American guy: "Oh, btw - I was just being sarcastic, just to let you know." German guy: "Whoa, thanks, mate, I would have never noticed!" American guy: "No problem."
According to sarcasm...I went to the states a long time ago, and me, my sister and a bunch of our american friends wanted to walk to the supermarket, just the idea of walking seemed already been crazy to our american friends but that’s different story. On our walk my sister ate up a banana and was obviously waiting for a trashcan to throw the peel away and suddenly got ask what she is suppose to do with the banana peel. My sister answered in a very obvious sarcastic way that she wants to get a refill in the supermarket. Our american friends were kind of shocked and didn’t get the joke at all. What? You don’t have refills for fruits in the US? How pathetic 😄! In Germany you can bring any kind of peel to the supermarket and get a refill for that. This was really hilarious.
Aaah, genau. Leben, das große Kino. In bestimmten Szenen muss man einfach genauer schauen, bzw. man will einfach alles von Anfang bis Ende mitbekommen 😄
I think germans like dry humor more, and what's the fun in sarcasm if you make it obvious, like the funniest sarcasm is when someone says it dead serious. That might also be a reason why everyone thinks we don't understand it, since they think we're being serious and germans rarely make sarcasm obvious.
Especially because we often just roll with it. If my conversation partner gets sarcastic, I'll keep a dead serious expression and tone and roll with it.
Are you even aware that sarcasm, irony and cynicism are different things? You may want to google it. It's quite interesting to learn the difference. In case you can't be bothered here is a quick overview. blog.supertext.ch/2017/02/ironie-sarkasmus-zynismus-was-ist-der-unterschied/
@@CologneCarter Good point! I thought that, too, but on the other hand it's a pretty normal thing that sarcasm and irony are in interchangeable use in everyday language. Cynicism is another thing though.
True ! I'm from the region of comté, mont-d'or, cancoillotte, morbier.... :D :D :D and we have good wines too like Jura "plus on en boit, plus on va droit " :D
@@Philemaphobia Sorry to disappoint, the UK is still in Europe. Plans to move the whole country to the equator to stop moaning about the weather have stalled.
I think that staring is not seen in Germany as "staring", but as "being attentive", "being interested in others". And if someone just looks at me furtively or avoids my gaze, I get the feeling that he is not open or honest with me and that he has something to hide. German directness certainly plays a role here.
@@Helen-wf9zo Inge ist der Typ (nein, den gibt auch ohne deutsche Abstammung :D) der andere dafür kritisiert dass sie ihr Leben genauso vergeuden wie sie selbst…
@Punxsu Of my life too... Might be connected too me watching on 1.5x Speed 🤔🤷🏻♂️ To the topic of humor: The book of German humor is very big with many pages; It is just not funny. Disclaimer: Ima German too... Don't @ me ;]
European sarcasm is different from American, in my experience when working with people from the US. EU sarcasm includes statements that COULD be true, so it's taken seriously, US sarcasm is usually silly and outlandish (that isn't supposed to be an insult either).
Although part of the misunderstanding is that Americans, being very focused on only their own country and culture, might not really be able to discern what a German might think is definitely silly and outlandish. See the example of the banana-refill-at-the-supermarket-joke above. Americans are exactly the people to believe that in Germany you can bring a banana peel to the store and you then get a refill. They somewhat know that we Germans have Pfand, and do a lot of recycling, and don't have single-use plastic bags in grocery stores, so that might be about believable for them. While any German automatically knows that it's a silly idea.
Answering a bit late but ... I can't agree more with you. I'm French, and I have a friend who lived in the US for a couple of years. When he came back, everytime he was making a joke over one person, he always finished by "Non, mais c'est une blague" (Oh, don't worry, it's a joke), even when everyone around were laughing. And I understand this, because I'm now living between France/Germany and USA ^^ Another French friend I had on internet (we were a group playing video games and talking together every day for 6-7 years) was so good at sarcasm that, one day, he told us that he got married, and none of us believed him for several weeks, until we were in a live cam with him and his wife x)
So in Germany it is allowed to look at people, but not to photograph them. In the USA it is allowed to photograph people on the street but not to look at them. Right?🤔
You can photograph everybody in Germany by law, but you can't publish it without permission of the subject, except really frequent places like Berlin TV-Tower or stadiums. Nur mal so. Glaub nicht alles, was dir suggeriert wird, das du tun sollst.
@@MrRoztoc It depends on the number of people in a photo. If there are only e.g. two it is considered a private photo because it exposes them. If there is a group or a person just happens to be in a photo then it is okay. It is a fine line to walk whether the photo content is only about one or two persons or whether it is a randome photo where people happen to be in there.
I don't leave the house very often, but when I was driving somewhere and coming back after many hours, my neighbors were standing there, 30 meters away, looking at me. I looked back, and they were not quitting, just staring on at me... I wanted to go inside, but I didn't move and held eye contact with them. Eventually they retreated into the house. (walking backwards!) I told my mom (who knows this couple) about them staring at me, and she said: "Yeah, these guys are awful..." And then she added: "You should wave to them!" :D
Wise Man (tells you something) that’s so strange!! In America, and even in Canada where I’m from, that wouldn’t slide at all. People will ask you if you have a problem 😂
Waving at people often is a very effective way of getting them to stop staring at you. You should also wave at security cameras. Though it doesn't stop them from looking at you... but maybe someone on the other end will feel embarrassed ;)
German is a great and complex language. It may be hard to understand and "feel" the sarcasm in it. It´s very subtle, but also direct. Very specific and hard to understand for foreigners. That´s just my theory.
No that is true, but its not unique. The british also have that kind of understated sarcasm. Many germans love british humor, not so much the other way around, because germans know the other language better. So its just a language barrier, and sometimes even a little bit of bias. The language is very underrepresented. In the US people with german heritage are actually one of the biggest groups. But you dont notice that in a way you notice italian, scottish or that kind of smaller groups. You see germans mostly in grim ww2 movies which leads to that odd bias that germans are dead serious and angry all the time. Besides from Terrentino movies you never see that german guy in a major role on the good side. I cant recall one single blockbuster including a german in a good way. But you find many examples of bad jokes about the language. Or look at Conan O'Brien, he is obsessed to butcher the german language but does not speak it at all. I like Conan, but when he is doing his german thing i feel like i missed something^^
I mean I have a bunch of friends in Germany that are very funny but with a lot of other people I kinda needed to get to know them better before We could establish a nice sense of humor between us. It’s like very personal and everyone has a different sense of humor I feel. My funniest friends’ humor was based on saying things that are absurd or out of context, I find it hilarious but I feel like English speakers wouldn’t get it and wouldn’t think it’s funny. It’s pretty weird admittedly. But also a lot of the people I met in Germany who were really funny and who made that part of their personality were kinda toxic and broken people on the inside. I feel like American humor is more light hearted and positive which I appreciate. But I also met some Americans with a pretty dark / weird humor for sure
Overall I find Americans a little more funny than Germans but I think that’s because they are just more open and less afraid to be themselves and say some weird shit However when you look at comedians there’s milesss of difference between Germany and the US. Most German comedians are TERRIBLE, and the better ones are far worse than the better American ones I’ve seen
By definition funny are mostly hilarious things/pictures in comparison to the routine of life and I would say German humour is more of a context thing while US humour uses the voice tone and other methods more to build the picture in the heads also us Humor has more of a story telling it is anonced and the it gets more hilarious(tension build up) as you hear and see the joke (more easy to follow) the German humour needs more of a thing process and as you get it the joke punches more so or less of a build up in tension
I am from California and grew up with sarcasm, and it was my favorite form of humor. When I moved to Wisconsin, I noticed that people did not use sarcasm, and they often took it at face value and/or considered it rude. I was told that this was common throughout the Midwest which of course includes Ohio.
