Very true, I left my first husband in 2019 bc he prevented me from growing….after my divorce I thrived! Even though I was a single mom, I now own two businesses, real estates, I live in a 5 acre property with my current husband, someone who sees me and for who I am and treats my son more better than his own father. ❤ life is so much better when you figure you out
32 years Alhamdulahi not married, life is perfect, working and sleeping without stress, I can't imagine ;living the same house with such person living next to me
Watched this with lots of tears. This was me 2017 married to a covert narcissist abusive man. This man tried to strangle me to death, Attacked me on holiday just because he didn’t want to see me happy. Only place I talked about it was at the therapist lost everyone along the way fam members,frnds. It got me into a dark space after divorce as felt lonely. Alhmdilah am okay now however I dont recognise my self nomorre. I don’t trust no men anymore tbh I get panic when a man talks to me. So Bella am proud you left such man sis you deserve better.
First and foremost, I want to express my deepest gratitude to you for having the courage to share your story with us. Your strength is truly inspiring. I’m incredibly sorry that you had to experience this, and from the bottom of my heart, I pray for your well-being and happiness. May your life be filled with all the goodness the world has to offer.
Girl they say if your husband is NOT supportive then it’s very hard to succeed. Therefore, it’s great to be divorce and have positive energy for yourself and reach big goals. Aallahuillah you are save physically but mentally and emotionally you will be great after the divorce inshallah. ❤❤
Omg this is so scary. I’m so sorry you went through this. You are a fantastic story teller btw. I’m so proud that you left sis. Just discovered you on my TikTok fyp and came to hear your story and to also comment and boost you on the algorithm. Your story will literally help save lives sis. I pray any woman going through this gets the courage to leave safely ameen 🤲🏾. Go Bella!, you got yourself a new subbie 😘
One day I was cooking and watching Turkish series on HIS Ipad and guess what 😮😮😮 he got massages from his co-worker, My heart beat was almost gone😢 every massage that he sent or received I was seeing N I couldn't breath!! WALLAHI i couldn't 😢Later that day I asked with whom he was massaging he said my boss and we were joking nothing serious! I planned EVERYTHING, I am not physically with him, and filing for divorce. And I got ENOUGH money for everything. Being cheated on is worst feeling. Alhamdolillah I healed.
Sis you’re so strong I hope you’ve seen all the red flags now and make decisions that’s best interest of your mental health …all these trauma might impact on your kids sis is best to give them healthy environment to thrive that means you have to healthy mentally to thrive aswell inshallah wishing you all khayr thanks for speaking about these kinds of issues it’s very prevalent in our community
“So, surely with hardship comes ease" I’m praying for your healing, for your success, for your peace and everything you desire X10. May allah protect you and your children and continue to guide you. YOU GOT THIS MAMA ❤️ we will be rooting for you PERIOD.
Wow that story about not wanting to help you with website but jumping at the opportunity to help a distant friend or someone they just met sounds way to familiar to my own past. may you be blessed to leave this man in ur past & be around people who love and apprecaite you 🤲🏽Ameen
Jealousy in relationships is a real issue that people overlook, him not wanting to help you is because you outshine him and he’s the man😳. La Hawla, hope you’re in a better place sis❤
Thank you for sharing your beginning story in detail-I had no idea this was happening. You always seemed like the perfect couple. Your situation reminds me of my aboo, who was also a narc. He would always sneak-diss my mom, go through her phone under the guise of trust, and project his insecurities onto her. Turns out, he was planning a second marriage and spreading lies to ruin her reputation while keeping his image clean. Narcs hate seeing their partners happy and confident. My advice: cut personal contact, co-parent, and document everything. May Allah protect you and your kids. Looking forward to hearing more as you navigate this. 13 years with him, and the huge red flags started in year 2-you had so much patience!
Bella, I'm so sorry that you went through this. I have been watching you for yearsss and always loved your videos and amazing presence!! I always thought about you when you disappeared and hoped you were okay. You deserve the world and everything in it. You are strong enough to overcome this and may Allah protect you and your children xxx
Thank you so much for sharing Bella. I have been following you since day one and I thought you guys were perfect together. We just never know what people go through behind close doors. May Allah make it easy for you and protect you.
