Your husband was thoughtless. And sometimes, after you’ve worked hard to please everybody, you get tired of thoughtlessness. He obviously is capable of being thoughtful because of the gift he bought his gaming buddy. If he values his marriage, he better wake up. And let his family cook their own Christmas dinner.
You need to get a lawyer and you need to get a pi now. I can guarantee you about 70% this was not an emotional affair. And even if it was right now an emotional affair you better believe it would have turned into a physical one. He cheated on you, he's a cheater and cheater don't ever change. A man will only change for the woman he truly wants and honey that is not you, hell that might not even be Amanda. My advice would be not to stay but I cannot tell you what to do. You have to do what's right for you. Put in all likelihood he will do this again. I wish you luck in figuring this out. Because if you stay or if you go either way it's going to be a tough road ahead. Good luck.
The OP sounds like, even before this, she held a lot of resentment toward her husband (definitely for the amount of gaming he does, and the fact that he didn't help at all with the Christmas dinner preparations, possibly for other things as well). She also seems to have a lot of resentment toward his family, or at least feels like the expectations are too much, so she isn't doing the hosting out of any sense of caring, but only out of obligation, and maybe trying to prove something. There are also parts of this story that don't make sense to me. For example, why is a present for his gaming buddy under the tree). Are they real life friends and his buddy was coming over for the Christmas celebration? If not, isn't that the type of thing you would mail instead of put under the tree? And why would a grown woman start unwrapping gifts, especially a gift that doesn't belong to her? That sounds like something a kid would do. And then unwraps her own gift essentially to check out the financial and sentimental value? Who does that? And this is Secret Santa, so just for the party, wouldn't her husband be getting her additional gifts to give in private? Like, if he hadn't drawn her name, would they really not be getting each other any gifts? Finally, this is SECRET Santa. The whole idea is that it is SECRET. The recipient is either not supposed to know at all who their gift is from, or is only supposed to find out when it is given. What type of secret Santa reveals up front who each person has?? If this story is real, the husband was definitely inconsiderate in choosing gifts, but that strikes me as the LEAST of the issues in this marriage.
, Christmas dinner is canceled.I donated it to a homeless shelter. How stupid is the husband to leave a dated receipt in a stupid stupid thoughtless gift. And how can your SIL talk trash to you when she was the one that actually suggested secret santa. She has either no guts or no memory. Or both. $150 gift to your ex-girlfriend.And a $20 candle for your wife. Yes, something else is going on, I'm sorry don't let him snow you. Oh drats you let him snow you. But, since you did, the least that should happen is no more gaming ever and no contact with the ex. Good luck, you're gonna need it because he's untrustworthy and a sneek. You saw that so many times; like when he went out that day and bought you another cheap little gift and when he regifted the gift you bought.
Always leave the viewer hanging in the air. Next time plase take a course in script creating or the arf of the novel. Turns out the ads were more satisfying than the story line.
Shut off your phone. There’s no law that says you have to answer to anybody if you don’t want to just turn it off and let it go as far as your husband getting a customized headset for his gaming buddy ha ha ha ha ha, throw it in the garbage and you can throw that gaming console in the garbage too, and your husband can get off his dead ass and U2 can start with marriage counseling or whatever you need to do to revitalize your marriage And no more gaming. That gaming is just a dumb distraction and it might relax the person doing it but you’re totally ignoring your family/friends or anybody that’s trying to communicate with you and she like they could just shove it and throw it out. People who game with disagree with me but when I see people get on their gaming thing is like just a minute and I’m busy you’re interrupting me. This is my time I was really stressed. I just can’t take all this stress from work so I’m playing this GD game… Forget it start communicating and get your marriage back on track or get rid of the marriage. The gaming buddy got $150 thing and you got a $20 no thinking stupid damn candle? Hit him in the head with a candle and see how he likes it. You’re taking it much too seriously who the heck does he think he is?
I mean you did ruin Christmas. You can be a stupid 🫏 🕳️ and pretend like you didn't, but come on. Your husband is an 🫏🕳️,too don't get me wrong, but you literally ruined Christmas
Your husband was thoughtless. And sometimes, after you’ve worked hard to please everybody, you get tired of thoughtlessness. He obviously is capable of being thoughtful because of the gift he bought his gaming buddy. If he values his marriage, he better wake up. And let his family cook their own Christmas dinner.