One or two years ago I asked myself how Americans are thinking about Germany, when they have really been here. I couldn't get enough of it and saw people in those videos who show lots of respect for the differences, the similarities and people themselves. I saw people who really tried to understand us Germans. Very respectful. Nice to see people like you and your collegues.
I am glad you did the colab. I am 63 and I love to learn of the differences in cultures. I have been watching German Girl for a long while and did not know of your channel until the colab. It is very interesting on how we do things differently or see things differently. This is very true in the States too, just the normal culture from one state to another can be strikingly different on things. New sub here :D
The German staring thing is such a mystery to me (as a German). I've heard of it countless times and I totally believe that it exists since I don't think all the foreigners who experience it in Germany are hallucinating. But I'm 100% sure that I almost never stare at people myself and if I do, I avert my eyes as soon as the person I looked at for too long notices it. And I can honestly not remember when someone stared at me the last time and I'm quite certain I would notice for I am rather shy and uncomfortable when I get stared at which is very rare. Of course one could assume I just don't perceive looks as staring which are considered staring by American standards. But if so, it is a matter of one or two seconds which does definitely not explain the American experience of being blatantly stared at for a longer period of time. Long story short: I have hardly ever experienced a phenomenon in an area where it is prevalent. Maybe I look so inconspicuous or I just somehow learned to ignore stares without even noticing it.
The same goes for me. As a German in Germany, I don't usually look at people longer than 1 or 2 seconds and only noticed being stared at very, very rarely. In those rare situations, it also feels strange to me, sometimes definitely agressive, and I'll ignore that person and avoid eye contact completely.
You two have so many common experiences, reversed in many cases, of course, but very enjoyable to watch. Yes please, bring on more collab content. Great job
When I moved to Mexico, I just naturally used sarcasm as mostly a slight joke. I was sooooo wrong. Mexicans do NOT like it at all. I think they consider it to be cynical, and you are just being a smartass, insulting, needlessly. Even foolish like a stupid clown and not a plain talker, like you think they are idiots. They correct you immediately and let you know they don't appreciate it, but do it politely. Usually they keep reminding you of your remark. Like, so why do you hate a beautiful day again? -just a joke, sorry. Them- well, it stopped raining and there is a rainbow, what is wrong??? You try to change the subject, but they are like, well, try to appreciate the great weather. They will not let you slide on being sarcastic, they ALL really hate it. When you objectively look at it, they are right, it sounds so snotty and condescending.
Thank you guys for this kind of conversation. It is great to see how you are having such an open conversation, free of judgement. This kind of conversation would help with so many problems in the world.
When I notice I am being stared at in Deutschland, I just smile back. This throws most Deutsch off kilter. It also lets them know I am not Deutsch. The Deutsch rarely smile at strangers. Off to the store to buy a Franziskaner to try it.
@@cutlers3618 That is not quite correct. Deutsch/deutsch not only refers to the language, it can also be used as adjective for german citizens. But if you use it as a noun, you need Deutscher/Deutsche/Deutschen
hebdomatical I’m German and I smile whenever someone catches my eyes 🤗 I find people mostly smile back, especially the ones who looked grumpy before. It’s definitely a nice habit to have 👍🏻
I have been watching Feli's channel for years as I am a Connecticut person moving to Nederland in the next few years. And though the Dutch would hate me saying this, from both your perspectives, it nakes me miss life there so much as it's so similar!!! Love that you guys are collaborating! Keep it up!
Personally I have never noticed the staring, but it might have to do with the individual level of feeling comfortable within a culture. Plus:...if someone looking is making you feel uncomfortable...either just greet them, or take it as an opening for a casual chat...those that want to interact will...and those that don't, will leave. Just be friendly about it
Problem is that Americans can't handle the German response of being frank and honest. That leaves them embarrassed or humiliated and all they offer is a fist fight. Bottom line, Americans are cowards when it comes to an intellectual exchange with a German. They just don't have what it takes.
@@MBrieger Ah yes, an example the arrogance that has endeared Germans to their fellow Europeans and others, not that we Americans are not guilty of it too.
@@MBrieger Huh, kind of a bold generalization. Reading this I assume you don't have many friendly conversations with Americans... or people in general. There is a difference between beeing frank and honest and beeing condescending or even a prick. So I really hope you adapt your mindset when actually visiting the States. There are smart, dumb, kind and unfriendly people everywhere - this has hardly anything to do with beeing German/American.
For Americans traveling abroad, you should consider it exactly what you are looking for - an opportunity to interact and do some casual, friendly cultural exchange. Being an extrovert helps. Since I'm not, after a while, I just wanted to kick back with a halb Liter.
My wife and I loved this video, we are both native San Diegans . We vacationed in Germany and Austria July 2019, spending time in Munich and Salzburg. We absolutely loved it there: the people, the country, just wonderful. I am not a beer drinker but my wife and I were amazed at the great tasting beer; her favorite beer is Franziskaner and mine is Stiegl. The food was incredible, loved it. We laughed out loud when in your video you said you missed Mexican food and referenced Chipotle. We'll cut you some slack since you said you're from Oregon (over 800 miles from Mexico) and in San Diego California we are less than 20 miles from Mexico. That is probably what we would miss the most if we moved to Germany.
i could even imagine to watch this kind of exchange like every other months on a regular basis between you two, it's just nice and entertaining and i'm laughing the hole time :)
For me, "starring" is also a way to interact and to communicate. It is like building up a connection to other people and also feeling more as a community. You care of the others around you. And the eyes are like a mirror of the personality. And yes, that's true, you are trying to keep it up for a given time, to show you are self conscious enough. I like the German starring. You can easily add a smile to it and brighten up the other person's day. 😊
I am so happy that TH-cam exists and that I can still learn English so easily at my advancing age. I love this type of video, which is about differences in cultural things and I always find that some steriotypical behaviors are based on the language barrier. Super interesting!!! On the topic of staring, let me try to explain it for myself like this.... Staring = curiosity People in Germany are incredibly curious about what makes strangers think that we are staring at someone. When I think of myself, I stare at someone because the person interests me in some way. This could be the behavior, or the look, or the conversation. We watch, we think and then we talk. That's why we are not smalltalkers 🙃🤷🏻 greatings NL
@@nicktankard1244 Indeed! It's a common misunderstanding that US beer is Bud Light or similar piss water. The craft beer scene in the US is bloody awesome (Allagash, Bissel Brothers, Alchemist, Founders, Sierra Nevada, Anchorage - the list goes on and on!).
@@MichaelAndersen_DK yeah the US has started and is leading the whole craft beer revolution. The amount of amazing beer in the US is astonishing. The US has almost 6 times more breweries than Germany. But Germans are slowly catching up to other countries. There are several German breweries that are quite decent(Frau Gruber, Sudden Death, Fuerst Wiacek)
"saying this country doesn't have good Pilsner isn't true! they have awesome Lager" is what your comment sounds like. Craft beer might be great, but we're talking wheat beer here. And yeah, there's better wheat beer than Franziskaner, I'll give you that
When I moved to the US (age 7), everything was new so I would stare at everyone and everything... I remember my mom pulling me aside and telling me that staring at people is rude (and if I really wanted to do it, then do it behind a pair of sunglasses). Maybe, unless you're taught otherwise, staring is innate in all of us.
Strange, I lived in Frankfurt for two years as a child and never noticed anyone staring at me or other people. Even decades later when visiting Germany as an adult, I didn't notice it.
I've never realized that germans stare at other people. I as a german can identify pretty much with what nalf said americans tend to do when they're gettin looked back. But what i can say is that sometimes i'm just so in my own mind, focussed on what i gotta do later in the day or just daydreaming, that i dont notice that i'm currently just starring in someones direction. As soon as i notice it, I'll get a little embarrassed and look away.
