I was kind of hoping they would just drop off the kids and get put in prison. Even if she agreed to watch the kids and didn't show up there is less than a zero percent chance the police would care.
@@Nielak-dg8nj Cousin: Officer I came here to report my cousin for abandoning my children when I left my children at her door while she was hundreds of miles away on holidays. COP: So, you are here confessing to have abandoned your own children? Cousin: No, no, no... Wait what? COP: Stay here, I'll just call CPS to get your statement.
This is probably crude, but if somebody ever dumped their kids on me like that and made me feel like that is all there was for me to do, I would point out that I wasn’t in their beds with them when they made their children, and neither was I consulted.
@@nilianstroy My thought is way better. Cousin: I came to her house and she wasn't there when she said she would watch my children! Put her in jail. Officer: Then take your children and leave?
Couldn't agree more! 🙌 It’s sad how often ‘reliable’ people end up being the ones punished for it. It’s not fair, and it’s definitely not love or support.
what was so unfair in this story...they purposely kept the cruise & trip to Hawaii a secret from the reliable one...because they did't want her to go on the trip...but stay home and babysit for free...and they had the nerve to say they would bring her a souvenir ..pay the market rate and give her a chance to go on a vacation at a later date instead...but they were all very shifty...even the Mother...where was the integrity?
COUSIN: Your aunt is disappointed in you not being there to celebrate her retirement! OP: Wow, that's dumb. Did she not know that you-all had deliberately excluded me from being there?
“We didn’t mean to leave you out-” Now that’s a blatant lie! A trip like this requires a lot of planning, coordinating, talking, and there’s the communication involving all the invitations and the excited chatter… the only way he can be completely in the dark for this long is if they were all very careful to not let him know about it. Not until the very last moment when they could make him feel obligated to watch the kids.
There is no reason that they could not have called her, they literally had months to do it, and it only takes a few minutes to get it done. I think what they were planning on is to spring this on her at the last moment, so she would be backed into a corner and they were sure she would be unable refuse. They were wrong. They were playing a game.
Op already told them that she wasn’t babysitting, so why didn’t they make plans. And also a lot of these stories include people that forget that they decided to have kids. If you have kids their accommodations are YOUR responsibility, not family’s, not the teachers, etc.
Exactly. She said no, it's not her fault they assumed... what, she'd change her mind? She'd just be home and accept the kids because what other choice did she have? Sheesh.
i would be the person to say: "fine, exclude me but i charge 300 dollars an hour to babysit; i expect payment up front" and call the aunt privately to congratulate her and explain the situation
It’s really disheartening to feel excluded, especially when it comes to family events. It’s understandable that being left out of something as significant as a family cruise can hurt deeply, particularly when additional expectations are placed on you to babysit. Communication is key in situations like this-perhaps expressing your feelings to your family can help them understand your perspective. Everyone deserves to feel valued and included, especially within their own family. Stay strong, and I hope you’re able to find a resolution that brings peace to the situation. ❤
Id send a group email. “I’m aware that you’ve all planned a vacation without me, and planned on using me to babysit. That will not be happening. Im not included, and I’m not yours to use. This is not up for discussion, Bon Voyage.”
I would have loved to hear that conversation between the family and 911 or CPS had they made it. 911 Operator / CPS: 911 what's your emergency? Whole family: Yeah we would like to report a case of child neglect. 911 / CPS: Okay go on what the address Whole Family: 123 Random Street Name Ave 911 / CPS: What is the manner of the neglect Whole Family: You see we planned this whole spectacular cruise for the whole family and we decided to leave on family member out so that we can all dump our kids on him and he heard our plans and decided to go on his on vacation instead which screwed up our plans and because of this we now have to race and put together a plan B for our kids.... Makes you wonder how long it would have taken before CPS and the police would have showed up at their house 😂😂😂
The fact that the OP didn't even consider that point tells me that whoever wrote this didn't think about that. It should have been one of the OPs first counter arguments.
Tell them: Can’t you get it through your thick heads. I’m vacationing. You didn’t ask, properly. Next time don’t exclude me you’re the AHs here. And aunt Linda is mad at all of you for this too.
