This dad is so real, and honest. Of course he was shocked..the realization that your son has a life time of painful surgeries ahead of him, bullying, etc.. All birth defects cause anxiety for parents and family. The father's tears show his capablity for empathy for his newly born son's journey.. it will be a long, arduous journey at times. Thank God that sweet baby has a father that loves him so unconditionally.
anita Simpson exactly going from oh everything is great so that's what your expecting to see a healthy baby that has mom's eyes and dad's smile..then all of a sudden you see your child that has severe facial disfiguring and doctors around them basically giving the vibe of your child is not right!!
listen people are mad cause the parents and the news reporter are talking like this baby is the worse thing in the world their not they are just like us they just look different and that is all but they laugh the same and act the same and do everything that you would do
Y'all are wrong for what you say about this father. He sat there in a hospital waiting for his perfect baby boy and that's not how it panned out. Imagine knowing your child is different. Imagine all the hate and how strange their life will be. This dad wanted his son to have a normal life and in one minute all of those hopes were torn away. He was scared and you can't blame him for that.
Exactly! When a baby is born with any disability or deformities, the rest of their life is going to be hard due to such cruel people. They will be treated differently and not in a good way.
Agreed! All parents want the simplist path in life for their children. The one not marred with cruelty and physical limitations. Knowing that you can’t do what others can do so easily can be hard for adults; let alone children who are equipped with imaginations and hopes beyond their wildest dreams.
I agree that it's natural to have those feelings at the time, but what's harder to rationalize is the way he still speaks about it now. It just seems dehumanizing. _He_ had to find it in _his_ heart to accept his child by listening to a Christina Aguilera song. _He_ felt the need to be congratulated by someone to reaffirm that _his_ life would be okay despite this. I could be wrong, but it seems like he's more concerned about how difficult his life will be instead of how difficult his son's life will be.
I have treacher Collins syndrome and I know my mum and dad were frightened when I was born at 27 weeks. I completely understand the parents thoughts and feelings even now. I have have 14 surgeries and I don’t look like I did previously. I don’t hate the parents I love the fact they embraced Nathaniel and kept him. They are loving parents
This made me cry. My son was born with Goldenhar syndrome with Craniotomy facial abnormalities, profound gearing loss, bilateral cleft lip and palate, scoliosis, missing kidney, and missing ribs. We were young teenage parents and had him at only 27 weeks. My husband instantly fell in love with his son. Many surgeries followed over the years. We love him to death. He’s a miracle and did everything the doctors said he wouldn’t be able to do. The nurses and doctors tried to get us to put him in an institution but we refused. Many “professionals” told us it would be a better quality of life. I remember one saying look around, you don’t see people like him walking around. That’s the best place for him. I couldn’t do that to him and neither would his dad. Then we had our second child 8 years later. During an ultrasound we learned he would have a cleft lip. Immediately they told us we should get an abortion. They really pressured us but we didn’t give in. If we had gone through so much with our first, cleft lip was a walk in the park for us. Our next child was a girl, 4 years later. Then we were told she would have spina bifita and we should abort as well. We refused and she was born completely healthy. At the age of 2 she began to have seizures. Now she’s on medication to help with that. Out next and last daughter was diagnosed through ultrasound to have down syndrome. Again, the pressure to abort. We didn’t and she’s the smartest child I know and NO she was not born with Down syndrome. It’s sad how wrong the medical community can be. Imagine all those children aborted and in reality there is nothing wrong with them. Today we struggle because we decided I would stay home and not work because of all the appointments the children have. My employers were not understanding that I have disabled children. We struggle financially, and I do lots of things to help with our cost of living by making our own soaps, couponing, being used clothes or swapping them with others. I try my best. Today my oldest is now 21, he’s not ready to leave home and he does have a mentality of a 10 year old and he struggles with his self esteem and self worth. Because even though he’s had all these surgeries, he still looks noticeably different. When he was younger people would stare and say nasty things and hurtful things. I’d get so angry and scold them for doing that. My son said he always noticed people would stare or do a double take. He said it used to get him upset but now he ignores it. He’s sad though because he has not had a girlfriend. (Although, we are Christian and believe in Christian dating.) I tell one day God will send him someone.
Unpopular opinion; I am not a parent, but if you choose to become a parent you need to understand and prepare yourself that there is a chance your child may be born “ different”
saying the dad is a jerk is sooooo easy ! try to put yourself in his shoes first and then think again ! of course he sure does love his kid but how would you react ? You cannot be thrilled when you know deep down that your kid is gonna suffer but then you try to help him and i think this is what his parents did ! Glad that christina aguilera song helped them through this hardship she sure poured her heart in the song and that's the power of music !
Of course you'd be shocked. But calling your own child "not human" is fucked up. Your kid can still be beautiful with treachers collins. Their face can be beautiful. It's not "regardless of their face" that's fucked up
@@mae._.7676 No, I'm sorry, a child with q horrific deformity is not beautiful. He was in shock. You're delusional if you think you would be blissfully happy and accepting if your baby came out deformed like that.
