What I HATE about the Bullet Journal Community. | BuJo Babble Episode 5
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- In today's BuJo Babble I will be creating a "Themes of 2019" spread while I discuss the one thing I hate most about the Bullet Journal community: gatekeeping.
Watch episode 1 of my BuJo Babble series where I discuss the rift between the "original" and "aesthetic" bullet journalers: • Original Bullet Journa...
What do you think about gatekeeping in the BuJo community and in general? Have you experienced gatekeeping in your own life? I'd love t hear your thoughts and discuss in the comments down below.
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Hey y’all! There seems to be some confusion, so I’d like to clarify a few things.
In no way am I comparing or equating the gatekeeping experienced by asexual people from the LGBTQIA community with gatekeeping in the bullet journal community. I simply used this example (and the vegan example) to help explain the concept of gatekeeping before jumping in to the main topic of the video. While all examples listed in this video can be classified as gatekeeping, that doesn’t mean they are equal in severity/importance (nor did I try to make that point). Just as two things can be called an insult and not be the same degree of insult, two things can be gatekeeping without being the same degree of gatekeeping (and without holding the same significance). I hope this helps!
I also wanted to add, as I have seen a number of people claiming that asexual people are not part of the LGBTQIA community (which is ironically exactly the gatekeeping I was referring to in the video): It is my understanding, from my research, that many asexual people consider themselves part of the LGBTQIA (a for asexual) community as their sexuality (or lack thereof) is viewed as atypical in society. Trans people who are straight are still part of the LBGTQIA community because they are trans, and asexual people (even those who are heteroromantic) are still part of the LGBTQIA community because they are asexual.
Again, I hope this clears this up! I never expected this video to go viral and I clearly should have been even more explicit in my use of language to avoid misunderstanding.
Thank you for all of the support and thoughtful discussion surrounding this topic! ❤️
Plant Based Bride I can’t speak fo4 every, but this is exactly the message I got from your video as well, so there’s no need to be super worried about it.
I understood your reference. The beauty about the English language is one word or term can have several meanings. By showing how this affects other communities you are giving viewers a different perspective and aiding in the understanding of the term.
You were just trying to explain a point.... Some people are professional snowflakes and will always look for reasons to criticises and complain.
You’re good i get u sis
I like bullet journal
Is it a bad thing?
"What I hate about the bullet journalling community"
Me, not even knowing this was a community:
XD
You learn something new everyday.
I watched the video for that reason xDDD Community?
There is a community for just about everything. It's not that deep. Google Definition of community: a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.
Bro same
Why does everything have to be productive anyway? Sometimes we just need to relax and create and not worry about productivity.
Great point! ❤️
Plus, if you think about it, relaxing is often productive :) How productive would we be if we were all hugely stressed messes? I agree with you 100%!
ridiculousspider Plus, I think many people process information differently. Drawing something totally unrelated to my tasks often helps me work out next steps for those projects and tasks.
The only problem is if the creativity gets in the way of productivity - if it doesn't, if it replenishes you even, then you're fine sis. But some people (inc. lifestyle and study creators) feel pressured to constantly do a pretty spread because that's what their audience wants, and pressure and anxiety over doing something like a spread is not the purpose of bullet-journaling. It is to be productive - and like people above here say, if creativity is your thing that makes you happy and relaxed, enabling you to do your tasks with greater happiness, that's productive.
Hurray! That’s what I thought to!
"Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person you are" - Kurt Cobain.
I love that thank you for the quote
@@bluemoon5766 no probs! It's a fave of mine and is in the front of my bujo this year :)
Yeah, quote someone with a drug fried brain who killed himself because he was such a loser. He SHOULD have been someone else.
@@jamesaritchie1 I hope you change. When someone suffers so much physically, environmentally, and mentally, sometimes drugs seem like the only option (not that I support drug use). He made mistakes just like everyone but actually managed to help people, unlike you who only spreads negativity.
I'm not one of those people that practically worship Kurt Cobain, but that is one of my favorite quotes from him
I am an extremely minimalist bullet journal-er who adores looking at all the artistic bullet journals on TH-cam and Instagram. I often feel like my own very minimal and monochromatic journal doesn't have a place in the community, because the community seems to favor the artistic and bold. And to be made to feel that way is nonsense. Bullet journals come in all shapes and sizes, and they are all valid.
Your minimalist BuJo rocks and you totally
belong in the community!! ❤️ it makes me sad to read comments like yours and see people feeling excluded. That’s why I wanted to make this video 🥰
I am the same. My bullet journal tools are just a black pen and a ruler to divide the page up and I definitely have not felt that welcome in some groups. No one wants to see photos of that sort of bullet journal even if though I am using it to run a business so I know it works!
@@TheLondonLass I would! Do you have an insta?
I love my minimalist BJ. It's easy and me. But I do watch PBB because it's beautiful and I love watching her paint. We are all uniquely different in our approach of art. Thank goodness for that. ❤
I love minimalistic designs AND artistic designs. I also would really like to know your Insta. 🥰
"Just because someone makes a spread look pretty doesn't mean that it also not productive. Two things can simultaneously exist and not cancel each other out."
Truer words have never been said! Kudos!👌 Love your content always!💕
Thank you so much! It’s just common sense, but not everyone seems to remember that ❤️
I literally scrolled your comment into view the second she said this! Really made me pay attention to read and listen to it at the same time. Very true!!!
Unless it's 13/13 lol😂😂😂😂😂
Aaaaah.... Math. I hate you :')
Gatekeeping is one of the reasons why I generally dislike humans. I’ve joined many hobbies over the years, and I’ve experienced this over and over and over and over. Some people are just unable to feel good about themselves UNLESS they can peer down their noses at others. There ARE NO RULES for hobbies. You do YOU...I will do ME. Whatever I want to do and call it bullet journaling...that is FINE. I don’t need anyone to agree with me. Gatekeeping is one of the most superficial, goofy, immature, and anti social behaviors one can manifest towards others.
sign543 I dislike humans too. It warms my heart to hear someone else say it. 😁
Littlestar714 - Yes! [high five] - One of my favorite past-times is to watch people in public places...it’s so entertaining to see just how friggin stupid we are in groups 😂
Same for me as well. I am always seeing gatekeeping in all my hobbies. Or people who like to devalue what you do to make themselves feel better. For example, in my watercolor group I posted pics of my new gallery wall in my dining room I just updated with my own paintings. Most of them are tutorials from the company whose group I am in, and several of those use an outline. Someone commented and asked, "Did you do those all free hand?" And then proceeded to say it wasn't good art unless I freehanded it. I responded that some I did, but others came with an outline. And left it at that. A few other members roasted this girl though, and I thought it was hilarious! One said, "so if someone bakes something you like, do you ask them if they used a recipe?" LOL! The girl's comment didn't bother me, because I am confident in my craft, but can you imagine if it was a brand new painter and new to the community? Some people would give up, thinking that their art is not worth something because they used an outline. Its really frustrating.
juliababyjen Jenny - Yes, great point about being new...people don’t realize sometimes how HURTFUL words can be. The whole “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is cataclysmically false. Often I’d rather someone just punch me in the head...rather than have my feelings hurt in some ways. Sometimes a comment can completely destroy any confidence you ever had. I remember about 20 years ago, I started a journal of my thoughts...and a friend happened to pick it up before I could stop them from reading it, and the person quoted my first line in this sing-song voice, mocking what I’d written. I’ve STILL never forgotten how stupid that made me feel, how small it made me feel, and how painful that was. It stayed with me for weeks. The person had no idea how hurtful that was.
