Straight ako, my best friend is gay. He never really outed to me. I never asked. Hindi nagmatter sakin e. I've known him since elementary, we're now in our mid 30's. I think this idea of having to prove something just because you identify as another gender than what was assigned to you at birth is to overcompensate. The society wants you to prove your worth because when we were born, meron na agad idea of how we need to lead our lives. If babae ka, expected to bear children in the future. If lalake ka, you are expected to provide for your future family. Your gender predetermines what is expected of you in life. And since these idealizations will most likely not be your reality, the society imposes that you be good at other things to compensate what you are "lacking". A compromise of sorts. It's truly sad and backwards thinking talaga. Through the years I have seen my best friend do this. Lalo na with his parents. I remember when he invited me and his boyfriend at the time over for fiesta and out of the blue bigla nlng nag speech ang papa nya about wishing his son would have a traditional family in the future. That hurt me, it broke him. He never resented his parents though. Acceptance is what matters most. It really resonated what Miss D said, "we are only tolerated but not truly accepted". Good for you if you're out and accepted. I just wish all people would just be enlightened. Being gay is not a sin or a crime towards society. You did not choose to be this way, you were born this way. This is your truth. I will not even tackle religions and ang kaemehan nila towards the community. It's a whole different topic. So much to nitpick I just kenat. I really enjoyed and appreciated this episode! Stay true to yourself! Ang importante tanggap nyo sarili nyo, and you don't have to be ashamed to be gay or lgbtqia+! Stay loud and proud. ❤
Sa totoo lang, lahat ata ng member ng LGBTQ+ nagkakaroon ng stereotyping na "pag bakla, gumagastos sa pera" or "dapat matalino ka or creative ka kasi bakla ka". Nagkaroon na ng stigma na laging ganun. Kaya as part of LGBTQ+ this is very timely kasi most or all of the community is really experiencing this. Walang nakakaligtas. Tama din na we are just tolerated but not yet accepted. This is a good platform na maihayag yung boses ng nakararami sa pamamagitan nila.
I guess the thing Chardie said about her aunt saying "kapag may pera na yan mapupunta lang sa lalaki" is also one of the reasons why we're trying so hard to prove ourselves. Parang need natin ipakita na that kind of thinking is no longer applicable sa panahon natin ngayon. Na hindi porke bakla ka you have to always pay for love. Na kapag may boyfriend ka it automatically means you are supporting or paying them. Pero it is still up to us to prove wrong. Anyway, I am so happy for you guys. Maiyak iyak pa ako sa mga stories niyo especially sa parts na nakakarelate ako. Thank you for this.
Pinapatunayan in a sense na we build our own aspirations rooted first for validation and respect. But it turns out after all these years looking back sa journey ko naiba na yung perspective ko. I don't need to justify and address my sexuality anymore. Ngayon I'm just being me, if you don't like it then leave it. Hindi na rin ako conscious kung matutuwa ba sila or tatanggapin ba nila kung ano sasabihin o gagawin ko ❤. Malakas loob namin na maging loud and proud kasi from the very beginning totoo kami sa sarili namin, hindi namin ikanahiya kung ano kami. Mayroon lang takot na baka hindi kami tanggapin dahil sa environment at sa mga taong nakapalibot sa amin that's why very vocal kami pag may agrabyado na miyembro ng LGBTQIAA+ Community. Bakla, bading, bayot, call us anything you all want kasi we are everything, we can share and impart to this and that. Happy Pride 🏳️🌈🎉.
They say na we are a sinner pero you cant deny the fact that almost all of us are the ones who suffer the most. From bullying, accepting, carrying a family and a lot more.
In the country we're living in, lalo na sa toxic filipino culture, Straight ka man or hindi, meron ka pa rn kailangan patunayan :( Sad reality. Love you guys!
people cannot accept who u really are, but growing up and being able to know who you are makes you happier and more confident. You don't have to come out to every person who can't contribute to your life. When time goes by, everything will be clear as it is. there's nothing wrong with being who you are, not because you are afraid what people think of you as they treat you differently. Just be yourself and prove them wrong because you're not just a gay but a person.
Imagine the kind of pain, judgment and rejection, all the members of our community has to go through from childhood and growing up. I salute everyone of us for standing strong even after these things that we have to go through.
Wow! I agree to that "Bakit kailangan pa sabihin kung straight ka o hindi?" And yes even hindi kailangan pero dapat talaga sa panahon nato kung bakla ka dapat may patunayan ka.
Ang ganda ng topic nyo sana more more content pa para maliwanagan yung mga taong sarado ang pag unawa sa mga gay, Lahat tayo gawa ng dyos at di ksalanan to!
kasalanan po ayon sa Bible. malinaw nmn. pero just live your life kung saan kayo masaya at walang inaapi at wag pa VICTIM. walang need patunayan. Utak nyu lang kalaban nyu.
How interesting. I’m straight and it’s so interesting. Oonga ano, wala nga akong kilalang baklang na hindi matalino or witty or sharp. Iniisip ko nun na it’s because you’re just naturally in another level sa liksi ng utak. Didnt think it could be hard earned from expectations. You dont have to try so hard. Relax. :)
Masarap makinig sa ganito mga podcast. Ako din may tropa at bestfriend hanggang ngayon kami pa rin magkakasama. Nagaaral pa lang kami alam ko na they are part of LGBTQ+ pero di ako or kami nagtanong if ganun ba sila kasi di naman need. Yung point na tama naman bakit sila need pa mag out. No need, no questions asked. I love them like a kapatid
i come to this point in my life na alam ko na gradually nirerecognize ko na ang mga strengths and weaknesses ko especially capabilities ko bilang bakla, i continue working on it to further improve and gain more information about things. wala akong need patunayan sa iba, because that just gives more pressure tho it feels good when you prove something to others but at the end of the you have to get back from the idea that you yourself matters more than anyone else’s opinion and perspective to you.
