I’ve been motivated by this very thing! My most difficult child has pushed me wayyyyy outside my comfort zone and brought me to the point of giving up by letting the government come and take him or getting better. I chose getting better. I knew I would regret sending him away. One, because he is my responsibility and two, because I do love him and didn’t want to inflict a different kind of trauma in his life. He’s only 14 and not going to like his mom for various reasons anyway. How many teens don’t? I got to the point of a nearly complete emotional and psychological breakdown in June. I could barely compute basic daily tasks and struggled with what would it take for me to check myself into a mental ward of a hospital because I had trouble even taking care of myself, let alone my husband and two other children plus the dog and the cat. Other than going to work I felt like it was my duty to do everything else. What it all ended up revealing to me was that I had a severe lack of boundaries and wanted others - especially my family - to be well taken care of despite the fact that I discovered I was only imitating what I saw others do and wanted to emulate. Well, that isn’t me. That was them - and their family. Seeking help is something that isn’t comfortable to me but I did it anyway and I’ve grown so much in one year! I’m just now learning how to become the best me and then teach the rest of my family along the way to help them become the best they can be as well. Regret is a catalyst if one knows how to use it properly. It fuelled my innermost desire to mother well and lose the last bit of selfishness that I didn’t know I was clinging onto. I’ve got a long way to go yet but I am a learner through and through and won’t quit. Thanks for this interview and I will go and check out his book. ☺️
Amazing perspective on something we're conditioned to not do. Regret is human nature and can be used as a fire of burning desire to excel later. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Todays episode with Daniel Pink is absolute Fire and a Must to Listen to. This episode really resonated with me because I’m a perfectionist, caused by my biggest fear of looking stupid which causes inaction leading to a majority of my regrets. Some key takeaways are: The four categories of regret are foundation, Boldness, Moral, & Connection. Get over regrets by being Inward, outward, & Forward Utilizing self disclosure, self compassion, and self distancing. anybody who proclaims no regrets Is saying no learning no growing. The fact that you’re processing regret is a tremendous indicator that you’re a great person which can lead to bliss and happiness. Avoid group rumination by following the process and listing the lessons learned. Because of my perfectionism The part that really resonated with me is that we learn more from taking action and listing the lessons learned from our mistakes along the way than trying to be perfect in our planning. Acting is a form of Learning it’s not separate from learning. Much Love and Aloha!
The timing of this episode for me was impeccable. Learning from Daniel how to process regret (in, out, forward), that group rumination is not good, and the science regarding how we anticipate and process regret was eye-opening! I highly recommend everyone watch or listen to this!
Awesome as usual. Gotta say, you're truly an amazing interviewer who always extracts the golden nuggets from your guests. This one was no different. Like Pink said - "thanks for making me think".
wonderful. Really enjoyed this one. At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, or a parent. - Barbara Bush
This was a HUGE show for Me. I am with WFG and I am not where I thought I would be after 15 years of being with the company. If I fast forward 5 years, I would most certainly regret not working smarter. So, thank you for the show. Let me get to work NOW so I limit or eliminate that future regret.
Thank you brother . I can see how much effords you are putting in making the episodes . Great work. Regret is definitely key to accelerate and grow in life.age is not just a number for sure , with time we become wiser and better decision maker. Self reflection has been the key tool for me in enriching my life. God bless
This interview was EXACTLY what I needed to hear!! I have spent so many years beating myself up over my past mistakes. For the first time I am considering the idea that I felt that way BECAUSE I'm a good person who wants to make good choices. Every minute of the interview was amazing. I will be picking Daniel's book up! Thank you Ed, for always and consistently bringing me interviews that aren't just fluff but people, ideas, concepts that TRULY change and improve my life! You are gifted! Thanks for sharing your gift!