@@sign543 I'm so sorry that happened to you! That is so rude and disrespectful.
My husband always tells me it takes me more time to do the spreads i create than to do all the tasks on my to do list. And it makes me furious. I don't downgrade his hobbies and tell them they have no point cuz it's what makes him happy. This makes me happy point blank period and i won't apologize to anyone for it.
Just ask him: so what? What if the creating of the spread is the best part of it? Cooking takes longer than eating - but nonetheless it is necessary and also fun, relaxing and/or creative for many people.
Good for you! I used to feel bad about not using my spreads fully, but realized I use a very simple system. So? I like to create. I have sketches and paintings people will never see. What’s the difference? I really enjoy making and looking at my elaborate spreads that will never be used.
downgrade *him*
There are worse ways to 'waste' time. ;-) creating something is wonderful.
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 preach!! Hobbies take time and effort but have their own rewards. Bullet journaling can be a hobby on top of the practical scheduling and to-do list part of it!
The biggest problem with gatekeeping is that it always hurts marginalized people the most.
Not counting audiobooks as “real books” hurts dyslexic people, excluding asexual people from LGBT+ means they are more likely to be abused by straight people with no protection from the community, saying you have to play difficult games to be a “real gamer” excludes disabled people and anyone who doesn’t have endless time such as people working 2 jobs etc.
I hate the audiobook one! If you're listening to a story, you're still consuming the damn story! You know everything that happens in a book just the same as someone who has read it with their eyes!
Audio books are real books, they've been created from real books for those who maybe don't like looking at a real book, don't have the time or can't etc. Take a blind person, unless they use braille that's the only way they can actually read a book, so yes, audio books are real books.
The trans community has legal and medical gatekeeping by people from outside of the community...
The government saying "you have to 'medically transition' before you you can change your gender markers". The government saying we don't recognize your non-binary gender. A letter from a doctor saying this person is trans before they can change their gender market on their driver's license. Having to see a psychiatrist for X amount of mouths before they will even give you that letter. Having to have a doctor decide if you are "trans enough". Doctors not recognizing non-binary identities and that someone who is non-binary might what to go on a low dose of hormones. People not realizing that there are trans people that don't want to physically transition at all.
Money is also a gatekeeper for the trans and lots of other companies too. Because a lot of times to find a key to that gate it also involves money.
Some times I feel like focusing on the outside gatekeepers might be a more productive fight then the inside ones. Because while gatekeepers inside the commissary suck they are probably easier to fix, because they probably have more in common. It probably also depends on the community too.
Yes I agree with the audiobook one! Personally, I defiitely prefer reading books but audiobooks are books too. They're not "fake books" or anything, and I understand the appeal of them. I just don't like them as much as real ones ^^
yes but asexual people arent lgbt
Betty White said it perfectly: “I don’t know how people get so anti-something. Mind your own business, take care of your own affairs and don’t worry about other people so much.” So everyone make your bullet journal exactly the way you want to. It's nobody else's business. And have beautiful nails of course ❤️
Haha yes!! Mic drop 💅🏻
Marleen den Brok I love Betty White.
Exactly it doesn't even have to be pretty it's for your own experience not anyone else's :/ mines messy as heck and my hand writing is trash so I wouldn't show it to anyone anyway xD
I'm nearly 62 years old and for all of my adult life and a good part of my childhood I kept "Doodle-Do" notebooks (that's what I've always called 'em) ... Each day I'd start a new page with my to-do list, weather info, or other information pertinent to the day or my well-being .... I'd doodle on this page(s) as I was on the phone, taking notes about my contacts, the day, my kids, the husband's work as it impacted my day ...
I found "bullet journaling" about 5 years ago - This "system" gave more structure to my "dos" but continue to house my "doodles" too.
Different strokes for different folks! (yeah, I'm an old hippie) ....
Be my grandma pweese
I'm going to start a petition to make Doodle-Doos the new name for Bullet Journals
That is so cool. I love this.
Let's be friends!
I wanna make this to go For years so I Will call my bullet Journal like that
For some people, creating art IS a form of productivity. Either for artists who are practicing their skill or for people whose art helps destress. People need to stop trying to make up rules for personal pieces of people’s lives.
Exactly
I’ll be honest, when I first started becoming interested in bullet journaling, I became extremely overwhelmed with the artistry. So many journals looked so beautiful and artistic and it made me feel as though I could never live up to that standard. But then one day💡I realized that all of those journals had nothing to do with me and that I was projecting a fear or frustration onto a community of people who 🗣 HAVE NO IDEA WHO I AM!
I don’t have to use any of them. I don’t have to mimic the spreads. I don’t have to use watercolor or buy the same journal or create my spreads at the same time. I don’t have to do any of that. What I need to do is do what works for me.
So I found bujos that were more minimalist in their approach and it was great for me. But I still like watching other bujo vids because a) it’s cool to see someone enjoy their passions and talents b) I could be missing out on a great idea or spread or log.
It just seems that gatekeeping is all projection. And it’s annoying. Because honestly, if you did all of the same stuff, but never shared it, would anyone be bothered??
I wish people realised this more. Imma just copy what I put in a another relevant comment here: Let's be honest, we all got introduced to bujo _though_ the aesthetic spreads, _not_ through the original creator 😂 So it does (unintentionally, but still) warp our perceptions, because despite insisting "you don't have to follow me!" and "you don't have to be as creative!", unless you dig, you almost never see the 'minimal' ones.
And what does this do? Lead you to believe that bujo'ing is all about creativity and aesthetics, and into impostor syndrome. There unfortunately is a very real, unspoken pressure in the community, especially to those who are not as talented with handwriting or painting to be _either_ 'aesthetically' minimalist or artistic.
Sadly this pressure blinds people *even when told* that it doesn't have to be a certain way. If only people realised that 1. The original creator exists, please see what they have said on the topic and 2. That of course the most popular bujo inspo would be the gorgeous, laborious ones - we need to educate not just ourselves but others' perceptions of what a bullet journal truly is and is meant to be.
This is really, really what I need!!
OH MY GOD SAME!!!
i used to be overwhelmed by the need for consistency and actual updates i saw in bullet journals online
i finally realised that i can do the paper spreads if i want to and that it doesn’t need to have masses of writing
And that’s why I stay away from social media. Especially in the bujo community, people are so pressured to do things a specific way.
Someone: your bullet journal is not a bullet journal if you draw in it.
Elizabeth: let me explain why you're wrong while drawing in my bullet journal.
YAASSS QUEEN!
You cant draw in your bullet journal? Damn mine is mainly drawing I mean that's the part I love about it
HAHA yeah I just don’t give a f*ck 😂😂😂
@Orange Blossom Why?
@Orange Blossom Lol...gotcha Sis.
Orange Blossom Gatekeeper.
Me not in this community whatsoever: YES QUEEN DO WHAT YOU WANT
honestly same
Agree👏👏❤️❤️❤️
I snorted🤣
Gatekeeping is absolutely everywhere. You can't be a real Star Wars fan if you've only seen the films and haven't read any of the books. I'm a book blogger and have seen so many comments that you have to behave in a certain way to be taken seriously. I've never understood why people feel the need to comment in this way; if you don't like something just move on. Rant over. I've only just found your channel and think your work is beautiful. I'm a pen, sticker and washi tape BuJo-er but enjoy all of the lovely spreads the more artistic in the community come up with.