It’s interesting that so many Americans have German heritage but you don’t see anywhere near as many German restaurants in the US compared to Italian, Mexican, Chinese, etc.
Yeah it kind of upsets me. I haven't had decent German food since coming back to the states after my summer in Wurzburg. Every "German" restaurant I try has been incredibly disappointing.
What you both have in common: You are both sooooooooo appreciative of the OTHER culture and life-style - that makes it so enjoyable to watch the Videos that you have posted together.Thereby you're representing an attitude that many would perhaps perceive as somewhat American but, I find, has caught on in Germany (a bit). Along the lines of: If you don't have something positive to say, don't say it. Nice, do it again. A topic you might want to cover is German bluntness or directness - that' something I'd be curious in perhaps in contrast to American politeness or "beating-about-the-bush-ness". Just an idea... would be nice. Thanks for your insights and shared perceptions.
And again very entertaining and funny. It’s really nice and it would be cool if you two do it again. I probably have a question. What is with the quality of food here in DE and the US? Felicia mentioned it shortly but it’s interesting for me to know a little bit more. Thanks 🙂
I had yogurt in Germany and it was pretty much the same as the US unless it's something specific she was thinking of. There are also places to get other varieties of cheese in the US too, but I'd probably agree with her that theirs are probably fresher being so close to the other European countries. Maybe it's mainly the area of Ohio she is in.
I think, the food is way more processed in the US. Its easy to find an all natural yoghurt in Germany and even the bigger brands have real fruit inseide. The US yoghurt tastes like sweets with artifical flavour and most of the time it is. Dairy products lack the variety, some stuff is even unknown. Bread in Germany was mentioned, its almost like the beer. US bread is like Bud light, German bread has a much higher quality and tastes much better.
No one yet mentioned that being sarcastic in the tone you're talking in without any exaggeration is dry humor 🤷? It's as simple as that 😉...... Some Germans have mastered this behaviour to perfection 👌. Sometimes even I need a little bit of time to get the joke but then it's even better 🙃. I like your conversations, so keep them coming every once in a while. Topics could be like how do people react when then hear that you're talking with an accent, dating rules, tv-content like the news, etc. etc. So many more things to talk about.
It’s indisputable that the Brits are the complete global masters of sarcastic humour. But perhaps technologists should invent a Sarcasm Detector as mentioned in an episode of The Simpsons, for the benefit of humankind & world peace. 😉
tha fact that brits once sees themself as the global master while running the " Empire" and the fact they are able to use sacasm, dosent lead to that conclusion automaticly, but I will give U taht, solide attempt and be happy at the 2nd place right after ... U guess it ... germany :)
In Germany the Brits are more known for their black humor. And believe me, we Germans do like that dark, black humor a lot. As for sarcasm. I don´t know if the Brits use it really more than we do.
Ah I think I like your take on sarcasm. With my limited interaction with Americans over voice chat and text channels I realized that tonal difference too. Like when I talk to another german face to face I can mostly tell when they are joking. But over the phone... no chance. In germany 'sarcasm gets lost in the mail' way more frequently than when I talk to americans. Of course not seeing the other person will make it more difficult everytime, but with some germans... it's no just difficult it's impossible, because there is no shift in voice when they use sarcasm. Of course, it is worst over text, when you have to make a funny face behind each sentence so the other party gets the joke ^^ but that's I think universal. Over the phone however, when you actually hear the other person talk... it becomes pretty obvious, how dead serious they often sound.
Really enjoyed the video; glad to hear that there is still American football in Germany; was stationed in Europe when almost every base had a team and it was a huge community event. I find myself either laughing or nodding with every issue you and Felicia discuss having been an American living in Germany for so much of my career; especially touched a nerve with the European breads and biers though I am an Erdinger fan for sure
It's noticeable that both of you really enjoy the place you're currently living in. As if you both found the right spot for you at this point in time. She's definetly a big America-phile and you're getting ever so slightly Germanized as well ;)
I'm an American, this bugs me in my German village. People just park on the street (not in parking spots) to go to the bakery, butcher shop, etc. This makes navigating through town with all cars tough to do....Keep doing these videos!
I think our starring-thing in Germany is a part of showing selfconvidence and espacially in the villages we greed even strangers if crossing their way, if you look away hasty or just obviously, we think you are shy or not selfconvident.
I love sitting in a cafe outside and watch people. I try to avoid coming across agressivly. I am just a curious person. Another topic, we do love and understand sarcasm. It is our second name. Thanks for the colab. It is awesome.
Very interesting indeed! I wonder what the regional likes and differences would be? Northern Germany vs Southern ect. Also NALF you look SO flushed and couldn't stop smiling while talking to Felicia -;) Keep em; coming! Greetings from Chi town!!
I used to ride before they had bike trails and now I’ve gotten out of shape for different reasons but you have one of the best bike trails in the area. If memory serves, it begins in Morow in the north eastern part of Cincinnati and the main trail runs north up to Xenia all the way north of Springfield. It’s one of the first rails to trails bike paths in the United States. It’s the Miami river bike trail. Check it out. I think you’ll like it.
yep, it must be hard for a beer snob to go from Oregon which is one of the best places for beer in the world to Germany which is a land of endless boring lagers.
The problem with American convenience is that it often it is often only possible at the expense of other people, that have to work long hours, on holidaays, ...
@@amymalone3995 not always... but often. And if it becomes commonplace saying 'No' gets really really unconfortable - and people expect an explaination why you can't/wont do something.
when i worked in retail i actually liked to work on weekends and holidays. I often took those shifts on purpose. Also i liked night shifts()not in retail though) because usually, you get 2 days off after that.
The variety of sarcasm varies greatly across the USA. I am from New England just north of Boston, and there we use a very deadpan, seemingly more German style of sarcasm. I have lived in all parts of the US and this has gotten me in plenty of trouble as people in other parts of the country only understand sarcasm if you like tell them beforehand that you are being sarcastic, or explain that you were being sarcastic, which of course completely ruins the sarcasm!
Hey my American friend. I am Glad you love living here in Germany and enjoy your stay. I am from north Germany and I so can relate to your time in Schwäbisch Hall. I used to be often in this region and always loved it. The atmosphere, the sights etc is just heaven on earth. My question: can You imagine staying „for life“ In Germany? Or do You definitely plan to Go back to the states sooner Or later? I lived and worked from 2012 til 2017 in America (east coast) I liked it a lot but after five years I developed more And more home sickness for Germany and now being here again almost 3 Years, I just gotta say: I really really liked living in America but I LOVE living in Germany 🇩🇪:) Blessings and have a good day mate, Mister Sascha
I'm still convinced that it's mainly elderly people that stare back without any shame. This kind of staring isn't polite and I hate it just as Nalf does but it often might have something to do with problems with sight and processing information if the person has a certain age. BUT there are also those elderly (or more middle aged) people that stare because they judge and that's aweful. It's the very conversative generation. They probably stare at the unicorn players because they're foreigners.
Du kannst mir nicht erzählen, dass Du die Menschen um Dich herum nicht auch gerne beobachtest?! Wenn ich beispielsweise auf der Terrasse meines liebsten Cafés sitze, gucke ich mir sehr gerne die Passanten an, die vorbei flanieren. Das hat mit "Starren" jedoch nichts zu tun. Alleine die Begrifflichkeit "Starren" ist doch völlig übertrieben - also typisch amerikanisch. Seid doch froh, dass euch überhaupt jemand anguckt! 😉
@@andrep.3774 😄 Na, diese Art von Gucken ist doch was ganz anderes. Was Nalf meint ist schamloses,mit offenem Mund anstarren, ja starren...der Blick wandert nicht. Und vor allem: weiter starren auch wenn Dein Gegenüber genervt zurück schaut - DAS ist das Unverschämte daran.
