Losing a parent or a child you love: it’s an unimaginable pain. Now, when you loose them suddenly it’s indescribable. It’s the darkest and most gut-churning pain.
My Mother was in good health and fell and broke her neck... The paramedics asumed she had a heart attack because of her age and did CPR and she had no neck brace on her. She was working full time, managing her own life and home. She was a remarkable lady. She was paralyzed from the neck down but awake and alert and had to make her own decision to be removed from life support. The shock and trauma has been unbearable. This has been a year ago now and I pray you are healing as much as possible. I know I will make it but don't feel like I will... Thank you for this.
This man just went through a really hard time and still is going through it, but still manage it to help his audience. Mad respect, Jack. I wish you the best.
My mum died 3 years ago from breastcancer when I was 19. She died few minutes before I got to the hospital so I never had the proper final talk with her. She was in lot of pain for a long time but I never realised that until the end actually came. That was the first time I really broke down infront of my family and other people and I kept wishing my mum would get up and hug me because I hadnt hugged her in a long time. I was just 16 years old when she told me she has cancer and I dont think I understood how serious it could be . She was free beautiful soul who always supported me in anything I would do
Heres an anecdote from my perspective. My perspective on life shifted dramatically when I realized that I knew as much about life as my parents did. When we lose the context of our parents guidance in our lives our perspective changes. We all experience 'transferrence', a psychological mechanism to deal with adsurdity, and when our parents die we have to find a new way to ground ourself in reality. For me, I quit my job as a laboratory scientist, moved to BC and worked at a fishing resort, began doing all the things that scared me including mountain climbing, surfing, road tripping by myself etc. I now no longer fear anything or view my parents death as a burden. They had their time and I have mine and in the end we are all alone, existentially. Life is absurd. I decided to share this with you because I have watched your videos and noticed the quiet sadness that can be inferred through your comments about wanting to do more etc. I relate. I support you being strong, strength is the only option for those who don't operate under sympathy from themselves or others.
I cannot imagine the pain of a sudden loss 💔 my mom is in hospice and weve had time to say our goodbyes and know its going to happen to have it be so sudden is heart wrenching
My mom died two months ago and it's by far the most painful loss of my life. It's so primal and terrifying. Everything is a trigger. Thanks for sharing your experience. 💔
The illness that took my moms life took 5 years to kill her. I dont know which is worse, a sudden death as your mom was or watching for over half a decade, she deteriorates into someone else. But youre right; i do have peace since i got to show her how much i loved her. Sorry for your loss.
I’m a few minutes in and I feel the same way, like I was robbed. She was 64, but I hoped for another 20 years at least. People live to their 80s and beyond, why couldn’t she? Then I feel guilty bc so many people never got 64 years or 46 with their mom…but it still seems unfair … The things you said about older family members, their memories and the decline, I experienced that with my mom but it was all in a period of a few months - she went from seeming healthy and working to having COVID briefly, being hospitalized bc her Bp was high and finding out she had cancer, being hospitalized 3 months later & dying within 2 months and I still was not prepared. I can relate to the spirit of what you are saying - it felt sudden to me and I am experiencing a lot of what you’re talking about… it’s been two months and I still cry for her to come back.😢 Then I tell myself that she’s not coming back and I have to deal with this reality… it helps to think she is still with me in spirit /energy. I truly hope energy never dies. She came to me as a big white bird before her body died & that’s how I knew she was no longer in her body, that it was just the machines keeping “her” going…that gives me some comfort knowing she probably didn’t really cease to exist & she knew I loved her and I know she loved me. Your story helps me cope as well, thank you so much for sharing ❤❤❤
I was holding my mother's hand when she passed away at the hospital, she had cancer. I reassured her, and myself in that moment, telling her it was not the last time we'd see each other. I hug you from afar Jack. ❤
Thank you for this, everything you experienced and explained happened to me.. My mother also passed in her sleep from a heart attack on Feb 27 2024. That is the only thing that comforts me that she went peacefully. I miss her so much. My condolences to you & ur family. May ur beautiful Mother rest in paradise.
You’re so pot on! I just lost my mom on Tuesday morning ( 4•16•24 ) I knew it was coming. I’m living in guilt, shame & remorse. We were on bad terms. I told her to look at me but couldn’t, she was weak. I let her know, I loved her but that wasn’t enough. I spend years being disrespectful, selfish & inconsiderate. I hate myself, my heart is shattered 💔
I’m 6 minutes into the video and the fact you done this a few days after just shows how strong you are. I’m 19 and lost my mum at 15 back in 2017 and I know how hard it is. As a stranger I just want to say that I’m proud of you and thankful for speaking about it. This video is going to help a lot of people including myself❤️
i’m 16, i cant stand a life without my parents. i fear death so much but worse for my parents. i honestly feel like if i loose them i loose my life to i just want to get over this pain
I was my mothers carer for the past 5 years... She had small cell cancer, but we had no idea she had cancer or was going to die, then 12 hours later she was gone. We lost my father 18 years ago when I was 17, so I was kind of prepared for grief, but its so different now that I am an adult. That was 6 months ago, what a ride its been... To anyone experiencing grief, just know you are not alone, let yourself ride the waves and tides, there's a calm between the storms, let your loved ones know you love and care about them any chance you get.
YES!!!, YOU GET IT!!! I had to be the leader myself, but since I was the one right there beside her, I had to be the one to stand up and make sure the rest of our loved ones didn't fall into the depths... It really showed me how strong I am, and I had no idea I was till then.
The thing about soldiers joking around is very true too, I am an ex soldier, morale is the only thing we had to get through the hard times, ya gotta keep dark humor in order to see past the face of death or you may get everyone killed, jokes keep your mind in check, your chin up and your eyes out.
My condolences. I lost my Dad age 61and brother age 25 sudden unexpected death and the same year 8 months apart. We were very close, I was in shock mood for almost a year. Thanks for sharing your story.
