imposter syndrome at Seoul fashion week 😐 how to be confident, events & honest talks | Sissel
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ส.ค. 2024
- I used to feel like this but this week I suddenly felt it again, so I thought it was time for a chat. Watch this if you need a bit of confidence. Enjoy! ♡
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♫ Christof Walters - Looking For You
♫ Itay Kashti - Spring
♫ The Nightjars - Direction
♫ The Secret Sea - Sunlight (Instrumental Version)
♫ The Whiskey Wasps - Casa Monte Negra
♫ MILANO - Cafe De Paris
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INTRO
00:00 hello :)
00:44 fashion show experience
02:44 do you ever feel stupid? a wine night
04:12 I'm a wife!
05:53 how to be confident
08:03 women's day Isntree event
10:36 how to get out of bed
11:49 a cafe trip w. Angelina
12:21 confidence isn't a feeling?
13:27 beauty of Korean nature
14:32 a cafe day w. Cam
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When I lack in confidence i pull out my mantra "Do it afraid" - what's the worst that could happen right? Alsooooo, Happy Women's Day to those past, present and future!
I absolutely LOVE this !!! 💚
I did just this! I started dressing the way I always wanted to dress, started acting the way the girls I looked up to acted, stopped “caring” how people saw me and it was like a switch went off in my brain! I am now so much happier and feel so much more confident❤
When it comes to being uncomfortable and building confidence, I loved this: Fear is the brains way of saying that there is something important for you to overcome. 💛
Absolutely 💚
Confidence is definitely a skill! I try to built this skill too and I've come a long way. One thing for me was that I used to not talk and stand up for myself and I think building my Confidence has definitely helped me to speak up in situations that I need to. Happy women's day to all beautiful creatures out there 💌❤️🌿
That’s so beautiful, I hope anyone reading this will feel this power 💚
I don't have many friends and all m friends live out of my city. When I watch your videos, I feel like I'm spending time with a friend. Thank you for being so sincere 🌟
That just made me smile 💚🫶🏼
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It warms my heart when sissel comes home and jake replied with “hi my love”, the topic itself brings warmth to my heart, but that certain clip that shows how loved sissel by the husband and by her friends, i love seeing you glowing, sissel❤
This house is filled with love ♥️🫶🏼
I studied the Impostor Phenomenon for my dissertation, and it's this really convoluted thing. Confidence is for sure part of it, but so many external factors also play a part. I think what it boils down to is checking in with yourself to see how you feel and are talking to yourself about the situations you find yourself in when it's more likely to come up. From there you can talk about it with others and plan for how to support yourself during those times.
Absolutely !! I’ve found as well that a certain belief system around the type of person who “should be in the situation” is limiting as well. So many areas to touch upon with this topic 💚
When i decide to have a relaxing women’s day time and then sissel posts❤. Day made🎉
Awww I love this 💚🫶🏼
"Practice makes progress." Is something I've been told by several trainers. It's a mantra I follow in the gym but also applies to everyday life, like building confidence ❤️
I love that!! 💚
genuinely feel so bless to somehow have found an amazing inspiring woman like you
I don’t even know what to say other than, I feel so warm inside. Thank you 💚
I really like this community, everyone speaking freely about what they think because you Sissel are so genuine that we don’t feel scared to share our thoughts. I wish I met all of you in real life to talk about all those topics and just life 😂 it would be great
ALSO HAPPY WOMENS DAY TO ALL OF YOU OUT THERE 💜💜💜💜
That’s so beautiful, I’ve never thought about it like this. I feel so proud of everyone! Thank you for bringing this to light 💚
Dude Jenny Park for REAL is amazing like shes STUNNING and shes just wonderful like WOW deserved it girl title look at her SMILE
Thank you Sissel and congratulations! Just an aside, like other comments ... for many people, BTS brought them to TH-cam and to Korean Vlogs. Without them I would never have found you
... or Joan ... or Ashely ... or Cari. To many in the UK, (world, even) BTS brought South Korea to our awareness and we've been delighted to engage. They're amazing role models for the country. Before them, I'd never watched a TH-cam vlog. Now I can feel inspired watching your vlogs! Thanks again 😊 x
Funny how I got to know Key and Sissel because of BTS. I stumbled upon her MGA 2018 video featuring BTS during pandemic since then I also became a fan of her 😊
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In my first year of uni, my roommate shared about how she was able to get up early every morning despite a bad night sleep. She basically used the 5 second rule and would always sit right up on the count of 5. That’s how she did it every morning
I used to be so reserved as a younger teen, I fit the introverted stereotype. But now, I am much more confident in speaking with others like strangers or university classmates. I've become an extroverted introvert, the loudest in a group of introverts but quieter in a group of extroverts. I was only able to achieve this by doing stuff that made me uncomfortable but something I knew I wanted to do and that was getting to know small bits from strangers. Being approachable to others like me because I know how daunting socialising is. Achieving confidence is still a journey for me but I also believe that one of the ways to unlock this skill is to break apart your fears bit by bit. Be uncomfortable to be comfortable.