Staring is very southern german. Even I, as a german from the north, got very unconformatable with that, first time I noticed it. It is NOT typical for the whole of germany.
I'm from Hamburg and when I went to Chicago in 2007 (I was a 16 year old girl, very non-threatening lol) I honestly thought I would get beat up more than once because I (obviously) was 'staring' at people and they thought I was challenging them when I was just looking around like I would at home. I totally didn't get why I provoced grown ass men to react in such a way towards me until my friends told me that I should stop staring already! Haha So I would say we definitely do that in the north. When I was in Munich the staring was way more judgy than here though.
From my side you two get a thumbs up for another series of your conversation. It's really friendly atmosphere you are building up during your chat. Don't get that staring thing, I have to observe myself a little bit. One thought from my side when you are walking towards somebody it's a form of politeness to look at each other and say hello or something similar. I would find it very rude not to look at each other. In this situation for me it's a kind of respect. But I agree if someone is just watching you for seconds and seconds maybe directly into your eyes without any kind of reaction like smiling or greeting this is really weird. I agree with Felicia when someone stared too long it's probably a kind of weakness if he/she looks away first. At least they think it would be. But as I said I don't experience this kind of behavior a lot. Ok, I live in the countryside in southern Germany, maybe that's the reason. But on the other hand I can tell you people are so curious here in the small villages. They have another sport: gossip and chit-chat, especially the elderly people ;-) Have a nice day
id say felicia is right about the fact that we as germans dont look away because we feel like showin weakness. id feel pretty dumb if id look away pretending i wasnt lookin, because obvsly everybody knows i was, so i just keep looking at the person to show that I feel confident about what im doing😂 but i cant say that im judgin people when i look at them cause i dont really care about what people wear or how they actually look like in general but i admit that it definitely depends on where you are in germany in my opinion. cause there are some superficial cities in germany where i feel judged by bein looked at even as an german 😂 the best way in my opinion is to look at people and dont look away when the person looks back at you but instead smile at them. and sadly that is a problem in germany cause there will be at least a few smilin back.
looking away when you are "caught" staring only would prove that you did somethong that you yourself are thinking wasn't right. many people also only look straight ahead, no matter whether there is somone or only empty space. in that case they are _"staring holes into the air"_ _("jemand starrt Löcher in die Luft"),_ which also could (more positively) be called _"daydreaming"_ ...
Maybe if you would put words to the situation it would look like this: A: Why are you looking at me? Look away! B: I'm just looking at you because you were looking at me, YOU look away! A: Ha, never! YOU look away first, and THEN I will look away! B: How can I trust you to do that?? You have to look away first. etc.
@Devin: I totally agree. And sometimes you have to look somewhere. For example in the U-Bahn. Of course I look around and look at people. I have to, there are only people ;-) But as Nalf said it's never meant aggressively more in a curious way
Damn, 🤣🤣 the exact same picture in the background with all the taxis is at the dentist room I go to and always stare at durkng the procedure 😂😂 it's literally the same, brings back memories to me
You guys ..... start a talk show. You are great together. Yes how about a show on music like German Rap or German pop and American Rap and pop or fashion ! You both have good personalities and are a good collaboration
American guy: "Oh, btw - I was just being sarcastic, just to let you know."
German guy: "Whoa, thanks, mate, I would have never noticed!"
American guy: "No problem."
For the Americans: that’s German Sarcasm
That's for insider pssst.
haha, perfectly nailed!
Yup, that sums it up nicely... I suppose. Dunno how Americans feel about that.
xDDD
First off all, before i've seen it.
Germans are Sarcasm Overlords.
Goes well with the titans of irony, aka Danes :D
So ein Nonsens )
Englishman subtly raises a single eyebrow...
I recently acquired an M. Sc. at university and i will claim to anyone who bothers asking that thats short for Master of Sarcasm.
There is a clear North-South difference in Sarcasm. Definitely more a northern German thing.
According to sarcasm...I went to the states a long time ago, and me, my sister and a bunch of our american friends wanted to walk to the supermarket, just the idea of walking seemed already been crazy to our american friends but that’s different story. On our walk my sister ate up a banana and was obviously waiting for a trashcan to throw the peel away and suddenly got ask what she is suppose to do with the banana peel. My sister answered in a very obvious sarcastic way that she wants to get a refill in the supermarket. Our american friends were kind of shocked and didn’t get the joke at all. What? You don’t have refills for fruits in the US? How pathetic 😄!
In Germany you can bring any kind of peel to the supermarket and get a refill for that. This was really hilarious.
I want to see the faces of the Walmart employees!^^
Refill a banana. Oh my. Thank you!
Very good. I have to remember that one. YMMD
That joke was BRILLIANT!
I'm dying over here, that is the best joke ever 🤣🤣
That is HILLARIOUS. Sounds like something my (German) family would do. Lol.
We don't stare, we are watching reality TV :)
Aaah, genau. Leben, das große Kino. In bestimmten Szenen muss man einfach genauer schauen, bzw. man will einfach alles von Anfang bis Ende mitbekommen 😄
The Chinese will stop what they are doing to just stand there and stare, forming an audience like you were a street performer.
@@Riondrial hab soviele interessante Gespräche im Zug oder der Bahn mit angehört lmao
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@@Riondrial 👍
I think germans like dry humor more, and what's the fun in sarcasm if you make it obvious, like the funniest sarcasm is when someone says it dead serious.
That might also be a reason why everyone thinks we don't understand it, since they think we're being serious and germans rarely make sarcasm obvious.
I agree. I often feel that my deadpan sarcasm goes straight over my Anglo-Saxon friend's head.
We seem to love a lot of dry things. Humour. Bread. Mosel wine.
Especially because we often just roll with it. If my conversation partner gets sarcastic, I'll keep a dead serious expression and tone and roll with it.
We like british humor as well. Wirf den Purschen zu Poden! 🤣
Sarcasm is no fun if you make it too obvious, what is the purpose to use irony when you mark it beforehand? That kills all the fun of it.
Exactly, it's like explaining a joke.
Americans need to hear "only joking" or "jk" before even considering anything a joke. As a European it's exhausting.
Are you even aware that sarcasm, irony and cynicism are different things? You may want to google it. It's quite interesting to learn the difference.
In case you can't be bothered here is a quick overview. blog.supertext.ch/2017/02/ironie-sarkasmus-zynismus-was-ist-der-unterschied/
@@CologneCarter Good point! I thought that, too, but on the other hand it's a pretty normal thing that sarcasm and irony are in interchangeable use in everyday language. Cynicism is another thing though.
Well, there is a point in making it obvious - making one see there is an irony, a contradiction, which has been missed before.
"we have france right next to us with good cheese"
*stares offendedly in swiss*
True ! I'm from the region of comté, mont-d'or, cancoillotte, morbier.... :D :D :D and we have good wines too like Jura "plus on en boit, plus on va droit " :D
*Angry Dutch noises*
You could have ended with "we have france right next to us" and explained the entirety of the German condition. :p
Europe has the greatest cheeses, now that we got rid of the UK :)
@@Philemaphobia Sorry to disappoint, the UK is still in Europe. Plans to move the whole country to the equator to stop moaning about the weather have stalled.
Ob ich Sarkasmus verstehe? Nein, ich versteh nur Bahnhof
“People go crazy biking in Germany”. Well, you must never have been to The Netherlands 😜
Or Denmark
Constant pedaling in the Netherlands - it can be a bit fatiguing.
People are not staring, they are scanning you because they're interested in you. It may be a kind of appreciation.