Sending you love and hugs. It’s very difficult losing love one. I lost my mom to COVID 19 5 months ago out of no where. Miss her so much. Every day is different for me.
The same thing happend to me 2 weeks ago, with the only difference that she was in a rapid decline before she passed. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to witness in my life. The moment keeps replaying in my head like some kind of horror movie, it's the first thing that pops up in my mind when I wake up and the last when I go to sleep. The thing that kills me is how she must have felt those last months knowing she was going to die. I found tissues from crying in all her pockets. In one coat a ticket from a hospital exame in the other a tissue from crying, a hoodie she bought the last months that said "positive" on the front. Oh man it's killing me...
My mother passed 5 years ago and my 20 year old brother passed 12 years ago and it absolutely sucks with time can help but the sadness and sorrow never leaves 💔it's nice to hear you Jack speak about your mother she sounds like a wonderful woman god bless man and may your mother be at peace 💔😟❤️🙂
My grandfather is going to pass away from complications with pneumonia. He was one of the most important people in my life. I feel your pain, Jack. I’m sorry for your family. My sincerest condolences.
Came over from Spotify to tell u how much this podcast fucked me up man. Went out for a walk and turned it on and ended up balling halfway through my walk. My condolences and thank you for this diamond.
I’m so sorry for your loss Jack. My mother passed away this time last year unexpectedly as well. Her funeral was actually today one year ago exactly. She was only 53. It’s been a rough year to say the least. Take care of yourself jack. Grief is a long journey especially when someone who you loved so much has passed so unexpectedly
She is sooo young she is 32 33 she is the best mom and I just have lost the meaning of life I was Soo happy before this we used to always joke around and have fun the only goal of my life was to be with my mother as my mother look at me with happiness and she just died out of the blue bro I'm like umm I feel like dying and I'm 10 years I have no sibling older than me she had no problems it was Soo unexpected I have 2 siblings and one is 3 years and what Am I gonna tell her I'm saad
Not only is Jack providing to us very meaningful words but also speaking very considerately to be understanding about other people in this kind of situation. He is in so much pain here and still tries to be empathetic for others. You are a good person man. We love you
Really sorry to hear the bad news man. Lost my grandfather about five years ago in the same fashion. While he was a bit older at 72, he was very healthy and simply passed away in his sleep while watching football. I was 16 at the time and it hit me, my sister, and especially my mom really hard. My mom was very close with him and she also felt like she was robbed. Stay strong Jack. King of the North.
I heard someone say one time that we worry so much about not saying sorry or giving forgiveness when someone passes away that we love.. and they said just remember, that person didn't get to say sorry/goodbye/or give their forgiveness to you either. One could only assume that if both were given one last chance to converse- that most likely those things that burdened the relationship would easily become water under the bridge. No one should have to carry that guilt with them as when we pass we are *hopefully* free of such worries and can be at peace. No one would want you to continue to carry that and suffer here forever❤️
I feel emotional just seeing this.....cant imagine living through it. My sincerest condolences, you make the world a better place and its awesome that your mum knew that as well. 🙏
Hey Jack, thank you for sharing this. I lost my mom to pancreatic cancer in September 2021 and I still don't know how to feel about it. The only thing I am grateful for is being by her side when she passed. I love and miss her everyday.
Hi Jack, I got about a third through this podcast and just broke down crying as I’ve never thought about having to go through this situation. I’m 20 in my third year at western and both my parents are around their 60s and healthy. I can’t wait to call them both tomorrow and tell them I love them. Thank you for sharing your experience. I can’t imagine the amount of strength that takes.
My Mom died Nov 21st unexpectedly at the age of 55 and your experience has made me feel somewhat normal? My Mom was my hero and it pains me that I'll never be able to see or talk to her again, I have so much regret and guilt running through my mind that it's just exhausting. My younger brother and I are now alone, my Dad passed away when I was 8 and now my Mom at 21. I keep scrolling through her messages and Facebook to go through her memories and I just cry. I know people mean kind when they say "It will get better" but right now it feels like I'm at the lowest point in my life. My world is a lot less bright without her. I just feel empty. Mom 1966 - Forever, I love you so much. I miss you.
Thanks so much for this! My Moms passed away 9 months ago. And I resonate with everything you've said and since I'm an only child and I didnt have anyone to express those feelings and weird nuances and new feelings.
I remember when I was in college I got a call that my dad had a stroke while in the hospital, was in a coma and completely paralyzed. I'll never forget when the doctors put us in a room and said he'd never come out of it and we should just pull the plug. I knew his health was getting bad with all the hospital visits but nothing compares to losing a parent and seeing them in said condition. For you to suddenly lose a parent is even worse. Losing a parent is never easy, especially in your 20s. Hope all is well Jack.
That's a very mature behaviour you have with this topic. I have to say you are managing it incredibly well. It's definetly okay to be sad for some days. But after some weeks you have to keep going, because life will keep going no matter how you feel. I wish you all the best brother and stay strong.
Hey Jack, started tearing up hearing this. Hit very close to home. Your strength (and intelligence) is very admirable. Your character has grown so much in the past couple years and I’m proud to be with you on this journey. Keep going, brother, you deserve only the best.
Sorry for your loss man. I’m only 2 min in but I just want to say it is maybe better when a loved one dies suddenly than if they degenerate from a disease like cancer and suffer tremendously for the course of years. It’s awful and emotionally scarring to witness a loved one go through so much emotional and physical pain. I’m not sure if this is any consolation and not trying to take away from your mourning. All love, and RIp. my mom died at 58 from cancer, by the time she was in hospice, I just wanted to pain and suffering to end for her and it was sadly a relief by that point
My mom went the same way at 61 from cancer. That is emotionally devastating to say the least. It’s like being in your own hell hell watching the person you love starve while being In tremendous pain. While you sit there trying to comfort them while not falling apart yourself. Wow life is a wild ride
I feel your pain man. Lost my uncle a week ago to brain hemmorage. He was on life support and they had to make the decision to pull the plug. He was 80 yrs old, and I didn’t know him that well but it still had me down. Your mom looking down on you would want you to keep going and not stop. God bless
Thank you for this. Every single thing you describe here I am dealing with now. Step by step. My mom passed away last weekend from COPD. I saw her body. I moved back home, took care of her for years. I am living alone in her house now. It is so utterly surreal.