@@rlee3538 I didn't say I would be blissfully happy. I would worried for their future because of the complications. I would however completely accept and love them. And I would think that they were beautiful because they are my child. Beauty isn't formed by facial symmetry alone. If someone is beautiful it's not solely because of their appearance and a lot of times it's because of that at all
@@mae._.7676 Okay, live in a fantasy. Until you've worked in direct contact with situations like these you'll never know or understand the reality of what these parents said and endured. If you did you'd quit your mouth real quick
So true. My third child has a genetic disorder which causes him to look different to the average kid. The bullying he was subjected to, particularly during high school was appalling and in the end forced him to drop out of school early. He was often called "freak" and taunted by kids chanting "Smeagol" because they said he looked like the Gollum character from Lord of the Rings. Parents need to teach their children from an early age that not all people look the same or behave the same way and to treat people kindly rather than with cruelty. Children can be cruel but empathy can be taught and I think kids can learn to put themselves in someone shoes as in, how would I feel if these horrible things were being said about me.
A great start would be to stop making the bad guys or villains in movies especially children movies ugly, or monsters, or different looking like they often do and stop making the good guys especially in children’s movies all handsome and or perfect.
The dad is not a jerk. He just wanted what all parents want; the simplest path in life for their children. The one not marred with cruelty and physical limitations. Knowing that you can’t do what others can do so easily can be hard for adults; let alone children who are equipped with imaginations and hopes beyond their wildest dreams.
The mother is absolutely gorgeous. Beautiful, her accent 😍 omg...even more beautiful with her pixie hair (I know it was cuz of cancer but she looks so cute) beautiful family. God bless them. Stay strong 👏💪
My best friend has Treacher Collins syndrome. It hasn't stopped her from being a best student in the school ending school with best scores from exams and now she's studying medicine. I'm very lucky to have such friend.
I don’t believe that any of the ultrasounds did not show this, something as grave as this. Someone would’ve known early in the pregnancy. Why was this a surprise? This is exactly what they look for in your 20 week ultrasound.
That is exactly the sort of thing they look for. My guess is they skipped the ultrasound, because they thought she was low risk (on account of her age and health).
DP 63 it’s standard practice for everyone though regardless of risk. There’s something fishy going on here... if it was a small abnormality, like I know cleft palate and lips can be missed, fine, but an entire malformed skull, there’s something big omitted from this story
As a first time mom, if I did get all the ultrasounds and standard testings done and ended up giving birth to a baby with serious deformity, I'd be in shock, too. Who wouldn't?
I think his reaction is pretty normal. They didn't know that the baby had any medical problems, it was their first child, he might not have been around children much. They aspected a standard looking baby, you would be in shock because they didn't know what was wrong and if he would be able to survive. If they knew this during the pregnancy they could have prepared themselves and get used to the idea, now it all came at once during a stressfull time. It took them a minute to let everything sink in and then they decide that their baby was beautiful no matter what. I think that's great.
As a parent expecting, we all expect a perfect child.At first i was upset with the fathers words but i could only imagine how hard it was to swallow what was seen in the delivery room. All the emotional triumph, worry, questions then you think how society talks. People stare and children are honestly cruel. This is why i tell my own children, God makes no mistakes and everyone of us is not perfect but very special.
How was this not caught on the 20 week ultrasound? I was told my daughter most likelu had down syndrome based on her facial structure so i know they look at that. I had 3d/4d picture at her 21 week u/s and i could see her face clearly.
Jenifer Clark. My son has down syndrome. My chances were very slim, I didn't get testing for it. I knew it when I saw. All we could think of is how can we be the for him and make sure he knows how important and great he is. Wouldn't change a thing about him.
Happy Horse no. They wanted tp do an amniocentesis but i refused. If she did have ds it wouldnt have mattered as far as aborting her like they asked. Which to me was insane. After i refused for a week they did the blood test that is 99% accurate and it showed she did not have it. I actually wanted her even more when i thought she did. Down syndrome wasnt new to me. I have a close friend with a Daughter who has it. I was worried about heart issues or the chances for cancer which can be raised but i was just at peace about it. We now know that she has a rare genetic disorder. She is developmentally delayed but is so smart cognitively. She has a feeding tube but is making progress. Slowly but its happening. She has sensory issued but not autism as far as we can tell. Shes had a lot of health issues in her short 2 years but im thankful for the health she does have.
TiffLove you are an amazing mom. Mine doesnt have down syndrome but i know how amazing those kids are. It made me so sad when they asked if i wanted to abort her when i was waiting on blood work. It was a definate no. I had fought so hard to keep her alive long enough to deliver her shere she had a chance to survive and here they were asking if i wanted to purposely kill her. It made me so mad. Thankfully i made it to 30w 5d until she was born and although she did spend 2 months in the NICU it would have been much longer if she was born as a micro preemie.
