“Sometimes we don’t get over things because we hold onto the fact that someone did us so wrong and we start to obsess over it”. This one really struck a cord with me!
Girl you said a mouth full. Some times I wonder will I ever get over how I was treated. Went from feeling safe with him to thinking he would do something to me.
So true ! I had to literally just ghost my ex , no explanation and no contact . The relationship was a toxic on and off mess . It’s been 3 months and it hasn’t been easy but it gets easier with time. Proud of my self for moving on.
Yes it gets easier I had to let my ex go as hard as it is I feel so much better he reached out to me like two weeks ago since he’s so use to use doing this on and off stuff but it felt good to jst not even respond to him i don’t know you but I’m proud of you too
This comment made my cry because I this is something I had to do and it’s hard. It’s very comforting to know there’s others trying to deal with it and move on
I’m the queen of 👻!!! Them ninjas don’t need an explanation, they know what they was doing or not doing Stay strong!! I ghosted my ex in 2018 and finally had to block him because I was tempted to start taking his calls/answering text… now years later in 2022, he’s still calling my mom to try to get me back😁 they never miss a good woman until she’s gone! His lost, someone else gain! Stay strong sis! Keep ignoring him!
I think all women are feeling this energy it seems universal this year and i love it because i feel the same I’m tired of focusing on a man i wanna flourish and grow and that’s what’s see wants this is why i first started watching because of the independence.
I ended a 5 year relationship in January. I feel so good.. It's only March and I feel like I've done so much more for myself and my kids!! It is a very selfish year!!
@@kiaratraylor4882 know your worth I know it’s easier said than done but the reality is when you reach the point when you’re jst done and tired you’ll leave you won’t even care about being a single mother you know you do what u have to for your kids and that’s all that matters once you reach that point you’ll know
@@kiaratraylor4882 I was just tired honestly. Like things really did not get better being together after 5 years? Oh no.. Then once a month went by and I was able to do stuff by myself I had been asking for his help on. Girl I KNEW I would be ok! You will too... You really just have to get out of the mindset that because you're used to it, it should continue
So happy for you. You’ve been getting in your own way all these years. You’re destined for MORE and you will get on. When you’re focused your unstoppable. We’re rooting for you. Congrats girl! 🥂
@@d.j.mcclure78 Aaliyah said it herself in the video that she was being mean to herself & that she isn’t good at controlling her emotions. That combination of things amongst others will have you getting in your own way. Everything ain’t hating.
Yeah, no lie. I kinda dipped out when the videos had both of them in it. I want her happy, but it was a different vibe when the videos were the two of them.
I feel like single Aaliyah is more on her shit! We love it! The right person will come into your life and add to you and support you in all of the goals you have!
Yesss! I feel like she unfortunately has had to shrink herself in the past for her relationships to work. Her future husband will be the one who covers her, stretches her, and supports her dreams. 💕
The part about being selfish definitely resonated with me. Everything you said was everything I’ve been experiencing. At 27, I’m learning to put myself first & it’s hard so hard but I’m trying to make sure it gets done
The way you started to glow & flourish immediately after focusing on yourself is inspiring! Congrats on everything ! We’ve missed this Aaliyah so much 🤎🤎🤎
Wow sooo Proud my sister keep up with ALL YOUR POSITIVELY. Your beautiful, strong, Whitty,and FIERCE:-)!!!!!! Can’t wait to see home decor, fashion and gurl chit chat. Yes I said GURL :-)
I been following AJ since she was doing makeup in her bedroom and I’ve watched her grow into this beautiful woman who appreciates everything I just want her to win and all women who work hard for what they want …. All blessings 💕
Right on,sis! If you're not adding to my purpose then that means you're subtracting!! We're done learning lessons, now it's time for Blessings!!! Period
I am tearing up because this is a ultimate sign for me to do what Taneajah needs to do. I am scared of what is in store for me but I believe this year will be a stepping stone and I can truly be happy and live the life. Aaliyah, you have paved the way and have been truly shining and I am so proud of you. I believe you will be able to get towards that point in your life that you are succeeding.
Yes ma’am !!! I’m all for this. Walking away from my marriage of 6 years and my main goal is me and being selfish to better myself ! Healing and putting myself first.
GIRL YOU GOT ME CRYINGGG. Like I mean literal tears down my eyes. Everything you said was true to the bone. It's crazy how meaningful your advice is and how much I needed to hear it. Love you so much,
“ you have your youth on your side but you don’t know how to deal with it “ FELT THIS!!❤️🔥 thank you for being there for all the young women in this world 🌎
When you talked about seeing the world so bright, I literally was so happy for you because I feel that. It’s that growth season. No need to dwell on the past when the future so bright and beautiful.
Yes girl, when I went to therapy I finally realize there was a reason for any emotion that I feel. And as a fellow Cancer, baby it is really hard! We feel everything and we even take on other peoples emotion as well!
They say when you’re getting yourself together it gets lonely. But choose elevation over company. Looove this season for you! Everyone can’t go where you’re going….and that’s a-okay. 💋
This current Aaliyah Jay era is by far my favorite. Sis started focusing on herself and boom TWO magazine covers, girlie is GLOWING, business is FLOURISHING. We love this for you! 💕
This needs to be said the problem everyone has is when we don't put God 1st he goes before ourselves. Putting him 1st gives our lives structure order and peace when you do it your way we get counterfeit everything counterfeit relationships, job,living location, etc but his way everything falls into place. I didn't know real love unto I except Jesus and he's teaching me to be the woman I'm supposed to be in this world
Yessssssss to being single ! You’re going to get absolutely everything God has for you and more . It’s up and being selfish gonna get you soo far; like you’re already far but you gonna go levels this year it’s your time sis . Congratulations on the magazine covers I’m so happy and excited for you ; this journey is about to be litt !! We love you ! Take care of you all 2022 God got you !