This is so beautiful ! And let’s not forget that introvert and extrovert aren’t forces of good and bad. You can be a very confident introvert and vise versa. It comes down to how you recharge. And yesssss achieving confidence is a journey! And we will never hit a place where we are 100%, that’s the beauty of it 💚
Thank you for this video! I look up to you so much and every video of yours is so comforting and boosting. Love what you're doing!🥰
Happy women's day 💕. And I've found out recently that working out helps me be more confident which I'm grateful for because I haven't been so confident through out my whole life.
Happy women’s day!! And I totally agree, the same is true for me💚
you should do a podcast. The answers that you give to your feelings or even our feelings they are amazing and a lot of the times I feel the same as you are describing it. I love watching your videos because you show all parts of yourself and you make me feel comfortable. Don't stop shining as you do Sissel.
That’s so kind of you love! I don’t know if you’ve listened to After Sunset, but it’s a podcast I had with my friend last year. You would like it, I’m sure 💚
Wow this vlog was really a crash course for confidence. Thank you 😊
Thank you so much for this vlog, Sissel. It motivated and inspired me, and came at a time where I really needed it 💚👏
Sissel: I don't know anything about fashion.
Me: Has Sissel as my fashion icon
Sissel's videos have such a feel good vibe. I feel like I m learning to take care of myself. Sissel feels like a sister and a friend and a mentor all in one. 😍
Awwwwww I’m blushing 💚💚
when jake said wife it made feel so happy idk why 😂 i love u sissel u re my all time comfort youtuber .. stay happy
Aww haha so sweet 💚
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As always, thank you very much for this video Sissel!!💚💚💚
hi lovely, when i watch your vids i'm always impressed by how intelligent and smart you are. you always speak rationally and wisely about everything, and most of the time i can relate to your thoughts. you are such an inspiration for me to grow and be better person. i dont know you in real life but i just feel that you are definitely one of the most pure and good-hearted person walking on this planet. sending you and Jake a lot of love and happiness
You make me smile so bag, thank you for these beautiful words! Means a lot 💚
Serving the right vibes and thoughts at the right time as always. Thank you so much for this video!
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sissel, i’ve been having a hard time lately with my self-growth and self- reflection and tend to avoid it by consuming media that heightens my dopamine levels but seeing your vlog inspires me to get back into thinking more deeply about life and certain aspects of the self rather than avoiding it.
your vlogs tremendously boost my mood and it makes me so happy to listen to you and all your knowledge and wisdom. i feel like i’m sitting down with a friend, just listening to them talk about life.
this and your previous vlog, one where you talked about discipline and taking in too much of a dopamine kick - resulting in instant gratification rather than delayed - have helped me reflect further.
i’m still working on focusing on it rather than ignoring it but thank you for always sharing your soul to the world. you truly shine and i’m sure everybody that watches your vlogs can say the same
i hope we can meet when i come back to korea one day ☺️
That’s so beautiful ! I’m so honored that my videos help in some way. Wish you best of luck 💚
Sissel ur so inspirational istg,i have been watching you for over 3 years now and honestly i am proud of the person you have become.In my eyes ur a confident queennnnnnnnnnnnn and ur doing great p.s. congrats on ur marriage
Awwwwwwwww you’re so sweet 💚💚
Watching a new video by you is the best way to take a small break during projects! ❤
I hope you have a beautiful day 💚
@@sisselab I hope you have had a beautiful day as well! Sending lots of love and support from Norway!❤
This was needed. I am in many environments right now where I don’t feel confident. I will try to change my mindset. I feel like my problem is practice makes better but to let yourself practice- that also requires confidence.