Aw thank you! And you’re totally right. It’s everywhere! I also can’t count the number of times I’ve seen someone belittle someone else for not having read the book or preferring a film adaptation 🙄 you’d think they’d have better things to worry about!
Completely agree♥️
I remember in the early days of book blogging where you weren't considered a real reader if you read e-books!
This! The level of gatekeeping in the video game world is so high it would almost be laughable, if it didn’t manifest as rampant toxicity. As mentioned in the video, there are much deeper psychological patterns at play in a person who gatekeeps. That being said, it’s so infuriating and sad that that type of person feels like the only way they can enjoy their hobby is to simultaneously put other people down.
Agreed! I've now realized there's so many gatekeepers in the music community too and it's so annoyinggg! I just want to enjoy music- it's really not that deep
It's called "elitism," and, in my opinion, just shows how insecure people are about their own choices. We are all different, have different likes and dislikes. People need to stop trying to make everyone else like themselves. It's not going to happen, and only creates unhappiness.
There is a need for a certain amount of conformity (that's where laws and rules come in), but individuality and diversity is what makes this world so fun and exciting. Too much conformity leads to stagnation.
..Someone really commented on the colour of your supplies and how long your nails are? Lmao. Something I see / hear people say a lot is that "it takes longer to set all those pages up, you're wasting time. A bujo is for productivity and you're not being productive!" It kind of ignores that some people use that time as their me-time, some time to just relax and just have fun. I don't really get why some people care about what other people do in their bullet journal. It literally does not affect me how someone else does their bullet journalling, so why do others care what I'm doing in mine? WEIRD.
Gatekeeping is an issue everywhere and it's just such a sad thing. I wish it just didn't happen. The world would be a lot more fun if that didn't happer!
Haha yup 😂 💅🏻 agreed! It’s a hobby and most people spend time on their hobbies! Would it be weird if I spent two hours reading? Or sewing? Or practicing a new language? Of course not! Then why is it weird to spend two hours creating art?
If someone says you aren't being productive by turning your bujo into a piece of art, what they mean is you aren't being productive in the way they want you to be. Producing art is still producing something... my bujo is plain and filled with chicken scrawl, so they end up in the trash more often than not once I'm done with them. One could argue this is less productive than someone creating something artistic that their children can cherish one day when Mom (or Dad) is gone...
Right I always get the passive aggressive comments like “ omg how do you have time to do all that.” Or “ I could never do that because I would never have time.” As if their time were more precious than yours or as if you don’t live just a busy and hard life as there’s. Just stop people and think am I saying something nice, or producing any positive comment, or helpful tip. If it’s a No to all of those than just don’t write anything. Right? It seems like common sense to me.
I do kind of get what they mean, but if you can afford to set aside time in your routine to be creative then the opportunity cost is pretty much negligible. Plus, some bullet journals are centered around creative topics specifically (like movie/anime/game/music tracking) so it fits right in.
Biggest form of gatekeeping I have ever experienced is being a girl involved in nerd culture. Video games, comic books etc. Men gatekeep like their life depends on it.
Sallou Russell I know right 😒😒😒
When I first started bullet journalling, I did all the doodles, colors, the whole Instagram thing basically. But after 1 year of doing all that, I couldn't do it anymore. I got tired of making my bujo pretty and aesthetic. Now, my bujo is pretty minimal with just colors highlighting each month. Coincidentally, alot of the Bujo TH-camrs I follow have felt the same way; that they've been only caring about how their Bujo looks for Instagram and TH-cam instead of for themselves and they've been changing it.
me: doesn't bullet journal
her: make your bullet journal however you want it to be
me: :D
Before I post a comment I ask myself "Would I tell it to that person's face? Is it valid? Is it hurtful?" and it stopped me many times cos I don't want to be mean. I want to be supportive and encouraging. I can't believe that somebody made a bad comment about your magnificent nails! smh
I try to do the same ❤️ the Internet is the Wild West sometimes! 😂
I say to my husband all the time how I can't ever imagine saying such negative or hurtful things to someone, even from behind a keyboard. It blows my mind how detached people have become from humanity. If I don't agree with someone, I simply scroll on...
What a great guide to how to behave on the Internet, thanks!
@@d14551 Thank you!
I’m an engineering student and I can’t even count the amount of discrediting and or passive aggressive comments I’ve gotten these past 3 years. It sucks. It fuels the “I’m not good enough” feelings I have to continually fight against. I’ve almost quit because of those comments. But I know that I am doing what I love and how I do things brings a valuable perspective as a human being regardless. I go back to this saying a lot. “I am an engineer that happens to be a woman, Hispanic .. etc insert labels”.
I do understand that credibility is important but damn why judge and make assumptions based off of appearance? Not everyone grew up the same way, looks the same, and thinks that same. It takes bravery and courage to be vulnerable and admit ones assumptions and understand everyone’s assumption in a meaningful and constructive way.
That’s why videos like these are important. They open up conversations that help people share who they are and what they stand for instead of allowing this community to continue to discredit or invalidate people with a different perspective. So, rock on Elizabeth!
Thank you so much, Selena, that means a lot to me! You sound like a badass engineer and a lovely person ❤️❤️❤️
Your comment resonated with me deeply! I've always wanted to go in the engineering realm but the comments of other people/peers/family just discouraged me enough so much so that I conformed to their way of feminine jobs and studied art history... I love art history but not as my job and now many moons after my graduation I try to reorient myself and try to pursue my goals and they might be engineer related :)
Keep on!! Pursue your goals and really don't give a damn about those aholes! Gatekeeping is the worst and I wish you all the strength for upcoming battles.
Selena Torres it’s so sad to hear that the gender bias is still running strong. I was a returning college student in the early 80s and earned two degrees simultaneously in Accounting and Economics (yes a BA and a BS NOT a double major) meanwhile tutoring in Statistics and teaching basic computer skills to primarily men -!and when I went out into the field with my 3.65 GPA- I couldn’t get work with the big firms because - o horror - I was also a wife and mother do I wouldn’t be able to dedicate myself to the job the way a man could. It didn’t matter the workload I managed for my four years at school - oh I was a wife and mother then too (started when our daughter was just 3 and son at 18mo). And I worked as a bookkeeper for a dozen restaurants and tutored and studied and laundry, dishes, meals etc. Fortunately I was and still am married to an amazing man who has always supported my ambitions and accepted I was going to have a career not just a job. But it sounds like gender bias is still running rampant. It’s up to us to teach our sons and daughters that gender is NOT a discriminatory issue - girls are plenty strong, smart, ambitious!
I lecture engineering. And happen to be a woman.
Good attitude, keep it up 😃
I'm not even half-way through the video and i'm already shaking my head at the comment section and the video itself, thinking "why?"
The fact that bullying (Gatekeeping) exist in such a beautiful (maybe cut-throat because of the artistic competitiveness) community, i am completely astound, yet mind blown. I can't stand for bullying because of my own past experience, therefore i advocate for it. Now thinking of what gatekeeping means, i'm almost certain that this is what had happened.