"Family sacrifices" and where was their sacrifices for OP? Cuz surely they don't count the cousin having to drop out to watch HER KIDS last minute as a sacrifice?? The fact that cousin seriously thought she could threat calling the cops for abandonment of HER KIDS with NO proof OP even agreed to watch them, and in fact had more proof that she DIDN'T is disgusting and further shows she was just a free hand to them.
How dare they EXPECT you to baby sit WITHOUT even having the courtesy to ask you? Disgusting. How long was the cruise and Hawaii trip? What were they going to do? Just rock up with four kids and "see you in a week"? Why didn't they just take the kids with them? Simple
This whole story is one of those where I feel like i could defend OP better then OP is defending herself. Like how hard is it to say "i was never directly asked, and i never agreed, therefore this is on you and not me". And when they drool out the ol "buuut fammmmmliy" horseshit id tell em "exactly you all seem to forget im family as well and not just some baby sister for the family".
@@dinkyd1533 Yeah, it pretty much just started being the same thing over and over after a bit. In fairness, that's what arguments be like sometimes, but that doesn't mean we need to hear every detail.
this was a story on edit. most likly was put into ai to make it into a story. like the main part was op getting left out of trip and was being forced to baby sit. so they left. to have there own holiday. everyhing else was added by the ai and content farm.
This entire situation is BS! Why: There's babysitting aboard most cruiselines, along with children activities, until 7 or so. They're truly jealous of her, and this is their punishment!
Nah, that's still responsibility, they need to atleast check up on the kids if that happened. They wanted to go on a trip with no responsibility at all.
I would have offered them $500 per day per kid paid up front and if not paid 3 days in advance I would be unavailable. That way they’d have no excuses about their behavior
if they want you to be a babysitter ....charge them the market rate....don't be a doormat....and go on your own vacation later...souvenirs are chump change...what horrible people you are related to....
How entitled the family is. If I were the OP, I’d NEVER BABYSIT FOR THEM AGAIN. I would also go NC with all of those who expected the OP to babysit, I’d move on with my life.
For 4O years my family took trips and vacations , all the while expecting myself to watch over their houses, feed their animals and take in the post I said no after the whole family was organising a group getaway , and I was expected to once again look after their stuff. This ruffled Thier feathers. Cost them 1000 to get a care taker 😂
@jt1559 it wasn't an exaggeration, it can take years to summon the courage to stand your ground. And my family knew my timetable and my employers leave notification procedures.
its all about boundaries. people even people close to you will get as much as they can from you. Its human nature. if you are to willing to help / loan money whatever people will always push for more it always ends bad..they won't remember what you've done for them. they'll only remember how they felt when you stopped. So you aren't even building favor with them.
I don't think this story is entirely real, but I also face problems like this with my sister who has a kid that assumes that every summer vacation I would take care of my niece. One year, I told her that she needed to realize she could not always rely on me and consider summer camps etc. She didn't like that response and sent a message to our other sister, saying stuff like "you would think your family would understand your situation and help out." There is no consideration for my needs, though.
There's one last thing for OP to do. Formally announce her decision and say she's leaving the Family Chat and to not contact her. She handled this mess the best it can be handled. Her family played stupid games and won stupid prizes.
So she’s the (?) younger daughter in the family? That makes this whole mess a lot more understandable. Being the “reliable” one=expectations of free babysitting, taking care of school drop off when kids own family couldn’t, etc, etc, etc. it’s called INDENTURED SERVITUDE, & Cinderella just turned her back on them. Good riddance!
I'd be 'hell no, I'm done being your 'go to babysitter' and walk out. The audacity to plan this trip not tell OP, to plan to have OP stay back and babysit without okaying it with OP first is horrible. How would they know if OP would of been able to do it? If OP had a vacation planned then did they expect OP to cancel to make them happy? I'd quickly book my own get away if I could get the time off work.
All that “for the sake of the family” stuff almost ruined me. I really sincerely love my mother. But we finally managed normal relationship after i moved FAAAAR away from them. When they mentioned my sister move in with me or at least in the same city I said 😃 NO 🗿.
