Overcoming Trauma - Onesmus Mboya

Many of us grew up and live in a world where our significance is determined by how well we performed in school and around the community and how well we behave. Any action or behaviour contrary to expectations attracts emotional rejection and physical pain.
Onesmus Mboya was expected to always be a good boy. These expectations followed him into adulthood. The trauma of having to grow up and live in a world where he had to prove his significance would explode in his later years. This writer, father, and unplugged seeker shares his story of the burden of childhood trauma and how he’s dealing with it.
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[@johnsonokeyo545]

I now understand Facebook posts Elder Mboya. The greatest gift is life and life after.

[@omondiantony1207]

God bless you Mr. Onesmus, you have conformed to me that it is important to be true to you,. society, peer pressure and family can drive into something that they themselves want for you but they will not be there to ride it with you. Thank you Sir

[@kattyjoules8101]

I relate to this. It took a bad relationship to bring all that was swept under the rug. They need to be dealt with.

[@tabithakasina3711]

True we need to give love to ourselves first before we extent it to others

[@johnjames4169]

Thank you for sharing, I can relate to this. Glad that you discovered yourself.

[@sharonirungu2092]

Thank you for sharing your story.

[@fredgori8510]

I love your story, Elder Mboya. I totally understand you now

[@mangoyacho]

Thank you for sharing your story. Very eye-opening indeed.

[@lilianmutea2133]

A life changing experience well told.

[@Muthonie]

The African culture conundrum; to fit in or not. To create an authentic life based on personal strengths, goals and ambitions or to fall in place, do what your told, how you are told to do it and enjoy alignment with society at the expense of your soul's satisfaction. Thank you for your vulnerability.

[@annmumbi4960]

What a courageous move. I wanted to hear more. Sometimes i feel caught up by society and church expectations, but do i do the will of God?

[@robertongaki753]

You chose life, live it bro

[@muguremurumba6553]

Beautiful!!!!!!!❤❤❤

[@letstalkwithsarah]

Wow.I love your eloquence,articulation and honest truth.

[@rosemarywanjiru2038]

Do Alabastron

[@jassymisole8072]

Your story resembles mine a lot. Trying to find my way to healing, to independence and freedom.

[@sallyobonyo3114]

Elder Mboya...I finally can put a face to the Facebook posts.

[@bobogitau5383]

My dear friend mboya. Baraka tele

[@lyllyanlutta]

Time heals. Nothing just happens- TD Jakes.

[@sarahjustice526]

When you are in that sunken place you must seek help.We must heal from our childhood trauma

[@EngageTalk]

True Sarah!

[@lutfanjeri8394]

This was amazing... Freedom 👌

[@sarahjustice526]

Life is hard when all you do is fit into the societal boxes

[@catherinemuli5047]

Say that again 👏

[@priscillamathenge9245]

Developing self approval is very crucial...

[@angelkyalo525]

wow !!!

[@quinteratieno9806]

This is powerful... I'm your silent follower on facebook...all this time I've been trying to understand you...now I do ..
Your story coincidentally matches Robin Sharma's book; The Monk who Sold his Ferrari.....find it...hope it comes in handy

[@rosemarywanjiru2038]

Do Alabastron

[@chitwak4568]

Woooooow!

[@dorothyotieno4608]

Wow! In Sema na JG its abit complicated.

[@wangarimuriithi8748]

When he said he relocated to a small island at the coast, is when I knew he was the same gentleman on Sema na JG.
I hope and pray he gets peace. As they say, the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
It is an enlightening talk. Each one of us must match to the beat of our own drum.

[@collinskodhek6808]

Ones I like the man you've turned out to be

[@emmyaloyo3495]

Wow

[@rosemarywanjiru2038]

Do Alabastron

[@linokungu9195]

What is the story here? May we see a picture of that bed under a tree in Kilifi? Who was taking care of your kids? Sorry, women do not have the luxury to walk out, borrow money from friends and take a vacation from life.

[@maureenjagona8138]

Go see his FB it has the pics and all the gist

[@meggwambui1991]

I find it whinny. What's wrong with expectations and standards? Sounds like excuses to me. what is the pain here? And you will do it again and again if you don't own up.

[@carenthuz8055]

when expectations are unrealistic and the standards are really high and society will use them to disqualify you as a man or a father and will make feel like looser and piece trash

[@peninaawuor]

I was looking for this comment ..this guy just have a bunch of excuses … we were all punished for bad behavior and rewarded of otherwise

[@tushyranx5860]

It(marriage) ain't no rosy

[@kennedyongati2283]

Too much language, but nothing tangible! Soo what really happened?

[@wangarimuriithi8748]

Watch Sema na JG. She interviewed him on one of her shows.

[@charlesadhola]

@@wangarimuriithi8748 the feedback was not good and some aspects came out that would make one raise concerns

[@alambez]

hehehe

[@peninaawuor]

There’s something about his ATT I don’t like … full of excuses… These are the kind of ppl who will find excuse for just about anything… he plays the victim card too much … not my cup of tea … there’s completely no reason in that story to get you to depression … clearly the wife couldn’t put up … I’ve dealt with ppl of this character they’re super annoying…

[@johnsonokeyo545]

Take your story to engage too

[@trendy2545]

Wow