Wow Bella, girl my heart just breaks knowing someone would treat you this way. You deserve so much better. Thank you for sharing your story. I know it will help a lot of women especially in the dating season. You shared so many lessons learned. Pure gold 💕
Heyy, I am sorry to hear this, I lost you on instagram all these years I had you in mind but cannot remember the name, but I can remember your giggles and just today I got on you tube, and here you are looking even more beautiful, God bless your heart Bella, you’re a happy person! Keep being you and strong
The gut never lies Subhanallah so many similarities with my own story. May we all heal, sorry 😔 People can be evil! Faced a similaire situation wish I could go back and change so many things. Alhamdulilah Cala kula xaal. Stay strong may Allah grant us better Amin!
Never go for a man who shows any signs of self hate because men externalise their anger and hate while women internalise so those men are very dangerous, but we live and learn in this world, glad you’re out of that situation
When i tell you am tired and haven’t slept with 6 month baby and was about to. I see this video and can’t even sleep . Girl why did you stop in middle like that? It’s like watching a good scary movie and light goes out. What should I do now? Flabbergasted! Wild I always loved your energy and vibe. I always thought you were too good back in the days when he use to be in your channel . Him rolling his eyes at your words and his diva behaviors. May Allah keep you save and happy. Keep shining and being you. You are saved from that ridiculous of human ❤️👍🏽
I remember you back in the day.. was among the first influencers, I remember you always with every shade of the rainbow on your eyes with the little inner corner. 😂 Brings back memories seeing you on here. I guess we all do hide so much behind the camera… sad to know that light of yours was never appreciated. I pray you continue to find the best version of yourself and remember that this life is so short. The burdens of this world can sometimes feel heavy but know that this is not our permanent home. May Allah bless you with even more happiness and blessings in this life and the next dear sister. Ameen
Thank you for sharing your story, habebti ❤❤❤ narcs are the minions of shaytan!! The way they gaslight and cause confusion is effed up and cruel! Also, they seek bubbly beautiful souls just to crush their soul and suck the joy out of them. I'm so glad you got out❤
Bella you deserve so much better and I’m so happy you finally free !!!❤❤❤❤ we are here for you and we cannot wait for you to thrive. He was holding you down baby !!!!!
Assalam ‘aleykum sis, wallaahi I Saww your face and had to think a second and then I knew. My bubbly positive sister from back in the days. I ask Allaah to ease your affairs and give your happiness and sakinah in your hearts! Even tho I want to hear all the juice. I am your sister and I don’t want you to stand in front of Allaah and you are being questioned about spilling tea about your ex. And that maybe it is backbiting Allaahu a3hlem. Just think about it. Because its been years since I followed you and I was always laughing when I Salallaahu ‘aleyhi wa salam your vids and you deserve the best. Here in this dunya and in akhirah. Kisses and big warm huggs for you and the kids ❤
When you said he was chasing you that triggered my trauma becasue my ex husband was excatly like that and would always try to put me down to the point I lost my confidence . I hope you get counselling sister becasue we need to heal to move on. May allah ease all your pain and protect your family . ❤
A lot of us often talk about friendship haters but sadly our spouses can be our biggest haters! A lot of these men genuinely hate women especially accomplished women, they’ll pretend to like us so they can leach on us and break us and so we can be just like them. Miserable and angry filled with a dark heart! A lot of these men do not like us! They like the thought of us. Leave men like that or else you’ll lay in your own bed! A man who loves you will want to see you win, he will elevate you. Stop marrying down and settling.
Omg Subhanallah I have been looking for you on TH-cam for ages and your video came to my feed. I love you abayo may Allah bless you. You look so beautiful mashallah ❤❤
Asalamu alaikum sis, I hope you are keeping well. May Allaah make your healing journey easy for you Aameen! I actually remember having you on Facebook years ago ❤
Before it happened to me, I never understood why women don’t just leave after the first time they have the gut feeling of being cheated on etc. but when I experienced a narcissist, trust me they will do anything and everything to be the victim and make you question your own sanity. Be kind to women who are in toxic relationship..