Respect brother. There is no feeling like losing your mother, it hurts like no other pain in this world. It’s just a reality that is an inevitability...such is life. It’s fucking ruthless. After seven years I’ve learned that time doesn’t heal the wound but it wraps a pretty tight band aid.
Rest In Peace. Stay strong buddy! You continue to help raise so many of us, with gaining confidence and improving self esteem. Something I’m sure she would be really proud of. She raised an amazing son. My condolences.
Jack I just recently started watching your videos and became a fan pretty quickly. I lost my mother as well from cancer back in June of this year. I know all of the feelings you are going through bud. Stay strong and keep going. I feel like that is what she would want you to do.
So sorry to hear that man. I've lost my father when I was 15. I know the feeling of losing a parent. It's very tough. My thoughts go out to you and your family. Stay strong ♥
I’m so sorry for your loss jack. I know the feeling all so well, kinda weird the situation is so similar. My dad just passed away just over a year ago around the same age, Also in his sleep in Caledonia.. he had diabetes aswell. Happened outta the blue too so I feel ya on this tragedy. Stay strong jack
Hey man so sorry for your loss! I know everyone’s telling you to stay strong but I know how difficult it can be, I lost my mother when I was 18 and I had just started med school, so I wanna tell you it’s okay if you can’t stay strong! I hope it gets better soon!
I appreciate your honesty, sorry for ur loss, I have 80 old parents, I feel more prepared to deal with potentially getting the call because ur video , big thank you
My parents had me late, and passed away at 88 and 90. I had a very good support network around me, terrific friends, and parents friends too, who look out for me. Dealt with it ok, cos they were very old. My friend died at 64, I don’t know how her kids cope with it
Hey jack, i am so so sorry to hear this, i've been watching you for awhile and you're easily one of my favorite content creators on this platform. Thank you for inspiring me and many others
So sorry for your loss, especially since your mum passed long before her time. The lack of purpose is what I've always agreed with myself, my mum died last year at 60 after a few years of declining health. Go back to her early 50s, fit as they come - she had me and my grandad to look after and did an amazing job brining me up (she did so much for us). I thought she was invincible but then in 2014 (three years after my grandad passed) she tripped over a small red stone at a wedding and ruptured her Achilles-heel which basically restricted her mobility. She tried to work for as long as possible but by 2017 she was worn out, was in so much pain that her doctors said shed be better off on disability. That crushed her, I was away to Uni and living my own life so she didn't have a sense of purpose, for the next few years she saw a physiotherapist but that didn't help tremendously, she still was able to live independently and had her long-term partner John looking after her. Then the pandemic hut and I couldn't go and visit her every weekend like I did from Uni, she gained weight and didn't let people into her house except me. She then developed a dependency on alcohol because, I'd imagine there was so much emotional pain going on and boredom and John worked from 9-5pm so thats a lot of time on your own. She hated having us looking after her but I had to as she looked after me for 25 years. Then on the 15th of April 2022 she got Pneumonia and passed away on the 18th. It's an odd thing, I copped well initially - like I had to stay strong for organising her affairs and funeral, I was half way through my Master's so that got put on the back burner (I graduate this January). Everything felt like time had stoped and now its resumed and everything is happening all at once. Doing my masters, finalising Mum's estate, dealing with solicitors etc. Things are finally getting back on track but it was a tough ride but it gets better. I hope things are getting better for yourself!
Man that hits home... I lost my dad almost 4 years ago when I was 15. That def changed me quite a bit to say the least. I know you’re probably slowly starting to hate the phrase “my condoleances”, I know I did when I heard it for the fiftieth time. One thing though: don’t expect or try to get over it or let her go or something. That stupid shit they always say in films; Try to survive, learn to live with the fact that she will always be present in your thoughts one way or another. Accepting that, accepting that grief never really ends and seeing the beauty in that, will help you. It gets bearable though. Stay strong brother..
Just did what you said, and man it payed off. My mum was full of joy just by seeing me reach out to her. Once again thanks for the advice Jack. I wish you the best and may you find peace in all of this.
I went thru this 2 years ago. You will be a stronger person on the other side of the pain. Sending positive energy your way brother and my sympathies for your family’s loss.
Long post alert 📢 ⚠️ 📢 Hi Jack, first off I want to give my condolences to you and your family during this terrible time of loss. I am currently in the same season of life, I lost my beautiful mom on January 28th 2022 due to complications from covid. My mother was 73 years old. I can truly say no matter how old a parent gets or how sickly they are, I don't think we can ever fully process what our lives will be like without them. Some very important things you discussed in your podcast that really resonated with me was how you mentioned seeing your loved one after they have passed and how much closure that can bring to a grief stricken mind. I agree 100%. My dad passed away back in 2012 and I was at his bedside as he took his final breaths. Unfortunately due to restrictions in the hospital, I was only able to go and say my goodbyes to my mother and once my family and I finished our last visit, we had to leave the hospital and wait for the doctors to call me to announce her passing. The next time I saw my mother was at the funeral home the day of her viewing so that I could style her hair. But it leaves me stricken with sadness knowing that my mom, despite the fact I was able to say goodbye, died alone...surrounded by strangers and the cold hospital walls 💔. Another thing is that strength in the moment to be the backbone for your family. I planned my mother's arrangements. I was the go to person for everything, despite having an older brother. He just couldn't do what I could do, his mental capacity was "I just can't take it, I dont wanna do it so I'll let my baby sister do everything"...I couldn't even process her death because I had to hop straight into my business bag. But thankfully I had support from my husband, my aunts and uncles and my cousins. So I thank God for the hands that reached out. But this is a tremendously hard time for so many ppl and I just want to again say thank you for being transparent abt your mother's passing and giving your perspective to others so that they can be somewhat prepared to deal with their grief. May God bless you and your family and may your mother's love and legacy bring healing to your heart with each passing day. To everyone grieving, know that you are not alone. You are cared about and your pain matters. You all will be in my prayers. Much love from Detroit ❤🫂🙏🏼! Desirea
May God be with your family and loved ones in the time of need 🙏 keep pushing with your goals I'm positive your parents are so proud of you and your hard work
So sorry to hear this man, just discovered your channel and binge watched whilst I've been sick. You seem like a great role model for confidence building and this video proves you can be more than that, lost my cousin when I was 15 (she was a year younger), never got to say goodbye and it flipped my world upside down. However dumb it sounds despite going through that my relationship with my Mum hasn't been great for the past few years and this video was the kick in the arse I needed to try and properly make a mends. Stay strong mate and thank-you for this video x
Firstly I want to preface by saying i'm so sorry you had to go through this Jack, although this probably means nothing to you, you're in my thoughts. That being said, losing a parent is my biggest fear in this world, more so then my own life. This video has eased my anxiety on the topic and for that im truly greatful. Thank you for sharing.