I'd be the genius to suggest someone come early, and leave early, and someone come late and leave late. Both of them would have pretty much solo vacations for half the time but the bonus would be if they bring their spouse. Or just hire a nanny. Make sure its a reputed one for multiple days away. Or just bring them! It's a goddamn cruise ship, they'll be occupied! Someone can take care of them!
There's so much I wish I could say to her family! Even just a simple you need to stop and put yourself in my shoes, their lack of understanding what they did wrong is infuriating.
It’s not her responsibility, and they keep saying “because family” or “family means everything” no it doesn’t, it means nothing especially for them, also with this type of family the saying “keep your friends close but your enemies closer” will make a lot more sense now
You should not stay and babysit . You have no kids so why do you need to find someone to keep them their kids . Don't let them guilt you into keeping their their kids. You did great .
It's always the people that constantly use, abuse, and take advantage of their family that crow on and on about how important it is to "sacrifice" for the family.
omg that cousin, saying they could charge OP with child abandonment..no it's not abandonment when you never ask the babysitter to babysit but just assume they will and try to dump your kids on them. Funny how the selfish inconsiderate people are calling OP selfish and inconsiderate lol
It was deliberate for you to be the babysitter. This is what happens to unmarried family members, especially the women. The family who has children take advantage of the spinster to be the instant babysitter. They dump their kids on them and be gone for hours.
Basically, in stories like this it is simple: People with children are worth more than single family members. Single family members are supposed to set their lives aside whenever the family needs them to do so.
As soon as I was voluntold that I was the free babysitter for four kids under 5yo for days instead of invited on the trip, the only discussion would've been when are you going? No, sorry, I'll be on vacation then. Buh-bye.
@RafaMieses That's what I was thinking, that it could be a week or more, but would for sure be at least a few days. And what would have happened if OP hadn't found out until they were leaving on the trip? What if OP couldn't get time off from work? They might've even lost their job if they just said 'I can't come in, blah, blah'. The boss could've said if you don't come in, you're fired. If it did happen, the family probably wouldn't have lifted a finger to help OP, either.
Geez should have just called mom failure when answering her call them berate the cousin and sister with things like where is my dinner or laundry etc then guilt trip them demanding a apology giving them a taste of their own medicine
They only could have called rhe police if he had left the kids AFTER they were in his care up to that point they could not call the police for abandonment. You can not call the police for a babysitter or even an uncle who does not show up. In no way in this story could they have called the police for him not being there, the cops would tell you on the phone to cancel the cruise if you don't have a sitter, or if they had to come out, probably would have sited her for wasting their time, you can't call the cops for a no show babysitter.
It really depends on the kind of family dynamic. If she absolutely has no benefit from the family then yeah, cut all contact to those exploiters. However, OP sounds like she's also relying on her relatives in other ways. They're a bunch of a-holes for excluding her for the trip but it sounds like her relatives are her only social circle.
Quit being a doormat and tell them you'll be charging them x amount of dollars for babysitting per child! They want to use you ,you try using them. Tell them you're not a unpaid baby sitter. Take care of your self.
Op change your phone number and just keep in touch with the family members who actually respect your boundaries , this cuts all contact with your entitled ,toxic family members who seem to consider you a doormat and if possible move to another residential property /home without telling your entitled/toxic family members where you have moved to .
Time for wakeup call. Plot similar to another story about the youngest of 3 girls winds up being the xmas time babysitter. Rebels when a sophomore in college.
“You are the only one without kids”
EXACTLY, that is why OP is free to go on whatever trip bcs the kids are their parent’s responsibility
I was kind of hoping they would just drop off the kids and get put in prison. Even if she agreed to watch the kids and didn't show up there is less than a zero percent chance the police would care.
@@Nielak-dg8nj
Cousin: Officer I came here to report my cousin for abandoning my children when I left my children at her door while she was hundreds of miles away on holidays.
COP: So, you are here confessing to have abandoned your own children?
Cousin: No, no, no... Wait what?
COP: Stay here, I'll just call CPS to get your statement.
This is probably crude, but if somebody ever dumped their kids on me like that and made me feel like that is all there was for me to do, I would point out that I wasn’t in their beds with them when they made their children, and neither was I consulted.