I have a common interest in health and the field of medicine, to the point i was ready to enrol in a degree of nursing. I was excited and i was ready to start (even wanted to do a Med degree as well), now i went and told my job-provider since being unemployed that i was wanting to a degree in nursing. He had managed to worm his way inside my brain and plant the seed-of-doubt and started to say things such as "you wouldn't survive the degree", "you would'nt like/survive the job etc. Eventually in the end he had done what he wanted and made me believe that it wasn't right for me when i knew personally that it was something that i wanted and was made to believe that is was something that i wouldn't cope with. Now when i look back on it i'm so bloody pissed that he had done what he done and got what he wanted and now he trying to put me in bloody jobs that i clearly don't want to do or have now interest in.
It's a shame that this type of attitude still exist this day, but unfortunately it can't be stopped, even when we close our eyes and try hard enough and hope this this will go, but it won't.
So Selena Torres, you be you and you and be that god damm engineer that you want to be, because no one is going to stop you at all!!!!!
Me, after 3 episodes of a podcast about asexuals: Okay let's listen smth else
This video: Asexuals
me, asexual, drawing cats in my bullet journal while listening it: *oh*
Aisory Mizy what’s the name of the podcast?
@@zeesdumbdiary A OK (@AOKPodcast). It's very good and helped me with the realization about asexuality.
This is exactly what went through my head hearing her mention asexuals.
Lmao I know how you feel
Hi, fellow bullet- journaler and ace/ aro here
I think gatekeepers are insecure. They've got "imposter syndrome" and so they point at others to say "I fall on the "right" side of the line, and they don't, so I'm real and they aren't." I see it in the witch community (at least on line, not in person). If you're Wiccan, you're not a "real" witch. If you don't curse, you're not a "real" witch. If you like a certain author...well, you get the idea. Just as insecurity is the basis for gatekeeping (at least, as I see it) confidence is the antidote. When I'm confident, I don't care what other people say. Sadly, I'm not always confident :) But I'm getting there!
You are so right about confidence! And also knowing, really knowing your true self. Both things I'm still working hard on!
I think you might be right! I’ve been working on building my confidence for years, but I have my down days, like anyone else. It’s hard to see those comments sometimes ❤️ I also get sad when I see people finally get up the courage to share their BuJo online only to get torn down!
I think you mean 'superiority complex', because 'impostor syndrome' is not what you explained. Humbly.
"You can't practice witchcraft, you're a guy" but I do...and I am...
Literally this is how I was raised but gatekeepers just want me to throw my entire childhood out a window.
@@sebastianmaker6798 Wow, I can't even imagine anyone that would say guys can't be witches. People are weird :)
I had no idea this was an issue of “authentic” or “creative” BuJo-ing. So I’m going to watch to see what the tea is.
Ps. People devoting time to gate-keeping...
6:20 “Two things can exist simultaneously and not cancel each other out”
YES!
aaaaaand subbed
Yes! i see this everyday at facebook groups, specially some of them that are "themed", in example, minimalist bullet journal groups. I consider my bullet journal quite minimalist, but I do monthly covers... people in those groups are pretty savage about some bujos not being "minimalist enough..." I mean ... ¿where do you draw the line?
I also read a while ago a blog post y Ryder Carroll about his concerns on the matter, it was titled "back to the basics", and tackles both sides of the coin: people feeling overwhelmed about all the gorgeous spreads out there, and others quiting bujoing because "they are not getting many likes". I copy what I think is the main point here: "The power of the Bullet Journal is that it will become whatever you focus on. Focusing on what you see online, can have a powerful influence on how you define your approach, your ability, and your success. By all means, learn from others. The strength of this community is its unending creativity and willingness to share solutions to universal challenges. Just be mindful about what you adopt into your own practice. It’s the difference between “My BuJo needs to look like that” vs “How can my Bullet Journal best serve me?” or “Oh, look at all these habits I could be tracking!” vs “What habits would add the most value to my life?”"
Love that quote so much! Thank you for sharing it with me ❤️
Re: "where do you draw the line?" I find that most of those people draw that line just slightly outside of where they themselves stand. lol. It's like the whole "pulling the ladder up after you've climbed it" thing. "I'm in, and my personal deviations are fine, but anything that deviates more than I do is wrong."
I'm in a couple "minimalist mom" groups on Facebook and there are so many minimalist gatekeepers in there. Someone will complain about how so-and-so's bathroom isn't minimalist enough, others will complain it's too minimalist. It's so stupid! Most people in these communities are great and will happily put the gatekeepers in their place. Minimalism, bullet journaling, etc have different meanings for different people. It would be really freaking boring if everyone did the exact same thing. It wouldn't be enjoyable or a hobby anymore. It's really not that hard to let people enjoy their things and stay in your own late. End rant lol
I am the same way! I like to do a monthly cover because I like to paint/illustrate and I like quotes, but the rest I keep minimal because a lot of doodles which doesn't help with the "planning" doesn't work for me.
If I don't remember it wrong ryan and joshua (the two dudes from the minimalist documentary) explained minimalism as something like the point of minimalism isn't owning less things it's having things which serves a purpose. For example, if you like reading books of course it's okay to have books, but if you're collecting stamps and you have no interest in stamps then you shouldn't keep them. I don't remember exactly what they said because it was some time ago I watched it but maybe you get my point anyways😅
Coming at this from a planner community perspective, I used to think that it made sense to distinguish between classic Ryder Carroll bullet journalling and the "Instagram School of Bujo". Like others here have said, the latter type can seem really overwhelming to someone who just wants an easy way to manage their todo list!
However I've come to see that it's much more of a spectrum, and wherever you draw the line, someone's going to say you drew it in the wrong place. Personally, for everyday task management I like a really plain layout because it's not something I plan on keeping (I have separate written journals and sketchbooks), but for others, their bujo is also a memory-keeping journal. I think it helps to be clear about what you want (and need) out of your bullet journal, instead of adopting a particular style just because it's trendy.
Ace recognition, woot woot!
It's always nice to hear people talking about my little ace community.
I'm going to be honest it took me a while after seeing this in my recommendations for me to actually watch this, because when I saw a big thumb nail saying to Stop Doing something, I get worried that it is gate keeping, and no one wants to deal with that. It took me seeing several of your other videos and me realizing that you are not about that life for me to actually get around to watching this.
I myself am relatively new to the BuJo community, and so it is especially something that I don't want to deal with. I'm still just trying to figure it out.
I used to work at GameStop. As a woman, there seems to be a credibility issue simply because of my gender. I found I would either have to "prove" that I actually like video games, or they would just insist on talking to "one of the guys" for a simple question that anyone could have answered ("what time do you close?" "When is x preorder coming in?" Etc.)
I'm a bit of a mole person now so I find it really hard to be around people lol. I posted a couple of videos on TH-cam (bujo speedpaints) so my imposter syndrome is talking loudly in my ear right now, but no one's watching them so I guess I have nothing to worry about lol! 🙃
Can't wait for the next bujo babble! This was a good one for sure! 🖤
Ew I hate when men do this. I have an ex who would NOT let me in on any of the nerdier gaming stuff he liked (like D&D) because I wouldn’t like it as a woman 🙄🙄🙄 I told him repeatedly that I would love to learn to play D&D and be involved in something he enjoyed (plus I am just generally already a nerd and enjoy many nerdy activities) and he always refused. ‘Twas the worst. The idea that you, as an employee, wouldn’t be able to help them because how on earth could you possibly do you job as a woman is just ridiculous!
Oo congrats on posting some videos! It takes courage to put yourself out there ❤️
@@PlantBasedBride Thanks. I'm not great at putting myself out there so I figured this could be a baby step.
