New Year Reflections And Intentions 2018
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- Happy New year! Here are some of my reflections on 2017 and some goals and intentions for 2018. Also a general mental health catch up and goings on with me and an update about our Mumsy's health and well being.
All the best to you all for 2018, Im excited to share another year with you all!
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Happy New year lovely people! I am very excited to be spending another year with you all, sharing the ups and downs and everything in between!
Finn, you are my martial arts. You ground me, you center me, and you help me with my mild dysphoria.
+downyknight oh that's new! I like being your martial arts! Bless You!!!!
You are such an inspiration. I’ve been in your shoes with my own mum. It’s hard. I didn’t take care of myself enough. I’m glad you are thinking of yourself. You are always in my thoughts. So proud of you.
+FTMDaniel bless you buddy. Sorry to hear you've been in the same boat. It is indeed very tough. Thanks my dear friend
What you say about goals makes a lot of sense Finn. I wish I could get my son to think that way. He is much harder and more demanding of himself than anyone else is, which causes him much pain and anxiety, and it breaks my heart.
We can be our own worse enemies at times! I have had to learn to better balance my own perfectionism, it goes hand in hand with depression and anxiety...we think we are less than and so we are always over demanding of ourselves to make ourselves perfect so we can be as good as/likeable/lovable/ etc. AA has a saying which has really helped me, "progress not perfection" and now l more highly value growing and moving more than getting things perfect .... if that makes sense?
Finn! So very glad to see your face buddy😊. Remember your moments with mom are precious like you said! I live a sober life, with bi-polar/manic depression and have been a carer myself. Advice I was given that I found helpful was, when you feel yourself getting off allow yourself 10 min and tell yourself to then get on with it. It helped a lot and hope it may help sometimes for you. Bless you Finn for living and sharing your life I know it helps me♥️
Dear Finn....Happy new year to you!!!! You deserve it!!!! You are right, after all the up and down you lived past year and shared with us, you need a breath because to be underpressin makes us consider the things in a worst way. Sometimes, while i’m in a mess of decisions to take, in a mess of anxieties about me or my family, a good news arrives, a good situation that helps me, unespectedly. I wish the same for you and I’m sure it’ll be! A big big hug!😘
I am glad to hear that you have made an acceptance and understanding with your previous relationship with mum from years ago and accept things in the here and now. I am so so happy for the relationship between you and Mark......as a care person you need to have that kind of support. I know from experience with taking care of my Dad. It's hard for us at times to see our parents now in the reverse role of being the one needing to be cared for. You talk about Day by day and that as u probably know more now is the best way to be involved with your mom.
Dear Finn...happy new year to you!!! You really deserve it. You are right, After all the up and down you’ve lived last year, and shared with us, you need to take a big breath beacause to be underpression makes us consider the things in a worst way. Sometimes, while I’m in a mess of decisions to take, in a mess of anxieties about me or my family, suddently a good news arrives, a good situation that helps me so I wish the same for you and I’m sure it’ll be. A big big hug! 😘
Thanks for sharing your experiences Finn....I so get it, recovery is totally linked to everything in life and reveals so much more than we could ever imagined, including a life beyond our wildest imaginings! Blessings and peace for a revealing 2018! And mental health too, so intertwined to daily life...taking each day as it comes and doing our best, meeting challenges mindfully and with kindness for our soul. I love hearing your thoughts as they serve as another reminder for me about moving forward positively and living life on life’s terms. Life is cray cray 😜 right?!!! Totally unexpectedly and surprising! Thank you 🙏🏽😍
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on new years resolutions and how you live each day. It was the first time I heard someone with my same philosophy on daily living and organic goal setting. Wishing you and your family all the best. Alex
Its the most sensible way to maintain ones mental health I think! Wishing you all the best too my friend!
Oh, I just found your channel and am binge watching them & loving them so much! Thank you for your incredible courage, honesty, and fabulousness!! I love you already! You, sir, are a huge inspiration. I can’t wait for more! 😘 sitting here waiting for your books! Love from Illinois USA ❤️
+Ms Adventures l LOVE this!!! Welcome to our amazing finnfam! Thank you for your kindness and for being here!