@@nilianstroy My thought is way better.
Cousin: I came to her house and she wasn't there when she said she would watch my children! Put her in jail.
Officer: Then take your children and leave?
Being "reliable" shouldn't be punished. This is punishing the OP for being reliable. That's not family, that's abusive.
At this point, being rude/reckless is now a virtue, especially when the irresponsible ones always get an unlimited free pass.
Couldn't agree more! 🙌 It’s sad how often ‘reliable’ people end up being the ones punished for it. It’s not fair, and it’s definitely not love or support.
what was so unfair in this story...they purposely kept the cruise & trip to Hawaii a secret from the reliable one...because they did't want her to go on the trip...but stay home and babysit for free...and they had the nerve to say they would bring her a souvenir ..pay the market rate and give her a chance to go on a vacation at a later date instead...but they were all very shifty...even the Mother...where was the integrity?
"You don't care about family!"
"You don't care about me either!"
Yup. She’s now the enemy because she dug her heels in and refused to be exploited.
The gaslighting is real. I am proud that she stuck up for herself.
COUSIN: Your aunt is disappointed in you not being there to celebrate her retirement!
OP: Wow, that's dumb. Did she not know that you-all had deliberately excluded me from being there?
They got a lot of balls for being pissed when she said no.
“We didn’t mean to leave you out-” Now that’s a blatant lie! A trip like this requires a lot of planning, coordinating, talking, and there’s the communication involving all the invitations and the excited chatter… the only way he can be completely in the dark for this long is if they were all very careful to not let him know about it. Not until the very last moment when they could make him feel obligated to watch the kids.
Yeah nobody noticed her absence
We didn't mean to hurt you ? What did you mean....?
There is no reason that they could not have called her, they literally had months to do it, and it only takes a few minutes to get it done. I think what they were planning on is to spring this on her at the last moment, so she would be backed into a corner and they were sure she would be unable refuse. They were wrong. They were playing a game.
4:00 Has anyone else noticed the pattern that "You're overreacting" seems to be the favorite weapon of the entitled freeloading baby mama?
Total gaslighting bullshit.
It’s straight out of the hoebag handbook
Ask Aunt Linda to tell the rest of the family to stop harassing op because of their bad behavior
Op already told them that she wasn’t babysitting, so why didn’t they make plans. And also a lot of these stories include people that forget that they decided to have kids. If you have kids their accommodations are YOUR responsibility, not family’s, not the teachers, etc.
Exactly. She said no, it's not her fault they assumed... what, she'd change her mind? She'd just be home and accept the kids because what other choice did she have? Sheesh.
i would be the person to say: "fine, exclude me but i charge 300 dollars an hour to babysit; i expect payment up front" and call the aunt privately to congratulate her and explain the situation
Per child :)
Reliable is not synonymous with exploitable.
Families do not exploitable.
Amen!
I would have told them if they left their kids for me to babysit i would call the police for abandonment.
This!!
Their kids
Their problem. To blindly assume someone without kids is a ready made babysitter is deplorable. The entitlement is off the charts
Why didn't the cousin , who stayed behind , babysit all of the kids & not just her 2 ??🤔😂
Yeah sounds like 4 kids
It's crazy how being a doormat all your life angers people when you stand up for yourself.
It’s really disheartening to feel excluded, especially when it comes to family events. It’s understandable that being left out of something as significant as a family cruise can hurt deeply, particularly when additional expectations are placed on you to babysit. Communication is key in situations like this-perhaps expressing your feelings to your family can help them understand your perspective. Everyone deserves to feel valued and included, especially within their own family. Stay strong, and I hope you’re able to find a resolution that brings peace to the situation. ❤
😂 As the Isley Brothers sang " it's your thing, do what you want to do" !😅😅
Just responded with the "that's a shame, I already had plans probably best to let me know AHEAD OF TIME next time aye" and the good old "k"
Id send a group email. “I’m aware that you’ve all planned a vacation without me, and planned on using me to babysit. That will not be happening. Im not included, and I’m not yours to use. This is not up for discussion, Bon Voyage.”