Jenifer Clark Thank you. Takes one to know one! I'm glad that you made the decision that was right for you, despite their opinion. Our children are excellent. No matter what the circumstances may be. Wishing you the best! We'll keep preparing our kids for greatness!🙌🙌🙌💖💖💖
TiffLove he is so lucky to have such loving and accepting parents. You and your partner are also lucky to have such a loving accepting baby. I wish you all much love, happiness and good health. All the best.
I really appreciate the parents honesty. I’ve dealt a lot with mental health and it’s hard to face the backlash of being honest about the thoughts that you have in those moments. They seem to have raised him well and as a mom I can understand the shock and loss felt. I had difficulties with my first and it left me feeling robbed of a good experience and it’s tough for sure. I can’t wait to have a better time with my next but my experience doesn’t make me feel any less love for my girl.
What happens when Nathaniel sees this video? The way they are talking at times seems terrible. Being shocked is understandable...but this video was after the initial shock. Clean up your words & phrases. You can express the shock/surprise without sounding so heartless. And am I hearing them refer to him as "it" at certain points? I hope I am hearing it incorrectly.
Amen and blessings...to that woman from the surgical center! Every baby is a joy, regardless if the baby is born with an unexpected genetic abnormality. I advocate for all children with different abilities, and spent my career as a Special Eduction teacher. Children are as normal as they are taught to be...parents who learn that early will find all the joy in the world!
I remember watching this when it aired and I thought, I’ve learned something about people like Nathaniel. And you know what I’ve learned? That people like him are treated like people with special needs and Autism. In a bad way and there needs to be something done about it! Bc it breaks my heart that people like him and me are treated poorly in this world😢
watch the second part.... the parents literally said we wanted a normal looking kid so we tried for another baby and when jacob came he was like so perfect like a porcelain doll. his face was beautiful. The mum contributed to this by saying i understood motherhood is so easy and beautiful when my second baby came. the mum said she couldn't look at his face for a year after birth. In the same video, Nathaniel said that kids, even high school kids bully him by saying he is non human, a monster. Then what is the difference between his own parents and those high school bullies. I understand you didn't get what you want but do you have to scream that on top of your lungs on national TV for all to hear, for one day your own son to hear these words from his own parents mouth.
Saying that the dad is a jerk,cuz he said that he didnt look like a human being but they still love him i bet that would be about your reaction too if u had a baby like that u would aslo be shoked but the parents srill love him even tho he look like that🤗💕👍
I gave birth to my son Joshua in 2015. I was scared when he was born. He could only breathe when he cried and they had to take him immediately. He has Aperts syndrome which is one in 65,000. It occures spontaneously so I did nothing to cause it. I was personally shocked at his hands and feet which were fused at first, but as time went on other babies looked weird to me. There is a lot going on at these kinds of births. I myself was in labour for thirty eight hours. Don't be too harsh on parents that don't know what to think at first.
I know this would be a complete shock to parents that have a child with treacher Collins, and I know that the child would have a rough life but he and they would be fine. I have always thought children born with this, are super beautiful, I don’t know why, I just find them so beautiful. There was a movie about a boy that had this and had been home schooled, they decided he needed the interaction so his parents put him in public school. He had such a hard time at first but, he finally found a best friend, they were so close that the other kids began to accept him just the way he was. It was hard to watch what he went through but, his parents were amazing and everyone accepted him just as he was, all became good! I wish everybody, especially adults could see the beauty in every child equally. These kids have a hard life and do not need adults or children to treat them different. They are so precious.
As a nurse whose specialty is developmental disorders as well as severe mental illness, I have worked with Treacher Collins children. I would have immediately told those parents that same thing. "Your son will live a long, healthy, wonderful life" energized the room with my own joy to begin lifting their shock. They are just having natural shock of having to adjust to a new reality. I think OBGYN staff need to have at least 1 staff onsite who is experienced and trained to work with children with pervasive developmental disorders and craniofacial issues as well as other physiological birth congenital issues. Those parents should have not had to deal with staff's shock. that exacerbated their own shock and adjustment. It breaks my heart. If I had been there that would never have happened.
This dad was standing in his own shoes he is being raw and honest with how he was feeling and thinking in a surprise moment the nasty people with the rude comments are the deformed ones because your lacking empathy and sympathy for for this man would you rather he lie and say his first reaction was oh he is beautiful or perfect when those were not his true thoughts or feelings it only took the man a few hours to let it sink in and see this baby as not imperfect but perfect as a human being God bless this family and their children.
Been thru something similar although we had some idea from a 6 month scan. I'd rather hear the truth from parents so we know these feelings of shock are not an indication of a lack of love but of fear, shock and the knowledge of what is to come. We loved our nephew for everything he was. He only lasted 3 days but was held and cherished by all.
Awwww these parents make me sick he is a handsome young boy god makes everything different even humans and this boy has a bright future he is alive and he has a gift to share with the world. I will have him no problem.
Ok ABC. Enough of these videos that are only partial stories that leave you hanging. Then you can’t find the rest of it. Bless those parents. Treacher Collins is I’m sure a shock to parents not expecting it but those born with can live good happy lives.
