I seriously needed to hear you say that you hurt your partner on occasion unintentionally and you’re a psychologist. You are right. I do hold myself to a higher standard- so hurting ANYONE is the end of the world for me, internally. Working on giving myself more grace in these human moments. Thank you
Ms. Keegan L 101, yes. If you are dealing with something particularly difficult, please search the channel and see if we have something relevant to your situation. If we don't, then let me know and I will consider making a video on it.
Warren Mack, I hope the video helped you. This is another video that may apply to your situation as well: "How To Say Sorry For Hurting Someone You Love" - th-cam.com/video/0iNknc8Rtoc/w-d-xo.html Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.
I feel you, it's been 2 years for me. I let him go and I later fell in love with him. I felt like it was too late for me. I lost contact with him and I still love him. I will never forgive myself for that, I try but it hurts.
Thank you so much for this video, it's so hard to forgive yourself but I am going to try. I did apologize but didn't receive response and not knowing how they feel makes me feel even worst. I hope both sides can find forgiveness. Me for myself and them for me😢
ive began to realize ive unintentionally hurt people back then while i was being abused at home growing up. i also feel like ive done inappropriate things that i feel like i should have known better than to do at the time, but i truly didnt know. i feel so stupid for the things i did. i apologized to someone i hurt already, they forgive me, but its been hard to forgive myself. ive been punishing myself over bad things i did back then by harming myself physically and mentally currently im in an abusive situation that i cant get out of right away, but i have reached out for help. my abuser does not like that one bit so far. im scared of everything. i really dont want to end up like my abuser
jnvorz, It can take a lot to change our learned behaviors. You decide how you will end up and with help and hard work, you can have a positive, abusive free life.
@@queenfpbt1212 hey Queen what you did in past is in the past like Africas says once you drop the water it can be picked. I promise you it hurts but always tries to do your best by forgiving yourself, pray, exercising, going outside for a walk, having a drink with friends socializing, work hard on yourself please don't ever think of suicide. The person you lost once was yours but now they are not they were here for a short period of time your future person is waiting for you so do better yourself you got this
Thanks a lot, I really need this to learn. Now I practice to forgive myself what I did in the past & learn my mistake. I feel guilty & sometime hard to forgive ourselves. I hope one day I feel finally can forgive myself
I have some screwed-up family, and it was like they did everything they possibly could do for years until I would lose it twists makeup stories it was like to get my son against me, I would never even think to do that devastates me, but it has revealed some people in my life that were not sincere with me and I couldn't see
When I was 19, I was pretty shitty to the sweetest girl ever. Did her wrong after saying I'd never. I'm almost 40. Due to my nomadic lifestyle over the years. I think about that almost daily. There are breaks, but it generally returns based on triggers.
Amazingly brilliant communication skills and information Sir, it is all so very deeply appreciated. All humans should listen to this no matter who they’re needing to forgive- themselves or anyone else! Kind regards
I unloaded my frustrations on a friend because she didn't see me as a romantic interest. I hurt her, and I feel awful, I apologized, but not sure she will ever forgive me
I asked my ex friend if she can forgive me because I wasn’t a good person back in the day, and everyone knows I’ve changed. And she keeps saying my life doesn’t matter because I never change. I’m glad that when I was growing up I was raised to forgive people. I hope she grows up and learns that to. Or she will be a very bad person
I love my best friend. I love him so much and hes bi. I jokingly told someone that he was gay and he found out. He laughed but he told me he was hurting inside. All his lofe hes been lonely and i was the one he decided to trust his sexuality with. Hes the only person i would ever hug to, talk to and openly laugh to. He was getting more pissed off as i stupidly brought it up and he got mad and upset that i didnt realise and i have been beating myself up for days because hes been ignoring me. Ive been talking to people hoping they could console me for the mistake ive done. Ive apologised in paragraphs, explaining what i did wrong and im stupid even saying it. Im so angry at myself for even doing it. I know its 100% on me but im so scared because i love him so much and i dont want to lose him and my heart drops everytime i think about him now and when i hear notifications pop up In my phone, i get my hopes up thinking its him but its not. Because of this, because i kept wanting help from other people to console me, or taking advice, my other close friends started drifting away from me and i still dont feel okay. I need help because of my stupid mistake.
