How do you help kids traumatized by violence? | Bessel van der Kolk | Great Question
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- How do you help kids traumatized by violence? with Bessel van der Kolk
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People usually think about the military when they talk about trauma. But for every soldier who gets PTSD in a war zone, there's at least 30 children who get traumatized at home.
The big question continues to be how do you help kids who have been exposed to enormous amounts of violence? How do you help these kids get a sense of self, a sense of agency, so they can make a life for themselves where they can learn, acquire skills, acquire competencies, and become full-fledged human beings?
Bessel van der Kolk’s greatest dream is that in grades K through 12, kids get taught weekly about self-regulation - what kinds can do to calm themselves down and orient themselves. To aid in healing childhood trauma, every school in America would ideally be taught the following: reading, writing, arithmetic, and self-regulation.
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About Bessel van der Kolk:
Bessel van der Kolk is a psychiatrist noted for his research in the area of post-traumatic stress since the 1970s. His work focuses on the interaction of attachment, neurobiology, and developmental aspects of trauma’s effects on people. His major publication, Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body, and Society, talks about how the role of trauma in psychiatric illness has changed over the past 20 years.
Dr. van der Kolk is past President of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, Professor of Psychiatry at Boston University Medical School, and Medical Director of the Trauma Center at JRI in Brookline, Massachusetts. He has taught at universities and hospitals across the United States and around the world, including Europe, Africa, Russia, Australia, Israel, and China.
Check out Bessel van der Kolk's latest book, “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” at www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Sco...
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To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't ever blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious and the keys to a happy life is in your hands.
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Just had an argument with my father on how step parents shouldn’t beat their step kids with a belt. He would never understand how it damages their brain and view of “ love”
I got slapped for stupidity only. a lot ezier for kids to understand anger if they understand the reason
@@ivangohome biological parents should be the only ones doing the chastising and even then it should reasonable. A slap is understandable. A beating with a belt like I got many times? From step parents? No. Also imo that punishment comes from whipping slaves
@@Keviekev115 a belt is a weapon. Unacceptable. But stepparents have same duty to kids though. My friend's real dad was much MUCH worse than his stepdad.
@@Keviekev115 forgive them orion, grief over it if you will, until those anger subside....
@@Keviekev115 it's okay if you feel hurt and angry, or even cry....
But accept people as they are, forgive those violent people in our life Orion, Be compassion, be forgiving
"For every soldier who gets PTSD in a warzone, there's at least 30 children who get traumatised at home."
Thank you, Mr. Van de Kolk. Your book "The Body Keeps the Score" has changed my life and the way I look at myself and others. I'm glad your information and valuable viewpoint is getting out to the world!
This book made me cry.
I bought the book because of your comment, Thank you ❤️
A regular conversation about the way emotional regulation works, the way that your brain operates with "Us vs. Them" biases, and the way that healthy attachment and traumatic bonding are different are 3 skillsets that would be beyond helpful to have regularly during childhood development.
One of the important things to remember is that how children experience things and how they are don't always align, but that doesn't change how your brain wires itself to respond to them.
While a fear of spiders seems more rational than a fear of butterflies, they're all rooted in the same thing, and that's important to remember when it comes to never trying to compare your trauma against someone else's.
There are endless simple ways to teach these things that will lead to a better and healthier generation that will be inconceivably better off for it.
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No One Has Ever Become Poor By Giving.
...and then you looked up Lottery Horror Stories. XD
What a beautiful quote and truth! Well said!
It happens all the time.
Seems to be going around and becoming more out in the open and socially acceptable to acknowledge it, what a wonderful time to be alive
Finally the real issues being discussed.
the system is too broken and restrictive to even get anything done to help kids and adults with trauma.
kids with trauma are especially hurt by the current system because everyone with trauma is treated like a moneybag. nobody should be treated like a moneybag, its with love and understanding you heal someone.
When You Help People Get What They Want Then You Will Receive Everything That You Need In Life.🥀
That's Too Much Capitalization
I agree with the presenter’s recommendations. Help the kids as soon as you can! We didn’t have anything like this when I was a kid. Too late now, but not for today’s kids.
