Actually, I just cut out someone from my life that I could recognize a gaslighter and a manipulator playing victim, so I'm super proud. I literally couldn't have done it a couple of months back. Thank you, you're a huge part of this improvement!
@@laptop-w3s sure! Gaslighting is when the other person makes you doubt about your perception, your memory or your feelings, making you feel confused about a situation. When someone tells you "you're exaggerating", "you're crazy", "that never happened" or even turn something you were hurt about until you are the one apologizing, that's gaslighting. And a manipulator playing victim will say "I did so much for you, I was so good, and you were terrible to me" when you did nothing wrong, but the point is to trigger you into being anxious and not sure about anything. Hope this helps! I would encourage anyone to read and watch everything on these topic, or you'll end up in bad places for a long time 💕
The feeling of letting them go and then realizing that you actually feel BETTER and not WORSE, gives you so much confidence too. We just had to build up the courage to do it 😊
Not explaining and not over apologizing has been game changing, I think people will be shocked how easily it actually flows and people actually just respect you more…
Recently my dad cheated on my mom, didnt accepted his mistake, tried to blame it on my mom whos under pressure since years, i had to break the silence and told him to get out and so he ran away. I really wondered if it was okay or not, but thanks a lot to your advices it really helped me mentally. I feel a lot relieved than being trapped in thoughts. A man is a man. And to all the gurlies out there, live your life and be a bit*h forever. ♡
I just found out that people think I’m arrogant because I said that I’m pretty. Wtf? I am sorry, but I didn’t say that I’m prettier THAN YOU girl, I just said that I’m pretty? I’m sorry whaaaaaat?
I healed from a childhood of poor success in friendships! I people pleased because I was so scared to lose my friends as a young adult, even though I only had those friends because I didn’t yet understand that I could drop them and get better friends!
can you please do a video on lessons you learned in starting and growing a business please. You are such an amazing and inspiring individual for teen girls like myself. I'm so grateful for your content, it's honestly a life saver
The timing 😭♥ She got me at the first line saying, " I heard you're being too nice to people again" !! Queen said what she want me to hear !! I love this one so much its so lit !!
20:15 "the more you are misunderstood, the more you could be reassured in the fact that you are on your own path, and you are not living for anybody else." Wow. This video was really comforting and I really needed to hear this. Thank you for all that you do!
Thank you for another of this! I'm falling back to people pleasing, and I'm really trying to build my assertiveness because I do NOT want to take sh!t from anyone anymore.
PERFECT TIMING!!! GIRLIES IM PULLING OFF MY FIRST EVER EVENT AT 18 YRS OLD TODAY!!! IM SO SCARED BUT THANKFULLY TAM UPLOADED TO GIVE ME A REALITY CHECK🥹🥹🥹
OMG this video is just what i needed. I recently moved to a new country for my masters and decided from the beginning that this year would be my self love era where I stop falling into my old people pleasing habits. In fact, a few weeks ago i intentionally distanced myself from a group that i know were not good for me (in the past i would have just accepted them) And just last night, I was feeling so lonely, wondering if I'm doing something wrong by not socialising and talking to everyone like everyone else is. Then this video drops, LITERALLY FOR ME. THANK YOU TAM FOR YOUR WISDOM ❤
honestly, Tam's videos made me realize that the people in my life might either just like me for who i am, completely hate my guts, want to be me, or want to be with me. and i mean, not just me, but anyone. but either ways, you should accept that. thank u so much
I just needed it. Few days ago I complaint about my friend as I was captain. Then I started feeling guilty and than I became too caring for her but she started getting jealous about me and I couldn't bare it now anymore because the tam is my queen!!!