Divorce
you need to lawyer up now. Get a PI on Amanda. He is a cheater who got caught.
Yhis story doesn't sound real, it feels like a creative writing exercise. Who ends an update in a cliffhanger? That gauche.
He lied to you for a whole year & you're going to take him back; idiot!!!!!
You need to get a lawyer and you need to get a pi now. I can guarantee you about 70% this was not an emotional affair. And even if it was right now an emotional affair you better believe it would have turned into a physical one. He cheated on you, he's a cheater and cheater don't ever change. A man will only change for the woman he truly wants and honey that is not you, hell that might not even be Amanda.
My advice would be not to stay but I cannot tell you what to do. You have to do what's right for you. Put in all likelihood he will do this again.
I wish you luck in figuring this out. Because if you stay or if you go either way it's going to be a tough road ahead. Good luck.
The OP sounds like, even before this, she held a lot of resentment toward her husband (definitely for the amount of gaming he does, and the fact that he didn't help at all with the Christmas dinner preparations, possibly for other things as well). She also seems to have a lot of resentment toward his family, or at least feels like the expectations are too much, so she isn't doing the hosting out of any sense of caring, but only out of obligation, and maybe trying to prove something.
There are also parts of this story that don't make sense to me. For example, why is a present for his gaming buddy under the tree). Are they real life friends and his buddy was coming over for the Christmas celebration? If not, isn't that the type of thing you would mail instead of put under the tree? And why would a grown woman start unwrapping gifts, especially a gift that doesn't belong to her? That sounds like something a kid would do. And then unwraps her own gift essentially to check out the financial and sentimental value? Who does that? And this is Secret Santa, so just for the party, wouldn't her husband be getting her additional gifts to give in private? Like, if he hadn't drawn her name, would they really not be getting each other any gifts? Finally, this is SECRET Santa. The whole idea is that it is SECRET. The recipient is either not supposed to know at all who their gift is from, or is only supposed to find out when it is given. What type of secret Santa reveals up front who each person has??
If this story is real, the husband was definitely inconsiderate in choosing gifts, but that strikes me as the LEAST of the issues in this marriage.
He’s cheating
Putting it in Warlock
I can’t believe she forgave him. He was having an affair
, Christmas dinner is canceled.I donated it to a homeless shelter.
How stupid is the husband to leave a dated receipt in a stupid stupid thoughtless gift.
And how can your SIL talk trash to you when she was the one that actually suggested secret santa.
She has either no guts or no memory. Or both.
$150 gift to your ex-girlfriend.And a $20 candle for your wife. Yes, something else is going on, I'm sorry don't let him snow you.
Oh drats you let him snow you.
But, since you did, the least that should happen is no more gaming ever and no contact with the ex.
Good luck, you're gonna need it because he's untrustworthy and a sneek. You saw that so many times; like when he went out that day and bought you another cheap little gift and when he regifted the gift you bought.
Probably necklace was for Amanda also he just wrapped it for the wife after he got in trouble
Always leave the viewer hanging in the air. Next time plase take a course in script creating or the arf of the novel. Turns out the ads were more satisfying than the story line.
Shut off your phone. There’s no law that says you have to answer to anybody if you don’t want to just turn it off and let it go as far as your husband getting a customized headset for his gaming buddy ha ha ha ha ha, throw it in the garbage and you can throw that gaming console in the garbage too, and your husband can get off his dead ass and U2 can start with marriage counseling or whatever you need to do to revitalize your marriage And no more gaming. That gaming is just a dumb distraction and it might relax the person doing it but you’re totally ignoring your family/friends or anybody that’s trying to communicate with you and she like they could just shove it and throw it out. People who game with disagree with me but when I see people get on their gaming thing is like just a minute and I’m busy you’re interrupting me. This is my time I was really stressed. I just can’t take all this stress from work so I’m playing this GD game… Forget it start communicating and get your marriage back on track or get rid of the marriage. The gaming buddy got $150 thing and you got a $20 no thinking stupid damn candle? Hit him in the head with a candle and see how he likes it. You’re taking it much too seriously who the heck does he think he is?
I mean you did ruin Christmas. You can be a stupid 🫏 🕳️ and pretend like you didn't, but come on. Your husband is an 🫏🕳️,too don't get me wrong, but you literally ruined Christmas