I appreciate this so much! Too often we live in fear of making regrets and over analyzing our decisions to create the best possible outcomes, when really focusing on the journey and the lessons we become the person we’re meant to be. We are a sum of all our decisions, but not always ! Especially suffering the loss of a loved one, like Ed says about his father, that’s not something we choose to have regrets about, the only lesson I would say that comes of a death, is the appreciation of time, quality of time, and meaningful interactions. You’re amazing! Both of you have incredible perspectives and I’m glad to get to hear them, and learn from them.
Fantastic interview Mr. Mylett! Regrets for some actions from the past couple of years have been “eating me alive”. This was really needed and thank you both! Can’t wait to reed the book on my next airplane ride.
I enjoyed this so much! I literally just finished up my therapy appointment with my therapist talking about the regrets I had in life (I recently made a list) and she said we needed to go over this in more detail. This truly helped me with all the things I was feeling today. I'll be getting the book, too. Thank you for another great podcast.
I was very skeptical as I started watching this video, but that quickly changed!! So many nuggets to digest and learning how to process the regrets I have was life changing! Definitely gonna get the book and share it with our team of health coaches! Thank you both for a very enlightening interview!!
@@EdMylettShow the impact is that instead of fighting and denying regret and feeling bad about it, i shift my focus to what i can control and the lessons that i can learn while using the counterfactual thinking. So thanks again to you and your guest.
Thank you Ed again for another POWERFUL Interview. I learned among other things that I need to learn to have self-compassion because I believe I'm too hard on myself.
Thank you, Ed!! This information couldn't have come at a better time for me. I really needed to hear this!! I will watch this video again and read Daniel's book.
What an absolutely fantastic interview!! So much insight into regrets and I have a book of regrets with a plethora of negative self-talk. I'm going to definitely get that book!!! Thank you !!!!
What an amazing interview. I've seen Daniel's Ted Talk from years ago and the topic of this one is so needed for so long but especially right now. Thanks for the insightful questions and excited to digest the book. Very grateful for you Ed Mylett. #MAXOUT
Great interview! Some great nuggets in there. I especially like the idea of a failure resume. That sounds like an amazing tool that can be used to pull yourself out of the past and begin focusing on the future, because you’re objectively working through the failures rather than just ruminating on them as mentioned in the show. Appreciate you both! #maxout
Hi Ed... Seeing your content notification a few minutes ago I hissed and almost swiped it away from my notification bar... Because I thought it was just another TH-cam recommended video... I almost didn't realise it was your content. Point is, attention spans are getting shorter as far as Social media is concerned... I almost missed your content because I thought it was someone I didn't know. So, please consider using your picture together with that of your guest speakers for your TH-cam thumbnail... This was one doesn't need to look at the title or who it's from. Merely looking at the thumbnail I would already know it's your content
This was a very interesting interview. I liked the thought of looking into the future and wondering what you might regret. I'd love a coaching call with you, Ed.
Group roomination is my biggest fear / obstacle. I believe in the theory of you are the average of the 5 most influential people in your life. If the people you associate with are all regretful/negative, how do you step out or change your sphere of influence?
1. Identify what things have you been doing that's purely because of peer pressure. 2. Replace those with things that are aligned to what you really want to do in life (maybe there's something you wanted to do for so long but your "friends" think it's lame) 3. Establish habits aligned to what matters to you At first I felt guilty for disconnecting with life long friends that wanted to smoke, drink, and party. I think it was impostor syndrome of having that old life and then suddenly wanting to do better. Be okay with being alone for a while or connect with people you already know that might be in the same frequency as you.
That is a powerful question and your reflection is spot on to get you the answer that is gonna move you. Have you since been able to get closer to the answer?
Another great video!!!!🔥💪🔥💪🔥💪🔥Ed, I love watching your videos and podcasts every morning! They are so inspiring and full of great contents!🙏🏼⚔️😇 #maxout #edmylett #iamfreakingoutstanding
I don't regret my abortion however the fetus had downs syndrome so perhaps my case is a different scenario. I do regret slacking off at my old careers. I kept on getting promotions but deep down I KNEW I was cutting corners and wasn't giving it my all. Not only did it steal from my self worth but it stole from my integrity.