I am so sorry for what you went through, i just noticed something with the way you speak, a sign of narcissistic abuse is trying to hard to say the right thing so as to not trigger someone, and prolonged exposure to it makes you stumble on your words and come off as un-articulated, when indeed its years of the abuse showing up in your speech and how you process words in your mind, so exhausting 😢, sorry bella
I’m really sorry for what you went through and I can see why you would want to share it, but you have children and they will see this. As much as it feels like you don’t wanna hide what happened to you, the best thing is to go through therapy, heal with your family and seek guidance from Allah. When there’s kids involved it’s so hard to go public, they will somehow feel humiliated and blame themselves for what happened.
That man was your hater, so happy you were able to leave and start again. He probably didn’t want you to have socials so his side chicks wouldn’t know that he had a wife.
Sister I understand the heartbreak and the years you have spent dealing with that man but this is backbiting and he will gain your rewards - which he does not deserve.
Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, Sis I wanted to share something important with you. I noticed you've been talking about your divorce proceedings on social media, and I’m concerned it could backfire. Your husband might use those posts as evidence in court, which could complicate things for you. Please be careful and think twice before sharing anything personal like this online.
Firstly I’m soooooooooo sorry this happened to you Subhanallah 😩 secondly what camera are you using to film because wow Barakallah it’s beautiful 😍👏🏽👏🏽
Maybe not a racist but could have picked a black woman because he assumed he could use her as an emotional punching bag and she’d just accept him because of stereotype, many men sadly think this way
What i don't understand is why did you continue to have kids with such monster though. How do you continue to sleep with him even tho he hated your guts 😮 like am shocked 😲
There’s your side there’s his side and there’s the truth. This term narcissist gets used a lot more than before. There definitely narcissistic characters in this world.
All the best abayo but one thing I learnt about divorce is not to speak about the father of your kids 😊 I understand you’re in your moment- it’s tough and triggers become your life for this short time that you’re going through it - I pray Allah guides you through it all 😢
I understand love, but I’m speaking my truth technically it’s a way for me to heal. I spent a decade with this person so I’m speaking on my experience of marriage. Thank you for understanding standing.
@@Bellayusfyou are well within your rights to speak on trauma that affected your life. I’ve been watching you for a from the jump, this is your healing journey don’t let anyone minimize it or shame you into speaking about the truth.
She never once spoke how he was a bad father. She spoke how he was BAD husband and she could be protecting future Muslimah from falling in this trap with this guy publicly cheating Islamic what is done PUBLIC can be spoke PUBLIC.
Yes I agree- my child needs to know how his father is- no bad mouthing just the truth and this is her truth and her kids have every right to know - she doesn’t need to be the victim in this story!!
I don’t wanna sound rude but why somali girls who’s married to ajnabis pretend to be so happy and make ajnab men look perfect but behind doors they are suffering and after marriage they expose all their scary life story🤔
Also narcissistic are people pleaser. They like to look good and helpful for their friends but not family members
Agree
Whew girl this is so true. They like to maintain that persona for the public but are very different behind closed doors to their spouses
Very true, I left my first husband in 2019 bc he prevented me from growing….after my divorce I thrived! Even though I was a single mom, I now own two businesses, real estates, I live in a 5 acre property with my current husband, someone who sees me and for who I am and treats my son more better than his own father. ❤ life is so much better when you figure you out
Well done to you girl ❤
32 years Alhamdulahi not married, life is perfect, working and sleeping without stress, I can't imagine ;living the same house with such person living next to me
Same alhamdulillah and if I ever get married I will suggest separate apartments
Alhamdulilah
Watched this with lots of tears. This was me 2017 married to a covert narcissist abusive man. This man tried to strangle me to death, Attacked me on holiday just because he didn’t want to see me happy. Only place I talked about it was at the therapist lost everyone along the way fam members,frnds. It got me into a dark space after divorce as felt lonely. Alhmdilah am okay now however I dont recognise my self nomorre. I don’t trust no men anymore tbh I get panic when a man talks to me. So Bella am proud you left such man sis you deserve better.