timestamps + notes ♡ #1 the transition. 4:26 1. dont be afraid to be a b*tch! 💋 - dont make ur life a never ending to do list - 6:25 why would u want them?? - 6:52 7:22 2. speak highly about yourself 🗣 - 8:06 its not arrogant, its self respect. - 9:23 its a natural filter 10:24 3. be prepared 4 da haterzz 😵 - 10:55 its okay! -11:19 stop putting others feelings first 12:11 4. stop overexplaining urself 🤐 - own it. 13:50 5. STOP saying sorry that much ⁉️ 15:12 #2 the reality 15:38 1. embrace the temporary loneliness 💫 17:26 2. replace external validation w/ self-validation 💄 - be ur own cheerleader! 19:06 3. u probably are going to be misunderstood 😵💫 u got this, xoxo 💋💋
Part 4 is in need ASAP!!!! WHAT A VIDEO!❤ You made me realise that I'm not responsible for other people's behaviors/happiness... I should only focus on myself. This is exactly what I needed❤ THANK YOU Tam❤❤
I just saw your post and know I'm VERY early, but I just wanted to tell you. Thank you. You changed my life and made me very very very happy your videos motivated me and now I'm finally the person I want to be. Keep making people happy and your videos are the best! I love you girlie🤍
Yayy part 3!!! 🌸🌸🌸 Video Request - especially for the girls going to turn 18 in 2025 to prepare for a golden future and to be ahead of this time covering things like advice, financial planning, wellness anything so we can blossom in our 20s
Thank you so muchhh ❤❤ My mum is always SUPER judgemental of everything I do and says a lot of hurtful things... As a teen girl trying to set her own boundaries and find herself these videos are so helpful tysm queen 🫶🫶
In life for so many people I have done what you are doing in this video for us but never really got back that for me maybe because of that you have created this video ❤ Thank you this video means a lot for me personally 🌸
15:30 This video is so specific . I just let go my best friends and now im suffering this temporary loneliness. In the morning I was thinking just this that I am setting high standards and meaningful friendship will take time. I happily let go and allow abundance to flow . Thanks tam for the amazing video just wanted to share my story ❤❤
I’m crying…life feels depressing because I’m going through a breakup. It ended badly. He shamed me, used me and disrespected me. And I’ve been crying while watching this video now too
Trust me girl, you'll heal and become soooo strong. Just give yourself some time, shadow work and focus on the mental problems you have, fix them and see the magic
You will be okay hon This made you stronger & better before you meet the right guy ahead for you, maybe in 2025. If that doesn't make you feel great, know we accept the love we think we deserve. So the Universe/God has decided this is not the man for you. Better is coming 😂 This guy is someone else's problem ❤😅
I am so happy you made this because I’m always overthinking about what others think. But now I realized who freaking cares, only I know what I am doing and that’s good enough ❤
Thank you so much for this video ❤ I really needed it. Recently I had a discussion with my classmates and I tried to express myself unapologetically and even if it was hard because they are really immature I feel like your videos have helped me to stand up for myself and stop being a people pleaser. Thank you tam 💗. Could you make another video about finding your passion and vocation? 🍪
Hi Tam. Could you consider making a video to watch whenever you doubt yourself or are scared to go after something/ take the next step? I really need this video, especially from you. Love you 💗
Tam, Can you add the outro a little bit early while you're still talking? It just makes it SO MUCH better. You did that with your other videos and it's super cool!
Girl I'm watching this video 3 weeks after it being posted,but its the PERFECT TIME, last week of December preparing for new year. Girl they going to know come 2025!👏🏾 All the things in the video was the old me, yes the old me cause honey I just woke up! This made so many things in my life make sense and how people treat me 😮 it's like I just received new eyes! Thank you for posting!! 🎉❤
Tam !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you so much for that video, you are very helpful. I am currently reading your book, and the awareness, precision, clarity, maturity and enlightenment you possess are striking. If you ever do a M&G in London again, I’ll do my best to be there ! Have a lovely day ❤️
Hey tam can you make a video about thoughts in your head that continuously criticize your every decision and won't let you be the best version because it's not perfect
bestfriend i LOVEEEEEE your style! Can we get a video on advice on the small trivial things like accessories like today the sunglassess and earrings change EVERYTHING
Tam hit the nail on the head & lord knows the post of this video that came through to my feed is a god send❤❤❤big up to you Tam for wanting better for youself then putting your voice out here👌🏼👌🏼for all to hear xx
Hi Tam, love you so much! Could you please do a video or podcast in depth about toxic managers/coworkers/ workplace when you are not in the financial position currently to leave, and how to handle them? Your help and advice is life changing, thank you❤
omg the epiphany tam’s talking abt in the video is EXACTLY something i went through last year AND that was the exact same thought i had abt the situation
Go girl.... Much love for loading this blockbuster video... My jaw just dropped as .. this video actually have all the answers , I have been searching for a while now
Perfect timing just what I needed girl! Definitely working on not giving a ish what people think of me and just basically pleasing myself first and foremost of course! ❤
Tam your videos are always so helpful . I hope that you will make a video about attachment styles. It is so necessary to talk on this as it affects our lives so much . 😊😇
I always get happy when I see your videos, it’s like I just know that I’m gonna transform for the better!!😊😊 Also, I’ve been reading your book, it’s just so good with a lot of useful information yayy thanku keep uploading
"I am not responsible for other people experience". What a line!