Suzanne Hedderly I AGREE!!! It is so doggone irritating when you watch 7-8 minutes of something and you don’t know what else happened! And, it’s not easy to find it either!! They should have the link in the description for crying out loud😡😡😡🤬🤬🤬
Oh my god... Their kid is absolutely fine. The worst part is going to be how other kids treat him not even counting his parents. If that was my kid I would be a little shocked at first and I would smile within a minute and be so happy with my lovely living boy.
Lmao you're the kind of superior bitch that thinks she's got it all figured out but I guarantee if you had a baby that badly deformed you would be the first person to say something along the same lines as these parents did. Get a grip and quit acting perfect.
I thumbed down because it's so sad but thx for putting it on TH-cam and also the mom is very pretty with pretty hair and her voice is beautiful like shakira
They talk about their son like he is a freak it's really sad. Just the choice of words was like they were looking at the pictures online rather than talking about their own child. I hope he never sees this interview, that his parents were practically disgusted by him when he was born.
The dad is not a jerk he could've easily bailed on his wife and kid but he didn't... put yourself in his place the kid didn't look human how the fuck would you feel or react...he's a person he's not perfect give him a chance damn
What is wrong with you people? They are recounting their first feelings, real, raw. I may have reacted the same way at first, so stop being hypocritical.
well I appreciate theyre honesty...in the end the parents saw what they're were doing so why degrade them? they're sharing they're story meaning only comes from they're perspective ..
The parents aren’t jerks. I get why they are upset. They don’t want their kid to have problems due to possibly death or bullying or any problems. No parent wants their kid to have issues.
Don’t be such jerks to these parents. It must have been a shock to them. My 2nd child came out with wrinkled ears and a large purple birth mark between his eyes. I cried and said , “He’s gonna need to wear a hat for the rest of his life!”
It’s true if you’re part of the low risk pregnancy they don’t really do much test or ultrasounds I only got two one when I was 14 weeks and another on late on my pregnancy and nothing after I really wanted one before I gave birth but it didn’t happened because they said it wasn’t necessary since it looks like everything it’s going good and you’re healthy.
Nathaniel is beautiful. He was created by God's Hands!! Sperm and egg and genetics are trivial without God saying "Here, I sculpted this beautiful child for you and he is perfection in my hands and my eyes. I give him to you for you to love."
This dad is so real, and honest. Of course he was shocked..the realization that your son has a life time of painful surgeries ahead of him, bullying, etc.. All birth defects cause anxiety for parents and family. The father's tears show his capablity for empathy for his newly born son's journey.. it will be a long, arduous journey at times. Thank God that sweet baby has a father that loves him so unconditionally.
Right my son is Autistic, a handsome boy but it has my anxiety on 1000000000...
Flame Gang It will be ok. Hopefully, you have some faith because that will sustain you and also guide you. Bless you and your son!
Oh please! If you had a baby and it didn't look like how you thought. You would be shocked. They kept him. They raised him. Good grief.
anita Simpson - THANK YOU!
anita Simpson exactly going from oh everything is great so that's what your expecting to see a healthy baby that has mom's eyes and dad's smile..then all of a sudden you see your child that has severe facial disfiguring and doctors around them basically giving the vibe of your child is not right!!
listen people are mad cause the parents and the news reporter are talking like this baby is the worse thing in the world their not they are just like us they just look different and that is all but they laugh the same and act the same and do everything that you would do
wait until people find out that im leaving it at the hospital if it makes me scream
Y'all are wrong for what you say about this father. He sat there in a hospital waiting for his perfect baby boy and that's not how it panned out. Imagine knowing your child is different. Imagine all the hate and how strange their life will be. This dad wanted his son to have a normal life and in one minute all of those hopes were torn away. He was scared and you can't blame him for that.
Exactly! When a baby is born with any disability or deformities, the rest of their life is going to be hard due to such cruel people. They will be treated differently and not in a good way.
100% agree. Say it louder for the assholes in the back.
It’s only a thing if they make it a thing, and I’m sorry but THEY ARE!
Agreed! All parents want the simplist path in life for their children. The one not marred with cruelty and physical limitations. Knowing that you can’t do what others can do so easily can be hard for adults; let alone children who are equipped with imaginations and hopes beyond their wildest dreams.
I agree that it's natural to have those feelings at the time, but what's harder to rationalize is the way he still speaks about it now. It just seems dehumanizing. _He_ had to find it in _his_ heart to accept his child by listening to a Christina Aguilera song. _He_ felt the need to be congratulated by someone to reaffirm that _his_ life would be okay despite this. I could be wrong, but it seems like he's more concerned about how difficult his life will be instead of how difficult his son's life will be.