I've been watching so many of your videos this weekend and I'm so happy to have found your channel. Just downloaded the Yearly compass (+ i love bullet journaling). I can really relate to what you talked about regarding balancing mental health issues and paid work. The challenge to find ways to recover, grow and take proper care of yourself and at the same time giving so much of your time and energy to your workplace is this never-ending spiral of unsolved equations.... Sending you the best of energies, hoping the universe does the same
Its important for people with mental health challenges (like us) to take things day by day and step by step i do this as well - its important for us to recognize when we need to take care of ourselves, when we might need that head space. Much love to you Finn and Mumsy.
Thank you for this update, Finn. So good to get a more complete picture - Instagram is wonderful and your photos are, too, and I can understand by what you post there. Your mum looks super sweet and adorable, funny and seems to have such a wonderful approach to what's going on in her life. How sweet the relationship you both have with each other - and your brother. Thinking of you and your family. You sound good, buddy, even in the face of challenges. Bless your sweet heart. Happy 2018! LOVE
Thank you so much my friend, I love her, I want to do the best I can by her as she has done by me. I shall be updating more regularly again now that things have settled down, in fact ive just uploaded an update. I am finding this all to be a huge challenge but I am blessed with a ton of support and a solid mental health program so its all ok! Much love to you!
FinnTheInfinncible I’m so happy to hear that you’re supported and have that mental health game down, my friend. Will watch your update as when I get in tonight. 🙏🏽🧡🙂
Awww Finn! You're taking great care of yourself. Never feel guilty (about the job) about putting yourself first. You're inspirational! Happy New Year ☺
You sound so centered and solid! I know you've worked very hard to get to this point, and I know you'll say you have a lot of work yet to do, but we all do! Yay for what you've accomplished, and for what's ahead for you as well! Tell Lamby he doesn't have to sneak bananas while your vlogging; they're good for you! If he is going to sneak something, it might as well be chocolate. Prayers for mum, and of course, for YOU as well.
+friendoftherese1 ha! He is so cheeky!!! He knows those bananas are for my porridge!
Thank you for your kindness, l feel so proud for being so centred around all this upheaval. I love working on myself, it's a joy....even in the tough times!
Sending u and hubby a ton of love!
I've kinda always seen you as a bit of an entrepreneur, rather than a 9 to 5-er. You've got all these ideas popping and bubbling out of your head that a 9 to 5 wouldn't really encourage the exploration of to their full capacity, unless it was the kind of job that gave you a lot of freedom to work with your ideas, because they are the type of ideas that bring about new ground and really help people. The evidence is found in your comments from people all around your TH-cam channel and across your social media of people really valuing what you have to say and that you really help them.
I reckon it would benefit doing a small business course, which would show you the structure of setting up your own business.
Apart from being a writer, you're also a fantastic speaker. It's amazing how you can just set up the camera and stand in front of it and speak about stuff indepthly and unscripted, and it all makes a lot of sense and impacts people in a very positive way and gives people stuff to think about and relate to their own life.
The contents of this vlog remind me of the spiritual rune, 'Jera'- where it represents the farmer planting seeds and nurturing and fertilising the soil, in preparation for his crops to grow when they are ready to grow. It's about where good preparation meets opportunity. If you put the preparation in now and get all your ducks (or clouds) lined up in a row, then you'll be ready for when opportunity shows itself. I say clouds in this case cos it reminds me of that day you went to Eastbourne beach and all the clouds were lined up in a row ☁️☁️☁️☁️🕊
I don't mean this in a patronising way but I am so proud of you for not giving in to drink and drugs even though you have had such a tough year.I know it must have been so tough dealing with staying recovered,your mental health,your mum being ill and moving house.I for one would buy your book.Wishing you love and an easier and healthier 2018 xxx
+sarah wardle not patronising at all thank you. It is tough....the temptation to blot it all out with a substance is very strong at times. Luckily I have a solid recovery programme and lm able to think logically enough to know that doing so would not help. I've gained so much in recovery and all that would go if l picked up a drink or a drug. Bless you for your kindness xxx
Yay you're back. I've missed your beautiful personality. Even though I'm just a plain old grandma. I find your way of looking at life in general very helpful. . I had gerbil's 20 plus years ago. Mama rat. Daddy rat and Baby rat was their names. I'm so glad you addressed the gerbil's. I don't like asking about things in one's home. Glad your back . Cheers
I Hope the Best for you every single day of this year Finn.✌💖
Amen brotha!! I have to say, you make me smile. Just with your intro!!
ahhhhh you are lovely, now you made me smile too, thank you!