Work on you, work on developing the character traits that will help you to be a good friend. We have lots of videos that help with personal development. As others see what you are doing they will gravitate toward you. Don't seek someone else out for a bit and work on you.
I did something weird and disgusting to my sister when I was 7 or younger and now I regret it and I can't tell anyone because people will think I'm weird...
Here's the thing with me , I had my relationship , rushed and didn't worked out after a year..... But things we did when we were a couple is affecting her....as an example in our university she and I kissed and in my country people are so not 21st century..... I'm afraid whether things will effect her.... I'm scared...I'm ok people blaming me but she is a girl....I hope things will be fine for her💔
I have made a severe mistake in my life, me and my friend were best friends for a while now, the past couple of months we started insulting each-other and making fun of each-other. I never knew that it was something serious,no though we were just the “boys” messing around with eachother. He recently opened up to me that he has been suffering with depression, suicidal thoughts, and loneliness, he even said he attempted suicide.He was suffering with depressromn because a mixture of things, one of the things was all of us friends used to make fun of each-other and him and some other issues inside his house. I felt so bad after that, my heart dropped, I got some advice from someone and I think he is feeling better but I just keep thinking about how horrible of a person I feel like, I feel like I’m a terrible person for that, I never knew it was serious because he used to make fun of me also. Please give me some tips, I don’t even want to see my family anymore because I keep having that feeling. I went crying for hours the guilt i felt,everytime I leave him I keep feeling sad and he tells me he feels lonely when I leave him, but I have a lot of stuff to do in life.
Rameen, you are not responsible for your friend. You know what your intent was. Tell him you are glad he opened up to you and act differently now. When we know better, we do better. Also, encourage him to get help.
I'm suffering really badly. I'm a terrible daughter. My parents have been unkind and dysfunctional and ot has led me to act in ways that are cold and distant. I messed up at a recent party. Despite being distant with me they tried and spent money on me, I was overwhelmed by the amount of family there and the deep seated pain. I overreacted to a certain situation and I hate myself. I upset everyone and they dont forgive me
We mess up and learn from our mistakes and try again. Figure out what overwhelms you and try to limit those situations. You may need to give yourself breaks and check in with your feelings.
I’ve lost nearly 5 kilos (11 pounds) in less than 7 days... I’ve apparently hurt my best friend without even realizing I hurt her, sometimes I do notice what I say may have been over board but she doesn’t say anything after that so I assume that she is just listening and it turns out she was being my fake friend the entire time and that she despised me even more by the day... she said she no longer wants to be my friend and that I was effecting her mental health and I seriously didn’t mean to hurt her in any way shape or form. I’m now living with the guilt and I’m physically getting sick. I wake up every morning with nausea that lasted for hours and days and I just stopped eating, every time I ate I felt disgusted and threw up afterwards. How can I forgive myself if I always lose my friends.
Drink Bleach, she wasn't really a friend so she couldn't have been your best friend. It sounds like you might be oversharing or talking too much in the relationship. Make sure that the other person is able to share their feelings and that all the time is not focused on you. Try to find someone who has the same interests as you, then you can spend more time focusing on that and not on your problems.
I know this is totally different, but I just want to say THANKs... 🙏🏻my son got extremely moody and you had a video saying that if your child’s character changed drastically or out of the blue ... there was probably something underlying. He also had headaches and sick stomach. Your video got me thinking 🤔 as he was always a lively, social child...I started looking into the medication he was put on for asthma ( and wow ) Also, that week there was a big write up about that certain medication and serious side effects it caused. The extreme moods, headaches, really serious effects paranoia, sucidal thoughts etc.. We went back to Doctor and I told him.. I was taking him off the medication etc... ( plus I was at the doctors every month.. he got viruses, tummy bugs... felt extremely unwell.) Basically after withdrawal from the medication... he is back to himself... just a regular normal moody teenager ( thankgod).. Your video got my hubby and I talking about bullying, depression, school. It just shows, to trust ones gut.. and as you said.. if the change comes from out of the blue... don’t let it go... look into it... thanks again🙏🏻💛.. keep the great videos coming 💛🙏🏻
I left my girlfriend because of my own lust. The guilt has been with me daily. She always loved me so fully and I let her down. Too bad there's no time machine to fix it but that's life, I guess.
