Difficult to think of a title for this one. I try and explain why I am so fiercely independent, and why my freedom means so much to me. I hope you get it.
At a time when the world has gone to shit you’ve been a breath of fresh air. People are only saying they miss you because you are adding value to their lives at such a difficult time. Be proud that you have had such an impact. I know I would.
I love your comment! Wellsaid! I was trying to think how to put it in the right words to say the same thing! I dont think most are trying tobe intrusive, just enjoy the content!
I am pleased that people like to watch my videos, but I am worried that they rely on me. I knew this was going to be a difficult subject to broach. It's about finding a balance.
Yes i understand iona i like my own company but also have friends but they are not demanding , its good to see your blogs and see how strong and independent you are take care x
I understand exactly where you are coming from. Although I took a different path and spent years raising a family. At 66 I am widowed and the children are all independent I am again free to live without being answerable or in demand. I even find myself reluctant to commit to regular weekly social groups as expectations for you to be there can soon develop in to having to explain why you weren’t.
I can dip in and out of my two morning groups when something else comes up, or if I don't feel like socialising. My friend works three afternoons a week in a charity shop, she has suggested I could do the same if I was looking for something to do. I don't fancy that, having to commit to specific days and times to fit in with other people. I will continue to do my litter picking as and when I want to. Part time dog walking suits me fine. Craft and sewing projects to sell for charity or give away.
You’re a very independent soul, Ilona…..and I greatly admire people like that!! You march to your own drum! The aspects of your life that you DO share with us I find very inspiring and am very grateful!! 😃👍💕
I understand every word you are saying, you have described me to a tee! It's lovely to hear you say this, I thought it was me. I have a couple of friends, and especially the lady is trying to get me to go on dating sites, because she thinks I must be lonely, I couldn't think of anything worse. I like my own company, I am happy with myself, but no one seems to understand that, then they think I am being funny. So I tend to shy away, but I truly do understand. X
People pleasers end up being controlled by others expectations. You have to be in control of your own life. I do see you as a leader who genuinely cares about bringing people together. Wouldn't life be boring if we were all the same. Don't think it was meant to be that way.
I’m an only child and I like my own company. I have friends, but I like to go to shops and places on my own. I am now divorced and my children on grown up and have got there own lives. I love my own company, I do what I like, when I like. I like to joke a lot but since the pandemic nobody has got a sense of humour anymore!!! So I will keep myself to myself and just keep doing my own thing and what pleases me. I think I must be a introvert 🤣🤣🤣.Keep safe 🙏🏻🥰
Hi Ilona, I think when people have a channel and they want to use that to get views/ opinions out there it generates followers. People sometimes enjoy that. And it's ok for people to say they miss something when it's not there for a while. It doesn't necessarily imply a dependence, reliance or neediness. It's just ordinary behaviour I think sometimes if people dont want certain types of attention then being very public i.e. channels/ blogs is not the way to go if they prefer privacy. Just a thought. 😊
Thank you IIona and yes you are making perfect sense. I understand what you mean by getting “trapped” in relationships and friendships. You are fantastically independent and that is a very difficult thing to gave up or even compromise on when you are made that way. Some people honestly cannot be on there own for any length of time and I don’t understand that but like you say we are all made the way we are made.
It made me laugh out loud when you said about going to the loo in pairs 😆 It reminded me about putting our handbags in a pile on the floor and dancing around them thanks for the laugh 😊
This is absolutely spot on! Thank you! You've expressed a lot of things I've often thought, but not been able to put into words as well as you have done. You've given me a lot of food for thought.
I can remember feeling as if I wasn’t enjoying parties when I was young, even my own birthday party. I just wanted it to end. I still don’t want any fuss on my birthday, it’s just another day to me. I think it’s part of being introverted, I prefer a day on my own than a day with people
I think people mature at different times of their lives. I liked having friends when I was a teenager. When I left home at 18, and started to live my life how I wanted to. It was scary, but a necessary step to take towards deciding which way to go.
Yes, bliss indeed. I've just done a five mile walk, out in the fields, fantastic. Now I am eating my dinner, and I don't have to make a conversation with anyone. Have a nice evening.
I love my own space too, I’m also an “observer” I don’t have “special friends” yet seem to attract people when I’m out and about, before I retired I was never a part of the clicks in the work place, which meant that some people confided in me, and others were very wary of me because I wouldn’t join in with them, I’ve been there for people when they’ve “needed” me and when they’ve gone off satisfied it’s never bothered me that they’ve left, I’d rather have my pets as best friends 😂
I like to meet people when I am out walking. Total strangers to have a bit of a chit chat with. 20 minutes, and a polite, 'nice to meet you'. No more effort needed, no long term relationship to maintain.
It's good to have an older family member as a role model. I remember an aunty who was a ladies hairstylist. She was very attractive, and had a red sports car. I was dead impressed that she could go anywhere she liked, and meet exciting people.