Tabletop RPGs are great! I hope you get to play one someday, maybe with "Plant Based Groom" (as I've seen him called before lol) if he's into it. There are so many to choose from now even besides D&D (Vampire, Changeling, Pathfinder, Hobomancer lol, one for the Firefly TV show/Serenity movie), there should be something you'd like!
There’s one for firefly/serenity??? Sold! 😍
As a female gamer myself, nobody that works at gamestop is knowledgeable about video games. Just my opinion. Thats why they are now basically a glorified toy store..
Yo yes, as a woman I too have either felt or been directly told to prove myself as a nerd and it's INFURIATING!!! Enjoying something isn't something you should have to prove.
If the creator of the system himself, Ryder, doesn’t gate-keep (these folks should read his book) what these people say is irrelevant. Great video. Reminds me of a twitter user who tried to gate keep Star Wars fandom and some of the franchise writers told him to be quiet 😂
1) This themes spread looks soooo nice. I love how all of them look together in one place - so gorgeous and it just makes me more excited to see what you create this year!
2) I completely agree with your message here. This is one of those issues that makes me stop and frown and think - "Is this really an issue?? Why?" It just seems like it should be so obvious, you know? But it isn't and I'm glad you brought it up.
I feel the same way. I almost didn’t make this video because I felt it was so obvious that this is not a cool thing to do... and get it is SO rampant within our community! I decided it was worth a chat ❤️
I have only recommended that people focus on Ryder’s method when they get frustrated because they sometimes think they HAVE to be artsy to bujo when his intention is to have a super minimal process. I see way more people leaving the bujo community because the art gets so intense and they feel pressured to make theirs pretty and perfect. I personally love to add art but because I’ve watched so many videos on other artsy bujos I began to feel pressure to make my spreads a certain way and super planned out. I kind of think it should be two different communities almost because the essence of bujo is anti preplan and supposed to be go with the flow. Idk those are my thoughts..🤷🏻♀️
Lydia Grae your comment makes more sense than everything she said
I was looking for the this comment... I absolutely agree it should be two communities... I had to stop watching after she drew the paint can spilling, like perfectly, in pen...to be fair
I found real joy in the Ryder Carroll minimalist method of NOT planning ahead but being consistent with bullet lists that helped me sort out the priorities and worthwhile tasks but I actually started to get super intimidated by the journals that are "popular on Instagram, Pinterest and TH-cam" and I almost quit altogether until I realized that bullet journaling/ "bujo" can also mean keeping a self designed planner in a dot grid notebook
it's not gatekeeping it's simply two different systems of journaling
I totally agree!
I also agree and was looking for a comment like this! :)
I think many people are being introduced to bujo through these artsy videos. I saw amanda rach Lee's video before Ryder Carroll's. I think some people expressing concern over the art based journals come from there. They feel it has over taken and overshadowed the original method.
Gate keeping, although I’ve never experienced it personally I have seen it and FELT it. It’s what prevents me from sharing at times (on Instagram). Not sure where some people get the idea that it’s ok to bash others online when I doubt they would (hopefully not) do it in real life! Constructive criticism is one thing but comments for the sake of demeaning others or their work is hurtful and in my mind reflects poorly on the commenter.
I’m so glad I discovered bullet journaling. I’m especially thankful for PPB and many other TH-cam/Instagram gurus for all the inspiration and thoughtful posts/videos that are shared. It can’t be easy to pour your heart, soul and hard work out to relatively anonymous subscribers knowing that there will inevitably be some hurtful comments. Love your content Elizabeth. 💗
Aw thank you so much for your kind words ❤️ I agree that people really take it from constructive criticism into bullying territory when commenting online and it’s awful! It makes no sense to me that people don’t realize their words can still hurt real human beings even if they’re typed and not said to someone’s face 😞
I know what you mean! I have recently started posting my spreads on instagram and I don't know how I feel about it. I feel like if it doesn't look perfect people won't like it. I keep reminding myself who cares if they like it. 😂
So glad you brought this up and honestly, as an ace/aro, I can't tell you how normal it is to see gatekeeping.
"Can't be a part of this great community bc you don't feel sexual/romantic attraction."
Like, what???
Gatekeeping is sucky because people suck but I am so thankful you brought up my personal war but also the bullet journaling discourse. 💕
Love this video so much and honestly, I love the way you paint in your journal; you go girl. 😍♥️💜💚
I’m so glad the video resonated with you! Though I’m not glad you’ve experienced Gatekeeping ❤️ it’s frustrating when groups that are meant to be inclusive find ways to exclude those who could use their support. Thank you 🥰
I am asexual and that is a very valid problem. Even worse is when people tell me that asexuality is not a thing. That it doesn't exist. It hurts and it makes me furious. People love to judge and exclude others, that is something we as a species have to work on.
I'm asexual too! and why does everyone have to have sex? Does having sex or having sexual attraction make you a real human?
also, why is aesexality part of the lgbtq community? I mean, it confuses me,
「 banana 」 honestly i see asexuals fighting on twitter that they ARE part of the lgbt community and then i see other asexuals who say that they aren’t. i’m a heterosexual(i know, a disgrace) but like what is it? are asexuals part of the community or not? i’m just curious, but don’t feel obligated to reply if you don’t want to x
@@iiamromika idk, I'm an asexual and I don't think we belong in the community . I'm sorry but it doesn't really make sense to me, we just don't feel the need or have sexual attraction, so does that make us part of the lgbtq community? I'm not being homophobic, I just
「 banana 」 ahhh okay well thanks for explaining. i think it’s just a person matter then i guess
@@iiamromika oh well, and, your not a disgrace. you wonderful just the way you are. Remember that💖💓💕♥️💞👊🏽✨😌👌🏽💗(ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*.✧(ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*.✧
I love this video. It made me think about how, several months ago, I attempted making a bullet journal for the third time within about 5 years. After about 4 months, I found the same thing I have found every time I have tried, I just don't have the hours in a day to set up my bullet journal as delicately and accurately as would make me happy with it. So I opted to buy a premade daily planner, and incorporate bullet journal elements into it. While I still love(d) watching bujo videos, I didn't really feel like part of the community since mine isn't from scratch. This video gives me hope that maybe I am a small part of a community that's brought me a lot of joy.
The only time I refer to Ryder Carroll's BuJo system as being the OG system is when I see people posting about feeling overwhelmed about keeping up with the instagram BuJos and making their BuJos pretty and therefore not getting the most out of their journals. I redirect them to the original system to remind them that it was originally intended to help with productivity and that it doesn't have to be pretty to work for them.
I see the prettiness/different ways that people use their on BuJos as an individual process. Of people using the original idea to make their lives more productive. However they do it, if it's working for them, that to me is the most important thing.
Di Bailey Exactly. If someone is stressed out and feeling defeated because s/he can’t draw/paint/design/decorate as well as some of the Art Project journals, that’s when I tend to speak up with a reminder that their journal is intended to be a tool +for them.+ If that means they aren’t creating masterpieces on every page or ANY page, that is okay. But if creating art in their journals helps them out, well then go for it and practice until it looks the way they want it to look.
that moment when TH-cam randomly recommends exactly the video you needed to watch. Thank you for making this video! I have never had anyone flat out tell me that my journals aren't bullet journals but I have always felt as an outsider because my bullet journals have never been so much for planning as they have been for mental health.