Actually, I just cut out someone from my life that I could recognize a gaslighter and a manipulator playing victim, so I'm super proud. I literally couldn't have done it a couple of months back. Thank you, you're a huge part of this improvement!
Same girl! I feel so proud
Hi, could you describe a gaslighter and a manipulator playing victim?
@@laptop-w3s sure! Gaslighting is when the other person makes you doubt about your perception, your memory or your feelings, making you feel confused about a situation. When someone tells you "you're exaggerating", "you're crazy", "that never happened" or even turn something you were hurt about until you are the one apologizing, that's gaslighting. And a manipulator playing victim will say "I did so much for you, I was so good, and you were terrible to me" when you did nothing wrong, but the point is to trigger you into being anxious and not sure about anything. Hope this helps! I would encourage anyone to read and watch everything on these topic, or you'll end up in bad places for a long time 💕
The feeling of letting them go and then realizing that you actually feel BETTER and not WORSE, gives you so much confidence too. We just had to build up the courage to do it 😊
Well done yall !! :)
WAKE UP, QUEEN POSTED
YASSSS
YESSSS
Not explaining and not over apologizing has been game changing, I think people will be shocked how easily it actually flows and people actually just respect you more…
Recently my dad cheated on my mom, didnt accepted his mistake, tried to blame it on my mom whos under pressure since years, i had to break the silence and told him to get out and so he ran away. I really wondered if it was okay or not, but thanks a lot to your advices it really helped me mentally. I feel a lot relieved than being trapped in thoughts. A man is a man. And to all the gurlies out there, live your life and be a bit*h forever. ♡
Gurlll....so proud of you ❤
Oh my my we are proud bae!💋💗🎀
Are u okay ??
This was my dream when I first found out, I couldnt, we all grew, we are all still together, but im so proud of you
oh no sorry you & mother went through that ! well done for strong kick ass support in that situaion for her & yourself.
I just found out that people think I’m arrogant because I said that I’m pretty. Wtf? I am sorry, but I didn’t say that I’m prettier THAN YOU girl, I just said that I’m pretty? I’m sorry whaaaaaat?
True that should be the mind set " I'm a so beautiful and so is she "✨
Girl people can be so insecure! I'm proud of you for acknowledging that you're pretty! Keep it up!
Yeah I say I am pretty and people call me arrogant either because they are insecure or nowadays people don’t really call themselves pretty
Pretty girl problems 💅💅
100th like :)
I healed from a childhood of poor success in friendships! I people pleased because I was so scared to lose my friends as a young adult, even though I only had those friends because I didn’t yet understand that I could drop them and get better friends!
more power to you! congratulations for becoming strong
17:10 she calms down my anxiety for feeling alone during this self healing solitude journey
the amount of joy I get when tam uploads >>>>>💘
Frr I click on the video so fast❤️
can you please do a video on lessons you learned in starting and growing a business please. You are such an amazing and inspiring individual for teen girls like myself. I'm so grateful for your content, it's honestly a life saver
The timing 😭♥ She got me at the first line saying, " I heard you're being too nice to people again" !! Queen said what she want me to hear !! I love this one so much its so lit !!