If you dwell in regrets it means you’re not busy enough! You learn from those mistakes and missed opportunities and move on! Doctors make the wrong diagnosis quite often but don’t dwell on them, they keep moving because they have too! You can’t change the past, but you can change your present! Dogs don’t know about regret either, they live in the present! Regret can lead to depression and anxiety 😥, and who likes that?! Not me 🥺
Use your imagination to realize that if you don't study, exercise, save money etc. you WILL regret it! Use that knowledge to inspire discipline today❤🙏
I’ve been motivated by this very thing! My most difficult child has pushed me wayyyyy outside my comfort zone and brought me to the point of giving up by letting the government come and take him or getting better. I chose getting better. I knew I would regret sending him away. One, because he is my responsibility and two, because I do love him and didn’t want to inflict a different kind of trauma in his life. He’s only 14 and not going to like his mom for various reasons anyway. How many teens don’t? I got to the point of a nearly complete emotional and psychological breakdown in June. I could barely compute basic daily tasks and struggled with what would it take for me to check myself into a mental ward of a hospital because I had trouble even taking care of myself, let alone my husband and two other children plus the dog and the cat. Other than going to work I felt like it was my duty to do everything else. What it all ended up revealing to me was that I had a severe lack of boundaries and wanted others - especially my family - to be well taken care of despite the fact that I discovered I was only imitating what I saw others do and wanted to emulate. Well, that isn’t me. That was them - and their family.
Seeking help is something that isn’t comfortable to me but I did it anyway and I’ve grown so much in one year! I’m just now learning how to become the best me and then teach the rest of my family along the way to help them become the best they can be as well.
Regret is a catalyst if one knows how to use it properly. It fuelled my innermost desire to mother well and lose the last bit of selfishness that I didn’t know I was clinging onto. I’ve got a long way to go yet but I am a learner through and through and won’t quit.
Thanks for this interview and I will go and check out his book. ☺️
Amazing perspective on something we're conditioned to not do. Regret is human nature and can be used as a fire of burning desire to excel later. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
"All dreams are within reach. All you have to do is keep moving towards them."
-Viola Davis
Such an amazing quote! What pet of the interview brought that to mind?
Today on 22|03|2022 i am 22 years old
After watching this I feel like something changed in me.
I am going to focus on career , fitness .
Todays episode with Daniel Pink is absolute Fire and a Must to Listen to. This episode really resonated with me because I’m a perfectionist, caused by my biggest fear of looking stupid which causes inaction leading to a majority of my regrets. Some key takeaways are:
The four categories of regret are foundation, Boldness, Moral, & Connection. Get over regrets by being Inward, outward, & Forward Utilizing self disclosure, self compassion, and self distancing. anybody who proclaims no regrets Is saying no learning no growing. The fact that you’re processing regret is a tremendous indicator that you’re a great person which can lead to bliss and happiness. Avoid group rumination by following the process and listing the lessons learned. Because of my perfectionism The part that really resonated with me is that we learn more from taking action and listing the lessons learned from our mistakes along the way than trying to be perfect in our planning. Acting is a form of Learning it’s not separate from learning.
Much Love and Aloha!
I never knew Bob Sagat was such a wise author
Love this!!! My biggest regret, I learned to turn it around, say what no one wants to hear to help people. Thank you Ed!
My personal quote is “let your past regrets fuel your future success”
This science backs it up!
The timing of this episode for me was impeccable. Learning from Daniel how to process regret (in, out, forward), that group rumination is not good, and the science regarding how we anticipate and process regret was eye-opening! I highly recommend everyone watch or listen to this!
Awesome as usual. Gotta say, you're truly an amazing interviewer who always extracts the golden nuggets from your guests. This one was no different. Like Pink said - "thanks for making me think".
A little less planning, a little more ACTION! I felt that statement.
wonderful. Really enjoyed this one.