"Faerie Tales of dragons are important because they teach us dragons can he defeated", Gilbert Keith Chesterton.
This is my life everyday working at a Head Start facility as an early childhood special education teacher. There are so many layers of trauma in these children's lives that they really have a hard with basic function. If you can't trust, how can you learn and grow? I teach self-regulation along with the message: you matter to me!!!
Brilliant. My therapist says that this man quite literally changed the psychological and psychiatric worlds. No wonder his book has been on the NY Times Best Seller list for so long. Thank you for this very important material. : )
Mindfulness is healing. 🙏🏽
Reading his book, "the body keeps the score". Really insightful :)
I was mentally and physically abused growing up. I have domestic ptsd. Social anxiety and clinical depression as a result. I have been belittled and told i would never amount to anything because im imbred and not normal. Was abused by the ones i needed most. Now i live alone. And ashamed of my life and my bad life choices. Lost my son to the system and my ex to a overdose. Im on ssi disability and live in a cesspool apartment building with my cat. I have a 22 yr old daughter and if it wasnt for her saving me i would be dead. Now im a 43 yr old bitter human who wants another love and normal life but i know its not in my future.
I’m so sorry you went through all this:( I pray that you’re able to receive love and peace moving forward
@@NuMindframe im trying. Thank you.
I’m traumatized with psychological violence but i’m 35 now... and it’s catch me everyday
Thank you so much for posting
Thank you sir, this is helpful
Very interesting, keep it up! 💪
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
Thank you 🙏☘️🙏
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What crap. How the hell do you know ? Not everyone will get through it. Some die. Some have a shitty life until they die. So trite. Stop meditating and use your brain.
@@PDZ1122 this too shall pass 🙏☘️🙏☘️
Great video.
Bessel you are amazing
*"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." - Marcus Aurelius*
Aurelius died thousands of years ago. His word is not doctrine and just because a quote sounds whimsical does not mean that it is truth. Stoicism is total bullshit
Dude that is stupid as hell
@@kevins6732 thank you for agreeing with me
@@coryobrien8154 yeah man, this guy got 0 brain cells
I don't know whether there is a kid beaten as me, i got hits in head, backs, cryed alot, kicks on my body, tightening through that I almost felt i am dead, cursed by asthma and alegic issues, very sensitive nature, all day gets beaten, beaten by brother sister mother father. Brother sister do revenge to the father will put on me, mostly hears hurting and negative words saying about me by relatedfamily, my life until 19n run through fears still suffer but i try to control but sometimes I can't. Is there anyone who suffered like me I am now 20 still have head aches, often hurting flashbacks, negative thoughts (cause my many dreams are suffered), and always lonely, sad nature, never speak well or much, studying and remembering things are feels difficult sometimes. Less feel of happiness and I don't know i ever well felt a kind of pleasure. Can anyone help me what's going on on me and how to recover. My dream towards science and technology.
i wish this was shown in college or school
You can't undo trauma, you can only integrate it or create diversion
It's the issue in America? I see this issue in the whole world.
This is what I Searching for...
I am a homeless veteran. 2 tours as a Medic to Iraq. On top of that I was raped as a child. I need help. I'm sober and living right, but my country has turned it's back on me. I'm cold, I'm wet, I'm at the end of my rope. Please. Anyone. Please help me.
NO CAPTIONS!!! DYK, that as many as 6% have Auditory Processing Disorder including me? It is too much of a struggle 🤔 to figure this out. I had to give up 🤪.
I could be wrong. But i have seen videos that say youtube automatically adds CC, but it takes a few days. This video just dropped, so there is a chance it will have CC if you come back in a few days.
a life time of counseling
Can't states the important of reading enough
Remember my dear friend: no matter who you were, whoever made you down, still you're unique, beautiful, and talented🌸 how dare someone can rule on you? You're the the king\queen of your own life& happiness. You matter! Get up, go forward, and start doing what you like. You're the best, if you believe ✨
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Ayahuasca helped me with my childhood traumas.