Thiiisssss!!!!! Being single is a life changing event for ppl who been in long term relationships. I think this is going to be soooo good! Sometimes you need to get rid of old things to bring in new. She’s already doing so much more already .
im so happy that you posted this because I got out of a toxic relationship and I'm 24 and I been loving myself and I been loving every moment of it and I'm getting to know myself more and I'm not taking no steps down for no one anymore
Girl I’m a cancer too . Learning to control my emotions has been the theme of my life this past year. Love all of your videos . Your personality is so comforting and fun.
This is probably one of my favorite videos you've done in a long time. I love where you're at with life and how you're feeling. Growth is an amazing thing! Cheers to loving ourselves in 2022 ladies. Can't wait to see where you go Aaliyah. ❤️
You have such a nice talking voice and seem to have grown so much spiritually. It has no choice but to transfer in how you handle the issues that this life throws at you. Please continue to make more content and share with us what makes you happiest. We love you gworl 💙
We're soooooo proud of you!! You know you are growing and thriving when you don't have anything negative to say, you wish them well and move on. You've blossomed so much and that's why this is your year! We love to see it!
We are only a year apart and it always feels like we're both going through the same things at the same time. The biggest lesson "TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF". Thank you for this 🙏🏾
Yess to you begin single! I feel like you get wayyyy more done when your single when you accomplish all your goals then you can get back to the relationship flow but as of now continue to have fun! Love you girl
This was so spot on! Coming into the last year of my 20s this year is definitely different. I'm chasing my dreams and doing everything that makes me happy no matter what. I'm happy for you on this journey and I hope you get everything your heart desires.
Putting YOURSELF first and CONTROLLING YOUR EMOTIONS! This video is taking all the words out of my mouth, super relatable. Speaking to my soul girl! "Fantasizing about life without someone or being single" is definitely a sign that a chapter has to end. ENJOY this next chapter sis. No one is ever going to love you how you love yourself that's why the SELF LOVE has to always be your priority no matter who comes or goes 🖤 You look gorgeous, make up is flawless per usual 💕
If you learn to control your emotions your can master anything. It’s hard though, still trying to get it together myself. Watching this gave me chills. Holding back tears. Aaliyah omg.
Thank you, Aaliyah. Your transparency literally is helping me face my fears of letting go of things and focusing on myself. This is so inspiring and motivating. Thank you, sis 💕 I needed this!
I’m so proud of you Aaliyah. Everyone around you has always noticed your power and potential, to see you finally step into that power is inspiring! You keep putting yourself first and you’ll be unstoppable ❤️
Ngl I always thought that relationship was holding you back but again it’s not my place to say. But I’m here for the new season! Growing and elevating !
Even thou you have the same energy, I just see the glow this time and I’m so proud and happy of you expanding and growing. More and more people are “catching on” (you been that girl) but more are seeing a new side and it’s refreshing, even the answers to the question are refreshing.
Girl, it is fine to be completely selfish! To choose yourself first! To make sure you are okay and happy! You can only bring so much happiness you carry in yourself! So why don’t choose yourself! I am waiting for your succes this year! And excited for what is to be! Cheers to you and your 2 magazine pages and cheers to Aaliyah choosing Aaliyah !
I love your answers to these questions! Whewww when you going through things you sometimes forget others go through/been through similar situations! & your answers/advice is really a reminder for me that “this too shall pass” thank you girl!!
Good for you! Sometimes or most times us women get involved in a committed relationship and we neglect what was important to us or lose ourselves in the relationship. I love your tutorial very pretty! I hope you do become more active on you channel we miss you!
@@shaythareal2382 Great question. I think it’s because sometimes men put so much on our plate. They don’t just want a girlfriend/wife. They also want a mom, sister, lover, homie etc. wrapped in one person. I’m in a relationship that I already mentally checked out of. Once I start this new career I’m leaving him. I back to focusing on myself.
As someone that has been through toxic relationships. My biggest advice is to love YOURSELF! More than anyone else. When you do. Truly do. You will not put up with bs. I literally got to the point when dating.. if a man texted me "Gm beautiful" I would cut them off if I'm not worth texting out the whole word or having meaningful phone calls. "Old school" dating. Ladies you are worth so much more!