At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, or a parent. - Barbara Bush
My take away: "I want to do more acting and less planning." I really enjoyed this one - thanks Ed and Daniel :)
This was a HUGE show for Me. I am with WFG and I am not where I thought I would be after 15 years of being with the company. If I fast forward 5 years, I would most certainly regret not working smarter. So, thank you for the show. Let me get to work NOW so I limit or eliminate that future regret.
Excellent video Ed. Thank you.
Thank you brother . I can see how much effords you are putting in making the episodes . Great work. Regret is definitely key to accelerate and grow in life.age is not just a number for sure , with time we become wiser and better decision maker. Self reflection has been the key tool for me in enriching my life. God bless
Love this, just like Steve Jobs said "You can only connect the dots looking backwards"
This interview was EXACTLY what I needed to hear!! I have spent so many years beating myself up over my past mistakes. For the first time I am considering the idea that I felt that way BECAUSE I'm a good person who wants to make good choices. Every minute of the interview was amazing. I will be picking Daniel's book up! Thank you Ed, for always and consistently bringing me interviews that aren't just fluff but people, ideas, concepts that TRULY change and improve my life! You are gifted! Thanks for sharing your gift!
I appreciate this so much! Too often we live in fear of making regrets and over analyzing our decisions to create the best possible outcomes, when really focusing on the journey and the lessons we become the person we’re meant to be. We are a sum of all our decisions, but not always ! Especially suffering the loss of a loved one, like Ed says about his father, that’s not something we choose to have regrets about, the only lesson I would say that comes of a death, is the appreciation of time, quality of time, and meaningful interactions. You’re amazing! Both of you have incredible perspectives and I’m glad to get to hear them, and learn from them.
Fantastic interview Mr. Mylett! Regrets for some actions from the past couple of years have been “eating me alive”. This was really needed and thank you both! Can’t wait to reed the book on my next airplane ride.
Thank you Ed
I enjoyed this so much! I literally just finished up my therapy appointment with my therapist talking about the regrets I had in life (I recently made a list) and she said we needed to go over this in more detail. This truly helped me with all the things I was feeling today. I'll be getting the book, too. Thank you for another great podcast.
I was very skeptical as I started watching this video, but that quickly changed!! So many nuggets to digest and learning how to process the regrets I have was life changing! Definitely gonna get the book and share it with our team of health coaches! Thank you both for a very enlightening interview!!
Thanks Daniel and Ed. I can't wait to read the book.
So glad we could bring this to you! At what point did you realize you wanted to read the book?
Thank you for sharing this different perspective ❤🔥👍!
My pleasure! How did this perspective impact you?
@@EdMylettShow the impact is that instead of fighting and denying regret and feeling bad about it, i shift my focus to what i can control and the lessons that i can learn while using the counterfactual thinking. So thanks again to you and your guest.
I love this! So much so, that I listened twice. I really appreciate Ed's style & his approach to so many relevant discussions. Thank you 🙏
Thank you Ed again for another POWERFUL Interview. I learned among other things that I need to learn to have self-compassion because I believe I'm too hard on myself.
Great information I will order the book
Thank you, Ed!! This information couldn't have come at a better time for me. I really needed to hear this!! I will watch this video again and read Daniel's book.
What an absolutely fantastic interview!! So much insight into regrets and I have a book of regrets with a plethora of negative self-talk. I'm going to definitely get that book!!! Thank you !!!!
Very powerful. Thank u❤
So glad this reached you! What was your favorite segment?
@@EdMylettShow mistakes and failures are a part of life
I’ve always had a lot of guilt over past mistakes and this is a great way to look at it and deal with it. Thanks 🙏
Another great interview!!! And another great idea to make us all understand ourselves better!!!! THANK YOU BOTH
So glad you enjoyed! What is something you learned about yourself?
Another fascinating interview. Ed mylett god
Bless you and your speaker. Love and peace from the uk
I’m almost done watching this . And I want to tell you both ThankYou.💙
Fabulous interview! Thank you so much!