I hurt a strangers feelings I sporadically had a very nice conversation with and I accidently misgenered them despite being apart of the lgbtq community I slipped up horribly like I forgot they were in the process of transitioning I made them cry this really broke my heart and they left abruptly I was so panicked I apologized and acknowledged their emotions and so on but they were clearly in a space of discomfort they did say they know it was just a slip of my tongue and said goodbye I hope they are doing well but I'm struggling with moving on from it all its stuck in my head I can vent it feels temporarily good but I come back to just me and my thoughts and I dislike me for just being me it was an honest mistake that I should of been more cautious about idk if I lack communication skills bc I never leave my house anymore or what I get so intimidated speaking to people now if I seem to attract such akward situations when all I wanted was a casual conversation the more I process I think ive kinda let go and learned from it but its awful to know I was so very toned deaf in that small split of a second I just wanted to die after it hit me what I had done this took place at a cafe I wanted to get use to going but idk if i want to go back there anytime soon
I decided to try and find a way to get rid of guilt. I did something I regret. I met someone online, she was very nice, we started talking each day. So I made an alt account to talk to her, which she didn't know it was me. You know it was all fun and normal things. Which I did not know she had feelings for the alt I had, unknowingly it was me. When she found out, it was all laughing fun and jokes. But then, I made the worst mistake, I typed in accidentally, "SABI NA NGA BA AT MALANDI KA HAHAHHAH". I didn't mewn to type that in, my mind had it on control. I was gonna type, "Just joking.", but I never did. They lost trust in me because they helped me through many things like. Scuicidal thoughts, anxiety, guilt, depression, attempted scuicide. They lost all trust in me, even I lost trust in myself. I can't forgive myself. Everything they helped me through went down the trash bin. Its not even a mistake at that point. Its just intentional sin.
Leafy_, I hope you can apologize. It may take some time and cooling off for them to want to listen. You can learn your lesson, not to do this again, respect people and their feelings. You can move past this. It will take some time and work, but can be done.
This is my case except I made multiple alt accounts because I wanted to joke with her on those but I made her stress cause I brought too much drama on it.. For 2 months of stress and helping me... All for a betrayal.. Worse part is a I love her and like her.. She does too but I think she has lost trust in me.. And now I can't forgive myself even tho she has forgave me...
We all do stupid things sometimes. Na pagsisisihan naten sa huli. Ganon talaga life eh. Forgive yourself. The fact that you acknowledge what you did was wrong and you feel so bad about it, that makes you a good person na :)
How do you forgive yourself after hurting something but yiu were ignorant and very very young and now you are an adult you can learn and process what happened and never do it again Also the person I hurt when I was young doesn't remember it or ever did so I basically just hurt myself Weird situation but can anyone help...please
I was playing around with my friend pushing him. He sprained his knee because of me and he is now on crutches for a few days. I have to see him tomorrow and I dont know if I can face him or anyone at school. Edit: I just admitted what I did to someone and I feel much better
Got caught smoking weed for a second time and this time I definitely learned my lesson but my parent don't trust me and I keep remembering her walking in ugh and I feel like I definitely ruined Christmas and the guilt is causing nonstop tears and heartache it hurts so bad
Your past actions should define a person if you have done bad things. Forgiving yourself seems like that it was okay you done those bad things or behaved in a bad way.
how will i say sorry to that person when we cannot talk anymore, plus they have also hurt me that’s why talking isn’t that worth it anymore. is praying enough?
Princess Arcillas, I don't know if there is something nice you can do for that person, that might be an option. It isn't always about words, our actions can speak louder than words.
I had an affair on my husband almost 4 years ago. I told him most of what happened but he doesn’t want to know anymore but I didn’t get to tell him the worst parts...I still feel like I’m lying because he doesn’t want to know the whole truth...how do I forgive myself when I’m not able to tell the whole truth
@babygirl I can relate. They stopped me from sharing more details when I tried to confess when I was finally ready. Then after a few day, she suddenly wants to know more details when I was trying to move on from my own trauma.