I have treacher Collins syndrome and I know my mum and dad were frightened when I was born at 27 weeks. I completely understand the parents thoughts and feelings even now. I have have 14 surgeries and I don’t look like I did previously. I don’t hate the parents I love the fact they embraced Nathaniel and kept him. They are loving parents
This made me cry. My son was born with Goldenhar syndrome with Craniotomy facial abnormalities, profound gearing loss, bilateral cleft lip and palate, scoliosis, missing kidney, and missing ribs. We were young teenage parents and had him at only 27 weeks. My husband instantly fell in love with his son. Many surgeries followed over the years. We love him to death. He’s a miracle and did everything the doctors said he wouldn’t be able to do. The nurses and doctors tried to get us to put him in an institution but we refused. Many “professionals” told us it would be a better quality of life. I remember one saying look around, you don’t see people like him walking around. That’s the best place for him. I couldn’t do that to him and neither would his dad. Then we had our second child 8 years later. During an ultrasound we learned he would have a cleft lip. Immediately they told us we should get an abortion. They really pressured us but we didn’t give in. If we had gone through so much with our first, cleft lip was a walk in the park for us. Our next child was a girl, 4 years later. Then we were told she would have spina bifita and we should abort as well. We refused and she was born completely healthy. At the age of 2 she began to have seizures. Now she’s on medication to help with that. Out next and last daughter was diagnosed through ultrasound to have down syndrome. Again, the pressure to abort. We didn’t and she’s the smartest child I know and NO she was not born with Down syndrome. It’s sad how wrong the medical community can be. Imagine all those children aborted and in reality there is nothing wrong with them. Today we struggle because we decided I would stay home and not work because of all the appointments the children have. My employers were not understanding that I have disabled children. We struggle financially, and I do lots of things to help with our cost of living by making our own soaps, couponing, being used clothes or swapping them with others. I try my best. Today my oldest is now 21, he’s not ready to leave home and he does have a mentality of a 10 year old and he struggles with his self esteem and self worth. Because even though he’s had all these surgeries, he still looks noticeably different. When he was younger people would stare and say nasty things and hurtful things. I’d get so angry and scold them for doing that. My son said he always noticed people would stare or do a double take. He said it used to get him upset but now he ignores it. He’s sad though because he has not had a girlfriend. (Although, we are Christian and believe in Christian dating.) I tell one day God will send him someone.
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That’s an amazing story ❤😊
As a fellow Christian who doesn't have children. I pray your son has a girlfriend and god bless you all and i hope you all have a good life
Unpopular opinion; I am not a parent, but if you choose to become a parent you need to understand and prepare yourself that there is a chance your child may be born “ different”
saying the dad is a jerk is sooooo easy ! try to put yourself in his shoes first and then think again ! of course he sure does love his kid but how would you react ? You cannot be thrilled when you know deep down that your kid is gonna suffer but then you try to help him and i think this is what his parents did ! Glad that christina aguilera song helped them through this hardship she sure poured her heart in the song and that's the power of music !
Zack GRAHAM Now you said that...I totally agree
Of course you'd be shocked. But calling your own child "not human" is fucked up. Your kid can still be beautiful with treachers collins. Their face can be beautiful. It's not "regardless of their face" that's fucked up
@@mae._.7676 No, I'm sorry, a child with q horrific deformity is not beautiful. He was in shock. You're delusional if you think you would be blissfully happy and accepting if your baby came out deformed like that.
@@rlee3538 I didn't say I would be blissfully happy. I would worried for their future because of the complications. I would however completely accept and love them. And I would think that they were beautiful because they are my child. Beauty isn't formed by facial symmetry alone. If someone is beautiful it's not solely because of their appearance and a lot of times it's because of that at all
@@mae._.7676 Okay, live in a fantasy. Until you've worked in direct contact with situations like these you'll never know or understand the reality of what these parents said and endured. If you did you'd quit your mouth real quick
More kids need to be taught from a very young age that looks do not make you a monster...what defines you is what is on the inside ♡
So true. My third child has a genetic disorder which causes him to look different to the average kid. The bullying he was subjected to, particularly during high school was appalling and in the end forced him to drop out of school early. He was often called "freak" and taunted by kids chanting "Smeagol" because they said he looked like the Gollum character from Lord of the Rings. Parents need to teach their children from an early age that not all people look the same or behave the same way and to treat people kindly rather than with cruelty. Children can be cruel but empathy can be taught and I think kids can learn to put themselves in someone shoes as in, how would I feel if these horrible things were being said about me.
Not just kids but also adults and teens and old people.
A great start would be to stop making the bad guys or villains in movies especially children movies ugly, or monsters, or different looking like they often do and stop making the good guys especially in children’s movies all handsome and or perfect.
Why? Teach them that, so they find worse from strangers? That would somehow, been worse.
Try telling that to everyone on social media.
The dad is not a jerk. He just wanted what all parents want; the simplest path in life for their children. The one not marred with cruelty and physical limitations. Knowing that you can’t do what others can do so easily can be hard for adults; let alone children who are equipped with imaginations and hopes beyond their wildest dreams.
The mother is absolutely gorgeous. Beautiful, her accent 😍 omg...even more beautiful with her pixie hair (I know it was cuz of cancer but she looks so cute) beautiful family. God bless them. Stay strong 👏💪
My best friend has Treacher Collins syndrome. It hasn't stopped her from being a best student in the school ending school with best scores from exams and now she's studying medicine. I'm very lucky to have such friend.