First and foremost, I want to express my deepest gratitude to you for having the courage to share your story with us. Your strength is truly inspiring. I’m incredibly sorry that you had to experience this, and from the bottom of my heart, I pray for your well-being and happiness. May your life be filled with all the goodness the world has to offer.
Did you lose family and friends because you wouldn't listen to them and leave?
Girl they say if your husband is NOT supportive then it’s very hard to succeed. Therefore, it’s great to be divorce and have positive energy for yourself and reach big goals. Aallahuillah you are save physically but mentally and emotionally you will be great after the divorce inshallah. ❤❤
Wdym if he is supportive it hard to succeed? Is being supportive a good thing? Can u clarify 🫶🏿
@JustAnotherAbdiI think they meant to say if he isn’t supportive
@JustAnotherAbdi yeah he is NOT supportive. Typo
Thank you inshAllah ❣️
Omg this is so scary. I’m so sorry you went through this. You are a fantastic story teller btw. I’m so proud that you left sis. Just discovered you on my TikTok fyp and came to hear your story and to also comment and boost you on the algorithm.
Your story will literally help save lives sis. I pray any woman going through this gets the courage to leave safely ameen 🤲🏾. Go Bella!, you got yourself a new subbie 😘
Ameen Thank you for your kind words, If I can help someone then I did my duty
One day I was cooking and watching Turkish series on HIS Ipad and guess what 😮😮😮 he got massages from his co-worker, My heart beat was almost gone😢 every massage that he sent or received I was seeing N I couldn't breath!! WALLAHI i couldn't 😢Later that day I asked with whom he was massaging he said my boss and we were joking nothing serious! I planned EVERYTHING, I am not physically with him, and filing for divorce. And I got ENOUGH money for everything. Being cheated on is worst feeling. Alhamdolillah I healed.
Thank you for sharing your story with me I pray you healthy and amazing life for you.
You are so strong and your sabr will take you far in life! Keep thriving darling!
Thank you babe 💋
Sis you’re so strong I hope you’ve seen all the red flags now and make decisions that’s best interest of your mental health …all these trauma might impact on your kids sis is best to give them healthy environment to thrive that means you have to healthy mentally to thrive aswell inshallah wishing you all khayr thanks for speaking about these kinds of issues it’s very prevalent in our community
And that’s Exactly why I did not want to forgive him for the last time he had to many chances
Sorry you went through this. God bless you sis. Love from London 🇬🇧
“So, surely with hardship comes ease" I’m praying for your healing, for your success, for your peace and everything you desire X10. May allah protect you and your children and continue to guide you. YOU GOT THIS MAMA ❤️ we will be rooting for you PERIOD.
InshAllah and Thank you
Wow that story about not wanting to help you with website but jumping at the opportunity to help a distant friend or someone they just met sounds way to familiar to my own past. may you be blessed to leave this man in ur past & be around people who love and apprecaite you 🤲🏽Ameen
Ameen thank you 😊
Jealousy in relationships is a real issue that people overlook, him not wanting to help you is because you outshine him and he’s the man😳. La Hawla, hope you’re in a better place sis❤
I agree 💯 that’s how it started with him
Praying for your healing sister. I have followed you for the past few years and I am sorry you went through this. May Allah grant you healing!
Ameeen Thank you 😊
I can’t wait for part 2 wtffff I’m so happy you are out of that relationship ❤️ we love you Bella
Almost God willing
Thank you for sharing your beginning story in detail-I had no idea this was happening. You always seemed like the perfect couple. Your situation reminds me of my aboo, who was also a narc. He would always sneak-diss my mom, go through her phone under the guise of trust, and project his insecurities onto her. Turns out, he was planning a second marriage and spreading lies to ruin her reputation while keeping his image clean. Narcs hate seeing their partners happy and confident. My advice: cut personal contact, co-parent, and document everything. May Allah protect you and your kids. Looking forward to hearing more as you navigate this. 13 years with him, and the huge red flags started in year 2-you had so much patience!