I love my own company and enjoy going on holiday on my own . People think that’s odd but I don’t care they even want to come with me but I enjoy doing my own thing , not discussing what shall we do today . I have 3 good friends who I see now and again And that’s how I like it . I was married for 20 years too long because he was an alcoholic and often abusive so no way would I want a relationship I had enough drama with him I saw sense and divorced him . That’s why I love my peace , I have 2 lovely daughters and a grandson who I enjoy so all that’s enough for me . I was always independent even before I was married and I enjoy it .
Hi ilona, your friend from kentucky, here in the u.s.a , YOU are my cheeriest channel as I always say, you make my day better, 😁I Do understand your privacy style, I to live alone now, and really a loner, I suppose it had to do with my being a ONLY child, and my parents died in THIER 40s, so I Been Alone near half my life, even thou I was grown I FELT orphaned...i have two grown sons, BUT at present their not very close by..im a private person, I Always got my lord, AND I understand not all have MY belief there and that's o.k.!! But enough babbling, just glad to see you Ilona friend that cheers me up thru talks and adventures,maybe were the misfits Ilona LOL, and that's o.k to. ❤👋
Hi Ilona, always a pleasure to hear from you. I'm a bit like you myself. Especially when I was younger and friends use to take me over and loop me into stuff I didn't want to do. Well look after yourself and love your sewing picture. Xxx
You made me smile. I enjoy hearing your views when you post, but like you I have a life! When you post, I enjoy, when you don't I've got tons of stuff going on! I do enjoy hearing your take on things but I don't depend on it! Thank you again!
Hi ilona, I love your craft piece your working on. I guess with people commenting they miss you, I would take it as a compliment. It just shows people enjoy your videos. 😺
I so admire your strength of character. I think people enjoy your videos and find your words inspiring and encouraging I know I do. I live alone and quite honestly although there have been times when I have found this difficult I can't imagine sharing my life with anyone now. (Apart from my animals of course )
I totally understand you Ilona - I think I'm a year younger than you (so a teenager in the swinging sixties) and I never wanted to be anyone's wife! I just knew at a very young age that it wasn't for me whatsoever, though I always had plenty of boyfriends. And yes, I've tried having holidays with friends in the past but much prefer to take off on my own. Later in November I'll be driving myself down to SW France, and I get tired of hearing people tell me I'm so brave. I also, like you, absolutely love bringing other people together and when I lived in the USA I organised a dance club at work. Free spirits rule!! :)
Sometimes i feel that the expectation of me to be what someone thinks, or wants me to be consistently just does not mesh well with me as I probably am way more diverse and scattered than that if that makes sense. I understand what you mean 🌻
When I was thirty one years old I said i don’t think I will ever get married. The following year I ended up getting married. I’ve now been married for twenty one years and I have two sons✌🏼❤️
Hi Ilona, hope you’re doing as well as can be expected in these insane times Love your videos… I understand not wanting to answer to anyone… I’ve been a widow since my 40’s and never remarried so I’m alone but not lonely I do have two adult sons who I see often but they’re 27/28 and trying to build their lives Well just wanted to say hello Good to see you! Be well Stay safe 🌴❤️
Hello Rhonda. Very nice to hear from you, thanks for dropping by. Insane is the right word. I wonder sometimes about the intelligence of our so called leaders. What planet did they come from. They sure don't have a lot of common sense. But we have to carry on. Best wishes. ilona
I hope you find the balance you are looking for and I don't think anyone wants to take away your freedom. You post fairly regularly and when there is a long gap, I think it's natural for people to wonder. I'm sure the sincere inquiries mean no ill will, just concern for your well being. ( I edited to add "sincere inquiries" for clarity.)
Totally agree, get some local friends you can buzz up for a chat. Almost everyone our age, I'm 73, grew up wanting freedom and it is wonderful to have that as a core value. My theme for my late teen years was "Leaving on a Jet Plane" and I've managed to fulfill many dreams doing this my entire life. 😊
I get where you are coming from. Been on my own for over 50 years. And the true is, I love it. All I can say is, you be you and that's the truth, Take care.
I am on my own i know many people but I do, do lots on my own i am not a person who is needy I am a free spirt I love my own company i see films and shows on my own it is fine. honey and fresh lemon to drink. No, you are an independent strong person it's great i am that way. Great video
Thank you. I value honesty in other people. At least you know where you stand when someone is honest. I have had experiences of other people being cruelly honest to me. That's a signal to get the hell out of there.
Your honesty and how you’ve chosen your authentic way of living is nothing short of inspiring. You’re not a public service and anyone making such demands upon you is not a “friend”. It very much talks to current society in wanting more and the need for immediacy. I’m always happy to see you, whenever that is. X
I think as your channel grows you'll attract people who feel like they need you, but it's not your responsibility to fulfill their needs. I sometimes miss people I've been watching online if they disappear for a while, but it's not like I need them or want to know the ins and outs of their lives, I just assume they're fine and doing other things. I wouldn't take it too seriously, overall they're probably simply expressing their appreciation rather than depending on you. I literally haven't spoken out loud to anyone over the past week. Most people would find that very difficult, or abnormal but I don't mind. I also prefer to go to the cinema on my own, which none of my mates understand, they think I must be lonely, but I'm not. It's a choice. I like doing things on my own so I can fully appreciate the activity. Sometimes I question myself and wonder if there's something 'missing' on a fundamental level, like why am I so okay with this? But every time I try to be more social I get burnt out and end up backing away. I think I'm gradually accepting that I'm a social introvert and there isn't anything wrong with that. It's just about setting boundaries with people who are the opposite and don't understand.
