Why I'm 23 and never had a girlfriend

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ธ.ค. 2024

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  • @michaelcueva530
    @michaelcueva530 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I am on the same exact boat as you. The feeling of unworthiness and not being enough has plagued me all my life and lead me to not even trying to put myself out there, when I didn't even give others a chance to indeed reject me. I rejected myself before anyone could. But I am now rectifying this mistake by again putting myself out there. "I Am enough", we are all enough

  • @loveyourself-n6y
    @loveyourself-n6y 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Age 23, same story...
    I can't even make eye contact with any girl..
    Growing up being called ugly, loser, good for nothing from parents, friends, relatives.. now suffering from inferiority complex, social anxiety

    • @TDKR88
      @TDKR88 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Stop allowing a couple of peoples opinions of you dictate how you feel about yourself! Find people who find you attractive to be around. Stop caring so much about what other people think of you bc what makes their opinion so valid? Only you believing it. Love yourself and enjoy life. You will start to attract people based off of your happiness

  • @cicxsm
    @cicxsm 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    this deserves more views. youre so handsome. far from ugly and youre educated

  • @42jayy
    @42jayy 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Bro coming from a 18 year old who got outa a recent breakup 2 months ago your doing just fine keep ur head up n keep on pushing

    • @initiatorhater0688
      @initiatorhater0688 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      i assume with your ex-girlfriend, you were the one that asked her out

  • @CCY17777
    @CCY17777 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    24 here, same thing. But I truly enjoy being single and having all the free time. I don’t think I’ll ever get into a relationship even if I have a chance

  • @P90XGetRipped
    @P90XGetRipped หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm 23 and in the same situation. I'm not even ugly either, but I struggle with putting myself out there.

  • @lennonSystems
    @lennonSystems 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    You’re good looking brother, don’t let people tell you otherwise.
    Good luck 💯

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Love you my bro ❤

  • @Adam_Millns
    @Adam_Millns 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Great self reflection. I'm proud of you for this!

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Love you brother

  • @supergiantmario6444
    @supergiantmario6444 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Dude, you got the voice and looks of a swave guy man! I bet there are plenty ladies out there who like you. Hope you nothing but the best man.

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@supergiantmario6444 you're a g that made my day 🫶🏻

  • @coltson327
    @coltson327 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You’re clearly in touch with your emotions and a good looking dude. You’ll do fine bro 👍

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much brother, you're a great soul. God bless you 💙

  • @brianoakley3636
    @brianoakley3636 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Beatles LET IT BE.!!! WORD OF WISDOM.

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@brianoakley3636 yes my g, the three words for peace ☺️

  • @CasanovaPugilist147
    @CasanovaPugilist147 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    you need to fight those inner self doubts. They are always going to ve there but the more you fight the easier they pass. Go out and approach women you like. There's no way to avoid rejection. You just have to make a move.

  • @scottjackson163
    @scottjackson163 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You don’t need to be saying “I love you” to a woman. As in fiction writing, show don’t tell.

    • @highcaliber350
      @highcaliber350 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      wrong. every story has a healthy amount of showing AND telling. you can write a story that only tells or only shows, but neither will be very good. Loving actions may not always be seen as expressions of love.

  • @dreamer281
    @dreamer281 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I pray that you find the love of your life..
    I hope that you find love in lord Jesus Christ.
    Amen 🙏

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      God bless you my dear friend, thanks for your prayer

  • @CasanovaPugilist147
    @CasanovaPugilist147 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm not going to tell you your good looking or ugly. That's really up to you to decide. How you feel about yourself, your looks should matter above all. A woman you meet could tell you you're a handsome dude. Another woman will tell you you're the most hideous thing she's ever laid her eyes upon. If you're own view is not strong enough, you're going to believe that second woman even though that first woman told you otherwise. You need to determine for yourself if you are beautiful.

  • @nickevershedmusic8927
    @nickevershedmusic8927 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im the same age, i've had girlfriends but when I was younger, hardly any after i was 20, even though I am better looking now then when i was younger, i don't know if I even want one though, i usually get very stressed in relationships

  • @josepheridu3322
    @josepheridu3322 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    To be fair, sometimes these assessments are right! Even attractive men get rejected most of a time, so it is reasonable to assume it would be worse for average men like us.
    Most average men get into relationships in school or college, places where you have to interact with other anyway. After college, chances truly go down if you are average. Also those men already had the skills and know women, so they have no problem finding another relationship. We are just left behind, and we can cope with "divine peace" or whatever, which is great, but the fact is that we are losers in a very important experience humans can have, an experience that opens us to family and other stuff... it is over. Now I get why people get addicted to drugs.
    It is also for you to have a personal little revenge, such as not helping women in distress, not giving them free favors, not talking to them unless I have to, etc. Women never help strange random men anyway, so why should men ponder to them? It makes perfect sense to not give the world anything back if it denied you so much.