I felt a lot of this! I’m turning 25 and realizing a lot of the things I were stressing about in my early twenties don’t matter & in a lot of situations I should’ve put myself first! When the time is right things will fall into place how they are supposed too! You’ll be surprised when you start putting yourself first you have a fuller cup to pour from and the right people come into your life! Glad you shared this 💜
I feel you for sure. I feel like a lot of women are going through this & have this mindset rn. My friends, you, glamazontay, leeleeurstruly & myself as well. I just got out of a long term relationship last month & honestly I haven’t felt the breakup, it hasn’t hurt at all. I was already checked out, I realized I settled and too many bounds were crossed. Now I’m so focused on myself, growing spiritually, growing my business. All that love I was giving that person I just had the urge to give it all to me bc i forgot to for so long while with them. I have shit to do & im making so many things happen ✨🧿
You have mature sooo much Aaliyah, I can tell by the way you speak, you’re absolutely right when it comes to putting yourself first and not wasting your time/energy on ppl, places and things. Always follow your heart & you’ll be just fine!👸🏽 😘
I Remember Aaliyah w/ the braces, When I had braces. Im glad you’ve Realize WE need to put Ourselves First. There is No Rush, I have learned to Stop being Selfless and be Selfish. And whoever doesn’t Respect that Boundary is Not Worth Your Time. Thank you for putting yourself out There for so long, Glad You’re Back💕
Was it just me? or was y’all feeling like everything she was saying in this video? I’m so inspired by Aaliyah! She’s so strong yet soft, positive and motivated!!! It’s nice to have someone else to relate to that’s in their twenties dealing with life and changes. I also doubted myself for a very long time when I was younger and it was because I was lost and just didn’t really know what I wanted but now that I’m older and a lot of the things I want to before are the same things that I still want now AND aaliyah wants!!!! It’s so inspirational and i’m happy God put her on earth with us LOL we need the help.
First of all 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 because you’ve been pulling out big stuff this month alone! I was so surprised but knew you had it in you. You’re focused on the right stuff and it shows. Sometimes you gotta drop the things that hold you back to excel and you’re doing just that which is so important for black girls to see because we Tend to put more care into people who don’t genuinely care about us. I could go on and on because this same unspoken thing destroys our growth!
idk why but i feel so happy for you. i knw its not easy going through a breakup, even if it ended on good terms, but you look so at peace. your spirits are high, you're vibration is high. best wishes for you. this is a SELFISH year!! my new motto.
Sis I'm so happy you are back to your old self. Something was missing before and your light had dimmed. I'm not blaming anyone but as a mom of children around your age, we observe alot and following you for the past 5 years or so, I saw the change. I'm excited for you getting YOU back. Peace is the best and self love. Trust I've been there. All the best sweetie and God bless 🙌🏽 ❤
As an older woman who enjoys your content, great job with this video. I really felt like you were being honest. I respect your honesty with all the answers. Keep striving to the top. Oh and I love the idea of using the foundation brush under the contour.
Its crazy how we can be "Experts" at failed relationships. Hearing AJ say shes been in lots of relationships that ended. We gotta break the cycle and show our children and the next generation a better way. Teach them your life lessons so they dont make the same mistakes. Praying for more love and successful relationships because we all deserve it!!!
Wowowow first off let me give a s/o to mama dukes because of her you’re well grounded. I love the way you carry yourself and taking the time to love on yourself and grow as an individual. I too see no rush into kids & marriage and never understood the hype to do it all at a young age when we have so much ahead of us. It’s okay to dream about it & I promise it will come but what we need to grasp is 🗣when the right time comes it will present itself! So continue to be selfish of your time these the prime years of building, being fun, free, spontaneous, etc. Celebrate the small & big victories in your life, love on your family/friends and the rest will add on if it’s RIGHT! I got to say I love the young lady you are and growing to be, thank you for sharing your life stories with us. I’m only 24 and I look up to you like a big sis. A big sis with a genuine heart; I pray you find someone who’s worthy of you, your time, & energy. You deserve the best things in life Aaliyah Muahhhh xoxo 🤍🤍🤍
I LOVEEEEEEE you! You’re so transparent with us and I appreciate it, but it’s good that you’re doing good mentally girl that’s all that matters and okayyyy to being single and you’re onto better things. NEXT! ❤️❤️❤️👏🏽👏🏽 you deserve the world girl and you better go and get it 😘😘 I wanna see your face on the cover of 25+ more magazines Pooh. You got it already 🥰
Nothing is more satisfying than when you start focusing on YOU!Self love is the #1 key to happiness, how can you truly love another person when you don’t love yourself,take time to find You,your purpose of been here,lean yourself, focus on YOU and watch miracles happen⭐️
This is exactly what im on it’s all about me this year ! I just got out of a 5 year relationship and i feel so good and free. I just want to live my young life and worry about the other stuff later i love you Aaliyah your always right on time 💖
girl i’m so excited for the vlogs. im a super OG subbie that’s been here since the make up classes vlog and taking us to run errands and explore new york! you’re like a big sis, i’m growing up with you 🥺♥️ can’t wait to see what you have in store for us!!!
I’m a Cancer ♋️ 🦀 as well! Back in my younger 20s toxic guys would complain about me being overly emotional. People who knew me made comments saying I was dramatic. Now that I’m in my 30s, I look back and realize that it wasn’t important to control my emotions. Sometimes things happen beyond our control and you can’t always have a handle on your emotions. It’s natural. Channeling emotions appropriately has been the key for me. Controlling had me bottle up emotions to the point it all came out like a binge eater. Allowing and setting out time to feel, investing and becoming creative, finding new interest all helped me to channel the energy, thoughts, anxieties that were build up. Sometimes we have setbacks, but our bounce backs are so impressive. You are a force to be reckoned and commend you on your journey! 👑♋️💗🖤
So refreshing to see this side of you sis! I also would recommend therapy as a part of the self care journey. It’s imperative to recognize our trauma and triggers to see what allowed us to stay in low vibrational relationships
Yes I’m happy to see you shining. Sometimes when you’re in a relationship you can lose yourself and just be focused on the relationship or other person. I’m happy to see you thriving. I think you do more when you’re in NY especially when you’re surrounded by your friends and family. Can’t wait to see you shine more! Are you going to cover up the tattoo of your ex name?