Um cool vid but asking for forgiveness is a question not a Statement Saying "Sorry" or "I apologise" are statements and not asking for forgiveness. Sorry means I suck to put it in basic terms. "I apologise" is an Apology not seeking for ones forgiveness it's like a amends but the actual phrase "please forgive me or would you for forgive me" is asking for ones forgiveness.
I punched one of my friends today, I feel like a horrible person. I feel like that friend I hit won't forgive me. I've prayed about it so much. Please help me
Night Sky Of Faith, great time to do some work on yourself. Apologize, seek some help and let your friend know you are working on the problem. Friendships have survived, but only if you change so they can trust again.
Hey I am struggling to forgive myself after I said something nasty to An Exfriend about their bestfriend I felt these feelings I’ve never felt before it was this bottling up feeling that I had and I couldn’t hold it anymore because people was pushing me away from talking about it so I ended up saying about it on a live stream because I feel pretty connected and open with my subscribers and they over heard and now they hate me and going for my friends how do I sort the situation out? I’ve tried to explain myself but I’m not sure if they understand it wasn’t my intention for them to be hurt by what I said my intention was too get the feeling outta me I didn’t wanna feel that way about their bestfriend at all. What’s the best advice you can give me?
THE Murphy Verse, there are different ways to express the feeling and saying it might not be the best way. Try writing it down. Journaling may help you.
I am feeling very guilt about me. I made a mistake while talking to my bestiee.. he is very angry me about this. I also conveyed my apologies to him. Don't know how feels now. He also said me not to msg him. Feeling very guilt and regret myself.😭😭😭
Give him some space and wait to see if he responds. If you push too soon, he might get angry for not respecting boundaries. Work on yourself so if the opportunity comes up you can show that you have taken steps so the mistake won't happen again.
I have a boyfriend and his amazing but like when we fight I know I hurt him and I feel so guilty after and he thinks I'm pittying myself but I feel so guilty about it
I did something awful to a friend about 7 years ago. I would like nothing more than to apologize sincerely but not only do i have no way of contacting her. But her mother will harm me if she finds me. Idk how to work through that
I seriously needed to hear you say that you hurt your partner on occasion unintentionally and you’re a psychologist. You are right. I do hold myself to a higher standard- so hurting ANYONE is the end of the world for me, internally. Working on giving myself more grace in these human moments. Thank you
Love this! Be kind to yourself and you may find others being more kind to you!
Can everyone on here pray for me
Ms. Keegan L 101, yes. If you are dealing with something particularly difficult, please search the channel and see if we have something relevant to your situation. If we don't, then let me know and I will consider making a video on it.
Yes, how are you now? It's been a year. Hope you are happy now!
I need prayer Too 🥺
Praying for you!🙏✨️
I'm going through this now. I was in a relationship that was completely rushed and I feel like I let her down time and time again.
Warren Mack, I hope the video helped you. This is another video that may apply to your situation as well: "How To Say Sorry For Hurting Someone You Love" - th-cam.com/video/0iNknc8Rtoc/w-d-xo.html
Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.
I feel you, it's been 2 years for me. I let him go and I later fell in love with him. I felt like it was too late for me. I lost contact with him and I still love him. I will never forgive myself for that, I try but it hurts.
And yup, it is 200% easier to forgive someone who is apologetic and sincere.
N Limesky, so true.
Thank you so much for this video, it's so hard to forgive yourself but I am going to try. I did apologize but didn't receive response and not knowing how they feel makes me feel even worst. I hope both sides can find forgiveness. Me for myself and them for me😢
I hope both sides can find forgiveness also.
ive began to realize ive unintentionally hurt people back then while i was being abused at home growing up. i also feel like ive done inappropriate things that i feel like i should have known better than to do at the time, but i truly didnt know. i feel so stupid for the things i did.
i apologized to someone i hurt already, they forgive me, but its been hard to forgive myself. ive been punishing myself over bad things i did back then by harming myself physically and mentally
currently im in an abusive situation that i cant get out of right away, but i have reached out for help. my abuser does not like that one bit so far. im scared of everything. i really dont want to end up like my abuser
jnvorz, It can take a lot to change our learned behaviors. You decide how you will end up and with help and hard work, you can have a positive, abusive free life.