Hey, that's what I use it for, too! 😁 cheers, sis 🥰
me, absolutely not part of the bujo community : yeah we don’t like that, spill the tea sis !
the fact that you even have to address this sucks. I'm sorry. Don't let comments get to you, because those of us here for you love your content.
Have you experienced Gatekeeping in your life? What are your thoughts on the phenomenon in the bullet journaling community and elsewhere? I can’t wait to discuss further! ❤️ If you have requests for future BuJo Babble episodes please leave them in a comment 😘
Plant Based Bride i couldn't agree more. I see it on a daily basis. Just recently a bunch of girls ganged up and picked on a Bujo artist for recreating a spread Amanda Rachel Lee did. Like why don't you get your own ideas etc etc it was disgusting ! I hate gate keeping i hate bullies i hate mean girls! It's 2020 ladies grow up! Women especially are terrible at this and tearing down other women when we should really be building each other up.
A topic: employment that is non-traditional. Not having a job that is not 9-5. Does that mean that one is lazy or is not employed in the proper sense of employment?
I personally haven’t experienced Gatekeeping in my life but I see this everywhere, and this is so bother me. I think everyone should do whatever they like, what suits them and what makes them happy. I’m so glad that you talked about it, this is so important and if it changed even one person’s way of thinking- it’s worth it. Thank you!💕
thank you for this video! so far I haven't gained the right number of audience to merit me a gatekeeper 😂 I do agree with everything and I remembered your IG stories, like that 1 about someone's comment about your nails. (like...nah, that comment from that person was unnecessary.)
and now I don't want to be the gatekeeper and I certainly don't want to be in your stories that way... I might be doing the unthinkable here by asking you to breathe more? or breathe better? 😬 I'm not sure if that should help with the vocal fry... I was bujo-ing while listening and I had to increase the speed to try to get rid of that fry for a bit. you have a beautiful voice! and I wouldn't want to rely on TH-cam's generated subtitles one day. admittedly, I've listened to worse, but it would also help people who do not speak English as their first language to understand you 100%
I would love to hear your opinion on the Netflix show The Circle. The show allows eight people to make a social media page and be someone else, and try to lie/scam/catfish their way to the end. Not all the players take that route, but what happens in the end would make for a great topic, especially since you are a very active social media user.
I don’t understand why gatekeeping is such a thing, why exclusion is something people feel the need to do.
Ego. It’s ego driven.
Such a great video/chat ❤ I couldn't agree with you more. My bujo is a mix, some months are minimalistic, while others are much more artistic. This is such a personal choice and we are blessed to have access to share and observe the bujo's of others. Being able to learn from, inspire, and help each other is what 's important.
I couldn’t agree more! So well said. We should be happy to have to chance to see how others use their bujos, not use their willingness to open up as an opportunity to tear them down ❤️
Thank you for sharing this message! As an Ace person following you for bujo content, I was shocked (pleasantly!) when you used LGBT+ exclusion of Asexuals as an example of gatekeeping. I've suffered from it before. It's still happening, but I've felt it less in recent years. The acceptance, representation, and inclusion of Ace people on the rise, but I am still in awe of seeing it actually mentioned outside of the Ace community!
Aw I’m glad I could pleasantly shock you today! Haha ❤️
It's funny because all those creative bullet journal videos made me want to try it out myself, to have a notebook like that. And I almost immediatly realised that "classic" bullet journal is not for me, more: I find it useless for me. I hate planning every little detail, I don't stick to it, making specific plans in advance makes me nervous and in the end less productive.
But here I am, three years later using a regular calendar to write down my days. Every single one. Almost full page, everyday, just writing what happened, my thoughts, stupid stuff I heard. It helps me relax, think about each day, appretiate it. And I tried doing that in the past but it never lasted long. If it wasn't for those "not legit" bullet journals showing me I can do whatever the heck I want, I wouldn't be doing this.
Comparison is the thief of joy. Others try to steal our joy by throwing gatekeeping " marbles" on out floors. Is the old "you're not good enough if you don't do it my way." The unspoken thought is "my way is the ONLY right way." Garbage. I don't like boxes and certainly.done want to be put in one because of my.race, religion, gender identification, the way I make my "n's" or some other arbitrary and capricious thing I do or don't do. I want to learn from others, not denigrate them because they're not like me. I agree with you one hundred percent! I loved watching you do your bujo.
I'm bisexual so. . . I'm often not straight enough or not queer enough. Next to that, I'm also asexual. And like you mentioned, there's a lot of people with opinions on asexuality. So, unfortunately, I've definitely experienced gatekeeping with those two.
Another experience I had was one I found ridiculous. I'm a gamer, so I was talking to an old coworker about my PS4 when a male coworker asked me what kind of games I played. Not out of genuine interest, but to see if I was a real gamer. He made comments about how I probably owned my PS4 not because I was a gamer, but for some other reason. Then, when I clarified that I am in fact a gamer, he made me list the games I played and once I'd done that, he also had the nerve to say how happy my "boyfriend" must be to have a girlfriend who games. Now, I'd never told anyone I was in a relationship. I wasn't. He just made the assumption I was. So I retorted that "sure, one day my _girlfriend_ will hopefully be happy that I'm a gamer." That silenced him.
a fellow bi ace person here! highfive! x
Fellow bi here.
Ugh no I HATE Gatekeeping in nerdy/gaming communities so much. I’m not a gamer but I’m super into many nerdy fandoms like Star Trek and Dr Who and there is so much sexism in those communities it’s ridiculous 😡 and you’re so right about bisexuality as well. It’s the largest group within the LGBTQ+ community and yet bisexual people are so often ignored, belittled, excluded, and erased! We are all valid and deserve to be seen and heard ❤️
I am also a geeky gamer girl. Oh and i belong to the gammer sect of: games? Why yes i play. Board games, pc, consoles, cards, larping. I am lucky i get more blow back for liking geeky things: star wars, star trek, buffy, when they get cranky i pull out obscure knowledge. Thankfully that is really rare. Also lucky the hubby is a geek too. We also seem to suffer fools less. Geeky Girls Unite!
do you mean biromantic? I don't understand how you can be sexually attracted to people of two different genders while also being sexually attracted to noone?
I completely agree,
Sometimes it feels as though some 'influencers' tell you what to do
I bullet journal because it makes me feel organised;not stressed and pannicked because i haven't done my next spread.
Great video btw ❤
Thank you so much ofr shedding light on this issue, that surprisingly enough isn't talked about that much (or maybe I'm just out of the loop). What really surprised me is that you used asexuality as an example, and not only that but in a calm and professional way. Asexuals, such as myself, often gets forgotten about, both out of accident and intentionally, so to hear you speak up on our behalf really made me feel so happy! Especially as I follow you for your bujo content. I have definitely experienced gatekeeping in many ways, not only in certain toxic parts of the LGBT community (thankfully asexuality has been warmly accepted around my area and in our pride parades) but especially within geek communities. So again, thank you so much for speaking up against it! I'm so glad to hear it, and to hear you don't let those kinds of comments get to you.
Aw thank you ❤️ I’ve always tried to make my channel a supportive and open space for everyone! I’m so glad you’ve felt accepted in your local LGBT community ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for bringing up gatekeeping of asexuals. For a long time I identified as asexual before figuring out I’m demisexual but the exclusion I faced from both the lgbt+ community and the straight community was so hard. I was so young and felt so lonely because of it.
Definitely have experienced it before, and you actually talked about one of them; for a long time I didn't even know asexual people were not considered part of the LGBTQ+ community by so many people. Most people are attacked for voicing any distress at not being included.