I feel the same and you are making total sense, I do like going out with the few friends that i have, but i hate the thought that it would be every week/month on a certain day, I hate that kind of routine, like you i want to do what ever I feel like when i get up, apart from the days i have to work as I'm not yet retired.
You do you. We are all normal to ourselves but weird to other people. By the way, you look really good today. That spotty top really suits you and looks like haute couture -fab!
Wwel said 😊 I like my own company and i wont explain myself to nobody 😊 just enjoying life and i hope you will continue to do so without guilt ok have a wonderful blessed weekend ❤
i feel the same - happy to have ppl around but fiercely independent and happy to be alone too. Enjoy your content, enjoy the scenery when you go on walks, enjoy your crafting .... would love to see more of the food side - I really feel so stale with what I do in the kitchen - i dont eat meat tho.... i can still substitute when i get good and down to earth ideas from people like you.
I do most of my food shopping at Aldi. It gets a bit boring, so I mix it up a bit and go to other stores for a bit of variety. Sainsbury's, Marks and Sparks, Home Bargains, and a Farm Shop. I don't have recipes, just open the fridge door and eat whatever I fancy. Yesterday was mushrooms, noodles, and an egg for lunch. Carrot and cauliflower soup for dinner.
The drama thing. The last one I had was when I was 47. Crying to my mate on the phone. I eventually saw sense and got out of it. Now if someone has a moan about something or someone I think, don't worry, it will pass. Grow a set of balls.
I understand totally your personality; I like people well enough, but one on one or small doses of family. Never a joiner feeling that large groups are not condusive to really getting to know people, my interests and hobbies not the norm by any stretch of imagination. That said I am happily married (nearly 60 yrs) but that doesn’t always happen. Celebrate you and I’ll be me and we all win. Susan
Out at the disco in the seventies me and my friends always went to the toilet together. Many girls did, so we were the same in Sweden. We are not same but similar I can recognize myself in many things you say. I want to be free but I also need some good friends.
You're doing nothing wrong Ilona. Work it your way. I think it is only natural to wonder about someone you follow on TH-cam if they vanish. I think you pop up very regularly. I've noticed though that I do wonder about those that I follow if they haven't shown up for a while. I followed a guy who did excellent home grower, reno, story telling and then stopped with no explanation. It's a mixture of concern and missing their content which I enjoy otherwise I wouldn't follow. I'd never message anyone to ask why. You or they don't owe viewers an explanation, but there is a connection built over time. Life can be unpredictable and you are correct, we don't really know each others lives. 🥰 Enjoy your coffee Ilona. 🍵
It's true that online communities can develop over time, but one has to be prepared to move on when someone drops out. I sometimes think of those who I used to follow, and hope that they have built a new life for themselves and found new friends.
Years ago it used to be penfriends that you wrote letters to, and had to wait for a reply. To me those relationships seemed more meaningful. You got a proper feel of how someone might be when reading the words on a piece of paper. Now that it is instant, tapping on a keyboard, people always expect you to be there. I am saddened by how many comments have been written in haste and predicted text has been used, showing lots of mistakes. It's like a computer has taken over their life. @@anneosullivan4107
@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 so true Ilona. Everything is so instant. It's quite the effort to slow down but it's so worth it. You're a wonderful person. Keep going regardless.
Totally understand. Like you I like people but am totally self reliant and always have been. My approach has always been ( this is what Im going to do or am doing, you are more than welcome to join me. ) Getting i invitations to join others is awkward because I usually don't want to go or join in I have my one things planed. When I say no thank you people seam to think I have fallen out with them or they have done something to upset me, When I am totally fine. They seam to take some convincing that Im perfectly happy.
I can relate to feeling trapped👍 luckily my dh totally understands me. I use to walk with 5 other women we did it for years up till divoc 91! They insisted on going out for meals once a month 🤦♀️ I use to attend a couple a year. They told me I was weird because I didn't mix with them😂 I replied No I have a life at home and would rather be there, which of us is weird! 2 are now divorced, 1 has moved far away, 1 is totally obsessed with her mask, and I've not heard anything from the 5th. They hurt me back then, but now u realise yes I am weird must be I'm the only one who didn't follow the Lemmins. Actually I saw the one who moved and she said have you got the jab, ha no I haven't, she saud I knew you wouldn't 😂🤔🤦♀️
I was a lot like you when I was younger but now I love my own space & feel more at peace I know people who say they could never live on their own. When you have a relationship with our Lord Jesus christ i never truly feel alone away I enjoy people's company but then I like to retreat.