Truely appreciate this interview. Self awareness 💝
What an amazing interview. I've seen Daniel's Ted Talk from years ago and the topic of this one is so needed for so long but especially right now. Thanks for the insightful questions and excited to digest the book. Very grateful for you Ed Mylett. #MAXOUT
Powerful episode Eddie much love and admiration
Great interview! This gave me a lot to think about. You always give us the best, thank you sir. MAXOUT💪🏻
Great interview! Some great nuggets in there. I especially like the idea of a failure resume. That sounds like an amazing tool that can be used to pull yourself out of the past and begin focusing on the future, because you’re objectively working through the failures rather than just ruminating on them as mentioned in the show. Appreciate you both! #maxout
You always ask great questions. Thank you!!
Thanks Ed! Great interview
Wow thank you Ed this is 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Always my pleasure 🙌🏽 What were your strongest thoughts when reflecting on this interview?
Ed! Pre-ordered your new book, cant wait for it.
Hi Ed...
Seeing your content notification a few minutes ago I hissed and almost swiped it away from my notification bar...
Because I thought it was just another TH-cam recommended video... I almost didn't realise it was your content.
Point is, attention spans are getting shorter as far as Social media is concerned... I almost missed your content because I thought it was someone I didn't know.
So, please consider using your picture together with that of your guest speakers for your TH-cam thumbnail...
This was one doesn't need to look at the title or who it's from. Merely looking at the thumbnail I would already know it's your content
Thanks Ed great content!
This is So good Ed!
Amazing man, can you go more deeper on how we evaluate our regrets. Thanks you
I know I have some regrets and this was great Ed. Processing them and the process will help. #regrets #faith #abortion
This was a very interesting interview. I liked the thought of looking into the future and wondering what you might regret. I'd love a coaching call with you, Ed.
Group roomination is my biggest fear / obstacle. I believe in the theory of you are the average of the 5 most influential people in your life. If the people you associate with are all regretful/negative, how do you step out or change your sphere of influence?
1. Identify what things have you been doing that's purely because of peer pressure.
2. Replace those with things that are aligned to what you really want to do in life (maybe there's something you wanted to do for so long but your "friends" think it's lame)
3. Establish habits aligned to what matters to you
At first I felt guilty for disconnecting with life long friends that wanted to smoke, drink, and party. I think it was impostor syndrome of having that old life and then suddenly wanting to do better.
Be okay with being alone for a while or connect with people you already know that might be in the same frequency as you.
That is a powerful question and your reflection is spot on to get you the answer that is gonna move you. Have you since been able to get closer to the answer?
Another great video!!!!🔥💪🔥💪🔥💪🔥Ed, I love watching your videos and podcasts every morning! They are so inspiring and full of great contents!🙏🏼⚔️😇
#maxout #edmylett #iamfreakingoutstanding
Have a bias for action. Love that idea.
Crazy good !!
Amen.
Can't stop thinking about the guy who regretted his misspelled tattoo:
"NO REGERTS"
I don't regret my abortion however the fetus had downs syndrome so perhaps my case is a different scenario. I do regret slacking off at my old careers. I kept on getting promotions but deep down I KNEW I was cutting corners and wasn't giving it my all. Not only did it steal from my self worth but it stole from my integrity.
If you dwell in regrets it means you’re not busy enough! You learn from those mistakes and missed opportunities and move on! Doctors make the wrong diagnosis quite often but don’t dwell on them, they keep moving because they have too! You can’t change the past, but you can change your present! Dogs don’t know about regret either, they live in the present! Regret can lead to depression and anxiety 😥, and who likes that?! Not me 🥺
My regret not finding this sooner :)
Use your imagination to realize that if you don't study, exercise, save money etc. you WILL regret it!
Use that knowledge to inspire discipline today❤🙏
Absolutely love this! How have you instilled discipline this week?
Man, please ensure high quality video. Love the show and will watch anyways but man, its hard to watch the low quality.
Interesting
RIP Bob Saget
I thought he was Bob saget (rip)when I saw the thumbnail.