Lovely spread! I am only just now getting involved in bullet journaling and I completely agree with what you say about gatekeeping in the bujo community. It's really similar to gatekeeping in the art community.
I’m so sorry you’ve experienced it. You are valid and worthy ❤️❤️❤️
@@PlantBasedBride I would never gate-keep or invalidate someone’s journal.. I keep a journal myself I agree with you.
This honestly inspired me to start making my bullet journal truly mine I’ve always been too scared to make my own spread in fear that it won’t be pretty enough but now I just feel free to do what is right for me thank you!! You are truly amazing!!! 💕💕💕
First, I love this spread. It's such a great way to summarize your spreads of 2019.
Secondly, I agree wholeheartedly about "gate-keeping". Each person is on an adventure to discover themselves and what their passions are. Keeping new (or different) people out of a community only hurts the community. In the moment it may feel like you are keeping the community 'safe' or 'exclusive' but really all it does it hurt the community in the long-run since new ideas/concepts will never be introduced, making the community go stale in the long-run.
/rantover
YES. Perfectly said. ❤️
For the strangest of reasons, there are people who think that if you draw in a journal/diary/planner, you have either made the book unprofessional, or YOU are unprofessional for choosing to draw in a medium commonly used for writing. It's like they forget that journaling in general, is meant to be a part of your life. Not your next novela that's going toe-to-toe with Shakespeare in a literature contest. Everyone's expression of life is different.
The most common thing I've seen is that they match drawing with lack of intelligence, cause you're 'incapable' of expressing the same thing with JUST writing.
gatekeeping is the absolute worst!!! thank you for making this video so i dont have to scream at people who gatekeep in this community 😂😂💕💓💞💖
Hahaha I’m glad to help save your voice 😂❤️
So MANY people need to HEAR this video! You have an amazing message and your art/bujo style is gorgeous! ❤️
As someone who's asexual, thank you so much for including us in the conversation! It's really refreshing to me to see someone who's actually educated on this issue.
Really glad the YT algorithm decided to direct me here
I am so glad you’re here, too! ❤️ I follow quite a few asexual creators and am always sad to hear their experiences of gatekeeping in the LGBTQIA community.
Remember: This is your journal you can do whatever you want. *PERIOD*
"You can be multiple things at once and so can your bullet journal because your bullet journal bis a reflection of you."
100%
Gatekeepers are literally the only reason I haven’t started my own bullet journal TH-cam because Ive been bullet journaling for two years now and I’m still figuring everything out and honing my skills and trying to improve my lettering and doodling because hey! They’re not perfect! And that’s totally okay! Because I enjoy customizing my bullet journal and using it in ways that make me happy AND productive, but I see so many hateful comments left on even the most “perfect” or “pristine” bullet journal. Logically, I know this is just gatekeeping because a lot of people want to see the finished product and not the journey, but it still sucks. I loved this video! You made so many amazing points and it was so nice to get to watch you create your beautiful art all while you were speaking such truths! Ive seen so many of your videos and I’m just realizing that somehow I’m not subscribed?? Definitely fixing that right now. I love your journal and the positivity and love that you spread and if anyone is still reading i adore you too!! I hope you have a wonderful day and I wish nothing but the best for you!!
Aimee Lynch As someone who literally just started a bullet journal last month for the first time ever, I would much rather watch a video where things aren’t “perfect”. One where you acknowledge that you’re still honing your skills and viewers can follow along with that. In my opinion it makes it more relatable and it shows that someone like me who didn’t grow up thinking they had any artistic ability can improve over time. Plus you could share any tips that you’ve learned that’ll help those who are still new. ✨
I love you for taking this topic on! You were spot on.
Thank you so much, Julia! ❤️
I never have the energy or time to be very artistic or creative in my bullet journal, but when I see people making an effort to make their journal pretty, that makes me happy!
I can’t do it, but it’s nice to see people who can.
Also, it can be a way for artistic people to be productive when it comes to practicing their art.
Everyone has different goals they aim to achieve with their journals, just because you don’t see the point of it doesn’t mean there isn’t one.
I agree about gatekeeping, however, I really don’t care what my book is called. I certainly don’t make my just like anyone else’s. What I care about is if it works for me. And so far it has. I actually use it like a journal and a planner. I do all my tasks and appointments but after each weekly spread, I leave empty pages so that I can write about my feelings, thoughts, and experiences. I just started last October and I seem to make each month a little different based on what I learned from the previous month. I’m the only one that even sees it so I’m the one it needs to please and help. I am grateful for all the you tubers that post ideas so I can get inspiration. I’m totally jealous of people like you that have such great artistic ability.
I don't know a thing about the community you're talking about. But Elizabeth, I really loved the way you devote so much of time towards bullet journaling, you focus on the details and trust me, they make your bullet journal stand out! I love your videos, they inspire me....Thank you!
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I would just answer all those comments with "Ok Ryder Caroll, go on"
LOL mic drop 😂
Hahaha and then watch them go, “.... who?”
Tash Coates omg 🤣 I would die lol
Laís Seus and even Rider has tons of fun and still perfectly functional layout examples for inspiration on his bullet journal blog. That's how I found a bunch of ideas and new people to follow. Their arguments are invalid.
A powerful message. I am so glad you spoke of this. I really am tired of people in everyone else's business. Thank you for speaking your mind!!!
YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION.
I am contemplating to start bullet journaling but I feel anxious as to start right. I have not done one ever. Being artistic makes me alive.
I really hope i will be able to do so in the nearest future.
From the Philippines
I honestly have never understood the mentality of gatekeeping - who cares if you don't do it the same way as someone else? How does it actually affect anyone but you? Thank you for this honest chat.
Haha I agree! It honestly baffles me that people care so much what others choose to do for themselves.
The only reason that I ever even started bullet journaling was because of art and the fun for me of getting to make the monthly themes and spreads
I like how this video doesn’t just point towards bullet journaling but for every single community ( I have absolutely no idea what bullet journal but I still watched the video because it had such an amazing message)
Since when did individualism get lost?
That is what makes us UNIQUE!
👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 the reason why a bullet journal works for so many people is because it’s so customizable and yes, your message needs to be heard!
Now I’m gonna watch it again so I can focus on your drawing 😍
Haha aw thank you so much! ❤️
I randomly came across bullet journaling at the beginning of December and fell in love with how custom I could make MY planner. Since I just started at the beginning of 2020, I haven't gotten too much into doodles or "fancy" spreads, but that's okay. I focus on the cover page for the month, I have my habit and water intake trackers, then one or two weekly spreads at a time since I'm figuring out what works for me. If I HAD to make everything cute and perfect, I wouldn't do this. If I HAD to make everything black, white, and minimalistic, I wouldn't do this.
So many people think what they have is the one and only way to do something. Well, that's wrong. Everyone should be allowed to choose how they use a bullet journal.
Do what YOU want and not what someone else tells you. You don't need certain pens, a specific journal, or the exact spreads someone else does. If something doesn't work, change it! Be YOU.
Oh that exciting first time! So glad you found the system and go for it your way!
So well said! I could not agree more ❤️
Wonderful rant! I totally agree, i look forward to new spread shares every month to help me get inspiration and i love the indviduality of everyones journal. I call those who write mean things “haters” and i cant stand them because they are the ones who cause pain so someone who is sharing something so personal to them. Thank you to you and alll the people who share their journal setup every month because it inspired me. I love your channel and i love your spreads!