If only op had called aunt linda in the beginning itself, it would have saved so much of headache.
What a bunch of shameless entitled users.
A message to the sister and cousin……..YOUR kids,YOUR RESPONSIBILITY!
Why didn't op talk to aunt Linda....
I would have loved to hear that conversation between the family and 911 or CPS had they made it.
911 Operator / CPS: 911 what's your emergency?
Whole family: Yeah we would like to report a case of child neglect.
911 / CPS: Okay go on what the address
Whole Family: 123 Random Street Name Ave
911 / CPS: What is the manner of the neglect
Whole Family: You see we planned this whole spectacular cruise for the whole family and we decided to leave on family member out so that we can all dump our kids on him and he heard our plans and decided to go on his on vacation instead which screwed up our plans and because of this we now have to race and put together a plan B for our kids....
Makes you wonder how long it would have taken before CPS and the police would have showed up at their house 😂😂😂
Probably a while, if at all, because they would have been bust laughing.
What if OP couldn't get time off work to care for those kids. They didn't even consider that.
The fact that the OP didn't even consider that point tells me that whoever wrote this didn't think about that. It should have been one of the OPs first counter arguments.
Tell them: Can’t you get it through your thick heads. I’m vacationing. You didn’t ask, properly. Next time don’t exclude me you’re the AHs here. And aunt Linda is mad at all of you for this too.
They didn’t even ask her they just dumped it on her.
Who needs enemies if you‘ve got a family like that😂 would love an update on this.
"Family sacrifices" and where was their sacrifices for OP? Cuz surely they don't count the cousin having to drop out to watch HER KIDS last minute as a sacrifice??
The fact that cousin seriously thought she could threat calling the cops for abandonment of HER KIDS with NO proof OP even agreed to watch them, and in fact had more proof that she DIDN'T is disgusting and further shows she was just a free hand to them.
How dare they EXPECT you to baby sit WITHOUT even having the courtesy to ask you? Disgusting. How long was the cruise and Hawaii trip? What were they going to do? Just rock up with four kids and "see you in a week"? Why didn't they just take the kids with them? Simple
Listening to Doormats have a hard time separating themselves from their users is painfull
Why don't these people ever hound their baby daddies?
Reliable equals being used , whole family deliberately hid the cruise
This whole story is one of those where I feel like i could defend OP better then OP is defending herself. Like how hard is it to say "i was never directly asked, and i never agreed, therefore this is on you and not me". And when they drool out the ol "buuut fammmmmliy" horseshit id tell em "exactly you all seem to forget im family as well and not just some baby sister for the family".
Story infinity about OP saying the same thing over and over and over and over
Yep, a 26 minute story that could have been told in 6.
@@dinkyd1533 Yeah, it pretty much just started being the same thing over and over after a bit. In fairness, that's what arguments be like sometimes, but that doesn't mean we need to hear every detail.
this was a story on edit. most likly was put into ai to make it into a story. like the main part was op getting left out of trip and was being forced to baby sit. so they left. to have there own holiday. everyhing else was added by the ai and content farm.
It's not your job to watch someone else's kids. This is a huge fact.
This entire situation is BS!
Why: There's babysitting aboard most cruiselines, along with children activities, until 7 or so. They're truly jealous of her, and this is their punishment!
Nah, that's still responsibility, they need to atleast check up on the kids if that happened. They wanted to go on a trip with no responsibility at all.
@@xymphieandtheir9008lives Yeah, I will say; I don't blame them for wanting to leave the kids behind. It's the way they did it that was f'ed up.
I would have offered them $500 per day per kid paid up front and if not paid 3 days in advance I would be unavailable. That way they’d have no excuses about their behavior
With a signed contract
Tell them they need rebook anyways since they’ll need to book the kids into the cruise.
He needs to stop helping everyone. Stop all family functions. When asked id state, "i didn't think i was a part of the family."
if they want you to be a babysitter ....charge them the market rate....don't be a doormat....and go on your own vacation later...souvenirs are chump change...what horrible people you are related to....
The only one who got it was the Aunt. Shame on her family.
The only response to this should be "Wow, that sounds like it sucks for you. But that's not my problem. Good luck!"
