How to Help Someone Experiencing Delusions Due to Dementia
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ธ.ค. 2024
- What is a delusion and where might care partners encounter them when working with a person living with dementia? We explore that question and offer suggestions about the PAC skills that will help in this situation (connecting, supportive stance, Hand-under-Hand®, and meeting the person where they are). "Don’t agitate, validate" was a comment that was added during the session; What would you try after watching the video?
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You remarked about repeating this technique over and over. I'm glad you do because, as a caregiver, I need to hear it over and over. I've been my mother's live in caregiver for 11 years and, very often, I'm emotionally/physically drained at times these issues come up and my knee-jerk reaction is to be defensive which never helps; she is further upset and the issue weighs on me even after we're done 'discussing it'. The times I come along side her with the supportive stance, we both win. She feels heard, understood and calmed and I that issue is no longer weighing on me. Thank You for posting these videos. They truly are a blessing to both caregiver and the one receiving care from an educated caregiver
Wow. 11 years makes my 7 seem like a walk in the park. Hat off to you!
Hello @Candi. It's Cheryl from Teepa's team. Thanks for watching How to Help Someone Experiencing
Delusions Due to Dementia .Thank you as well for recognizing what needs to change, that is our goal too!!
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Great video I needed to hear this going back to the caregiver field.
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I need to get my dad diagnosed. He refuses. He has a woman who is a friend telling him I'm trying to put him in a home. No family will help or believe me or the adrc because my dad knows everyone & is wealthy. It is horrible
I'm sorry to hear this, it sounds like a tough situation to be in. Reach out to us if you need some help, teepasnow.com/services/consulting/phone-consultations/.
I started doing this when I can. However, it is hard to do this sometimes. My MIL believes that I told her I hate her and is very hurt by it. So, accepting that I did this, when I didn't, would make it worse. My grandmother kept calling the sheriff on my aunt (who she didn't like before the delusions started). Authorities don't take these well after the first couple of times.
Wow, @angelasoden4285, it sounds like it has been a difficult situation, but good job on trying to go with your MIL. I'm wondering if you and/or your family might want to talk to someone about this issue and come up with some other ways to cope. Please contact consult@teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671 to arrange a meeting.
What do you say to your loved one who is in a delusion state "I am at a hotel or aunt Charlotte's house" but they are really at their own home? Thanks for some language or steps on how to best help the loved one stay calm and know they are safe in their home without upsetting them further.
Hi, @karenmclean2044, sorry it took me so long to respond. I'm a member of Teepa's team and I think about language all the time. I'm glad that you find our language/steps on how to help to be useful for you. A question I have for you is around language and how you phrased your question. When a loved one makes a statement that they at a hotel or someone else's house - is it delusional or are they just not recognizing something there? What do you think? If you would like to talk, please reach out to us at info@teepasnow.com or call 1-877-877-1671.
I believe I’m living the very beginning of these issues with my husband. He recalls things with some truths but mixes up the story. He then says that he wants to start recording his interactions so he can prove he is right. He is starting to do this within the family with many present and it became a big thing. He got angry and stormed out thinking we are all against him. (Paranoia) He has big ideas to make investments but his financial thinking of costs is still back in the 70’s. This is hard to live with. I don’t think I could have calmed him down at that moment but a couple days later we spoke on the subject, alone. I was able to help him understand what actually took place and how he mixed in things that happened on other occasions. It is difficult to see a doctor in Canada. Is it worth the effort since there is no cure or even treatment? The difficulty is twice as hard because this is a sensitive subject. He will not bring it up to the doctor and I will have a hard time address it in front of him. Horrible to see him hurting like this.
Hi @ahc1957, I responded to your other message on a different video. There is a link to a free consult on there. We also have some great content on our TH-cam page about supporting someone and seeing a Dr. But please, reach out and we can connect. Take Care
Some delusions can be quite grand. My grandmother attempted to cook all of her food (which was a lot, living in the country) because she believed a neighbor called (one that passed away years prior) and was bringing his whole family and some other neighbors over for dinner. Luckily, once she got everything out, she couldn't figure out how to start. We found her on the floor because she didn't know what else to do. 😢
Hey, @angelasoden4285, that's quite an experience. Thanks for sharing.