I did innapropiate things to my younger sister and I didn't think anything of it back then now I've been crying for like 6 days now
I'm unable to forgive myself.Been suicidal and full of despair and guilt😢🙏
me too..
Queen fpbt, please get to the emergency room to get help.
@queen How are you now?
@@abigailrocksyou Still feel the same😳
@@queenfpbt1212 hey Queen what you did in past is in the past like Africas says once you drop the water it can be picked. I promise you it hurts but always tries to do your best by forgiving yourself, pray, exercising, going outside for a walk, having a drink with friends socializing, work hard on yourself please don't ever think of suicide. The person you lost once was yours but now they are not they were here for a short period of time your future person is waiting for you so do better yourself you got this
Thanks a lot, I really need this to learn. Now I practice to forgive myself what I did in the past & learn my mistake. I feel guilty & sometime hard to forgive ourselves. I hope one day I feel finally can forgive myself
We learn easy to forgive others & we didn't forgive ourselves. Learn & practice it's take a lot of working to forgive ourselves
You can do it! We are here to help.
I make one horrible mistake, I hope one day I will easily practice forgive myself 💙
I have some screwed-up family, and it was like they did everything they possibly could do for years until I would lose it twists makeup stories it was like to get my son against me, I would never even think to do that devastates me, but it has revealed some people in my life that were not sincere with me and I couldn't see
When I was 19, I was pretty shitty to the sweetest girl ever. Did her wrong after saying I'd never. I'm almost 40. Due to my nomadic lifestyle over the years. I think about that almost daily. There are breaks, but it generally returns based on triggers.
Intrusive thoughts. Maybe it would help if you could talk to her and apologize just to get the baggage off your chest.
lee, do you want to do something about it? Decide and then take the steps so you can move on.
Amazingly brilliant communication skills and information Sir, it is all so very deeply appreciated. All humans should listen to this no matter who they’re needing to forgive- themselves or anyone else!
Kind regards
Andrew Cail Berkhausen, thanks for your kind words, share away if you think someone would benefit.
Am in a better place now thank you
So glad to hear that, rolanda small. Thanks for letting me know. Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.
And if the person/people you hurt aren’t around any more .?
I unloaded my frustrations on a friend because she didn't see me as a romantic interest. I hurt her, and I feel awful, I apologized, but not sure she will ever forgive me
joltwarrior, show by your actions that you are truly sorry.
I asked my ex friend if she can forgive me because I wasn’t a good person back in the day, and everyone knows I’ve changed. And she keeps saying my life doesn’t matter because I never change. I’m glad that when I was growing up I was raised to forgive people. I hope she grows up and learns that to. Or she will be a very bad person
Naana Cleland, She has her journey and the timing may not be the same.
Thank you for this video.I needed it.
You are welcome, Ena 91. It's an honor to be on your team. Thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.
I love my best friend. I love him so much and hes bi. I jokingly told someone that he was gay and he found out. He laughed but he told me he was hurting inside. All his lofe hes been lonely and i was the one he decided to trust his sexuality with. Hes the only person i would ever hug to, talk to and openly laugh to. He was getting more pissed off as i stupidly brought it up and he got mad and upset that i didnt realise and i have been beating myself up for days because hes been ignoring me. Ive been talking to people hoping they could console me for the mistake ive done. Ive apologised in paragraphs, explaining what i did wrong and im stupid even saying it. Im so angry at myself for even doing it. I know its 100% on me but im so scared because i love him so much and i dont want to lose him and my heart drops everytime i think about him now and when i hear notifications pop up
In my phone, i get my hopes up thinking its him but its not. Because of this, because i kept wanting help from other people to console me, or taking advice, my other close friends started drifting away from me and i still dont feel okay. I need help because of my stupid mistake.