20:15 "the more you are misunderstood, the more you could be reassured in the fact that you are on your own path, and you are not living for anybody else." Wow. This video was really comforting and I really needed to hear this. Thank you for all that you do!
girll i littrly just thought abt how i want a part 3 on this series OMGG PERFECT TIMING
THE TIMING IS CRAZY, LOVE YOU QUEEN
They way she brimgs the energy for this video through her outfit and everything
Thank you for another of this! I'm falling back to people pleasing, and I'm really trying to build my assertiveness because I do NOT want to take sh!t from anyone anymore.
I just can’t explain how better my day is when I watch tam
PERFECT TIMING!!! GIRLIES IM PULLING OFF MY FIRST EVER EVENT AT 18 YRS OLD TODAY!!! IM SO SCARED BUT THANKFULLY TAM UPLOADED TO GIVE ME A REALITY CHECK🥹🥹🥹
Congrats 🎉🎉
Good luck 🍀 Love and light surrounds you and the whole world! ✨✨✨✨ Woooo! You’ll do amazing!
girl all the best!!! you are gonna do great ! i just know it
congratulations!!hope it goes well
Tam, you helped me build character and now I feel unstoppable, thank you so much ❤
OMG this video is just what i needed. I recently moved to a new country for my masters and decided from the beginning that this year would be my self love era where I stop falling into my old people pleasing habits. In fact, a few weeks ago i intentionally distanced myself from a group that i know were not good for me (in the past i would have just accepted them) And just last night, I was feeling so lonely, wondering if I'm doing something wrong by not socialising and talking to everyone like everyone else is.
Then this video drops, LITERALLY FOR ME. THANK YOU TAM FOR YOUR WISDOM ❤
honestly, Tam's videos made me realize that the people in my life might either just like me for who i am, completely hate my guts, want to be me, or want to be with me. and i mean, not just me, but anyone. but either ways, you should accept that. thank u so much
The fit, the timing, the information. Triple threat❤❤❤
TIMING IS CRAZY>>> GIRL I NEEDED THIS !! THANK YOU
I sincerely overapologise, like i'm scared of being misunderstood..but thanks Queen. I needed this right here
I love this HOW TO BE A B*TCH series so much this should have more parts to it!!!
I just needed it. Few days ago I complaint about my friend as I was captain. Then I started feeling guilty and than I became too caring for her but she started getting jealous about me and I couldn't bare it now anymore because the tam is my queen!!!
timestamps + notes ♡
#1 the transition.
4:26 1. dont be afraid to be a b*tch! 💋
- dont make ur life a never ending to do list
- 6:25 why would u want them??
- 6:52
7:22 2. speak highly about yourself 🗣
- 8:06 its not arrogant, its self respect.
- 9:23 its a natural filter
10:24 3. be prepared 4 da haterzz 😵
- 10:55 its okay!
-11:19 stop putting others feelings first
12:11 4. stop overexplaining urself 🤐
- own it.
13:50 5. STOP saying sorry that much ⁉️
15:12 #2 the reality
15:38 1. embrace the temporary loneliness 💫
17:26 2. replace external validation w/ self-validation 💄
- be ur own cheerleader!
19:06 3. u probably are going to be misunderstood 😵💫
u got this, xoxo 💋💋
literally thank youuuu so muchhh !!!!
THANK YOU!!
i just love how you talk too because i’m SO expressive and the way you communicate is so beautiful!!!
Girl
I just I really manifested this video 2-3 days ago I was like I really need tam to bring pt3 for this and this is what I get
Omg
Part 4 is in need ASAP!!!!
WHAT A VIDEO!❤
You made me realise that I'm not responsible for other people's behaviors/happiness... I should only focus on myself. This is exactly what I needed❤
THANK YOU Tam❤❤
I just saw your post and know I'm VERY early, but I just wanted to tell you. Thank you. You changed my life and made me very very very happy your videos motivated me and now I'm finally the person I want to be. Keep making people happy and your videos are the best! I love you girlie🤍
Yayy part 3!!!