I don’t believe that any of the ultrasounds did not show this, something as grave as this. Someone would’ve known early in the pregnancy. Why was this a surprise? This is exactly what they look for in your 20 week ultrasound.
Wynter Fox unless it’s a 3D it may not show. My black and white ultrasounds look like their child.
Nwa I’m no OBGYN ultrasound expert but I could’ve sworn physical abnormalities are what they look for in those ultrasound
That is exactly the sort of thing they look for. My guess is they skipped the ultrasound, because they thought she was low risk (on account of her age and health).
DP 63 it’s standard practice for everyone though regardless of risk. There’s something fishy going on here... if it was a small abnormality, like I know cleft palate and lips can be missed, fine, but an entire malformed skull, there’s something big omitted from this story
Wynter Fox For sure. She skipped the ultrasound, most likely.
I wanted to see the baby.....
As a first time mom, if I did get all the ultrasounds and standard testings done and ended up giving birth to a baby with serious deformity, I'd be in shock, too. Who wouldn't?
I think his reaction is pretty normal. They didn't know that the baby had any medical problems, it was their first child, he might not have been around children much. They aspected a standard looking baby, you would be in shock because they didn't know what was wrong and if he would be able to survive. If they knew this during the pregnancy they could have prepared themselves and get used to the idea, now it all came at once during a stressfull time. It took them a minute to let everything sink in and then they decide that their baby was beautiful no matter what. I think that's great.
As a parent expecting, we all expect a perfect child.At first i was upset with the fathers words but i could only imagine how hard it was to swallow what was seen in the delivery room. All the emotional triumph, worry, questions then you think how society talks. People stare and children are honestly cruel.
This is why i tell my own children, God makes no mistakes and everyone of us is not perfect but very special.
Bernadette Vasquez Bravo!
How was this not caught on the 20 week ultrasound?
I was told my daughter most likelu had down syndrome based on her facial structure so i know they look at that. I had 3d/4d picture at her 21 week u/s and i could see her face clearly.
Jenifer Clark. My son has down syndrome. My chances were very slim, I didn't get testing for it. I knew it when I saw. All we could think of is how can we be the for him and make sure he knows how important and great he is. Wouldn't change a thing about him.
Happy Horse no. They wanted tp do an amniocentesis but i refused. If she did have ds it wouldnt have mattered as far as aborting her like they asked. Which to me was insane. After i refused for a week they did the blood test that is 99% accurate and it showed she did not have it.
I actually wanted her even more when i thought she did. Down syndrome wasnt new to me. I have a close friend with a Daughter who has it. I was worried about heart issues or the chances for cancer which can be raised but i was just at peace about it.
We now know that she has a rare genetic disorder. She is developmentally delayed but is so smart cognitively. She has a feeding tube but is making progress. Slowly but its happening. She has sensory issued but not autism as far as we can tell.
Shes had a lot of health issues in her short 2 years but im thankful for the health she does have.
TiffLove you are an amazing mom. Mine doesnt have down syndrome but i know how amazing those kids are. It made me so sad when they asked if i wanted to abort her when i was waiting on blood work. It was a definate no. I had fought so hard to keep her alive long enough to deliver her shere she had a chance to survive and here they were asking if i wanted to purposely kill her. It made me so mad.
Thankfully i made it to 30w 5d until she was born and although she did spend 2 months in the NICU it would have been much longer if she was born as a micro preemie.
Jenifer Clark Thank you. Takes one to know one! I'm glad that you made the decision that was right for you, despite their opinion. Our children are excellent. No matter what the circumstances may be. Wishing you the best! We'll keep preparing our kids for greatness!🙌🙌🙌💖💖💖
TiffLove he is so lucky to have such loving and accepting parents. You and your partner are also lucky to have such a loving accepting baby. I wish you all much love, happiness and good health. All the best.
I really appreciate the parents honesty. I’ve dealt a lot with mental health and it’s hard to face the backlash of being honest about the thoughts that you have in those moments. They seem to have raised him well and as a mom I can understand the shock and loss felt. I had difficulties with my first and it left me feeling robbed of a good experience and it’s tough for sure. I can’t wait to have a better time with my next but my experience doesn’t make me feel any less love for my girl.
What happens when Nathaniel sees this video? The way they are talking at times seems terrible. Being shocked is understandable...but this video was after the initial shock. Clean up your words & phrases. You can express the shock/surprise without sounding so heartless. And am I hearing them refer to him as "it" at certain points? I hope I am hearing it incorrectly.
Nathaniel is a beautiful little boy. ❤️
That one congratulations changed everything! A blessing!💞💞💞
"I am beautiful!" Omg, I am crying!!! And then they went and held him!
Amen and blessings...to that woman from the surgical center! Every baby is a joy, regardless if the baby is born with an unexpected genetic abnormality.
I advocate for all children with different abilities, and spent my career as a Special Eduction teacher. Children are as normal as they are taught to be...parents who learn that early will find all the joy in the world!