YESSS!! I loved this video! it’s soooo good to see the old AJ back! congratulations on the magazine covers, that’s so big!! SELF LOVE & SELF CARE all 2022!! Happy Women’s Month! 💜💜💜💜
after finally being alone after two years of relationships, i feel the best I’ve ever been & can relate to you so much! I’m finally learning to put me first & reaching my full potential, doing things I dreamed of. This year is definitely all about being selfish!! Happy for you & all of your accomplishments & what’s coming! Love this video 🤍🤍🤍
Omgggg I’m on my healing journey and I have been putting myself first, being selfish and trying to control my emotions. You are so right you think you know someone but you don’t .
Yes Aaliyah i been watching you for soo long I’ve seen you go through your relationships on here and honestly i loved when you were single because your creativity was always on point! It was just a different type of vibe ! I’m so happy to see you in this phase it’s so inspiring! Keep shining, keep elevating ! ✨✨
A relationship shouldn't ever feel as if it's holding you back to reach for the stars. The moment you feel stagnant and suffocated in a relationship then that's a red flag. If anything, your partner should push you to become a better version of yourself and help you grow as a woman. It's imperative that we decide to move forward and choose peace.
OMGGGGGGG!!!! I have literally been watching you since day1 and I only watch you because I have been going through the same things with figuring things out things at 26yrs old with a 9yr old I have decided this year is the year for everything God has for me 💕😊 Everything happens for a reason and thank you for opening up to your fans about SELF LOVE YEAR 🙏🏼
Do y'all notice how everytime Aaliyah and menelik breaks up she runs back to New York and ironically she's her happiest there but with menelik she pushes it aside because he loves LA and the ppl he wants to be around is there and Aaliyah usually becomes a yes man and loves what he loves I hope this is an eye opener for her.
Unsolicited opinion coming in lol but you are truly a NY girl!!you literally glow when you are home and around your family. Growing doesn't necessarily mean leaving the nest. Some people are blessed enough to have a close family and you should enjoy it! Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, while being surrounded by love! Wishing you nothing but the best💕
“Sometimes we don’t get over things because we hold onto the fact that someone did us so wrong and we start to obsess over it”. This one really struck a cord with me!
Omg sameee!!!
Agree Agree!!
Same girl same
omg yes!
Girl you said a mouth full. Some times I wonder will I ever get over how I was treated. Went from feeling safe with him to thinking he would do something to me.
So true ! I had to literally just ghost my ex , no explanation and no contact . The relationship was a toxic on and off mess . It’s been 3 months and it hasn’t been easy but it gets easier with time. Proud of my self for moving on.
Yes it gets easier I had to let my ex go as hard as it is I feel so much better he reached out to me like two weeks ago since he’s so use to use doing this on and off stuff but it felt good to jst not even respond to him i don’t know you but I’m proud of you too
I'm proud of you too! 👏🏾 I'm trying to leave a man myself and it isn't going to be easy....I feel inspired about the possibilities.
This comment made my cry because I this is something I had to do and it’s hard. It’s very comforting to know there’s others trying to deal with it and move on
I’m the queen of 👻!!! Them ninjas don’t need an explanation, they know what they was doing or not doing
Stay strong!! I ghosted my ex in 2018 and finally had to block him because I was tempted to start taking his calls/answering text… now years later in 2022, he’s still calling my mom to try to get me back😁 they never miss a good woman until she’s gone! His lost, someone else gain! Stay strong sis! Keep ignoring him!
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade love this
I think all women are feeling this energy it seems universal this year and i love it because i feel the same I’m tired of focusing on a man i wanna flourish and grow and that’s what’s see wants this is why i first started watching because of the independence.
Omg yes
Ditto!!
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Totally agree
I feel the same way! It’s crazy
I ended a 5 year relationship in January. I feel so good.. It's only March and I feel like I've done so much more for myself and my kids!! It is a very selfish year!!
Same girl 5yrs and 6months ended it in January too I feel good I’ve been getting back to my old self
same here girl 5 years ended mine January too and I feel great. best decision ever.
How did you leave I have two kids and scared to be a single mom and leaving I feel stuck sometimes
@@kiaratraylor4882 know your worth I know it’s easier said than done but the reality is when you reach the point when you’re jst done and tired you’ll leave you won’t even care about being a single mother you know you do what u have to for your kids and that’s all that matters once you reach that point you’ll know
@@kiaratraylor4882 I was just tired honestly. Like things really did not get better being together after 5 years? Oh no.. Then once a month went by and I was able to do stuff by myself I had been asking for his help on. Girl I KNEW I would be ok! You will too... You really just have to get out of the mindset that because you're used to it, it should continue
The relief is all over your face. Honestly.
So happy for you. You’ve been getting in your own way all these years. You’re destined for MORE and you will get on. When you’re focused your unstoppable. We’re rooting for you. Congrats girl! 🥂
YES ! someone who actually sees it. Congrats on her for finally realizing she's been her own enemy. Looking forward to what she does with it.
What kinda slick hating is this? TF
@@d.j.mcclure78 Aaliyah said it herself in the video that she was being mean to herself & that she isn’t good at controlling her emotions. That combination of things amongst others will have you getting in your own way. Everything ain’t hating.