I somehow share the same sentiments/experience with Charlie, but gusto ko Yung lesson/point ni Warren na "me doing mistakes, has nothing to do with me being GAY".
This vlog shows that in reality what their community feels are also relatable for straight peeps out there. Not all of it but what I mean at the end of the day we are just human facing problems, different ways and etc. So all we can do is to be kind and be respectful. We are all humans, regardless of gender, we deserve to live the life and make it worthy.
We all feel like we need to prove ourselves. Mga panganay, single parents, young parents, poor people, etc. I think this is healthy as long as it motivates us to achieve goals, instead of para lang i-please yung others
Me as a gay, I have experienced also the feeling na dapat may mapatunayan maybe because me personally my goal Is to let people know that gays is not just gays, I want to have a stable job, I need to provide for my family, I need to act decently, I need to help the community, because thinking about it, I just need to prove to people that a gay has a future. I even pray that "lord Sana po balang araw lahat Ng pamilya na may anak n bakla, ay magpasalamat sayo dahil dumating kami sa Mundo". Society Kasi they already putted a label sa mga bakla, and I want that wall to vanished and LGBTQIA+ will be fully accepted without judgement, maybe naisip ko din na Kapag gumawa ako Ng tama, Ng mabuti,as gay ay titingalain din ako Ng mga tao and Dala ko Yung LGBTQIA+ na group eh, gusto Kong marinig in the future Mula sa mga tao na, bakla Yan pero alam mo ba marami ding maitutulong at mararating yan
32:23 That's true, if kaya mo lang sana mamili between being a straight guy or being a queer, bakit mo pipiliin yung alam mong hindi tanggap ng paligid. I remember the day na I came out to my father who's a pastor that same day midnight when I was sleeping I overheard him praying for me habang nakataas kamay niya sa ulo ko. I pretended na lang na tulog talaga ako then I also prayed na if this is wrong amongst the people bakit ako pa?
Watching this in midst of celebrating Pride Month. Total supporter of LGBTQIA++ community. Missin' my friends to have this kind of conversation. Proud of my friends out there na dating bilang palang kaming nakaka alam who they are, but now they are part of LGBTQIA++ community events to celebrate this month. 💗💗
such genuine hearts and brilliant minds. walang dapat itago o ikahiya sa mga sarili nyo or everyone for that matter. as long as wala kang tinatapakang tao.
I have a lot of friends na part ng LGBTQIA++ community and 'yung stories na hindi sila accepted after nila nag-out is truly heartbreaking. As a mom, sisiguraduhin kong hindi kailangan itago sa akin ng mga anak ko kung sino ang tunay na sila. Please keep on educating us!! Ang galing nyong apat mag-deliver especially Chardie B!
Yes tama nga nmn po. kikilatisin ka muna ng tao kung confirm ba na straight, bakla or bi ka kasi dyan din sila mag babase on how to confront you. pag di pa nila na confirm yan iilang ilang talaga yung pag lapit or approach nila sayu kasi di pa nila confirm kung ano kaba talaga pero perspective na nila na isa ka sa community na talaga.
This is what was instilled in our culture because of the religious beliefs that mandate who we are and how we need to behave. It's not about Catholicism but same as Islam.
This video is making my mind more wide lalo na sa part na nag oopen up sila freely about how they feel or how the culture affect us. What they all say have a point. As a straight person I love seeing LGBTQ+ members being able to be theirselves and freely states their opinion and perspective
bkit? kailangan patunayan? simply because that will be your sweet revenge. those people wanted and expecting you to fail.. so prove them wrong and disappoint them with ur success. sampal sa knila yun. i love you guys .
Gays and Trans sa America are out of control. I love this podcast so much because I am proud of all Filipino gays and trans. Bias? Yes! How you guys answered all the questions proves my point. I hope you guys influence LGBTQ ALL OVER THE WORLD. Also, I hope Bretman Rock is part of this VENUE. 😅
Basta ang alam ko, masarap st no dull moment pag may kaibigang bakla...sobrang pranka din magsalita dahil totoo sila sa nararamdaman nila. I love how they make other people happy despite na may sarili din silang pinagdadaanan.
Finally i found a new vlog that can actually makes me understand the true reality of being an lgbtq+ i want to know their feelings and sentiments because i know for me they are part of the community. I hope they can open their podcast to community and can asked a questions like me because my daughter is part of lgbtq community and I still don’t know how to approach her and talk to her about it i hope your podcast enlightens me to understand it😊 I accept my daughter because I really love her and I will support her in every step of the way….❤
I have a lot of gay friends and their families accept them and love them I love hanging out with them cause you will never have a blues day, you will forget all your problems and they will accept you for who you are and what you are I love you my gay friends they are not just a friend they are my family ❤❤❤🌈🌈🌈🌈
truly I can relate of what chardie said that "kapag my pera mapupunta sa lalaki" my aunt was always telling this to me since i was highschool, it's really hard though that You are working yourself but it always remind you na parang bakit ganun gina isip nila mga bagay na di naman di porket matanda sila, tama na sila. now I am college its okay and masaya ako pag gina kamusta but beside of that kamusta my biglang sasbihin sayo na "my lalaki ka na jan sa bh mo?" like ah?? bakit?? ganto ba ako sainyo??? n
I am straight pero as I watched this vid, may lesson akong natutunan which is bakit nga naman kailangan nating may mapatunayan sa ibang mga taong puro negative ang sinasabi sa atin when in fact wala naman silang ambag sa buhay natin. Parang sa akin, I am a shifter kasi diko kinaya yung dati kong course. Ang dami kong naririnig even my titas na bakit raw nag shift ako. Dapat raw nag stop nalang raw muna ako para mag soul searching. Ang mas malala pa sinabihan ng tito ko yung mama ko na parang karma raw yon sa parents ko yung ginawa kong pag shift. (Kasi nag away yung parents and tito ko para don sa kabit ng tito ko na nag rereyna reynahan sa bahay ng lola kong namayapa) Masakit makarinig ng ganon pero sabi ko sa sarili ko na bakit ko naman sila pakikinggan kung wala naman silang ambag sa buhay at hindi naman sila nagbibigay ng pang matrikula ko. Sa parents ko nga wala akong naririnig na kahit ano kahit sila ang sumusoporta sa pag aaral ko pagkatapos ang lakas mag sakita ng ibang tao na wala naman ginastos saken at hindi naman ako pinaalamon. Wala akong pake sa opinion ng ibang tao basta ang mahalaga saken ay ang pamilya kong sinusoportahan ako sa lahat ng bagay lalo na financial support.