If it were me, I would never speak to any of them again. They obviously do not care about you at all.
OP is not the jerk and under no obligation to be the family babysitter.
Having the group chat in person was a great touch, domo arigato, mr roboto
"You're always so reliable."
"I'll fix that right away."
I thought it was a guy until the very end lol
How entitled the family is. If I were the OP, I’d NEVER BABYSIT FOR THEM AGAIN. I would also go NC with all of those who expected the OP to babysit, I’d move on with my life.
I used to be a yes, man at work and in the family. I stopped and I am much happier now.
For 4O years my family took trips and vacations , all the while expecting myself to watch over their houses, feed their animals and take in the post
I said no after the whole family was organising a group getaway , and I was expected to once again look after their stuff. This ruffled Thier feathers.
Cost them 1000 to get a care taker 😂
It took you 40 years to say 'no'?
@jt1559 it wasn't an exaggeration, it can take years to summon the courage to stand your ground. And my family knew my timetable and my employers leave notification procedures.
its all about boundaries. people even people close to you will get as much as they can from you. Its human nature. if you are to willing to help / loan money whatever people will always push for more it always ends bad..they won't remember what you've done for them. they'll only remember how they felt when you stopped. So you aren't even building favor with them.
I don't think this story is entirely real, but I also face problems like this with my sister who has a kid that assumes that every summer vacation I would take care of my niece. One year, I told her that she needed to realize she could not always rely on me and consider summer camps etc. She didn't like that response and sent a message to our other sister, saying stuff like "you would think your family would understand your situation and help out." There is no consideration for my needs, though.
Should report CPS for this
There's one last thing for OP to do. Formally announce her decision and say she's leaving the Family Chat and to not contact her. She handled this mess the best it can be handled. Her family played stupid games and won stupid prizes.
So she’s the (?) younger daughter in the family? That makes this whole mess a lot more understandable. Being the “reliable” one=expectations of free babysitting, taking care of school drop off when kids own family couldn’t, etc, etc, etc. it’s called INDENTURED SERVITUDE, & Cinderella just turned her back on them. Good riddance!
I'd be 'hell no, I'm done being your 'go to babysitter' and walk out. The audacity to plan this trip not tell OP, to plan to have OP stay back and babysit without okaying it with OP first is horrible. How would they know if OP would of been able to do it? If OP had a vacation planned then did they expect OP to cancel to make them happy? I'd quickly book my own get away if I could get the time off work.
Just go away call social services and tell them what's happening leave your phone behind 😂😂😂
She would be the family member left with nothing from the parents in their will after years of being the reliable one.
Time to block them.
All that “for the sake of the family” stuff almost ruined me. I really sincerely love my mother. But we finally managed normal relationship after i moved FAAAAR away from them. When they mentioned my sister move in with me or at least in the same city I said 😃 NO 🗿.
There’s no way I would baby sit I would have told them all the minute I found out about the trip
don't hold anything back, tell them what you REALLY think !!!!!!
I'd be the genius to suggest someone come early, and leave early, and someone come late and leave late. Both of them would have pretty much solo vacations for half the time but the bonus would be if they bring their spouse. Or just hire a nanny. Make sure its a reputed one for multiple days away. Or just bring them! It's a goddamn cruise ship, they'll be occupied! Someone can take care of them!
OP has been working for about 5 to 10 yrs and now he just wants to relax but it seems that the disrespectful family doesn't let him
If they're counting on you they should have asked you to babysit....
months ago.
There's so much I wish I could say to her family! Even just a simple you need to stop and put yourself in my shoes, their lack of understanding what they did wrong is infuriating.
No.! No is a complete sentence.
It’s not her responsibility, and they keep saying “because family” or “family means everything” no it doesn’t, it means nothing especially for them, also with this type of family the saying “keep your friends close but your enemies closer” will make a lot more sense now
You should not stay and babysit . You have no kids so why do you need to find someone to keep them their kids . Don't let them guilt you into keeping their their kids. You did great .
Guess she isn't the reliable one anymore. Good for her!😊
It's always the people that constantly use, abuse, and take advantage of their family that crow on and on about how important it is to "sacrifice" for the family.