Work on you, work on developing the character traits that will help you to be a good friend. We have lots of videos that help with personal development. As others see what you are doing they will gravitate toward you. Don't seek someone else out for a bit and work on you.
I did something weird and disgusting to my sister when I was 7 or younger and now I regret it and I can't tell anyone because people will think I'm weird...
move on. Don't look back, move forward.
You were only a child then and were probably abused also
Here's the thing with me , I had my relationship , rushed and didn't worked out after a year..... But things we did when we were a couple is affecting her....as an example in our university she and I kissed and in my country people are so not 21st century..... I'm afraid whether things will effect her.... I'm scared...I'm ok people blaming me but she is a girl....I hope things will be fine for her💔
TR3x bay bay, It is common to have relationships that don't work. Be kind and honest. Time will heal.
I have made a severe mistake in my life, me and my friend were best friends for a while now, the past couple of months we started insulting each-other and making fun of each-other. I never knew that it was something serious,no though we were just the “boys” messing around with eachother. He recently opened up to me that he has been suffering with depression, suicidal thoughts, and loneliness, he even said he attempted suicide.He was suffering with depressromn because a mixture of things, one of the things was all of us friends used to make fun of each-other and him and some other issues inside his house. I felt so bad after that, my heart dropped, I got some advice from someone and I think he is feeling better but I just keep thinking about how horrible of a person I feel like, I feel like I’m a terrible person for that, I never knew it was serious because he used to make fun of me also. Please give me some tips, I don’t even want to see my family anymore because I keep having that feeling. I went crying for hours the guilt i felt,everytime I leave him I keep feeling sad and he tells me he feels lonely when I leave him, but I have a lot of stuff to do in life.
Rameen, you are not responsible for your friend. You know what your intent was. Tell him you are glad he opened up to you and act differently now. When we know better, we do better. Also, encourage him to get help.
Loved the message, but there is a high pitch tone in the background that is really hard to endure. Could u please investigate?
N Limesky, thanks for letting me know.
I'm suffering really badly. I'm a terrible daughter. My parents have been unkind and dysfunctional and ot has led me to act in ways that are cold and distant. I messed up at a recent party. Despite being distant with me they tried and spent money on me, I was overwhelmed by the amount of family there and the deep seated pain. I overreacted to a certain situation and I hate myself. I upset everyone and they dont forgive me
We mess up and learn from our mistakes and try again. Figure out what overwhelms you and try to limit those situations. You may need to give yourself breaks and check in with your feelings.
Thank you so much for this!
Allison Smith, my pleasure.
I’ve lost nearly 5 kilos (11 pounds) in less than 7 days... I’ve apparently hurt my best friend without even realizing I hurt her, sometimes I do notice what I say may have been over board but she doesn’t say anything after that so I assume that she is just listening and it turns out she was being my fake friend the entire time and that she despised me even more by the day... she said she no longer wants to be my friend and that I was effecting her mental health and I seriously didn’t mean to hurt her in any way shape or form. I’m now living with the guilt and I’m physically getting sick. I wake up every morning with nausea that lasted for hours and days and I just stopped eating, every time I ate I felt disgusted and threw up afterwards. How can I forgive myself if I always lose my friends.
Drink Bleach, she wasn't really a friend so she couldn't have been your best friend. It sounds like you might be oversharing or talking too much in the relationship. Make sure that the other person is able to share their feelings and that all the time is not focused on you. Try to find someone who has the same interests as you, then you can spend more time focusing on that and not on your problems.
how could i say sorry to that person when we cannot talk anymore? is praying enough and leaving things to God, since they also hurt u?
Princess Arcillas, it might take some time to be able to talk again. You might consider writing a letter.