🌸🌸🌸
Video Request - especially for the girls going to turn 18 in 2025 to prepare for a golden future and to be ahead of this time covering things like advice, financial planning, wellness anything so we can blossom in our 20s
Im turning 20 and I need it too!
@@kyoha9840same girl😂 already
ohmg I'm turning 18 in 2025 too!!! And that's an amazing idea!! I'd Iove such a topic from Tam!~
Boring
Yesss please I'm about to turn 18 soonn I'd love to have a vid like that!!
Thank you so muchhh ❤❤
My mum is always SUPER judgemental of everything I do and says a lot of hurtful things... As a teen girl trying to set her own boundaries and find herself these videos are so helpful tysm queen 🫶🫶
In life for so many people I have done what you are doing in this video for us but never really got back that for me maybe because of that you have created this video ❤ Thank you this video means a lot for me personally 🌸
15:30 This video is so specific . I just let go my best friends and now im suffering this temporary loneliness. In the morning I was thinking just this that I am setting high standards and meaningful friendship will take time. I happily let go and allow abundance to flow . Thanks tam for the amazing video just wanted to share my story ❤❤
this is soo hard to do, saying from experience. congratulations ❤people will come your way soon!!
I’m crying…life feels depressing because I’m going through a breakup. It ended badly. He shamed me, used me and disrespected me. And I’ve been crying while watching this video now too
It's okay to cry but make sure to forgive yourself and make a promise that you will not let anything like this ever happen to you ever again!❤
Trust me girl, you'll heal and become soooo strong. Just give yourself some time, shadow work and focus on the mental problems you have, fix them and see the magic
You will be okay hon
This made you stronger & better before you meet the right guy ahead for you, maybe in 2025.
If that doesn't make you feel great, know we accept the love we think we deserve. So the Universe/God has decided this is not the man for you. Better is coming 😂
This guy is someone else's problem ❤😅
For all the women out there, I would strongly recommend to read "The Art of Seductive Power by Juliet Arden".
I am so happy you made this because I’m always overthinking about what others think. But now I realized who freaking cares, only I know what I am doing and that’s good enough ❤
This series is just jeep geting better and better, it came at the perfect time!
Thank you so much for this video ❤ I really needed it. Recently I had a discussion with my classmates and I tried to express myself unapologetically and even if it was hard because they are really immature I feel like your videos have helped me to stand up for myself and stop being a people pleaser. Thank you tam 💗. Could you make another video about finding your passion and vocation? 🍪
THE WAYYY THIS BOOSTED MY CONFIDENCE!!! YOU'RE AMAZING TAM, ALWAYS PERFECT TIMINN
TAMMMMM IS BACKK WITH ANOTHER ICONIC GAME CHANGING VIDEO!!!!!
Hi Tam. Could you consider making a video to watch whenever you doubt yourself or are scared to go after something/ take the next step? I really need this video, especially from you. Love you 💗
THE TIMING IS ABSOLUTELY INSANE WHAT
the crickets after "who's there for you?" 😭
4:30 . I needed to hear this 🤌♥
Thanks Tam, you are always reminding things which I learn & forget . 💕
I’m a boy and I’m watching tam kaur’s video literally it’s also helping me the best….
NO WAY THE TIMIING!!!!!!! Tam i love you omg i needed this y'all!💗
You're literally my online therapist 💕
Whenever I feel down you come up with Banger videos✨💗💯
Being a middle schooler going on high school, this is soooooo useful for me! Thank you pookie Tam
Girl you helped me a lot in my healing journey…. Thankyou for being you❤
Tam, Can you add the outro a little bit early while you're still talking? It just makes it SO MUCH better. You did that with your other videos and it's super cool!
The timingggggggg omg I LOVE YOUUUU ❤
Girl I'm watching this video 3 weeks after it being posted,but its the PERFECT TIME, last week of December preparing for new year. Girl they going to know come 2025!👏🏾 All the things in the video was the old me, yes the old me cause honey I just woke up! This made so many things in my life make sense and how people treat me 😮 it's like I just received new eyes! Thank you for posting!! 🎉❤
I WAS WAITING FOR YOU TO BRING THIS SERIES BACK!! ❤🎉
Tam !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you so much for that video, you are very helpful. I am currently reading your book, and the awareness, precision, clarity, maturity and enlightenment you possess are striking. If you ever do a M&G in London again, I’ll do my best to be there !