I love gays❤ I’m straight woman pero the gays around me are the very best people… some gays betrayed me but they’re still the best people you can trust❤
I think, unconsciously, kailangan nating may patunayan kasi ramdam nating mina-maliit tayo ng society. "Bakla" is STILL used to degrade someone. Kapag duwag, bakla. Kapag bakla, parlorista "lang". Unconsciously, gusto nating patunayan na hindi natin maipa-pahiya 'yung mga magulang natin at mapatunayan na mali yung thinking nila sa atin.
I am straight but I have family members and friends that are members of the LGBTQIA++ community. I think the reason why they have a lot to prove is because they are always seen as deficient. There is something missing which is heartbreaking.
Ako, wala ako gusto patunayan sa madlang people. Basta ginagawa ko ang gusto ko at I make sure na wala ako nasasaktan tao sa mga kasiyahan na ginagawa ko. Wala din ako pake sa mga snsbi nila. Hindi din ako nag out sa family ko. Kasi hindi ko naman kailngan gawin yun.
I agree with the fact na we need to identify ourselves na because people are now confused just for example pag nkikipagfling ka you thought someone is straight and later gay Pala... I mean hindi naman lahat nadadaan sa pakiramdaman. kasi ung Ibang gay naoofend din cla Kung sir/ maam tawag sa kanila eh they look straight naman so sa pronouns palang naooffend na kau how much more for other things... Just tell us I guess now we are open and supportive and continue to be understanding slowly. I have a crush before and talked to him I appreciated him however he said not to be into him coz he's gay being truthful might hurt other people but atleast it controls the damage. I support the LGBTQ+ and you guys have proven enough and remove a lot of stereotypes of being gay still I hope we understand people who are traditional where they are coming from and not force them to treat you the way you want to be treated. Coz in general not all people are treated well as they wanted.
I just watched this video now and I thank everyone of you for making this video, topic , I can relate so much .. 😢 naiyak ako sa part na you are like praying so much na sana maging straight kanalang pero hindi talaga .. thank you for letting me realize na di lang pala ako yung ganon .. What I liked pa sa video nyo is yung maiiyak kana tas biglang may mag papatawa so iyak tawa talaga ako huhuh❤❤😢 Thank you for all of the advise and super nakakabitin naman tong topic natooo juskoooo sana mas habaan nyo paaaaa love you guys ❤
I can relate to the concept that you have to show to everyone your best efforts in order to dispel the stigma associated with being gay. This is true not only in our country, kasi ang tagal lang ng acceptance dito sa atin dahil sa Religion natin.
Bakit nga po ba? Why make it super complicated? We do not belong to the set of people who discriminate your community. We co-exist. For me as long as we live accordingly okay un. ❤❤❤
I think tama si Warren and Ms. Deliciousness, our society as major catholic most people think na salot tayo sa bayan. Yun kse yung panahon na laganap yung ganoong kaisipan, ganoong label or tagged as "Salot". Ang nangyare, LGBT community are consciously or subconsciously have to prove ourself to do great things, to be good citizen, and to prove those people wrong who said na Salot tayo.
OMG!!! Chardie, I felt you!!! Naiiyak ako!!! Sobrang relatable!!! Dapat palaging matalino, palaging magaling sa lahat, we always need to exert extra effort! Steven: pwede ka magkaroon ng talk show. Galing mo mag-host lalo na sa pag open nung topic and yung pag-ask ng questions, and pagnaliligaw na sa topic binabalik mo smoothly. Chardie: I really felt you. Ramdam na ramdam kita, every words na bibitawan mo i really need to listen and that’s your power. Very sincere. Poca: magaling ka din sa pag-share not just your personal view but, interjecting such as yung culture and social perspective, ang galing! Ms. D: I’m glad I’m hearing you being serious and sensitive. Literally we are seeing your other side. *Steven and Chardie: Ganda ng chemistry nyo sa hosting. Ang gaganda ng perspectives niyo. Good jobs, guys! Congrats and ang meaningful ng pilot episode! Clap clap!
I love that you discussed that there isn't a need for us to excuse ourselves by the act of 'outing' ourselves to our families. I have nothing against those who do, but I find it to be such a Western concept. For sure, alam na ng mga magulang natin kung bakla tayo. But, if it helps the journey, some people might find the need for it. Love how the topics are intelligently, candidly and comic-ly digested. More!
wala po kaung dpt ptunyn,lalo n kung tanggap po kau ng magulng nio,ng buong buo.hindi nio kailngn mgpliwng sa iba tao,dhil wala silang ambg sa buhy nio,un lng po.god bless all po sa inyo.