I think that staring is not seen in Germany as "staring", but as "being attentive", "being interested in others". And if someone just looks at me furtively or avoids my gaze, I get the feeling that he is not open or honest with me and that he has something to hide. German directness certainly plays a role here.
But they’re talking about staring at strangers who you’ll never talk to
The fastest 20min of my life. More. More. More!
Hast du keine Freunde oder sinnvolle Hobbys?
Inge von Schneider och inge was soll das denn
@@Helen-wf9zo Inge ist der Typ (nein, den gibt auch ohne deutsche Abstammung :D) der andere dafür kritisiert dass sie ihr Leben genauso vergeuden wie sie selbst…
@Punxsu Of my life too... Might be connected too me watching on 1.5x Speed 🤔🤷🏻♂️
To the topic of humor: The book of German humor is very big with many pages; It is just not funny.
Disclaimer: Ima German too... Don't @ me ;]
European sarcasm is different from American, in my experience when working with people from the US. EU sarcasm includes statements that COULD be true, so it's taken seriously, US sarcasm is usually silly and outlandish (that isn't supposed to be an insult either).
Although part of the misunderstanding is that Americans, being very focused on only their own country and culture, might not really be able to discern what a German might think is definitely silly and outlandish. See the example of the banana-refill-at-the-supermarket-joke above. Americans are exactly the people to believe that in Germany you can bring a banana peel to the store and you then get a refill. They somewhat know that we Germans have Pfand, and do a lot of recycling, and don't have single-use plastic bags in grocery stores, so that might be about believable for them. While any German automatically knows that it's a silly idea.
Answering a bit late but ... I can't agree more with you. I'm French, and I have a friend who lived in the US for a couple of years. When he came back, everytime he was making a joke over one person, he always finished by "Non, mais c'est une blague" (Oh, don't worry, it's a joke), even when everyone around were laughing.
And I understand this, because I'm now living between France/Germany and USA ^^
Another French friend I had on internet (we were a group playing video games and talking together every day for 6-7 years) was so good at sarcasm that, one day, he told us that he got married, and none of us believed him for several weeks, until we were in a live cam with him and his wife x)
@@Tom42600 I love this story! :D
So in Germany it is allowed to look at people, but not to photograph them. In the USA it is allowed to photograph people on the street but not to look at them. Right?🤔
You can photograph everybody in Germany by law, but you can't publish it without permission of the subject, except really frequent places like Berlin TV-Tower or stadiums. Nur mal so. Glaub nicht alles, was dir suggeriert wird, das du tun sollst.
@@MrRoztoc It depends on the number of people in a photo. If there are only e.g. two it is considered a private photo because it exposes them. If there is a group or a person just happens to be in a photo then it is okay. It is a fine line to walk whether the photo content is only about one or two persons or whether it is a randome photo where people happen to be in there.
No, I wouldn't try photographing strangers in the USA - they might freak out if they catch you taking a picture of them.
You all need an update on Bildrecht meine Lieben, some of you are on the Stand of 2000. ;) Dead serious, an event photographer.
@@Philemaphobia Perhaps a link to a good website? Will be appreciated. Or are you able to give a comprehensive update?
Please make part 3. I would be interested in „Family life“ in both countries . Great conversation!!!
What if Felicia did part 3 with another North American in Germany or Austria? Or what if she did it with Andrew Bossom (rewboss.com)?
I don't leave the house very often, but when I was driving somewhere and coming back after many hours, my neighbors were standing there, 30 meters away, looking at me. I looked back, and they were not quitting, just staring on at me... I wanted to go inside, but I didn't move and held eye contact with them. Eventually they retreated into the house. (walking backwards!) I told my mom (who knows this couple) about them staring at me, and she said: "Yeah, these guys are awful..."
And then she added: "You should wave to them!" :D
Maybe they were watching your house 🏠 on fire 🔥
Wise Man (tells you something) that’s so strange!! In America, and even in Canada where I’m from, that wouldn’t slide at all. People will ask you if you have a problem 😂
Waving at people often is a very effective way of getting them to stop staring at you.
You should also wave at security cameras. Though it doesn't stop them from looking at you... but maybe someone on the other end will feel embarrassed ;)
Let's have a part three, please.
Au ja!
I love how Nalf is behaving when he is talking to a cute girl. Different vibe then talking to his buddy's
True! :D
Good! His mama raised him right. She had to with all those boys she had to train to be gentlemen!
How do you expect him to treat her? I think your comment says more about you than them!
PeterM well, he sure likes her 🤷🏻♀️🤣
Enjoyable. You two make a good combo. Do more.
German is a great and complex language. It may be hard to understand and "feel" the sarcasm in it. It´s very subtle, but also direct. Very specific and hard to understand for foreigners. That´s just my theory.
No that is true, but its not unique. The british also have that kind of understated sarcasm. Many germans love british humor, not so much the other way around, because germans know the other language better. So its just a language barrier, and sometimes even a little bit of bias. The language is very underrepresented. In the US people with german heritage are actually one of the biggest groups. But you dont notice that in a way you notice italian, scottish or that kind of smaller groups. You see germans mostly in grim ww2 movies which leads to that odd bias that germans are dead serious and angry all the time. Besides from Terrentino movies you never see that german guy in a major role on the good side. I cant recall one single blockbuster including a german in a good way. But you find many examples of bad jokes about the language. Or look at Conan O'Brien, he is obsessed to butcher the german language but does not speak it at all. I like Conan, but when he is doing his german thing i feel like i missed something^^
I mean I have a bunch of friends in Germany that are very funny but with a lot of other people I kinda needed to get to know them better before We could establish a nice sense of humor between us. It’s like very personal and everyone has a different sense of humor I feel.
My funniest friends’ humor was based on saying things that are absurd or out of context, I find it hilarious but I feel like English speakers wouldn’t get it and wouldn’t think it’s funny. It’s pretty weird admittedly.
But also a lot of the people I met in Germany who were really funny and who made that part of their personality were kinda toxic and broken people on the inside.
I feel like American humor is more light hearted and positive which I appreciate.
But I also met some Americans with a pretty dark / weird humor for sure
Overall I find Americans a little more funny than Germans but I think that’s because they are just more open and less afraid to be themselves and say some weird shit
However when you look at comedians there’s milesss of difference between Germany and the US. Most German comedians are TERRIBLE, and the better ones are far worse than the better American ones I’ve seen
By definition funny are mostly hilarious things/pictures in comparison to the routine of life and I would say German humour is more of a context thing while US humour uses the voice tone and other methods more to build the picture in the heads also us Humor has more of a story telling it is anonced and the it gets more hilarious(tension build up) as you hear and see the joke (more easy to follow) the German humour needs more of a thing process and as you get it the joke punches more so or less of a build up in tension
@@spaceowl5957 You must see Heinz Erhardt, Loriot, Otto and as an Artist the songs of Bodo Wartke!
The German sense of humor sounds like the New England sense of humor where I live. Very dry and the sarcasm sounds serious.
Yep. I live in New England & my mom is Bavarian.
It's not a bad thing. Look at it this way: they stare, they care!
Indeed, it's an act of unconditional love
I am from California and grew up with sarcasm, and it was my favorite form of humor. When I moved to Wisconsin, I noticed that people did not use sarcasm, and they often took it at face value and/or considered it rude. I was told that this was common throughout the Midwest which of course includes Ohio.
One or two years ago I asked myself how Americans are thinking about Germany, when they have really been here. I couldn't get enough of it and saw people in those videos who show lots of respect for the differences, the similarities and people themselves. I saw people who really tried to understand us Germans. Very respectful. Nice to see people like you and your collegues.
This is so entertaining with you 2! Thanks a lot, danke und weiter so ihr beide!