Thank you so much and I’m sorry you have to go through that ❣️
Bella, I'm so sorry that you went through this. I have been watching you for yearsss and always loved your videos and amazing presence!! I always thought about you when you disappeared and hoped you were okay. You deserve the world and everything in it. You are strong enough to overcome this and may Allah protect you and your children xxx
Ameen Thank you 💋💋💋
Thank you so much for sharing Bella. I have been following you since day one and I thought you guys were perfect together. We just never know what people go through behind close doors. May Allah make it easy for you and protect you.
Ameen, Thank you and please don’t ever let social media deceive you
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Sending you strength and support❤️❤️my Allah make it easier for you sister Ameen
Ameen ❣️
Wow Bella, girl my heart just breaks knowing someone would treat you this way. You deserve so much better. Thank you for sharing your story. I know it will help a lot of women especially in the dating season. You shared so many lessons learned. Pure gold 💕
Thank you so much! Asea This means a lot to me ❣️
Heyy, I am sorry to hear this, I lost you on instagram all these years I had you in mind but cannot remember the name, but I can remember your giggles and just today I got on you tube, and here you are looking even more beautiful, God bless your heart Bella, you’re a happy person! Keep being you and strong
The gut never lies Subhanallah so many similarities with my own story. May we all heal, sorry 😔
People can be evil! Faced a similaire situation wish I could go back and change so many things. Alhamdulilah Cala kula xaal. Stay strong may Allah grant us better Amin!
It never does Thank you so much ❣️💋
Stay blessed sister, may Allah protect you and your family.
Thank you so much
Thank you sister! You are truly helping us ❤. Separately, you are stunning!
You are so welcome and Thank
You
Never go for a man who shows any signs of self hate because men externalise their anger and hate while women internalise so those men are very dangerous, but we live and learn in this world, glad you’re out of that situation
When i tell you am tired and haven’t slept with 6 month baby and was about to. I see this video and can’t even sleep . Girl why did you stop in middle like that? It’s like watching a good scary movie and light goes out. What should I do now? Flabbergasted! Wild
I always loved your energy and vibe. I always thought you were too good back in the days when he use to be in your channel . Him rolling his eyes at your words and his diva behaviors.
May Allah keep you save and happy.
Keep shining and being you. You are saved from that ridiculous of human ❤️👍🏽
Oops so sorry, i will upload part 2 Monday inshAllah after finish editing it’s a big file ❣️
I remember you back in the day.. was among the first influencers, I remember you always with every shade of the rainbow on your eyes with the little inner corner. 😂 Brings back memories seeing you on here. I guess we all do hide so much behind the camera… sad to know that light of yours was never appreciated. I pray you continue to find the best version of yourself and remember that this life is so short. The burdens of this world can sometimes feel heavy but know that this is not our permanent home. May Allah bless you with even more happiness and blessings in this life and the next dear sister. Ameen
lol See now I love those rainbow eyeshadows. Thank you so much love for your kind words 💋❣️
Been there you are so right right right like super right !!!! If a man chasing u like crazy don’t give him a chance 😊
😭😭😭 So painful to watch, I am soo sorry you went through this sis. Literally got goosebumps and cried. May Allah SWT make it easy for you❤❤
Ameen ❣️
❤❤❤Sending love
You deserve so much better 😢❤
I know this is completely off topic but I love the way you wrap your head wrap/hijab if you could do a tutorial it would be greattt
Definitely ❣️
We need part 2!
Thank you for sharing your story, habebti ❤❤❤ narcs are the minions of shaytan!! The way they gaslight and cause confusion is effed up and cruel! Also, they seek bubbly beautiful souls just to crush their soul and suck the joy out of them. I'm so glad you got out❤
I am proud of you. I left mines couple years ago 🎉
Bella you deserve so much better and I’m so happy you finally free !!!❤❤❤❤ we are here for you and we cannot wait for you to thrive. He was holding you down baby !!!!!