I think na contribute rin na kailangan may ma patunayan tayo kasi minority parin ang LGBTQ+ community. To feel less shameful (for lack of better words), kailangan may ma-achieve tayo to still have the sense of worth na may kaya tayo kahit "bakla ka lang", Plus in an asian household, it's a big deal to maintain a high status in academics and/or talents. When there's stigma surrounding the fact that LGBTQ+ are minorities and "not normal", we are compelled to further prove ourselves, especially in our own households na our sexuality doesn't define and limit our capabilities as a person. Even when these years are considered "open-minded" now, di parin nawawala ung mga side-comments katulad ng na mention sa 12:31 na maybe comes from good intentions pero di nila narerealize na nagiging ignorant ung pag-iisip and mas lalong na-eenhance ung stigma na someone's sexuality is a con ("Bakla sya pero ____", "Magaling kumanta pero kilos nya parang bakla", "Mayaman naman sya bakit parin naging ____", etc) We're conditioned to be used to these behaviors from other people na and it's sad :( In reality we don't have to prove ourselves na bakla tayo and we also don't need to prove our worth just because they see the queer community as lower beings. To me, religion is a very weak and tasteless reason for people to hate and discriminate on anyone especially in Catholicism/Christianity because the main lesson, the main purpose, and the most powerful commadment by Jesus is to "Love thy neighbor as much". Bible talk is very contradicting and genuinely not the most reliable source of where we should base our morality in when we take a look at the recent translations and see a lot of contemporary words when in reality those words aren't coined during BC times. A very well known example is the word "Homosexuality" in the Bible. I can go on and on about this since I've done a bit of research before for a short paper I needed to do, but in short a lot of the 'boy to boy' sexual tendencies in other translations that aren't english refer to pedophilia, adultery, gang rape, and slavery, NOT AT ALL referring to the actual sexuality.
For me po ha kaya need natin may mapatunayan para kasing sa mga salitang balak ka lang ! na ito yung laging naririnig natin sa knila .Parang dahil gusto natin may maipakita pa sa ibang tao na hindi lang ako/kami bakla pero bakla na may pangarap, may trabaho, nakakatulong sa pamilya. Mindset na natin siya na iprove to others na we are not only a gay, lesbian etc. Na para hindi tayo idown ng iba kaya ginagawa natin yun
siguro kaya parang may pina patunayan ay dahil the society automatically thinks negatively if you are part of lgbtq+ community since natural na sa tao ang ijudge ang something na they dont understand. Though most of the people na nag jujudge is wala nman silbi sa buhay nung jinujudge. Minsan naman others are already expecting for you not to be successful kaya people in the community tends to make sure they have more to offer.
BAKLA BA KAMO? ANG TATALINO EH, D NA MAHALAGA ANG GENDER ANG IMPORTANTE MABABAIT AT NAPAPALIGAYA PA AKO OR KAHIT SINO NA NANUNUOD NITONG VIDEO. KEEP GOING MGA BAKS!!!
The main question po Siguro that most people confused also is that, especially homophobic how did we start of being gay, like decision po ba natin to or influence of what we were seeing.. just to clarify these thigs out.. para lang din maaware ung mga taong bakit b kasi may mga bakla..
I don't think peer pressure only happens to a specific community but to everyone especially if you are around people who are hypocrites and frustrated with their life. I am straight but I surely experienced that from my relatives. They just don't respect you if you do not pass within their standards especially when it comes to personal beliefs, how you dress, how you carry yourself, how you make friends and etc.
Totoo ung you have to accept urdself muna, tskak k plng sasaya... i know becoz i exprerienced it... nung. Dumating dn ako sa point na i prayed na sana straight n lng ako... kasi ang hirap hirap...
Straight ako, my best friend is gay. He never really outed to me. I never asked. Hindi nagmatter sakin e. I've known him since elementary, we're now in our mid 30's.
I think this idea of having to prove something just because you identify as another gender than what was assigned to you at birth is to overcompensate. The society wants you to prove your worth because when we were born, meron na agad idea of how we need to lead our lives. If babae ka, expected to bear children in the future. If lalake ka, you are expected to provide for your future family. Your gender predetermines what is expected of you in life. And since these idealizations will most likely not be your reality, the society imposes that you be good at other things to compensate what you are "lacking". A compromise of sorts. It's truly sad and backwards thinking talaga.
Through the years I have seen my best friend do this. Lalo na with his parents. I remember when he invited me and his boyfriend at the time over for fiesta and out of the blue bigla nlng nag speech ang papa nya about wishing his son would have a traditional family in the future. That hurt me, it broke him. He never resented his parents though.
Acceptance is what matters most. It really resonated what Miss D said, "we are only tolerated but not truly accepted". Good for you if you're out and accepted. I just wish all people would just be enlightened. Being gay is not a sin or a crime towards society. You did not choose to be this way, you were born this way. This is your truth.
I will not even tackle religions and ang kaemehan nila towards the community. It's a whole different topic. So much to nitpick I just kenat.
I really enjoyed and appreciated this episode! Stay true to yourself! Ang importante tanggap nyo sarili nyo, and you don't have to be ashamed to be gay or lgbtqia+! Stay loud and proud. ❤
Sa totoo lang, lahat ata ng member ng LGBTQ+ nagkakaroon ng stereotyping na "pag bakla, gumagastos sa pera" or "dapat matalino ka or creative ka kasi bakla ka". Nagkaroon na ng stigma na laging ganun. Kaya as part of LGBTQ+ this is very timely kasi most or all of the community is really experiencing this. Walang nakakaligtas. Tama din na we are just tolerated but not yet accepted. This is a good platform na maihayag yung boses ng nakararami sa pamamagitan nila.