Def make more videos like this, please! I like that format very much.
Love this. It's so fun and entertaining to watch you both. Keep it going!
Great conversation with Felicia, and she has a great smile. 😁
Please do more videos together, this is so much fun to watch!
Please more videos together in the future :)
I like the four parts a lot.
another #nalfelicia video? amazing! you two really match so well on this kind of things... you should do this more often
I like your conversations with Felicia, please keep doing that. I enjoy both of your channels.
I am glad you did the colab. I am 63 and I love to learn of the differences in cultures. I have been watching German Girl for a long while and did not know of your channel until the colab. It is very interesting on how we do things differently or see things differently. This is very true in the States too, just the normal culture from one state to another can be strikingly different on things. New sub here :D
The German staring thing is such a mystery to me (as a German). I've heard of it countless times and I totally believe that it exists since I don't think all the foreigners who experience it in Germany are hallucinating. But I'm 100% sure that I almost never stare at people myself and if I do, I avert my eyes as soon as the person I looked at for too long notices it. And I can honestly not remember when someone stared at me the last time and I'm quite certain I would notice for I am rather shy and uncomfortable when I get stared at which is very rare. Of course one could assume I just don't perceive looks as staring which are considered staring by American standards. But if so, it is a matter of one or two seconds which does definitely not explain the American experience of being blatantly stared at for a longer period of time. Long story short: I have hardly ever experienced a phenomenon in an area where it is prevalent. Maybe I look so inconspicuous or I just somehow learned to ignore stares without even noticing it.
The same goes for me. As a German in Germany, I don't usually look at people longer than 1 or 2 seconds and only noticed being stared at very, very rarely. In those rare situations, it also feels strange to me, sometimes definitely agressive, and I'll ignore that person and avoid eye contact completely.
It's really nice to listen to you. You two have this fun,critical, positive way to see yourself and your surroundings.
They are vibing! Please do more videos! I watched a 20 minute video and it just flew by!
You two have so many common experiences, reversed in many cases, of course, but very enjoyable to watch. Yes please, bring on more collab content. Great job
Sarcasm is dependent on language skills in any country.
... and education.
When I moved to Mexico, I just naturally used sarcasm as mostly a slight joke. I was sooooo wrong. Mexicans do NOT like it at all. I think they consider it to be cynical, and you are just being a smartass, insulting, needlessly. Even foolish like a stupid clown and not a plain talker, like you think they are idiots. They correct you immediately and let you know they don't appreciate it, but do it politely. Usually they keep reminding you of your remark. Like, so why do you hate a beautiful day again? -just a joke, sorry. Them- well, it stopped raining and there is a rainbow, what is wrong??? You try to change the subject, but they are like, well, try to appreciate the great weather. They will not let you slide on being sarcastic, they ALL really hate it. When you objectively look at it, they are right, it sounds so snotty and condescending.
Thank you guys for this kind of conversation. It is great to see how you are having such an open conversation, free of judgement. This kind of conversation would help with so many problems in the world.
Really good vlog! Please do it again, it's wonderful .
When I notice I am being stared at in Deutschland, I just smile back. This throws most Deutsch off kilter. It also lets them know I am not Deutsch. The Deutsch rarely smile at strangers. Off to the store to buy a Franziskaner to try it.
Deutsch/deutsch just refers to the language. If you wanna talk about german citizens you need write Deutsche or Deutschen.
@@cutlers3618 That is not quite correct. Deutsch/deutsch not only refers to the language, it can also be used as adjective for german citizens.
But if you use it as a noun, you need Deutscher/Deutsche/Deutschen
@@silkwesir1444 Yeah and you dont write it in Capital Letters if its an adjective. So the first Comment was 100% right.
hebdomatical I’m German and I smile whenever someone catches my eyes 🤗 I find people mostly smile back, especially the ones who looked grumpy before. It’s definitely a nice habit to have 👍🏻
Wilko Stomberg if you correct Americans on grammar then please don’t capitalize nouns in English. We don’t capitalize nouns, only names.
Great convo. Pls do more.
Great video, i just love your collab vids with Felicia 👌♥️ please give us more 🙏
I have been watching Feli's channel for years as I am a Connecticut person moving to Nederland in the next few years. And though the Dutch would hate me saying this, from both your perspectives, it nakes me miss life there so much as it's so similar!!! Love that you guys are collaborating! Keep it up!
Personally I have never noticed the staring, but it might have to do with the individual level of feeling comfortable within a culture.
Plus:...if someone looking is making you feel uncomfortable...either just greet them, or take it as an opening for a casual chat...those that want to interact will...and those that don't, will leave.
Just be friendly about it
Problem is that Americans can't handle the German response of being frank and honest.
That leaves them embarrassed or humiliated and all they offer is a fist fight.
Bottom line, Americans are cowards when it comes to an intellectual exchange with a German. They just don't have what it takes.
@@MBrieger Ah yes, an example the arrogance that has endeared Germans to their fellow Europeans and others, not that we Americans are not guilty of it too.
@@MBrieger
Huh, kind of a bold generalization. Reading this I assume you don't have many friendly conversations with Americans... or people in general.
There is a difference between beeing frank and honest and beeing condescending or even a prick. So I really hope you adapt your mindset when actually visiting the States. There are smart, dumb, kind and unfriendly people everywhere - this has hardly anything to do with beeing German/American.
For Americans traveling abroad, you should consider it exactly what you are looking for - an opportunity to interact and do some casual, friendly cultural exchange.
Being an extrovert helps. Since I'm not, after a while, I just wanted to kick back with a halb Liter.
I love this video! Some great perspectives! I miss my Boy though!
My wife and I loved this video, we are both native San Diegans . We vacationed in Germany and Austria July 2019, spending time in Munich and Salzburg. We absolutely loved it there: the people, the country, just wonderful. I am not a beer drinker but my wife and I were amazed at the great tasting beer; her favorite beer is Franziskaner and mine is Stiegl. The food was incredible, loved it.
We laughed out loud when in your video you said you missed Mexican food and referenced Chipotle. We'll cut you some slack since you said you're from Oregon (over 800 miles from Mexico) and in San Diego California we are less than 20 miles from Mexico. That is probably what we would miss the most if we moved to Germany.
i could even imagine to watch this kind of exchange like every other months on a regular basis between you two, it's just nice and entertaining and i'm laughing the hole time :)
Lol hole time. That’s what me and my gf call our sexy time.
@@jimmyroseman9713 wtf lmao
You should do one where you both hang out in the states, then in Germany. These are great
I love your videos together
For me, "starring" is also a way to interact and to communicate. It is like building up a connection to other people and also feeling more as a community. You care of the others around you. And the eyes are like a mirror of the personality.
And yes, that's true, you are trying to keep it up for a given time, to show you are self conscious enough.
I like the German starring. You can easily add a smile to it and brighten up the other person's day. 😊
I am so happy that TH-cam exists and that I can still learn English so easily at my advancing age. I love this type of video, which is about differences in cultural things and I always find that some steriotypical behaviors are based on the language barrier.
Super interesting!!!
On the topic of staring, let me try to explain it for myself like this....
Staring = curiosity
People in Germany are incredibly curious about what makes strangers think that we are staring at someone. When I think of myself, I stare at someone because the person interests me in some way. This could be the behavior, or the look, or the conversation. We watch, we think and then we talk. That's why we are not smalltalkers 🙃🤷🏻 greatings NL
I love Felicia's facial expression when it comes to the different beer brands (Bud Light vs. Franziskaner).
Yeah, the face when she realized that she couldn’t go and get a Franziskaner right now.