I know this is totally different, but I just want to say THANKs... 🙏🏻my son got extremely moody and you had a video saying that if your child’s character changed drastically or out of the blue ... there was probably something underlying. He also had headaches and sick stomach. Your video got me thinking 🤔 as he was always a lively, social child...I started looking into the medication he was put on for asthma ( and wow ) Also, that week there was a big write up about that certain medication and serious side effects it caused. The extreme moods, headaches, really serious effects paranoia, sucidal thoughts etc.. We went back to Doctor and I told him.. I was taking him off the medication etc... ( plus I was at the doctors every month.. he got viruses, tummy bugs... felt extremely unwell.) Basically after withdrawal from the medication... he is back to himself... just a regular normal moody teenager ( thankgod).. Your video got my hubby and I talking about bullying, depression, school. It just shows, to trust ones gut.. and as you said.. if the change comes from out of the blue... don’t let it go... look into it... thanks again🙏🏻💛.. keep the great videos coming 💛🙏🏻
Sarah Brennan, So glad you figured this out. Way to go mom.
I left my girlfriend because of my own lust. The guilt has been with me daily. She always loved me so fully and I let her down. Too bad there's no time machine to fix it but that's life, I guess.
That is life, we have experiences and hopefully we learn from them so we don't continue to make them.
You have no idea how much you hurt her...
I hurt a strangers feelings I sporadically had a very nice conversation with and I accidently misgenered them despite being apart of the lgbtq community I slipped up horribly like I forgot they were in the process of transitioning I made them cry this really broke my heart and they left abruptly I was so panicked I apologized and acknowledged their emotions and so on but they were clearly in a space of discomfort they did say they know it was just a slip of my tongue and said goodbye I hope they are doing well but I'm struggling with moving on from it all its stuck in my head I can vent it feels temporarily good but I come back to just me and my thoughts and I dislike me for just being me it was an honest mistake that I should of been more cautious about idk if I lack communication skills bc I never leave my house anymore or what I get so intimidated speaking to people now if I seem to attract such akward situations when all I wanted was a casual conversation the more I process I think ive kinda let go and learned from it but its awful to know I was so very toned deaf in that small split of a second I just wanted to die after it hit me what I had done this took place at a cafe I wanted to get use to going but idk if i want to go back there anytime soon
Indigo, we have all made mistakes and I can tell you feel horrible about it. Forgive yourself like you would forgive others.
I decided to try and find a way to get rid of guilt.
I did something I regret.
I met someone online, she was very nice, we started talking each day.
So I made an alt account to talk to her, which she didn't know it was me.
You know it was all fun and normal things.
Which I did not know she had feelings for the alt I had, unknowingly it was me.
When she found out, it was all laughing fun and jokes.
But then, I made the worst mistake, I typed in accidentally, "SABI NA NGA BA AT MALANDI KA HAHAHHAH".
I didn't mewn to type that in, my mind had it on control.
I was gonna type, "Just joking.", but I never did.
They lost trust in me because they helped me through many things like.
Scuicidal thoughts, anxiety, guilt, depression, attempted scuicide.
They lost all trust in me, even I lost trust in myself.
I can't forgive myself.
Everything they helped me through went down the trash bin.
Its not even a mistake at that point. Its just intentional sin.
Leafy_, I hope you can apologize. It may take some time and cooling off for them to want to listen. You can learn your lesson, not to do this again, respect people and their feelings. You can move past this. It will take some time and work, but can be done.
This is my case except I made multiple alt accounts because I wanted to joke with her on those but I made her stress cause I brought too much drama on it.. For 2 months of stress and helping me... All for a betrayal.. Worse part is a I love her and like her.. She does too but I think she has lost trust in me.. And now I can't forgive myself even tho she has forgave me...
We all do stupid things sometimes. Na pagsisisihan naten sa huli. Ganon talaga life eh. Forgive yourself. The fact that you acknowledge what you did was wrong and you feel so bad about it, that makes you a good person na :)
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How do you forgive yourself after hurting something but yiu were ignorant and very very young and now you are an adult you can learn and process what happened and never do it again
Also the person I hurt when I was young doesn't remember it or ever did so I basically just hurt myself
Weird situation but can anyone help...please
Basement Jesus reborn, yes, apologize and don't do it again. Move on and create something better for yourself.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I don't think I will apologise as no harm was done and actually informing the victim might make things a lot worse please understand
I was playing around with my friend pushing him. He sprained his knee because of me and he is now on crutches for a few days. I have to see him tomorrow and I dont know if I can face him or anyone at school.