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I guess the thing Chardie said about her aunt saying "kapag may pera na yan mapupunta lang sa lalaki" is also one of the reasons why we're trying so hard to prove ourselves. Parang need natin ipakita na that kind of thinking is no longer applicable sa panahon natin ngayon. Na hindi porke bakla ka you have to always pay for love. Na kapag may boyfriend ka it automatically means you are supporting or paying them. Pero it is still up to us to prove wrong. Anyway, I am so happy for you guys. Maiyak iyak pa ako sa mga stories niyo especially sa parts na nakakarelate ako. Thank you for this.
Pinapatunayan in a sense na we build our own aspirations rooted first for validation and respect. But it turns out after all these years looking back sa journey ko naiba na yung perspective ko. I don't need to justify and address my sexuality anymore. Ngayon I'm just being me, if you don't like it then leave it. Hindi na rin ako conscious kung matutuwa ba sila or tatanggapin ba nila kung ano sasabihin o gagawin ko ❤.
Malakas loob namin na maging loud and proud kasi from the very beginning totoo kami sa sarili namin, hindi namin ikanahiya kung ano kami. Mayroon lang takot na baka hindi kami tanggapin dahil sa environment at sa mga taong nakapalibot sa amin that's why very vocal kami pag may agrabyado na miyembro ng LGBTQIAA+ Community. Bakla, bading, bayot, call us anything you all want kasi we are everything, we can share and impart to this and that. Happy Pride 🏳️🌈🎉.
"Bakit kailangan may patunayan pag bakla ka?" damn, hits hard talaga.
CLEARING OPERATIONS
They say na we are a sinner pero you cant deny the fact that almost all of us are the ones who suffer the most. From bullying, accepting, carrying a family and a lot more.
In the country we're living in, lalo na sa toxic filipino culture, Straight ka man or hindi, meron ka pa rn kailangan patunayan :( Sad reality. Love you guys!
people cannot accept who u really are, but growing up and being able to know who you are makes you happier and more confident. You don't have to come out to every person who can't contribute to your life. When time goes by, everything will be clear as it is. there's nothing wrong with being who you are, not because you are afraid what people think of you as they treat you differently. Just be yourself and prove them wrong because you're not just a gay but a person.
Imagine the kind of pain, judgment and rejection, all the members of our community has to go through from childhood and growing up. I salute everyone of us for standing strong even after these things that we have to go through.
gays are always very witty, sarap nilang panorin at pakinggan, mga sinasavi nila puro my laman❤
Wow! I agree to that
"Bakit kailangan pa sabihin kung straight ka o hindi?" And yes even hindi kailangan pero dapat talaga sa panahon nato kung bakla ka dapat may patunayan ka.
Ang ganda ng topic nyo sana more more content pa para maliwanagan yung mga taong sarado ang pag unawa sa mga gay, Lahat tayo gawa ng dyos at di ksalanan to!
kasalanan po ayon sa Bible. malinaw nmn. pero just live your life kung saan kayo masaya at walang inaapi at wag pa VICTIM. walang need patunayan. Utak nyu lang kalaban nyu.
@@potaragiz Using the scripture to justify your bigotry and hate is considered a sin too.
@@KaleD.-jw1sg who said anything about hate? its about differences of belief. Opinion mo sayo, opinion ko sa akin.Again, be happy.
Im straight po pero mahal ko po tlga ang LGBT COMM. I always shared love and respect po. Ayoko po kasi ung pakiramdam ng na jjudge 💔🥺
How interesting. I’m straight and it’s so interesting. Oonga ano, wala nga akong kilalang baklang na hindi matalino or witty or sharp. Iniisip ko nun na it’s because you’re just naturally in another level sa liksi ng utak. Didnt think it could be hard earned from expectations. You dont have to try so hard. Relax. :)
Masarap makinig sa ganito mga podcast. Ako din may tropa at bestfriend hanggang ngayon kami pa rin magkakasama. Nagaaral pa lang kami alam ko na they are part of LGBTQ+ pero di ako or kami nagtanong if ganun ba sila kasi di naman need. Yung point na tama naman bakit sila need pa mag out. No need, no questions asked. I love them like a kapatid
i come to this point in my life na alam ko na gradually nirerecognize ko na ang mga strengths and weaknesses ko especially capabilities ko bilang bakla, i continue working on it to further improve and gain more information about things. wala akong need patunayan sa iba, because that just gives more pressure tho it feels good when you prove something to others but at the end of the you have to get back from the idea that you yourself matters more than anyone else’s opinion and perspective to you.
I somehow share the same sentiments/experience with Charlie, but gusto ko Yung lesson/point ni Warren na "me doing mistakes, has nothing to do with me being GAY".
This vlog shows that in reality what their community feels are also relatable for straight peeps out there. Not all of it but what I mean at the end of the day we are just human facing problems, different ways and etc. So all we can do is to be kind and be respectful. We are all humans, regardless of gender, we deserve to live the life and make it worthy.
We all feel like we need to prove ourselves. Mga panganay, single parents, young parents, poor people, etc. I think this is healthy as long as it motivates us to achieve goals, instead of para lang i-please yung others
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Me as a gay, I have experienced also the feeling na dapat may mapatunayan maybe because me personally my goal Is to let people know that gays is not just gays, I want to have a stable job, I need to provide for my family, I need to act decently, I need to help the community, because thinking about it, I just need to prove to people that a gay has a future. I even pray that "lord Sana po balang araw lahat Ng pamilya na may anak n bakla, ay magpasalamat sayo dahil dumating kami sa Mundo". Society Kasi they already putted a label sa mga bakla, and I want that wall to vanished and LGBTQIA+ will be fully accepted without judgement, maybe naisip ko din na Kapag gumawa ako Ng tama, Ng mabuti,as gay ay titingalain din ako Ng mga tao and Dala ko Yung LGBTQIA+ na group eh, gusto Kong marinig in the future Mula sa mga tao na, bakla Yan pero alam mo ba marami ding maitutulong at mararating yan
32:23 That's true, if kaya mo lang sana mamili between being a straight guy or being a queer, bakit mo pipiliin yung alam mong hindi tanggap ng paligid. I remember the day na I came out to my father who's a pastor that same day midnight when I was sleeping I overheard him praying for me habang nakataas kamay niya sa ulo ko. I pretended na lang na tulog talaga ako then I also prayed na if this is wrong amongst the people bakit ako pa?