Thank you love, I’m also to the finish line
Assalam ‘aleykum sis, wallaahi I Saww your face and had to think a second and then I knew. My bubbly positive sister from back in the days. I ask Allaah to ease your affairs and give your happiness and sakinah in your hearts! Even tho I want to hear all the juice. I am your sister and I don’t want you to stand in front of Allaah and you are being questioned about spilling tea about your ex. And that maybe it is backbiting Allaahu a3hlem. Just think about it. Because its been years since I followed you and I was always laughing when I Salallaahu ‘aleyhi wa salam your vids and you deserve the best. Here in this dunya and in akhirah. Kisses and big warm huggs for you and the kids ❤
I‘m so sorry that you had to go through that, may allah bless you with someone that treats you like you deserve to be treated! 🫶🏾
Ameen Thank You ❣️
this is heartbreaking. I love you big sis 🩷
Such a cliffhanger: Can’t wait for the other parts😔
When you said he was chasing you that triggered my trauma becasue my ex husband was excatly like that and would always try to put me down to the point I lost my confidence .
I hope you get counselling sister becasue we need to heal to move on. May allah ease all your pain and protect your family . ❤
I apologize I didn’t mean to trigger you I should of put warning message next time. Thank you I will continue to see therapy 💋❣️
May Allah ease your journey and give you success. I hope you’re always happy and smiling. Much love ❤
A lot of us often talk about friendship haters but sadly our spouses can be our biggest haters! A lot of these men genuinely hate women especially accomplished women, they’ll pretend to like us so they can leach on us and break us and so we can be just like them. Miserable and angry filled with a dark heart! A lot of these men do not like us! They like the thought of us. Leave men like that or else you’ll lay in your own bed! A man who loves you will want to see you win, he will elevate you. Stop marrying down and settling.
Omg Subhanallah I have been looking for you on TH-cam for ages and your video came to my feed. I love you abayo may Allah bless you. You look so beautiful mashallah ❤❤
Thank you so much 😊
Omg the cliffhanger 😮 when is the next episode ???
She said Monday iA!
They say men who chase you for a while, when they finally get you they treat you like shit
Yes yes
Asalamu alaikum sis, I hope you are keeping well. May Allaah make your healing journey easy for you Aameen! I actually remember having you on Facebook years ago ❤
Wa alaikum salaam love Ameen and thank you ❣️
Before it happened to me, I never understood why women don’t just leave after the first time they have the gut feeling of being cheated on etc. but when I experienced a narcissist, trust me they will do anything and everything to be the victim and make you question your own sanity. Be kind to women who are in toxic relationship..
This!!! It’s like you can’t escape them until something clicks. Thank you ❣️
There's always some truth in a joke,may Allah guide you in this sis❤️
You got this Bella
Thank you so much 💋
I am so sorry for what you went through, i just noticed something with the way you speak, a sign of narcissistic abuse is trying to hard to say the right thing so as to not trigger someone, and prolonged exposure to it makes you stumble on your words and come off as un-articulated, when indeed its years of the abuse showing up in your speech and how you process words in your mind, so exhausting 😢, sorry bella
I wish I could pin this
Your so strong ❤
May Allah give you a way out ASAP❤
Ameen Thank you ❣️
May God protect your heart ❤️
Ameen, You as well
I’m really sorry for what you went through and I can see why you would want to share it, but you have children and they will see this. As much as it feels like you don’t wanna hide what happened to you, the best thing is to go through therapy, heal with your family and seek guidance from Allah. When there’s kids involved it’s so hard to go public, they will somehow feel humiliated and blame themselves for what happened.
💗Wish I can you hug u. And just tell you how strong you are 💙. Been here since your eyebrow video that went viral.
Hey cinn Thank you ❣️
we need part 2 pls!!
That man was your hater, so happy you were able to leave and start again. He probably didn’t want you to have socials so his side chicks wouldn’t know that he had a wife.