Edit: I just admitted what I did to someone and I feel much better
AFizzysheep, go with it, say you are sorry and help your friend out as much as possible. Could have happened the other way around.
I heard this when I needed it the most... I'm hopeful now
That is great! Thanks for letting me know.
Got caught smoking weed for a second time and this time I definitely learned my lesson but my parent don't trust me and I keep remembering her walking in ugh and I feel like I definitely ruined Christmas and the guilt is causing nonstop tears and heartache it hurts so bad
It will take some time to build the trust in the relationship again. Be transparent and open.
Your past actions should define a person if you have done bad things. Forgiving yourself seems like that it was okay you done those bad things or behaved in a bad way.
Forgiving yourself is about allowing yourself to move on and do better, not about repeating the wrong.
how will i say sorry to that person when we cannot talk anymore, plus they have also hurt me that’s why talking isn’t that worth it anymore. is praying enough?
Princess Arcillas, I don't know if there is something nice you can do for that person, that might be an option. It isn't always about words, our actions can speak louder than words.
I had an affair on my husband almost 4 years ago. I told him most of what happened but he doesn’t want to know anymore but I didn’t get to tell him the worst parts...I still feel like I’m lying because he doesn’t want to know the whole truth...how do I forgive myself when I’m not able to tell the whole truth
Babygirl, accept what it is and concentrate on making good memories with your husband now. The closer you come to him, the more the love will heal.
@babygirl I can relate. They stopped me from sharing more details when I tried to confess when I was finally ready. Then after a few day, she suddenly wants to know more details when I was trying to move on from my own trauma.
Um cool vid but asking for forgiveness is a question not a Statement
Saying "Sorry" or "I apologise" are statements and not asking for forgiveness. Sorry means I suck to put it in basic terms. "I apologise" is an Apology not seeking for ones forgiveness it's like a amends but the actual phrase "please forgive me or would you for forgive me" is asking for ones forgiveness.
Mary Mikel, thank you.
I punched one of my friends today, I feel like a horrible person. I feel like that friend I hit won't forgive me. I've prayed about it so much. Please help me
Night Sky Of Faith, great time to do some work on yourself. Apologize, seek some help and let your friend know you are working on the problem. Friendships have survived, but only if you change so they can trust again.
Well, it's fight or flight time
Agreed.
Hey I am struggling to forgive myself after I said something nasty to An Exfriend about their bestfriend I felt these feelings I’ve never felt before it was this bottling up feeling that I had and I couldn’t hold it anymore because people was pushing me away from talking about it so I ended up saying about it on a live stream because I feel pretty connected and open with my subscribers and they over heard and now they hate me and going for my friends how do I sort the situation out? I’ve tried to explain myself but I’m not sure if they understand it wasn’t my intention for them to be hurt by what I said my intention was too get the feeling outta me I didn’t wanna feel that way about their bestfriend at all. What’s the best advice you can give me?
THE Murphy Verse, there are different ways to express the feeling and saying it might not be the best way. Try writing it down. Journaling may help you.
I am feeling very guilt about me. I made a mistake while talking to my bestiee.. he is very angry me about this. I also conveyed my apologies to him. Don't know how feels now. He also said me not to msg him. Feeling very guilt and regret myself.😭😭😭
Give him some space and wait to see if he responds. If you push too soon, he might get angry for not respecting boundaries. Work on yourself so if the opportunity comes up you can show that you have taken steps so the mistake won't happen again.
I cant forgive myself
Josh Murtagh, what if it were possible? Think about that for a while.
I have a boyfriend and his amazing but like when we fight I know I hurt him and I feel so guilty after and he thinks I'm pittying myself but I feel so guilty about it
Make a promise to never hurt him. Just tell him if he is wrong but don't argue about sensitive things
I did something awful to a friend about 7 years ago. I would like nothing more than to apologize sincerely but not only do i have no way of contacting her. But her mother will harm me if she finds me. Idk how to work through that
awesomex35, write down what you would say and put it away. If the chance ever comes up, you will have it ready.
Be more to the point.! snap.. snap..
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@@LiveOnPurposeTV disagree, if Shawn white doesn't have 6 minutes to spare he can watch a different vid haha