I remember watching this when it aired and I thought, I’ve learned something about people like Nathaniel. And you know what I’ve learned? That people like him are treated like people with special needs and Autism. In a bad way and there needs to be something done about it! Bc it breaks my heart that people like him and me are treated poorly in this world😢
This Video Makes Me Happy Considering I Had Craniofacial Surgery At A Young Age
Oh my... You can see the love this dear man has for his son... He will be a wonderful support and encourager...
Sandy Grogg YES!
watch the second part.... the parents literally said we wanted a normal looking kid so we tried for another baby and when jacob came he was like so perfect like a porcelain doll. his face was beautiful. The mum contributed to this by saying i understood motherhood is so easy and beautiful when my second baby came. the mum said she couldn't look at his face for a year after birth.
In the same video, Nathaniel said that kids, even high school kids bully him by saying he is non human, a monster.
Then what is the difference between his own parents and those high school bullies.
I understand you didn't get what you want but do you have to scream that on top of your lungs on national TV for all to hear, for one day your own son to hear these words from his own parents mouth.
I saw this when it aired. This couple is awesome!
They seem disgusted by there own child
Saying that the dad is a jerk,cuz he said that he didnt look like a human being but they still love him i bet that would be about your reaction too if u had a baby like that u would aslo be shoked but the parents srill love him even tho he look like that🤗💕👍
ok but why they keep referring to the child as "it" 😐
FOR ALL U GUYS THAT ARE PUTTING THE PARENTS DOWN AND TALKING ABOIT THEIR CHILDREN SHAME ON U BULLYS GO LOOK IN THE MIRROR
WELL WELL SAID ..shame on the judgement ..could u imagine living like that :)
I gave birth to my son Joshua in 2015. I was scared when he was born. He could only breathe when he cried and they had to take him immediately. He has Aperts syndrome which is one in 65,000. It occures spontaneously so I did nothing to cause it. I was personally shocked at his hands and feet which were fused at first, but as time went on other babies looked weird to me. There is a lot going on at these kinds of births. I myself was in labour for thirty eight hours. Don't be too harsh on parents that don't know what to think at first.
Brave and strong parents!!!
Imagine what would happend when Nathaniel sees this video... :(
I'm cry... Tks xtina
His a beautiful creation of God.I'M gonna watch the movie WONDER.
ShawN TyleR same. Im watching it on monday
What a great dad
I know this would be a complete shock to parents that have a child with treacher Collins, and I know that the child would have a rough life but he and they would be fine.
I have always thought children born with this, are super beautiful, I don’t know why, I just find them so beautiful.
There was a movie about a boy that had this and had been home schooled, they decided he needed the interaction so his parents put him in public school. He had such a hard time at first but, he finally found a best friend, they were so close that the other kids began to accept him just the way he was.
It was hard to watch what he went through but, his parents were amazing and everyone accepted him just as he was, all became good!
I wish everybody, especially adults could see the beauty in every child equally. These kids have a hard life and do not need adults or children to treat them different. They are so precious.
As a nurse whose specialty is developmental disorders as well as severe mental illness, I have worked with Treacher Collins children. I would have immediately told those parents that same thing. "Your son will live a long, healthy, wonderful life" energized the room with my own joy to begin lifting their shock. They are just having natural shock of having to adjust to a new reality. I think OBGYN staff need to have at least 1 staff onsite who is experienced and trained to work with children with pervasive developmental disorders and craniofacial issues as well as other physiological birth congenital issues. Those parents should have not had to deal with staff's shock. that exacerbated their own shock and adjustment. It breaks my heart. If I had been there that would never have happened.
Give the dad a break
He called his son a thing
This dad was standing in his own shoes he is being raw and honest with how he was feeling and thinking in a surprise moment the nasty people with the rude comments are the deformed ones because your lacking empathy and sympathy for for this man would you rather he lie and say his first reaction was oh he is beautiful or perfect when those were not his true thoughts or feelings it only took the man a few hours to let it sink in and see this baby as not imperfect but perfect as a human being God bless this family and their children.
bless this family❣️ where do I find part 2? thank you
the news report makes me wanna go to this department and yell the shit outta my head
What a lovely boy!
4:41 I'm crying what a beautiful family
Been thru something similar although we had some idea from a 6 month scan. I'd rather hear the truth from parents so we know these feelings of shock are not an indication of a lack of love but of fear, shock and the knowledge of what is to come. We loved our nephew for everything he was. He only lasted 3 days but was held and cherished by all.
This dad just says what everyone was thinking. You thought you had a normal child I don't know how I'd react.
Awwww these parents make me sick he is a handsome young boy god makes everything different even humans and this boy has a bright future he is alive and he has a gift to share with the world. I will have him no problem.
I'm very sorry as a parent idk how I'd react just saying . but my son is beautiful rather a limb gone or deformed its a gift from god
i wouldn't want my child to look like him but i would keep it because i would feel bad and i would cry
❤ God bless this family
Ok ABC. Enough of these videos that are only partial stories that leave you hanging. Then you can’t find the rest of it. Bless those parents. Treacher Collins is I’m sure a shock to parents not expecting it but those born with can live good happy lives.