No hate to the other party - but I like single you better. You focusing on you really makes you glow and creative 🖤 I always love to see it
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Sameeeee here we barely hear from her when she’s in LA with him
Yeah, no lie. I kinda dipped out when the videos had both of them in it. I want her happy, but it was a different vibe when the videos were the two of them.
“The only thing I’m worried about is the hairstyle I’m doing next” YES Aaliyah! We love you!❤️
I feel like single Aaliyah is more on her shit! We love it! The right person will come into your life and add to you and support you in all of the goals you have!
Yesss! I feel like she unfortunately has had to shrink herself in the past for her relationships to work. Her future husband will be the one who covers her, stretches her, and supports her dreams. 💕
The part about being selfish definitely resonated with me. Everything you said was everything I’ve been experiencing. At 27, I’m learning to put myself first & it’s hard so hard but I’m trying to make sure it gets done
The way you started to glow & flourish immediately after focusing on yourself is inspiring! Congrats on everything ! We’ve missed this Aaliyah so much 🤎🤎🤎
Wow sooo Proud my sister keep up with ALL YOUR POSITIVELY.
Your beautiful, strong, Whitty,and FIERCE:-)!!!!!!
Can’t wait to see home decor, fashion and gurl chit chat. Yes I said GURL :-)
Yeessssss we love to see it!!! 🙌🏾💕
Wow
That’s what happens when you drop dead weight. Been there myself, and the feeling of leaving that weight behind was absolutely liberating.
I been following AJ since she was doing makeup in her bedroom and I’ve watched her grow into this beautiful woman who appreciates everything I just want her to win and all women who work hard for what they want …. All blessings 💕
Yes girl. This year is ABOUT OURSELVES and Leveling up! Omg girl this makeup look is beautiful
If y’all believe in numerology it’s the year 6 and with this year you gotta take care of yourself before you can take care of other things
Right on,sis! If you're not adding to my purpose then that means you're subtracting!! We're done learning lessons, now it's time for Blessings!!! Period
Your husband is coming Hunny!! Your happiness is everything! You paved the way for so many of us TH-camrs!!! You deserve it !
I am tearing up because this is a ultimate sign for me to do what Taneajah needs to do. I am scared of what is in store for me but I believe this year will be a stepping stone and I can truly be happy and live the life. Aaliyah, you have paved the way and have been truly shining and I am so proud of you. I believe you will be able to get towards that point in your life that you are succeeding.
Yes ma’am !!! I’m all for this. Walking away from my marriage of 6 years and my main goal is me and being selfish to better myself ! Healing and putting myself first.
I felt this! This year is really about “SELF”!! Let’s flourish, focus & get this money🙌🏾 so proud of you with everything you are accomplishing!!
GIRL YOU GOT ME CRYINGGG. Like I mean literal tears down my eyes. Everything you said was true to the bone. It's crazy how meaningful your advice is and how much I needed to hear it. Love you so much,
“ you have your youth on your side but you don’t know how to deal with it “ FELT THIS!!❤️🔥 thank you for being there for all the young women in this world 🌎
Omg I felt this in my soul!!!! It’s our year. Focusing, single, being selfish for once, tunnel vision, letting go of fears, fun and WINNING.
Chilee I knew you was single when you didn’t post him for his birthday 😂 proud of you tho! Looking forward to everything that’s in store for you!! 💗
I knew she was single when she came back home. Sometimes we have to go back to our roots to get grounded and reset.
😂😂😂😂😂 forreal
Right. I’ve been thinking it for months lol
@@kiyana2011 There’s no place like home 👽
I noticed on Valentine’s Day lol
When you talked about seeing the world so bright, I literally was so happy for you because I feel that. It’s that growth season. No need to dwell on the past when the future so bright and beautiful.
DEFINITELY! speaking as a fellow cancer. Understanding how to control my emotions has been big for me
Yes girl, when I went to therapy I finally realize there was a reason for any emotion that I feel. And as a fellow Cancer, baby it is really hard! We feel everything and we even take on other peoples emotion as well!
They say when you’re getting yourself together it gets lonely. But choose elevation over company. Looove this season for you! Everyone can’t go where you’re going….and that’s a-okay. 💋
So true
Man….I needed this 🥺🙏🏾
This current Aaliyah Jay era is by far my favorite. Sis started focusing on herself and boom TWO magazine covers, girlie is GLOWING, business is FLOURISHING. We love this for you! 💕
23:45 is what we all came to see 😭💕
thanks sis lmao
How did you know that so fast?? Lol
I was at minute 22 and still clicked this time stamp 😭
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@@shootingstar9243 💀Dang
“It sounds selfish because it really is” - felt this and you’re absolutely right 💕 I’m so happy for you, Aaliyah army we about to blow up this year ☺️
This needs to be said the problem everyone has is when we don't put God 1st he goes before ourselves. Putting him 1st gives our lives structure order and peace when you do it your way we get counterfeit everything counterfeit relationships, job,living location, etc but his way everything falls into place. I didn't know real love unto I except Jesus and he's teaching me to be the woman I'm supposed to be in this world
Amen🙏🏽🎯❤️
This!!!!!
@@sweetmarlyne8453 To God be the Glory that this comment resonated with your spirit !
I want to like this more than once! so accurate!