i lost my dad in february of 2019. i was just 13 years old and i think that’s what the hardest part of my grief was. knowing i lost my dad at such a young age and he won’t be here with me for the rest of my life, meaning all my accomplishments won’t be seen by the person i loved the most. for me, i feel privileged to not experience the coming home and seeing the paramedics take out the body, instead my mom came into my room telling me that he passed away, since he was at a different country at the time so i couldn’t see him anyways. i didn’t call him that night either because i was busy, but i’ll forever regret that. grief is so complicated and the worst pain someone can feel. thank you for this video, i’ve never related to something so much.
In Brazil the proccess of someone dying and having a service is between 24h to 72h. So here's my experience: I talked to my dad on a Wednesday, and we decided to meet up for a coffee on the next week. He died on a Sunday. My uncle phoned me, and I knew it... He was 66y old. Next Monday I was at his funeral, I saw him in the casket, he looked at peace, tons of people came to me to give their condolences, I cried, didn't know what to do. Just stayed there. After one week we had a mass. Then it hit me. I was a mess, couldn't stop crying. After one month... another mass... Same thing... And the last one month and a half I'm dealing with beurocracy. I am the only child, my dad never remarried nor had other kids, the pain is unberable. Everytime I need to go somewhere to deal with paperwork I get angry, frustrated, I might cry... My dad died of a heart attack, but he was an alcoholic. I'm also an alcoholic but I'm in recovery. BUT, we don't have a "sober community" in Brazil. There are a few 12 step program, but nothing like in the US or Canada... I had recently broken up with my ex and returned to my mom's house, and working from home, and I have no idea what I'm writing it, but it's so off... Some people said: "oh, go to therapy"... I know they mean well, they come from a good place, but seriously? I'm an alcoholic. I lie to therapits, especially if they don't know exactly what alcoholism is, and often they don't. I'm 31. Isolated. I started to have some panic attacks - things that I used to have when I was drinking... Either I'm gonna be fucking strong, or I'm going down and won't make it. Because why would I? If you don't have family, a job, friends... how do you do this? One day at a time, yeah... but until when? I can't kill myself because I'm Catholic (yeah, that's my excuse).. Thanks for reading this. I came across this video and I decidded two things... join another fellowship - but about grief, and watch the "war movie". God bless!
I love your content jack sooo fucking much. Your like a big brother and a role model for me. You cant believe how much you have already changed my life. Keep it up please so more people can benefit
bless you jack and wishing you strength in your healing process. your mom is with the stars now resting at peace, she will always be there with you, souls live forever, one day you'll meet again
Thanks for giving us this and I'm so Sorry for your sudden loss brother!!! You are a great man and we all respect and appreciate you more than you know!
You’re incredibly strong, brother. Much love man, always here for you 🙏🏼
holy shit. steven schapiro. Do a collab with this steven. Let him grow.
The legend
I ALWAYS wanted a video of you 2, Steven. Come on, you help so many other channels. My man deserves it.
Steven. Please come to this podcast
you two collab please
Losing a parent or a child you love: it’s an unimaginable pain. Now, when you loose them suddenly it’s indescribable. It’s the darkest and most gut-churning pain.
My Mother was in good health and fell and broke her neck... The paramedics asumed she had a heart attack because of her age and did CPR and she had no neck brace on her. She was working full time, managing her own life and home. She was a remarkable lady. She was paralyzed from the neck down but awake and alert and had to make her own decision to be removed from life support. The shock and trauma has been unbearable. This has been a year ago now and I pray you are healing as much as possible. I know I will make it but don't feel like I will... Thank you for this.
This man just went through a really hard time and still is going through it, but still manage it to help his audience. Mad respect, Jack. I wish you the best.
My mum died 3 years ago from breastcancer when I was 19. She died few minutes before I got to the hospital so I never had the proper final talk with her. She was in lot of pain for a long time but I never realised that until the end actually came. That was the first time I really broke down infront of my family and other people and I kept wishing my mum would get up and hug me because I hadnt hugged her in a long time. I was just 16 years old when she told me she has cancer and I dont think I understood how serious it could be . She was free beautiful soul who always supported me in anything I would do
Wow that’s sad as shit
Cancer man, sorry to hear. People still dont take it seriously. There are ways to mitigate your risk. I am cancer survivor myself
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Heres an anecdote from my perspective. My perspective on life shifted dramatically when I realized that I knew as much about life as my parents did. When we lose the context of our parents guidance in our lives our perspective changes. We all experience 'transferrence', a psychological mechanism to deal with adsurdity, and when our parents die we have to find a new way to ground ourself in reality. For me, I quit my job as a laboratory scientist, moved to BC and worked at a fishing resort, began doing all the things that scared me including mountain climbing, surfing, road tripping by myself etc. I now no longer fear anything or view my parents death as a burden. They had their time and I have mine and in the end we are all alone, existentially. Life is absurd. I decided to share this with you because I have watched your videos and noticed the quiet sadness that can be inferred through your comments about wanting to do more etc. I relate. I support you being strong, strength is the only option for those who don't operate under sympathy from themselves or others.