I understand where you come from. Think about it like this: confidence is the outcome, not the start. In order to practice, what you need it courage to take the first step 💚
Hey Sissel,
I really appreciate your videos on building confidence and imposter syndrome. I'm currently in my last 3 months of my bachelor degree, and I'm working with some people who make me feel small and incompetent almost every day because of a disagreement we had last month. It has taken such a toll on my self confidence and I've become much more quiet and it never feels like I'm doing good enough. I'm doing my best to work on my self confidence and talk to new people to get my head out of this situation, and it's so nice to hear you talk about it too, you have no idea how much it has helped me today!
I also believe you're doing great btw, I really love your content 😁
Much love from a fellow dane ❤🥰
I’m so sorry to hear about that, it must be frustrating knowing it’s not a situation you’re able to pull away from easily. Sending the best of luck and love to you, I hope you know your worth 💚
I fucking love this video! And, Mel Robbins 🤘🏼
Sissel, the way you articulate is 🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼
Happy International Women's day to such an incredible light, inspiration, and resilient woman!
Awww 🥰💚🫶🏼
I always learn so much from you Sissel. Thank you.
Thank you 💚
The mindset of fake it until you make it really works 😂 I grew up riding horses and learned so much from that. You and the horse are a team and one of you has to be confident or else you aren’t going anywhere. Horses can also pick up on your emotions and feelings so it was so important to “fake it” even when I was scared or nervous about something. I just had to be like “okay we are doing this” and not second guess it. That taught me so much about life. Even if I’m scared or nervous about something, I just tell myself okay we are doing this and I do it. It’s not alway prettty or perfect the first time, but gets better every time. This goes along with one of Yoda’s sayings as well “do or do not, there is no try”
That’s so beautiful !! And so true, being grave doesn’t mean you aren’t scared. It just means if you’re scared you do it anyways 💚
I am in a phase where I challenge my confidence and all you said are just questions I had the past week like are you reading my mind ???? Am I too confident or misplacing my confidence? I truly want to change my environment to feel uncomfortableness and stimulation!
As always I really enjoyed your video and it made my heart a bit warmer!
I send you lots of love and hope you spend quality time with your loved ones! 💜
It’s so so so healthy to put yourself in situations of discomfort, just like my fashion show thingy. That’s how you grow and expand 💚 yellow zone all the way baby 💚
I would have to try the 5 seconds rule! ❤ been feeling a bit under the under the weather these past few days and ohhh the struggle. Also, "fake it 'til you make it" is my mantra when I really need a boost of confidence. 😁
You won’t regret it. The second I find myself deciding to count down, it’s like my body “gives” up on whatever it holds onto for staying in that position and it just gets up before 1 comes around. Magic ✨✨✨
te amamos Sissel
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I'm a bit skeptic to the "fake it till you make it" approach to confidence. Acting a certain way to feel confident is like a mask that can fall off anytime. I think it is better to lower our expectations for ourselves, accept that we cannot control everything, take a step back and breathe and practice mindfulness. Then we can be confident that we do our best and that we are on our path of growth and be at peace and confident with who we are and the decisions we make.
Absolutely, that’s why it’s a game of testing and trying. What does confidence look like to you? Try to follow that and the feeling will come after. Faking it doesn’t mean doing something that isn’t you, but go against what you feel at the moment. For example, research shows that when we are angry or sad, forcing a smile relaxes our nervous system and will move us towards that release again. It’s the same concept, I just don’t know how to communicate that with different words haha 💚
I think that was sissel point exactly though. She wasn’t endorsing “acting a certain way to feel confident”. Her whole point was not to act it was to be. Emanate confidence, don’t feel it.
Seeing this vid and boosting it my confidence. Excited to wear my low waist pants and crop top this weekend!💗
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Yayyyy get that belly out girl 💚
14:01 this shot is SO beautiful
I’m so excited!!!