Totally get what you're saying. I'm exactly the same. My mum marched me upto the labour exchange and signed me up for a full stamp as soon as I left school... In our day it wasn't ( still isn't ) equal pay as girls were expected to marry and have children and be supported by a spouse.... Then of course, after years of work the bloomin' government stole our pensions totally unfair . I still have my friends from when I was a teenager... we don't live in each other's pockets but have a great time meeting up for a laugh.... we all walk our own road......
😆.. Certainly do, I'm a bit older than you I think.. Went to a convent school and our hemlines were measured at assembly, then we rolled up the waistband again... @@meanqueensuperscrimper8908
I get it Ilona needy people make you feel a little uncomfortable and consequently you hold them at arms length, you don’t want to be held responsible for their happiness and well-being because you would find it to be a burden upon you. You may think how do I know this ? well I will enlighten you because it is me all over so I understand what it is you are striving to say exactly. Having said that my husband, my family and loved ones always have my ear 🥴😘😍🌹
if you vlogg you do put your self out there and if people say they miss ur vloggs take it as a compliment they like watching you if you dont like the attention hun not a thing to do i like your vlogge but alot get a bit to much into your life
Hi Ilona🙋,if people invest in someones content i believe they will miss it if they enjoy it and you , but it's hard for me to make s statement not seeing the whole content of the comment ,i could see how you would feel if it got a bit much overbearing an bothersome.,yes 👍 you don't want to feel obligated and like your time/day's an person's is going to be set in stone 🙀with that being said, it's not a lot of good content out there and with all this stuff going on and people relating to you.I know you say on alot of your video's ,you don't care if people watch or not , so maybe you could say at times to the fact you don't want to be coming on all the time and you don't like it to be puched upon you to be on .,i don't know what words to youse 🙀 because I had a hard time wording everything that I wrote in this comment.I hope you continue and not let some of the comment's get to you.🙅🙆💆
At a time when the world has gone to shit you’ve been a breath of fresh air. People are only saying they miss you because you are adding value to their lives at such a difficult time. Be proud that you have had such an impact. I know I would.
I love your comment! Wellsaid! I was trying to think how to put it in the right words to say the same thing! I dont think most are trying tobe intrusive, just enjoy the content!
I am pleased that people like to watch my videos, but I am worried that they rely on me. I knew this was going to be a difficult subject to broach. It's about finding a balance.
Hi Ilona,
I fully understand for what you are saying. You just inspire others to go and think about their way of living. So nice!
Everything this lady said I agree with 💯. Thank you for always inspiring us 🙏💐
Sounds like you're a sociable introvert. So am I. I thoroughly enjoy a chat, but need a lot of time to myself to recharge my batteries.
Me too, I need time every day to ‘decompress’. My husband doesn’t understand it, he never feels he has to be alone
Me too
Yes i understand iona i like my own company but also have friends but they are not demanding , its good to see your blogs and see how strong and independent you are take care x
I understand exactly where you are coming from. Although I took a different path and spent years raising a family. At 66 I am widowed and the children are all independent I am again free to live without being answerable or in demand. I even find myself reluctant to commit to regular weekly social groups as expectations for you to be there can soon develop in to having to explain why you weren’t.
I can dip in and out of my two morning groups when something else comes up, or if I don't feel like socialising. My friend works three afternoons a week in a charity shop, she has suggested I could do the same if I was looking for something to do. I don't fancy that, having to commit to specific days and times to fit in with other people. I will continue to do my litter picking as and when I want to. Part time dog walking suits me fine. Craft and sewing projects to sell for charity or give away.
You’re a very independent soul, Ilona…..and I greatly admire people like that!! You march to your own drum! The aspects of your life that you DO share with us I find very inspiring and am very grateful!! 😃👍💕
I understand every word you are saying, you have described me to a tee! It's lovely to hear you say this, I thought it was me. I have a couple of friends, and especially the lady is trying to get me to go on dating sites, because she thinks I must be lonely, I couldn't think of anything worse. I like my own company, I am happy with myself, but no one seems to understand that, then they think I am being funny. So I tend to shy away, but I truly do understand. X
People pleasers end up being controlled by others expectations. You have to be in control of your own life. I do see you as a leader who genuinely cares about bringing people together. Wouldn't life be boring if we were all the same. Don't think it was meant to be that way.
I’m an only child and I like my own company. I have friends, but I like to go to shops and places on my own. I am now divorced and my children on grown up and have got there own lives. I love my own company, I do what I like, when I like. I like to joke a lot but since the pandemic nobody has got a sense of humour anymore!!! So I will keep myself to myself and just keep doing my own thing and what pleases me. I think I must be a introvert 🤣🤣🤣.Keep safe 🙏🏻🥰
For laughter take a look at Jonathan Pie videos. I guarantee you will titter.