I cannot imagine the pain of a sudden loss 💔 my mom is in hospice and weve had time to say our goodbyes and know its going to happen to have it be so sudden is heart wrenching
My mom died two months ago and it's by far the most painful loss of my life. It's so primal and terrifying. Everything is a trigger. Thanks for sharing your experience. 💔
The illness that took my moms life took 5 years to kill her. I dont know which is worse, a sudden death as your mom was or watching for over half a decade, she deteriorates into someone else. But youre right; i do have peace since i got to show her how much i loved her. Sorry for your loss.
I’m a few minutes in and I feel the same way, like I was robbed. She was 64, but I hoped for another 20 years at least. People live to their 80s and beyond, why couldn’t she? Then I feel guilty bc so many people never got 64 years or 46 with their mom…but it still seems unfair … The things you said about older family members, their memories and the decline, I experienced that with my mom but it was all in a period of a few months - she went from seeming healthy and working to having COVID briefly, being hospitalized bc her Bp was high and finding out she had cancer, being hospitalized 3 months later & dying within 2 months and I still was not prepared. I can relate to the spirit of what you are saying - it felt sudden to me and I am experiencing a lot of what you’re talking about… it’s been two months and I still cry for her to come back.😢 Then I tell myself that she’s not coming back and I have to deal with this reality… it helps to think she is still with me in spirit /energy. I truly hope energy never dies. She came to me as a big white bird before her body died & that’s how I knew she was no longer in her body, that it was just the machines keeping “her” going…that gives me some comfort knowing she probably didn’t really cease to exist & she knew I loved her and I know she loved me. Your story helps me cope as well, thank you so much for sharing ❤❤❤
I was holding my mother's hand when she passed away at the hospital, she had cancer. I reassured her, and myself in that moment, telling her it was not the last time we'd see each other. I hug you from afar Jack. ❤
Sounds exactly like my situation. Prayed over her told her I love her and made my peace , I still can’t believe it
Thank you for this, everything you experienced and explained happened to me.. My mother also passed in her sleep from a heart attack on Feb 27 2024. That is the only thing that comforts me that she went peacefully. I miss her so much. My condolences to you & ur family. May ur beautiful Mother rest in paradise.
Rest In Peace to your Mom bro 🙏🏻❤️🕊️
So sorry to hear of your tragic loss but really inspired by your strength, bud. Sending you love during this difficult time.
Lost my father last week and feel absolutely terrible. Thank you for sharing this.
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Stay strong bud you got this!✌🏻🤝🏻
Great podcast Jack, sorry for your loss.
In regards to the intern stuff. If you ever want help in London, reach out to me.
You’re so pot on! I just lost my mom on Tuesday morning ( 4•16•24 ) I knew it was coming. I’m living in guilt, shame & remorse. We were on bad terms. I told her to look at me but couldn’t, she was weak. I let her know, I loved her but that wasn’t enough. I spend years being disrespectful, selfish & inconsiderate. I hate myself, my heart is shattered 💔
I’m 6 minutes into the video and the fact you done this a few days after just shows how strong you are. I’m 19 and lost my mum at 15 back in 2017 and I know how hard it is. As a stranger I just want to say that I’m proud of you and thankful for speaking about it. This video is going to help a lot of people including myself❤️
I lost my mom at 57. It made me become out of this fake PC life that I was living in. It made me who I am now. I feel you my man.
i’m 16, i cant stand a life without my parents. i fear death so much but worse for my parents. i honestly feel like if i loose them i loose my life to i just want to get over this pain
I was my mothers carer for the past 5 years...
She had small cell cancer, but we had no idea she had cancer or was going to die, then 12 hours later she was gone.
We lost my father 18 years ago when I was 17, so I was kind of prepared for grief, but its so different now that I am an adult.
That was 6 months ago, what a ride its been... To anyone experiencing grief, just know you are not alone, let yourself ride the waves and tides, there's a calm between the storms, let your loved ones know you love and care about them any chance you get.
YES!!!, YOU GET IT!!!
I had to be the leader myself, but since I was the one right there beside her, I had to be the one to stand up and make sure the rest of our loved ones didn't fall into the depths... It really showed me how strong I am, and I had no idea I was till then.
The thing about soldiers joking around is very true too, I am an ex soldier, morale is the only thing we had to get through the hard times, ya gotta keep dark humor in order to see past the face of death or you may get everyone killed, jokes keep your mind in check, your chin up and your eyes out.
Thank you for this. I lost my mom yesterday and am looking for anything to help me straighten out up from down.
I lost my mother on August 15, 2023 and I knew things will never be the same as it was :(
My condolences. I lost my Dad age 61and brother age 25 sudden unexpected death and the same year 8 months apart. We were very close, I was in shock mood for almost a year. Thanks for sharing your story.
Sending you love and hugs. It’s very difficult losing love one. I lost my mom to COVID 19 5 months ago out of no where. Miss her so much. Every day is different for me.
The same thing happend to me 2 weeks ago, with the only difference that she was in a rapid decline before she passed. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to witness in my life. The moment keeps replaying in my head like some kind of horror movie, it's the first thing that pops up in my mind when I wake up and the last when I go to sleep. The thing that kills me is how she must have felt those last months knowing she was going to die. I found tissues from crying in all her pockets. In one coat a ticket from a hospital exame in the other a tissue from crying, a hoodie she bought the last months that said "positive" on the front. Oh man it's killing me...
I also going through this mom left us January 2 it’s so sad
@@soultraveler2103 hope you can find some rest soon, it get's better but the pain never leaves.
Stay strong jack. That's how she wants you to live your life.