Me too haha 💚
i seriously LOVE your style sissel!!!! as a hijabi girl i'm doing my best to remake your outfits from my wardrobe and ngl i feel freaking good on those days and i never thought you would say you dont know anything about fashion. gurrll you dont know what you are talking about
Awww that’s so so sweet!!! If you ever need some recs of long sleeve/pants/skirts lmk! 💚💚
@@sisselab you're the sweetest!!! i'm actually in needs of some recs ngl and if u ever like you're in the mood to give some recs believe me I'll be there to listen 💚💚💚💚
@@betultank1159well I absolutely loooove Djerf Avenue! Such great quality basics that’ll last you so long 💚
@@sisselab thank you so muchhh!!!
Happy women's day 💚my fav and strong one 💚
Happy women’s day my love 💚
I love to see Katie in your vlogs
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Omg sissel I didn’t see ur videos for a while cuz I was super busy and I just heard that u get married! Waw ! Anyway so happy for u 🎊 ❤
Thank you love ! And welcome back💚
I just tried out for cheer its my last year😢, hopefully i make it, results come out tomorrow afternoon, i feel like i did good. I love this way to distress, watching sissel with some yummy food💗🤍🤍
oh hahahha KEY just setting so many trends in korea. it's so cute. love him so much 💕 Shinee comeback 2023 lets go!!
oh sissel, little wifey .. I have this weird feeling with confidence. where i TRULY don't feel like anyone is above me, or below me... but since i don't think they are better than me, WHY am i still feeling like an alien around a lot of people.... well sure, maybe my brain is a little different than others... (mental stuff) but still, even when we *know* we are worth just as much.. even when we look our best, have that cute outfit on, have clean skin, have our friends around........ still the voice of "you don't belong , they don't really like you, if only they knew the REAL you, they will leave you too" this voice haunts me a lot.
and i am 31 now... and it STILL is there. i just have gotten better at not listening to it i suppose.
Sometimes we have to look to the relationship we have with ourselves instead of the relationship we have with others 💚
@@sisselab yes of course.... that's not the point i meant. I just mean, that ..well exactly THAT... it has to come from within.. but there can be so many complex reasons as to why we can't fully love ourselves. and even with YEARS of trying, voices of lacking can still creep in. i don't think you switch a button and then is confident for the rest of your life. you can do great, and then boom... you lose someone in death, you can do great, then boom, you get sick, someone cheats on you, you get fired... then probably, there is a period of those voices coming back right? it's a life long thing 💕
Love you so much, you make my days brighter as always 🎀 what is your lipstick? It looks amazing
It’s from Oenir! I love their lipsticks 💚
thanks to your recommendation I started listening to the Mel Robbins podcast at it has been so insightful!! thank you so much
I’m so glad !! Enjoy 💚
I just love your vlogs ❤❤❤❤
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Thank you!! 💚
yaaaay, new video!🤩
Yayyy welcome back! 💚
Just realised how much I look up to you after running too my bf and shouting that we have the same glasses 😂 11:36
I know it sounds silly but it is reassuring to know that you're like all of us..!! This 5-second rule is genius btw 😉😊
For me confidence is based on knowledge. If I know I am good at something, I learned it well - I feel Quinn-like. If I go to an unknown environment, and lack knowledge in the field - I feel upset. So learning a lot - is the only way for me to maintain my confidence. Faking would not work for me) especially in becoming confident in a legal environment))) it's so unique for everyone - the key to confidence.
Knowledge is in essential just practicing, and that makes competence which then will lead to confidence. When it comes to confidence in social scenarios, we can’t really practice in other ways than practice what we think confidence looks like, hence the faking it. Confidence looks so so different depending on which area, that’s so true! 💚
Lolss! before Jake said Wife I did🤣🤣 Likeee! Congratulations 🎉 Again Guys.
Hahahaha love that 💚💚 thank you!
thank u for your video 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
Confidence is something that I deff need to work on, and I feel many people should too.
I hope I can improve mine at some point!!
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Thanks for sharing mel robins. So excited to listen to her podcast
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So so good! 💚
Your style was good nd got better just like ur personality is initially good nd it got better with maturing
I just wanted to say I am really loving your videos because they make me feel like I'm learning how to be an adult in some ways (idk why). And I agree I also hate the phrase practice makes perfect I much prefer practice equals progress.