Watching this in midst of celebrating Pride Month. Total supporter of LGBTQIA++ community.
Missin' my friends to have this kind of conversation. Proud of my friends out there na dating bilang palang kaming nakaka alam who they are, but now they are part of LGBTQIA++ community events to celebrate this month. 💗💗
first time to watch and I am amazed with how Chardie speaks, very intelligent!!!!
Sobra akong nakarelate. 🥺💯 And feel ko para lang akong nakikipagkwentuhan sa inyo while listening ❤️
Same! We’re vibing! The feeling is mutual. Charrr
such genuine hearts and brilliant minds. walang dapat itago o ikahiya sa mga sarili nyo or everyone for that matter. as long as wala kang tinatapakang tao.
this podcast deserves million views!
I have a lot of friends na part ng LGBTQIA++ community and 'yung stories na hindi sila accepted after nila nag-out is truly heartbreaking. As a mom, sisiguraduhin kong hindi kailangan itago sa akin ng mga anak ko kung sino ang tunay na sila. Please keep on educating us!! Ang galing nyong apat mag-deliver especially Chardie B!
One thing that I observed is ang deep ni Chardieee❤ and you are all amazing full of sense. Congrats on your First Episode🎉
Yes tama nga nmn po. kikilatisin ka muna ng tao kung confirm ba na straight, bakla or bi ka kasi dyan din sila mag babase on how to confront you. pag di pa nila na confirm yan iilang ilang talaga yung pag lapit or approach nila sayu kasi di pa nila confirm kung ano kaba talaga pero perspective na nila na isa ka sa community na talaga.
All of them in one frame makes me so happy❤
This is what was instilled in our culture because of the religious beliefs that mandate who we are and how we need to behave.
It's not about Catholicism but same as Islam.
PAG KINALABAN NIYO KO LAHAT SILA MAGAGALIT SAYO LALO NA MGA ALAGA KO
Ang ganda ng topic.
Uy pero kinakabahan ako kay Chardie, baka mapikon siya sa mga susunod na episodes.
This video is making my mind more wide lalo na sa part na nag oopen up sila freely about how they feel or how the culture affect us. What they all say have a point. As a straight person I love seeing LGBTQ+ members being able to be theirselves and freely states their opinion and perspective
bkit? kailangan patunayan? simply because that will be your sweet revenge. those people wanted and expecting you to fail.. so prove them wrong and disappoint them with ur success. sampal sa knila yun. i love you guys .
Gays and Trans sa America are out of control. I love this podcast so much because I am proud of all Filipino gays and trans. Bias? Yes! How you guys answered all the questions proves my point. I hope you guys influence LGBTQ ALL OVER THE WORLD. Also, I hope Bretman Rock is part of this VENUE. 😅
Basta ang alam ko, masarap st no dull moment pag may kaibigang bakla...sobrang pranka din magsalita dahil totoo sila sa nararamdaman nila. I love how they make other people happy despite na may sarili din silang pinagdadaanan.
Finally i found a new vlog that can actually makes me understand the true reality of being an lgbtq+ i want to know their feelings and sentiments because i know for me they are part of the community. I hope they can open their podcast to community and can asked a questions like me because my daughter is part of lgbtq community and I still don’t know how to approach her and talk to her about it i hope your podcast enlightens me to understand it😊 I accept my daughter because I really love her and I will support her in every step of the way….❤
I have a lot of gay friends and their families accept them and love them I love hanging out with them cause you will never have a blues day, you will forget all your problems and they will accept you for who you are and what you are I love you my gay friends they are not just a friend they are my family ❤❤❤🌈🌈🌈🌈
truly I can relate of what chardie said that "kapag my pera mapupunta sa lalaki" my aunt was always telling this to me since i was highschool, it's really hard though that You are working yourself but it always remind you na parang bakit ganun gina isip nila mga bagay na di naman di porket matanda sila, tama na sila. now I am college its okay and masaya ako pag gina kamusta but beside of that kamusta my biglang sasbihin sayo na "my lalaki ka na jan sa bh mo?" like ah?? bakit?? ganto ba ako sainyo??? n
I am straight pero as I watched this vid, may lesson akong natutunan which is bakit nga naman kailangan nating may mapatunayan sa ibang mga taong puro negative ang sinasabi sa atin when in fact wala naman silang ambag sa buhay natin.
Parang sa akin, I am a shifter kasi diko kinaya yung dati kong course. Ang dami kong naririnig even my titas na bakit raw nag shift ako. Dapat raw nag stop nalang raw muna ako para mag soul searching. Ang mas malala pa sinabihan ng tito ko yung mama ko na parang karma raw yon sa parents ko yung ginawa kong pag shift. (Kasi nag away yung parents and tito ko para don sa kabit ng tito ko na nag rereyna reynahan sa bahay ng lola kong namayapa) Masakit makarinig ng ganon pero sabi ko sa sarili ko na bakit ko naman sila pakikinggan kung wala naman silang ambag sa buhay at hindi naman sila nagbibigay ng pang matrikula ko. Sa parents ko nga wala akong naririnig na kahit ano kahit sila ang sumusoporta sa pag aaral ko pagkatapos ang lakas mag sakita ng ibang tao na wala naman ginastos saken at hindi naman ako pinaalamon.