Hi Ilona, I think when people have a channel and they want to use that to get views/ opinions out there it generates followers. People sometimes enjoy that. And it's ok for people to say they miss something when it's not there for a while. It doesn't necessarily imply a dependence, reliance or neediness. It's just ordinary behaviour I think sometimes if people dont want certain types of attention then being very public i.e. channels/ blogs is not the way to go if they prefer privacy. Just a thought. 😊
Well put. Maybe people that are lonely/ housebound ect might have come to rely ilonas posts a little bit more than she bargained for?
Thank you IIona and yes you are making perfect sense. I understand what you mean by getting “trapped” in relationships and friendships. You are fantastically independent and that is a very difficult thing to gave up or even compromise on when you are made that way. Some people honestly cannot be on there own for any length of time and I don’t understand that but like you say we are all made the way we are made.
It made me laugh out loud when you said about going to the loo in pairs 😆 It reminded me about putting our handbags in a pile on the floor and dancing around them thanks for the laugh 😊
Ha ha, the handbag thing. We always had to have a handbag.
This is absolutely spot on! Thank you! You've expressed a lot of things I've often thought, but not been able to put into words as well as you have done. You've given me a lot of food for thought.
I can remember feeling as if I wasn’t enjoying parties when I was young, even my own birthday party. I just wanted it to end. I still don’t want any fuss on my birthday, it’s just another day to me. I think it’s part of being introverted, I prefer a day on my own than a day with people
I think people mature at different times of their lives. I liked having friends when I was a teenager. When I left home at 18, and started to live my life how I wanted to. It was scary, but a necessary step to take towards deciding which way to go.
In my opinion there's no greater pleasure than being lost in your own world enjoying your own company. Bliss 😊
Yes, bliss indeed. I've just done a five mile walk, out in the fields, fantastic. Now I am eating my dinner, and I don't have to make a conversation with anyone. Have a nice evening.
I love my own space too, I’m also an “observer” I don’t have “special friends” yet seem to attract people when I’m out and about, before I retired I was never a part of the clicks in the work place, which meant that some people confided in me, and others were very wary of me because I wouldn’t join in with them, I’ve been there for people when they’ve “needed” me and when they’ve gone off satisfied it’s never bothered me that they’ve left, I’d rather have my pets as best friends 😂
I like to meet people when I am out walking. Total strangers to have a bit of a chit chat with. 20 minutes, and a polite, 'nice to meet you'. No more effort needed, no long term relationship to maintain.
My grandmothers husband passed when she was 38. She had to get on. She did and through her I learned to be independent. I am thankful for her. ❤️
It's good to have an older family member as a role model. I remember an aunty who was a ladies hairstylist. She was very attractive, and had a red sports car. I was dead impressed that she could go anywhere she liked, and meet exciting people.
You’re delightful. Love from Ireland 🇮🇪
I love my own company and enjoy going on holiday on my own . People think that’s odd but I don’t care they even want to come with me but I enjoy doing my own thing , not discussing what shall we do today . I have 3 good friends who I see now and again And that’s how I like it . I was married for 20 years too long because he was an alcoholic and often abusive so no way would I want a relationship I had enough drama with him I saw sense and divorced him . That’s why I love my peace , I have 2 lovely daughters and a grandson who I enjoy so all that’s enough for me . I was always independent even before I was married and I enjoy it .
Sounds like you have your life sorted now. Enjoy the time with your family.
OMG!!! I remember the days that we went to the loo together. That takes me back x
I seem to remember it was an excuse to have a quick girly chat about the boys in the room. Which one do you want to dance with. 🤪🤣😆
Hi ilona, your friend from kentucky, here in the u.s.a , YOU are my cheeriest channel as I always say, you make my day better, 😁I Do understand your privacy style, I to live alone now, and really a loner, I suppose it had to do with my being a ONLY child, and my parents died in THIER 40s, so I Been Alone near half my life, even thou I was grown I FELT orphaned...i have two grown sons, BUT at present their not very close by..im a private person, I Always got my lord, AND I understand not all have MY belief there and that's o.k.!! But enough babbling, just glad to see you Ilona friend that cheers me up thru talks and adventures,maybe were the misfits Ilona LOL, and that's o.k to. ❤👋
I like cheerful people.
Hi Ilona, always a pleasure to hear from you. I'm a bit like you myself. Especially when I was younger and friends use to take me over and loop me into stuff I didn't want to do.
Well look after yourself and love your sewing picture.
Xxx
You made me smile. I enjoy hearing your views when you post, but like you I have a life! When you post, I enjoy, when you don't I've got tons of stuff going on! I do enjoy hearing your take on things but I don't depend on it! Thank you again!
You made me giggle with the girly toilet thing 😆
Yes i remember those time's
@@dandelionwishes9842 🤣 hello 🏴
I think your so real a breath of fresh air, and I remember your stories about driving hgv lorries years ago I thought was fascinating x
I was looking through some old photographs yesterday, of my Leicester Heavy Haulage work. Glad I have those memories.