I'd stop being the 'go to person' especially with their attitudes as if it was OPs fault they had a bad time.
omg that cousin, saying they could charge OP with child abandonment..no it's not abandonment when you never ask the babysitter to babysit but just assume they will and try to dump your kids on them. Funny how the selfish inconsiderate people are calling OP selfish and inconsiderate lol
Youre kids. Your problem.
Bye Felicia
I would call cps on both of them. Told her she gave me the idea.
Yeah....if my family wasn't so small I'd do the same; but my suffering is just the 3 main holidays.
The screen saver is horrible and distracting. Please change it.
lol😂I wish my family would try that 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This really makes me mad.
Your kid = your responsibility!!!
Reliable doesn't make you a Doormat.
It was deliberate for you to be the babysitter. This is what happens to unmarried family members, especially the women. The family who has children take advantage of the spinster to be the instant babysitter. They dump their kids on them and be gone for hours.
Basically, in stories like this it is simple: People with children are worth more than single family members. Single family members are supposed to set their lives aside whenever the family needs them to do so.
Yap yap yap. Just say I'm not babysitting and be done with it. Debate is not required.
I know. My go to is "when is the trip? Oh no I'm going out of town that week" next time they make plans without asking same
As soon as I was voluntold that I was the free babysitter for four kids under 5yo for days instead of invited on the trip, the only discussion would've been when are you going? No, sorry, I'll be on vacation then. Buh-bye.
@nadinesharp9766 yeah 4 under 4 and a cruise at the minimum should be like a week.
@RafaMieses That's what I was thinking, that it could be a week or more, but would for sure be at least a few days. And what would have happened if OP hadn't found out until they were leaving on the trip? What if OP couldn't get time off from work? They might've even lost their job if they just said 'I can't come in, blah, blah'. The boss could've said if you don't come in, you're fired. If it did happen, the family probably wouldn't have lifted a finger to help OP, either.
I would put out resumes and relocate with no contact.
I was the 'go to person' in my family, I have a helping nature but when I needed help most the time i got excuses as to why they couldn't help.
babysitting 4 kids under 4 for like a week or 2 when you are not even a parent yourself is crazy!!!
Geez should have just called mom failure when answering her call them berate the cousin and sister with things like where is my dinner or laundry etc then guilt trip them demanding a apology giving them a taste of their own medicine
Wow! What horrible people. If YOU don't what the responsibility of kids, keep your legs shut.
Family isn't shared by blood its by trust and respect thats family
I feel a bit bad for the kids too. Seems like their parents had no problem having fun without them. 'Family cruise' indeed. Disgraceful
They only could have called rhe police if he had left the kids AFTER they were in his care up to that point they could not call the police for abandonment. You can not call the police for a babysitter or even an uncle who does not show up. In no way in this story could they have called the police for him not being there, the cops would tell you on the phone to cancel the cruise if you don't have a sitter, or if they had to come out, probably would have sited her for wasting their time, you can't call the cops for a no show babysitter.
It really depends on the kind of family dynamic. If she absolutely has no benefit from the family then yeah, cut all contact to those exploiters. However, OP sounds like she's also relying on her relatives in other ways. They're a bunch of a-holes for excluding her for the trip but it sounds like her relatives are her only social circle.
Quit being a doormat and tell them you'll be charging them x amount of dollars for babysitting per child! They want to use you ,you try using them. Tell them you're not a unpaid baby sitter. Take care of your self.
If you do what they want,you will be treated like this for the rest of your life,
Op change your phone number and just keep in touch with the family members who actually respect your boundaries , this cuts all contact with your entitled ,toxic family members who seem to consider you a doormat and if possible move to another residential property /home without telling your entitled/toxic family members where you have moved to .
Charge each one $600 upfront per kid. Then go on vacation by yourself. Otherwise tell them to piss off
I would also move far away. Can't drop off kids if I'm in another state lol
They sound like the selfish careless ones. They did not ask they assumed
Time for wakeup call. Plot similar to another story about the youngest of 3 girls winds up being the xmas time babysitter. Rebels when a sophomore in college.