Wala akong pake sa opinion ng ibang tao basta ang mahalaga saken ay ang pamilya kong sinusoportahan ako sa lahat ng bagay lalo na financial support.
Bukod sa kailangan maging open minded ang mga tao dapat ipasa din ang sogie bill🙏🙏🙏
I love gays❤ I’m straight woman pero the gays around me are the very best people… some gays betrayed me but they’re still the best people you can trust❤
Grabe sobrang relate. Thank you for this topic. Looking forward to more content like this.
I think, unconsciously, kailangan nating may patunayan kasi ramdam nating mina-maliit tayo ng society. "Bakla" is STILL used to degrade someone. Kapag duwag, bakla. Kapag bakla, parlorista "lang".
Unconsciously, gusto nating patunayan na hindi natin maipa-pahiya 'yung mga magulang natin at mapatunayan na mali yung thinking nila sa atin.
I am straight but I have family members and friends that are members of the LGBTQIA++ community. I think the reason why they have a lot to prove is because they are always seen as deficient. There is something missing which is heartbreaking.
Finally a content na may matutunan talaga di lang puro pranks ❤
Loving this podcast 🥰
i can relate with Steven especially sa part with "looking for love"...
to compensate -- i think this is what summarizes it.
Ako, wala ako gusto patunayan sa madlang people. Basta ginagawa ko ang gusto ko at I make sure na wala ako nasasaktan tao sa mga kasiyahan na ginagawa ko. Wala din ako pake sa mga snsbi nila. Hindi din ako nag out sa family ko. Kasi hindi ko naman kailngan gawin yun.
I agree with the fact na we need to identify ourselves na because people are now confused just for example pag nkikipagfling ka you thought someone is straight and later gay Pala... I mean hindi naman lahat nadadaan sa pakiramdaman. kasi ung Ibang gay naoofend din cla Kung sir/ maam tawag sa kanila eh they look straight naman so sa pronouns palang naooffend na kau how much more for other things... Just tell us I guess now we are open and supportive and continue to be understanding slowly. I have a crush before and talked to him I appreciated him however he said not to be into him coz he's gay being truthful might hurt other people but atleast it controls the damage. I support the LGBTQ+ and you guys have proven enough and remove a lot of stereotypes of being gay still I hope we understand people who are traditional where they are coming from and not force them to treat you the way you want to be treated. Coz in general not all people are treated well as they wanted.
This is the real content!! Yung tipong may meaning and may saysay. ❤️
TRANSFORMATION AND ACCESS LANG YAN DAPAT TOTOO
Super Sarap nila panourin and ang dami ding lessons ❤
Mali ata na sa office ko to pinanood I'm bawling right now sobrang dami ko ding realizations while listening.
I just watched this video now and I thank everyone of you for making this video, topic , I can relate so much .. 😢 naiyak ako sa part na you are like praying so much na sana maging straight kanalang pero hindi talaga .. thank you for letting me realize na di lang pala ako yung ganon ..
What I liked pa sa video nyo is yung maiiyak kana tas biglang may mag papatawa so iyak tawa talaga ako huhuh❤❤😢
Thank you for all of the advise and super nakakabitin naman tong topic natooo juskoooo sana mas habaan nyo paaaaa love you guys ❤
I can relate to the concept that you have to show to everyone your best efforts in order to dispel the stigma associated with being gay. This is true not only in our country, kasi ang tagal lang ng acceptance dito sa atin dahil sa Religion natin.
Bakit nga po ba? Why make it super complicated? We do not belong to the set of people who discriminate your community. We co-exist. For me as long as we live accordingly okay un. ❤❤❤
Love to watch this group🎉
Pero ako talaga Ang TaaS Ng pagtjngin ko sa mga kapatid na LGBTQ KC halos lahat napakatalented, napakawitty.
I think tama si Warren and Ms. Deliciousness, our society as major catholic most people think na salot tayo sa bayan. Yun kse yung panahon na laganap yung ganoong kaisipan, ganoong label or tagged as "Salot". Ang nangyare, LGBT community are consciously or subconsciously have to prove ourself to do great things, to be good citizen, and to prove those people wrong who said na Salot tayo.
OMG!!! Chardie, I felt you!!! Naiiyak ako!!! Sobrang relatable!!! Dapat palaging matalino, palaging magaling sa lahat, we always need to exert extra effort!
Steven: pwede ka magkaroon ng talk show. Galing mo mag-host lalo na sa pag open nung topic and yung pag-ask ng questions, and pagnaliligaw na sa topic binabalik mo smoothly.
Chardie: I really felt you. Ramdam na ramdam kita, every words na bibitawan mo i really need to listen and that’s your power. Very sincere.
Poca: magaling ka din sa pag-share not just your personal view but, interjecting such as yung culture and social perspective, ang galing!
Ms. D: I’m glad I’m hearing you being serious and sensitive. Literally we are seeing your other side.
*Steven and Chardie: Ganda ng chemistry nyo sa hosting.
Ang gaganda ng perspectives niyo. Good jobs, guys! Congrats and ang meaningful ng pilot episode! Clap clap!
“The voice of the unheard” - Chardie, 2023
“Embrace who you truly are” - Warren, 2023
“Don’t be to hard on yourself”, “mas maganda ako sa mama mo” - Ms. D, 2023
“Don’t force yourself for people to love you”, “focus on yourself and you will flourish” - Steven Bansil, 2023
Thank you for this episode. I'm one of your fans. Would love to watch more videos of you. Keep shining.😊
Yung seryoso ka tapos may sisingit na pam basag moment.hahaha😂nice topic.
Mga Mii!!! Congratulations ❤🎉
Sarap ng discussion at nung topic😘😍
OMG I can relate to Chardie..almost same story as mine...