Hi ilona, I love your craft piece your working on. I guess with people commenting they miss you, I would take it as a compliment. It just shows people enjoy your videos. 😺
I so admire your strength of character. I think people enjoy your videos and find your words inspiring and encouraging I know I do. I live alone and quite honestly although there have been times when I have found this difficult I can't imagine sharing my life with anyone now. (Apart from my animals of course )
Thank you. I hope you have a lovely Christmas. xxx
You too Ilona,whatever you get up to lol xxx😊🎉
I totally understand you Ilona - I think I'm a year younger than you (so a teenager in the swinging sixties) and I never wanted to be anyone's wife! I just knew at a very young age that it wasn't for me whatsoever, though I always had plenty of boyfriends. And yes, I've tried having holidays with friends in the past but much prefer to take off on my own. Later in November I'll be driving myself down to SW France, and I get tired of hearing people tell me I'm so brave. I also, like you, absolutely love bringing other people together and when I lived in the USA I organised a dance club at work. Free spirits rule!! :)
I think we are twins. 😎
Sometimes i feel that the expectation of me to be what someone thinks, or wants me to be consistently just does not mesh well with me as I probably am way more diverse and scattered than that if that
makes sense. I understand what you mean 🌻
When I was thirty one years old I said i don’t think I will ever get married. The following year I ended up getting married. I’ve now been married for twenty one years and I have two sons✌🏼❤️
How I live my Merry Queen Iona ! Lots of love from
Beautiful Ballarat Australia ❤
Hi Ilona, hope you’re doing as well as can be expected in these insane times
Love your videos… I understand not wanting to answer to anyone… I’ve been a widow since my 40’s and never remarried so I’m alone but not lonely
I do have two adult sons who I see often but they’re 27/28 and trying to build their lives
Well just wanted to say hello
Good to see you!
Be well
Stay safe
🌴❤️
Hello Rhonda. Very nice to hear from you, thanks for dropping by. Insane is the right word. I wonder sometimes about the intelligence of our so called leaders. What planet did they come from. They sure don't have a lot of common sense. But we have to carry on. Best wishes. ilona
Your personality sounds like me... I'm grateful for you
I hope you find the balance you are looking for and I don't think anyone wants to take away your freedom. You post fairly regularly and when there is a long gap, I think it's natural for people to wonder. I'm sure the sincere inquiries mean no ill will, just concern for your well being. ( I edited to add "sincere inquiries" for clarity.)
I have a good balance now.
Sometimes I think you could be my twin Ilona, totally agree with everything you say.🌻🐈
Everything you are saying makes complete sense to me.
You inspire to live an authentic life!
Freedom!😁 Thank God I am not the only one who feels like you do 👏
Love your videos. Never change . Take care x
You've said everything perfectly.
Totally agree, get some local friends you can buzz up for a chat. Almost everyone our age, I'm 73, grew up wanting freedom and it is wonderful to have that as a core value. My theme for my late teen years was "Leaving on a Jet Plane" and I've managed to fulfill many dreams doing this my entire life. 😊
I get where you are coming from. Been on my own for over 50 years. And the true is, I love it. All I can say is, you be you and that's the truth, Take care.
I am on my own i know many people but I do, do lots on my own i am not a person who is needy I am a free spirt I love my own company i see films and shows on my own it is fine. honey and fresh lemon to drink. No, you are an independent strong person it's great i am that way. Great video
I agree with everything you've said, I am the same way. Nice sweater you have on. Your latest art project is looking very nice.
I understand this So much! ❤. Love your honesty!
Thank you. I value honesty in other people. At least you know where you stand when someone is honest. I have had experiences of other people being cruelly honest to me. That's a signal to get the hell out of there.
I love listening to you, you are a breath of fresh air
Your honesty and how you’ve chosen your authentic way of living is nothing short of inspiring. You’re not a public service and anyone making such demands upon you is not a “friend”. It very much talks to current society in wanting more and the need for immediacy. I’m always happy to see you, whenever that is. X
Thank you. xxx
Good morning it's 9 am Saturday morning here in Australia I had second coffee to❤❤❤
The progress on your latest artwork is lovely! Looks great. Love the chem trails you added to the sky 😊
I think as your channel grows you'll attract people who feel like they need you, but it's not your responsibility to fulfill their needs. I sometimes miss people I've been watching online if they disappear for a while, but it's not like I need them or want to know the ins and outs of their lives, I just assume they're fine and doing other things.
I wouldn't take it too seriously, overall they're probably simply expressing their appreciation rather than depending on you.
I literally haven't spoken out loud to anyone over the past week. Most people would find that very difficult, or abnormal but I don't mind. I also prefer to go to the cinema on my own, which none of my mates understand, they think I must be lonely, but I'm not. It's a choice. I like doing things on my own so I can fully appreciate the activity.
Sometimes I question myself and wonder if there's something 'missing' on a fundamental level, like why am I so okay with this? But every time I try to be more social I get burnt out and end up backing away. I think I'm gradually accepting that I'm a social introvert and there isn't anything wrong with that. It's just about setting boundaries with people who are the opposite and don't understand.