Haha aww, adulting all the way. Time to take life into our own hands ! 💚
thank you for putting time stamps
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Cute how Jake corrected you with "WIFE" ❤️❤️❤️❤️
What lipstick do u use? It looks so good
I have used the 5 second rule without knowing it was called that. It would be during winter where my bed would be so warm and the outside not so much
I love the parts about mel robbins. I read her book years ago and it did work, that 5 secs rule. I ll read it again. ❤🎉
Argh she’s so amazing, literally I am sucking up all of her knowledge like a sponge. I LOVE her 💚
I love seeing you with Eunice and Soo . By the by I love Shinee also BTS… Jimin obv 💜😁
Thank you 🫶🏽
thank YOU for being here 💚
Hi Sissel, I really love your videos, you are doing such a good job ! You talked about the podcast of someone on self confidence, could you give us the name (I didn’t see if you wrote the name so my apologies if you did)
Practice makes progress ;)
The editing is just insane 🥺 can I ask where your white crossbody bag is from? 🫶
Thank you !! I believe it’s just from H&M a while ago 💚
10:37 where is the shirt from? It's super pretty~
1:39 Park Jenny omg she’s becoming famous
Happy Wednesday, Sissel!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🇰🇷💚💚💚💚💚🎇👍. The word "Confidence" is to be happy, having fun in the city and be strong like the movie "The Neverending Story" when Atreyu saw these two gold gates with sphinx in their eyes. So, Bastian says, "Be confident, be confident!" Then, Atreyu runs to the gate after the sphinx eyes open and jump for it. He lands to the ground and made it safely. Now that's confidence! So...yeah. Also, you look beautiful with the "Outfit of the Day!" Have fun!😊😀😙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🇰🇷💚💚💚💚💚😊🎇🎉👍. S
Beautiful story Justin! 💚
Was a bit late for last time but that's never gonna happen again 💚💚
Awww you’re too kind 💚
Think the quote from tiktok that youre thinking of is from Rihanna..? Lol “the what do you do on days you don’t feel confident? uh pretend” (I’m on tiktok too much) love your videos!
Love this one too, but it’s definitely a Euphoria quote ! 💚
I do think that for some persons, confidence could only exist when they feel comfortable in a certain situation for example if they are with people who they feel comfortable around
True, but if we believe this to be the only way we can feel confident, we are stagnated for life. No growth. I would say that’s harmful to us as humans. If you ask me, life is about putting ourselves in “uncomfortable” situations to grow and move forward 💚
@@sisselab Yes exactly. But its so difficult🙈 Maybe I have to start with little things and then learn to adapt to them, so that I can start to reach out for my bigger goals🤔
Hope it's okay to ask, they just announced changing the fashion show to September instead of having it in October. Does Seoul get more busier and packed???
Not really, Seoul fashion week isn’t really super big nor good tbh.. :/ 💚
Comfort is overrated ! You gotta go and get what u want !
I’ll stick by that !
Jin and Hattie
From the women's day event, why do I feel like I've seen some of the gorgeous People from somewhere, 🙂 if you could include their links, it would be loved greatly 🥰🥰
Some of the friends appearing are Jin & Hattie, Katie Cung, Kalie Ho, Erna Limdaugh, Sunny Dahye, Soo’s Beauty, Eunice, Soobeanie & It’s Your Homegirl, among others 💚💚
@@sisselab ahhh, now I know, I follow Jin n Hattie and Katie cung, thank you 🥰🥰 unlooked gorgeous 💛
How the backward works for money? I’m curious now!
Let’s say you’re an artist and your goal is to earn 10k a month. You then have to move backwards from there by then pricing your art and calculating how many you should sell. From there you can tweak the price and amount. The next step is to find buyers, run ads, write to galleries, etc. So we find ourselves having a much clearer action plan when we start at our goal and move backwards from there. Does it make sense? 💚
@@sisselab it does!!!! After your video I actually did a lot of planning (I’m still doing) so I’m gonna use this tip for the money!! Thank you ❤️
on the side: bts generation kpoppie here! but i still got to love shinee :D taemin is one of my fav's with bts haha..
Hahaha 💚
Aku melihat sunnydahye dan hansol disana
I fake it until i make it and I dont care about anyone or anything other than myself :)
Are you a wife from september???? I disnt know this. Did you marry???
We did! We announced it in the couple q&a video recently 💚