@@3.k yeah she can easily get a much much better beer than Franziskaner :)
@@nicktankard1244 Indeed! It's a common misunderstanding that US beer is Bud Light or similar piss water. The craft beer scene in the US is bloody awesome (Allagash, Bissel Brothers, Alchemist, Founders, Sierra Nevada, Anchorage - the list goes on and on!).
@@MichaelAndersen_DK yeah the US has started and is leading the whole craft beer revolution. The amount of amazing beer in the US is astonishing. The US has almost 6 times more breweries than Germany. But Germans are slowly catching up to other countries. There are several German breweries that are quite decent(Frau Gruber, Sudden Death, Fuerst Wiacek)
"saying this country doesn't have good Pilsner isn't true! they have awesome Lager" is what your comment sounds like. Craft beer might be great, but we're talking wheat beer here. And yeah, there's better wheat beer than Franziskaner, I'll give you that
Maybe part 3 comparing vacation habits or travelling in general? HAGW
Do it again! So interesting guys. Time is flying by when I watch that. ;)
Great video!!!
When I moved to the US (age 7), everything was new so I would stare at everyone and everything... I remember my mom pulling me aside and telling me that staring at people is rude (and if I really wanted to do it, then do it behind a pair of sunglasses). Maybe, unless you're taught otherwise, staring is innate in all of us.
Strange, I lived in Frankfurt for two years as a child and never noticed anyone staring at me or other people. Even decades later when visiting Germany as an adult, I didn't notice it.
That's because both are exaggerating the "starring" much! This is actually no issue...
jeeesus, i LOVE your high budget background 👍 it looks really classy
I love that you have that 'High Budget Background' paper on your wall for a video about sarcasm. :-)
I've never realized that germans stare at other people. I as a german can identify pretty much with what nalf said americans tend to do when they're gettin looked back. But what i can say is that sometimes i'm just so in my own mind, focussed on what i gotta do later in the day or just daydreaming, that i dont notice that i'm currently just starring in someones direction. As soon as i notice it, I'll get a little embarrassed and look away.
We Germans think "Why leave staring to the famous actors in TV series? We can also do."
Staring to People is totaly out! Staring to your Handy(Cell Phone) is in!
and then take a photo of the person you want to stare at.
I enjoyed the conversation. It was interesting with the differences and likeness
I would like to see a Part 3, just speaking German! :)
"Do Germans understand Sarcasm?"
**Insert Listen here Meme here**
It’s interesting that so many Americans have German heritage but you don’t see anywhere near as many German restaurants in the US compared to Italian, Mexican, Chinese, etc.
Yeah it kind of upsets me. I haven't had decent German food since coming back to the states after my summer in Wurzburg. Every "German" restaurant I try has been incredibly disappointing.
@@hairharbor5080 Maybe it's the food they serve.
@@mojojim6458no,its the people that don t serve it. German food is good,you re just used to greasy food.
What you both have in common: You are both sooooooooo appreciative of the OTHER culture and life-style - that makes it so enjoyable to watch the Videos that you have posted together.Thereby you're representing an attitude that many would perhaps perceive as somewhat American but, I find, has caught on in Germany (a bit). Along the lines of: If you don't have something positive to say, don't say it. Nice, do it again. A topic you might want to cover is German bluntness or directness - that' something I'd be curious in perhaps in contrast to American politeness or "beating-about-the-bush-ness". Just an idea... would be nice. Thanks for your insights and shared perceptions.
You really should do more Videos with Felicia
And again very entertaining and funny. It’s really nice and it would be cool if you two do it again.
I probably have a question.
What is with the quality of food here in DE and the US? Felicia mentioned it shortly but it’s interesting for me to know a little bit more.
Thanks 🙂
I had yogurt in Germany and it was pretty much the same as the US unless it's something specific she was thinking of. There are also places to get other varieties of cheese in the US too, but I'd probably agree with her that theirs are probably fresher being so close to the other European countries. Maybe it's mainly the area of Ohio she is in.
@@amymalone3995 Joghurt is only one dairy product she used as an example. Quark, Schmand, are others, that are not so common in the US.
I think, the food is way more processed in the US. Its easy to find an all natural yoghurt in Germany and even the bigger brands have real fruit inseide. The US yoghurt tastes like sweets with artifical flavour and most of the time it is. Dairy products lack the variety, some stuff is even unknown. Bread in Germany was mentioned, its almost like the beer. US bread is like Bud light, German bread has a much higher quality and tastes much better.
No one yet mentioned that being sarcastic in the tone you're talking in without any exaggeration is dry humor 🤷? It's as simple as that 😉...... Some Germans have mastered this behaviour to perfection 👌. Sometimes even I need a little bit of time to get the joke but then it's even better 🙃.
I like your conversations, so keep them coming every once in a while. Topics could be like how do people react when then hear that you're talking with an accent, dating rules, tv-content like the news, etc. etc.
So many more things to talk about.
Maybe neither of them is old enough to have enough life experience to "get" that kind of humor and sarcasm...?
where i am from (Köln) the cafes & Restaurants are open on Sundays; you can buy Bread, Brötchen, cakes & coffee etc to take out or eat there.
Feli & NALF combined are the best of both worlds & the most sophisticated transatlantic competence cluster imaginable!
Nalf in love 😉 💪🏻👌🏻
It’s indisputable that the Brits are the complete global masters of sarcastic humour. But perhaps technologists should invent a Sarcasm Detector as mentioned in an episode of The Simpsons, for the benefit of humankind & world peace. 😉
tha fact that brits once sees themself as the global master while running the " Empire" and the fact they are able to use sacasm, dosent lead to that conclusion automaticly, but I will give U taht, solide attempt and be happy at the 2nd place right after ... U guess it ... germany :)
Perhaps British sarcastic humour peaked with the foisting of Mr Bean onto the world stage. 😉
In Germany the Brits are more known for their black humor. And believe me, we Germans do like that dark, black humor a lot. As for sarcasm. I don´t know if the Brits use it really more than we do.
@J Smith What do you mean? I don´t understand the connection between dark humor/sarcasm and Nazis.
I loved the idea of this machine... and how it explodes
Ah I think I like your take on sarcasm. With my limited interaction with Americans over voice chat and text channels I realized that tonal difference too. Like when I talk to another german face to face I can mostly tell when they are joking. But over the phone... no chance. In germany 'sarcasm gets lost in the mail' way more frequently than when I talk to americans. Of course not seeing the other person will make it more difficult everytime, but with some germans... it's no just difficult it's impossible, because there is no shift in voice when they use sarcasm. Of course, it is worst over text, when you have to make a funny face behind each sentence so the other party gets the joke ^^ but that's I think universal. Over the phone however, when you actually hear the other person talk... it becomes pretty obvious, how dead serious they often sound.
Really enjoyed the video; glad to hear that there is still American football in Germany; was stationed in Europe when almost every base had a team and it was a huge community event. I find myself either laughing or nodding with every issue you and Felicia discuss having been an American living in Germany for so much of my career; especially touched a nerve with the European breads and biers though I am an Erdinger fan for sure
When and where were you stationed in Germany, if you don't mind me asking?
I prefer Apfelmus to Sarkasmus
And Kompott to Komplott!
It's noticeable that both of you really enjoy the place you're currently living in. As if you both found the right spot for you at this point in time. She's definetly a big America-phile and you're getting ever so slightly Germanized as well ;)
Loves your videos. I’m moving to germany next year to start university from Seattle, Washington
Love it. Such a good idea(;
Maybe use Headphones for the next time to not have the feedback 🤔👌😊
I'm an American, this bugs me in my German village. People just park on the street (not in parking spots) to go to the bakery, butcher shop, etc. This makes navigating through town with all cars tough to do....Keep doing these videos!
I like Felicia's way. She talks very naturally, not trying to sound American.
She is amazing and channel is awesome and grows more and more. Very natural.