My condolences brother, thank you for sharing such deep insight, was very inspiring and a demonstration of your true good character as a human being,
My mother passed 5 years ago and my 20 year old brother passed 12 years ago and it absolutely sucks with time can help but the sadness and sorrow never leaves 💔it's nice to hear you Jack speak about your mother she sounds like a wonderful woman god bless man and may your mother be at peace 💔😟❤️🙂
My grandfather is going to pass away from complications with pneumonia. He was one of the most important people in my life. I feel your pain, Jack. I’m sorry for your family. My sincerest condolences.
It sucks bro, lost my mom 5 years ago and there are still tough days. It does get easier but it is still hard. I hope you're doing good. Take care .
Sorry for your loss, Jack. Take care of yourself brother!
Came over from Spotify to tell u how much this podcast fucked me up man. Went out for a walk and turned it on and ended up balling halfway through my walk. My condolences and thank you for this diamond.
I genuinely hope and pray that you recover from the trauma soon man.
I’m so sorry for your loss Jack. My mother passed away this time last year unexpectedly as well. Her funeral was actually today one year ago exactly. She was only 53. It’s been a rough year to say the least. Take care of yourself jack. Grief is a long journey especially when someone who you loved so much has passed so unexpectedly
I'm here brother my mom died the recent day
She is sooo young she is 32 33 she is the best mom and I just have lost the meaning of life I was Soo happy before this we used to always joke around and have fun the only goal of my life was to be with my mother as my mother look at me with happiness and she just died out of the blue bro I'm like umm I feel like dying and I'm 10 years I have no sibling older than me she had no problems it was Soo unexpected I have 2 siblings and one is 3 years and what Am I gonna tell her I'm saad
@@poke-episodes5711 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Not only is Jack providing to us very meaningful words but also speaking very considerately to be understanding about other people in this kind of situation. He is in so much pain here and still tries to be empathetic for others. You are a good person man. We love you
Really sorry to hear the bad news man. Lost my grandfather about five years ago in the same fashion. While he was a bit older at 72, he was very healthy and simply passed away in his sleep while watching football. I was 16 at the time and it hit me, my sister, and especially my mom really hard. My mom was very close with him and she also felt like she was robbed. Stay strong Jack. King of the North.
I heard someone say one time that we worry so much about not saying sorry or giving forgiveness when someone passes away that we love.. and they said just remember, that person didn't get to say sorry/goodbye/or give their forgiveness to you either. One could only assume that if both were given one last chance to converse- that most likely those things that burdened the relationship would easily become water under the bridge. No one should have to carry that guilt with them as when we pass we are *hopefully* free of such worries and can be at peace. No one would want you to continue to carry that and suffer here forever❤️
My deepest condolences. Take your time to heal
I feel emotional just seeing this.....cant imagine living through it. My sincerest condolences, you make the world a better place and its awesome that your mum knew that as well. 🙏
Hey Jack, thank you for sharing this. I lost my mom to pancreatic cancer in September 2021 and I still don't know how to feel about it. The only thing I am grateful for is being by her side when she passed. I love and miss her everyday.
This level of vulnerability takes a lot of guts. Thanks for sharing and being a guiding light man
You are an incredibly strong human. No matter what, know that you are loved and you have a support system.
Hi Jack, I got about a third through this podcast and just broke down crying as I’ve never thought about having to go through this situation. I’m 20 in my third year at western and both my parents are around their 60s and healthy. I can’t wait to call them both tomorrow and tell them I love them. Thank you for sharing your experience. I can’t imagine the amount of strength that takes.
i think its awesome that thousands of people including myself who you dont even know personally love you and are giving condolences❤️❤️
My Mom died Nov 21st unexpectedly at the age of 55 and your experience has made me feel somewhat normal? My Mom was my hero and it pains me that I'll never be able to see or talk to her again, I have so much regret and guilt running through my mind that it's just exhausting. My younger brother and I are now alone, my Dad passed away when I was 8 and now my Mom at 21. I keep scrolling through her messages and Facebook to go through her memories and I just cry. I know people mean kind when they say "It will get better" but right now it feels like I'm at the lowest point in my life. My world is a lot less bright without her. I just feel empty.
Mom 1966 - Forever, I love you so much. I miss you.
wish you the best brother, thank you for this
Thanks so much for this! My Moms passed away 9 months ago. And I resonate with everything you've said and since I'm an only child and I didnt have anyone to express those feelings and weird nuances and new feelings.
I remember when I was in college I got a call that my dad had a stroke while in the hospital, was in a coma and completely paralyzed. I'll never forget when the doctors put us in a room and said he'd never come out of it and we should just pull the plug. I knew his health was getting bad with all the hospital visits but nothing compares to losing a parent and seeing them in said condition. For you to suddenly lose a parent is even worse. Losing a parent is never easy, especially in your 20s. Hope all is well Jack.
That's a very mature behaviour you have with this topic.
I have to say you are managing it incredibly well. It's definetly okay to be sad for some days. But after some weeks you have to keep going, because life will keep going no matter how you feel.
I wish you all the best brother and stay strong.
Sorry for your loss. I can relate to your emotions. But death is inevitable for everybody and it's just the cruel reality that nothing lasts forever.
Hey Jack, started tearing up hearing this. Hit very close to home. Your strength (and intelligence) is very admirable. Your character has grown so much in the past couple years and I’m proud to be with you on this journey. Keep going, brother, you deserve only the best.
Sorry for your loss man. I’m only 2 min in but I just want to say it is maybe better when a loved one dies suddenly than if they degenerate from a disease like cancer and suffer tremendously for the course of years. It’s awful and emotionally scarring to witness a loved one go through so much emotional and physical pain. I’m not sure if this is any consolation and not trying to take away from your mourning. All love, and RIp. my mom died at 58 from cancer, by the time she was in hospice, I just wanted to pain and suffering to end for her and it was sadly a relief by that point
My mom went the same way at 61 from cancer. That is emotionally devastating to say the least.