Maybe this is why letting go is so popular. I let go completely, 5-6 years ago. Completely changed my life. Eventually I had to resume normal, and start forcing things to happen every now and then, and embrace discipline. Maybe I had to do it in order to deal with some kind of violence. School perhaps. Forcing things to happen is like using a hammer. It could do a lot of harm, especially if it is a sledge hammer, but is a tool you wouldn't wanna dismiss. If you're traumatized maybe it is better to just lay the hammer away for a while and just chill. I guess the opposite could be true too.
Christians use to say that hatred stems from below. I guess they are referring to base desires. They also say that your fate after death is eternal. Maybe they are wrong. What if they are trying to hide something. Maybe that hatred stems from trauma induced by the christian philosophy? Sorry if my comments seem incoherent. I was force fed medication by some doctors that completely ruined my brain
Could there be anything more fundamental for the future of humanity as a whole?
How can you take care of yourself when you don't care anymore?
NO MINIMUM WAGE.
I don't want to heal my childhood trauma. My childhood trauma keeps me company.
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I agree, but call it self-care - so non psych people immediately know what you're talking about and it doesn't sound like it was cooked up in a graduate student dissertation.
I was Molested at 5, lots of domestic violence at home. 70 now, lifelong Introvert, no trust for others. Try to people please too much to be liked.
Hello,
Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day.
Magnificent. But I didnt know this channel was US specific ;(
💬💬I just love it when I get that pop up saying "Someone has liked your comment" or "Someone has subscribed!"😍 Make somebody's day better!😃😀.
The guy knows what he is talking about. But the video's title is misleading...
Please don’t overlook adult abuse.
Maybe start talking to boys and girls witnessing domestic violence before they grow up to do the same.
First of all, the child has to be assured they did nothing wrong, but give them the personal skills to be autonomous with their space and the means to protect it through the child victim help available and adult supervision based on the child's immediate AND future needs. People will turn innocent kids into future abusers unless the system steps in. Only we can prevent tragedy by electing leadership that puts the needs of the needy on the front burner.
I deeply oppose this message. The system is more abusive than parents will ever be.
@@elinope4745 I guess I was speaking from experience, as my own mother was the worst kind of Catholic mom. The older kids (I was one.) had the corner seats in the back, just out of her reach while she was driving us to Mass on Sunday.
Does nearly drowning at 9 and watching 2 poeple drown trying to save you count as trauma.
Definitely
@@girldisappearing6129 I don't think I have ptsd tough.
@@iforget6940 Not everyone who has experienced trauma will be diagnosed as having ptsd. Trauma itself works on a much deeper and sometimes unconscious level that can unknowingly impact all areas of your life. it can change the way you experience and understand the world. For some, that may mean that they perceive things that are not threats, as threats, and they become emotionally dysregulated and reactive. that's why he mentioned how great it would be to teach kids emotional dysregulation skills in school. For other people it may mean being very perfectionistic. For others it may mean living a life where they are very disconnected from their emotions (which tends to create issues in different relationships). There's also the concept of resilience. You see that in people who go through traumatic situations but somehow end up doing very well despite the trauma they went through. Resilience itself has many of its own factors, for instance having a supportive person that you can count on will increase your chances of being resilient. Keep doing some research on it and you'll see what I mean. Trauma looks different for everyone. But definitely stick to the professionals such as dr. van der kolk cause now days anyone can start a youtube channel and call themselves an expert while pushing wrong information.
@@girldisappearing6129 thank you, I will red it tomorrow have a nice day.
@@iforget6940 you too :)
She married him because he was such a "strong man."
She divorced him because he was such a "dominating male."
He married her because she was so "fragile and petite."
He divorced her because she was so "weak and helpless."
She married him because "he knows how to provide a good living."
She divorced him because "all he thinks about is business."
He married her because "she reminds me of my mother."
He divorced her because "she's getting more like her mother every day."
She married him because he was "happy and romantic." She divorced him because he was "shiftless and fun-loving."
He married her because she was "steady and sensible."
He divorced her because she was "boring and dull."
She married him because he was "the life of the party."
She divorced him because "he never wants to come home from a party."
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yeah this is complete nonsense, not sure why u think this is true.
for some people this might be the case but for the best part it certainly isnt.
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