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You have some fair points, although I do believe divine realization is the ultimate purpose of why we're here, not women.

  • @user-us1vg3bp9v
    @user-us1vg3bp9v 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Nope, not ugly at all. Men say that kind of thing to each other, they can't even tell if a guy is good looking or not. I'm a woman so I know : ) you're good looking.

    • @dark_nightwing_xl2797
      @dark_nightwing_xl2797 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Ask him out then

    • @anth2344
      @anth2344 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@dark_nightwing_xl2797 💀

  • @justachannel8600
    @justachannel8600 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm almost the opposite. I'm a girlfriend and have never been 23.

  • @justadishwasher2162
    @justadishwasher2162 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I'm 24 same here brother 🤓

  • @boyun4055
    @boyun4055 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m insecure about my height (5ft3) and about my face (no beard) so i look a kid for a guy who has 26 years old.

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@boyun4055 it's fine, you're good enough, just ad you are brother ❤️

  • @kjurpjdpihe9096
    @kjurpjdpihe9096 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I think the issue is that relationships between men and women are way too codified and ritualised. I mean, you started this video by saying you never went on a date as if dates were the normal way to meet a woman.
    I'm 22 I never went on a date either, never in my life have I invited a woman at a restaurant or whatever but this hasn't prevented me to bond and have relationships with women. I went to art school where it's easy to make friends with women without it having to be sexual or romantic right away. It just strats as genuine friendship. I think we should always engage with people as friends. whether their a man or a woman, we should simply see them as humans we're trying to connect with. Then, natural attraction and tention will do the rest and lead to a deeper relationship.
    Dating apps, partying etc. Can only do so much. These things lead to a sexualy driven contact with people. Some people find what they are looking for in parties and dating apps, but if you struggle to meet people this way, that just means it's not for you.
    A lot of young men are deeply insecure because they are building their idea of themselves based on the awkward interactions they have with women at parties or things like that, but they dont realise that these women or this type of interactions with women is not an accurate representation of all women.
    English is not my native language so I don't know if I explained myself correctly, but my point is:
    If you try to meet people in places that are meant for shallow interactions and hooking up you need to be hook up material. Otherwise, of course your gonna feel left alone.

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Man I love how you put that! Such a beauitful reflextion!!!!

  • @OliveOilRun
    @OliveOilRun 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this make more!!!

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes yes yes!!!

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Posted new vids!

  • @hundegaga
    @hundegaga 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    how old are you now ?

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      23 hahaha

    • @terrycraig6386
      @terrycraig6386 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hope you aren't serious with that question, bub. He only posted this video a month ago.chances are he's still 23.lol😅😅😅

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@terrycraig6386 hahaaahha

    • @zamasuaboveall
      @zamasuaboveall 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@adyboustaniits been a month. are you still 23?

  • @foljs5858
    @foljs5858 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You have the looks to have a great gf... Maybe just me more confident and less "romantic", many girls dislike "romantic" even when they say they like it, especially clingy romamtic

  • @Jay-ef2ii
    @Jay-ef2ii 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Comment: You are fine. Love will come when you least expect it. Just focus on your college, and in your certification and if love does not come once you are established at least you have your job & your salary. You are just too young to get down about this. You also have the possibility in being an asset to people. Why don't you do volunteer work at Your local food bank? Help the poor. Why don't you volunteer for Catholic Charities RGV (in Mcallen, Texas)? Life is beautiful, and God created you to be on this planet. Take my advice, man. You deserve to be on this planet! You look like a caring person--make a difference in the life of a poor person. Date: July 24, 2024, USA

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Jay-ef2ii you are blessed 🫶🏻

  • @Furkan-xn3vz
    @Furkan-xn3vz 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Where are you live?

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Lebanon brother

    • @Furkan-xn3vz
      @Furkan-xn3vz 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@adyboustani this is hard in lebanon . You should go to russia for girls.