My mom is always stating that she hears "them" talking and my friends whom she names are taking things from her house. They took her jewelry, took her dinning room table, her ukelele. Almost every day same thing. She still has her home although she's been with me for 3 years. Our granddaughter lives in the house but will be moving soon. We're going to have to sell it but I'm not going to tell her. I have a hard time responding when she says they are stealing her things.
Do I understand you'll have to sell your Mom's home? You won't tell your Mom? She already thinks people are stealing from her, so I would think in the moments she is lucid, it may occur to her that her house has been 'stolen'. I don't know anything about your situation but I would hope you could let her know her house will be sold in some way; kinda give her a heads-up so she doesn't have a concrete reason to feel someone took something away from her
Hello @Laura. It's Cheryl from Teepa's team. Thanks for watching Coping With Delusions with Live @5 PAC Team! Thank you as well for recognizing what needs to change, that is our goal too!!
Here is Teepa's mission: teepasnow.com/about/pac-mission-and-values/
Teepa believes that when people know better, they will do better!
Help us bring awareness and knowledge to everyone by sharing and subscribing!!
Here is another free resource you may like: (teepasnow.com/about-dementia/)
Laura are you aware that PAC offers 30 minute free consults with a PAC Consultant to explore strategies with you further to support.
Please click here to register: teepasnow.com/services/consulting/phone-consultations/
Do you address temporary delusions and hallucinations due to a UTI different from those due to dementia?
Hi, @Lisa Thomas, great question. You actually answered it yourself. Delusions and hallucinations due to an illness or fever (like a UTI) is definitely different from those due to dementia as the illness brings on a very fast (quick change) for the person where as those because of dementia tend to be slower in progressing and/or not frequent for long periods of time. If you want to know more, you might want to check out this blog post (teepasnow.com/blog/do-you-see-what-i-see-hallucinations-and-delusions-in-dementia/) or these videos (teepasnow.com/search/?search=hallucinations&search_filters=%7B%22products%22%3A1%7D) on our website.
My 100 year old bedridden mom really thinks my brother who lives and cares for her full time has a secret baby/child and girlfriend. It is kind of a sweet delusion since he is a lifelong bachelor. When she mentions it, I try to validate how interesting and nice that idea is. Lately, she will try to get more 'details' from me and is disappointed when I tell her I don't have details cause I am not knowledgable about the situation and she seems to know more than me. 🤷♀️
@ML Sounds like you being willing to step into her reality and enjoy things with her wherever she's at, is allowing you to maintain a positive, supportive relationship with her! You two could always get into the game of speculating (not just making up "facts", but coming up with possibilities of what he 'might' be doing) about what this brother and his secret family are up to just for fun so you can keep that conversation going while staying connected emotionally. Thanks for sharing and for offering your mom the support she needs when she needs it! Nice job!
my wife is in mid to late stage PCA... delusions have now, unfortunately, been added to the list of our trials... she believes someone has taken our 14 year-old daughter, or another version is we tricked her into signing papers that allow "them" to take our daughter... when she's in the midst of one if these episodes, she is highly anxious and agitated... of course she refuses to take the prescribed anti-anxiety meds... "it's a trick" she says... welcome to posterior cortical atrophy, the worst horror show on earth...
@Michael Bowman, Wow, sounds like you are dealing with a lot right now. We're wondering if you are aware of the fact that PAC offers consulting services. If you are interested in talking with someone, please feel free to reach out to consult@teepasnow.com to get a free 30-minute. You can also visit PAC's website; www.teepasnow.com to learn more.
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Apathy- they cannot care what the truth is-
Hi, @Jennifer Wyatt, thanks for sharing your opinion. If you would like to discuss more, please contact us info@teepasnow.com or visit www.teepasnow.com
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