I think our starring-thing in Germany is a part of showing selfconvidence and espacially in the villages we greed even strangers if crossing their way, if you look away hasty or just obviously, we think you are shy or not selfconvident.
In the city, greeting strangers is code for "I think you are doing something wrong, so I let you know I am watching you"
I love sitting in a cafe outside and watch people. I try to avoid coming across agressivly. I am just a curious person. Another topic, we do love and understand sarcasm. It is our second name. Thanks for the colab. It is awesome.
German: Sarcasm is best served dry
American: You got to somehow show you're sarcastic *pitch your voice*
Very interesting indeed! I wonder what the regional likes and differences would be? Northern Germany vs Southern ect. Also NALF you look SO flushed and couldn't stop smiling while talking to Felicia -;) Keep em; coming! Greetings from Chi town!!
I used to ride before they had bike trails and now I’ve gotten out of shape for different reasons but you have one of the best bike trails in the area. If memory serves, it begins in Morow in the north eastern part of Cincinnati and the main trail runs north up to Xenia all the way north of Springfield. It’s one of the first rails to trails bike paths in the United States. It’s the Miami river bike trail. Check it out. I think you’ll like it.
Absolutely do more videos together.
It's just starting do get interesting 😉....
You're from Oregon, you _should_ be a beer snob! Oregon has great local breweries!
yep, it must be hard for a beer snob to go from Oregon which is one of the best places for beer in the world to Germany which is a land of endless boring lagers.
No, its not.
@@nicktankard1244 Hey, very nice dead serious sarcasm ;-)
The problem with American convenience is that it often it is often only possible at the expense of other people, that have to work long hours, on holidaays, ...
Some people like to work on those holidays or prefer to work. Its not always at others expense.
@@amymalone3995 not always... but often. And if it becomes commonplace saying 'No' gets really really unconfortable - and people expect an explaination why you can't/wont do something.
@@sisuguillam5109 I said "some people"....obviously not everyone wants to work.
@@amymalone3995 and I pointed out that there are systemic issues to consider ...
when i worked in retail i actually liked to work on weekends and holidays. I often took those shifts on purpose. Also i liked night shifts()not in retail though) because usually, you get 2 days off after that.
The variety of sarcasm varies greatly across the USA. I am from New England just north of Boston, and there we use a very deadpan, seemingly more German style of sarcasm. I have lived in all parts of the US and this has gotten me in plenty of trouble as people in other parts of the country only understand sarcasm if you like tell them beforehand that you are being sarcastic, or explain that you were being sarcastic, which of course completely ruins the sarcasm!
Hey my American friend. I am
Glad you love living here in Germany and enjoy your stay. I am from north Germany and I so can relate to your time in Schwäbisch Hall. I used to be often in this region and always loved it. The atmosphere, the sights etc is just heaven on earth.
My question: can
You imagine staying „for life“ In Germany? Or do
You definitely plan to
Go back to the states sooner
Or later?
I lived and worked from
2012 til 2017 in America (east coast) I liked it a lot but after five years I developed more
And more home sickness for Germany and now being here again almost 3
Years, I just gotta say:
I really really liked living in America but I LOVE living in Germany 🇩🇪:)
Blessings and have a good day mate,
Mister Sascha
I'm still convinced that it's mainly elderly people that stare back without any shame.
This kind of staring isn't polite and I hate it just as Nalf does but it often might have something to do with problems with sight and processing information if the person has a certain age.
BUT there are also those elderly (or more middle aged) people that stare because they judge and that's aweful. It's the very conversative generation. They probably stare at the unicorn players because they're foreigners.
Du kannst mir nicht erzählen, dass Du die Menschen um Dich herum nicht auch gerne beobachtest?! Wenn ich beispielsweise auf der Terrasse meines liebsten Cafés sitze, gucke ich mir sehr gerne die Passanten an, die vorbei flanieren. Das hat mit "Starren" jedoch nichts zu tun. Alleine die Begrifflichkeit "Starren" ist doch völlig übertrieben - also typisch amerikanisch. Seid doch froh, dass euch überhaupt jemand anguckt! 😉
@@andrep.3774 😄
Na, diese Art von Gucken ist doch was ganz anderes.
Was Nalf meint ist schamloses,mit offenem Mund anstarren, ja starren...der Blick wandert nicht. Und vor allem: weiter starren auch wenn Dein Gegenüber genervt zurück schaut - DAS ist das Unverschämte daran.
Staring is very southern german. Even I, as a german from the north, got very unconformatable with that, first time I noticed it. It is NOT typical for the whole of germany.
I'm from Hamburg and when I went to Chicago in 2007 (I was a 16 year old girl, very non-threatening lol) I honestly thought I would get beat up more than once because I (obviously) was 'staring' at people and they thought I was challenging them when I was just looking around like I would at home.
I totally didn't get why I provoced grown ass men to react in such a way towards me until my friends told me that I should stop staring already! Haha
So I would say we definitely do that in the north.
When I was in Munich the staring was way more judgy than here though.
You both should do a weekly podcast on spotify
From my side you two get a thumbs up for another series of your conversation. It's really friendly atmosphere you are building up during your chat.
Don't get that staring thing, I have to observe myself a little bit. One thought from my side when you are walking towards somebody it's a form of politeness to look at each other and say hello or something similar. I would find it very rude not to look at each other. In this situation for me it's a kind of respect.
But I agree if someone is just watching you for seconds and seconds maybe directly into your eyes without any kind of reaction like smiling or greeting this is really weird. I agree with Felicia when someone stared too long it's probably a kind of weakness if he/she looks away first. At least they think it would be.
But as I said I don't experience this kind of behavior a lot. Ok, I live in the countryside in southern Germany, maybe that's the reason. But on the other hand I can tell you people are so curious here in the small villages. They have another sport: gossip and chit-chat, especially the elderly people ;-)
Have a nice day
id say felicia is right about the fact that we as germans dont look away because we feel like showin weakness.
id feel pretty dumb if id look away pretending i wasnt lookin, because obvsly everybody knows i was, so i just keep looking at the person to show that I feel confident about what im doing😂
but i cant say that im judgin people when i look at them cause i dont really care about what people wear or how they actually look like in general but i admit that it definitely depends on where you are in germany in my opinion. cause there are some superficial cities in germany where i feel judged by bein looked at even as an german 😂
the best way in my opinion is to look at people and dont look away when the person looks back at you but instead smile at them. and sadly that is a problem in germany cause there will be at least a few smilin back.
looking away when you are "caught" staring only would prove that you did somethong that you yourself are thinking wasn't right.
many people also only look straight ahead, no matter whether there is somone or only empty space. in that case they are _"staring holes into the air"_ _("jemand starrt Löcher in die Luft"),_ which also could (more positively) be called _"daydreaming"_ ...
Was meinen Sie bitte mit Ihrem letzten Satz?
Maybe if you would put words to the situation it would look like this:
A: Why are you looking at me? Look away!
B: I'm just looking at you because you were looking at me, YOU look away!
A: Ha, never! YOU look away first, and THEN I will look away!
B: How can I trust you to do that?? You have to look away first.
etc.
@Devin: I totally agree. And sometimes you have to look somewhere. For example in the U-Bahn. Of course I look around and look at people. I have to, there are only people ;-)
But as Nalf said it's never meant aggressively more in a curious way
You should have ended with "bye Felicia"
Damn, 🤣🤣 the exact same picture in the background with all the taxis is at the dentist room I go to and always stare at durkng the procedure 😂😂 it's literally the same, brings back memories to me
You guys ..... start a talk show. You are great together. Yes how about a show on music like German Rap or German pop and American Rap and pop or fashion ! You both have good personalities and are a good collaboration