Good morning Ilona 🤗at 9:30 I also have second coffee. Cheers 😊
I feel the same and you are making total sense, I do like going out with the few friends that i have, but i hate the thought that it would be every week/month on a certain day, I hate that kind of routine, like you i want to do what ever I feel like when i get up, apart from the days i have to work as I'm not yet retired.
Work always had to come first with me. I loved driving a lorry, and I had a mortgage to pay. Enjoy your retirement when it comes. ilona
Perfectly understandable.
Your very talanted love all your arts and crafts, I know exactly where your coming from 😊❤❤
Ilona your a free spirit me too we like to do our own thing i think we tune into your channel because we like you love jo dorsetx🌈
Loving your art work and your honesty😀
You do you. We are all normal to ourselves but weird to other people. By the way, you look really good today. That spotty top really suits you and looks like haute couture -fab!
Free sweater given to me by a friend. Friend has now moved to Scotland. I wish her well in her new life.
Yes looks very smart 😻
I follow your path no partner no marriage
Hats off to you. You are you and that’s ok. Xxx
And you are you, and that's ok. 🥰🤓🤠
I have gone through life mostly on my own to
❤from Australia ❤I just like to know you’re safe,not trying to pry. I support all your choices and just wish you the best 😊Cristina
Wwel said 😊 I like my own company and i wont explain myself to nobody 😊 just enjoying life and i hope you will continue to do so without guilt ok have a wonderful blessed weekend ❤
Good for you.
i feel the same - happy to have ppl around but fiercely independent and happy to be alone too. Enjoy your content, enjoy the scenery when you go on walks, enjoy your crafting .... would love to see more of the food side - I really feel so stale with what I do in the kitchen - i dont eat meat tho.... i can still substitute when i get good and down to earth ideas from people like you.
I do most of my food shopping at Aldi. It gets a bit boring, so I mix it up a bit and go to other stores for a bit of variety. Sainsbury's, Marks and Sparks, Home Bargains, and a Farm Shop. I don't have recipes, just open the fridge door and eat whatever I fancy. Yesterday was mushrooms, noodles, and an egg for lunch. Carrot and cauliflower soup for dinner.
I like my own company too Ilona, I can't be doing with other people's drama!!! You have it exactly right, I thought I was the only one!!!
The drama thing. The last one I had was when I was 47. Crying to my mate on the phone. I eventually saw sense and got out of it. Now if someone has a moan about something or someone I think, don't worry, it will pass. Grow a set of balls.
@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 Ha ha!! Love it!!
When you post it’s like a friend popping in x
That's fine, and then I pop out again.
@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 Lol 😂 Aww gosh I know how that reads to some but I still could have written it myself 😂
I get you, I'm the same x
I get lonely to illowna but age 55 it's better on my own
I understand totally your personality; I like people well enough, but one on one or small doses of family. Never a joiner feeling that large groups are not condusive to really getting to know people, my interests and hobbies not the norm by any stretch of imagination. That said I am happily married (nearly 60 yrs) but that doesn’t always happen. Celebrate you and I’ll be me and we all win. Susan
nice hair Ilona
Your top is lovely I hope you know we love you take your time do what's best for you❤❤
I want to be independent just like you❤
You can be, if you prioritise your emotions. Follow your gut instincts. Choose to be independent.
@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908thank you ❤❤
I understand you
Raw honey is good for your throat...take care ilona...
i understand what you are saying and get it. i think i am a bit like you... cheers to us !
Cheers.
Out at the disco in the seventies me and my friends always went to the toilet together. Many girls did, so we were the same in Sweden. We are not same but similar I can recognize myself in many things you say. I want to be free but I also need some good friends.
The amount of friends, and the level of friendships, should always be a personal choice.
You're doing nothing wrong Ilona. Work it your way. I think it is only natural to wonder about someone you follow on TH-cam if they vanish. I think you pop up very regularly. I've noticed though that I do wonder about those that I follow if they haven't shown up for a while. I followed a guy who did excellent home grower, reno, story telling and then stopped with no explanation. It's a mixture of concern and missing their content which I enjoy otherwise I wouldn't follow. I'd never message anyone to ask why. You or they don't owe viewers an explanation, but there is a connection built over time. Life can be unpredictable and you are correct, we don't really know each others lives. 🥰 Enjoy your coffee Ilona. 🍵
It's true that online communities can develop over time, but one has to be prepared to move on when someone drops out. I sometimes think of those who I used to follow, and hope that they have built a new life for themselves and found new friends.
@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 I agree 💯. This sort of 'relationship' if you like, over the net, is new to us all. We need to tailor our expectations. 👍
Years ago it used to be penfriends that you wrote letters to, and had to wait for a reply. To me those relationships seemed more meaningful. You got a proper feel of how someone might be when reading the words on a piece of paper. Now that it is instant, tapping on a keyboard, people always expect you to be there. I am saddened by how many comments have been written in haste and predicted text has been used, showing lots of mistakes. It's like a computer has taken over their life. @@anneosullivan4107
@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 so true Ilona. Everything is so instant. It's quite the effort to slow down but it's so worth it. You're a wonderful person. Keep going regardless.
