a bed of roses but anticipated more good days than bad in Florida's Friendliest Hometown and golf cart community. I was especially excited about leaving the cold behind here in the North. I am married but there is no interest from any of my family members to make such a move and my spouse plans to work until he literally drops. That is certainly not my plan. I don't want to sit at home like many retirees here do for 9 months waiting for it to get warm enough to possibly get out and find things to do. While I had envisioned on making some lengthy visits back here to be with family during the warmer months, I wanted to spend most of the year down south. I was hoping it would be easy to get a part time job in the Villages to supplement my meager retirement. Kim enlightened me to the realization that I might be rejected due to my age. I was also looking forward to trying to establish some new friendships while remaining somewhat active. It never entered my mind that it would be so difficult to do so there until I watched this video. Now I am sad and certainly disheartened that my future plan may not become my reality. Love your show and thank you for sharing all sides of life in the Villages.
Don't let the negativity from this woman change your mind about moving to The Villiages. I'm going to cut and paste a response from a Villager about Kim and this video. Here it is:
@Paige-dm4wn
1 day ago
Please don’t buy into what Kim is saying. She has brought 95% of her difficulties upon herself. I’ve known her since she moved here. Drama, drama ,drama. Many, many. Younger singles are quite happy here. If you’re a glass half full person, you’ll be fine.
What a great interview. I appreciated Kim's honesty. She is a lovely, active well spoken lady. That can be intimidating to insecure women. Great video!
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You are such a wonderful viewer. Thank you, we really do appreciate your kindness.
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Debbie downer. I see why she has problems.
I am single in The Villages. I love The Villages. All my neighbors are wonderful. We help each other and we always have someone to talk with.
Makes it easier when you have good neighbors
This was helpful. Kim would do well to start a TH-cam show focused on this. Not just about older singles in the villages, but in general. There are a lot of older singles who could relate. Let us know if she starts one. With your help, she has a good start!
I have lived in the Villages before, and I can relate to her issue on singles. I am divorced and I felt the same way. Most of the residents are married and I felt like an outsider, but I feel that way now, so it is the same everywhere, therefore I believe that it is not a Villages problem, it is a society problem. It's tough to overcome. I don't have the answer.
Linda you’re soooo tiny when compared to two tall people next to you. ❤
This is hard to hear because I am 65 year old considering a move to the villages. I’m aware that being single is tuff but I’m hoping that I can find different club interests that I can join and will feel included. Good luck to her.