  • @markpaladiy5748
    @markpaladiy5748 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm DEEPLY insecure, just like you, in the very ways that you are.
    But then I heard a song cover: this song cover, by this girl: th-cam.com/video/dAvfg14QETk/w-d-xo.html
    1. The general, 'masculine' cosmos and the special, 'feminine' Earth (Gen 1:1);
    2. The Earth, as its own general subject, and its special kind of material wealth: its abiding maximal abundance of open liquid water (v. 2);
    3. That water, in general, and its cycling (the water cycle, vs. 3-10);
    4. The water cycle, in general, and its beneficiaries: biological life (vs. 11-12);
    5. Biological life, in general, and its special category, animal biology (vs. 20-25);
    6. Animals, in general, and its special category, humans (vs. 26-29);
    7. The general human and the special...woman (Genesis 2:7-25)
    This pairing sequence is itself paired with the fact there are ONLY FIVE names that Genesis 1 reports that God gives to five things. And, these things seem to be the Earth's own prime three dynamic, feminine subsystems of its water cycle:
    1. the thermally regulative day/night cycle ('day' and 'night', v. 5);
    2. the thermally regulative atmosphere ('shamayim', v. 8; NOT 'ha-shamayim', for, the latter is general sky, like in Gen 2:4a);
    3. the land/sea surface thermal exchange system ('earth' and 'seas', v. 10). If these three sets of things are what these verses are reporting, then it finds analogy in Adam's later naming Woman (Genesis 2:23) I think she, likewise, names him.
    Of course, the text does not say she did. But the text also does not say she had feet. And, of course, she had feet. These things are the Earth's own basic, feminine subsystems for handling the Sun's radiation for benefit of life on Earth. This is why Genesis 1 says that God saw that the light (v. 3) was good. For the 'light' is in the prior context of the Earth and its wealth of water. It is not (repeat, not) physical light unto itself that God called good. It is the relation which the light has for the potential for water-based life on Earth.
    For, tellingly, the Genesis 1 account does NOT report that God names gravity, or light, or even water. Only of day-and-night, as such, and the atmosphere, and of land and sea. These are:
    (i) of continual regular rotation of the Earth, which moderates that 'directional' radiation for all parts of the Earth (Gen 1:4-5);
    (ii) the Earth's atmosphere, which further moderates that radiation to the surface (Gen 1:6-8);
    (iii) the continual thermal exchange of land and sea, which constitutes the thermal moderating system of Earth's thermally binary surface (Gen 1: 9-10) th-cam.com/video/V6m5LOyBM7c/w-d-xo.html
    (I've made a move for that girl, for her cover of that song, Try Everything.
    I'm 57, indigent, introverted, etc.. She's 18. I'm winning her heart. She made this second cover in response to the first comment to her Fairy Town cover: th-cam.com/video/LoIE8RDPKqk/w-d-xo.html)

  • @Int-sum
    @Int-sum 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    But are you a virgin? Cause i am 25, never had a girlfriend, virgin, no dates, no hand holding, oh and broke!

  • @КхмДюльгер-ф5ж
    @КхмДюльгер-ф5ж 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ты очень красивый! Жалко не говоришь по-русски ((

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Translated this haha you are a wonderful person

  • @janchan2258
    @janchan2258 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Why we don't care?

  • @crocodilegamer93
    @crocodilegamer93 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    just get an a.i gf bro

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Genius move jahhahah

  • @yasuomain3902
    @yasuomain3902 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is cope. The uncomfortable truth is that the only thing that matters to your success in any realm of endeavor is your genetical traits like face, height and IQ. It's a blackpill but the truth.

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You are wrong. Check my most recent interview with a genius scientist in genetics on @mentallygreat.

    • @terrycraig6386
      @terrycraig6386 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Do you mean DOPE, not cope? Just checking.

    • @kjurpjdpihe9096
      @kjurpjdpihe9096 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Completely false...

    • @vaderkurt7848
      @vaderkurt7848 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      "The only thing that matters"
      Tell that to Jesus after death buddy.

    • @avocadeous
      @avocadeous 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Never understood why you blackpillers always feel the need to drag others down to your miserable lifestyle.

  • @nickevershedmusic8927
    @nickevershedmusic8927 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Uhh you aren't ugly, what lol?

  • @Adam_Millns
    @Adam_Millns 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Have you heard of HealthyGamerGG? I recommend watching his TH-cam videos!

    • @adyboustani
      @adyboustani  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes, he's a great guy!!!