Have a lovely day ❤️
ACKKKKKKK, MADE MY DAY IN AN INSTANT! Only you can do this, Tam. Love you 💗
My life changed when I thought: “WHAT DO I THINK ABOUT THIS?” instead of “What would they think about me?”
You are literally more uplifting and confidence-instilling than anyone I’ve ever had in my physical life 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
MY FAV GURLIE IS HEREEEE🥺💌
I LOVE HER SMMMMM🧸💌🎀
Hey tam can you make a video about thoughts in your head that continuously criticize your every decision and won't let you be the best version because it's not perfect
Okay, the last boost I could've asked for!!
right on time. I'mma say it again as always RIGHT ON TIME ❤ Thank you Tam so much!
bestfriend i LOVEEEEEE your style! Can we get a video on advice on the small trivial things like accessories like today the sunglassess and earrings change EVERYTHING
Tam hit the nail on the head & lord knows the post of this video that came through to my feed is a god send❤❤❤big up to you Tam for wanting better for youself then putting your voice out here👌🏼👌🏼for all to hear xx
Hi Tam, love you so much! Could you please do a video or podcast in depth about toxic managers/coworkers/ workplace when you are not in the financial position currently to leave, and how to handle them? Your help and advice is life changing, thank you❤
omg the epiphany tam’s talking abt in the video is EXACTLY something i went through last year AND that was the exact same thought i had abt the situation
Go girl.... Much love for loading this blockbuster video... My jaw just dropped as .. this video actually have all the answers , I have been searching for a while now
Tam posted perfect timing. Needed thisssssss ❤
I waited for this one SO BADLY!!!! LOVE YOU TAM!! ❤️
YES! the coolest and most loving b*tch on the internet is back you guys! Love u Tam ❤❤❤
Tam your outfit in this one is elevating the Athena Energy!!
I miss her Lola and Athena examples. Great video by the way! Always timely and what I needed!
Perfect timing just what I needed girl! Definitely working on not giving a ish what people think of me and just basically pleasing myself first and foremost of course! ❤
I needed this video right now so much! I found ya today and I am grateful!! Iam grateful that I found ya.
Tam your videos are always so helpful . I hope that you will make a video about attachment styles. It is so necessary to talk on this as it affects our lives so much . 😊😇
Thank you for all the advice. Btw those glasses really made me realise how important eye contact is😉
I love the way you explain things. Really thankful to you!
Omgg TAM , you really don’t know how much i needed this video 😭❤️ Your timing is always the best ❤️🧿
You’re my inspiration fr 🥺🫶🏻
OMG, you just post it at the very right time!!
SO excited to watch this
tam, i need a vid on how to set goalsss
The 16:50 part helped me so much during this period. Thank you.
Yk you love tam when you watch her videos as soon as she posts
QUEEN HAS THE BEST TIMING
Thank you Tam for amazing content , never stop growing ✨💗
sorely need it for what happened today 😢 thank you Tam, it just came at the right timing
we need a part 4!
your advice is top notch as always but omg the quality and the outfit ateeeee ❤
I can't explain how much great my day go when I watch tam videos ❤
In 2 minutes !!! I LOVE THIS SERIES !
The elder sister I’ve always needed❤
oh to be in the first few viewers, comments and likes of Tam's videos😌
tam i love you, you have no idea how much i needed this
I always get happy when I see your videos, it’s like I just know that I’m gonna transform for the better!!😊😊 Also, I’ve been reading your book, it’s just so good with a lot of useful information yayy thanku keep uploading
Thanks Tam for all these reminders
omg , I really needed this video in my self development journey
The queen has arrived 👑
The timing..... Gurl how omg
your skin is improving sm girl!! 💖💖💖💖
MOTHER HAS SPOKEN ❤