All sounds quite reasonable to me. I don't make resolutions either because I feel too much pressure in myself and if I fail, it just brings me lower than I already am. Loving the color of your new journal... I love journals but I can never keep them. I just never have anything to use them for lol my life isn't interesting enough. I got your card a couple days ago as well but I've been sick in bed and just forgot to say thank you... Oops! I'm glad you enjoyed the sheepy envelope! The ink pad I was using was so dried out, it took ages to get all those sheep on lol. Ezie (short for Esmeralda) is pronounced "ehh-zee" rather than "eee-zee" but she doesn't mind lol... I call her turd a lot so it's all fine lol. Love you! Happy New year!
+13juniper LMAO!!!! Well that's the cutest turd I've ever seen!!! Finding that sheep card on my door mat on Friday made my day! I agree 're resolutions. Better to just set small goals and intentions. Much better for ones mental well being!!! I find bullet journalling so versatile and great for my mental health. Love to u sweets!!!! Thanks again!! Xx
You had a hell of a year and handled it beautifully, my friend. Looking forward to sharing 2018 with you!
There's that handsome face. 😊💕 Never, ever feel guilty about taking time for yourself. You're right...you can't look after mumsy if you're not well. We understand.
I relate to so much of what you said. I owe you an email...I'll write soon!! P.S....I wish your prezzie would arrive!!! Agh!! Lol 😊❤😊
I agree with the whole organic thing. My New Year's resolutions are pretty small (eat another serving of vegetables a day) or pretty nebulous and open (allow myself more creative time and freedom). What those look like today and tomorrow could be completely different things. (Today I had pizza sauce on my breakfast! Maybe I'll have some squash for snack tomorrow, who knows?) It's okay to not box yourself in :)
XOX - this is a wonderful video. Thanks.
They all sound like more than reasonable goals mate and I think it's important to take things day by day, especially with all the hurdles you've come accross this year. You are so strong, you can get through & do anything you set your mind to.
Ahhhhh yay! I am so glad you got it! And thank you my friend :)
I think I've mentioned it before but I can't rememver, I do the same thing. Making goals instead of resolutions that is. I completely agree that long and short term goals are much better and give a person more room for change and success. Unlike the stereotypical New Years resolution.
I'm glad to see you got the card Nova and I sent. :)
I loved the card, thank you! Lovely post New year surprise! I agree with you, short goals are far better for ones growth and self esteem! All the best t you my dear friend!
You are amazing. If I lived anywhere near you I would definitely ask you to be my sponsor. You have SO many parallels to my story.
+Timothy River it woyks be my honour!
FinnTheInfinncible , so like I don't have a computer and messaging on the TH-cam app doesn't work. Can you shoot me an email? I'm in the middle of some life changes and I need someone to talk to. I'm also ftm in recovery: Myrthman@gmail.com
Be Well :)
hugs james
Hi Finn! I love your vlogs and it’s helped me a lot with my own transition. I’m pre everything but I have a question.
As I’m writing this it’s just hours from my first shot of T. And well, frankly, I’m really nervous about what if I regret this someday? What if my dad had right and everything in my life will be ruined. It’s making me feel really bad even though these three years I’ve felt so much more comfortable and happy for being out. I don’t know, is it weird I feel like this?
My freind its not weird at all, this is a massive decision and a huge leap into the unknown. We can only make decisions from how we feel NOW as we cannot possibly know the future. Take a deep breath and trust yourself, youve got this far and gone through a lot of self reflection Im sure. People can often make us doubt ourselves but in some ways this can be helpful as it calls us to look deeply and be really sure. I had similar worries....what if I regret this, but once that shot went in all I felt was huge relief and as I started changing it just reaffirmed how right this was for me. If this doesnt happen for you then you will have your answer and can stop testosterone, as long as you stop early enough there will be no lasting effects. Either way you will know after that shot. Im happy to chat further if you need, I get it!
Hey Finn 💙🐏💙 I'm interested in the depression group you spoke of...Keep us updated please 😊
It sounds great doesnt it! I will keep you informed!
Thank you 😊💙
I’ve made an error to send the same message. Sorry!