Totally understand. Like you I like people but am totally self reliant and always have been. My approach has always been ( this is what Im going to do or am doing, you are more than welcome to join me. ) Getting i invitations to join others is awkward because I usually don't want to go or join in I have my one things planed. When I say no thank you people seam to think I have fallen out with them or they have done something to upset me, When I am totally fine. They seam to take some convincing that Im perfectly happy.
Yes, some people find it very difficult to understand. They think you are missing out on life, when in fact you, and I, have a great life.
@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 couldn’t agree more, we most certainly do have a great time. 👍
I can relate to feeling trapped👍 luckily my dh totally understands me. I use to walk with 5 other women we did it for years up till divoc 91! They insisted on going out for meals once a month 🤦♀️ I use to attend a couple a year. They told me I was weird because I didn't mix with them😂 I replied No I have a life at home and would rather be there, which of us is weird! 2 are now divorced, 1 has moved far away, 1 is totally obsessed with her mask, and I've not heard anything from the 5th. They hurt me back then, but now u realise yes I am weird must be I'm the only one who didn't follow the Lemmins. Actually I saw the one who moved and she said have you got the jab, ha no I haven't, she saud I knew you wouldn't 😂🤔🤦♀️
Celebrate your weirdness. You are authentic, your own person.
@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 ✋😘
Hello! TGIF. 💐
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you're a woman who speaks sense..
I understand i am a bit like you myself i like my own company.
I understand totally, but at our age we care about how you are, maybe you are feeling unwell at times and we cannot stop caring and wishing you well..
I am pleased that you are compassionate and care about me. I am not unwell.
I was a lot like you when I was younger but now I love my own space & feel more at peace I know people who say they could never live on their own. When you have a relationship with our Lord Jesus christ i never truly feel alone away I enjoy people's company but then I like to retreat.
Maybe people miss you sincerely. Perhaps they worry about not seeing you. Take it as a compliment 😊
It is a compliment, for which I am grateful. But it is also a responsibility, that is my point.
I will be on my own the rest of my own age 55 to
I am rather concerned that you sent eleven comments to this video.
@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 sorry
I am just concerned about your wellbeing. And by the way, never say you are sorry. @@user-gm1kl6xy4m
@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 ok
Well said Ilona ,
Your a loner , I’m half & half
But on my terms ,
Totally get what you're saying. I'm exactly the same. My mum marched me upto the labour exchange and signed me up for a full stamp as soon as I left school... In our day it wasn't ( still isn't ) equal pay as girls were expected to marry and have children and be supported by a spouse.... Then of course, after years of work the bloomin' government stole our pensions totally unfair . I still have my friends from when I was a teenager... we don't live in each other's pockets but have a great time meeting up for a laugh.... we all walk our own road......
My mum told me off for wearing short skirts, remember the sixties mini skirt? I took no notice and still went out flashing my knickers.
😆.. Certainly do, I'm a bit older than you I think.. Went to a convent school and our hemlines were measured at assembly, then we rolled up the waistband again... @@meanqueensuperscrimper8908
Can u imagine asking a freind if they would join u to the toilet today, a bit dodgy lol
I am like you
Being alone is a quality not many people can handle. You do You. Everyone is alone, relationships just "mask" the fact.
U are selfsurfitiant,
I don't want to rely on other people financial company I want to rely on God
Enjoy your life ,as we should all do 🤗
I get it Ilona needy people make you feel a little uncomfortable and consequently you hold them at arms length, you don’t want to be held responsible for their happiness and well-being because you would find it to be a burden upon you.
You may think how do I know this ? well I will enlighten you because it is me all over so I understand what it is you are striving to say exactly. Having said that my husband, my family and loved ones always have my ear 🥴😘😍🌹
Spot on Linda. Condensing a family and/or friendship group down to a smaller manageable level is much more rewarding, I find.
if you vlogg you do put your self out there and if people say they miss ur vloggs take it as a compliment they like watching you if you dont like the attention hun not a thing to do i like your vlogge but alot get a bit to much into your life
Can u imagine on your deathbed asking someone to go with you when u take your last breath lol❤
If someone wants to hold my hand, that's fine, but I have to make the journey on my own.
Hi Ilona🙋,if people invest in someones content i believe they will miss it if they enjoy it and you , but it's hard for me to make s statement not seeing the whole content of the comment ,i could see how you would feel if it got a bit much overbearing an bothersome.,yes 👍 you don't want to feel obligated and like your time/day's an person's is going to be set in stone 🙀with that being said, it's not a lot of good content out there and with all this stuff going on and people relating to you.I know you say on alot of your video's ,you don't care if people watch or not , so maybe you could say at times to the fact you don't want to be coming on all the time and you don't like it to be puched upon you to be on .,i don't know what words to youse 🙀 because I had a hard time wording everything that I wrote in this comment.I hope you continue and not let some of the comment's get to you.🙅🙆💆