Yessssssss to being single ! You’re going to get absolutely everything God has for you and more . It’s up and being selfish gonna get you soo far; like you’re already far but you gonna go levels this year it’s your time sis . Congratulations on the magazine covers I’m so happy and excited for you ; this journey is about to be litt !! We love you ! Take care of you all 2022 God got you !
Thiiisssss!!!!! Being single is a life changing event for ppl who been in long term relationships. I think this is going to be soooo good! Sometimes you need to get rid of old things to bring in new. She’s already doing so much more already .
I appreciate how vulnerable & transparent you’ve always been with us. This new chapter of your life will be amazing. Love you Aaliyah 💕
Yes being single shows you a lot about your self girl period we out here ! Have fun
Ayye!!!
im so happy that you posted this because I got out of a toxic relationship and I'm 24 and I been loving myself and I been loving every moment of it and I'm getting to know myself more and I'm not taking no steps down for no one anymore
Yess Queen!!💕🎈🥂💃🏾So proud of you!!
Going into 30 years old, this is exactly where I am in my life right now. 💕
I’ve always felt that relationship held you back and brought you down. 🤷🏾♀️ So happy to have YOU back! ❤️❤️
What was he doing
Girl I’m a cancer too . Learning to control my emotions has been the theme of my life this past year. Love all of your videos . Your personality is so comforting and fun.
This is probably one of my favorite videos you've done in a long time. I love where you're at with life and how you're feeling. Growth is an amazing thing! Cheers to loving ourselves in 2022 ladies. Can't wait to see where you go Aaliyah. ❤️
👆👆Congratulations you're among the lucky winners, 👆message right away I've got a gift for you 🎉🎁
You have such a nice talking voice and seem to have grown so much spiritually. It has no choice but to transfer in how you handle the issues that this life throws at you. Please continue to make more content and share with us what makes you happiest. We love you gworl 💙
We're soooooo proud of you!! You know you are growing and thriving when you don't have anything negative to say, you wish them well and move on. You've blossomed so much and that's why this is your year! We love to see it!
Yes we miss u queen but IG has been givingggg congratulations on the 2 magazine covers
We are only a year apart and it always feels like we're both going through the same things at the same time. The biggest lesson "TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF". Thank you for this 🙏🏾
Yess to you begin single! I feel like you get wayyyy more done when your single when you accomplish all your goals then you can get back to the relationship flow but as of now continue to have fun! Love you girl
This was so spot on! Coming into the last year of my 20s this year is definitely different. I'm chasing my dreams and doing everything that makes me happy no matter what. I'm happy for you on this journey and I hope you get everything your heart desires.
This hit home not feeling safe in a relationship...this year is personal !! thank you for your honesty and this video
Putting YOURSELF first and CONTROLLING YOUR EMOTIONS! This video is taking all the words out of my mouth, super relatable. Speaking to my soul girl! "Fantasizing about life without someone or being single" is definitely a sign that a chapter has to end. ENJOY this next chapter sis. No one is ever going to love you how you love yourself that's why the SELF LOVE has to always be your priority no matter who comes or goes 🖤 You look gorgeous, make up is flawless per usual 💕
If you learn to control your emotions your can master anything. It’s hard though, still trying to get it together myself. Watching this gave me chills. Holding back tears. Aaliyah omg.
Thank you, Aaliyah. Your transparency literally is helping me face my fears of letting go of things and focusing on myself. This is so inspiring and motivating. Thank you, sis 💕 I needed this!
I’m so proud of you Aaliyah. Everyone around you has always noticed your power and potential, to see you finally step into that power is inspiring! You keep putting yourself first and you’ll be unstoppable ❤️
2 weeks from 29 and I just learned how to be selfish and set healthy boundaries and not feel crazy about it.
Ngl I always thought that relationship was holding you back but again it’s not my place to say. But I’m here for the new season! Growing and elevating !
Even thou you have the same energy, I just see the glow this time and I’m so proud and happy of you expanding and growing. More and more people are “catching on” (you been that girl) but more are seeing a new side and it’s refreshing, even the answers to the question are refreshing.
Girl, it is fine to be completely selfish! To choose yourself first! To make sure you are okay and happy! You can only bring so much happiness you carry in yourself! So why don’t choose yourself! I am waiting for your succes this year! And excited for what is to be! Cheers to you and your 2 magazine pages and cheers to Aaliyah choosing Aaliyah !
I love your answers to these questions! Whewww when you going through things you sometimes forget others go through/been through similar situations! & your answers/advice is really a reminder for me that “this too shall pass” thank you girl!!
Also, congratulations on all your achievements this year, we see you girl!!!!💕
Good for you! Sometimes or most times us women get involved in a committed relationship and we neglect what was important to us or lose ourselves in the relationship. I love your tutorial very pretty! I hope you do become more active on you channel we miss you!
Very true. I’m working on getting out of that space & im trying to tap back into me and the things & people that I love
I’m still trying to figure out why we lose ourselves
@@shaythareal2382 Great question. I think it’s because sometimes men put so much on our plate. They don’t just want a girlfriend/wife. They also want a mom, sister, lover, homie etc. wrapped in one person. I’m in a relationship that I already mentally checked out of. Once I start this new career I’m leaving him. I back to focusing on myself.
As someone that has been through toxic relationships. My biggest advice is to love YOURSELF! More than anyone else. When you do. Truly do. You will not put up with bs. I literally got to the point when dating.. if a man texted me "Gm beautiful" I would cut them off if I'm not worth texting out the whole word or having meaningful phone calls. "Old school" dating. Ladies you are worth so much more!