Suzanne Hedderly I AGREE!!! It is so doggone irritating when you watch 7-8 minutes of something and you don’t know what else happened! And, it’s not easy to find it either!! They should have the link in the description for crying out loud😡😡😡🤬🤬🤬
There is a book about it called normal you should read it it’s amazing
Bless you
Oh my god... Their kid is absolutely fine. The worst part is going to be how other kids treat him not even counting his parents. If that was my kid I would be a little shocked at first and I would smile within a minute and be so happy with my lovely living boy.
David Miscaviage and I would send you to jail for life :)
Megan Asdfghjkl and the living abortion would be terminated. I win
Megan Asdfghjkl. you sound real sure of yourself but reality is a bitch.
@@jeanclover3182 I know it's a bitch. I have genetic disorders and they cause me great pain. So I am sure.
Lmao you're the kind of superior bitch that thinks she's got it all figured out but I guarantee if you had a baby that badly deformed you would be the first person to say something along the same lines as these parents did. Get a grip and quit acting perfect.
He looks like his dad.
I thumbed down because it's so sad but thx for putting it on TH-cam and also the mom is very pretty with pretty hair and her voice is beautiful like shakira
Also the dad is a bitch because he is identifying their son
I think the dad is just open and honest.
They talk about their son like he is a freak it's really sad. Just the choice of words was like they were looking at the pictures online rather than talking about their own child. I hope he never sees this interview, that his parents were practically disgusted by him when he was born.
God bless them with all my heart
AG Kittenlady NO PITY!
How did they not see it in an ultrasound? My mom is 7 months and you can see almost every detail of the babies face.
We held the "thing" my son
meaghan wilson 💀
He said we held nathanial..Not thing
The dad is not a jerk he could've easily bailed on his wife and kid but he didn't... put yourself in his place the kid didn't look human how the fuck would you feel or react...he's a person he's not perfect give him a chance damn
They were in shock. I understand their shock.
Is it bad that I cry every time I see this
What is wrong with you people? They are recounting their first feelings, real, raw. I may have reacted the same way at first, so stop being hypocritical.
well I appreciate theyre honesty...in the end the parents saw what they're were doing so why degrade them? they're sharing they're story meaning only comes from they're perspective ..
Omg, God Bless you and your family!!!!!!!!💕💕💕💕💕💕💕😂😂😂😂💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
where's part two?
These parents are very honest letting us have insight into those first hours of seeing their baby.
That poor kid
When the host said “he saw an opportunity and seized it”. That makes me think of a job not so much of a romance hahaha
Where's part 2
Audriana Michelin I don’t know 🤔. But I do know it is super irritating!!
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The title is weird I mean it's pretty obvious they remember the night their kid was born
Did the ultrasound not show anything unusual? Before she had the baby? I don’t get it.
Yeah
That's nice thought
The parents aren’t jerks. I get why they are upset. They don’t want their kid to have problems due to possibly death or bullying or any problems. No parent wants their kid to have issues.
Part 2 anyone
I was born with a mild case of treachers Collins
Sad to say, but as horrible as it is/was for a "father" to respond in such a manner, his response could have been worse.
Where is part 2?
Don’t be such jerks to these parents. It must have been a shock to them. My 2nd child came out with wrinkled ears and a large purple birth mark between his eyes. I cried and said , “He’s gonna need to wear a hat for the rest of his life!”
nurse PRACTITIONER
Laurel lol I know. “Nurse in a white coat”?
NAH THIS IS MY BIGGEST FEAR CUZ IF THE BABY MAKES ME SCREAM WHEN I SEE IT IM NOT KEEPING IT
What if the baby had been you? And your parents didn't want you
Where's part 2 ?
Growing up my best friend had TCS
The dad is just being honest.
That sucks. I just had a baby boy and he is PERFECT i thank God everyday for my healthy child
She looks better now than at 24!
wheres part 2
The "Beautiful" part of the story gives me chill. Music is powerful!
I watched the entire thing, where do they show the boy?
Annie Kate Nosy much?
It’s true if you’re part of the low risk pregnancy they don’t really do much test or ultrasounds I only got two one when I was 14 weeks and another on late on my pregnancy and nothing after I really wanted one before I gave birth but it didn’t happened because they said it wasn’t necessary since it looks like everything it’s going good and you’re healthy.
When I was first born ( seconds old ) I was PURPLE. FREAKING PURPLE. It was because of my skin tone
Why can't we see him?
I thought the baby didn’t look like a human for the first impression.
How was this not caught through ultrasound?
Wonder boy is a great person
If people know ahead of time that the fetus will be so malformed, they should abort. It is morally wrong not to.
It's not morally wrong. Abortion is
Nathaniel is beautiful. He was created by God's Hands!! Sperm and egg and genetics are trivial without God saying "Here, I sculpted this beautiful child for you and he is perfection in my hands and my eyes. I give him to you for you to love."