It’s like being in your own hell hell watching the person you love starve while being In tremendous pain. While you sit there trying to comfort them while not falling apart yourself.
Wow life is a wild ride
I’m sorry you had to go through that I hope you find some relief of your own! I wish you all the best
I feel your pain man. Lost my uncle a week ago to brain hemmorage. He was on life support and they had to make the decision to pull the plug. He was 80 yrs old, and I didn’t know him that well but it still had me down. Your mom looking down on you would want you to keep going and not stop. God bless
Thank you for this. Every single thing you describe here I am dealing with now. Step by step. My mom passed away last weekend from COPD. I saw her body. I moved back home, took care of her for years. I am living alone in her house now. It is so utterly surreal.
Respect brother.
There is no feeling like losing your mother, it hurts like no other pain in this world. It’s just a reality that is an inevitability...such is life. It’s fucking ruthless.
After seven years I’ve learned that time doesn’t heal the wound but it wraps a pretty tight band aid.
Rest In Peace. Stay strong buddy! You continue to help raise so many of us, with gaining confidence and improving self esteem. Something I’m sure she would be really proud of. She raised an amazing son. My condolences.
Jack I just recently started watching your videos and became a fan pretty quickly. I lost my mother as well from cancer back in June of this year. I know all of the feelings you are going through bud. Stay strong and keep going. I feel like that is what she would want you to do.
So sorry to hear that man. I've lost my father when I was 15. I know the feeling of losing a parent. It's very tough. My thoughts go out to you and your family. Stay strong ♥
I can't imagine how this feels, feel better Jack.
I’m so sorry for your loss jack. I know the feeling all so well, kinda weird the situation is so similar. My dad just passed away just over a year ago around the same age, Also in his sleep in Caledonia.. he had diabetes aswell. Happened outta the blue too so I feel ya on this tragedy. Stay strong jack
Awe! This came up in my recommendation feed! I lost my grandparents, both in my step dads side and one on my mom’s side. ❤️ hugs to you!!! ❤️
Hey man so sorry for your loss! I know everyone’s telling you to stay strong but I know how difficult it can be, I lost my mother when I was 18 and I had just started med school, so I wanna tell you it’s okay if you can’t stay strong! I hope it gets better soon!
I appreciate your honesty, sorry for ur loss, I have 80 old parents, I feel more prepared to deal with potentially getting the call because ur video , big thank you
My parents had me late, and passed away at 88 and 90. I had a very good support network around me, terrific friends, and parents friends too, who look out for me. Dealt with it ok, cos they were very old. My friend died at 64, I don’t know how her kids cope with it
Hey jack, i am so so sorry to hear this, i've been watching you for awhile and you're easily one of my favorite content creators on this platform. Thank you for inspiring me and many others
So sorry for your loss, especially since your mum passed long before her time. The lack of purpose is what I've always agreed with myself, my mum died last year at 60 after a few years of declining health. Go back to her early 50s, fit as they come - she had me and my grandad to look after and did an amazing job brining me up (she did so much for us). I thought she was invincible but then in 2014 (three years after my grandad passed) she tripped over a small red stone at a wedding and ruptured her Achilles-heel which basically restricted her mobility. She tried to work for as long as possible but by 2017 she was worn out, was in so much pain that her doctors said shed be better off on disability.
That crushed her, I was away to Uni and living my own life so she didn't have a sense of purpose, for the next few years she saw a physiotherapist but that didn't help tremendously, she still was able to live independently and had her long-term partner John looking after her. Then the pandemic hut and I couldn't go and visit her every weekend like I did from Uni, she gained weight and didn't let people into her house except me. She then developed a dependency on alcohol because, I'd imagine there was so much emotional pain going on and boredom and John worked from 9-5pm so thats a lot of time on your own. She hated having us looking after her but I had to as she looked after me for 25 years. Then on the 15th of April 2022 she got Pneumonia and passed away on the 18th.
It's an odd thing, I copped well initially - like I had to stay strong for organising her affairs and funeral, I was half way through my Master's so that got put on the back burner (I graduate this January). Everything felt like time had stoped and now its resumed and everything is happening all at once. Doing my masters, finalising Mum's estate, dealing with solicitors etc. Things are finally getting back on track but it was a tough ride but it gets better. I hope things are getting better for yourself!
Man that hits home... I lost my dad almost 4 years ago when I was 15. That def changed me quite a bit to say the least. I know you’re probably slowly starting to hate the phrase “my condoleances”, I know I did when I heard it for the fiftieth time. One thing though: don’t expect or try to get over it or let her go or something. That stupid shit they always say in films; Try to survive, learn to live with the fact that she will always be present in your thoughts one way or another. Accepting that, accepting that grief never really ends and seeing the beauty in that, will help you. It gets bearable though. Stay strong brother..
Just did what you said, and man it payed off. My mum was full of joy just by seeing me reach out to her. Once again thanks for the advice Jack. I wish you the best and may you find peace in all of this.
Your a strong individual jack. Keep changing lives, your mom is watching you everyday. Much love man, stay strong.
I went thru this 2 years ago. You will be a stronger person on the other side of the pain. Sending positive energy your way brother and my sympathies for your family’s loss.