You paved the way I’m excited for everything that’s happening and in stored for you 🐐💅🏾😍
I felt a lot of this! I’m turning 25 and realizing a lot of the things I were stressing about in my early twenties don’t matter & in a lot of situations I should’ve put myself first! When the time is right things will fall into place how they are supposed too! You’ll be surprised when you start putting yourself first you have a fuller cup to pour from and the right people come into your life! Glad you shared this 💜
Also traveling to the UK let me know! I grew up there as a kid!
Yep I turned 25 last month and it happened to me too. I feel more calmer, wiser and careless just focusing on myself and wealth health Ase 🥰
I feel you for sure. I feel like a lot of women are going through this & have this mindset rn. My friends, you, glamazontay, leeleeurstruly & myself as well. I just got out of a long term relationship last month & honestly I haven’t felt the breakup, it hasn’t hurt at all. I was already checked out, I realized I settled and too many bounds were crossed. Now I’m so focused on myself, growing spiritually, growing my business. All that love I was giving that person I just had the urge to give it all to me bc i forgot to for so long while with them. I have shit to do & im making so many things happen ✨🧿
Thisssss. I’m going through the same thing girl!
Wheww girl I felt this so much!!! ❤️❤️❤️
You have mature sooo much Aaliyah, I can tell by the way you speak, you’re absolutely right when it comes to putting yourself first and not wasting your time/energy on ppl, places and things. Always follow your heart & you’ll be just fine!👸🏽 😘
I Remember Aaliyah w/ the braces, When I had braces. Im glad you’ve Realize WE need to put Ourselves First. There is No Rush, I have learned to Stop being Selfless and be Selfish. And whoever doesn’t Respect that Boundary is Not Worth Your Time. Thank you for putting yourself out There for so long, Glad You’re Back💕
Was it just me? or was y’all feeling like everything she was saying in this video? I’m so inspired by Aaliyah! She’s so strong yet soft, positive and motivated!!! It’s nice to have someone else to relate to that’s in their twenties dealing with life and changes. I also doubted myself for a very long time when I was younger and it was because I was lost and just didn’t really know what I wanted but now that I’m older and a lot of the things I want to before are the same things that I still want now AND aaliyah wants!!!! It’s so inspirational and i’m happy God put her on earth with us LOL we need the help.
First of all 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 because you’ve been pulling out big stuff this month alone! I was so surprised but knew you had it in you. You’re focused on the right stuff and it shows. Sometimes you gotta drop the things that hold you back to excel and you’re doing just that which is so important for black girls to see because we Tend to put more care into people who don’t genuinely care about us. I could go on and on because this same unspoken thing destroys our growth!
Being single is such a spiritual cleanse. I feel so great being single. Lol I mean menelik has a great personality I’m sure he’ll be great on his own
Been watching you since 2015-2016ish .... I am SO PROUD OF YOU!!! I feel like we grew up together!!
idk why but i feel so happy for you. i knw its not easy going through a breakup, even if it ended on good terms, but you look so at peace. your spirits are high, you're vibration is high. best wishes for you. this is a SELFISH year!! my new motto.
*”It is okay”. Yes! It’s important for women to know this. After a breakup ladies, it will be okay one day.* ❤️
Sis I'm so happy you are back to your old self. Something was missing before and your light had dimmed. I'm not blaming anyone but as a mom of children around your age, we observe alot and following you for the past 5 years or so, I saw the change. I'm excited for you getting YOU back. Peace is the best and self love. Trust I've been there. All the best sweetie and God bless 🙌🏽 ❤
As an older woman who enjoys your content, great job with this video. I really felt like you were being honest. I respect your honesty with all the answers. Keep striving to the top. Oh and I love the idea of using the foundation brush under the contour.
Can you walk through another makeup video teaching how to apply this look? Eyeliner, what goes first as far as makeup etc? Love this look!!
I just know you growing and glowing bc old single Aaliyah would’ve been moving so different. I love this for you.
Its crazy how we can be "Experts" at failed relationships. Hearing AJ say shes been in lots of relationships that ended. We gotta break the cycle and show our children and the next generation a better way. Teach them your life lessons so they dont make the same mistakes. Praying for more love and successful relationships because we all deserve it!!!