I love that you discussed that there isn't a need for us to excuse ourselves by the act of 'outing' ourselves to our families. I have nothing against those who do, but I find it to be such a Western concept. For sure, alam na ng mga magulang natin kung bakla tayo. But, if it helps the journey, some people might find the need for it. Love how the topics are intelligently, candidly and comic-ly digested. More!
Galing. Nice pilot will continue to listen as i have same experience with all of you
i feel chardie so much parehas kmi ng sitwasyon nung bata aku
I'm so proud of you guys !
ganda ng mga topic nila..it make sense❤❤
Salamat po sa topic nato.looking forward to more episodes and content like this.
This brings back memories, difficult and painful to remember. And still trying heal decades after.
wala po kaung dpt ptunyn,lalo n kung tanggap po kau ng magulng nio,ng buong buo.hindi nio kailngn mgpliwng sa iba tao,dhil wala silang ambg sa buhy nio,un lng po.god bless all po sa inyo.
I think na contribute rin na kailangan may ma patunayan tayo kasi minority parin ang LGBTQ+ community. To feel less shameful (for lack of better words), kailangan may ma-achieve tayo to still have the sense of worth na may kaya tayo kahit "bakla ka lang", Plus in an asian household, it's a big deal to maintain a high status in academics and/or talents. When there's stigma surrounding the fact that LGBTQ+ are minorities and "not normal", we are compelled to further prove ourselves, especially in our own households na our sexuality doesn't define and limit our capabilities as a person. Even when these years are considered "open-minded" now, di parin nawawala ung mga side-comments katulad ng na mention sa 12:31 na maybe comes from good intentions pero di nila narerealize na nagiging ignorant ung pag-iisip and mas lalong na-eenhance ung stigma na someone's sexuality is a con ("Bakla sya pero ____", "Magaling kumanta pero kilos nya parang bakla", "Mayaman naman sya bakit parin naging ____", etc)
We're conditioned to be used to these behaviors from other people na and it's sad :( In reality we don't have to prove ourselves na bakla tayo and we also don't need to prove our worth just because they see the queer community as lower beings.
To me, religion is a very weak and tasteless reason for people to hate and discriminate on anyone especially in Catholicism/Christianity because the main lesson, the main purpose, and the most powerful commadment by Jesus is to "Love thy neighbor as much". Bible talk is very contradicting and genuinely not the most reliable source of where we should base our morality in when we take a look at the recent translations and see a lot of contemporary words when in reality those words aren't coined during BC times. A very well known example is the word "Homosexuality" in the Bible.
I can go on and on about this since I've done a bit of research before for a short paper I needed to do, but in short a lot of the 'boy to boy' sexual tendencies in other translations that aren't english refer to pedophilia, adultery, gang rape, and slavery, NOT AT ALL referring to the actual sexuality.
Most of the LGBTQ people I knew are independent, talented and excel in their chosen career ❤
This is worth sharing..humahagalpak ako literal! Ang sarap, I belong because it’s a great avenue! Hahahaha pota 🌈
I love you guys!!!
at tanggapin n dn ntn na hnd lht ng tao maiintindihan at tatanggapin tayo.
Suggestion guy’s listen with earphones, superb ramdam from within
For me po ha kaya need natin may mapatunayan para kasing sa mga salitang balak ka lang ! na ito yung laging naririnig natin sa knila .Parang dahil gusto natin may maipakita pa sa ibang tao na hindi lang ako/kami bakla pero bakla na may pangarap, may trabaho, nakakatulong sa pamilya. Mindset na natin siya na iprove to others na we are not only a gay, lesbian etc. Na para hindi tayo idown ng iba kaya ginagawa natin yun
all of you were perfect.. i love you..
siguro kaya parang may pina patunayan ay dahil the society automatically thinks negatively if you are part of lgbtq+ community since natural na sa tao ang ijudge ang something na they dont understand. Though most of the people na nag jujudge is wala nman silbi sa buhay nung jinujudge. Minsan naman others are already expecting for you not to be successful kaya people in the community tends to make sure they have more to offer.
BAKLA BA KAMO? ANG TATALINO EH, D NA MAHALAGA ANG GENDER ANG IMPORTANTE MABABAIT AT NAPAPALIGAYA PA AKO OR KAHIT SINO NA NANUNUOD NITONG VIDEO. KEEP GOING MGA BAKS!!!
Congratulations!!!!
The main question po Siguro that most people confused also is that, especially homophobic how did we start of being gay, like decision po ba natin to or influence of what we were seeing.. just to clarify these thigs out.. para lang din maaware ung mga taong bakit b kasi may mga bakla..
Wow! I never imagined seeing you in one screen!
Next podcast po sana about transwomen sa women sports. I badly want to hear your thoughts about that controversial topic. Hope manotice. Thanks!!!
Wow!!!!just wow❤❤❤ please do more of this!! i just love it❤❤❤
more vlogggs po at topics pleaseeeeee😍
Thank you for sharing your experiences mga mamsh. ❤
True for one doesn’t mean true for all❤❤❤❤
I don't think peer pressure only happens to a specific community but to everyone especially if you are around people who are hypocrites and frustrated with their life. I am straight but I surely experienced that from my relatives. They just don't respect you if you do not pass within their standards especially when it comes to personal beliefs, how you dress, how you carry yourself, how you make friends and etc.
Ang saya ng tandem nyo..
Totoo ung you have to accept urdself muna, tskak k plng sasaya... i know becoz i exprerienced it... nung. Dumating dn ako sa point na i prayed na sana straight n lng ako... kasi ang hirap hirap...
Compensatory mechanism siguro for us not be judged
Louder❤
Super relate nung mag cocollege nako nag away mama at papa ko kasi ayaw ni papa ako pag aralin dahil bakla ako at lalaki lng makikinabang sakin.