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Hi Jack, first off I want to give my condolences to you and your family during this terrible time of loss. I am currently in the same season of life, I lost my beautiful mom on January 28th 2022 due to complications from covid. My mother was 73 years old. I can truly say no matter how old a parent gets or how sickly they are, I don't think we can ever fully process what our lives will be like without them. Some very important things you discussed in your podcast that really resonated with me was how you mentioned seeing your loved one after they have passed and how much closure that can bring to a grief stricken mind. I agree 100%. My dad passed away back in 2012 and I was at his bedside as he took his final breaths. Unfortunately due to restrictions in the hospital, I was only able to go and say my goodbyes to my mother and once my family and I finished our last visit, we had to leave the hospital and wait for the doctors to call me to announce her passing. The next time I saw my mother was at the funeral home the day of her viewing so that I could style her hair. But it leaves me stricken with sadness knowing that my mom, despite the fact I was able to say goodbye, died alone...surrounded by strangers and the cold hospital walls 💔. Another thing is that strength in the moment to be the backbone for your family. I planned my mother's arrangements. I was the go to person for everything, despite having an older brother. He just couldn't do what I could do, his mental capacity was "I just can't take it, I dont wanna do it so I'll let my baby sister do everything"...I couldn't even process her death because I had to hop straight into my business bag. But thankfully I had support from my husband, my aunts and uncles and my cousins. So I thank God for the hands that reached out. But this is a tremendously hard time for so many ppl and I just want to again say thank you for being transparent abt your mother's passing and giving your perspective to others so that they can be somewhat prepared to deal with their grief. May God bless you and your family and may your mother's love and legacy bring healing to your heart with each passing day. To everyone grieving, know that you are not alone. You are cared about and your pain matters. You all will be in my prayers. Much love from Detroit ❤🫂🙏🏼!
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My condolences Jack, I'm pretty sure what you said during this video will last in my mind for my whole life, thank you 🙏
This video alone is the reason I liked and subscribed here, such moving and touching episode.. we gotta stick together and be better people. God bless
Respect that you handle it so well and rip to your mom im so sorry for your loss 😢
May she rest in peace. May God give strength to you and your family.
May God be with your family and loved ones in the time of need 🙏 keep pushing with your goals I'm positive your parents are so proud of you and your hard work
Terrible news, I'm sure you made her very proud my friend. Love and strength to you and your family ❤️
So sorry to hear this man, just discovered your channel and binge watched whilst I've been sick. You seem like a great role model for confidence building and this video proves you can be more than that, lost my cousin when I was 15 (she was a year younger), never got to say goodbye and it flipped my world upside down.
However dumb it sounds despite going through that my relationship with my Mum hasn't been great for the past few years and this video was the kick in the arse I needed to try and properly make a mends.
Stay strong mate and thank-you for this video x
Very well said and proud of you! Great video
Firstly I want to preface by saying i'm so sorry you had to go through this Jack, although this probably means nothing to you, you're in my thoughts. That being said, losing a parent is my biggest fear in this world, more so then my own life. This video has eased my anxiety on the topic and for that im truly greatful. Thank you for sharing.
i lost my dad in february of 2019. i was just 13 years old and i think that’s what the hardest part of my grief was. knowing i lost my dad at such a young age and he won’t be here with me for the rest of my life, meaning all my accomplishments won’t be seen by the person i loved the most. for me, i feel privileged to not experience the coming home and seeing the paramedics take out the body, instead my mom came into my room telling me that he passed away, since he was at a different country at the time so i couldn’t see him anyways. i didn’t call him that night either because i was busy, but i’ll forever regret that. grief is so complicated and the worst pain someone can feel. thank you for this video, i’ve never related to something so much.
In Brazil the proccess of someone dying and having a service is between 24h to 72h.
So here's my experience: I talked to my dad on a Wednesday, and we decided to meet up for a coffee on the next week. He died on a Sunday.
My uncle phoned me, and I knew it...
He was 66y old.
Next Monday I was at his funeral, I saw him in the casket, he looked at peace, tons of people came to me to give their condolences, I cried, didn't know what to do. Just stayed there.
After one week we had a mass. Then it hit me. I was a mess, couldn't stop crying.
After one month... another mass... Same thing...
And the last one month and a half I'm dealing with beurocracy. I am the only child, my dad never remarried nor had other kids, the pain is unberable.
Everytime I need to go somewhere to deal with paperwork I get angry, frustrated, I might cry...
My dad died of a heart attack, but he was an alcoholic. I'm also an alcoholic but I'm in recovery. BUT, we don't have a "sober community" in Brazil. There are a few 12 step program, but nothing like in the US or Canada...
I had recently broken up with my ex and returned to my mom's house, and working from home, and I have no idea what I'm writing it, but it's so off... Some people said: "oh, go to therapy"... I know they mean well, they come from a good place, but seriously? I'm an alcoholic. I lie to therapits, especially if they don't know exactly what alcoholism is, and often they don't.
I'm 31. Isolated.
I started to have some panic attacks - things that I used to have when I was drinking... Either I'm gonna be fucking strong, or I'm going down and won't make it.
Because why would I? If you don't have family, a job, friends... how do you do this? One day at a time, yeah... but until when?
I can't kill myself because I'm Catholic (yeah, that's my excuse)..
Thanks for reading this. I came across this video and I decidded two things... join another fellowship - but about grief, and watch the "war movie".
God bless!
My condolences Jack. Wish you the best brother.
I love your content jack sooo fucking much. Your like a big brother and a role model for me. You cant believe how much you have already changed my life. Keep it up please so more people can benefit
Can’t imagine what that feels like I’m sorry bro
Sorry for your loss brother
I am so sorry for you loss, I lost my dad on my sisters birthday in 2018
sending you love brother, condolences to you and your family.
We are all thinking about your mother right now and praying for you...
Prayers up to your mom!🙏🏻
Jack, my dad lost his mom when she was 56, I feel really sorry for you and can really understand your situation. Much Love❤️
Mad respect for you dude. You've got a great heart. My condolences to you and your family. Great episode boys.
Sorry for your loss.
You’re inspirational my man! Wow
bless you jack and wishing you strength in your healing process. your mom is with the stars now resting at peace, she will always be there with you, souls live forever, one day you'll meet again
Thanks for giving us this and I'm so Sorry for your sudden loss brother!!! You are a great man and we all respect and appreciate you more than you know!
My Condolences, Brother.
Very sorry for your loss brother. Hurts to see you hurting. Sending lots of prayers yours and your family’s way🙏🏼
I wish you a lot of strength, love and light!
My condolences go out to you and your family, you’re incredibly strong for doing this podcast. Keep your chin up!