Not gonna lie I was lurking I was like I think she single she in her BAG!!! I’m newly single too so this is inspiring 💓🥰
Your reaction to these questions is hilarious
“Growth is also going to feel like loss”
We aren’t alone ❤️
“I’m not playing about myself no more” 🙌🏾
The lashes w/ the liner per usual is GIVING!! So happy for your next chapter, everything you want is right there! We all feel it for you Aaliyah!! 💜💜
Wowowow first off let me give a s/o to mama dukes because of her you’re well grounded. I love the way you carry yourself and taking the time to love on yourself and grow as an individual. I too see no rush into kids & marriage and never understood the hype to do it all at a young age when we have so much ahead of us. It’s okay to dream about it & I promise it will come but what we need to grasp is 🗣when the right time comes it will present itself! So continue to be selfish of your time these the prime years of building, being fun, free, spontaneous, etc. Celebrate the small & big victories in your life, love on your family/friends and the rest will add on if it’s RIGHT! I got to say I love the young lady you are and growing to be, thank you for sharing your life stories with us. I’m only 24 and I look up to you like a big sis. A big sis with a genuine heart; I pray you find someone who’s worthy of you, your time, & energy. You deserve the best things in life Aaliyah Muahhhh xoxo 🤍🤍🤍
Yesss you are emitting a different energy in this video. I’ve missed this woman, congratulations on everything!! Everything you, want wants you 💚💚
I LOVEEEEEEE you! You’re so transparent with us and I appreciate it, but it’s good that you’re doing good mentally girl that’s all that matters and okayyyy to being single and you’re onto better things. NEXT! ❤️❤️❤️👏🏽👏🏽 you deserve the world girl and you better go and get it 😘😘 I wanna see your face on the cover of 25+ more magazines Pooh. You got it already 🥰
Nothing is more satisfying than when you start focusing on YOU!Self love is the #1 key to happiness, how can you truly love another person when you don’t love yourself,take time to find You,your purpose of been here,lean yourself, focus on YOU and watch miracles happen⭐️
😫 it’s so nice to see you doing makeup it just feels right omgg lol
Agreed !! And she always looks like she genuinely enjoys doing it 🥰
This is exactly what im on it’s all about me this year ! I just got out of a 5 year relationship and i feel so good and free. I just want to live my young life and worry about the other stuff later i love you Aaliyah your always right on time 💖
24:03 is the single question
Wow, this whole video is a vibe. I am my worst enemy, self love, and seeing MYSELF differently is more important than anything!
girl i’m so excited for the vlogs. im a super OG subbie that’s been here since the make up classes vlog and taking us to run errands and explore new york! you’re like a big sis, i’m growing up with you 🥺♥️ can’t wait to see what you have in store for us!!!
I’m a Cancer ♋️ 🦀 as well! Back in my younger 20s toxic guys would complain about me being overly emotional. People who knew me made comments saying I was dramatic. Now that I’m in my 30s, I look back and realize that it wasn’t important to control my emotions. Sometimes things happen beyond our control and you can’t always have a handle on your emotions. It’s natural. Channeling emotions appropriately has been the key for me.
Controlling had me bottle up emotions to the point it all came out like a binge eater. Allowing and setting out time to feel, investing and becoming creative, finding new interest all helped me to channel the energy, thoughts, anxieties that were build up. Sometimes we have setbacks, but our bounce backs are so impressive. You are a force to be reckoned and commend you on your journey! 👑♋️💗🖤
So refreshing to see this side of you sis! I also would recommend therapy as a part of the self care journey. It’s imperative to recognize our trauma and triggers to see what allowed us to stay in low vibrational relationships
Yes I’m happy to see you shining. Sometimes when you’re in a relationship you can lose yourself and just be focused on the relationship or other person. I’m happy to see you thriving. I think you do more when you’re in NY especially when you’re surrounded by your friends and family. Can’t wait to see you shine more!
Are you going to cover up the tattoo of your ex name?
YESSS!! I loved this video! it’s soooo good to see the old AJ back! congratulations on the magazine covers, that’s so big!! SELF LOVE & SELF CARE all 2022!!
Happy Women’s Month! 💜💜💜💜
You feel so mature!! You vibe is different and I love it! Growth!!
after finally being alone after two years of relationships, i feel the best I’ve ever been & can relate to you so much! I’m finally learning to put me first & reaching my full potential, doing things I dreamed of. This year is definitely all about being selfish!! Happy for you & all of your accomplishments & what’s coming! Love this video 🤍🤍🤍
Omgggg I’m on my healing journey and I have been putting myself first, being selfish and trying to control my emotions. You are so right you think you know someone but you don’t .
Yes Aaliyah i been watching you for soo long I’ve seen you go through your relationships on here and honestly i loved when you were single because your creativity was always on point! It was just a different type of vibe ! I’m so happy to see you in this phase it’s so inspiring! Keep shining, keep elevating ! ✨✨
A relationship shouldn't ever feel as if it's holding you back to reach for the stars. The moment you feel stagnant and suffocated in a relationship then that's a red flag. If anything, your partner should push you to become a better version of yourself and help you grow as a woman. It's imperative that we decide to move forward and choose peace.
OMGGGGGGG!!!! I have literally been watching you since day1 and I only watch you because I have been going through the same things with figuring things out things at 26yrs old with a 9yr old I have decided this year is the year for everything God has for me 💕😊 Everything happens for a reason and thank you for opening up to your fans about SELF LOVE YEAR 🙏🏼
I’m here for her conversation. Listen to her from her experience she has a platform and she is using it wisely.
Do y'all notice how everytime Aaliyah and menelik breaks up she runs back to New York and ironically she's her happiest there but with menelik she pushes it aside because he loves LA and the ppl he wants to be around is there and Aaliyah usually becomes a yes man and loves what he loves I hope this is an eye opener for her.
I don’t comment on TH-cam videos because I think it’s weird but this was literally a therapy session for me ❤️❤️ I love watching your videos
you seem alot happier and genuine when your single babe...l your flawless af you got this! im happy for you either way !
Putting yourself first & controlling your emotions is definitely gonna be one of my daily affirmations now😌
Unsolicited opinion coming in lol but you are truly a NY girl!!you literally glow when you are home and around your family. Growing doesn't necessarily mean leaving the nest. Some people are blessed enough to have a close family and you should enjoy it! Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, while being surrounded by love! Wishing you nothing but the best💕