Thats been one of the reasons I've been so hesitant on starting a bullet journal. I love the idea of making a very art centered bullet journal, but with some of the gate keeping I've seen I just didn't want to be apart of it. It's nice to know that there are more art centered bullet journals out ther. Your art is very beautiful by the way.
I’m sorry you’ve felt that way ❤️ I wouldn’t even say my bullet journal is art focused if I’m honest, because 99% of the time I’m just using a plain old pen organizing my life and making lists and getting things done. But because I share the process of setting up my bullet journal online (which is an artistic process for me) the assumption is that that’s all my BuJo is 🤷♀️ I do share completed spreads and flip throughs that show how I really use it, but not everyone is going to see those posts or videos ❤️
I have created art in my journals on my channel in relative ignorance of the boundaries of what is an art journal spread, what is a junk journal or simply what is a Journal, but I'm increasingly aware that there might be some "gates" that I need to respect. Yet I LOVE mixing up painting, writing, list making and creating my own eclectic journals and ephemera. So this video is heartening... I'll just keep going, happily. I have over 12,000 subbies so I hope I'm doing something right...btw, I just subbed. You rock! ❣️ Joie 🌿💜
I was all " yes, yes yes YES!" This whole video. I get this is my snail mail groups, I just don't understand.
Haha thank you! ❤️
Thanks for sharing your opinion on this!! I honestly hope that whoever had told you those things to invalidate how you do your bullet journal will rethink and reassess themselves. Always supporting you, and your wonderful bujo! Really grateful as well how you're so courageous in sharing your bujo with everyone in the community. Stay strong and stay inspired, sweetheart!
Omg I’ve been waiting for this since your teaser yesterday!!
Woo I hope you found it interesting!
This video has a great point. Though I’m not in this community, I’m in other communities that also experiences gatekeeping. And as ashamed as I am to say it, I have once done gatekeeping too. It was far ago when I’ve done that, and I realized that what I did was really stupid. Like really really stupid. How I wish I could go back in time to change what I had said to others. It felt devastating that I could have put down someone just because they are doing one out of a thousand different things from others. And I just want to say, people who do the gatekeeping are probably people who hasn’t grown up yet or self-centered. Thank you for letting people know about this 😊 and I’m truly sorry for the people that I’ve put down. I wish I can go back in time, but what’s done, is done. And it sucks...
A lot of it just boils down to jealous. They can’t do the same things or have never tried so they have to tear it down
One of the reasons why I keep my journal minimalistic is because I can't afford products that I see many people using on youtube or even know how to make use of those products. I love watching other people journal because it's so theraputic and pretty when it all comes together. It's so satisfying.
As a plant-based asexual I approve this message. Love the space paintings! Whatever it takes to get you to use your BuJo is totally valid.
I feel like every bullet-journalist would benefit from this video, because if everyone understood this simple message the bullet-journal community could be about celebrating our differences and expressing ourselves. Personally, my bullet-journal has its imperfections, and some months I didn't bullet-journal, but that's what makes it mine.
So true! We are far more interesting when we are all our own unique selves and bring that individuality to the community ❤️
Wow, I had no idea Gatekeeping existed 😂😂😂 it’s ridiculous, we’re not robots with the same chip in the head 🤖 one of the things that drew me to start bullet journaling is how adaptable and twistable and changeable it is!!! That’s the beauty of it! To make it your own! Thanks for the video though, now I’ll be on the watch for it... to ironically ignore it 😜 oh and I loved watching you draw and paint 😍
Exactly my thoughts!
So true! Thank you ❤️
thank you for speaking out about this. gatekeeping is just tiring for both ends of the problem, and just because one method does not please other members of the community should not give anyone the right to dox others. Just enjoy the process, whatever that may be to you! dont like it? literally look away and do ur own thing, so easy! no need to be dogmatic bout it tbh :/ seeing different expressions of ones bullet journal is awesome and makes the community so unique. Continue to make awesome spreads, blessed be!
I love that you make time and content for this. ❤️🍀
I can’t help it I always want to have some real talk 😂❤️
I was literally just posting on my Instagram about how I am taking a break from bullet journaling, which I only just started and how I couldn't keep up and then youtube reccomends this.
Thanks for this lovely message. I kept feeling intimidated and comparing my art with others. This made me feel a whole lot better ♡.
I think everyone has experienced gatekeeping at some point in lifetime, I even think most people has been the gatekeeper in same matter at least one in lifetime, often neven realizing that...
Personally, I'm not a social person - they say - because I've never been interested nor I never needed to be part of group to identify myself, I simply don't care what other people do: they want / need to comply with a group to ease their lack of security and self-esteem? Go for it, you're free to be whoever you want, do what you want, don't look at me and don't bother me because I DON'T.
Gatekeepers are trolls, just it. I don't get bullied.
I agree with you ! Your bullet journal is an extension of you. It’s as individual as you are. I enjoy seeing your artistic side and look forward to your next spreads! Keep doing you darling! ✌🏻💛
And there ladies and gentlemen is a very *inspiring* person!
Aw, thank you ❤️
You inspire me a lot! Thanks for encourage others to bullet journal without feeling embarrassed of theirs
im disabled so i dont have much to do like, ever, so i dont rlly have daily or weekly spreads with things i need to do and stuffso my bujo is pretty much all creative stuff :p often makes me feel invalid but im gettin thru that
It's ok! your we're born to be you , and your amazing 💕
I LOVE the art work. In my buyout I have calendars of course and paint, stickers, washi, sticky jewels, chip board stars, string etc. I love flipping through and enjoying it all over again. Kudos to you for calling out the negatively. Enjoy your day🙂
I didn’t know this drama was even a thing
Lui
Me nether. Though I didn’t even know the bullet journaling community actually existed.
I personally have been using the bullet journal for 4 years now and I have always done mine as minimalist as possible by choice. I am flabbergasted that people would put down other bujo users just because they put art in their journal. My biggest belief in using bujo is that the journal is exclusively for you and must work for you. Whether it's minimalist or filled with art, as long as it works for you, that's all that matters. Keep up the great work!
So agree. My journal style is still evolving so who’s to say what’s right?
Exactly. And bullet journaling as a whole has evolved over the years. Change and growth is natural!
bujo for many people is a lot about self-care too. as an artist, and being a busy bee, bujo is a way for me to create in a short time. fitting that into my schedule is hard but bujo helps a lot. productivity and creativity don’t exist exclusively from each other. they co-exist in a lot of people.
I have come across gate keeping in a lot of comunities personally, Harry Potter, Star Wars and Star Trek along with LGBTQ+ comunity. I have only seen the movies and in the case of Star Wars the tv shows too but the idea that I cannot be a fan becuase I haven't read all of the comics or seen the orginal Star Trek is wrong. I want to thank you for mentioning Asexuallity as an example . I'm demi sextual but I don't talk about it and have been reluctant to approch the comunity becuase of Gate Keeping.
I love your videos, I wish I had you artistic tallent to add to my journal, you always make your journal so beautiful. I find it more inpriring to be productive when there is colour and beautiful things added to a page.
I’m sorry you’ve experienced Gatekeeping ❤️ It sucks! You are valid and you belong ❤️❤️❤️ you are also too kind! I really appreciate it 🥰
What I love about this video is that your point that you share can be applied to so many situations in life. I love the way you think.