Maybe 🫣
Sister I understand the heartbreak and the years you have spent dealing with that man but this is backbiting and he will gain your rewards - which he does not deserve.
He was a xaasid subhana Allah.
Bella girl drop the part 2😮
Sunday 🫣😊
Smh I am so sorry you went through that
So sorry you had to go through this Bella
Thank you ❣️
Part 2>>>
Thank you for sharing
We were Facebook friends 15 years ago. I love you sis. I am sorry to hear your story. May Allah make it easy for you.
Thank you so much
I remember watching you guys back the day this is shocking
Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, Sis I wanted to share something important with you. I noticed you've been talking about your divorce proceedings on social media, and I’m concerned it could backfire. Your husband might use those posts as evidence in court, which could complicate things for you. Please be careful and think twice before sharing anything personal like this online.
Firstly I’m soooooooooo sorry this happened to you Subhanallah 😩 secondly what camera are you using to film because wow Barakallah it’s beautiful 😍👏🏽👏🏽
Thank you canon mark 5d Mark 4
Girl part 2 please 😰
Im sorry but it sounds like he just didn’t like you. You was married to someone who didn’t love you or like you.
Narcissist ppl don't even like themselves!!! never mind actually like a whole beautiful woman
@@hiimnew8212 so true he really had everything a nice and sweet women and children a proper house and a good job hes just a horrible man
May Allah help you with the kids and your career.
Ameen Thank you ❣️
Is it possible that he was also a racist? Allah knows but it’s something I have noticed with men who are Arab, Egyptian descendants
He’s not Arab
Yes, like those racist white women who get with Black men. They think you're LUCKY to be with them.
No, he wasn’t. I feel he was more intimidated by a woman who was smart and strong.
He is not Arab
Maybe not a racist but could have picked a black woman because he assumed he could use her as an emotional punching bag and she’d just accept him because of stereotype, many men sadly think this way
So sad you never know what’s going on in someone’s life
This!! That’s why I tell the girlies to never fantasize about someone else’s marriage
Love from germany ❤️❤️❤️
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What happened to your old TH-cam 😢. Feel like he pursued you cuz maybe you where already influential at the time
Bingo! and finally put the pieces together and it was kind of too late
Sorry Bella ❤
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
He was trying to control you.
He tried but fought back everytime
Hi my dear 😘
Hi ❣️
What i don't understand is why did you continue to have kids with such monster though. How do you continue to sleep with him even tho he hated your guts 😮 like am shocked 😲
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There’s your side there’s his side and there’s the truth. This term narcissist gets used a lot more than before. There definitely narcissistic characters in this world.
All the best abayo but one thing I learnt about divorce is not to speak about the father of your kids 😊 I understand you’re in your moment- it’s tough and triggers become your life for this short time that you’re going through it - I pray Allah guides you through it all 😢
I understand love, but I’m speaking my truth technically it’s a way for me to heal. I spent a decade with this person so I’m speaking on my experience of marriage. Thank you for understanding standing.
@@Bellayusfyou are well within your rights to speak on trauma that affected your life. I’ve been watching you for a from the jump, this is your healing journey don’t let anyone minimize it or shame you into speaking about the truth.
She never once spoke how he was a bad father. She spoke how he was BAD husband and she could be protecting future Muslimah from falling in this trap with this guy publicly cheating Islamic what is done PUBLIC can be spoke PUBLIC.
Yes I agree- my child needs to know how his father is- no bad mouthing just the truth and this is her truth and her kids have every right to know - she doesn’t need to be the victim in this story!!
I don’t wanna sound rude but why somali girls who’s married to ajnabis pretend to be so happy and make ajnab men look perfect but behind doors they are suffering and after marriage they expose all their scary life story🤔
I think isn’t about ajnabi men it is more of the principle of being narcissist.they are everywhere
None taken but I think you’re missing the point here MEN
Marriage is nasiib abaayo, whether it’s with a Somali man or an ajnabi man 🤷🏾♀️.